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ilovedogs · ilovedogs

Today has been one of those days, I'm sure many of you can relate. For some reason, I am getting irritated at myself because I still don't trust my AH. I have forgiven him for all the crap and for the DUI, but I still find myself struggling with trust issues. My therapist thinks that maybe he hasn't hit hi...

orchidlover · orchidlover

I grew up totally glued to my family. Unsticking myself from them took me decades, moving thousands of miles away. Guess what once I moved from my family since that's all I knew that's all I did. I dated co workers in intrigue, dated next door neighbors (the ex was actually a roommate at one point) dat...

usedtobeanyer · usedtobeanyer

I'm humbled by how powerful this disease is. Despite attending AA meetings 3 times per week for over 2 years, despite a 30 day stint in an outpatient rehab, despite daily interactions with her sponsor and program people, despite spending this past weekend at a spiritual retreat with other female alc...

Wolfie55 · Wolfie55

Oops. I forgot to put the rest of the post in here. We hear a lot in Al-Anon about unconditional love. Such love makes no demands, exacts no payment, has no expectations. we are free to give it without anticipating or even wanting anything in return because the experience of loving in this way is so rewar...

house cat · house cat

Hi everyone! I'm new here. I went to my first Al-anon meeting this week and found a warm environment, full of loving people. After the meeting, a woman took me aside and talked with me. When I asked her about the lying, she was so nonchalant about it. "oh, lying is just part of the disease.&quo...

Tracy · Tracy

Hi All, I am gaining lots of awreness lately although I do not like what I am seeing I know my Hp would not bring it to me unless he thought I was ready to handle it. I am realising how much I have given my power away. My head is a little clearer and I have really been focusing on my recovery. My ex ABF has been ba...

Dolly Llama · Dolly Llama

Lots of changes happening fast! I'm a little anxious, but remembering that these changes are GOOD. And what I am leaving behind is a life that was slowly killing me. Packing up my car with all my earthly belongings today and leaving the home I shared with my AH...f2f meeting, yes I will make the time.....

atheos · atheos

After a year of meetings I guess I finally let my guard down enough for that... At this evening's meeting, I admitted feeling suicidal, and that the only reason I'm not dead is because my sister will need life-long care and I have to stay alive for that. I'm proud of the way my fellow Al-Anon members react...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I actually cleaned on sat. It doesn't totallylook like it but progress not perfection. I just spent a couple of hours, took breaks and was basically satisfied. No one would really notice but me but that is OK today. I am a work in progress. It looks like I might have to go back into that room this coming Sat...

help needed · help needed

Hi, My father has a drinking problem. It has been going on for about 15 years and i really dont see how its going to stop. I have 2 older brothers who feel the same as me. We love our dad but the mood swings and stepping on egg shells is getting to breaking point. My mum and dad are still together and she just le...

Michelle814 · Michelle814

My husband and I took this pottery class tonight. It was so special to create something with my hands, you know.. the pieces did not have to be perfect or even close to it but to know I was getting my hands dirty and constructing something of use and uniquely mine... out of just a wet ball of clay. It was re...

Pushka · Pushka

I have had an interesting experience over the past few weeks of having that whole stomach dropping feeling and not been thinking about my AH however recognizing that I'm unhooking from his drama that he wants to create. This whole trip with my mom here I am so sure he has no idea what a jerk he was to me and...

too tired 61 · too tired 61

I am living with a man who drinks about every other day, at least 8 beers at a time, not to mention vodka. after 3 or 4 beers, his personality changes and he becomes the nastiest person ever. i can't take it anymore and need to move, but I have nowhere to go. This man reminds me of my dad who I now care for an...

Wolfie55 · Wolfie55

Today is a Good Day. I think its important that we share that sometimes, too.

stephaniej · stephaniej

It has been a TOUGH week. Last week I was back at work and sad, but coping fairly well. This week has been awful. I miss my mom so much. And while my AH has dialed back his rage a ton over the last few months, and in the week or so surrounding my mom's death was kinder and more supportive than he's been in year...

Dolly Llama · Dolly Llama

I heard a popular preacher last night (Joyce Meyer, she was great!) and a phrase during someone's testimony stuck with me. This particular lady said she was a former drug addict and just had a really unforunate life, a victim of sexual assaults, abortions after being raped, etc, just really sad stuf...

Jerry F · Jerry F

Aloha Family...I've been pondering the Police Commission meeting which was called this last Friday. They were hearing my complaint of the assault and I went. They have open meetings just like Al-Anon...LOL however it isn't a Family Group meeting except for yours truely. My PTSD and lack of sle...

Jerry F · Jerry F

My spouse and I work for the same outfit. She is hourly and I am on contract which allows me to be outside taking care of their property and just enjoying all the lovely HP artwork. It is a hotel and I come in contact with some of the guest from time to time both men and women. I tell my wife about all of the i...

Jerry F · Jerry F

that is what my Avatar picture is and no I'm not supposing you all don't know. I put that up because I got introduced to this one particular bloom in my neighbors yard and it stole my attention and I had to get a picture of it for my photo file. It's not like other flowers in its shape...It has one petal whi...

danash · danash

I am new here so please bear with me as I learn the process. I need suggestions, I am a strong believer in prayer and God but I still need someone to talk to. My daughter who was a heroin addict for 9 years is living with me and her baby 10mths, for the last 3 weeks I have been babysitting from 5 am til 11 pm 6 da...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I am so learning to take better care of myself. Someone mention HALT! I got a little hungry, angry, and tired but not so much lonely. They were right on the button. How do we know what others need w/o totally knowing them? I guess it is a God thing or intuiton. I am so glad there are people on here who "ge...

abram182 · abram182

To say the least, Ive been through much in the last couple monthsMy AW has been sober for a little over a year with one slip last November. Battling pretty severe depression(which has been there as long as the alcholism and both pre-date me), she decided in late January to join an outpatient program for...

sarah1979 · sarah1979

I'm really struggling with this. My husband is the alcoholic in my life. He is currently detoxing by himself refusing any help saying the only person he can trust in the world is himself. He is being so nasty towards me, being hyper critical of everything I do or say. I know this is his illness speaking an...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Wow! I am feeling like I am repeating myself a lot lately. I guess I just want to get my point across. I am so jealous of the time my niece's other aunt gets to spend w/ her on her birthday trip today. Her other aunt is no relation. I am missing out a lot of my nieces & nephews lives living up here. She gets to...

hotrod · hotrod

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AsphyxiateOnMisery · AsphyxiateOnMisery

My addict (fiancee) sleeps a lot. And when I say a lot, I mean like he could go to bed at 11 or 12 at night and sleep all the way til 2 or 3 pm. That's 15-16 hours of sleep. A normal person should get like 8 or 9. It upsets me that I usually wake up at 10 or 11 and sometimes earlier and go about my daily business withou...

Wolfie55 · Wolfie55

I'd like to tell you all the story of Jack and Jill. This isn't the story you think it is. I would like to point out, too, that any relation to persons you think you know is purely coincidental. Sorry its so long but it is what is. Jack is an A. He's had a long struggle with alcohol, drugs and crime since he was 1...

dozer12 · dozer12

My Fiance has been sober for 106 days (and myself 100) and I couldn't be more proud of her. She has had many struggles in her life and has used to self medicate most of her pains. She is going through treatment and AA meetings and is doing extremely well. For a time before she got sober, I admit I enabled a l...

Tracey C · Tracey C

Hi,I've been reading a book called The Laundry List by Tony A. This is an adult child of alcoholics book. In there under the subject of fixing others there's a sentence which reads - "In ACOA I had to learn to let others feel troubled, depressed, miserable, lost or fearful without rushing over a...

AsphyxiateOnMisery · AsphyxiateOnMisery

Hi, my name is Tanya. Basically, my fiancé is a heroin addict and he's been bingeing for the past year with only as much as a week or 2 clean at most, every now and then. I just recently started going to meetings as recommended by my psychiatrist and I've only attended like 2 so far but I think I'm already get...

Tracy · Tracy

I am up and down. Aware I am Hormonal too. I seperated from ABF 2 months ago when he picked up been in AA 3 Years. He is so sick and I am tired, I can not do this anymore. I am so sad I wanted him to get better for everything to be o.k. THIS IS MY WILL God must have different ideas for us. I miss him but know in my heart t...

Grapefruit · Grapefruit

I am 27 and have been dating a Recovering Alcoholic for the past 2 1/2 years. I'm embarressed that I've never attended at Al-anon meeting or reached out to others in a similar situation as my own. I just didn't see a problem for a very long time or the point to inform myself of the disease more. I am now askin...

Momma Mac · Momma Mac

We've been married 28 years. Mostly good; some not as much as others. He's always drank. I guess hindsight, was a functioning alcoholic. He's been ill for five years with chronic anemia. Until 2 weeks ago, his liver was always considered OK with just elevated enzymes from time to time. Now they...

MMVS2012 · MMVS2012

My husband of 4 yrs is an addict, to several things, alcohol, gambling and porn. He is completely non-affectionate now saying he has no drive due to his age and the pain meds he is on for his back. He has no drive nor interest in me. I am somewhat attractive but dont understand why he would want our marrai...

Wolfie55 · Wolfie55

I wish I could talk about my job in here. But, legally, I'm not allowed to go into detail. And since we are all anonymous, one of you could be my boss and I'd never even know it. All I can say is that I work with low bottom alcoholics and addicts and that some of them are personal friends of mine that I either me...

Dolly Llama · Dolly Llama

<insert Serenity Prayer here> <and again> The past 2 days have been a test of my recovery! I need a meeting but the next one I can make is on Friday...possibly tomorrow if I get out of an appointment in time. And tomorrow I am going to hear Joyce Meyer speak, which will be awesome for my spir...

Riven · Riven

I'm new here, here is my story. My husband is an alcoholic. Two years ago he passed out and flooded a large portion of a floor of a 5 star hotel with his face on the shower drain. Last Sept. he drove drunk the wrong way over a one way overpass and woke up in jail... and last Sunday he got drunk and took a girl ba...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I am doing almost exactly what I am told. Got the drier & vacuum fixed today. It is so funny how the smaller things get to me but the big things have been a lighter issue. I am working on slowing down. It is going to be OK but I am a little drained. I need some more sleep then things will probably be more rati...

veeeyloova · veeeyloova

Hey all, new here. My intro is probably just below this in the blog, as I just posted it. I'm in the process of finding an al-anon group that I like, and possibly a sponsor. My question to you folks is this: How is 'higher power' defined for the non-believer? I am agnostic. I believe in something but no...

veeeyloova · veeeyloova

Good morning Al anon family. My name is Kristina and I am new here. I am the adult child of an alcoholic, emotionally abused and neglected as a child. Been through AA/Alateen programs with both my father's addiction, and a sister who had a cocaine problem. Lots of different therapies through my life,...

Mommy2TO · Mommy2TO

This is the first time I'm posting, I just don't know where else to go for support to deal with this. Me and my boyfriend have been dating for almost a year, things were great in the beginning until a couple weeks in when I learned he had a cocaine addiction, I stuck by him and supported him, he ended up going...

usedtobeanyer · usedtobeanyer

We are just back from Easter weekend at my wife's parents. Definitely a challenging week or so and I'd like to just write some stuff down to get it out. Just before we left for our trip, I had a very difficult meeting at work with my bosses' bosses' boss. Yikes. Not only was I told that I wasn't doing a goo...

Breakingfree · Breakingfree

I did not fall into it this morning, but he brought it to my house full force this morning. He brought my 3 1/2 year old to my door she was screaming her lungs off and flinging herself back onto the floor hard where he set her down on my kitchen floor, so he could get my oldest daughters bags out of his car and ru...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I received another check on Monday--more than the last one. I am so blessed that my dad thought of how he was prepared for his death. I am so grateful that he can share so much that he worked for & was able to retire & be happy before he died. How I spend it is really up to me. My old counselor gave me adv...

Aloha · Aloha

If any of you have Facebook, you probably see friends posting images of quotes every now and then. A friend of mine posted the following quote that was in a graphic and I thought it was great and wanted to pass it along. It just rings so true for me: "If you aren't happy being single you will never be ha...

Breakingfree · Breakingfree

When I first dragged my miserable carcass to Al-anon face to face meetings and MIP I had no idea how great life could be. I was a sad and broken. I grew up with alcoholism/addictions in my home and some major dysfunctions that come along with that. When I was a teen I had gotten a butterfly tattoo and a few y...

Chellejm · Chellejm

Is he an alcoholic? My Partner drinks every night, he drinks strong premium lager usually 6+ cans on a work night when he is not working that is doubled if not more. He doesn't miss work because of it and he is generally on time We can watch a movie, only to have to watch it again as he doesn't remember, it's t...

daisy31 · daisy31

Wednesday, May 12, 2010 You are reading from the book The Language of Letting Go Intimacy We can let ourselves be close to people. Many of us have deeply ingrained patterns for sabotaging relationships. Some of us may instinctively terminate a relationship once it moves to a certain level of closene...

JamisonWestfork · JamisonWestfork

I am basically brand new to Al-Anon. I've been to 2 meetings locally and have read a little on here. And i guess I'm trying to figure out a way, or where, to get started. I understand that I have no control over what my addict does. But yet, when it's a spouse, how can you have no expectations? I guess i'm wond...

Wolfie55 · Wolfie55

The word I pulled out of my god box today was FEAR. I was raised in a violent alcoholic household. My father was abusive to my mother on numerous occassions. She would always leave him when things got too bad, scoop all us children up and off we'd go to the old Belmont Hotel down by the waterfront (cheap pla...

DadtoCandE · DadtoCandE

My son has started experimenting with pot. He got caught, his friends got caught. Lots of anger and emotions from kids and parents. Directed everywhere. When I forbid him from going out tonight I showed a lot of anger. He ended up sneaking out, I drove to the place he said he was going to be and I think...

inneedofsupport · inneedofsupport

this is my first time visiting this site and i stumbled across it while i'm at the impass of some critical decisions. i've been married for almost 10 years, have 2 young kids, and was feeling almost content with a decision to tell my alcoholic husband that we need to separate. i told my parent for the firs...

Augustus · Augustus

Hello everyone, I am dealing with a codependent/helplessly addicted wife of 14 years. I have 3 children and I am self employed and feel that I have no life of my own anymore. There is so much to write and so many incidents, but I will try to be concise and simple. My wife's health has diminished to the point...

foxgoddess · foxgoddess

Day 1 was yesterday. Was involved w/ someone who fell off the wagon the week before we started dating a year ago Feb. He wanted to "socially drink" and thought it wasn't a problem b/c he was a former cocaine user. Within 3 weeks it led to total drunkeness, and then I became aware he had to have Xa...

living for me · living for me

After living with my alcoholic, pot-smoking husband for 13 years (3 of them actively engaged in the cycle of using/relapsing) I've decided to leave for three months with my two little girls. I am so scared. I've never been this scared in my life. I'm basically giving up everything and walking away. We...

Pushka · Pushka

I had a major AHA moment last night at a step meeting .. boy oh boy did it open me up to a lot of tears last night and today. We're doing the 4th step and they were talking about assets and that set me off. Water works city .. LOL .. WOW .. I didn't think I had more tears left today and they have flowed off and on al...

daisy31 · daisy31

WoOah! I am coming to terms lately that I think I may INDEED be a control freak! I never would have thought that would be ME????. I am seeing just how I can try to control things like for instance: I do my husbands hair how I like to, I buy him shirts I like on him, I force him to let me trim his ear hair...hah...

Dolly Llama · Dolly Llama

I don't have kids, but I hear from people who do that worrying about your children is part and parcel of being a parent. And that parents tend to always see the little child when they look to their adult children. I get that. My mother has made a career out of telling me how much she worries, can't sleep at n...

emil · emil

Hi Everyone Last night, I went to a face to face meeting. I stayed for the beginning meeting and topic meeting. I voulunteered to be a greeter, so that will help be more consistent attending meetings. The support and the slogans are really beginning to help. The slogans are changing from words o...

Wolfie55 · Wolfie55

I just posted this on the AA Board but I liked it so much I wanted to post it here. I went for a walk yesterday to the corner store. I was going over some stuff in my head. I sponsor a woman who is not only an alcoholic but also a crack and hydromorphone addict. I can't really help her with that and have suggested...

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	Hate how I'm feeling today! (Preview) Today has been one of those days, I'm sure many of you can relate. For some reason, I am getting irritated at myself because I still don't trust my AH. I have forgiven him for all the crap and for the DUI, but I still find myself struggling with trust issues. My therapist thinks that maybe he hasn't hit hi...	ilovedogs	9	608	Apr 17, 2012 by orchidlover
	enmeshment (Preview) I grew up totally glued to my family. Unsticking myself from them took me decades, moving thousands of miles away. Guess what once I moved from my family since that's all I knew that's all I did. I dated co workers in intrigue, dated next door neighbors (the ex was actually a roommate at one point) dat...	orchidlover	6	677	Apr 17, 2012 by orchidlover
	It just goes on and on... (Preview) I'm humbled by how powerful this disease is. Despite attending AA meetings 3 times per week for over 2 years, despite a 30 day stint in an outpatient rehab, despite daily interactions with her sponsor and program people, despite spending this past weekend at a spiritual retreat with other female alc...	usedtobeanyer	14	918	Apr 17, 2012 by orchidlover
	I Think That's About Enough For Me (Preview) Oops. I forgot to put the rest of the post in here. We hear a lot in Al-Anon about unconditional love. Such love makes no demands, exacts no payment, has no expectations. we are free to give it without anticipating or even wanting anything in return because the experience of loving in this way is so rewar...	Wolfie55	5	608	Apr 17, 2012 by orchidlover
	Lying (Preview) Hi everyone! I'm new here. I went to my first Al-anon meeting this week and found a warm environment, full of loving people. After the meeting, a woman took me aside and talked with me. When I asked her about the lying, she was so nonchalant about it. "oh, lying is just part of the disease.&quo...	house cat	18	787	Apr 17, 2012 by orchidlover
	trying to own my power (Preview) Hi All, I am gaining lots of awreness lately although I do not like what I am seeing I know my Hp would not bring it to me unless he thought I was ready to handle it. I am realising how much I have given my power away. My head is a little clearer and I have really been focusing on my recovery. My ex ABF has been ba...	Tracy	4	454	Apr 17, 2012 by AStrongerMe
	Moving Day ACK! (Preview) Lots of changes happening fast! I'm a little anxious, but remembering that these changes are GOOD. And what I am leaving behind is a life that was slowly killing me. Packing up my car with all my earthly belongings today and leaving the home I shared with my AH...f2f meeting, yes I will make the time.....	Dolly Llama	6	629	Apr 17, 2012 by hotrod
	I finally cried at a meeting (Preview) After a year of meetings I guess I finally let my guard down enough for that... At this evening's meeting, I admitted feeling suicidal, and that the only reason I'm not dead is because my sister will need life-long care and I have to stay alive for that. I'm proud of the way my fellow Al-Anon members react...	atheos	10	574	Apr 17, 2012 by Dolly Llama
	I actually did it! (Preview) I actually cleaned on sat. It doesn't totallylook like it but progress not perfection. I just spent a couple of hours, took breaks and was basically satisfied. No one would really notice but me but that is OK today. I am a work in progress. It looks like I might have to go back into that room this coming Sat...	Hoot Nanny	1	337	Apr 16, 2012 by GailMichelle
	I need advice (Preview) Hi, My father has a drinking problem. It has been going on for about 15 years and i really dont see how its going to stop. I have 2 older brothers who feel the same as me. We love our dad but the mood swings and stepping on egg shells is getting to breaking point. My mum and dad are still together and she just le...	help needed	6	583	Apr 16, 2012 by AsphyxiateOnMisery
	Light as a Feather (Preview) My husband and I took this pottery class tonight. It was so special to create something with my hands, you know.. the pieces did not have to be perfect or even close to it but to know I was getting my hands dirty and constructing something of use and uniquely mine... out of just a wet ball of clay. It was re...	Michelle814	7	509	Apr 16, 2012 by Jackie11
	Unhooking (little ventish :)) (Preview) I have had an interesting experience over the past few weeks of having that whole stomach dropping feeling and not been thinking about my AH however recognizing that I'm unhooking from his drama that he wants to create. This whole trip with my mom here I am so sure he has no idea what a jerk he was to me and...	Pushka	10	635	Apr 16, 2012 by hotrod
	help (Preview) I am living with a man who drinks about every other day, at least 8 beers at a time, not to mention vodka. after 3 or 4 beers, his personality changes and he becomes the nastiest person ever. i can't take it anymore and need to move, but I have nowhere to go. This man reminds me of my dad who I now care for an...	too tired 61	8	550	Apr 15, 2012 by Jennifer
	Today is a good day (Preview) Today is a Good Day. I think its important that we share that sometimes, too.	Wolfie55	3	291	Apr 15, 2012 by Jerry F
	Acceptance, Struggles, Grieving (Preview) It has been a TOUGH week. Last week I was back at work and sad, but coping fairly well. This week has been awful. I miss my mom so much. And while my AH has dialed back his rage a ton over the last few months, and in the week or so surrounding my mom's death was kinder and more supportive than he's been in year...	stephaniej	10	610	Apr 15, 2012 by Michelle814
	The Gift of Desperation (Preview) I heard a popular preacher last night (Joyce Meyer, she was great!) and a phrase during someone's testimony stuck with me. This particular lady said she was a former drug addict and just had a really unforunate life, a victim of sexual assaults, abortions after being raped, etc, just really sad stuf...	Dolly Llama	5	652	Apr 15, 2012 by Wolfie55
	Say it and say it out loud... (Preview) Aloha Family...I've been pondering the Police Commission meeting which was called this last Friday. They were hearing my complaint of the assault and I went. They have open meetings just like Al-Anon...LOL however it isn't a Family Group meeting except for yours truely. My PTSD and lack of sle...	Jerry F	10	498	Apr 15, 2012 by Peggy7
	Just a funny with my Al-Anon spouse (Preview) My spouse and I work for the same outfit. She is hourly and I am on contract which allows me to be outside taking care of their property and just enjoying all the lovely HP artwork. It is a hotel and I come in contact with some of the guest from time to time both men and women. I tell my wife about all of the i...	Jerry F	6	785	Apr 15, 2012 by Peggy7
	The Bird of Paradise (Preview) that is what my Avatar picture is and no I'm not supposing you all don't know. I put that up because I got introduced to this one particular bloom in my neighbors yard and it stole my attention and I had to get a picture of it for my photo file. It's not like other flowers in its shape...It has one petal whi...	Jerry F	11	445	Apr 15, 2012 by Peggy7
	am i enabling (Preview) I am new here so please bear with me as I learn the process. I need suggestions, I am a strong believer in prayer and God but I still need someone to talk to. My daughter who was a heroin addict for 9 years is living with me and her baby 10mths, for the last 3 weeks I have been babysitting from 5 am til 11 pm 6 da...	danash	28	760	Apr 15, 2012 by hotrod
	yesterday I was HALTing but today not so much! (Preview) I am so learning to take better care of myself. Someone mention HALT! I got a little hungry, angry, and tired but not so much lonely. They were right on the button. How do we know what others need w/o totally knowing them? I guess it is a God thing or intuiton. I am so glad there are people on here who "ge...	Hoot Nanny	2	360	Apr 15, 2012 by Wolfie55
	Anybody's experience dreadfully similar? (Preview) To say the least, Ive been through much in the last couple monthsMy AW has been sober for a little over a year with one slip last November. Battling pretty severe depression(which has been there as long as the alcholism and both pre-date me), she decided in late January to join an outpatient program for...	abram182	10	662	Apr 15, 2012 by Auntyaya
	How do you best respond to nasty behaviour and comments from alcoholic? (Preview) I'm really struggling with this. My husband is the alcoholic in my life. He is currently detoxing by himself refusing any help saying the only person he can trust in the world is himself. He is being so nasty towards me, being hyper critical of everything I do or say. I know this is his illness speaking an...	sarah1979	7	2739	Apr 14, 2012 by sarah1979
	don't mean to REPEAT myself! (Preview) Wow! I am feeling like I am repeating myself a lot lately. I guess I just want to get my point across. I am so jealous of the time my niece's other aunt gets to spend w/ her on her birthday trip today. Her other aunt is no relation. I am missing out a lot of my nieces & nephews lives living up here. She gets to...	Hoot Nanny	2	289	Apr 14, 2012 by oldergal
	Step Work Board (Preview) http://stepwork.activeboard.com/forum.spark?forumID=427	hotrod	1	260	Apr 14, 2012 by Wolfie55
	Question to those who are close to or in a relationship with an addict. (Preview) My addict (fiancee) sleeps a lot. And when I say a lot, I mean like he could go to bed at 11 or 12 at night and sleep all the way til 2 or 3 pm. That's 15-16 hours of sleep. A normal person should get like 8 or 9. It upsets me that I usually wake up at 10 or 11 and sometimes earlier and go about my daily business withou...	AsphyxiateOnMisery	7	733	Apr 14, 2012 by AsphyxiateOnMisery
	Jack and Jill (Preview) I'd like to tell you all the story of Jack and Jill. This isn't the story you think it is. I would like to point out, too, that any relation to persons you think you know is purely coincidental. Sorry its so long but it is what is. Jack is an A. He's had a long struggle with alcohol, drugs and crime since he was 1...	Wolfie55	2	496	Apr 13, 2012 by Mattie
	New and curious (Preview) My Fiance has been sober for 106 days (and myself 100) and I couldn't be more proud of her. She has had many struggles in her life and has used to self medicate most of her pains. She is going through treatment and AA meetings and is doing extremely well. For a time before she got sober, I admit I enabled a l...	dozer12	6	561	Apr 14, 2012 by pinkchip
	Fixing Others (Preview) Hi,I've been reading a book called The Laundry List by Tony A. This is an adult child of alcoholics book. In there under the subject of fixing others there's a sentence which reads - "In ACOA I had to learn to let others feel troubled, depressed, miserable, lost or fearful without rushing over a...	Tracey C	10	587	Apr 14, 2012 by pinkchip
	Just started alanon/naranon meetings. (Preview) Hi, my name is Tanya. Basically, my fiancé is a heroin addict and he's been bingeing for the past year with only as much as a week or 2 clean at most, every now and then. I just recently started going to meetings as recommended by my psychiatrist and I've only attended like 2 so far but I think I'm already get...	AsphyxiateOnMisery	10	1198	Apr 14, 2012 by pinkchip
	feelings (Preview) I am up and down. Aware I am Hormonal too. I seperated from ABF 2 months ago when he picked up been in AA 3 Years. He is so sick and I am tired, I can not do this anymore. I am so sad I wanted him to get better for everything to be o.k. THIS IS MY WILL God must have different ideas for us. I miss him but know in my heart t...	Tracy	5	346	Apr 13, 2012 by GailMichelle
	Been dating a Recovering Alcoholic for the past 2 1/2 years! (Preview) I am 27 and have been dating a Recovering Alcoholic for the past 2 1/2 years. I'm embarressed that I've never attended at Al-anon meeting or reached out to others in a similar situation as my own. I just didn't see a problem for a very long time or the point to inform myself of the disease more. I am now askin...	Grapefruit	9	910	Apr 13, 2012 by Grapefruit
	Where to Begin? (Preview) We've been married 28 years. Mostly good; some not as much as others. He's always drank. I guess hindsight, was a functioning alcoholic. He's been ill for five years with chronic anemia. Until 2 weeks ago, his liver was always considered OK with just elevated enzymes from time to time. Now they...	Momma Mac	7	795	Apr 13, 2012 by Breakingfree
	New here, not sure where to start (Preview) My husband of 4 yrs is an addict, to several things, alcohol, gambling and porn. He is completely non-affectionate now saying he has no drive due to his age and the pain meds he is on for his back. He has no drive nor interest in me. I am somewhat attractive but dont understand why he would want our marrai...	MMVS2012	8	395	Apr 13, 2012 by Breakingfree
	Gods Hands (Preview) I wish I could talk about my job in here. But, legally, I'm not allowed to go into detail. And since we are all anonymous, one of you could be my boss and I'd never even know it. All I can say is that I work with low bottom alcoholics and addicts and that some of them are personal friends of mine that I either me...	Wolfie55	9	444	Apr 13, 2012 by Michelle814
	Frustrated by AH's emails (Preview) <insert Serenity Prayer here> <and again> The past 2 days have been a test of my recovery! I need a meeting but the next one I can make is on Friday...possibly tomorrow if I get out of an appointment in time. And tomorrow I am going to hear Joyce Meyer speak, which will be awesome for my spir...	Dolly Llama	12	622	Apr 13, 2012 by Dolly Llama
	New to the site... my story (Preview) I'm new here, here is my story. My husband is an alcoholic. Two years ago he passed out and flooded a large portion of a floor of a 5 star hotel with his face on the shower drain. Last Sept. he drove drunk the wrong way over a one way overpass and woke up in jail... and last Sunday he got drunk and took a girl ba...	Riven	16	551	Apr 13, 2012 by hotrod
	this is a real quickie! (Preview) I am doing almost exactly what I am told. Got the drier & vacuum fixed today. It is so funny how the smaller things get to me but the big things have been a lighter issue. I am working on slowing down. It is going to be OK but I am a little drained. I need some more sleep then things will probably be more rati...	Hoot Nanny	2	304	Apr 13, 2012 by Wolfie55
	defining 'higher power' (Preview) Hey all, new here. My intro is probably just below this in the blog, as I just posted it. I'm in the process of finding an al-anon group that I like, and possibly a sponsor. My question to you folks is this: How is 'higher power' defined for the non-believer? I am agnostic. I believe in something but no...	veeeyloova	12	4119	Apr 12, 2012 by veeeyloova
	new here! my story (Preview) Good morning Al anon family. My name is Kristina and I am new here. I am the adult child of an alcoholic, emotionally abused and neglected as a child. Been through AA/Alateen programs with both my father's addiction, and a sister who had a cocaine problem. Lots of different therapies through my life,...	veeeyloova	7	499	Apr 12, 2012 by veeeyloova
	Don't Know what to do.... (Preview) This is the first time I'm posting, I just don't know where else to go for support to deal with this. Me and my boyfriend have been dating for almost a year, things were great in the beginning until a couple weeks in when I learned he had a cocaine addiction, I stuck by him and supported him, he ended up going...	Mommy2TO	7	464	Apr 12, 2012 by Pushka
	Easter weekend (Preview) We are just back from Easter weekend at my wife's parents. Definitely a challenging week or so and I'd like to just write some stuff down to get it out. Just before we left for our trip, I had a very difficult meeting at work with my bosses' bosses' boss. Yikes. Not only was I told that I wasn't doing a goo...	usedtobeanyer	5	556	Apr 12, 2012 by hotrod
	ExAH and his drama (Preview) I did not fall into it this morning, but he brought it to my house full force this morning. He brought my 3 1/2 year old to my door she was screaming her lungs off and flinging herself back onto the floor hard where he set her down on my kitchen floor, so he could get my oldest daughters bags out of his car and ru...	Breakingfree	7	520	Apr 12, 2012 by Breakingfree
	more money & way too much! (Preview) I received another check on Monday--more than the last one. I am so blessed that my dad thought of how he was prepared for his death. I am so grateful that he can share so much that he worked for & was able to retire & be happy before he died. How I spend it is really up to me. My old counselor gave me adv...	Hoot Nanny	5	488	Apr 12, 2012 by hotrod
	Great quote (Preview) If any of you have Facebook, you probably see friends posting images of quotes every now and then. A friend of mine posted the following quote that was in a graphic and I thought it was great and wanted to pass it along. It just rings so true for me: "If you aren't happy being single you will never be ha...	Aloha	10	550	Apr 12, 2012 by MeTwo2
	metamorphosis from caterpillar to butterfly (Preview) When I first dragged my miserable carcass to Al-anon face to face meetings and MIP I had no idea how great life could be. I was a sad and broken. I grew up with alcoholism/addictions in my home and some major dysfunctions that come along with that. When I was a teen I had gotten a butterfly tattoo and a few y...	Breakingfree	6	851	Apr 12, 2012 by pinkchip
	I think my partner is an alcoholic but he denies he has a problem (Preview) Is he an alcoholic? My Partner drinks every night, he drinks strong premium lager usually 6+ cans on a work night when he is not working that is doubled if not more. He doesn't miss work because of it and he is generally on time We can watch a movie, only to have to watch it again as he doesn't remember, it's t...	Chellejm	8	613	Apr 11, 2012 by AStrongerMe
	This read on Intimacy nails it for me (Preview) Wednesday, May 12, 2010 You are reading from the book The Language of Letting Go Intimacy We can let ourselves be close to people. Many of us have deeply ingrained patterns for sabotaging relationships. Some of us may instinctively terminate a relationship once it moves to a certain level of closene...	daisy31	4	455	Apr 11, 2012 by AStrongerMe
	Expectations (Preview) I am basically brand new to Al-Anon. I've been to 2 meetings locally and have read a little on here. And i guess I'm trying to figure out a way, or where, to get started. I understand that I have no control over what my addict does. But yet, when it's a spouse, how can you have no expectations? I guess i'm wond...	JamisonWestfork	4	820	Apr 11, 2012 by bettyboop
	Sometimes I Miss the Cage (Preview) The word I pulled out of my god box today was FEAR. I was raised in a violent alcoholic household. My father was abusive to my mother on numerous occassions. She would always leave him when things got too bad, scoop all us children up and off we'd go to the old Belmont Hotel down by the waterfront (cheap pla...	Wolfie55	5	590	Apr 11, 2012 by Jerry F
	need a prayer (Preview) My son has started experimenting with pot. He got caught, his friends got caught. Lots of anger and emotions from kids and parents. Directed everywhere. When I forbid him from going out tonight I showed a lot of anger. He ended up sneaking out, I drove to the place he said he was going to be and I think...	DadtoCandE	7	691	Apr 11, 2012 by maryjane
	newby - overhwhelmed with decisions (Preview) this is my first time visiting this site and i stumbled across it while i'm at the impass of some critical decisions. i've been married for almost 10 years, have 2 young kids, and was feeling almost content with a decision to tell my alcoholic husband that we need to separate. i told my parent for the firs...	inneedofsupport	4	515	Apr 11, 2012 by Wolfie55
	Maliciously indifferent wife (Preview) Hello everyone, I am dealing with a codependent/helplessly addicted wife of 14 years. I have 3 children and I am self employed and feel that I have no life of my own anymore. There is so much to write and so many incidents, but I will try to be concise and simple. My wife's health has diminished to the point...	Augustus	16	1122	Apr 11, 2012 by Augustus
	just started Al Anon (Preview) Day 1 was yesterday. Was involved w/ someone who fell off the wagon the week before we started dating a year ago Feb. He wanted to "socially drink" and thought it wasn't a problem b/c he was a former cocaine user. Within 3 weeks it led to total drunkeness, and then I became aware he had to have Xa...	foxgoddess	3	304	Apr 11, 2012 by Breakingfree
	TIme Out (Preview) After living with my alcoholic, pot-smoking husband for 13 years (3 of them actively engaged in the cycle of using/relapsing) I've decided to leave for three months with my two little girls. I am so scared. I've never been this scared in my life. I'm basically giving up everything and walking away. We...	living for me	10	437	Apr 11, 2012 by nola
	Emotionally vulnerable (Preview) I had a major AHA moment last night at a step meeting .. boy oh boy did it open me up to a lot of tears last night and today. We're doing the 4th step and they were talking about assets and that set me off. Water works city .. LOL .. WOW .. I didn't think I had more tears left today and they have flowed off and on al...	Pushka	15	578	Apr 11, 2012 by Doozy
	I think I may be a control freak! (Preview) WoOah! I am coming to terms lately that I think I may INDEED be a control freak! I never would have thought that would be ME????. I am seeing just how I can try to control things like for instance: I do my husbands hair how I like to, I buy him shirts I like on him, I force him to let me trim his ear hair...hah...	daisy31	11	750	Apr 11, 2012 by Doozy
	Forever babied- Advice on dealing with mother! (Preview) I don't have kids, but I hear from people who do that worrying about your children is part and parcel of being a parent. And that parents tend to always see the little child when they look to their adult children. I get that. My mother has made a career out of telling me how much she worries, can't sleep at n...	Dolly Llama	19	769	Apr 11, 2012 by Doozy
	went to a face to face meeting (Preview) Hi Everyone Last night, I went to a face to face meeting. I stayed for the beginning meeting and topic meeting. I voulunteered to be a greeter, so that will help be more consistent attending meetings. The support and the slogans are really beginning to help. The slogans are changing from words o...	emil	4	562	Apr 11, 2012 by Karen S
	How Much Time You Got Buddy? (Preview) I just posted this on the AA Board but I liked it so much I wanted to post it here. I went for a walk yesterday to the corner store. I was going over some stuff in my head. I sponsor a woman who is not only an alcoholic but also a crack and hydromorphone addict. I can't really help her with that and have suggested...	Wolfie55	22	1146	Apr 11, 2012 by Wolfie55
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