Intervention - Al-Anon Family Group

Theemettaart · Member

Intervention

Path to Serenity · Senior Member

They always get pissed when forced to look within.......you know, it isn't pretty in there - it's a dark & scary place. You and your sister showed her that you love her and are concerned about her well-being. Now it's up to her what she does with that sharing.

I called in social services once with my Dad - had a mini intervention and he agreed to go to rehab. The social worker was to come back & pick him up later that afternoon to drive him to rehab facility 200 mi away -- well, he disappeared (surprise, surprise) but by the time he did come home, I had changed the locks on the doors. Not another single person in my family would ever address his drinking - the subject was taboo. Unfortunately I could not reach my dad and he died of alcoholic poisoning but I am thankful that my HP gave me the strength to at least try that one last time.

((((you & your sis))))

Debilyn · ~*Service Worker*~

I agree with Path. You did what you felt you had to. I did that too. I dragged him back home, loved him, enjoyed his drunk bum until I could not take it anymore, mostly as he would start being physical, he would go to mommys. then I would drag him back.

Each time was shorter and shorter. when I felt I was ready, that was that. I KNOW I gave it my all. Then I did not divorce him for years, until he well ,adultery.

So now she is mad. So? I mean did you really thing she would be ok with it? It was a good thing! She now knows how much you care. And you guys can let go, and let it be where it belongs, between her and her HP.

Yes it is horrible! Really her chances of wanting to stop may be higher if no one is around her. NO one to feel sorry for her, make her comfortable so she can drink more.

We cannot allow the disease to kill us, rob our lives. Of course you love your mom, and that mom being held prisoner by a disease loves you guys too!

Sometimes it is more about acceptance. It is what it is. Take a breath and decide what are YOU going to do now?

I am so glad your dad is getting care! that is a huge load off you I am sure.

Sending you hugs, debilyn

Theemettaart · Member

Thank you Debilyn and Path. We, ofcourse, were prepared that she would be mad as hell. I am just so happy that their house doctor take this situation so serious and still handles this with a lot of respect.
We are absolutely going through with this. We not only want our lives back, but we also want to give our mom (part of ) her life back. So matter what she is getting the help that she really, really needs.

Thank you for your support!

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