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THANKS TO EVERYONE WHO POSTS WHEN THEY ARE ABLE! I HAVE GOTTEN SO MANY GOOD RESPONSES FROM SO MANY PEOPLE. LYNDEBI: THANKS FOR MENTIONING THE JOURNALING IDEA! I HAVE BEEN TRYING TO DO THAT EVERY DAY BUT ONLY GET THE CHANCE ONCE IN A WHILE. SOMETIMES I FEEL THAT I AM TOO DEEP! I GET SO CAUGHT UP IN MY HEAD! TODAY I AM JUST TRYING TO GET THROUGH ANOTHER DAY!
FOR EVERYONE ELSE WHO READS THIS: I AM GOING TO TRY TO FOCUS ON WHAT IS IN FRONT OF ME! ALL I CAN DO RIGHT NOW IS KEEP MY HEAD IN THE NOW! AND, THIS TOO SHALL PASS, RIGHT?
i AM STILL TRYING TO FIGURE THIS WHOLE MIP & HOW IT WORKS! i HAVE BEEN ON HERE FOR A COUPLE OF YEARS & I AM STILL LEARNING! JUST WHEN I THINK I HAVE IT DOWN, I RUN INTO A WALL!
BY THE WAY, I CAN NOW TAKE A SHOWER IN MY OWN SHOWER! i GOT THE DARN THING REPLACED YESTERDAY! WHAT A RELIEF! THAT MAY BE NOT A BIG DEAL TO SOME, BUT I AM SO GRATEFUL TO BE ABLE TO NOT HAVE TO SHOWER AT MY MOM'S--LUCKILY SHE LIVES IN TOWN!
I THINK I AM RAMBLING SO I WILL GET OFF NOW! STAY STRONG & KEEP TRUDGING! KATHLEEN
Dearest lady,Kathleen I struggled with what to respond to you with!
Not sure why.
Anyway I seriously believe in this.I notice in your posts the word,"try" or "trying."
Remember Yoda said,"Do not try,DO!" I am doing,I will be doing.
Try is like a wobble on the fence you know?Almost like you don't believe in what yo are saying.
Soooo I invite you to use the word DO insteand of try. Not kidding, it helped me
Anxiety is awful Kathleen.I hated it so much that I learned to almost never have it.
I use the word concern instead of worry.
Also would physically remind myself to drop my elbows, breath out pushing my abdomen out.
Would think in my head going on a walk with my dogs.Watching them run around.
Chanted the Serenity Prayer lots.
When I said it, I would put in, Accept the things I cannot change, AH drunk at work, stole my debit card, change what I can, get my card back, his using is not my concern, wisdom to know the difference Ah is an addict, it is his problem not mine. I cannot change him, but I can change me.
Also and still do,always say inside and out loud.Everything is ok. this moment I am alive, have a home,animals are healthy, love my kids and grandkids,I live in paradise, money is just number...etc No matter what everything is ok.
Each day I wake up and thank hp for another day,my hp is the creator. I write the day on my journal on top, then write down what I need/want to do that day.
then relax knowing it is not haphazzard. I might make a food list, draw out where I want to fence, what to use to build a tortoise table, brush out dogs, cut their toenails, mop sweep, write to whoever. phone calls.JUST One day.
