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I am bringing my brother to rehab tomorrow and stumbled across this wesite tonight. I am having so many mixed emotions but mainly I am exhausted and am looking forward to sleeping tomorrow night and not worrying about him. Does anyone have any suggestions on what I should say to him???
Give him a hug and wish him well. Good that he is entering and glad you will not have to worry about him for a few nites.
Welcome to our board and you are in the right place. Alanon is for the spouses and family members who deal or are living with an active Alcoholic or addict.
Take the time to read the postings and get a little idea of what were about. Just remember that you cannot control what the alcoholic does and your not responsible for his disease and you cant do for him what he must do for himself.
If you can find a face to face meeting in your area that would be most helpful.
Glad your hear and come back and share your experiences with us. Were here to listen.
Wishing you courage, strength and hope. Luv, Bettina
I'm glad you stumbled in on MIP. You have found a new and caring family who understands as perhaps no one else can...you are not alone anymore.
The disease makes us as sick or sicker than the alcoholic in our lives without us even realizing it. It makes us do and say things no sane person would ever do or say. Step one in the program says....We admited we are powerless over alcohol and our life has become unmangageable. We have no control over alcohol and we have no control over the alcoholic....we are powerless. The Al-Anon program will give you the tools and the strength you need to make your life better. It's a proven program that has helped people worldwide for over 60 years.
Start tomorrow and find a local f2f Al-Anon meeting to attend. You will find a group of friendly, caring, and understanding members who will welcome you into the fellowship with open arms. Members who are walking in your shoes and are gald to give back to you what the program has given them. Your brother is getting the help he needs....you need to do the same.
Below your topic "Freeagain" posted a topic titled "Hope". Read it and you will understand the feeling newcomers experience when they go to their first face to face meeting. There's no way to describe the feeling of not being alone anymore.
Glad you are here, keep coming back, and please do the best thing you can do for yourself, get involved in the Al-Anon program....you will never regret it.
HUGS, RLC
-- Edited by RLC on Friday 11th of June 2010 12:25:54 AM
Just tell him u love him and let go .. this is his trip . and I hope ufind an Al-Anon meeting for yourself . learn all u can about this disease , what to do what not to do. Learn to detach with love and support his efforts at sobriety ,and for me tht was having my own program and learning to mind my own business and to give him the dignity to live the way he chooses .. enjoy your sleep u probably earned it .
I must say when ever I've been around an active alcoholic I can let loose far too quickly. I'm just beginning to learn to be civil to people who really irk me. I think its an art form.
