cripes...theres LOADS of stuff in that!! its jam packed...lol. i like its honesty- doesnt pull punches.

there is one saying- if you ask for help over the same problem more than three times- you dont want help yu just want attention.
i think this is a big one and someone should say this to my mum in AA..she goes to her friends and says how horrid her kids are to her- how her eldest daughter wont speak to her any more- in the end even her best friends banned the subject, they watched the same cycle go round so many times- they told her she needed better communication with her kids (no one can possibly be having that many problems with their children??) and if she cared she wouldnt call names to trigger off the attachment in the first place....so did she want help- or did she just want attention.

this applies to me too- i need to get off this board right now and get myself off to CAB and face my bills and financial statment with them- form filling and facing my terrible budget is a hard task. but its easier for me to post on here and say how terrible things are for me at the moment- then go and face difficult questions of my finances and difficult solutions (like catch the bus as its cheaper than driving)

however Rome wasnt built in a day....ill put the kettle on one more time i think.

This is a great site Linda - thanks!