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I hope and pray..
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Lately I feel as if I am being sucked into a hole, which will swallow me whole and never let me out. Alcoholism has played a major role in a majority of lives, within my immediate family. Both of my parents, who have never really been together, have overcome their addictions and no longer drink. My mom doe...
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so tired
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I just found out that my father has stage 4 cancer. No one even told me that I can remember. I knew he had cancer but no one informed me about it. I am getting very tired of feeling left out of everything. It makes me feel like I am on an island, drifting away! Last night I finally talked to my older sister. She s...
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Hoot Nanny
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Going on a trip
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I'm headed out of town in a couple of weeks this is a big deal as it's the first time I will be childless AND without a spouse in over 13 years. That is a big milestone. Asked me 5 years ago if I would leave the kids with my AH and the answer would have been a resounding NO WAY!! I figure 7 days of no baths for the y...
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Pushka
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Letting go
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I was able to get away for the weekend to visit a friend of mine. I enjoyed the stunning drive through the VA mountains. Was able to enjoy the time spent with my friend. Her daughter turned 8 and she has 2 babies under 2 plus a little boy so I went up to offer an extra set of hands for the weekend. Before I left I g...
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Jackie11
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A true gift!!!!
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http://vimeo.com/31158841 I hope you can see this. I am in complete awe. love.....
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Debilyn
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BPD
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Well.. not sure if I said much about this on this board, but I have been to a psychologist today. I have tried a few counsellors and such, but none seem to really 'get' what it is about me that I want to work on. Today, I spoke about BPD traits and how I feel fit most of them when we look back over the history of m...
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Lindaoakford
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Should I go to meeting?
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Hello I think I already understand that I won't get advice here but maybe someone can offer me some wisdom... There is an Al-Anon meeting near me this evening and I am considering attending for the first time (I am 33). I would say that I carry a lot of pain about a number of drinkers in my mother's family,...
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Do I just forget???
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Hi I am starting to think I must have the worse memory in the world. On Saturday, I went out to the shops for about an hour. I knew in my heart he would have a smoke and I was only half uptight about it. Before I went home, I rang to see if we needed anything, milk or whatever. I had to ring a number of times befo...
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Lindaoakford
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PTSD from previous assaults.
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Hi. I've been having some severe panic attacks the past few days. My GF of nine months 1st assaulted me back in March.Luckily I wasn't bruised or scarred and security at the bar wisely separated us and took her away.Shortly after I went to Alanon and it became apparent to me that she was not the only alcoh...
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mannaguy
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Never lose hope...
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What Happens to this Kitten Will Really Move You - Click Here to Watch the Video =) www.godvine.com Love this one!!!
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kris10
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Trying to ask for what I need
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I have not felt well for the last couple of days. Today I started feeling a bit better, and had been asked to meet with a friend for tea. Usually I would bring my 18 month old with me, but was really feeling like I needed a couple of hours just for me. I have a long work week ahead, a stressfull one. My husba...
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KLotus
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Addict Daughter with 3 small Children - update
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I had to call DFS for my daughter and her children since the family has no electric and is living in unfit conditions. The worker called me today and what a small world. The worker lives just across the street from me..HP comes in when you least expect it. The worker feels a connection to me and my famil...
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mdkm0726
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Al-Anon, alcoholism & Tourette's?
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Does anyone have an experience trying to help an adult child who uses alcohol to self-medicate to make his Tourete's Syndrome symptoms better? Is he a special case or do the normal methods of Al-Anon apply? Need your imput please. Thanks
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disappointment...
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>sigh< I thought he was doing so well. About a month ago AB hit rock bottom - no need for the details except to say it was bad. He started counselling and started AA. I thought he was doing well. Well, over the weekend I could smell it on him and his behavior confirmed it - not the drunken behavior bu...
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Not Alone
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Feeling lost - New to alanon but want a new way of life
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My husband (16 months sober) and I are going through a very difficult time right now and it is leaving me lost and very lonely. He has been very withdrawn lately and no longer is very into our relationship which we have been trying to rebuild. We have began to deal with the financial mess that we have gott...
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afares
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Just out of rehab and drinking
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My husband just got out of inpatient rehab 10 days ago and is already drinking. Those 10 days were fabulous - full of hope, optomism and plans for the future. Then this freak storm knocked us out of power and he used the stress as an excuse to start drinking. Of course he hid it and if course I knew. I tried to...
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Exhausted
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I'm holding to my boundary that the kids cannot be in the car with AH driving. Over the course of the past year, I've asked twice that he not drink then drive the kids. He is able to do that for awhile, then he goes right back to drinking then driving the kids. AH has shown me what he is going to do, so I had to dec...
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Very Very Tired
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what do i do, please any help
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we have a 11mos old and just moved, i found a bottle in front of him and he confessed, he had been drinking for the past month, probably longer because i dont know what i can believe. He has "slipped" each weekend since, today I caught it because I wanted a sip of his drink and to my surprise it wa...
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noelle2
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Update to AA for my A
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So far so good.. He went to his meeting with one of his friends.. Came home in a good mood. Mentioned that there was a girl there that confessed that she had a relapse but was now 5 days sober.. Didnt understand why people were so happy for her new 5 days.. Said he just doesnt ever count the days he is sober. Sa...
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Dont know how to act!!! Anxiety is high and confused
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I wrote about my husbands anger and lack of attention yesterday and so many people helped with everything they wrote. I have been reading and going to meetins trying to learn how to handle the life I have right now and it is so hard. I have been trying to understand the way my husband is being right now an...
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afares
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STOLEN THINGS
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So what do you do when you think your A-son (28) has stolen from you? He knows my shed is open because some of his belongings are in there. This was something still new in a box and was expensive. That's what I get for being so trusting. My fault for not locking things down. I accused him, but I still don't kno...
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oldergal
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Not feeling trapped any longer
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I was reading one of my many books "The language of Letting Go" by Melody Beattie and it occurred to me I haven't felt trapped in a long time. I have learned to make decisions and own them by being true to myself lately. I am not giving into guilt when anyone tries to pull it. I am not making choice...
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Breakingfree
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Time Change?
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Time Change? Time and Change ... a tough choice... I'll take Change so the Time will be well spent. Bill
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All I can be
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rough couple of weeks... making progress for me
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I participate on this board and the Adult Children's - my mom is the alcoholic. My spouse is not an alcoholic but does have those behaviors and has a compulisve/addictive personality. So I struggle with being in a relationship with that because of my childhood learned behaviors. Work has been abs...
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Dear Friends.....update
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I dont have the strength to write much more at the moment but just want to say thank you all for your love and support.Our sons cremation took place yesterday (Thursday) The peace of the Al-anon programme is with me.Much loveNess x
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Ness
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Have to laugh
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Why is it that my husband will 'hide' evidence of his drinking in the most obvious places ever?! It's like that Seinfeld episode when Kramer is hiding a key in Jerry's apartment but he hides it in places like Jerry's coat pocket so he finds it right away. LOL I had to look for 2 things yesterday and both tim...
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Hello all!
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Thanks for all your responses...believe me I appreciate them. I haven't been around too much lately as you no doubt have gathered. I have been very, very busy locating a lovely home in Florida of which I took ownership on last Tuesday. Sold the condo in Hawai'i as my children wanted me closer to them...
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good things out of sadness
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I have been wanting connection to my family all the way up here 900 miles away. It is seeming to happy but maybe be slowly. I can wait longer because it is so worth it! I have been able to talk to my precious step-sister & she is very lonely for her mom. The service went well from what I heard. Wished I coul...
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Hoot Nanny
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update: my brother
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My brother my dad's only son finally went to see my dad after many long years having nothing really to do w/ him! I am so happy that this has happened. It was time for them to mend fences & maybe create a new bond. It seems so hard for me to see that he couldn't reconcile w/ my Dad until Tues. but at least it h...
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Hoot Nanny
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Husband received 2nd DUI after 12 years from the first and only 9 months after treatment.
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As I'm writing this, my husband is gathering some belongings to move to our camper at a KOA campground. He got a second DUI a couple of nights ago and I've asked him to leave to work through this on his own. I've thrown everything I had in my aresenal at this problem and nothing has worked. I look like I'm str...
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Confidence is my illusion
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post acute withdrawal syndrome
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I have read a lot about this syndrome and its impact in early recovery. One thing I read said that it can go up to two years, but, many times peaks in three to six months. If a small amount of alcohol is consumed (one or two drinks) does it undo all the healing in the brain and you start over again?
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Group Business Meeting Tonight at 7pm est
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Hello everyone, We will be having the scheduled group business meeting tonight at 7 PM eastern time. We are asking everyone who considers themselves a member of the group, be it by the message board, or by the chat room meetings to join us for this meeting. 1. On tonight's agenda is a review of Op respo...
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John
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Just went to the liquor store
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Ive had it. I do not understand why the liquor store around the corner from my house continues to provide my husband with alcohol on credit! He's not working so he has no money to pay. He's been over three times already today and it's just after 1:00. So on his way back from his last trip over, I turned him ar...
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Mlkiss75
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Stressed out, need to rant [ long, sorry ]
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This is just a needed rant, and I'm afraid not helpful to anyone, unless you need to hear another story to make yourself feel not alone in this craziness! I thank this forum for providing this outlet! On advice I went to a police station to file a report on my ex RA, but was convinced to file an EPO [ emergenc...
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Feeling guilty with gratitude....confusing yes
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I am very grateful right now that I made the decision to end an unhealthy relationship with my ex, I have a lot of gratitude for this programme, the f2f meetings and the people on this board. Although, I am struggling with guilt right now. My ex has ran up a huge phone bill and the phone is in my name, I found...
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Jules1011
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Today will be a good day!
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Whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is [a]lovely, whatever is of good repute, if there is any excellence and if anything worthy of praise, [b]dwell on these things. When I have "negative" run through my brain, just for today, I will q...
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glad
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What I know
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When I am confronted by my AH with his justifications or lies or delusions or whatever you want to call them, I have to go through my mental list of what I know. I know he drinks, even when he says he won't. I know he drinks and hides it. I know there is an ever increasing stash of empty alcohol bottles accumul...
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Very Very Tired
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My A just left for an AA meeting????
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If you have been following my posts the last couple days I'm sure you probably have the same puzzled look on your face that I do right about now...lol The other day he said he wanted to go to an AA meeting but at the time he was high on H... I wanted soooo bad to tell him "don't go when you are high, how rude...
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The IRS Thinks I'm a Victim
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This is really kind of amusing in a sad way. My estranged AH and I submitted finally submitted our joint 2010 tax return a couple of months ago. I got a letter in the mail last week that said we would not be getting a penny back due to tax liabilities for 2007. This was news to me, as I was not aware of any previo...
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Green Eyes
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I'm back.....
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Actually, I never left. It's been a little over a year since I posted, but I get on here at least once a week to read other's posts, stalking, I guess you'd call it. But now I'm in a bad place again, and felt the need of support.
My AH admitted to himself that he was an alcoholic 3 years ago, after 35 years of dr...
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never going back
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found a website that is great
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http://www.houstonadultchildren.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=62&Itemid=71-- Edited by Lindaoakford on Wednesday 2nd of November 2011 11:01:23 PM
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Lindaoakford
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How to help a friend?
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A very dear friend of mine (and ex-boyfriend) is well into his recovery process--he's been sober for over a year now, mostly thanks to AA. He is dedicated to going to daily meetings, chairs them sometimes, has a sponsor, etc. etc. While our relationship is still close, I know that he has lost touch with...
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micawber
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Amazing progress
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Hola all! Tonight marked yet another step forward in my recovery - came home to my husband somewhat drunk and I just did my thing. I basically disregarded his acting out and went about making dinner and watching tv. He made a huge mess in the kitchen - I did my own dishes and left his for him to deal with. He t...
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Mlkiss75
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Never Get Too Comfortable
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Wow, was just reminded I can never get too comfortable. Things have been going pretty well lately. Came home tonight and BAM! A few days ago my AH said something I did was 'stupid', I ignored it at the time, but today what he said I was stupid for worked out, I made the mistake of saying "and you said I w...
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surfgirl123
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Concepts
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Does anyone know anything about the concepts. I have the paths to recovery book but really can't get my head round them in any practical way. f2fmember
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one more comment
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I did talk to my dad & it went well. He really wants to see my brother who hasn't been in his life for many years. A lot had to do w/ my step-mom. Now that she is gone, I wonder what will happen w/ their relationship? Just a thought. Kathleen
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Hoot Nanny
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I am OK--long week & it is only Thurs.
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I am doing OK. But it has been a long week because the loss of my step-mom. I was trying to write something on-line for her as a memory & couldn't figure out how to do it. It is so painful to be unable to give my dad & family hugs right now. But..I have friends up here who are watching out for me & som...
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Hoot Nanny
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meow.
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My cat was all up in my grill this morning. She headbutts me to feed her, pet her...she is so clingy. I told her she needed to go to a CODA meeting. I also told her "I'm going to sleep or not sleep what are you gonna do?" It didn't really work. So much for 12 step principles for cats. (levity-I h...
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3 months
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I have been here 3 months, on the ACoA board a little longer than that. I have come here every day for 3 months. Several times a day and sometimes it is open all day (at work naughty me). I have read, I have 'listened', I have private messaged. I have been happy, sad, crying and angry and laughing. No ma...
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Lindaoakford
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Singing the praises of sponsors
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It's such a new concept for me to reach out to someone to help me think through something. It feels so foreign for me to talk to someone before I react. When I take the extra time to work my program, WOW what a difference. I have a big action that I felt it is time to take. My sponsor didn't tell me what I could...
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Very Very Tired
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Going to visit my childhood home (Am I ready?)
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I am planning a trip to California to visit my Mother who still lives in the same house that I grew up in. My dad died 9 years ago and her pot head boyfriend has been with her the last 6 years I think. He doesn't work just mooches off her and she doesn't have that great of a job either. With that being said. I inte...
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Breakingfree
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Reflecting
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Linda did a post that got me to thinking. I came to this site on October 11 because I was so frustrated and angry and I had started trying to research alcoholism. I wanted to be told to leave, given the excuses I needed that it was ok. Except instead I found information, and stories, and hope. I probably sta...
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Jackie11
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Detachment
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Last night when I was walking my dogs I met a man who I know through a friend of his (who is an alcoholic currently in a dreadful way). I got to chat with him and hear about this man's alcoholism, his delirum tremens, seizure and more. I could have a lot of compassion for him and really see and understand th...
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Dating someone in recovery
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Greetings :) I am new to this forum but feel I need some guidance in my current situation. I have been dating a woman for close to 18 months who has 17 years of sobriety. We recently had a conflict that baffled me and when I was speaking with a close friend of mine and described the situation, she said it soun...
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Boyfriend in AA
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I have been with my boyfriend for two years and lived with him for one. I didnt know he was an alcoholic until about 8 mo into our relationship. He has recently (about 2 mo ago) started a 12 step recovery program. Things were great between us until he started going to open AA meetings. For example he used to...
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Sicker than the Alcoholic?
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My therapist is hardcore alanon. I met with her today and talked about some of the things I'm learning on this board. I was saying how I often felt that some of the folks on here are like trauma victims and in need of validation and to feel empowered. She stated that Alanon would often tell you that you a...
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pinkchip
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ahhh HAaaaa!!
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After all the stuff going on yesterday I today realize my little back track the past couple days was ME... I had fell back to trying to control, worrying, blaming, ect, ect.... So, I guess (as I've read in other posts lately) that here is where I take it one day at a time... If there are such a thing as stages...
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kris10
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Hmm ..
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I can tell things in my life are shifting in a good way, there are a bunch of gold plated problems (I LOVE that!!) on my plate that I would like to go away .. lol. I feel like I"m healing and moving forward, there is a long ways to go. Good grief .. I'm finding as I shift the more drama is being dropped in m...
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Pushka
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advice for mother of son new to recovery
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I am a mother of a 28 year old son newly returned from treatment. He is very sensitive and irritable. He doesn't want to talk about treatment too much. Today I clearly was nervous because it was his first day alone with no family members around. When he didn't answer his phone I got really worried that he...
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mousie1
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Too much Alanon?
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I'm not sure if this is appropriate lol I am pretty disheartened at the moment and quite down. Normally that would send me into the next meeting or phoning an alanon friend. But what do you do if the source of the problem is that I have been around alanon for a long time and feel completely detached from the...
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f2fmember
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