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oklahoma momof5 · oklahoma momof5

Hi everyone, Last night my fiance and I had a "date" at the state fair, just the two of us. It was really fun!! Right after he got home from work he drank 2 beers while getting cleaned up, which didn't seem like a lot cause he usually drinks like 6-12. Then we went to dinner and to the fair, where...

dori711 · dori711

Another meeting tomorrow, and I'm just not looking forward to going. It seems they all have something to say or a story to relate, the first time I kind of blundered my words, twice I passed and I'm still not comfortable with speaking, maybe I will never be because it's a group, and I've never been good...

Karilynn · Karilynn

(((((Family)))), This is my annual reminder. October is breast cancer awareness month. Time to get those mammograms. MIP men don't shy away from this post. Recovery is about living your life. It's about taking care of ourselves the emotional as well as the physical side. Time to get those ma...

Jozie · Jozie

Welp... My MIP Family... Today "Seems" to be going MUCH better then yesterday.. After I posted I was still fighting my own demons of trying to regroup and start over, "Control control control" and I wasn't doing so well, so I played Hookie at work, got in my truck, found me some ba...

AlaMom · AlaMom

I find myself in the position over the last couple of weeks wondering if I have been showing up for life on a regular basis. Am I doing anything more than the bare minimums to get through each day? Is there something more I should or could be doing? Am I right where I am supposed to be? Being out of work si...

releathe · releathe

I'm just starting to understand Alanon and as I do I'm starting to see that there are some things that I just can't live with. For example, I feel so awful about myself when I buy alcohol for my AH. It makes me feel so horrible. I also feel awful when I allow him to spend time with my 3 year old. To me, it is s...

snodebb · snodebb

I posted last night how my AH was drunk and telling me I was a bad parent. I come home tonight and was telling him how I don't like the way he treated me and it was totaly unacceptable. Was I wrong?? All he could say was What about my feelings. He just kept repeating that over and over. What about my feeling...

DreamsOver · DreamsOver

My addicted son (age 30) has been in a rehab for the last thirty days, which in my opinion has not been long enough but since his stay was not court ordered there is no way to keep him there if he says he is leaving and he says he is leaving. I am stressed because I can tell he has not taken the steps to recovery se...

mjhyankees · mjhyankees

Things at home are quite, so that helps...the test is when things aren't so great. Also wife and I went to a therapist that we are going to take my daughter to. My wife doesn't like the therapist (I expected that), and to be fair, I didn't find her very warm and cuddly. But she'd been recommended along w...

sunflowergirl · sunflowergirl

Thanks to my new sponser, I am figuring out detachment and concentrating on me. I was thinking that inorder to detach, I had to stop loving my abf and run away. I am realizing that for right now, I don't have to do that. That detachment is allowing my bf to be who he is, and to stop trying to tell him how to l...

nh girl · nh girl

Step 10. Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it. Went to a f2f meeting this weekend and I was introduced to step 10. Who knew this was the message I needed to hear. I've been reacting to (exploding at) other people's negativity in general or personal critic...

Mercy · Mercy

It has been awhile since I posted a long while put I need to today. My brother in law went into detox yesterday for oxycotin addiction which turned into a 6 gram a day (that is what he tells me) heroine addiction. I have been there to get him his DSHS and helped him get into treatment and I know that I did not Ca...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

It is probably too soon to share but I feel like I am saying goodbye or something! I am still anxious & scared but I am going to be OK according to all my support system which is growing daily. God bless those who care! I have actually cried over knowing how many people, especially women, who know &...

usedtobeanyer · usedtobeanyer

Hi everyone, I attended my first Al Anon meeting last night. I found it to be a bit uncomfortable but I can definitely see how it would be helpful. So I'm hoping to continue to go. I'm attending Al Anon because of my wife, who is also attending AA. She has been quite irresponsible with drinking over the las...

snodebb · snodebb

Hubby comes home today drinking of course and wants to know where one of our daughters is. She wasnt feeling well this morning and stayed home she called me later and told me she was going to school because she had a test she couldnt miss. I tell my husband that and he starts going off about why she wanted to...

releathe · releathe

Now that I've found this place and started learning the process of recovery, I'm finding the thought of being around my AH unbearable. He doesn't drink during the week but he usually starts on Thursday night and continues through the weekend. I honestly cannot stand him when he is drunk and just the...

Ginger90 · Ginger90

I am finally starting to see that maybe I am getting a little bit better. It seems like a very slow process some days but the program works when I honestly try my best to work at it. My DD 18 moved out of our home under poor terms earlier this summer. She is staying with her bf in his parents home. I have been...

tlcate · tlcate

I just wanted to come and give everyone a heads up - I will be here very little over the next few weeks. Closing the house purchase - don't have the keys yet but very soon I hope. Packing, moving, cleaning, CRAZY work schedule, and business trips - I am going to be heads down for quite awhile being thankfu...

sunflowergirl · sunflowergirl

I am trying to become obsessed with myself... ok, maybe that is not a good word, but trying to think of only me and also to finally embrace the first step... I fell last night and snooped and guess what? I felt AWFUL. Just awful and stupid for doing it. I made myself sick, because I let my Abf's mom get to...

aunitedway · aunitedway

i am facing some [trials and tribulations] rightnow and have been reading alot to stay calm and to remain strong. Posted this (pasted it below) back in May 2009. As I read it a " C A L M " came over me ( a knowing it is all going to be all right) and i thought to share it again here on the message bo...

Jozie · Jozie

Good Goollie I'm I about to loose my mind.... I swear I have dealt with Every A-Hole within a 20 mile radius today, and I'm about to loose my mind... I mean the Full moon was last week... Come on!!! Most know that I don't get to excited "most" of the time, but this morning my aura is WAY off... I wal...

casa · casa

Chair opened the meeting with the Serenity Prayer. September minutes were approved as written. First item: Meeting schedule. AM MON Shimo TUES xeno WED Iona THURS OPEN FRI Blendergirl SAT OPEN SUN (Spiritual) OPEN PM MON grammie TUES casa WEDS kerisha THURS (Step/tradition) courage...

MissyPoo · MissyPoo

Just a question.. is anyone else's A extra, ahem... frisky and demanding about it the next day... It's like clockwork for mine and drives me CRAZY. The LAST think I want to think about doing the day after one of his binges while he sweats beer out his pores and sleeps off his handover on the couch.. Is it...

Rora · Rora

I took some time this evening to read through some older posts and messages of mine, dating all the way back to Feb 2007. More than 3 yrs ago! Have I really been here that long? Wow, some of the anger I had in those messages, I remember those days and how desperate I was for freedom from that anger, pain an...

oklahoma momof5 · oklahoma momof5

Everyday, moment by moment, I am swinging back and forth between thinking, "he's a drunk, no he's not really a drunk, he's getting better, no, he's drinking more than before, I have to leave, I can't leave, I will miss him, I can't stand him, I won't miss him, he's ruining my kids lives, it will ruin...

Holly09 · Holly09

For the past 1 1/12 weeks I have felt at peace. I have not felt this for an amazingly long time and it feels wonderful! My A boyfriend who has switched from alcohol to oxcodone pills doesn't realize that I know what has been going on and I've just been going about my business taking care of the things I bei...

releathe · releathe

I am currently 8 months pregnant and the mother of a 3 year old. Recently, I came to grips with the fact that my husband is an alcoholic and now I feel like my world is falling apart. I know that being pregnant means that I'm more emotional but I find myself crying all the time. My husband knows that I thin...

Stace621 · Stace621

I have read a number of websites the last 15 years or so on this topic but i have never posted my story. I also havent read a story that is like mine specifically, so here it goes, maybe my story can help someone else. I am 25 years old and grew up with a dad who couldnt put the bottle down when i was little. F...

lmw · lmw

Not really on topic but wondering if anyone else has noticed a similarity between alcoholism and dementia.... I took my kids and moved away from their alcoholic father, into my mother's home. Over the last few years, my mother has gotten VERY forgetful. She'll repeat herself again and again. Sh...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I am experiencing another wake-up call what others call an A-HA moment! I am not in charge of my own destiny totally & I am putting my faith in the surgeon! That's enough out of me! Just wait til tomorrow! Kathleen

looking_for_peace · looking_for_peace

I just finished my post and it disappeared, so if it shows up twice I apologize. Yesterday I found out that my "no longer an alcoholic" husband left our daughter alone while he went to the liquor store. The store is about 20 minutes away, round trip. The catch? Our daughter is only 9 and is cogn...

John · John

Hello everyone, Welcome to the Miracles In Progress 12 Step Recovery Forums "Step Work Board" at http://stepwork.activeboard.com If you registered on the Step Work Board on or before 10/4/10 your account on the board has been confirmed and validated, so all you need to do to interact on the Step W...

maresie · maresie

When I was a teenager my big sister threw me down the stairs for using her lipstick. Since then I've undergone years of surgeries, unsuccessful procedures and basically lived at the dentist. During all that time I've been waiting for her apology. Needless to say I've never got one and I've certain...

sunflowergirl · sunflowergirl

:) You know me :) -- Edited by sunflowergirl on Tuesday 5th of October 2010 04:39:35 AM

maresie · maresie

Today I saw a former neighbor of mine on the street. I have been angry at her for years about her behavior, drama and chaos. She was absolutely hell to live with. Naturally she takes no reponsibility for that so she wasn't exactly pleased to see me. In the past when she indicated that I had some retort...

jettiesgirl · jettiesgirl

Had a setback tonight. Some of you may recall my previous posts. ABF had a meltdown about a month ago, got tasered by the cops. Ugly, ugly night. Well, that experienced scared him, I think. He's been going to AA meetings twice a day, seeing a counselor and a doctor. I've been proud of him -- he got his 3 week...

suzip · suzip

Why is it that I have such a hard time saying no? I have decided to try to not be so quick to say yes to everything, yes I'll run the fall mum sale, yes I'll do Community Day yes I'll run the fundraiser event...what is my problem! My ah is spending the last month of his 2nd jail term for his 4th dui, and I've said n...

Jerry F · Jerry F

Aloha all...I read a post a while back about a couple 18 year old female family members who were abanding family ties and running off to another family with young male others. I responded that it seemed like an epidemic because of course that is happening here also. My 18 year old grand daughter who is...

Andrea12 · Andrea12

(((((((((Family))))))))))), Well another road to travel in the world of addiction, my son came home Wednesday evening so high i honestly thought he was going to overdose. So I took his keys, Thursday morning he woke up give me my keys I want to go look for a job, meanwhile he has a t-shirt and sweat pants...

kath · kath

There are no words to describe how awestruck I am after reading Getting Them Sober. There it was in writing, how I have been acting toward my AH, and how he has been acting towards me. Then there were suggestions to tell me how to deal with this disease in a positive way. I can thankfully say there is pea...

kitty · kitty

Last night bf & I watched this movie for the first time. Very fitting for us right now, as we have been discussing boundaries all week and how to implement them, navigate and use them - boundaries (personal, familial) how to handle them with colleagues in a professional setting (at work). This...

SteppingUp · SteppingUp

My W went over her usual 5 drinks tonight and my heart is pounding a mile-a-minute. I think she's finally passed out (at least I hope she is). She was slurring and stumbling and thought she was very cute. Even the kids were making fun of her. Luckily she thought they were just joking around with her. Other...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

A member from our Alanon fellowship mentioned this at a meeting. Seriously & I joke about it! I said who wants to be happy & someone said that happiness is overrated. I totally agree w/ what he said but I had to be a smarty pants. I really want to be happy & serene & sane on a daily basis but I...

Jozie · Jozie

Ok So Today my Step Son (youngest) comes bustin in my office :) He says "Can You Keep a Secret?" Me being Honest said "NO" ...lol... So He was pretty excited and told me, I had to Keep this Secret from my Husband of ALL people, and that makes it worse, because we do tend to share EVERYT...

kerry5 · kerry5

Business meeting will be held tommorow Sunday October 3rd at 9pm est. There are three items on the agenda. Meeting Schedule Lack of Chairs Vote for Room Preditor to be banned or not If you have anything you would like added contact me or attend the meeting to present any new business you may have Thank...

Carol_Lynn · Carol_Lynn

Does one have to be an op to lead or begin scheduled online meetings? I really needed a meeting tonight and there were no ops and I asked if you had to be one and they said yes. I thought anyone could. ty, Carol

mjhyankees · mjhyankees

I've been thinking that I have always felt "less than" others my whole life. Many thing contributed to this: Of course dysfunctional home with alcoholism. A last name that prompted jeers my whole childhood, being kind of nerdy, soft and generally not "manly", and having s...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Oh boy, I am counting the days til I go under the knife! I figure that I won't be able to update you all after I do. I won't be able to get on here for a week or so afterwards. I hope to let everyone know my progress as soon as I am able. I don't have a computer at home as I have said before. It would take quite a feat t...

pineapple · pineapple

After doing so good for awhile, AH has again fallen off the wagon. The stupid part is that with all I 've learned from alanon I still expected that just because he went for so long without drinking, it wouldn't happen again. DUH! At least I remembered that it's a waste of breath to talk to him when he's drun...

Jozie · Jozie

Welp... Today I was Tested On old ways, and I think over all, gave it my Best Al-Anon Try :) Ok, I have shared that I am going to be a Grandma again, (So Flip'n Excited) and that my stepson, had recently divorced (Last Week :D) and was moving on with his new lady & baby to be, well I'm sure many no of Faceboo...

tlcate · tlcate

I was talking to a friend about another person, a man. I said, "I think he needs a woman to who needs to be taken care of. I am a strong, independent woman and I think that scares him." His response, "Yes, some men need women who need to be taken care of." I said, "I'm all for bei...

nh girl · nh girl

How do you handle passive aggressive people? As I am an adult child of an alcoholic family, I don't always have the tools I need to handle difficult situations. I was working on a project for a sister in law and now I'm just waiting for the punishment as it always comes. This is the first time it's happ...

dori711 · dori711

This morning I woke up so down and had a big cry because I was thinking that by going to Al Anon meetings without my husband knowing and by spending time on this board is a form of betrayal. Why do I feel this way? My husband and I have always been open with each other for the most part, I think this is the fir...

dori711 · dori711

I need some advice the Al-Anon way. I just started going to Al anon meetings last Thursday so today was my second meeting. Today it dealt with step nine. I will also be purchasing a book called "Courage to Change". Now I can only assume when they finish the 12 steps they will go back to s...

NCSUgeology · NCSUgeology

Well, my brother was arrested last night for violation of parole. This is the second time he's been arrested for parole violation, so he'll probably have to serve the whole sentence (maybe two years). This time was much, much worse though. I've seen him drunk plenty of times, but this time the beer/me...

Maize · Maize

I swear I have a sign on my head that says "all crazy people talk to this person" but I know it really must be that my body language is suggesting that I will talk to them? I don't know. Since I realized I can read body language kind of subconsciously, I know I must be putting out some kind of body...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Here it goes: A boy was talking to God & said: A million years is like a second to you, right? God said YES. the boy asked: A million dollars is like a penny to you, right? God said YES. the boy asked: Can I have a penny? God said" just a second!" I hope everyone got a good laugh: I needed it when...

Melly · Melly

Hello, I'm Melissa, 31 and I just wanted to pop in here and see what it was all about. Basically, my Mother has been an alcoholic for years and years. It's always bothered me and I've tried to talk to her about it, but it's not done any good. The big things, she said once or twice, was that I left home when I wa...

oklahoma momof5 · oklahoma momof5

Hi everyone!! Just wondering about how I would set boundaries and also practice detachment. I have been thinking about a possible boundary to set: I don't want you drinking in my house when my kids are awake. (this is actually what caused me to wake up to his problem, he started staying here full tim...

titanicspriging · titanicspriging

I'm so feed up with all the lies, the hidden bottles of whiskey, the roller coaster of false promises and let downs. Up til now it's always been me that has stormed off and had to live with my children, or in a caravan, but tonight my husband returned from a golfing holiday, walked in the door, told me how m...

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	Could he be getting better? And is 2 beers too much to drink before driving? (Preview) Hi everyone, Last night my fiance and I had a "date" at the state fair, just the two of us. It was really fun!! Right after he got home from work he drank 2 beers while getting cleaned up, which didn't seem like a lot cause he usually drinks like 6-12. Then we went to dinner and to the fair, where...	oklahoma momof5	11	1558	Oct 8, 2010 by kitty
	Not comfortable with al anon meetings. (Preview) Another meeting tomorrow, and I'm just not looking forward to going. It seems they all have something to say or a story to relate, the first time I kind of blundered my words, twice I passed and I'm still not comfortable with speaking, maybe I will never be because it's a group, and I've never been good...	dori711	14	1338	Oct 7, 2010 by nh girl
	Get those mammograms (Preview) (((((Family)))), This is my annual reminder. October is breast cancer awareness month. Time to get those mammograms. MIP men don't shy away from this post. Recovery is about living your life. It's about taking care of ourselves the emotional as well as the physical side. Time to get those ma...	Karilynn	2	559	Oct 7, 2010 by snodebb
	Moved Past Yesterday! (Preview) Welp... My MIP Family... Today "Seems" to be going MUCH better then yesterday.. After I posted I was still fighting my own demons of trying to regroup and start over, "Control control control" and I wasn't doing so well, so I played Hookie at work, got in my truck, found me some ba...	Jozie	3	1062	Oct 7, 2010 by Andrea12
	Is this living life?? (Preview) I find myself in the position over the last couple of weeks wondering if I have been showing up for life on a regular basis. Am I doing anything more than the bare minimums to get through each day? Is there something more I should or could be doing? Am I right where I am supposed to be? Being out of work si...	AlaMom	2	1136	Oct 7, 2010 by Andrea12
	What about my kids? (Preview) I'm just starting to understand Alanon and as I do I'm starting to see that there are some things that I just can't live with. For example, I feel so awful about myself when I buy alcohol for my AH. It makes me feel so horrible. I also feel awful when I allow him to spend time with my 3 year old. To me, it is s...	releathe	5	938	Oct 7, 2010 by Mattie
	Is it wrong to tell my AH I don't like the way he treated me???? (Preview) I posted last night how my AH was drunk and telling me I was a bad parent. I come home tonight and was telling him how I don't like the way he treated me and it was totaly unacceptable. Was I wrong?? All he could say was What about my feelings. He just kept repeating that over and over. What about my feeling...	snodebb	11	893	Oct 7, 2010 by Aloha
	When Someone Comes Out Of Rehab... (Preview) My addicted son (age 30) has been in a rehab for the last thirty days, which in my opinion has not been long enough but since his stay was not court ordered there is no way to keep him there if he says he is leaving and he says he is leaving. I am stressed because I can tell he has not taken the steps to recovery se...	DreamsOver	6	2055	Oct 7, 2010 by sunflowergirl
	Feeling OK these days.... (Preview) Things at home are quite, so that helps...the test is when things aren't so great. Also wife and I went to a therapist that we are going to take my daughter to. My wife doesn't like the therapist (I expected that), and to be fair, I didn't find her very warm and cuddly. But she'd been recommended along w...	mjhyankees	2	726	Oct 7, 2010 by sunflowergirl
	Detachment=allowing him to be who he is.... (Preview) Thanks to my new sponser, I am figuring out detachment and concentrating on me. I was thinking that inorder to detach, I had to stop loving my abf and run away. I am realizing that for right now, I don't have to do that. That detachment is allowing my bf to be who he is, and to stop trying to tell him how to l...	sunflowergirl	11	903	Oct 7, 2010 by sunflowergirl
	Step 10 who knew... (Preview) Step 10. Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it. Went to a f2f meeting this weekend and I was introduced to step 10. Who knew this was the message I needed to hear. I've been reacting to (exploding at) other people's negativity in general or personal critic...	nh girl	4	875	Oct 6, 2010 by nh girl
	It has been awhile (Preview) It has been awhile since I posted a long while put I need to today. My brother in law went into detox yesterday for oxycotin addiction which turned into a 6 gram a day (that is what he tells me) heroine addiction. I have been there to get him his DSHS and helped him get into treatment and I know that I did not Ca...	Mercy	6	716	Oct 6, 2010 by Mercy
	probably to soon... (Preview) It is probably too soon to share but I feel like I am saying goodbye or something! I am still anxious & scared but I am going to be OK according to all my support system which is growing daily. God bless those who care! I have actually cried over knowing how many people, especially women, who know &...	Hoot Nanny	5	844	Oct 6, 2010 by AlaMom
	New here & new to Al Anon (Preview) Hi everyone, I attended my first Al Anon meeting last night. I found it to be a bit uncomfortable but I can definitely see how it would be helpful. So I'm hoping to continue to go. I'm attending Al Anon because of my wife, who is also attending AA. She has been quite irresponsible with drinking over the las...	usedtobeanyer	5	814	Oct 6, 2010 by sunflowergirl
	Why does the conversation with a drunk never end!!!!!!!!!!!!!! (Preview) Hubby comes home today drinking of course and wants to know where one of our daughters is. She wasnt feeling well this morning and stayed home she called me later and told me she was going to school because she had a test she couldnt miss. I tell my husband that and he starts going off about why she wanted to...	snodebb	7	807	Oct 6, 2010 by Holly09
	I feel like I need a plan... (Preview) Now that I've found this place and started learning the process of recovery, I'm finding the thought of being around my AH unbearable. He doesn't drink during the week but he usually starts on Thursday night and continues through the weekend. I honestly cannot stand him when he is drunk and just the...	releathe	3	952	Oct 6, 2010 by bud
	Letting Go... (Preview) I am finally starting to see that maybe I am getting a little bit better. It seems like a very slow process some days but the program works when I honestly try my best to work at it. My DD 18 moved out of our home under poor terms earlier this summer. She is staying with her bf in his parents home. I have been...	Ginger90	6	830	Oct 6, 2010 by bud
	Overdrive!!! (Preview) I just wanted to come and give everyone a heads up - I will be here very little over the next few weeks. Closing the house purchase - don't have the keys yet but very soon I hope. Packing, moving, cleaning, CRAZY work schedule, and business trips - I am going to be heads down for quite awhile being thankfu...	tlcate	2	709	Oct 6, 2010 by Karilynn
	You're my obsession.... (Preview) I am trying to become obsessed with myself... ok, maybe that is not a good word, but trying to think of only me and also to finally embrace the first step... I fell last night and snooped and guess what? I felt AWFUL. Just awful and stupid for doing it. I made myself sick, because I let my Abf's mom get to...	sunflowergirl	7	1095	Oct 6, 2010 by Christy
	What is HP /GOD to You... Putting Trust in Your HP....How do you see feel Your Higher Power (Preview) i am facing some [trials and tribulations] rightnow and have been reading alot to stay calm and to remain strong. Posted this (pasted it below) back in May 2009. As I read it a " C A L M " came over me ( a knowing it is all going to be all right) and i thought to share it again here on the message bo...	aunitedway	2	1287	Oct 5, 2010 by Jerry F
	God PLEASE Grant me the Serenity!!! (Preview) Good Goollie I'm I about to loose my mind.... I swear I have dealt with Every A-Hole within a 20 mile radius today, and I'm about to loose my mind... I mean the Full moon was last week... Come on!!! Most know that I don't get to excited "most" of the time, but this morning my aura is WAY off... I wal...	Jozie	4	2467	Oct 5, 2010 by thundermother
	10.02.10 MIP Group Business Meeting Minutes (Preview) Chair opened the meeting with the Serenity Prayer. September minutes were approved as written. First item: Meeting schedule. AM MON Shimo TUES xeno WED Iona THURS OPEN FRI Blendergirl SAT OPEN SUN (Spiritual) OPEN PM MON grammie TUES casa WEDS kerisha THURS (Step/tradition) courage...	casa	0	632	Oct 5, 2010 by casa
	A question about the dayafter a binge.. maybe TMI (Preview) Just a question.. is anyone else's A extra, ahem... frisky and demanding about it the next day... It's like clockwork for mine and drives me CRAZY. The LAST think I want to think about doing the day after one of his binges while he sweats beer out his pores and sleeps off his handover on the couch.. Is it...	MissyPoo	7	736	Oct 5, 2010 by thundermother
	Learning and growth over the years... (Preview) I took some time this evening to read through some older posts and messages of mine, dating all the way back to Feb 2007. More than 3 yrs ago! Have I really been here that long? Wow, some of the anger I had in those messages, I remember those days and how desperate I was for freedom from that anger, pain an...	Rora	7	969	Oct 5, 2010 by sunflowergirl
	You know what makes me feel the craziest? Long vent. (Preview) Everyday, moment by moment, I am swinging back and forth between thinking, "he's a drunk, no he's not really a drunk, he's getting better, no, he's drinking more than before, I have to leave, I can't leave, I will miss him, I can't stand him, I won't miss him, he's ruining my kids lives, it will ruin...	oklahoma momof5	9	887	Oct 5, 2010 by sunflowergirl
	Feeling at peace. (Preview) For the past 1 1/12 weeks I have felt at peace. I have not felt this for an amazingly long time and it feels wonderful! My A boyfriend who has switched from alcohol to oxcodone pills doesn't realize that I know what has been going on and I've just been going about my business taking care of the things I bei...	Holly09	2	608	Oct 5, 2010 by sunflowergirl
	Pregnant mother with an alcoholic husband (Preview) I am currently 8 months pregnant and the mother of a 3 year old. Recently, I came to grips with the fact that my husband is an alcoholic and now I feel like my world is falling apart. I know that being pregnant means that I'm more emotional but I find myself crying all the time. My husband knows that I thin...	releathe	5	1999	Oct 5, 2010 by sunflowergirl
	Living life with an alcoholic daddy (Preview) I have read a number of websites the last 15 years or so on this topic but i have never posted my story. I also havent read a story that is like mine specifically, so here it goes, maybe my story can help someone else. I am 25 years old and grew up with a dad who couldnt put the bottle down when i was little. F...	Stace621	7	1016	Oct 5, 2010 by thundermother
	OT - Living with forgetfulness/dementia (Preview) Not really on topic but wondering if anyone else has noticed a similarity between alcoholism and dementia.... I took my kids and moved away from their alcoholic father, into my mother's home. Over the last few years, my mother has gotten VERY forgetful. She'll repeat herself again and again. Sh...	lmw	5	1071	Oct 5, 2010 by abbyal
	another wake-up call! (Preview) I am experiencing another wake-up call what others call an A-HA moment! I am not in charge of my own destiny totally & I am putting my faith in the surgeon! That's enough out of me! Just wait til tomorrow! Kathleen	Hoot Nanny	3	739	Oct 4, 2010 by thundermother
	he left our daughter alone (Preview) I just finished my post and it disappeared, so if it shows up twice I apologize. Yesterday I found out that my "no longer an alcoholic" husband left our daughter alone while he went to the liquor store. The store is about 20 minutes away, round trip. The catch? Our daughter is only 9 and is cogn...	looking_for_peace	10	913	Oct 4, 2010 by thundermother
	MIP Step Work Board Information (Preview) Hello everyone, Welcome to the Miracles In Progress 12 Step Recovery Forums "Step Work Board" at http://stepwork.activeboard.com If you registered on the Step Work Board on or before 10/4/10 your account on the board has been confirmed and validated, so all you need to do to interact on the Step W...	John	1	1049	Oct 4, 2010 by thundermother
	Accepting responsibility. (Preview) When I was a teenager my big sister threw me down the stairs for using her lipstick. Since then I've undergone years of surgeries, unsuccessful procedures and basically lived at the dentist. During all that time I've been waiting for her apology. Needless to say I've never got one and I've certain...	maresie	4	865	Oct 4, 2010 by maresie
	This is the new me... (Preview) :) You know me :) -- Edited by sunflowergirl on Tuesday 5th of October 2010 04:39:35 AM	sunflowergirl	5	846	Oct 4, 2010 by kitty
	Detachment (Preview) Today I saw a former neighbor of mine on the street. I have been angry at her for years about her behavior, drama and chaos. She was absolutely hell to live with. Naturally she takes no reponsibility for that so she wasn't exactly pleased to see me. In the past when she indicated that I had some retort...	maresie	6	767	Oct 4, 2010 by sunflowergirl
	I messed up. (Preview) Had a setback tonight. Some of you may recall my previous posts. ABF had a meltdown about a month ago, got tasered by the cops. Ugly, ugly night. Well, that experienced scared him, I think. He's been going to AA meetings twice a day, seeing a counselor and a doctor. I've been proud of him -- he got his 3 week...	jettiesgirl	10	887	Oct 4, 2010 by sunflowergirl
	Learn to say NO!! (Preview) Why is it that I have such a hard time saying no? I have decided to try to not be so quick to say yes to everything, yes I'll run the fall mum sale, yes I'll do Community Day yes I'll run the fundraiser event...what is my problem! My ah is spending the last month of his 2nd jail term for his 4th dui, and I've said n...	suzip	3	776	Oct 4, 2010 by sunflowergirl
	Saying No...meaning No. (Preview) Aloha all...I read a post a while back about a couple 18 year old female family members who were abanding family ties and running off to another family with young male others. I responded that it seemed like an epidemic because of course that is happening here also. My 18 year old grand daughter who is...	Jerry F	7	723	Oct 4, 2010 by sunflowergirl
	Desperate for words of wisdom here I go again (Preview) (((((((((Family))))))))))), Well another road to travel in the world of addiction, my son came home Wednesday evening so high i honestly thought he was going to overdose. So I took his keys, Thursday morning he woke up give me my keys I want to go look for a job, meanwhile he has a t-shirt and sweat pants...	Andrea12	18	1934	Oct 4, 2010 by Bettina
	No words (Preview) There are no words to describe how awestruck I am after reading Getting Them Sober. There it was in writing, how I have been acting toward my AH, and how he has been acting towards me. Then there were suggestions to tell me how to deal with this disease in a positive way. I can thankfully say there is pea...	kath	8	577	Oct 4, 2010 by oklahoma momof5
	the movie, The Blind Side (Preview) Last night bf & I watched this movie for the first time. Very fitting for us right now, as we have been discussing boundaries all week and how to implement them, navigate and use them - boundaries (personal, familial) how to handle them with colleagues in a professional setting (at work). This...	kitty	4	878	Oct 4, 2010 by xeno59
	She's tanked again and I'm walking on eggshells. (Preview) My W went over her usual 5 drinks tonight and my heart is pounding a mile-a-minute. I think she's finally passed out (at least I hope she is). She was slurring and stumbling and thought she was very cute. Even the kids were making fun of her. Luckily she thought they were just joking around with her. Other...	SteppingUp	12	732	Oct 3, 2010 by SteppingUp
	Do you want to right or be happy? (Preview) A member from our Alanon fellowship mentioned this at a meeting. Seriously & I joke about it! I said who wants to be happy & someone said that happiness is overrated. I totally agree w/ what he said but I had to be a smarty pants. I really want to be happy & serene & sane on a daily basis but I...	Hoot Nanny	6	1229	Oct 3, 2010 by kitty
	Happy Secrets :) Had to share :) (Preview) Ok So Today my Step Son (youngest) comes bustin in my office :) He says "Can You Keep a Secret?" Me being Honest said "NO" ...lol... So He was pretty excited and told me, I had to Keep this Secret from my Husband of ALL people, and that makes it worse, because we do tend to share EVERYT...	Jozie	6	1042	Oct 3, 2010 by thundermother
	Business Meeting tommorow at 9pm est October 3rd 2010 (Preview) Business meeting will be held tommorow Sunday October 3rd at 9pm est. There are three items on the agenda. Meeting Schedule Lack of Chairs Vote for Room Preditor to be banned or not If you have anything you would like added contact me or attend the meeting to present any new business you may have Thank...	kerry5	0	491	Oct 2, 2010 by kerry5
	needed a meeting tonight and there were no ops (Preview) Does one have to be an op to lead or begin scheduled online meetings? I really needed a meeting tonight and there were no ops and I asked if you had to be one and they said yes. I thought anyone could. ty, Carol	Carol_Lynn	5	711	Oct 2, 2010 by Carol_Lynn
	Always felt less than..... (Preview) I've been thinking that I have always felt "less than" others my whole life. Many thing contributed to this: Of course dysfunctional home with alcoholism. A last name that prompted jeers my whole childhood, being kind of nerdy, soft and generally not "manly", and having s...	mjhyankees	8	541	Oct 2, 2010 by Bettina
	counting the days... (Preview) Oh boy, I am counting the days til I go under the knife! I figure that I won't be able to update you all after I do. I won't be able to get on here for a week or so afterwards. I hope to let everyone know my progress as soon as I am able. I don't have a computer at home as I have said before. It would take quite a feat t...	Hoot Nanny	3	590	Oct 2, 2010 by Jerry F
	Expectations-I KNOW better by now, but.... (Preview) After doing so good for awhile, AH has again fallen off the wagon. The stupid part is that with all I 've learned from alanon I still expected that just because he went for so long without drinking, it wouldn't happen again. DUH! At least I remembered that it's a waste of breath to talk to him when he's drun...	pineapple	9	876	Oct 2, 2010 by pineapple
	A Baby Step Kinda Day!!! Let'n Go (Preview) Welp... Today I was Tested On old ways, and I think over all, gave it my Best Al-Anon Try :) Ok, I have shared that I am going to be a Grandma again, (So Flip'n Excited) and that my stepson, had recently divorced (Last Week :D) and was moving on with his new lady & baby to be, well I'm sure many no of Faceboo...	Jozie	3	1144	Oct 2, 2010 by hotrod
	This stuck with me today . . . (Preview) I was talking to a friend about another person, a man. I said, "I think he needs a woman to who needs to be taken care of. I am a strong, independent woman and I think that scares him." His response, "Yes, some men need women who need to be taken care of." I said, "I'm all for bei...	tlcate	5	549	Oct 2, 2010 by mjhyankees
	off topic just need to vent and get insight (Preview) How do you handle passive aggressive people? As I am an adult child of an alcoholic family, I don't always have the tools I need to handle difficult situations. I was working on a project for a sister in law and now I'm just waiting for the punishment as it always comes. This is the first time it's happ...	nh girl	8	830	Oct 1, 2010 by nh girl
	Are these normal feelings for a new Al-Anon member? (Preview) This morning I woke up so down and had a big cry because I was thinking that by going to Al Anon meetings without my husband knowing and by spending time on this board is a form of betrayal. Why do I feel this way? My husband and I have always been open with each other for the most part, I think this is the fir...	dori711	13	1069	Oct 1, 2010 by abbyal
	How would you respond? (Preview) I need some advice the Al-Anon way. I just started going to Al anon meetings last Thursday so today was my second meeting. Today it dealt with step nine. I will also be purchasing a book called "Courage to Change". Now I can only assume when they finish the 12 steps they will go back to s...	dori711	13	1580	Oct 1, 2010 by Maize
	He was arrested last night (Preview) Well, my brother was arrested last night for violation of parole. This is the second time he's been arrested for parole violation, so he'll probably have to serve the whole sentence (maybe two years). This time was much, much worse though. I've seen him drunk plenty of times, but this time the beer/me...	NCSUgeology	7	1286	Oct 1, 2010 by lyndebi
	how to change my own body language? (Preview) I swear I have a sign on my head that says "all crazy people talk to this person" but I know it really must be that my body language is suggesting that I will talk to them? I don't know. Since I realized I can read body language kind of subconsciously, I know I must be putting out some kind of body...	Maize	10	1080	Oct 1, 2010 by Maize
	Just a little joke! (Preview) Here it goes: A boy was talking to God & said: A million years is like a second to you, right? God said YES. the boy asked: A million dollars is like a penny to you, right? God said YES. the boy asked: Can I have a penny? God said" just a second!" I hope everyone got a good laugh: I needed it when...	Hoot Nanny	3	530	Oct 1, 2010 by Andrea12
	Intro (Preview) Hello, I'm Melissa, 31 and I just wanted to pop in here and see what it was all about. Basically, my Mother has been an alcoholic for years and years. It's always bothered me and I've tried to talk to her about it, but it's not done any good. The big things, she said once or twice, was that I left home when I wa...	Melly	7	1371	Sep 30, 2010 by carolyny476
	Question about detachment and boundaries... (Preview) Hi everyone!! Just wondering about how I would set boundaries and also practice detachment. I have been thinking about a possible boundary to set: I don't want you drinking in my house when my kids are awake. (this is actually what caused me to wake up to his problem, he started staying here full tim...	oklahoma momof5	4	1301	Sep 30, 2010 by kitty
	I'm new and at my wits end tonight (Preview) I'm so feed up with all the lies, the hidden bottles of whiskey, the roller coaster of false promises and let downs. Up til now it's always been me that has stormed off and had to live with my children, or in a caravan, but tonight my husband returned from a golfing holiday, walked in the door, told me how m...	titanicspriging	3	890	Sep 30, 2010 by abbyal
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