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mjhyankees · mjhyankees

Things at home are quite, so that helps...the test is when things aren't so great. Also wife and I went to a therapist that we are going to take my daughter to. My wife doesn't like the therapist (I expected that), and to be fair, I didn't find her very warm and cuddly. But she'd been recommended along w...

sunflowergirl · sunflowergirl

Thanks to my new sponser, I am figuring out detachment and concentrating on me. I was thinking that inorder to detach, I had to stop loving my abf and run away. I am realizing that for right now, I don't have to do that. That detachment is allowing my bf to be who he is, and to stop trying to tell him how to l...

nh girl · nh girl

Step 10. Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it. Went to a f2f meeting this weekend and I was introduced to step 10. Who knew this was the message I needed to hear. I've been reacting to (exploding at) other people's negativity in general or personal critic...

Mercy · Mercy

It has been awhile since I posted a long while put I need to today. My brother in law went into detox yesterday for oxycotin addiction which turned into a 6 gram a day (that is what he tells me) heroine addiction. I have been there to get him his DSHS and helped him get into treatment and I know that I did not Ca...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

It is probably too soon to share but I feel like I am saying goodbye or something! I am still anxious & scared but I am going to be OK according to all my support system which is growing daily. God bless those who care! I have actually cried over knowing how many people, especially women, who know &...

usedtobeanyer · usedtobeanyer

Hi everyone, I attended my first Al Anon meeting last night. I found it to be a bit uncomfortable but I can definitely see how it would be helpful. So I'm hoping to continue to go. I'm attending Al Anon because of my wife, who is also attending AA. She has been quite irresponsible with drinking over the las...

snodebb · snodebb

Hubby comes home today drinking of course and wants to know where one of our daughters is. She wasnt feeling well this morning and stayed home she called me later and told me she was going to school because she had a test she couldnt miss. I tell my husband that and he starts going off about why she wanted to...

releathe · releathe

Now that I've found this place and started learning the process of recovery, I'm finding the thought of being around my AH unbearable. He doesn't drink during the week but he usually starts on Thursday night and continues through the weekend. I honestly cannot stand him when he is drunk and just the...

Ginger90 · Ginger90

I am finally starting to see that maybe I am getting a little bit better. It seems like a very slow process some days but the program works when I honestly try my best to work at it. My DD 18 moved out of our home under poor terms earlier this summer. She is staying with her bf in his parents home. I have been...

tlcate · tlcate

I just wanted to come and give everyone a heads up - I will be here very little over the next few weeks. Closing the house purchase - don't have the keys yet but very soon I hope. Packing, moving, cleaning, CRAZY work schedule, and business trips - I am going to be heads down for quite awhile being thankfu...

sunflowergirl · sunflowergirl

I am trying to become obsessed with myself... ok, maybe that is not a good word, but trying to think of only me and also to finally embrace the first step... I fell last night and snooped and guess what? I felt AWFUL. Just awful and stupid for doing it. I made myself sick, because I let my Abf's mom get to...

aunitedway · aunitedway

i am facing some [trials and tribulations] rightnow and have been reading alot to stay calm and to remain strong. Posted this (pasted it below) back in May 2009. As I read it a " C A L M " came over me ( a knowing it is all going to be all right) and i thought to share it again here on the message bo...

Jozie · Jozie

Good Goollie I'm I about to loose my mind.... I swear I have dealt with Every A-Hole within a 20 mile radius today, and I'm about to loose my mind... I mean the Full moon was last week... Come on!!! Most know that I don't get to excited "most" of the time, but this morning my aura is WAY off... I wal...

casa · casa

Chair opened the meeting with the Serenity Prayer. September minutes were approved as written. First item: Meeting schedule. AM MON Shimo TUES xeno WED Iona THURS OPEN FRI Blendergirl SAT OPEN SUN (Spiritual) OPEN PM MON grammie TUES casa WEDS kerisha THURS (Step/tradition) courage...

MissyPoo · MissyPoo

Just a question.. is anyone else's A extra, ahem... frisky and demanding about it the next day... It's like clockwork for mine and drives me CRAZY. The LAST think I want to think about doing the day after one of his binges while he sweats beer out his pores and sleeps off his handover on the couch.. Is it...

Rora · Rora

I took some time this evening to read through some older posts and messages of mine, dating all the way back to Feb 2007. More than 3 yrs ago! Have I really been here that long? Wow, some of the anger I had in those messages, I remember those days and how desperate I was for freedom from that anger, pain an...

oklahoma momof5 · oklahoma momof5

Everyday, moment by moment, I am swinging back and forth between thinking, "he's a drunk, no he's not really a drunk, he's getting better, no, he's drinking more than before, I have to leave, I can't leave, I will miss him, I can't stand him, I won't miss him, he's ruining my kids lives, it will ruin...

Holly09 · Holly09

For the past 1 1/12 weeks I have felt at peace. I have not felt this for an amazingly long time and it feels wonderful! My A boyfriend who has switched from alcohol to oxcodone pills doesn't realize that I know what has been going on and I've just been going about my business taking care of the things I bei...

releathe · releathe

I am currently 8 months pregnant and the mother of a 3 year old. Recently, I came to grips with the fact that my husband is an alcoholic and now I feel like my world is falling apart. I know that being pregnant means that I'm more emotional but I find myself crying all the time. My husband knows that I thin...

Stace621 · Stace621

I have read a number of websites the last 15 years or so on this topic but i have never posted my story. I also havent read a story that is like mine specifically, so here it goes, maybe my story can help someone else. I am 25 years old and grew up with a dad who couldnt put the bottle down when i was little. F...

lmw · lmw

Not really on topic but wondering if anyone else has noticed a similarity between alcoholism and dementia.... I took my kids and moved away from their alcoholic father, into my mother's home. Over the last few years, my mother has gotten VERY forgetful. She'll repeat herself again and again. Sh...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I am experiencing another wake-up call what others call an A-HA moment! I am not in charge of my own destiny totally & I am putting my faith in the surgeon! That's enough out of me! Just wait til tomorrow! Kathleen

looking_for_peace · looking_for_peace

I just finished my post and it disappeared, so if it shows up twice I apologize. Yesterday I found out that my "no longer an alcoholic" husband left our daughter alone while he went to the liquor store. The store is about 20 minutes away, round trip. The catch? Our daughter is only 9 and is cogn...

John · John

Hello everyone, Welcome to the Miracles In Progress 12 Step Recovery Forums "Step Work Board" at http://stepwork.activeboard.com If you registered on the Step Work Board on or before 10/4/10 your account on the board has been confirmed and validated, so all you need to do to interact on the Step W...

maresie · maresie

When I was a teenager my big sister threw me down the stairs for using her lipstick. Since then I've undergone years of surgeries, unsuccessful procedures and basically lived at the dentist. During all that time I've been waiting for her apology. Needless to say I've never got one and I've certain...

sunflowergirl · sunflowergirl

:) You know me :) -- Edited by sunflowergirl on Tuesday 5th of October 2010 04:39:35 AM

maresie · maresie

Today I saw a former neighbor of mine on the street. I have been angry at her for years about her behavior, drama and chaos. She was absolutely hell to live with. Naturally she takes no reponsibility for that so she wasn't exactly pleased to see me. In the past when she indicated that I had some retort...

jettiesgirl · jettiesgirl

Had a setback tonight. Some of you may recall my previous posts. ABF had a meltdown about a month ago, got tasered by the cops. Ugly, ugly night. Well, that experienced scared him, I think. He's been going to AA meetings twice a day, seeing a counselor and a doctor. I've been proud of him -- he got his 3 week...

suzip · suzip

Why is it that I have such a hard time saying no? I have decided to try to not be so quick to say yes to everything, yes I'll run the fall mum sale, yes I'll do Community Day yes I'll run the fundraiser event...what is my problem! My ah is spending the last month of his 2nd jail term for his 4th dui, and I've said n...

Jerry F · Jerry F

Aloha all...I read a post a while back about a couple 18 year old female family members who were abanding family ties and running off to another family with young male others. I responded that it seemed like an epidemic because of course that is happening here also. My 18 year old grand daughter who is...

Andrea12 · Andrea12

(((((((((Family))))))))))), Well another road to travel in the world of addiction, my son came home Wednesday evening so high i honestly thought he was going to overdose. So I took his keys, Thursday morning he woke up give me my keys I want to go look for a job, meanwhile he has a t-shirt and sweat pants...

kath · kath

There are no words to describe how awestruck I am after reading Getting Them Sober. There it was in writing, how I have been acting toward my AH, and how he has been acting towards me. Then there were suggestions to tell me how to deal with this disease in a positive way. I can thankfully say there is pea...

kitty · kitty

Last night bf & I watched this movie for the first time. Very fitting for us right now, as we have been discussing boundaries all week and how to implement them, navigate and use them - boundaries (personal, familial) how to handle them with colleagues in a professional setting (at work). This...

SteppingUp · SteppingUp

My W went over her usual 5 drinks tonight and my heart is pounding a mile-a-minute. I think she's finally passed out (at least I hope she is). She was slurring and stumbling and thought she was very cute. Even the kids were making fun of her. Luckily she thought they were just joking around with her. Other...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

A member from our Alanon fellowship mentioned this at a meeting. Seriously & I joke about it! I said who wants to be happy & someone said that happiness is overrated. I totally agree w/ what he said but I had to be a smarty pants. I really want to be happy & serene & sane on a daily basis but I...

Jozie · Jozie

Ok So Today my Step Son (youngest) comes bustin in my office :) He says "Can You Keep a Secret?" Me being Honest said "NO" ...lol... So He was pretty excited and told me, I had to Keep this Secret from my Husband of ALL people, and that makes it worse, because we do tend to share EVERYT...

kerry5 · kerry5

Business meeting will be held tommorow Sunday October 3rd at 9pm est. There are three items on the agenda. Meeting Schedule Lack of Chairs Vote for Room Preditor to be banned or not If you have anything you would like added contact me or attend the meeting to present any new business you may have Thank...

Carol_Lynn · Carol_Lynn

Does one have to be an op to lead or begin scheduled online meetings? I really needed a meeting tonight and there were no ops and I asked if you had to be one and they said yes. I thought anyone could. ty, Carol

mjhyankees · mjhyankees

I've been thinking that I have always felt "less than" others my whole life. Many thing contributed to this: Of course dysfunctional home with alcoholism. A last name that prompted jeers my whole childhood, being kind of nerdy, soft and generally not "manly", and having s...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Oh boy, I am counting the days til I go under the knife! I figure that I won't be able to update you all after I do. I won't be able to get on here for a week or so afterwards. I hope to let everyone know my progress as soon as I am able. I don't have a computer at home as I have said before. It would take quite a feat t...

pineapple · pineapple

After doing so good for awhile, AH has again fallen off the wagon. The stupid part is that with all I 've learned from alanon I still expected that just because he went for so long without drinking, it wouldn't happen again. DUH! At least I remembered that it's a waste of breath to talk to him when he's drun...

Jozie · Jozie

Welp... Today I was Tested On old ways, and I think over all, gave it my Best Al-Anon Try :) Ok, I have shared that I am going to be a Grandma again, (So Flip'n Excited) and that my stepson, had recently divorced (Last Week :D) and was moving on with his new lady & baby to be, well I'm sure many no of Faceboo...

tlcate · tlcate

I was talking to a friend about another person, a man. I said, "I think he needs a woman to who needs to be taken care of. I am a strong, independent woman and I think that scares him." His response, "Yes, some men need women who need to be taken care of." I said, "I'm all for bei...

nh girl · nh girl

How do you handle passive aggressive people? As I am an adult child of an alcoholic family, I don't always have the tools I need to handle difficult situations. I was working on a project for a sister in law and now I'm just waiting for the punishment as it always comes. This is the first time it's happ...

dori711 · dori711

This morning I woke up so down and had a big cry because I was thinking that by going to Al Anon meetings without my husband knowing and by spending time on this board is a form of betrayal. Why do I feel this way? My husband and I have always been open with each other for the most part, I think this is the fir...

dori711 · dori711

I need some advice the Al-Anon way. I just started going to Al anon meetings last Thursday so today was my second meeting. Today it dealt with step nine. I will also be purchasing a book called "Courage to Change". Now I can only assume when they finish the 12 steps they will go back to s...

NCSUgeology · NCSUgeology

Well, my brother was arrested last night for violation of parole. This is the second time he's been arrested for parole violation, so he'll probably have to serve the whole sentence (maybe two years). This time was much, much worse though. I've seen him drunk plenty of times, but this time the beer/me...

Maize · Maize

I swear I have a sign on my head that says "all crazy people talk to this person" but I know it really must be that my body language is suggesting that I will talk to them? I don't know. Since I realized I can read body language kind of subconsciously, I know I must be putting out some kind of body...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Here it goes: A boy was talking to God & said: A million years is like a second to you, right? God said YES. the boy asked: A million dollars is like a penny to you, right? God said YES. the boy asked: Can I have a penny? God said" just a second!" I hope everyone got a good laugh: I needed it when...

Melly · Melly

Hello, I'm Melissa, 31 and I just wanted to pop in here and see what it was all about. Basically, my Mother has been an alcoholic for years and years. It's always bothered me and I've tried to talk to her about it, but it's not done any good. The big things, she said once or twice, was that I left home when I wa...

oklahoma momof5 · oklahoma momof5

Hi everyone!! Just wondering about how I would set boundaries and also practice detachment. I have been thinking about a possible boundary to set: I don't want you drinking in my house when my kids are awake. (this is actually what caused me to wake up to his problem, he started staying here full tim...

titanicspriging · titanicspriging

I'm so feed up with all the lies, the hidden bottles of whiskey, the roller coaster of false promises and let downs. Up til now it's always been me that has stormed off and had to live with my children, or in a caravan, but tonight my husband returned from a golfing holiday, walked in the door, told me how m...

Tattyhead · Tattyhead

Have been away for just 2 nights, staying with an old friend. Had a lovely time catching up on all our news. I decided it was OK to go away and leave son with his AH because AH was so much better - he had been in hospital, had very nearly died but seemed to be much improved and not drinking (much!). They were ok...

Jerry F · Jerry F

Aloha John and Mahalo for your response to Michele on her question as to if an alcoholic can get sober on their own. Many times I needed the "long" story with the attention to detail to inform me into a greater understanding. My ADD makes the staying with it difficult but the content of you...

NCSUgeology · NCSUgeology

Do you just let it happen? Even if there is a chance of death from the combo of beer and bipolar meds? Do you step in then? I understand the need to let nature take it's course, but where do you draw the line and ask for legal help?

michele1 · michele1

My husband has been an alcoholic for almost 5 years. I've been trying to get him to stop for years. I tried sending him to AA- he wouldn't stick with it. He has repeatedly lied to me about stopping and cutting back. I've tried taking away his debit cards- he finds other ways to get money. Within the last...

Sangyaa · Sangyaa

Hi everyone, My abf has been in a detox center since Monday (he'll be there for a week and from there he has an escort to inpatient treatment). If someone had asked me how I was doing last week, I would've said "fine". It took being alone for more than 24 hours for me to realize that I'm NOT fine at...

oklahoma momof5 · oklahoma momof5

Hi everyone, This is my first post here and I don't even know if this is the kind of topic to start here, but I am just wondering..... I am so in love with my fiance but his drinking is getting worse.... maybe it's always been this bad but since we are living together I am seeing it more? I think he's trying to d...

Ginger90 · Ginger90

Whew, I need help detaching from my 18 year old daughter. She has chosen to leave and move in with her boyfriend and his family. She left with a lot of hurt and anger amongst everyone. I realize it is her life and she has every right to live it how she sees fit but I don't think it's fair for her to expect us t...

caretaker · caretaker

I have a question, well lots of questions, but this one is a big one for me. I had mentioned in an earlier post about going to f2f meetings and not feeling comfortable there. I saw my alcoholic sister through 30 days of rehab, plus lived through my father's alcoholism until he was killed and then lived w...

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	Feeling OK these days.... (Preview) Things at home are quite, so that helps...the test is when things aren't so great. Also wife and I went to a therapist that we are going to take my daughter to. My wife doesn't like the therapist (I expected that), and to be fair, I didn't find her very warm and cuddly. But she'd been recommended along w...	mjhyankees	2	715	Oct 7, 2010 by sunflowergirl
	Detachment=allowing him to be who he is.... (Preview) Thanks to my new sponser, I am figuring out detachment and concentrating on me. I was thinking that inorder to detach, I had to stop loving my abf and run away. I am realizing that for right now, I don't have to do that. That detachment is allowing my bf to be who he is, and to stop trying to tell him how to l...	sunflowergirl	11	890	Oct 7, 2010 by sunflowergirl
	Step 10 who knew... (Preview) Step 10. Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it. Went to a f2f meeting this weekend and I was introduced to step 10. Who knew this was the message I needed to hear. I've been reacting to (exploding at) other people's negativity in general or personal critic...	nh girl	4	866	Oct 6, 2010 by nh girl
	It has been awhile (Preview) It has been awhile since I posted a long while put I need to today. My brother in law went into detox yesterday for oxycotin addiction which turned into a 6 gram a day (that is what he tells me) heroine addiction. I have been there to get him his DSHS and helped him get into treatment and I know that I did not Ca...	Mercy	6	706	Oct 6, 2010 by Mercy
	probably to soon... (Preview) It is probably too soon to share but I feel like I am saying goodbye or something! I am still anxious & scared but I am going to be OK according to all my support system which is growing daily. God bless those who care! I have actually cried over knowing how many people, especially women, who know &...	Hoot Nanny	5	830	Oct 6, 2010 by AlaMom
	New here & new to Al Anon (Preview) Hi everyone, I attended my first Al Anon meeting last night. I found it to be a bit uncomfortable but I can definitely see how it would be helpful. So I'm hoping to continue to go. I'm attending Al Anon because of my wife, who is also attending AA. She has been quite irresponsible with drinking over the las...	usedtobeanyer	5	803	Oct 6, 2010 by sunflowergirl
	Why does the conversation with a drunk never end!!!!!!!!!!!!!! (Preview) Hubby comes home today drinking of course and wants to know where one of our daughters is. She wasnt feeling well this morning and stayed home she called me later and told me she was going to school because she had a test she couldnt miss. I tell my husband that and he starts going off about why she wanted to...	snodebb	7	797	Oct 6, 2010 by Holly09
	I feel like I need a plan... (Preview) Now that I've found this place and started learning the process of recovery, I'm finding the thought of being around my AH unbearable. He doesn't drink during the week but he usually starts on Thursday night and continues through the weekend. I honestly cannot stand him when he is drunk and just the...	releathe	3	940	Oct 6, 2010 by bud
	Letting Go... (Preview) I am finally starting to see that maybe I am getting a little bit better. It seems like a very slow process some days but the program works when I honestly try my best to work at it. My DD 18 moved out of our home under poor terms earlier this summer. She is staying with her bf in his parents home. I have been...	Ginger90	6	816	Oct 6, 2010 by bud
	Overdrive!!! (Preview) I just wanted to come and give everyone a heads up - I will be here very little over the next few weeks. Closing the house purchase - don't have the keys yet but very soon I hope. Packing, moving, cleaning, CRAZY work schedule, and business trips - I am going to be heads down for quite awhile being thankfu...	tlcate	2	695	Oct 6, 2010 by Karilynn
	You're my obsession.... (Preview) I am trying to become obsessed with myself... ok, maybe that is not a good word, but trying to think of only me and also to finally embrace the first step... I fell last night and snooped and guess what? I felt AWFUL. Just awful and stupid for doing it. I made myself sick, because I let my Abf's mom get to...	sunflowergirl	7	1080	Oct 6, 2010 by Christy
	What is HP /GOD to You... Putting Trust in Your HP....How do you see feel Your Higher Power (Preview) i am facing some [trials and tribulations] rightnow and have been reading alot to stay calm and to remain strong. Posted this (pasted it below) back in May 2009. As I read it a " C A L M " came over me ( a knowing it is all going to be all right) and i thought to share it again here on the message bo...	aunitedway	2	1240	Oct 5, 2010 by Jerry F
	God PLEASE Grant me the Serenity!!! (Preview) Good Goollie I'm I about to loose my mind.... I swear I have dealt with Every A-Hole within a 20 mile radius today, and I'm about to loose my mind... I mean the Full moon was last week... Come on!!! Most know that I don't get to excited "most" of the time, but this morning my aura is WAY off... I wal...	Jozie	4	2397	Oct 5, 2010 by thundermother
	10.02.10 MIP Group Business Meeting Minutes (Preview) Chair opened the meeting with the Serenity Prayer. September minutes were approved as written. First item: Meeting schedule. AM MON Shimo TUES xeno WED Iona THURS OPEN FRI Blendergirl SAT OPEN SUN (Spiritual) OPEN PM MON grammie TUES casa WEDS kerisha THURS (Step/tradition) courage...	casa	0	622	Oct 5, 2010 by casa
	A question about the dayafter a binge.. maybe TMI (Preview) Just a question.. is anyone else's A extra, ahem... frisky and demanding about it the next day... It's like clockwork for mine and drives me CRAZY. The LAST think I want to think about doing the day after one of his binges while he sweats beer out his pores and sleeps off his handover on the couch.. Is it...	MissyPoo	7	726	Oct 5, 2010 by thundermother
	Learning and growth over the years... (Preview) I took some time this evening to read through some older posts and messages of mine, dating all the way back to Feb 2007. More than 3 yrs ago! Have I really been here that long? Wow, some of the anger I had in those messages, I remember those days and how desperate I was for freedom from that anger, pain an...	Rora	7	956	Oct 5, 2010 by sunflowergirl
	You know what makes me feel the craziest? Long vent. (Preview) Everyday, moment by moment, I am swinging back and forth between thinking, "he's a drunk, no he's not really a drunk, he's getting better, no, he's drinking more than before, I have to leave, I can't leave, I will miss him, I can't stand him, I won't miss him, he's ruining my kids lives, it will ruin...	oklahoma momof5	9	878	Oct 5, 2010 by sunflowergirl
	Feeling at peace. (Preview) For the past 1 1/12 weeks I have felt at peace. I have not felt this for an amazingly long time and it feels wonderful! My A boyfriend who has switched from alcohol to oxcodone pills doesn't realize that I know what has been going on and I've just been going about my business taking care of the things I bei...	Holly09	2	600	Oct 5, 2010 by sunflowergirl
	Pregnant mother with an alcoholic husband (Preview) I am currently 8 months pregnant and the mother of a 3 year old. Recently, I came to grips with the fact that my husband is an alcoholic and now I feel like my world is falling apart. I know that being pregnant means that I'm more emotional but I find myself crying all the time. My husband knows that I thin...	releathe	5	1986	Oct 5, 2010 by sunflowergirl
	Living life with an alcoholic daddy (Preview) I have read a number of websites the last 15 years or so on this topic but i have never posted my story. I also havent read a story that is like mine specifically, so here it goes, maybe my story can help someone else. I am 25 years old and grew up with a dad who couldnt put the bottle down when i was little. F...	Stace621	7	1004	Oct 5, 2010 by thundermother
	OT - Living with forgetfulness/dementia (Preview) Not really on topic but wondering if anyone else has noticed a similarity between alcoholism and dementia.... I took my kids and moved away from their alcoholic father, into my mother's home. Over the last few years, my mother has gotten VERY forgetful. She'll repeat herself again and again. Sh...	lmw	5	1059	Oct 5, 2010 by abbyal
	another wake-up call! (Preview) I am experiencing another wake-up call what others call an A-HA moment! I am not in charge of my own destiny totally & I am putting my faith in the surgeon! That's enough out of me! Just wait til tomorrow! Kathleen	Hoot Nanny	3	726	Oct 4, 2010 by thundermother
	he left our daughter alone (Preview) I just finished my post and it disappeared, so if it shows up twice I apologize. Yesterday I found out that my "no longer an alcoholic" husband left our daughter alone while he went to the liquor store. The store is about 20 minutes away, round trip. The catch? Our daughter is only 9 and is cogn...	looking_for_peace	10	898	Oct 4, 2010 by thundermother
	MIP Step Work Board Information (Preview) Hello everyone, Welcome to the Miracles In Progress 12 Step Recovery Forums "Step Work Board" at http://stepwork.activeboard.com If you registered on the Step Work Board on or before 10/4/10 your account on the board has been confirmed and validated, so all you need to do to interact on the Step W...	John	1	1024	Oct 4, 2010 by thundermother
	Accepting responsibility. (Preview) When I was a teenager my big sister threw me down the stairs for using her lipstick. Since then I've undergone years of surgeries, unsuccessful procedures and basically lived at the dentist. During all that time I've been waiting for her apology. Needless to say I've never got one and I've certain...	maresie	4	856	Oct 4, 2010 by maresie
	This is the new me... (Preview) :) You know me :) -- Edited by sunflowergirl on Tuesday 5th of October 2010 04:39:35 AM	sunflowergirl	5	832	Oct 4, 2010 by kitty
	Detachment (Preview) Today I saw a former neighbor of mine on the street. I have been angry at her for years about her behavior, drama and chaos. She was absolutely hell to live with. Naturally she takes no reponsibility for that so she wasn't exactly pleased to see me. In the past when she indicated that I had some retort...	maresie	6	756	Oct 4, 2010 by sunflowergirl
	I messed up. (Preview) Had a setback tonight. Some of you may recall my previous posts. ABF had a meltdown about a month ago, got tasered by the cops. Ugly, ugly night. Well, that experienced scared him, I think. He's been going to AA meetings twice a day, seeing a counselor and a doctor. I've been proud of him -- he got his 3 week...	jettiesgirl	10	873	Oct 4, 2010 by sunflowergirl
	Learn to say NO!! (Preview) Why is it that I have such a hard time saying no? I have decided to try to not be so quick to say yes to everything, yes I'll run the fall mum sale, yes I'll do Community Day yes I'll run the fundraiser event...what is my problem! My ah is spending the last month of his 2nd jail term for his 4th dui, and I've said n...	suzip	3	764	Oct 4, 2010 by sunflowergirl
	Saying No...meaning No. (Preview) Aloha all...I read a post a while back about a couple 18 year old female family members who were abanding family ties and running off to another family with young male others. I responded that it seemed like an epidemic because of course that is happening here also. My 18 year old grand daughter who is...	Jerry F	7	707	Oct 4, 2010 by sunflowergirl
	Desperate for words of wisdom here I go again (Preview) (((((((((Family))))))))))), Well another road to travel in the world of addiction, my son came home Wednesday evening so high i honestly thought he was going to overdose. So I took his keys, Thursday morning he woke up give me my keys I want to go look for a job, meanwhile he has a t-shirt and sweat pants...	Andrea12	18	1921	Oct 4, 2010 by Bettina
	No words (Preview) There are no words to describe how awestruck I am after reading Getting Them Sober. There it was in writing, how I have been acting toward my AH, and how he has been acting towards me. Then there were suggestions to tell me how to deal with this disease in a positive way. I can thankfully say there is pea...	kath	8	567	Oct 4, 2010 by oklahoma momof5
	the movie, The Blind Side (Preview) Last night bf & I watched this movie for the first time. Very fitting for us right now, as we have been discussing boundaries all week and how to implement them, navigate and use them - boundaries (personal, familial) how to handle them with colleagues in a professional setting (at work). This...	kitty	4	866	Oct 4, 2010 by xeno59
	She's tanked again and I'm walking on eggshells. (Preview) My W went over her usual 5 drinks tonight and my heart is pounding a mile-a-minute. I think she's finally passed out (at least I hope she is). She was slurring and stumbling and thought she was very cute. Even the kids were making fun of her. Luckily she thought they were just joking around with her. Other...	SteppingUp	12	718	Oct 3, 2010 by SteppingUp
	Do you want to right or be happy? (Preview) A member from our Alanon fellowship mentioned this at a meeting. Seriously & I joke about it! I said who wants to be happy & someone said that happiness is overrated. I totally agree w/ what he said but I had to be a smarty pants. I really want to be happy & serene & sane on a daily basis but I...	Hoot Nanny	6	1205	Oct 3, 2010 by kitty
	Happy Secrets :) Had to share :) (Preview) Ok So Today my Step Son (youngest) comes bustin in my office :) He says "Can You Keep a Secret?" Me being Honest said "NO" ...lol... So He was pretty excited and told me, I had to Keep this Secret from my Husband of ALL people, and that makes it worse, because we do tend to share EVERYT...	Jozie	6	1029	Oct 3, 2010 by thundermother
	Business Meeting tommorow at 9pm est October 3rd 2010 (Preview) Business meeting will be held tommorow Sunday October 3rd at 9pm est. There are three items on the agenda. Meeting Schedule Lack of Chairs Vote for Room Preditor to be banned or not If you have anything you would like added contact me or attend the meeting to present any new business you may have Thank...	kerry5	0	471	Oct 2, 2010 by kerry5
	needed a meeting tonight and there were no ops (Preview) Does one have to be an op to lead or begin scheduled online meetings? I really needed a meeting tonight and there were no ops and I asked if you had to be one and they said yes. I thought anyone could. ty, Carol	Carol_Lynn	5	698	Oct 2, 2010 by Carol_Lynn
	Always felt less than..... (Preview) I've been thinking that I have always felt "less than" others my whole life. Many thing contributed to this: Of course dysfunctional home with alcoholism. A last name that prompted jeers my whole childhood, being kind of nerdy, soft and generally not "manly", and having s...	mjhyankees	8	524	Oct 2, 2010 by Bettina
	counting the days... (Preview) Oh boy, I am counting the days til I go under the knife! I figure that I won't be able to update you all after I do. I won't be able to get on here for a week or so afterwards. I hope to let everyone know my progress as soon as I am able. I don't have a computer at home as I have said before. It would take quite a feat t...	Hoot Nanny	3	577	Oct 2, 2010 by Jerry F
	Expectations-I KNOW better by now, but.... (Preview) After doing so good for awhile, AH has again fallen off the wagon. The stupid part is that with all I 've learned from alanon I still expected that just because he went for so long without drinking, it wouldn't happen again. DUH! At least I remembered that it's a waste of breath to talk to him when he's drun...	pineapple	9	864	Oct 2, 2010 by pineapple
	A Baby Step Kinda Day!!! Let'n Go (Preview) Welp... Today I was Tested On old ways, and I think over all, gave it my Best Al-Anon Try :) Ok, I have shared that I am going to be a Grandma again, (So Flip'n Excited) and that my stepson, had recently divorced (Last Week :D) and was moving on with his new lady & baby to be, well I'm sure many no of Faceboo...	Jozie	3	1131	Oct 2, 2010 by hotrod
	This stuck with me today . . . (Preview) I was talking to a friend about another person, a man. I said, "I think he needs a woman to who needs to be taken care of. I am a strong, independent woman and I think that scares him." His response, "Yes, some men need women who need to be taken care of." I said, "I'm all for bei...	tlcate	5	532	Oct 2, 2010 by mjhyankees
	off topic just need to vent and get insight (Preview) How do you handle passive aggressive people? As I am an adult child of an alcoholic family, I don't always have the tools I need to handle difficult situations. I was working on a project for a sister in law and now I'm just waiting for the punishment as it always comes. This is the first time it's happ...	nh girl	8	801	Oct 1, 2010 by nh girl
	Are these normal feelings for a new Al-Anon member? (Preview) This morning I woke up so down and had a big cry because I was thinking that by going to Al Anon meetings without my husband knowing and by spending time on this board is a form of betrayal. Why do I feel this way? My husband and I have always been open with each other for the most part, I think this is the fir...	dori711	13	1054	Oct 1, 2010 by abbyal
	How would you respond? (Preview) I need some advice the Al-Anon way. I just started going to Al anon meetings last Thursday so today was my second meeting. Today it dealt with step nine. I will also be purchasing a book called "Courage to Change". Now I can only assume when they finish the 12 steps they will go back to s...	dori711	13	1545	Oct 1, 2010 by Maize
	He was arrested last night (Preview) Well, my brother was arrested last night for violation of parole. This is the second time he's been arrested for parole violation, so he'll probably have to serve the whole sentence (maybe two years). This time was much, much worse though. I've seen him drunk plenty of times, but this time the beer/me...	NCSUgeology	7	1272	Oct 1, 2010 by lyndebi
	how to change my own body language? (Preview) I swear I have a sign on my head that says "all crazy people talk to this person" but I know it really must be that my body language is suggesting that I will talk to them? I don't know. Since I realized I can read body language kind of subconsciously, I know I must be putting out some kind of body...	Maize	10	1064	Oct 1, 2010 by Maize
	Just a little joke! (Preview) Here it goes: A boy was talking to God & said: A million years is like a second to you, right? God said YES. the boy asked: A million dollars is like a penny to you, right? God said YES. the boy asked: Can I have a penny? God said" just a second!" I hope everyone got a good laugh: I needed it when...	Hoot Nanny	3	519	Oct 1, 2010 by Andrea12
	Intro (Preview) Hello, I'm Melissa, 31 and I just wanted to pop in here and see what it was all about. Basically, my Mother has been an alcoholic for years and years. It's always bothered me and I've tried to talk to her about it, but it's not done any good. The big things, she said once or twice, was that I left home when I wa...	Melly	7	1358	Sep 30, 2010 by carolyny476
	Question about detachment and boundaries... (Preview) Hi everyone!! Just wondering about how I would set boundaries and also practice detachment. I have been thinking about a possible boundary to set: I don't want you drinking in my house when my kids are awake. (this is actually what caused me to wake up to his problem, he started staying here full tim...	oklahoma momof5	4	1279	Sep 30, 2010 by kitty
	I'm new and at my wits end tonight (Preview) I'm so feed up with all the lies, the hidden bottles of whiskey, the roller coaster of false promises and let downs. Up til now it's always been me that has stormed off and had to live with my children, or in a caravan, but tonight my husband returned from a golfing holiday, walked in the door, told me how m...	titanicspriging	3	875	Sep 30, 2010 by abbyal
	Maybe I was right not to forgive (Preview) Have been away for just 2 nights, staying with an old friend. Had a lovely time catching up on all our news. I decided it was OK to go away and leave son with his AH because AH was so much better - he had been in hospital, had very nearly died but seemed to be much improved and not drinking (much!). They were ok...	Tattyhead	9	1150	Sep 30, 2010 by Tattyhead
	Thanks John (Preview) Aloha John and Mahalo for your response to Michele on her question as to if an alcoholic can get sober on their own. Many times I needed the "long" story with the attention to detail to inform me into a greater understanding. My ADD makes the staying with it difficult but the content of you...	Jerry F	2	716	Sep 30, 2010 by Maize
	What if the A is in danger of hurting himself? (Preview) Do you just let it happen? Even if there is a chance of death from the combo of beer and bipolar meds? Do you step in then? I understand the need to let nature take it's course, but where do you draw the line and ask for legal help?	NCSUgeology	11	847	Sep 30, 2010 by stopandchat
	Can an alcoholic recover on their own? (Preview) My husband has been an alcoholic for almost 5 years. I've been trying to get him to stop for years. I tried sending him to AA- he wouldn't stick with it. He has repeatedly lied to me about stopping and cutting back. I've tried taking away his debit cards- he finds other ways to get money. Within the last...	michele1	15	6788	Sep 30, 2010 by stopandchat
	Healing time (Preview) Hi everyone, My abf has been in a detox center since Monday (he'll be there for a week and from there he has an escort to inpatient treatment). If someone had asked me how I was doing last week, I would've said "fine". It took being alone for more than 24 hours for me to realize that I'm NOT fine at...	Sangyaa	6	828	Sep 30, 2010 by Jerry F
	How do you decide if and when to end a relationship with an alcoholic?? (Preview) Hi everyone, This is my first post here and I don't even know if this is the kind of topic to start here, but I am just wondering..... I am so in love with my fiance but his drinking is getting worse.... maybe it's always been this bad but since we are living together I am seeing it more? I think he's trying to d...	oklahoma momof5	8	1006	Sep 30, 2010 by xeno59
	Trying to Detach (Preview) Whew, I need help detaching from my 18 year old daughter. She has chosen to leave and move in with her boyfriend and his family. She left with a lot of hurt and anger amongst everyone. I realize it is her life and she has every right to live it how she sees fit but I don't think it's fair for her to expect us t...	Ginger90	10	934	Sep 30, 2010 by xeno59
	Why I am resistant to AA the movement (Preview) I have a question, well lots of questions, but this one is a big one for me. I had mentioned in an earlier post about going to f2f meetings and not feeling comfortable there. I saw my alcoholic sister through 30 days of rehab, plus lived through my father's alcoholism until he was killed and then lived w...	caretaker	17	1014	Sep 30, 2010 by John
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