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Lindaoakford · Lindaoakford

Hi I think I can feel some changes in me. This is a good thing. I am usually so controlling it isn't funny. In the past, I have found out that my husband finished work early and didn't tell me, Igot home and he was already there.... I was angry, I was upset that I didn't know what was happening, Why would yo...

ToBeHappy · ToBeHappy

In short, my husband has been in and out of rehab for the past four years and has not worked. I have supported him 100% from his sobriety attempts to handling all of the financial responsibility. We had a baby at the beginning of the year and he went into Full blown drinking every day all day mode then picke...

Camille Le Montre · Camille Le Montre

My partner (my 6-year-old son's father) is an alcoholic with a history of near death experiences. He can go from 1-3 years sober. But when he falls off the wagon, it is always under very traumatic circumstances. After a year and a half of sobriety, I finally allowed him to move back in with us. I then tru...

Patk · Patk

Hi Everyone, I teach part-time at a high school. Last spring when I was about to hop on my bike and ride home after classes a coworker confronted me at the bike rack and began to accuse me of ignoring him, treating him badly, not respecting him. He was shaking and had that "look" in his eyes that...

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PauliePaulie · PauliePaulie

Hi again =0) So, he's in rehab, been there 6 days, and has been GREAT as of yesterday afternoon. I'm wondering what kind of 'typical' stuff to expect after he gets home in a month or so? Any advice, heads ups, etc would be greatly appreciated...again. Thank you all for being here for all of us. HUGS!!

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youfoundme · youfoundme

Some of you may remember I have a business in photography. I started this business on my own, met a person I connected with, because our son's were friends, saw she did photography, had a good eye and so I asked if she wanted to do it with me. It was all very innocent. I thought we would work great togethe...

hawaiilover · hawaiilover

I asked my Ah to move out of the house tonight. Last week I ran into him with two women in his car. They were drinking, smoking, and having a good time. I, for months, suspected he was having affairs based on his behavior at home. My gut feeling told me we were alone in our relationship. Yet, I left it alone an...

Peggy7 · Peggy7

I am grateful. For both of my sons. One nearing his 1st anniversary of clean and sober. One in meetings. I'm thankful for my husband. Our little dog. A home I have the honor of cleaning each day, reminds me how grateful I am. The dinner we through last night with both sons, dauther in law, grandchil...

elizabethcontreras · elizabethcontreras

So my boyfriend is finally back from a 40 day stay in rehab. I am proud of him and things are slowly settling. We both feel a little blah and are a bit overwhelmed. I am trying to keep my sense of peace that I gained while he was away and not worry about him or fuss over him. I am trying to give him his space and sto...

liljeannie · liljeannie

Hello all, Its been quite some time since I have read or posted here, and its bittersweet to see some old faces as well as some new ones. I have finally ended my 9 1/2yr relationship with my abf. Things went from bad to worse, and very quickly after he went to work beyond commuting distance last summer. ...

PauliePaulie · PauliePaulie

Hi, My SO is in rehab, day 4 of detox, and has just called to inform me that I am now his Higher Power. Talk about stress!! Can a person actually be a successful HP?? Doesn't that make ME in control of his sobriety?? How can I be his HP??? What I am hoping for is that he gets enough time, education, and guidance...

Debilyn · Debilyn

I am not sure I shared but one night a week or so ago I heard the door handle being tried. My dogs went nuts in a way that I was sure there was someone out there. Since I am up here alone, thinking about what would you do if...comes up a lot in my mind. I have a 9 mil next to my bed, a flashlight and sell and always sl...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Briefly, quickly, I will update you on my condition. I am doing very well. I still have a lot of gratitude. I also want to give everyone a quote to pass around to all your friends: Friends: A friend knows the song in your heart & can sing it back to you when you have forgotten the words. Another quote: Be...

alexmaui · alexmaui

Lately, i've been thinking that my AH is mentally ill. I'm been doing some research and it looks like he may be both. He barely seems functional- living in squalor in what was once our home. He took Ambien and Vodka and wound up in a hospital with hallucinations...not so bad that he didn't forget my work n...

Frustrated3982 · Frustrated3982

Hello, I am new to this forum and new to Al-Anon in general. However, I am not new to being with an alcoholic. My gf of three years has been sober for a little over a year, up until yesterday when she relapsed. We were on vacation and staying at a friends condo when on the last day of our stay, my gf found an open...

oldgraduate · oldgraduate

I am so frustrated and disappointed in my AH and am having a hard time shifting my focus. He let me down by once again with-holding information and basically lying to me about finances. It is not a big thing, that will break us, but it is the principle in that I told him I either wanted us to be partners in o...

Katy · Katy

Really listening, and hearing, wow, our son has a girlfriend, whoooooooowhoooooooooooo, she's lovely, works as a vet, drives a car, is sensible and decent and kind, and just what he needed, to show him he is was worth it, I have stopped nagging (almost) and I have just had the best conversation with hi...

Tracy · Tracy

I am a person Why do I have so much trouble looking after me, focusing on me. My sickness is very baffling too it makes it hard for me to mind my own business and to focus on what I have to do. It takes me off in every direction interfering in peoples lives. Al anon is helping me to gain self awareness. I hav...

Mlkiss75 · Mlkiss75

I am so very grateful for Al Anon. If it wasn't for Al Anon I would be freaking out right now. My husband went back to detox on August 30 and back to rehab for the third time in less than a year on September 2. He came home on September 27. We went away for a lovely 4 day weekend from September 30 to October 3....

ilovedogs · ilovedogs

I think I have too much on my plate. AH and I are planning on buying a new home as our home will need about $30K of work soon because of it's age and because of HOA guidelines about exterior paint colors, etc. We figured we'd be better off just putting the money into a newer neighborhood and newer home. I'v...

gladysg · gladysg

I'm in a funk. So far this year I've been able to keep it together and even help others who have troublesome marriages. This week it's my 10th year anniversary, and my heart is on the floor. He wanted to go out to dinner and a movie, but I don't want to be around him at all. He went to Target and brought a watch...

PauliePaulie · PauliePaulie

Day 4 of detox/rehab. Anybody know when the light at the end of the tunnel will be visable? So far he's gone through all of the emotions, along with denial, deal making, saying it's back pain causing the physical symptoms NOT withdrawal, that he's going to leave today, tomorrow, next week...etc. Than...

likemyheart · likemyheart

My ex just left with a truck load of his stuff, about 75% of it. While he was here his phone rang with "my" ringer (the archies singing sugar sugar) he tried to tell me that it was a guy friend of his - he still thinks of me as that gullible? Yeah, that one hurts. I'm sitting here trying to recover my...

nancie2248 · nancie2248

I've been involved with "B" for almost 6 years. He's been in detox and hospitalized too many times to count. Usually without a job, verbally abusive when he's drunk (daily), never keeps his promises. I'm ready to move on. Problem is we live together and as the headline says, he has nowhere t...

hotrod · hotrod

Reading Jerry's posting on the statement "It Works if you Work It"started me thinking What does "Working It " mean to me? I came up with the basic tools that I have developed over the years that have become my routine practice that will keep me sane and my program fresh Here is w...

Lindaoakford · Lindaoakford

HI guys Well... after a couple of weeks of getting back on the horse.... I am in a good place today. I think one of the catalysts is that the 'real' dope that was in the friends car in our driveway, drove out yesterday. I have not asked if he kept any, I have not said anything about it. I had a straight husba...

surfgirl123 · surfgirl123

Have been married to my AH for almost 8 years, only in the last 2 did I become aware of his addictions, and only in the last 6 months have I been in involved in Alanon. It has been transforming and lifesaving for me. Things have improved with my AH, he goes to AA meetings, although has not committed to the pro...

Pushka · Pushka

Arrgghhh .. I'm trying to work through this and I'm more mad at myself, still highly disappointed in my AH. I went to the dang hardware store looking for that loaf of bread and son of a gun they were sold out! Grrr!! When push comes to shove I've done it to myself with this situation. I expected my AH to...

looking_for_peace · looking_for_peace

I used to come to this board a lot. My AH is not an admitted A. He blames his alcoholism on the long-term prescribed use of a benzodiazipine. He also cold-turkeyed off Effexor. Some of you might remember my posts about a year ago. We had separated, but I let him return after he quit those drugs, b/c I was det...

SMT · SMT

A year ago, I never thought I'd be posting something on this forum. In fact, I didn't know that alanon existed. But that would have been just before meeting what I thought was the man of my dreams. At first it was funny. He would get drunk and do silly things and we'd tear it up on the dance floor. We fel...

Tracy · Tracy

I am really confused, I have been seeing acousellor ad she seems really good at getting me to come out of denial and face reality. She says she has worked with a cliet who was in AA so has some knowledge of alcoholism. My partner has been in aa for over two years. slipping and sliding. He was sober 6 months b...

GailMichelle · GailMichelle

Today, I took our Little Lucky, the kitten we adopted, to the vet's for his first series of shots. (He wasn't too happy.) But I sure was! The assistant, who has never commented on my demeanor in the past, stated that I seemed "more relaxed." That to me is a sign that it's working! Big smile ...

clep · clep

Some days are better than others. Today is not a good day for me. I haven't gotten to meetings in a couple of weeks which isn't helping. I am physically and mentally exhausted. I mean really exhausted!!! I home school our son, Pay the bills and manage all money Clean the house Parent alone Do the taxe...

lovelybertha · lovelybertha

The drinker in my life is my mother. I have only recently come across alanon and I am a bit apprehensive to attend a meeting. Although the concept sounds really helpful. My mum has always enjoyed going to pubs and socialising and her and her now husband even made a career out of running different pubs for...

scholarlydragon · scholarlydragon

Trying to deal with anger the last few days and it's been rough. Been here alone at the house all day and trying to clean in order to keep from thinking. Hasn't been working very well, and now I'm having an auto-immune flareup so I'm in a lot of pain and can't keep doing chores. Mom seems to be staying sobe...

Jerry F · Jerry F

Aloha Family and I'm just delighted!! We had 4 newcomers at this mornings meeting and listening to their shares I became grateful for the time and the lessons and the practices and meetings and literature and the membership and of course my HP all of who have showed up in my life since I first got into A...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

As I sit here, I think I can think of only positive things to share w/ you. The peace of the program is coming over me a little at a time. I am just happy that I can find peace. I love that when we work the program, Peace comes to us. I guess the main topic of my share is finding peace. It is so good to know that after...

Tracey C · Tracey C

Hi, After joining al-anon 2yrs ago, I finally feel ready to open a new meeting in the area I live. We live ruraly out here in Australia, on the outskirts of a little place. There's a hall here that is rarely used, so I've spoke to the people about using it. They seem very happy to have the group started up...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

No matter what happens, where I go or where I end up, I will always & I mean always be grateful for where I am! I can't do anything w/o the help of my HP & that is where gratitude comes from. Yeah, maybe I have struggled in the last couple of days but I can't forget that I have so much to be grateful for. I...

luvsapd · luvsapd

Hi...I attended my first F2F meeting on Friday and am not sure if I'm going to be going again. It was a good meeting, but my A is VERY angry about it. He is very much steeped in denial about his problem drinking and today said that I should get a lawyer; that since I've taken this step, which he thinks is comp...

ineedhelpnow · ineedhelpnow

I am having a real hard time right now in my life. Gosh doesn't it seem like that all the time for me? It does. I'm getting panic attacks because I'm taking a real hard math class at a community college and I need to pass it to be able to transfer to a university. PLEASE HELP me. I have found a tutor but I ca...

ISMP · ISMP

My son just got out of treatment 2 weeks ago went to his graduation things seemed good but today he doesn't answer any calls . He is in a 3/4 home I really feel since he has not replied to any of my calls he is using again, I just don't think I can go thru this again.

Calyx · Calyx

Hello and thank you all first of all for being here, I have been lurking for about a year and only set up an account very recently. Background - I am 39 and have been with my A for 10 years, married for the past 2. I married him because we both wanted to start a family (didn't happen although ttc for 2 years). ...

Jonesy0505 · Jonesy0505

Well as some of you know my AH went AWOL last Friday. Although he text me here and there I didn't actually see him again until Monday night. He wanted to come home in the late afternoon and I told him he couldn't until he went to an AA or NA meeting that night. He did so I brought him home after and told him I coul...

MeTwo2 · MeTwo2

i posted an entry about a week ago on my A and got some great words of wisdom in response ... Flopidopolus (spelling ? sorry can't see other page) you typed something that made me think while sharing about your A .. " My self esteem took a much needed boost and the more energy I put into me, the more I ha...

flopadopilus · flopadopilus

I have read so many great Al-anon books and as much as I loved "Getting Them Sober" by Toby Rice Drews and "Codependent No More" by Melody Beattie and I read my daily readers too. I think "Perfect Daughters" by Robert J. Ackerman Ph.D. hit me just as hard if not harder....

Pushka · Pushka

So I had a little slip last night. My AH who has taken no interest in what I do or don't do in 13 years has decided he doesn't like those rules which is fine. I need time to adjust. Well, I've always been an open book and I'm not a closed book I just choose not to be always 100% open, I'm always transparent. I...

usedtobeanyer · usedtobeanyer

I was goofing off at work here just before heading home, reading some posts here on MIP. I was realizing that it's probably been close to a year since I first came here...so I thought--hmm, I should check and see when my first post was. Well, it was exactly one year ago today. I find it so odd that I just happ...

shellyj123 · shellyj123

I believe wholeheartedly in the power of prayer and I and my family needs yours now. My 78 year old mother feel today and my 14 yr old son found her after school....I called the ambulance and they took her to the hospital where she was quickly admitted.... As of right now....her kidneys aren't working pr...

Jozie · Jozie

I Can Honestly Say, I don't Remember a Time I was this Tired HP Has Sure Been Steppin Up for Me Here Lately, and Thank Goodness, because if not the Insanity would have placed me in the Rubber Room By Now! ... ;0) But I'm Still Standing... I have Spent 9 days out of the Last 13, at 4-6 Hours a Night in a Hospit...

Pushka · Pushka

So last nights meeting is a meeting I kind of hit and miss from week to week. It really depends on what I need. I have a difficult time missing Simon Baker .. lol .. on the show The Mentalist. Last night was the open AA boy do I love those. I enjoy the group. I don't know if I have shared this before, I've ha...

tommyecat · tommyecat

Over the years I have attended many face to face meetings of both AA and Alanon and had great pleasure when the occasional reading mistake occurs. I myself love laughter as I feel it is healing to the soul. I have kept many notebooks over the years of the wit and wisdom I have found in the rooms of recove...

youfoundme · youfoundme

I struggle with some major depression issues that stem from my childhood traumas and other things that I allowed to happen to me as an adult. I have PTSD, ADHD, and General Anxiety disorder with Panic attacks that occur for no reason at all. The last few days I have felt terrible inside. My mind is sic...

tommyecat · tommyecat

Yesterday I had replied to a post citing the 4 M's in Alanon that were particularly meaningful to me when I was new. They are: Managing Manipulating Mothering Matyrdom I couldn't remember which book that I read it from. Finally I discovered the 4 M's are from our book Paths to Recovery on PP 40. In grat...

Tracy · Tracy

Feeling down this morning so prayed and prayed and read to put positive thoughts into my mind. I was feeling better focusing on me my day. I bumped into my ABF,s sister and cousin they told me stuff he has been doing, stole off his mum again, in parties with other girls, supposed to of stole a purse of some...

rehprof · rehprof

Hi all -- I have just filed for divorce from my husband of 29 years, an A. We have been separated a year, and for the most part our separation has been amicable. I am feeling so scared and so alone. I have shouldered ALL the responsibility -- for the house (250K) for all the bills etc as he has been unemp...

liar · liar

Im Susan, My mother is always complaining about my sisters and myself. We are not the problem. She is drinking and making us the victim. She secretely drinks, and thinks that because we are younger, WE must be the problem. The rest of her family will not want to talk to her because we all know what she...

flopadopilus · flopadopilus

I have posted about this before, but this time it's more about how I perceive me in this. When I was 17 years old I met my A and I was just starting my senior year. He drank and partied and looked very good in his marine Corps uniform. I was blind right away. He got me out of my dysfunctional family of origin and...

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	I can feel changes (Preview) Hi I think I can feel some changes in me. This is a good thing. I am usually so controlling it isn't funny. In the past, I have found out that my husband finished work early and didn't tell me, Igot home and he was already there.... I was angry, I was upset that I didn't know what was happening, Why would yo...	Lindaoakford	8	472	Oct 12, 2011 by Pushka
	After rehab how did you do it? (Preview) In short, my husband has been in and out of rehab for the past four years and has not worked. I have supported him 100% from his sobriety attempts to handling all of the financial responsibility. We had a baby at the beginning of the year and he went into Full blown drinking every day all day mode then picke...	ToBeHappy	10	885	Oct 12, 2011 by ToBeHappy
	Should I keep my son away from his father? (Preview) My partner (my 6-year-old son's father) is an alcoholic with a history of near death experiences. He can go from 1-3 years sober. But when he falls off the wagon, it is always under very traumatic circumstances. After a year and a half of sobriety, I finally allowed him to move back in with us. I then tru...	Camille Le Montre	14	706	Oct 12, 2011 by Pushka
	advice how to deal with a hostile coworker (Preview) Hi Everyone, I teach part-time at a high school. Last spring when I was about to hop on my bike and ride home after classes a coworker confronted me at the bike rack and began to accuse me of ignoring him, treating him badly, not respecting him. He was shaking and had that "look" in his eyes that...	Patk	10	675	Oct 12, 2011 by Patk
	Learning how to live... (Preview) [video=]	John	6	461	Oct 12, 2011 by GailMichelle
	What should I expect after he's out of rehab? (Preview) Hi again =0) So, he's in rehab, been there 6 days, and has been GREAT as of yesterday afternoon. I'm wondering what kind of 'typical' stuff to expect after he gets home in a month or so? Any advice, heads ups, etc would be greatly appreciated...again. Thank you all for being here for all of us. HUGS!!	PauliePaulie	8	1357	Oct 12, 2011 by pinkchip
	Setting ME Free!! (Preview) [video=]	John	2	321	Oct 12, 2011 by sarebaer
	Working on boundaries.... in all my affairs.... (Preview) Some of you may remember I have a business in photography. I started this business on my own, met a person I connected with, because our son's were friends, saw she did photography, had a good eye and so I asked if she wanted to do it with me. It was all very innocent. I thought we would work great togethe...	youfoundme	8	516	Oct 11, 2011 by Lindaoakford
	Infidelity and betrayal (Preview) I asked my Ah to move out of the house tonight. Last week I ran into him with two women in his car. They were drinking, smoking, and having a good time. I, for months, suspected he was having affairs based on his behavior at home. My gut feeling told me we were alone in our relationship. Yet, I left it alone an...	hawaiilover	11	734	Oct 11, 2011 by likemyheart
	Just for today (Preview) I am grateful. For both of my sons. One nearing his 1st anniversary of clean and sober. One in meetings. I'm thankful for my husband. Our little dog. A home I have the honor of cleaning each day, reminds me how grateful I am. The dinner we through last night with both sons, dauther in law, grandchil...	Peggy7	8	485	Oct 11, 2011 by flopadopilus
	He is finally back (Preview) So my boyfriend is finally back from a 40 day stay in rehab. I am proud of him and things are slowly settling. We both feel a little blah and are a bit overwhelmed. I am trying to keep my sense of peace that I gained while he was away and not worry about him or fuss over him. I am trying to give him his space and sto...	elizabethcontreras	6	508	Oct 11, 2011 by flopadopilus
	Its been way too long, but I'm right where I need to be (Preview) Hello all, Its been quite some time since I have read or posted here, and its bittersweet to see some old faces as well as some new ones. I have finally ended my 9 1/2yr relationship with my abf. Things went from bad to worse, and very quickly after he went to work beyond commuting distance last summer. ...	liljeannie	8	491	Oct 11, 2011 by Lindaoakford
	A spouse as your Higher Power?? (Preview) Hi, My SO is in rehab, day 4 of detox, and has just called to inform me that I am now his Higher Power. Talk about stress!! Can a person actually be a successful HP?? Doesn't that make ME in control of his sobriety?? How can I be his HP??? What I am hoping for is that he gets enough time, education, and guidance...	PauliePaulie	11	615	Oct 11, 2011 by PauliePaulie
	Huge lesson in reality!! (Preview) I am not sure I shared but one night a week or so ago I heard the door handle being tried. My dogs went nuts in a way that I was sure there was someone out there. Since I am up here alone, thinking about what would you do if...comes up a lot in my mind. I have a 9 mil next to my bed, a flashlight and sell and always sl...	Debilyn	12	607	Oct 11, 2011 by Debilyn
	minutes & counting... (Preview) Briefly, quickly, I will update you on my condition. I am doing very well. I still have a lot of gratitude. I also want to give everyone a quote to pass around to all your friends: Friends: A friend knows the song in your heart & can sing it back to you when you have forgotten the words. Another quote: Be...	Hoot Nanny	0	238	Oct 11, 2011 by Hoot Nanny
	Alcoholism...or Mental Illness? (Preview) Lately, i've been thinking that my AH is mentally ill. I'm been doing some research and it looks like he may be both. He barely seems functional- living in squalor in what was once our home. He took Ambien and Vodka and wound up in a hospital with hallucinations...not so bad that he didn't forget my work n...	alexmaui	7	1438	Oct 11, 2011 by Hoot Nanny
	Not sure what to do... (Preview) Hello, I am new to this forum and new to Al-Anon in general. However, I am not new to being with an alcoholic. My gf of three years has been sober for a little over a year, up until yesterday when she relapsed. We were on vacation and staying at a friends condo when on the last day of our stay, my gf found an open...	Frustrated3982	5	394	Oct 11, 2011 by Jerry F
	disappointment and depression (Preview) I am so frustrated and disappointed in my AH and am having a hard time shifting my focus. He let me down by once again with-holding information and basically lying to me about finances. It is not a big thing, that will break us, but it is the principle in that I told him I either wanted us to be partners in o...	oldgraduate	8	706	Oct 11, 2011 by oldgraduate
	Listening! (Preview) Really listening, and hearing, wow, our son has a girlfriend, whoooooooowhoooooooooooo, she's lovely, works as a vet, drives a car, is sensible and decent and kind, and just what he needed, to show him he is was worth it, I have stopped nagging (almost) and I have just had the best conversation with hi...	Katy	4	273	Oct 11, 2011 by flopadopilus
	ME (Preview) I am a person Why do I have so much trouble looking after me, focusing on me. My sickness is very baffling too it makes it hard for me to mind my own business and to focus on what I have to do. It takes me off in every direction interfering in peoples lives. Al anon is helping me to gain self awareness. I hav...	Tracy	5	397	Oct 11, 2011 by flopadopilus
	Grateful and not freaking out (Preview) I am so very grateful for Al Anon. If it wasn't for Al Anon I would be freaking out right now. My husband went back to detox on August 30 and back to rehab for the third time in less than a year on September 2. He came home on September 27. We went away for a lovely 4 day weekend from September 30 to October 3....	Mlkiss75	14	536	Oct 11, 2011 by Mlkiss75
	Haven't been on in a while, feeling overwhelmed (Preview) I think I have too much on my plate. AH and I are planning on buying a new home as our home will need about $30K of work soon because of it's age and because of HOA guidelines about exterior paint colors, etc. We figured we'd be better off just putting the money into a newer neighborhood and newer home. I'v...	ilovedogs	6	435	Oct 11, 2011 by flopadopilus
	10th year anniversary (Preview) I'm in a funk. So far this year I've been able to keep it together and even help others who have troublesome marriages. This week it's my 10th year anniversary, and my heart is on the floor. He wanted to go out to dinner and a movie, but I don't want to be around him at all. He went to Target and brought a watch...	gladysg	7	466	Oct 11, 2011 by flopadopilus
	Time Frame (Preview) Day 4 of detox/rehab. Anybody know when the light at the end of the tunnel will be visable? So far he's gone through all of the emotions, along with denial, deal making, saying it's back pain causing the physical symptoms NOT withdrawal, that he's going to leave today, tomorrow, next week...etc. Than...	PauliePaulie	9	746	Oct 11, 2011 by flopadopilus
	Though I know it has to be, it hurts (Preview) My ex just left with a truck load of his stuff, about 75% of it. While he was here his phone rang with "my" ringer (the archies singing sugar sugar) he tried to tell me that it was a guy friend of his - he still thinks of me as that gullible? Yeah, that one hurts. I'm sitting here trying to recover my...	likemyheart	7	706	Oct 11, 2011 by flopadopilus
	How do you kick someone out that has nowhere to go, no job, no money, no car...? (Preview) I've been involved with "B" for almost 6 years. He's been in detox and hospitalized too many times to count. Usually without a job, verbally abusive when he's drunk (daily), never keeps his promises. I'm ready to move on. Problem is we live together and as the headline says, he has nowhere t...	nancie2248	21	8980	Oct 11, 2011 by nancie2248
	What Does Working It Mean to Me (Preview) Reading Jerry's posting on the statement "It Works if you Work It"started me thinking What does "Working It " mean to me? I came up with the basic tools that I have developed over the years that have become my routine practice that will keep me sane and my program fresh Here is w...	hotrod	6	641	Oct 11, 2011 by flopadopilus
	in a good place today (Preview) HI guys Well... after a couple of weeks of getting back on the horse.... I am in a good place today. I think one of the catalysts is that the 'real' dope that was in the friends car in our driveway, drove out yesterday. I have not asked if he kept any, I have not said anything about it. I had a straight husba...	Lindaoakford	4	452	Oct 11, 2011 by youfoundme
	Success Stories Anyone? (Preview) Have been married to my AH for almost 8 years, only in the last 2 did I become aware of his addictions, and only in the last 6 months have I been in involved in Alanon. It has been transforming and lifesaving for me. Things have improved with my AH, he goes to AA meetings, although has not committed to the pro...	surfgirl123	10	3766	Oct 11, 2011 by youfoundme
	Disappointed .. (vent) (Preview) Arrgghhh .. I'm trying to work through this and I'm more mad at myself, still highly disappointed in my AH. I went to the dang hardware store looking for that loaf of bread and son of a gun they were sold out! Grrr!! When push comes to shove I've done it to myself with this situation. I expected my AH to...	Pushka	8	685	Oct 11, 2011 by youfoundme
	Psychotic Depression (Preview) I used to come to this board a lot. My AH is not an admitted A. He blames his alcoholism on the long-term prescribed use of a benzodiazipine. He also cold-turkeyed off Effexor. Some of you might remember my posts about a year ago. We had separated, but I let him return after he quit those drugs, b/c I was det...	looking_for_peace	6	476	Oct 10, 2011 by Mattie
	Change (Preview) A year ago, I never thought I'd be posting something on this forum. In fact, I didn't know that alanon existed. But that would have been just before meeting what I thought was the man of my dreams. At first it was funny. He would get drunk and do silly things and we'd tear it up on the dance floor. We fel...	SMT	7	530	Oct 10, 2011 by SMT
	is it a choice once in AA (Preview) I am really confused, I have been seeing acousellor ad she seems really good at getting me to come out of denial and face reality. She says she has worked with a cliet who was in AA so has some knowledge of alcoholism. My partner has been in aa for over two years. slipping and sliding. He was sober 6 months b...	Tracy	11	829	Oct 10, 2011 by John
	It's Working! (Preview) Today, I took our Little Lucky, the kitten we adopted, to the vet's for his first series of shots. (He wasn't too happy.) But I sure was! The assistant, who has never commented on my demeanor in the past, stated that I seemed "more relaxed." That to me is a sign that it's working! Big smile ...	GailMichelle	9	395	Oct 9, 2011 by Lindaoakford
	Feeling tired of it all today. (Preview) Some days are better than others. Today is not a good day for me. I haven't gotten to meetings in a couple of weeks which isn't helping. I am physically and mentally exhausted. I mean really exhausted!!! I home school our son, Pay the bills and manage all money Clean the house Parent alone Do the taxe...	clep	13	556	Oct 9, 2011 by GailMichelle
	New here (Preview) The drinker in my life is my mother. I have only recently come across alanon and I am a bit apprehensive to attend a meeting. Although the concept sounds really helpful. My mum has always enjoyed going to pubs and socialising and her and her now husband even made a career out of running different pubs for...	lovelybertha	7	396	Oct 9, 2011 by lovelybertha
	Been on the verge of a panic attack all day (Preview) Trying to deal with anger the last few days and it's been rough. Been here alone at the house all day and trying to clean in order to keep from thinking. Hasn't been working very well, and now I'm having an auto-immune flareup so I'm in a lot of pain and can't keep doing chores. Mom seems to be staying sobe...	scholarlydragon	4	572	Oct 9, 2011 by hawaiilover
	This works when you work it.... (Preview) Aloha Family and I'm just delighted!! We had 4 newcomers at this mornings meeting and listening to their shares I became grateful for the time and the lessons and the practices and meetings and literature and the membership and of course my HP all of who have showed up in my life since I first got into A...	Jerry F	6	347	Oct 9, 2011 by hawaiilover
	only positive things--at least I will try! (Preview) As I sit here, I think I can think of only positive things to share w/ you. The peace of the program is coming over me a little at a time. I am just happy that I can find peace. I love that when we work the program, Peace comes to us. I guess the main topic of my share is finding peace. It is so good to know that after...	Hoot Nanny	2	430	Oct 8, 2011 by flopadopilus
	New Group Meeting (Preview) Hi, After joining al-anon 2yrs ago, I finally feel ready to open a new meeting in the area I live. We live ruraly out here in Australia, on the outskirts of a little place. There's a hall here that is rarely used, so I've spoke to the people about using it. They seem very happy to have the group started up...	Tracey C	5	337	Oct 8, 2011 by flopadopilus
	still grateful! (Preview) No matter what happens, where I go or where I end up, I will always & I mean always be grateful for where I am! I can't do anything w/o the help of my HP & that is where gratitude comes from. Yeah, maybe I have struggled in the last couple of days but I can't forget that I have so much to be grateful for. I...	Hoot Nanny	2	322	Oct 8, 2011 by flopadopilus
	newby (Preview) Hi...I attended my first F2F meeting on Friday and am not sure if I'm going to be going again. It was a good meeting, but my A is VERY angry about it. He is very much steeped in denial about his problem drinking and today said that I should get a lawyer; that since I've taken this step, which he thinks is comp...	luvsapd	10	841	Oct 8, 2011 by luvsapd
	PLEASE HELP ME (Preview) I am having a real hard time right now in my life. Gosh doesn't it seem like that all the time for me? It does. I'm getting panic attacks because I'm taking a real hard math class at a community college and I need to pass it to be able to transfer to a university. PLEASE HELP me. I have found a tutor but I ca...	ineedhelpnow	8	588	Oct 8, 2011 by ineedhelpnow
	Don't know what to do, I think I lost my son to drugs again (Preview) My son just got out of treatment 2 weeks ago went to his graduation things seemed good but today he doesn't answer any calls . He is in a 3/4 home I really feel since he has not replied to any of my calls he is using again, I just don't think I can go thru this again.	ISMP	3	571	Oct 8, 2011 by GailMichelle
	New and asking for ESH (long, sorry) (Preview) Hello and thank you all first of all for being here, I have been lurking for about a year and only set up an account very recently. Background - I am 39 and have been with my A for 10 years, married for the past 2. I married him because we both wanted to start a family (didn't happen although ttc for 2 years). ...	Calyx	6	636	Oct 8, 2011 by Calyx
	Got a taste of reality (Preview) Well as some of you know my AH went AWOL last Friday. Although he text me here and there I didn't actually see him again until Monday night. He wanted to come home in the late afternoon and I told him he couldn't until he went to an AA or NA meeting that night. He did so I brought him home after and told him I coul...	Jonesy0505	8	482	Oct 7, 2011 by MeTwo2
	flopidopulus & others .. the dark (Preview) i posted an entry about a week ago on my A and got some great words of wisdom in response ... Flopidopolus (spelling ? sorry can't see other page) you typed something that made me think while sharing about your A .. " My self esteem took a much needed boost and the more energy I put into me, the more I ha...	MeTwo2	3	605	Oct 7, 2011 by MeTwo2
	Books for ACOA (Adult Children of Alcoholics) (closed) (Preview) I have read so many great Al-anon books and as much as I loved "Getting Them Sober" by Toby Rice Drews and "Codependent No More" by Melody Beattie and I read my daily readers too. I think "Perfect Daughters" by Robert J. Ackerman Ph.D. hit me just as hard if not harder....	flopadopilus	6	2773	Oct 7, 2011 by rosielee
	A tiny slip .. (Preview) So I had a little slip last night. My AH who has taken no interest in what I do or don't do in 13 years has decided he doesn't like those rules which is fine. I need time to adjust. Well, I've always been an open book and I'm not a closed book I just choose not to be always 100% open, I'm always transparent. I...	Pushka	5	549	Oct 7, 2011 by rosielee
	My one year anniversary (Preview) I was goofing off at work here just before heading home, reading some posts here on MIP. I was realizing that it's probably been close to a year since I first came here...so I thought--hmm, I should check and see when my first post was. Well, it was exactly one year ago today. I find it so odd that I just happ...	usedtobeanyer	10	527	Oct 7, 2011 by usedtobeanyer
	Prayer Request (Preview) I believe wholeheartedly in the power of prayer and I and my family needs yours now. My 78 year old mother feel today and my 14 yr old son found her after school....I called the ambulance and they took her to the hospital where she was quickly admitted.... As of right now....her kidneys aren't working pr...	shellyj123	11	568	Oct 7, 2011 by hotrod
	Little things... Little Things... Little Things... (Preview) I Can Honestly Say, I don't Remember a Time I was this Tired HP Has Sure Been Steppin Up for Me Here Lately, and Thank Goodness, because if not the Insanity would have placed me in the Rubber Room By Now! ... ;0) But I'm Still Standing... I have Spent 9 days out of the Last 13, at 4-6 Hours a Night in a Hospit...	Jozie	4	368	Oct 7, 2011 by hotrod
	Keep coming back .. (Preview) So last nights meeting is a meeting I kind of hit and miss from week to week. It really depends on what I need. I have a difficult time missing Simon Baker .. lol .. on the show The Mentalist. Last night was the open AA boy do I love those. I enjoy the group. I don't know if I have shared this before, I've ha...	Pushka	2	484	Oct 7, 2011 by canadianguy
	meeting opener / reading mistakes (Preview) Over the years I have attended many face to face meetings of both AA and Alanon and had great pleasure when the occasional reading mistake occurs. I myself love laughter as I feel it is healing to the soul. I have kept many notebooks over the years of the wit and wisdom I have found in the rooms of recove...	tommyecat	5	622	Oct 7, 2011 by rrib
	falling down, and climbing back out (Preview) I struggle with some major depression issues that stem from my childhood traumas and other things that I allowed to happen to me as an adult. I have PTSD, ADHD, and General Anxiety disorder with Panic attacks that occur for no reason at all. The last few days I have felt terrible inside. My mind is sic...	youfoundme	11	567	Oct 6, 2011 by ineedhelpnow
	The Four M's (Preview) Yesterday I had replied to a post citing the 4 M's in Alanon that were particularly meaningful to me when I was new. They are: Managing Manipulating Mothering Matyrdom I couldn't remember which book that I read it from. Finally I discovered the 4 M's are from our book Paths to Recovery on PP 40. In grat...	tommyecat	8	2548	Oct 6, 2011 by youfoundme
	am I ready to face the truth?? (Preview) Feeling down this morning so prayed and prayed and read to put positive thoughts into my mind. I was feeling better focusing on me my day. I bumped into my ABF,s sister and cousin they told me stuff he has been doing, stole off his mum again, in parties with other girls, supposed to of stole a purse of some...	Tracy	9	561	Oct 6, 2011 by Bettina
	Long, difficult, and scary road (Preview) Hi all -- I have just filed for divorce from my husband of 29 years, an A. We have been separated a year, and for the most part our separation has been amicable. I am feeling so scared and so alone. I have shouldered ALL the responsibility -- for the house (250K) for all the bills etc as he has been unemp...	rehprof	10	672	Oct 6, 2011 by pinkchip
	My mom does not get it (Preview) Im Susan, My mother is always complaining about my sisters and myself. We are not the problem. She is drinking and making us the victim. She secretely drinks, and thinks that because we are younger, WE must be the problem. The rest of her family will not want to talk to her because we all know what she...	liar	5	550	Oct 6, 2011 by GailMichelle
	Guilt about leaving my A, I need ESH on this? (Preview) I have posted about this before, but this time it's more about how I perceive me in this. When I was 17 years old I met my A and I was just starting my senior year. He drank and partied and looked very good in his marine Corps uniform. I was blind right away. He got me out of my dysfunctional family of origin and...	flopadopilus	12	555	Oct 6, 2011 by youfoundme
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