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don't mean to REPEAT myself!
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Wow! I am feeling like I am repeating myself a lot lately. I guess I just want to get my point across. I am so jealous of the time my niece's other aunt gets to spend w/ her on her birthday trip today. Her other aunt is no relation. I am missing out a lot of my nieces & nephews lives living up here. She gets to...
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Step Work Board
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Question to those who are close to or in a relationship with an addict.
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My addict (fiancee) sleeps a lot. And when I say a lot, I mean like he could go to bed at 11 or 12 at night and sleep all the way til 2 or 3 pm. That's 15-16 hours of sleep. A normal person should get like 8 or 9. It upsets me that I usually wake up at 10 or 11 and sometimes earlier and go about my daily business withou...
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Jack and Jill
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I'd like to tell you all the story of Jack and Jill. This isn't the story you think it is. I would like to point out, too, that any relation to persons you think you know is purely coincidental. Sorry its so long but it is what is. Jack is an A. He's had a long struggle with alcohol, drugs and crime since he was 1...
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New and curious
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My Fiance has been sober for 106 days (and myself 100) and I couldn't be more proud of her. She has had many struggles in her life and has used to self medicate most of her pains. She is going through treatment and AA meetings and is doing extremely well. For a time before she got sober, I admit I enabled a l...
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Fixing Others
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Hi,I've been reading a book called The Laundry List by Tony A. This is an adult child of alcoholics book. In there under the subject of fixing others there's a sentence which reads - "In ACOA I had to learn to let others feel troubled, depressed, miserable, lost or fearful without rushing over a...
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Tracey C
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Just started alanon/naranon meetings.
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Hi, my name is Tanya. Basically, my fiancé is a heroin addict and he's been bingeing for the past year with only as much as a week or 2 clean at most, every now and then. I just recently started going to meetings as recommended by my psychiatrist and I've only attended like 2 so far but I think I'm already get...
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feelings
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I am up and down. Aware I am Hormonal too. I seperated from ABF 2 months ago when he picked up been in AA 3 Years. He is so sick and I am tired, I can not do this anymore. I am so sad I wanted him to get better for everything to be o.k. THIS IS MY WILL God must have different ideas for us. I miss him but know in my heart t...
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Tracy
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Been dating a Recovering Alcoholic for the past 2 1/2 years!
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I am 27 and have been dating a Recovering Alcoholic for the past 2 1/2 years. I'm embarressed that I've never attended at Al-anon meeting or reached out to others in a similar situation as my own. I just didn't see a problem for a very long time or the point to inform myself of the disease more. I am now askin...
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Grapefruit
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Where to Begin?
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We've been married 28 years. Mostly good; some not as much as others. He's always drank. I guess hindsight, was a functioning alcoholic. He's been ill for five years with chronic anemia. Until 2 weeks ago, his liver was always considered OK with just elevated enzymes from time to time. Now they...
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Momma Mac
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New here, not sure where to start
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My husband of 4 yrs is an addict, to several things, alcohol, gambling and porn. He is completely non-affectionate now saying he has no drive due to his age and the pain meds he is on for his back. He has no drive nor interest in me. I am somewhat attractive but dont understand why he would want our marrai...
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MMVS2012
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Gods Hands
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I wish I could talk about my job in here. But, legally, I'm not allowed to go into detail. And since we are all anonymous, one of you could be my boss and I'd never even know it. All I can say is that I work with low bottom alcoholics and addicts and that some of them are personal friends of mine that I either me...
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Wolfie55
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Frustrated by AH's emails
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<insert Serenity Prayer here> <and again> The past 2 days have been a test of my recovery! I need a meeting but the next one I can make is on Friday...possibly tomorrow if I get out of an appointment in time. And tomorrow I am going to hear Joyce Meyer speak, which will be awesome for my spir...
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Dolly Llama
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New to the site... my story
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I'm new here, here is my story. My husband is an alcoholic. Two years ago he passed out and flooded a large portion of a floor of a 5 star hotel with his face on the shower drain. Last Sept. he drove drunk the wrong way over a one way overpass and woke up in jail... and last Sunday he got drunk and took a girl ba...
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Riven
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this is a real quickie!
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I am doing almost exactly what I am told. Got the drier & vacuum fixed today. It is so funny how the smaller things get to me but the big things have been a lighter issue. I am working on slowing down. It is going to be OK but I am a little drained. I need some more sleep then things will probably be more rati...
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Hoot Nanny
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defining 'higher power'
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Hey all, new here. My intro is probably just below this in the blog, as I just posted it. I'm in the process of finding an al-anon group that I like, and possibly a sponsor. My question to you folks is this: How is 'higher power' defined for the non-believer? I am agnostic. I believe in something but no...
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new here! my story
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Good morning Al anon family. My name is Kristina and I am new here. I am the adult child of an alcoholic, emotionally abused and neglected as a child. Been through AA/Alateen programs with both my father's addiction, and a sister who had a cocaine problem. Lots of different therapies through my life,...
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Don't Know what to do....
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This is the first time I'm posting, I just don't know where else to go for support to deal with this. Me and my boyfriend have been dating for almost a year, things were great in the beginning until a couple weeks in when I learned he had a cocaine addiction, I stuck by him and supported him, he ended up going...
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Mommy2TO
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Easter weekend
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We are just back from Easter weekend at my wife's parents. Definitely a challenging week or so and I'd like to just write some stuff down to get it out.
Just before we left for our trip, I had a very difficult meeting at work with my bosses' bosses' boss. Yikes. Not only was I told that I wasn't doing a goo...
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usedtobeanyer
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ExAH and his drama
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I did not fall into it this morning, but he brought it to my house full force this morning. He brought my 3 1/2 year old to my door she was screaming her lungs off and flinging herself back onto the floor hard where he set her down on my kitchen floor, so he could get my oldest daughters bags out of his car and ru...
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Breakingfree
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more money & way too much!
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I received another check on Monday--more than the last one. I am so blessed that my dad thought of how he was prepared for his death. I am so grateful that he can share so much that he worked for & was able to retire & be happy before he died. How I spend it is really up to me. My old counselor gave me adv...
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Hoot Nanny
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Great quote
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If any of you have Facebook, you probably see friends posting images of quotes every now and then. A friend of mine posted the following quote that was in a graphic and I thought it was great and wanted to pass it along. It just rings so true for me: "If you aren't happy being single you will never be ha...
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Aloha
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metamorphosis from caterpillar to butterfly
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When I first dragged my miserable carcass to Al-anon face to face meetings and MIP I had no idea how great life could be. I was a sad and broken. I grew up with alcoholism/addictions in my home and some major dysfunctions that come along with that. When I was a teen I had gotten a butterfly tattoo and a few y...
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Breakingfree
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I think my partner is an alcoholic but he denies he has a problem
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Is he an alcoholic? My Partner drinks every night, he drinks strong premium lager usually 6+ cans on a work night when he is not working that is doubled if not more. He doesn't miss work because of it and he is generally on time We can watch a movie, only to have to watch it again as he doesn't remember, it's t...
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This read on Intimacy nails it for me
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Wednesday, May 12, 2010 You are reading from the book The Language of Letting Go Intimacy We can let ourselves be close to people. Many of us have deeply ingrained patterns for sabotaging relationships. Some of us may instinctively terminate a relationship once it moves to a certain level of closene...
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daisy31
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Expectations
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I am basically brand new to Al-Anon. I've been to 2 meetings locally and have read a little on here. And i guess I'm trying to figure out a way, or where, to get started. I understand that I have no control over what my addict does. But yet, when it's a spouse, how can you have no expectations? I guess i'm wond...
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JamisonWestfork
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Sometimes I Miss the Cage
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The word I pulled out of my god box today was FEAR. I was raised in a violent alcoholic household. My father was abusive to my mother on numerous occassions. She would always leave him when things got too bad, scoop all us children up and off we'd go to the old Belmont Hotel down by the waterfront (cheap pla...
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Wolfie55
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need a prayer
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My son has started experimenting with pot. He got caught, his friends got caught. Lots of anger and emotions from kids and parents. Directed everywhere. When I forbid him from going out tonight I showed a lot of anger. He ended up sneaking out, I drove to the place he said he was going to be and I think...
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DadtoCandE
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newby - overhwhelmed with decisions
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this is my first time visiting this site and i stumbled across it while i'm at the impass of some critical decisions. i've been married for almost 10 years, have 2 young kids, and was feeling almost content with a decision to tell my alcoholic husband that we need to separate. i told my parent for the firs...
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inneedofsupport
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Maliciously indifferent wife
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Hello everyone, I am dealing with a codependent/helplessly addicted wife of 14 years. I have 3 children and I am self employed and feel that I have no life of my own anymore. There is so much to write and so many incidents, but I will try to be concise and simple. My wife's health has diminished to the point...
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Augustus
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just started Al Anon
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Day 1 was yesterday. Was involved w/ someone who fell off the wagon the week before we started dating a year ago Feb. He wanted to "socially drink" and thought it wasn't a problem b/c he was a former cocaine user. Within 3 weeks it led to total drunkeness, and then I became aware he had to have Xa...
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foxgoddess
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TIme Out
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After living with my alcoholic, pot-smoking husband for 13 years (3 of them actively engaged in the cycle of using/relapsing) I've decided to leave for three months with my two little girls. I am so scared. I've never been this scared in my life. I'm basically giving up everything and walking away. We...
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living for me
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Emotionally vulnerable
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I had a major AHA moment last night at a step meeting .. boy oh boy did it open me up to a lot of tears last night and today. We're doing the 4th step and they were talking about assets and that set me off. Water works city .. LOL .. WOW .. I didn't think I had more tears left today and they have flowed off and on al...
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Pushka
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I think I may be a control freak!
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WoOah! I am coming to terms lately that I think I may INDEED be a control freak! I never would have thought that would be ME????. I am seeing just how I can try to control things like for instance: I do my husbands hair how I like to, I buy him shirts I like on him, I force him to let me trim his ear hair...hah...
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daisy31
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Forever babied- Advice on dealing with mother!
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I don't have kids, but I hear from people who do that worrying about your children is part and parcel of being a parent. And that parents tend to always see the little child when they look to their adult children. I get that. My mother has made a career out of telling me how much she worries, can't sleep at n...
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Dolly Llama
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went to a face to face meeting
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Hi Everyone Last night, I went to a face to face meeting. I stayed for the beginning meeting and topic meeting. I voulunteered to be a greeter, so that will help be more consistent attending meetings. The support and the slogans are really beginning to help. The slogans are changing from words o...
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emil
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How Much Time You Got Buddy?
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I just posted this on the AA Board but I liked it so much I wanted to post it here. I went for a walk yesterday to the corner store. I was going over some stuff in my head. I sponsor a woman who is not only an alcoholic but also a crack and hydromorphone addict. I can't really help her with that and have suggested...
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Wolfie55
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surprised I would go back to old habits
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A couple of nights ago my husband was drinking non alcoholic beer. He poured it in a red cup. I suddenly was thinking perhaps he switched it for a real beer and found myself looking in the garbage. It was a minor regression, but I was was actually surprised I did it. I really have to work my program; I c...
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emil
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feeling very hurt with actions of A-son
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Recently my son was involved in a hold up of a store where the owner was hurt by the car he was a passenger in, I rang my son today to tell him that the man had been finally released from hospital. I think I cared more than he did. I am still very angry over the situation and while some are telling me that I must st...
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maire rua
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How many times can you heart break
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I've been absent from the board for a little while because my computer moved out with my husband in early February. But I need some help working through my latest heartbreak, so I'm sneaking on my work computer. My AH husband moved out in Feb, after a 18 year relationship because I said NO MORE. This l...
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Iris lover of dogs
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Easter Feaster fallout
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Aloha all...the Easter Feaster is my home groups (AA) annual tradition breakfast potluck after the meeting. I draws a crowd and part of the crowd is made up of members who haven't seen each other for a while...at least a year. The fallout came this morning as I was talking with one of my friends who at...
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Jerry F
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We're Done- Mixed Feelings
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My AH and I have decided to proceed with a divorce. We've been separated for a year as of this weekend and between his continued drinking problem and our financial mess due to his poor business decisions (albeit, decisions that were made with a pickled brain), there were really no other options left. I...
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Green Eyes
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how to set up boundaries with teenager?
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I need help and I know its the right place! I am about to separate from my AH end of June, which is end of school. My daughter doesnt know yet, reason being she needs to write her exams without extra stress, which is fine. My Ah and I have never agreed on parenting rules, him wanting to be her friend, me acting...
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Peaceful Easter
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Hey everyone, lap top is broken yet again so I don't have as much access to this site as I usually do. Just wanted to say that I hope you all had a wonderful Easter as mine was very quiet and peaceful. All the best <3 Corgi
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Corgi2
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teenagers, drama- detachment
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How do you detach from your kids. They are hurting so much from the chaos that was caused in their lives and are causing even more chaos, because they don't know any better.
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sam1609
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A pattern of pushing people away
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Hello everyone. I have been struggeling somewhat with being organized. I made 2 scheduling mistakes with my kids basketball games today and they missed them both. My husband was very frusterated with me. I do tend to not follow through with things sometimes and I remember that I have been aware t...
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willowtree
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tired
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Hi all my ex ABf started drinking again about 6 weeks ago and is in a really bad place. We had a chat couple of days agao I seperated from him as soon as he picked up I can not live with active drinking. He has been in AA for 3 years and maanged 9 months sober once. I have uped my meetings and just started attenin...
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Tracy
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Final step to recovery.
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Hi there, my name is Nicole. I am a Senior at Boise State University. I recently ended a long term relationship with someone who abused alcohol regularly. Over the course of two years I changed and became a weak person that eventually, no one would recognize. I was depressed with no solution ahead of me...
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nicoleinrecovery
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"Sick and tired of being sick and tired " of A/A daugher's business
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Hi! I think I already know the answer, I've a situation where my daughter and I are not talking agggain, she isn't returning my calls. I spoke to my 7 y.o. granddaughter's father who she lives with, he told me is very excited about coming on spring break, she has been gone since Dec. she is 4-5hrs. driv...
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Highlyfavored
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3 Al Anon Meetings....yay!!!
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I'm getting a little more comfortable and share a bit. The people are SO nice and caring. I'm learning little by little (I know it's a long haul), but I'm motivated. What I'm feeling now is the sadness when I get the 'blocked' phone calls that I know are from him....that he is thinking about me, and unfort...
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thechee
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First meeting today!
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Hi- i went to my first al anon meeting today. it was great! everyone was so nice to me and i felt really welcomed. i was given a newcomers packet and i can't believe how much i've learned already. i have a lot of work ahead of me, but i'm ready. i look forward to getting to know you guys.
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pickles77
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Newbie taking care of mom
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My dad committed sucide last year and now I'm taking care of my mother in her late 70's. Mom was always a "functional alcoholic" who drank at lunch but held down a job and just got wasted with dad over the weekends. Last night I seriously thought she had overdosed taking ambein as well as drink...
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CCM35
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Learning and falling down
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Or maybe it's falling down and learning. Nothing changes .. nothing changes. Well, seriously nothing has changed, I'm not here to take his inventory .. with no program of recovery, with no follow through on his part. It is what it is .. I just can't allow the chaos back into our home. I know I deserve...
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Pushka
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Heartbroken and confused
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I am new and this is my first post, my son has drank 7 nights a week for the last 7 years and says he doesnt have a problem, he lost his job last year, and seems more than happy to sit round, doing nothing, and letting everyone run round after him, I threw him out of the family home a year ago and he has never forgi...
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stacie
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Hard to identify this feeling
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Have you been there? Just feeling *off* somehow, something vague, but enough to know something is dragging on you? At first I thought it was disappointment in myself for not taking action on a personal goal. But I started on it yesterday, and don't feel any better today. (But am proud I took the firs...
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Dolly Llama
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I need the anger
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I think it's been about six months since my last post. 19 months since my ex alcoholic long term boyfriend and I split 10 months since we officially called it DONE about 3 months since I've been less than miserably depressed and not thinking of either him or how much I wasted with him and one day since I...
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glad
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Overwhelmed
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I am moving forward.. but man, I am emotionally exhausted. All the meditation is starting to wear me out. I don't think I can handle the spiritual overload. I came from no faith so this is all new. My soul if probably happy but my brain hurts. I asked my husband if he was high tonight. Why did I do that? I kn...
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Michelle814
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The selfishn-ness
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Now that I've begun to see it, I see my A's selfishness daily. When I walk in the door I give him a hug and then he stairs at me. "do I get a kiss?". It's like a twisted test of love.
Then I notice he never asks "how are YOU?". Even after I told him earlier that I was feeling miserable. Ju...
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Sunshine daydream
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Channeling "Pig Pen"
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Remember the character from Charlie Brown who had the cloud of dirt around him? That's me -- only it isn't dirt, it is negative attitude. I know it's HALT..but I had a meltdown last night...I'm SO tired, and can't keep up with the demands on me. This morning I'm feeling guilty..I don't want to be that per...
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rehprof
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Husband in detox
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Hello again, well my AH started texting me yesterday morning and calling telling me he was dying.....asking for help. He kept asking to come home but I said that I was not counselor nor a rehad facility and that (I) could not help him. He was coming down off off cocaine and alcohol at this point so he was go...
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michellelong
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