Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

jorjorjor · jorjorjor

Hey hey, I have a wonderful loving partner, but lately I keep finding myself taking things personally and reacting in bitter resentful ways towards her. I take almost everything she says personally and before I know it I'm reacting in this grumpy negative way thats no fun! We we were a really good frie...

dragonflys · dragonflys

Why do I feel I need validation that what I am doing is the right thing for my kids and myself? I need to start trusting myself a little more!! My son invited a friend over!!! I know, I know, this doesnt sound like much to others, but for me, for HIM, it was HUGE! My son has not invited friends over to our hou...

Compromise22 · Compromise22

Hello, I am new to this site, and new to Al-Anon, but I thought that it might be helpful for me to share my story and get some opinions from people who have been in a similar situations themselves. So here it goes: About a year and a half ago, I started dating who I didn't realize then was a fucitoning alcohol...

gracealone · gracealone

Hi all, My title is meant to grab attention, beacause I really do think I need to move all the way out of denial. It seems like once I admitted that my husband was an alcoholic, the ball has kept rolliing and now I am seeing that our marriage has been a shell that I have constructed to make me feel like I had a n...

likemyheart · likemyheart

I got in an accident tonight. Well, incident really since there aren't really accidents, they are incidents - things that could have been avoided if someone had been paying closer attention. But, I digress (ha, digress tickles me for some reason, it means to stray from the point), Let me assure you th...

bud · bud

Ive been feeling very angry lately and building skyscraper-style resentments. Its making me feel horrible and fatigued to the point where Im wondering how Im going to make it to the end of the week. Ive been beating myself up asking how can I forgive when the insanity (my A's and mine) is escalating,...

Aloha · Aloha

Folks, I've got to turn myself in. You know what I love about this program? It's that it's taught me to walk through life and question things when I'm starting to behave in weird ways. It's also taught me where some of those behaviors are coming from, what they look like, what their cause usually is. I rec...

lynna50 · lynna50

I am desperate for some help and perspective. I have been dating a recovering alcoholic, 2 years sober, who seemed to work a good program. He had been an alcoholic for 30 years, was drinking a gallon of gin a day when he finally hit bottom. His father was an alcoholic (now deceased) and his mother control...

pikelpak · pikelpak

Hi, When I got together with my A I started to loose confidence and I ended up neglecting and somewhat abandoning my career. I so can't wait to get up early again, driving to work and do something productive. Things are so chaotic right now. I thought God sent me the perfect job opportunity. I found it whe...

ejohnson55 · ejohnson55

My husband is in in-patient treatment :/ I am happy that he is getting help but I am so scared. I visited him yesterday, he seemed happy and relieved to finally deal with his issues. However I have heard it all before, I just want this to work so bad. I am tired of feeling like I am getting the life sucked out o...

slogan_jim · slogan_jim

Hi everyone, my name is slogan_Jim. Today I woke up feeling great and in a good mood. Sharp contrast to yesterday. I had soccer last night and it felt good interacting with others and getting my heart rate going. I havn't been able to get to many face to face meetings because I have chosen to take on some OT...

Dazzy · Dazzy

I have been with my husband for 4 years. He has been drinking since he was very young... mostly beer. He has had drug problems alot in the past but now only drinks. We have talked about his drinking and he knows that he is an alcoholic. We have argued alot and he will drink less for a while then goes back to dri...

shimo · shimo

I am unable to chair the Monday a.m. Al-Anon Meeting (Sept 24) as I have a Dr.'s appointment. Hoping someone will be able to step up and chair for me. Thanks Shimo aka Jeri

ilovedogs · ilovedogs

Ah is in Las Vegas for a work related trip. I called him last night to say goodnight but he didn't answer. He called me back about 20 minutes later and I could tell he was drunk. I got off the phone within a few minutes and decided at that point that I do NOT want to talk to him when he's drunk ever again. He t...

Debilyn · Debilyn

Did you know there are now studies on happiness? There are even classes on it in colleges. I learned that compassion brings me happiness. Lately I forgot. Even though it was hard, doing the animal rescue and rehab was hard, I was happy when I was doing it. Being so involved and centered in that ONE situat...

GailMichelle · GailMichelle

Want to view a short but very touching video? Click below http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zYd4UPF6qWo

sisdragonfly1957 · sisdragonfly1957

Went for a job interview today, won't hear anything till the end of the week, also called my daughter since I was down near her work, we went to lunch. And after I left her something popped in my head about a meeting, I had the pamplet in my purse and sure enough I was in the right place and the right time, I Mad...

Wanttohelp · Wanttohelp

wow...when the "Author's Foreward" describes and talkes about you completely...you know this has to be the right book for you!! Starting it now..thanks for the suggestion!!

Jerry F · Jerry F

Kuleana is a cultural behavior for me. Koo lee ah nah is that part of my life where and when I am participating in my life and the lives of others. Okay this is not a Hawaiian language or cultural lesson; it is only a mention of how I arrived and the lessons given to me as a child thru my adult years and impo...

denro · denro

After a full week as an all in member of Al-Anon in dealing with my compulsive liar investment partner from the old economy, I have been able to email that I am not interested in ANY promises, calendar dates of promises, forthcomings etc, but it makes me mad that I know it is the same as dealing with a lying...

Dolly Llama · Dolly Llama

Just a quick update and check-in to say hi! I will have more time later this week to dig into the board and read what I missed the past few months. Can't wait! Missed the Al Anon wisdom and peace. I got back from basic training. It was tough. At 34, my body needed a bit more recovery time than was offered...

Pushka · Pushka

While I know I need to keep the focus on me and the kids, is it wrong for me to pray for him to find his bottom? I'm just curious, I've decided I'm prepared for the God of my understanding to fully answer that question. Whatever that bottom is I'm prepared to watch as he hits and steer clear of the urge to fix...

WornOutMrsFixIt · WornOutMrsFixIt

I am so filled with understanding, love and compassion for my AH when we don't associate with each other. I so want to get through to him that I haven't given up on him and can still forgive everything and stand by him every step of the way if he were truly trying to fight his alcoholism but I can't wait forev...

ilovedogs · ilovedogs

My AH apologized for his comments about the rapist thing. He has been very nice this week since I caught him in the middle of a relapse this weekend. I have withdrawn physically from him, not to punish him but basically because I just don't feel anything for him right now. I am being pleasant and we eve...

uscgmomma1028 · uscgmomma1028

I have been reading post on this website for a month or so. And want to thank everyone for the stories, because they do help. Hmmm, how do I start, it is not crazy to me how I have ended up in the situation I am in. I am the child of an alcoholic, abuse as a child, married an alcoholic, was proud of my self after...

Jsjjkelly · Jsjjkelly

Hi all! I've been lurking and reading for awhile. It has greatly helped me after my AH and his episodes. He's been going to AA meetings and seems to be wanting to work on his sobriety. Like everything else, there are good days and then horrible days. The question I have is how to deal with this situati...

Amemadchen · Amemadchen

I have been in this relationship for 7 years. We were friends first so I know how he was with his past girlfriends but never thought he would end up treating me the same way. How wrong I was! Our biggest arguement is I just want to spend time together but any time he has free he goes to the bar lately. Even...

soldiermom · soldiermom

I am new here and would like to attend face to face meetings, but the scheduled meetings are at times and days that I cannot attend. So I figued this is better than nothing. So anyway, I have been dating someone for a little more than a year now, and we have had a very dramtic relationship filled with deep lo...

LeahS · LeahS

It's been sixteen years that I have been with my huband. He is an alcoholic. Until last night he had been sober for a little over two years. He came home last night after assuring me that he wasn't nor does he ever want to drink again DRUNK! I love this man with everything I have and I guess my question is shou...

willowtree · willowtree

Ok, I am just going to throw some things out here that I have been struggling with. I have been in Alanon for over a year and I have just started doing step one. I have a sponsor and I think it is a good match but my problem is I am so shy to tell her my deepest feelings and thoughts. I am a very emotionally base...

Debilyn · Debilyn

I can go along and feel fine, happy, puttering, hanging wash, watching funny stuff on netflix. No real concern. Then out of nowhere, back down I go. Gradually. RRRRRR I don't want excitement or always JOyful, just that comfy its ok feeling. Nothing has changed. Did I sleep funny, did I eat wrong? Did th...

Breakingfree · Breakingfree

As I woke up this morning and had to fight my 4 year old out of bed to get us all up and to school I realized my attitude was in the wrong place. So here is my readjustment. I am appreciative for my 2 healthy beautiful children who bring me so much love and blessings everyday! I am so grateful for my friends who h...

hotrod · hotrod

http://stepwork.activeboard.com/t50894344/tradition-11-alanon/

DavidG · DavidG

Hi y'all, This is a bit of a pity-party, but I hope I am learning from it. I grew up on a farm and it was a rich and vibrant place- all sorts of animals, fruit, hills and mountains; water too. There was something not quite right about my world and I found out more about that when i grew up. That was a shock at fors...

mcgee1962 · mcgee1962

I am new to this board but after reading a few of the posts and saying to myself several times "whoa that sounds familar" I think I may have found the right place to be. I apologize if this first post is a bit long... In a nutshell... my partner is a recovering addict. We have known each other for o...

denro · denro

I have a compulsive liar for an investment partner that the lies have been making me miserable for the past few years. Whatever comes out of his mouth is not to be believed. He owes me money and I may get it and I may not get it. He will have to live with the consequences of his actions, though I really don't th...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

My hope is that it will get better for me personally. I have been going back & forth w/ being in pain & recognizing why that the pain is getting me very moody. I have been resting--sleeping in a lot lately. Not a sign of depression though. I just need the extra rest lately. I have a lot of time on my ha...

Freja · Freja

I've ordered the book and it's on its way! Very excited. Won't be here for a few weeks yet. Bummer. Can't wait to read it and put its advice to use. Those of you who have read it, what is your favorite parts? What did you find really helped you? I'd love to hear what you have to share since I just can't wait to re...

arasaxto · arasaxto

Life has been a lot harder for me lately. After some soul searching, i have realized that i have hovered some serious issues that i have had with my first love from almost 20 years ago. I met him when, he had just been released from a halfway house. needless to say he was very emotionally abusive to me. i tri...

nmike · nmike

I interviewed, accepted the offer, and started my move. I have been here for two months. It is a big change for me after 24 years in the same place. I live with my 90 year old mother. I have to learn to get along with her because I never have gotten along with her. She was the major codependent with my alcoholi...

Higgins335 · Higgins335

My wife left to a 45 day in patient rehab 2 days ago. Before that she was in the hospital for a week detoxing. While I know that her getting clean is best in the long run I am struggling. We have been married for just over 2 years. Our twins are at her parents house till she gets out of rehab and I find myself in a h...

Jerry F · 1234567890

my husband is a recovering alcoholic. his problem is occasional, unpredictable binge drinking episodes that have let to DWI's and his dissapearance for a night at a time. he never drank daily or regularly, only weekends or random days when he "couldn't hold it in anymore and needed to upload st...

tiredtonite · tiredtonite

Recently, I had a day in court and I felt I'd done a good job of representing myself. Unfortunately, the outcome didn't change. I have a very big payment to make. I had my year end review at work and even though I felt I'd performed the duties of my job well, I was worried. At my last workplace, there was...

TrudyS85 · TrudyS85

AH just got out of rehab, is staying with his parents, all thru treatment kept telling me what an angel I am and how much he wants to work on saving our marriage THEN he doesn't even call me today when he gets out of the rehab center and the first thing he does is post on Facebook that "I'm BACK, Seperate...

pineapple · pineapple

I've been sick since yesterday. I've been staying in bed except to feed the dogs, use the bathroom, and refill my juice and water glasses. I want someone to make me soup and bring it to me. Someone to tuck the blankets around me so I'll stay warm. Someone to hold my hand and tell me I'll feel better tomorrow...

Praying wife · Praying wife

Where do I begin, I've been with my AH for over 11 years, married for 7. He has a 16 year old daughter that I love dearly. He comes from a different Country and have seen much devastation in his life. He's always been a loner and have abandonment issues. He's a smart educated man with a great job BUT He's alwa...

batcheat · batcheat

Hi there. I'm new to this group. I live in a country where we don't have Al Anon, so I didn't know where else to turn. I apologize if this first post is rambling and incoherent. I'll try to keep it short. For the past few years I've been living with a man who's had a long-term struggle with alcohol. I don't t...

Kismet · Kismet

As some of you know, my AH has been in rehab for almost 2 months now. Due to the nature of his business (restaurant/bar) he will have to make a major change once he gets out of rehab. His councellor has agreed that although big changes at this stage are unadvisable, his situation requires it. His family ar...

Bodycount02 · Bodycount02

I apologize if i am posting in the wrong area but i have looked everywhere. I am a soldier stationed on Fort Riley, Kansas and I need to find AA meetings near me, preferably in junction city or topeka. Again i am really sorry if i am posting in the wrong place i have just looked everywhere. Im desperate at th...

Zimmy · Zimmy

Just wanted to share something im quite new on here so first time Ive shared on here!! Here goes, I have had a really trying day today, all emotions good and bad, but it was great just to be able to use some of my alanon tools to get me through the day. I remembered that its ok, i will feel things good and bad, t...

WornOutMrsFixIt · WornOutMrsFixIt

Heard this song on the way home from work but heard it in a new way since the latest events in my life. I'm sure a lot of you will relate too.

A_Shu108 · A_Shu108

Hello, Im really new to this, i just posted my story and right now i feel very...empowered. I have finally been able to detach from the things my husband has done and how it makes me feel. But i have a question, while i think having and hearing peoples stories helps when struggling through this process is...

Jackie11 · Jackie11

When I posted Tuesday I was so frustrated!!! I was also experiencing various shades of anger. I had signed up for the program for my meeting on Tuesday and was praying about the topic. I felt like anger would be a good one. As I was reading through the readings in One Day at a Time and Courage to Change 2 read...

Golightly24 · Golightly24

I'm relatively new here...was active about a year ago when my DH went to rehab for an opiate addiction. Everyone was so helpful and supportive. Although he's almost a year clean, I'm back for advice on dealing with my dad... My father, before my sister and I were born, abused MANY things...alcohol, ga...

holivex · holivex

So my AH has relapsed yet again and is currently living with his mother, sister, brother in law, and nephew. My mother in law supports all of them on what little savings she has left, and AH uses whatever cash he has to buy his vodka. He refuses to take phone calls from anyone, answer emails, or anything...

_heather_ · _heather_

Finally. I detatched myself from my husband and am currently separated. I could not be happier with my decision for my own well being. I struggled a lot thinking I couldn't do it on my own but I picked up the pieces and I have been. I am so proud of myself. I feel happy, healthy and strong. My only issue is wi...

dragonflys · dragonflys

My husband moved back to our state last week. We have been seperated by 700 miles for the past 5 months. He told me the reason he was moving back to our state was to be able to see his daughter. I guess that was a lie...which he admitted tonight. I took my daughter to see her daddy last weekend. I gues...

Icie · Icie

Anyone of you could be married to my alcoholic son, who has broken my heart over & over & has hurt his children over & over & his ex wife. His wife finally left him & divorced him, but she has never gone to AL anon so all the craziness continues, between them over the kids & one tryi...

sisdragonfly1957 · sisdragonfly1957

After 11 years I feel like I have been beaten by this diease. I am giving up. I Have no where to go, no money, he has MY car all the time now. I am just giving up...... I see no way out. i have burnt all my bridges with my family. I have no friends. I can see that is is keeping me isolated. He is so sneaky, narrastic....

JAMIE74 · JAMIE74

I am new to all this and am really having a tough time figuring it all out. I know it's going to take time and meetings and my HP. But my confusion at the moment is the difference between detachment and just not caring or is it the same thing. Am I not supposed to care when he puts down me or my son? Am I not supp...

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	I wanna be grateful not resentful!! (Preview) Hey hey, I have a wonderful loving partner, but lately I keep finding myself taking things personally and reacting in bitter resentful ways towards her. I take almost everything she says personally and before I know it I'm reacting in this grumpy negative way thats no fun! We we were a really good frie...	jorjorjor	3	569	Sep 27, 2012 by Breakingfree
	Validation (Preview) Why do I feel I need validation that what I am doing is the right thing for my kids and myself? I need to start trusting myself a little more!! My son invited a friend over!!! I know, I know, this doesnt sound like much to others, but for me, for HIM, it was HUGE! My son has not invited friends over to our hou...	dragonflys	6	496	Sep 27, 2012 by Breakingfree
	Dating a Newly Recovering Alcoholic dating recovered alcoholic boyfriend al-anon help sober recovery relationship PTSD alcoholism rehab (Preview) Hello, I am new to this site, and new to Al-Anon, but I thought that it might be helpful for me to share my story and get some opinions from people who have been in a similar situations themselves. So here it goes: About a year and a half ago, I started dating who I didn't realize then was a fucitoning alcohol...	Compromise22	12	11190	Sep 27, 2012 by Jackie11
	Denial was bliss compared to this! (Preview) Hi all, My title is meant to grab attention, beacause I really do think I need to move all the way out of denial. It seems like once I admitted that my husband was an alcoholic, the ball has kept rolliing and now I am seeing that our marriage has been a shell that I have constructed to make me feel like I had a n...	gracealone	11	750	Sep 27, 2012 by gracealone
	Embracing Acceptance (Preview) I got in an accident tonight. Well, incident really since there aren't really accidents, they are incidents - things that could have been avoided if someone had been paying closer attention. But, I digress (ha, digress tickles me for some reason, it means to stray from the point), Let me assure you th...	likemyheart	3	445	Sep 26, 2012 by Jerry F
	Forgiveness & feelings and my side of the street forgiveness feelings finding new perspectives anger (Preview) Ive been feeling very angry lately and building skyscraper-style resentments. Its making me feel horrible and fatigued to the point where Im wondering how Im going to make it to the end of the week. Ive been beating myself up asking how can I forgive when the insanity (my A's and mine) is escalating,...	bud	5	8783	Sep 26, 2012 by bud
	Validate MEEEEE!! (Preview) Folks, I've got to turn myself in. You know what I love about this program? It's that it's taught me to walk through life and question things when I'm starting to behave in weird ways. It's also taught me where some of those behaviors are coming from, what they look like, what their cause usually is. I rec...	Aloha	5	809	Sep 26, 2012 by glad lee
	Conflict Avoider (Preview) I am desperate for some help and perspective. I have been dating a recovering alcoholic, 2 years sober, who seemed to work a good program. He had been an alcoholic for 30 years, was drinking a gallon of gin a day when he finally hit bottom. His father was an alcoholic (now deceased) and his mother control...	lynna50	15	5178	Sep 26, 2012 by lynna50
	Where in the world is my HP? (Preview) Hi, When I got together with my A I started to loose confidence and I ended up neglecting and somewhat abandoning my career. I so can't wait to get up early again, driving to work and do something productive. Things are so chaotic right now. I thought God sent me the perfect job opportunity. I found it whe...	pikelpak	6	814	Sep 26, 2012 by Jerry F
	Rehab (Preview) My husband is in in-patient treatment :/ I am happy that he is getting help but I am so scared. I visited him yesterday, he seemed happy and relieved to finally deal with his issues. However I have heard it all before, I just want this to work so bad. I am tired of feeling like I am getting the life sucked out o...	ejohnson55	8	799	Sep 26, 2012 by ejohnson55
	I feel great today :) (Preview) Hi everyone, my name is slogan_Jim. Today I woke up feeling great and in a good mood. Sharp contrast to yesterday. I had soccer last night and it felt good interacting with others and getting my heart rate going. I havn't been able to get to many face to face meetings because I have chosen to take on some OT...	slogan_jim	2	379	Sep 25, 2012 by UK Jane
	just need to vent i think... (Preview) I have been with my husband for 4 years. He has been drinking since he was very young... mostly beer. He has had drug problems alot in the past but now only drinks. We have talked about his drinking and he knows that he is an alcoholic. We have argued alot and he will drink less for a while then goes back to dri...	Dazzy	4	554	Sep 25, 2012 by ilovedogs
	Monday a.m. Al-Anon Mtg (Preview) I am unable to chair the Monday a.m. Al-Anon Meeting (Sept 24) as I have a Dr.'s appointment. Hoping someone will be able to step up and chair for me. Thanks Shimo aka Jeri	shimo	1	378	Sep 25, 2012 by RobinKSC
	I get to test a boundary today! (Preview) Ah is in Las Vegas for a work related trip. I called him last night to say goodnight but he didn't answer. He called me back about 20 minutes later and I could tell he was drunk. I got off the phone within a few minutes and decided at that point that I do NOT want to talk to him when he's drunk ever again. He t...	ilovedogs	5	627	Sep 25, 2012 by pinkchip
	Finding Happiness (Preview) Did you know there are now studies on happiness? There are even classes on it in colleges. I learned that compassion brings me happiness. Lately I forgot. Even though it was hard, doing the animal rescue and rehab was hard, I was happy when I was doing it. Being so involved and centered in that ONE situat...	Debilyn	7	798	Sep 25, 2012 by glad lee
	The Power of Words (Preview) Want to view a short but very touching video? Click below http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zYd4UPF6qWo	GailMichelle	1	622	Sep 25, 2012 by Jill
	Starting over again! (Preview) Went for a job interview today, won't hear anything till the end of the week, also called my daughter since I was down near her work, we went to lunch. And after I left her something popped in my head about a meeting, I had the pamplet in my purse and sure enough I was in the right place and the right time, I Mad...	sisdragonfly1957	3	525	Sep 25, 2012 by Jerry F
	Getting Them Sober... vol. 1 (Preview) wow...when the "Author's Foreward" describes and talkes about you completely...you know this has to be the right book for you!! Starting it now..thanks for the suggestion!!	Wanttohelp	2	534	Sep 24, 2012 by Icie
	My Kuleana - My Responsibility... (Preview) Kuleana is a cultural behavior for me. Koo lee ah nah is that part of my life where and when I am participating in my life and the lives of others. Okay this is not a Hawaiian language or cultural lesson; it is only a mention of how I arrived and the lessons given to me as a child thru my adult years and impo...	Jerry F	5	629	Sep 24, 2012 by tortuga
	It makes me mad! (Preview) After a full week as an all in member of Al-Anon in dealing with my compulsive liar investment partner from the old economy, I have been able to email that I am not interested in ANY promises, calendar dates of promises, forthcomings etc, but it makes me mad that I know it is the same as dealing with a lying...	denro	3	670	Sep 24, 2012 by denro
	Howdy Al Anon fam! (Preview) Just a quick update and check-in to say hi! I will have more time later this week to dig into the board and read what I missed the past few months. Can't wait! Missed the Al Anon wisdom and peace. I got back from basic training. It was tough. At 34, my body needed a bit more recovery time than was offered...	Dolly Llama	7	533	Sep 24, 2012 by Jerry F
	Praying for his bottom .. (Preview) While I know I need to keep the focus on me and the kids, is it wrong for me to pray for him to find his bottom? I'm just curious, I've decided I'm prepared for the God of my understanding to fully answer that question. Whatever that bottom is I'm prepared to watch as he hits and steer clear of the urge to fix...	Pushka	11	649	Sep 24, 2012 by Theoceancalls
	My Good Intentions Blown to Bits (Preview) I am so filled with understanding, love and compassion for my AH when we don't associate with each other. I so want to get through to him that I haven't given up on him and can still forgive everything and stand by him every step of the way if he were truly trying to fight his alcoholism but I can't wait forev...	WornOutMrsFixIt	6	1082	Sep 24, 2012 by WornOutMrsFixIt
	Handling apologies/why was I angry (Preview) My AH apologized for his comments about the rapist thing. He has been very nice this week since I caught him in the middle of a relapse this weekend. I have withdrawn physically from him, not to punish him but basically because I just don't feel anything for him right now. I am being pleasant and we eve...	ilovedogs	7	609	Sep 24, 2012 by Icie
	new comer, lol (Preview) I have been reading post on this website for a month or so. And want to thank everyone for the stories, because they do help. Hmmm, how do I start, it is not crazy to me how I have ended up in the situation I am in. I am the child of an alcoholic, abuse as a child, married an alcoholic, was proud of my self after...	uscgmomma1028	11	753	Sep 23, 2012 by pinkchip
	How to deal with his family embarassing (Preview) Hi all! I've been lurking and reading for awhile. It has greatly helped me after my AH and his episodes. He's been going to AA meetings and seems to be wanting to work on his sobriety. Like everything else, there are good days and then horrible days. The question I have is how to deal with this situati...	Jsjjkelly	12	649	Sep 23, 2012 by Icie
	Don't understand how they can be so selfish! (Preview) I have been in this relationship for 7 years. We were friends first so I know how he was with his past girlfriends but never thought he would end up treating me the same way. How wrong I was! Our biggest arguement is I just want to spend time together but any time he has free he goes to the bar lately. Even...	Amemadchen	6	650	Sep 23, 2012 by nmike
	So lost (Preview) I am new here and would like to attend face to face meetings, but the scheduled meetings are at times and days that I cannot attend. So I figued this is better than nothing. So anyway, I have been dating someone for a little more than a year now, and we have had a very dramtic relationship filled with deep lo...	soldiermom	4	758	Sep 23, 2012 by nmike
	Looking For Advice (Preview) It's been sixteen years that I have been with my huband. He is an alcoholic. Until last night he had been sober for a little over two years. He came home last night after assuring me that he wasn't nor does he ever want to drink again DRUNK! I love this man with everything I have and I guess my question is shou...	LeahS	6	673	Sep 23, 2012 by Breakingfree
	I don't feel like I fit in (Preview) Ok, I am just going to throw some things out here that I have been struggling with. I have been in Alanon for over a year and I have just started doing step one. I have a sponsor and I think it is a good match but my problem is I am so shy to tell her my deepest feelings and thoughts. I am a very emotionally base...	willowtree	8	1125	Sep 23, 2012 by Icie
	I just want oatmeal with a smile for petes sake!!! (Preview) I can go along and feel fine, happy, puttering, hanging wash, watching funny stuff on netflix. No real concern. Then out of nowhere, back down I go. Gradually. RRRRRR I don't want excitement or always JOyful, just that comfy its ok feeling. Nothing has changed. Did I sleep funny, did I eat wrong? Did th...	Debilyn	4	387	Sep 23, 2012 by GailMichelle
	My attitude of gratitude (Preview) As I woke up this morning and had to fight my 4 year old out of bed to get us all up and to school I realized my attitude was in the wrong place. So here is my readjustment. I am appreciative for my 2 healthy beautiful children who bring me so much love and blessings everyday! I am so grateful for my friends who h...	Breakingfree	7	707	Sep 22, 2012 by DavidG
	ALANON TRADITION 11 (Preview) http://stepwork.activeboard.com/t50894344/tradition-11-alanon/	hotrod	2	2657	Sep 22, 2012 by david62
	Learning anew... (Preview) Hi y'all, This is a bit of a pity-party, but I hope I am learning from it. I grew up on a farm and it was a rich and vibrant place- all sorts of animals, fruit, hills and mountains; water too. There was something not quite right about my world and I found out more about that when i grew up. That was a shock at fors...	DavidG	5	543	Sep 22, 2012 by david62
	Meet Al...the 3rd person in the relationship (Preview) I am new to this board but after reading a few of the posts and saying to myself several times "whoa that sounds familar" I think I may have found the right place to be. I apologize if this first post is a bit long... In a nutshell... my partner is a recovering addict. We have known each other for o...	mcgee1962	3	633	Sep 22, 2012 by tiredtonite
	Six days into Al-Anon and I have Hope. (Preview) I have a compulsive liar for an investment partner that the lies have been making me miserable for the past few years. Whatever comes out of his mouth is not to be believed. He owes me money and I may get it and I may not get it. He will have to live with the consequences of his actions, though I really don't th...	denro	3	518	Sep 22, 2012 by hotrod
	it can & will get better! (Preview) My hope is that it will get better for me personally. I have been going back & forth w/ being in pain & recognizing why that the pain is getting me very moody. I have been resting--sleeping in a lot lately. Not a sign of depression though. I just need the extra rest lately. I have a lot of time on my ha...	Hoot Nanny	3	464	Sep 22, 2012 by Jerry F
	Getting Them Sober - How has it helped you?/Your favorite parts? (Preview) I've ordered the book and it's on its way! Very excited. Won't be here for a few weeks yet. Bummer. Can't wait to read it and put its advice to use. Those of you who have read it, what is your favorite parts? What did you find really helped you? I'd love to hear what you have to share since I just can't wait to re...	Freja	13	645	Sep 21, 2012 by glad lee
	Ghost from the past (Preview) Life has been a lot harder for me lately. After some soul searching, i have realized that i have hovered some serious issues that i have had with my first love from almost 20 years ago. I met him when, he had just been released from a halfway house. needless to say he was very emotionally abusive to me. i tri...	arasaxto	2	486	Sep 22, 2012 by arasaxto
	Moving Update (Preview) I interviewed, accepted the offer, and started my move. I have been here for two months. It is a big change for me after 24 years in the same place. I live with my 90 year old mother. I have to learn to get along with her because I never have gotten along with her. She was the major codependent with my alcoholi...	nmike	6	502	Sep 22, 2012 by tiredtonite
	Dealing with loneliness and depression from wife being gone Depressed lonely alone (Preview) My wife left to a 45 day in patient rehab 2 days ago. Before that she was in the hospital for a week detoxing. While I know that her getting clean is best in the long run I am struggling. We have been married for just over 2 years. Our twins are at her parents house till she gets out of rehab and I find myself in a h...	Higgins335	12	6731	Sep 22, 2012 by Higgins335
	if your spouce is an alcoholic does that mean the other partner can't drink? (Preview) my husband is a recovering alcoholic. his problem is occasional, unpredictable binge drinking episodes that have let to DWI's and his dissapearance for a night at a time. he never drank daily or regularly, only weekends or random days when he "couldn't hold it in anymore and needed to upload st...	1234567890	8	758	Sep 22, 2012 by Jerry F
	Some Good News (Preview) Recently, I had a day in court and I felt I'd done a good job of representing myself. Unfortunately, the outcome didn't change. I have a very big payment to make. I had my year end review at work and even though I felt I'd performed the duties of my job well, I was worried. At my last workplace, there was...	tiredtonite	12	560	Sep 22, 2012 by tiredtonite
	Why Is This Ticking Me Off (Preview) AH just got out of rehab, is staying with his parents, all thru treatment kept telling me what an angel I am and how much he wants to work on saving our marriage THEN he doesn't even call me today when he gets out of the rehab center and the first thing he does is post on Facebook that "I'm BACK, Seperate...	TrudyS85	5	591	Sep 22, 2012 by Debilyn
	pity party (Preview) I've been sick since yesterday. I've been staying in bed except to feed the dogs, use the bathroom, and refill my juice and water glasses. I want someone to make me soup and bring it to me. Someone to tuck the blankets around me so I'll stay warm. Someone to hold my hand and tell me I'll feel better tomorrow...	pineapple	14	578	Sep 22, 2012 by Debilyn
	A cry for help, How do I help him!!!!! (Preview) Where do I begin, I've been with my AH for over 11 years, married for 7. He has a 16 year old daughter that I love dearly. He comes from a different Country and have seen much devastation in his life. He's always been a loner and have abandonment issues. He's a smart educated man with a great job BUT He's alwa...	Praying wife	11	736	Sep 21, 2012 by Breakingfree
	How to practice detachment if he treats you with contempt? (Preview) Hi there. I'm new to this group. I live in a country where we don't have Al Anon, so I didn't know where else to turn. I apologize if this first post is rambling and incoherent. I'll try to keep it short. For the past few years I've been living with a man who's had a long-term struggle with alcohol. I don't t...	batcheat	7	2005	Sep 21, 2012 by AllieinAlanon
	Need a major change (Preview) As some of you know, my AH has been in rehab for almost 2 months now. Due to the nature of his business (restaurant/bar) he will have to make a major change once he gets out of rehab. His councellor has agreed that although big changes at this stage are unadvisable, his situation requires it. His family ar...	Kismet	0	376	Sep 21, 2012 by Kismet
	Soldier looking for AA meetings. (Preview) I apologize if i am posting in the wrong area but i have looked everywhere. I am a soldier stationed on Fort Riley, Kansas and I need to find AA meetings near me, preferably in junction city or topeka. Again i am really sorry if i am posting in the wrong place i have just looked everywhere. Im desperate at th...	Bodycount02	6	3540	Sep 21, 2012 by Breakingfree
	Replacing the what if...... (Preview) Just wanted to share something im quite new on here so first time Ive shared on here!! Here goes, I have had a really trying day today, all emotions good and bad, but it was great just to be able to use some of my alanon tools to get me through the day. I remembered that its ok, i will feel things good and bad, t...	Zimmy	5	407	Sep 21, 2012 by Zimmy
	"Call Me When You're Sober" Video (Preview) Heard this song on the way home from work but heard it in a new way since the latest events in my life. I'm sure a lot of you will relate too.	WornOutMrsFixIt	4	511	Sep 21, 2012 by WornOutMrsFixIt
	Al-anon Question.. is it just about learning to deal with it? (Preview) Hello, Im really new to this, i just posted my story and right now i feel very...empowered. I have finally been able to detach from the things my husband has done and how it makes me feel. But i have a question, while i think having and hearing peoples stories helps when struggling through this process is...	A_Shu108	5	683	Sep 21, 2012 by pinkchip
	Stepping off the wheel (Preview) When I posted Tuesday I was so frustrated!!! I was also experiencing various shades of anger. I had signed up for the program for my meeting on Tuesday and was praying about the topic. I felt like anger would be a good one. As I was reading through the readings in One Day at a Time and Courage to Change 2 read...	Jackie11	5	518	Sep 21, 2012 by pinkchip
	How to deal with Dad? (Preview) I'm relatively new here...was active about a year ago when my DH went to rehab for an opiate addiction. Everyone was so helpful and supportive. Although he's almost a year clean, I'm back for advice on dealing with my dad... My father, before my sister and I were born, abused MANY things...alcohol, ga...	Golightly24	2	379	Sep 21, 2012 by Icie
	Is this me being spiteful or is it the right thing to do? (Preview) So my AH has relapsed yet again and is currently living with his mother, sister, brother in law, and nephew. My mother in law supports all of them on what little savings she has left, and AH uses whatever cash he has to buy his vodka. He refuses to take phone calls from anyone, answer emails, or anything...	holivex	8	633	Sep 21, 2012 by Debilyn
	Detatchment (Preview) Finally. I detatched myself from my husband and am currently separated. I could not be happier with my decision for my own well being. I struggled a lot thinking I couldn't do it on my own but I picked up the pieces and I have been. I am so proud of myself. I feel happy, healthy and strong. My only issue is wi...	_heather_	2	374	Sep 21, 2012 by _heather_
	Manipulation in full swing (Preview) My husband moved back to our state last week. We have been seperated by 700 miles for the past 5 months. He told me the reason he was moving back to our state was to be able to see his daughter. I guess that was a lie...which he admitted tonight. I took my daughter to see her daddy last weekend. I gues...	dragonflys	9	661	Sep 20, 2012 by orchidlover
	Finding serenity Amongst craziness (Preview) Anyone of you could be married to my alcoholic son, who has broken my heart over & over & has hurt his children over & over & his ex wife. His wife finally left him & divorced him, but she has never gone to AL anon so all the craziness continues, between them over the kids & one tryi...	Icie	4	544	Sep 20, 2012 by orchidlover
	His addiction has finally WON! (Preview) After 11 years I feel like I have been beaten by this diease. I am giving up. I Have no where to go, no money, he has MY car all the time now. I am just giving up...... I see no way out. i have burnt all my bridges with my family. I have no friends. I can see that is is keeping me isolated. He is so sneaky, narrastic....	sisdragonfly1957	12	689	Sep 20, 2012 by orchidlover
	Understanding how it all works (Preview) I am new to all this and am really having a tough time figuring it all out. I know it's going to take time and meetings and my HP. But my confusion at the moment is the difference between detachment and just not caring or is it the same thing. Am I not supposed to care when he puts down me or my son? Am I not supp...	JAMIE74	5	652	Sep 20, 2012 by orchidlover
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