Healing time - Al-Anon Family Group

Sangyaa · Veteran Member

Healing time

Maize · Senior Member

I think you have it right Ellie... Take care of you now. HUGS!

hotrod · ~*Service Worker*~

Hi Ellie

Welcome to MIP , a very Healing Place.

I can so identify with the terrible insanity that you have been enduring these past few weeks Yes, we think that we have handled the crisis in a positive fashion, and we may have, but the terrible back lash is so very painful.

I could not trust or even communicate when I landed in the rooms of alanon. That is why alanon and alanon face to face meetings are so valuable.

Alanon offered me new tools in order to live my life. It suggested meetings, Living One Day at a Time, Focusing on MY SELF ( Very hard for me) I always wanted to focus on others, Becoming very honest, open and willing to change.

The program kept me very busy with meetings, tools and literature. I began to grow and change and learn how to take care of myself and love others in a more constructive fashion

Please keep coming back

Help in finding meetings in your community can be found by going to the following link:

http://www.al-anon.alateen.org/meetings/meeting.html

-- Edited by hotrod on Wednesday 29th of September 2010 07:20:04 PM

Bettina · ~*Service Worker*~

Sang,

Isnt it amazing how everything comes to the forefront when were not dealing with the addict 24/7. Its ok to have your meltdown and rage, but then we move forward.

Glad you will be going to meetings and taking care of yourself.

LIve Strong!

Keep coming back.

Luv, Bettina

dori711 · Veteran Member

I understand somewhat. I can't speak for anyone else but for me, that is what happened to me, my husband was and is miserable and anxious and a whole lot of other things and after examining myself, I can honestly say I have become a lot like him, minus the beer and whatever else he does?. I think he is into dope as well but I can't verify that.. He belted out something last week which was the turning point, when he said " there was something wrong with me" He blew up over a trivial thing and he was telling me that it was I that had something wrong with me???. I realized that yes, in order to stay and put up with him the way he is, I do have something wrong with me. That's when I joined alanon. I advise you to join as well or atleast keep on coming back here. I only had a first meeting so far, tomorrow will be my second if I don't opt out last minute. .

DreamXL · Senior Member

Wow Sang, so glad your here...that break from your b/f sure has done you good lol...when in the hurricane its hard to see anything....willingness is sure coming thru loud and clear here, im so happy for you....You will find yourself again :) thanks and pls keep coming back..(((sang)))

Jerry F · ~*Service Worker*~

Aloha Ellie...from my experience you have just become willing to have it stop for you.
I also went thru the head tripping arguements and hissy fits and insanity and then in
the rooms of Al-Anon learned that all of that insanity and anxiety came just before I
got myself to STOP!! I either grabbed the life ring to keep myself from drowning or
I died in the sea of insanity. I'm glad you're here. Find your chair, sit down, listen,
learn and practice, practice, practice. Put your child like hand into the hand of your
Higher Power and ask..."Please help me." It's what worked for me and others here
in this family have what worked for them...You get to take none, some or all of it to
help save your peace of mind and serenity. (((((hugs))))) smile

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