The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
I truely believe that we do the best that we can in the situation we are in with the copeing skills that we have. Hopefully we learn and move on. I am doing the best that I can.......if that's not good enough for somone else sorry for them That is how I feel today.
Holly
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You never know how strong you are until being strong is your only choice.
When I first came into Al-Anon it didn't take me long before I started beating myself up for not being better before. There is comfort in knowing that I did my best then too. I just didn't know better. All I can do with my new skills is using them now.
Thanks for that post. It's a good reminder
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If we try to judge another person using ourselves as a reference, we forget that we are all different. Where is the justice in that?
Absolutely! We do the best we can with what we have. That helped me a LOT when I first got here. I was beating myself up horribly for tolerating what I had with my exA.
And it still applies. It goes with progress, not perfection. We start to learn what the tools of Al-Anon are, then we spend the rest of our lives learning how to use them. We falter, but we are human. That is the lovely thing about Al-Anon, no one is going to sit and judge us for making mistakes. There is support and love here.
tlc
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To be trusted is a greater compliment than being loved.
Al anon brought me serendipity the ability to be around people who were growing. The ex A and his cohorts were destroying themselves. I stepped out of the destruction into a better way of being.
That is how I feel today.