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Truth · Truth

So I am either figuring out one if my character defects or triggers. I have discovered that I get defensive when someone "talks down" to someone. I guess I would interpret it as condescending. I feel the need to speak up. Not sure what to do with this one.

hotrod · hotrod

Learn How The Twelve Steps Work.Participate in your own recovery as well as the recovery of others, by being active on this board as we go through http://stepwork.activeboard.com/t57280663/alanon-step-4/Please

Wolfie55 · Wolfie55

One day last month I was at work (I'm a condo cop, that's like a mall cop but....well you get it right?). My cell phone rang. Private number. Figured it was a sponcee so I answered it. It was a reporter for the local TV station. After he verified who I was, he starts asking me questions about a photo on - a popu...

Returning Member · Wolfie58

I am back after what is it? a year? I couldn't remember my old login information so I created a new account. But it's still me. Wolfie aka Bernie. Hope to re-connect with my old friends here and to make new ones

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I am struggling w/ a few things lately but I am going to let go of them right now. I don't have any control over any of the situations I have been in recently. I don't need to have another meltdown. Some things are just out of my control. I cannot let them bring me down. I talked to another member & she put s...

Sallygcoe · Sallygcoe

I just got home from my weekly f2f meeting. My AS had come over while I was gone. My husband was honest and told him where I was when he asked. It made my son furious and he left mad. How should I respond to him? Not going to al-anon is not an option.

grateful2be · grateful2be

Today I went to the store. I saw Easter cards. I wanted to purchase some for my son, my daughter, my grandson and my Dad. Then, I remembered - there is no need to buy him an a card. He isn't here anymore. He's gone. Memories of many years and many shopping trips and many cards and gifts I purchased for m...

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

Got my first letter today from my son and it was nice to hear from him. He said he hasn't gotten all my letters because they were redacted because of the content I guess. I cut and pasted news articles about what is going on around and world. Sucks he can't know about the plane missing or what is happenin...

Wolfie55 · Wolfie55

Remember that book I said I was going to write? I wrote it. I only mention it here because it's about recovery. About the gifts we find in it. About the gifts I have found in recovery. It's an e-book. Not a very big book. I published it myself. Sometimes I sell them. Sometimes I just give them away if it's som...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I am suffering from a bout of anxiety these days. I know why but I can't seem to shake it. My mom is selling her house soon if the buyer agrees to the price. She might be gone in less than 2 mos. She plans to go to visit family for 2 graduations next month anyhow. But we will see what happens. I am anxious because...

southernlass · southernlass

I thought I was being good and putting boundaries in place but unfortunately I can't and/or don't want to keep to them as I don't feel ready yet. The boundary that I stupidly said was that the alcoholic could move back home after they had been sober for three months! Sounds reasonable ? But unfortunate...

southernlass · southernlass

Have just shared my concerns with the alcoholic about them moving back home in 2 weeks and it went just as expected. It was turned round so that it was all about them. They tried to make me feel guilty about changing the goal posts (which I guess I have) but when I explained why have I and that I was not read...

beenaproblem · beenaproblem

I want to start off right away with a sponsor. I am female and need someone that married an alcoholic. the problems are starting and it has only been a week since I married him. Please help.

Melly1248 · Melly1248

OK so this weekend I've been trying to get back to that "let go and let God" and "do the next right thing" combo that was working so well for me. Because I've come to realise that when I get caught up in the "big picture" and how everyone fits into it and what I need THEM to do...

Truth · Truth

Well I had an excellent day. Got caught up at work. Just about organized at home. Helped out a friend. Just peaceful and happy. Got started on organizing my notes if I need them for the Ex-A return and mediation session. Grateful to all of you for assisting me along through this learning curve

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***ATTENTION ALL MIP MEMBERS*** · John

http://meetinginfo.activeboard.com/t57236795/wso-registration-procedure-group-liaisons-findings/

Wolfie55 · Wolfie55

I remembered that I was accessing this site on an old laptop, so I did some messing around and now I'm back as wolfie55 instead of wolfie58. I'm smarter than I thought I was.;)

Jen61 · Jen61

I have been doing a lot of thinking lately of alcoholism. It is a progressive disease, family disease, and many more. When my AH was working full time he never drank. It was after he was in a forced retirement that got him started. My husband has a severe form of tinnitus (ringing in his ear with nerve...

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

Good Morning all It's Sunday and I'm lying in bed this early morning reading everyone's posts and feeling the love I have for all of you. Even though I don't personally know you I have this bond that I can't explain. It's like your all right there when I need you. I'm at peace this morning, I worked my bu...

Raven Juniper · Raven Juniper

Hi everybody! I've been noticing a lot of new faces around here, and would like to bring up the topic of the book Getting Them Sober by Toby Rice Drews. Even though it isn't official 12-step literature, it came highly recommended to me at a meeting. It was a real game-changer for me in my ongoing recovery...

Wolfie58 · Wolfie58

I guess I should elaborate. I was using WolfIe55 as my old username so all those posts are mine. I was out of work for about six months, lost my internet, can't access my old account yet. I'm back though with more stories and to hear more of yours. So what's new. I have a ho-hum job that pays the bills. The rec...

Breakingfree · Breakingfree

As many of you know I have been dating and really am very picky about the type of men I meet. I have only met a few men in the last year and a half. The newest one seems to be the healthiest yet and I am excited. In this excitement comes trepidation, am I healthy enough, is it finally time to have met a prince amo...

jillybean1 · jillybean1

Is it possible that I am making my AH jump thru too many hoops to return home? He was in rehab and is currently in Intensive Outpatient and in a half way house far from home. He has no car and no job and has been putting all his expenses on his credit card. I don't think I am being harsh when I tell him that he...

tortuga · tortuga

last night. A wave of sadness has overcome me and I have let the tears run out wildly. I think i had a sort of panic attack, feeling all my losses tenfold. well I thought it was good to cry and feel my pain after that I went to bed and had a deep sleep. pity parties are a dangerous place to be in for me. for in that m...

feelingdefeated · feelingdefeated

My husband and I have a handful of wonderful friends. Friends that I am so tempted to confide in about my husband's addiction and bipolar episodes. There are many days that DH is perfectly fine, then episodes of addiction, OCD, paranoia, lack of sleep for days. I find myself making excuses (enabl...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Just want to say that the 1st edition of the Big Book of AA was re-printed on April 10th which is the 75th anniversary of its first printing. Kathleen

el-cee · el-cee

What is your idea of love? Has it changed since Alanon? How do you know you love your alcoholic and how do you know he loves you as opposed to needing each other?

Sallygcoe · Sallygcoe

I cannot get the perspective that I obviously should according to the al-anon way. My AS is completely consuming my every thought and action. I feel like there is a rubber band around my heart. When you love them so much and are so filled with fear how do you find any kind of perspective? I'm so stressed!...

Melly1248 · Melly1248

Ridiculous optimism is something I have been accused of many times. And I suppose it really has been excessive; when other people have been throwing their hands in the air and screaming "the sky is falling" I've always been the one saying "all right, don't get your knickers in a twist...

Sallygcoe · Sallygcoe

My AS came over this afternoon, very ainxed (sp?) . He had asked if he could come over and have some dinner. I said yes. When he was here he did not want to talk or be talked to. He just wanted to sit in front of the tv and sulk. I got up and found the next right thing to do... Water plants and unload the dishwasher...

texasgal · texasgal

My AH has completely blocked me out of his life. Stating he has a new girlfriend and that he will get sober with her. The new girlfriend is twice as young as him and is a university student. I do not know what to say I guess their is nothing to say. I guess that is part of why I want to leave the city I live in....

hopes314 · hopes314

Anymore I don't know what is true or what is a lie. I told my Ah I went to an open AA meeting that was wonderful. It had so much wisdom and openness and truth. My AH will not go because he will not be in a program that doesn't identify Jesus as the HP. I said everyone has selected who their HP can be. Then I tell h...

Katy · Katy

Yesterday I had plans to view a room advertised in a shared house, it appealed so much to me in the advert because it was set in so many acres of farm land and it said they had a cat and two friendly dogs and the house was sociable and upbeat, I have not been in a position to go this far through finance before so I...

John in GA · John in GA

My wife descended into alcoholism about seven years into our marriage. I know that she may have technically been an alcoholic since birth, but during the early years of our marriage, she drank in moderation, and I rarely saw her drunk. That all started to change at about the seven year point. I coul...

KennyFenderjazz · KennyFenderjazz

http://www.theonion.com/articles/alcohol-unfairly-blamed-for-local-mans-impaired-ju,35745/

Melly1248 · Melly1248

I didn't feel like going to a meeting today, I had a zillion other things I wanted to do but I KNEW it was the next right thing for me so I went. It is school holidays so daughter stayed home with dog and cat curled up in front of the heater watching a movie and I entrusted her with the house key for the first tim...

WorkingThroughIt · WorkingThroughIt

I was thinking about my next door neighbor this morning. when I first moved in last fall I went out onto the back porch to smoke. i didn't know I wasn't allowed to smoke outside or anywhere on the property, I just knew there was no smoking inside. this was in the middle of the night. Suddenly I heard loud yel...

el-cee · el-cee

Can you really live with an active alcoholic and live a happy life? Can it really be done and if so do you have to live seperate lives? How can you focus on your program if its challenged constantly? It just seems to me that the people in alanon who really work this and are happy have sober partners or have le...

Jozie · Jozie

Hey Peeps :) Welp this Last Month Sure has Had its Ups, Downs & turns that felt like my Insides would soon be on my Outside! Survival is def. Key in this Disease & In Life in General! In the Last Month, My Aunt Had her Cancer Surgery, "doing Well" :) Now doing 6wks Radiation to make sure...

Raven Juniper · Raven Juniper

It's funny how this program has been like a little bottle of spray cleaner in my life. I find myself stating my intentions like its a big deal, then see that my actions actually work against my so called purpose. I find myself slipping back into old habits a bit more frequently lately, so I need to re-read...

texasgal · texasgal

I have been separated from my AH for awhile. He filed for divorce saying I was crazy and would have anxiety attacks. Which I did I can admit to that. It was awful living with an alcoholic. I felt crazy all the time. He has a new girlfriend and sent me a text stating that he was doing so much better witho...

Lyne · Lyne

I didn't handle an alcoholic well yesterday, and I have been suffering guilt on and off. It's so ironic to me that after all the raging, scaring, and insane behavior he brings to my family, that I am feeling guilty. He asked me to do something yesterday that would have taken just minutes, and he is reco...

tortuga · tortuga

I realized, as soon as A made contact again, how anger gets to me every time. They may be other forms of abuse, but under the bottom line, it is always anger that get to me. I learned in Al anon and through meditation how to stop reacting. For teasing and provocations were and are many. And I'm grateful for t...

Melly1248 · Melly1248

Oh dear. I've just gotten back from my meeting. It was wonderful

I rode my bike there, feeling fabulous and free riding in the rain when a car began madly tooting behind me. It was cat lady, who came to a stop beside me shouting and gesturing furiously (she was SO ANGRY!!!) because I wasn't wearing a he...

Truth · Truth

Gosh... My ex-A has left four messages (asked him not to call) and I am just not interested in even trying to co-parent. I have not returned one call, text or e-mail. I use to feel guilty about that. Under normal circumstances, (if the person was nice I would return the call) Progress?

Theoceancalls · Theoceancalls

Hi all ....thank you for the comments to my last post. I re read them and try to digest. My emotions are like a runaway train to be quite honest. My family member did have his surgery on Monday and all went well. My AH stayed home willingly, (but....)with our daughter so I could go to the hosp last night...h...

Mnuser320 · Mnuser320

How did I become this person? I am completely unhinged.....again...after putting myself together over and over and over again over the years, I divorced (for the 3rd time...) , and relocated last year to my childhood state, bought a home and brought my mom (acoa) and my 52 year old unmarried alcoholi...

sadsusie · sadsusie

Good morning everyone, I had a revelation about revelations this morning. I have slowly had my eyes opening up and this program is working its magic. This morning I had a revelation - my AH needs to have his OWN revelations. I often have to learn my lessons a number of times before they actually "S...

mamachief · mamachief

I just can't believe it.... said he would try to stay sober lasted 9 days. Well no really not even a day. He bought a bottle the day after his seziure wasn't suppose to drive but said I refused to drive him, not true. I'm really not sure how many days he didn't drink. I've been calling him on it not sure why ch...

cerika111 · cerika111

Hi Alanon family, I have been here before, but it has been a long time. I honestly believe that Alanon saved my life and I thought I understood all of the principles... My daughter, who I watched like a hawk through high school for signs of substance abuse, has been in 7 rehabs in the last 18 months. We fo...

Starting Again · Starting Again

On Friday night I had a feeling it was beginning again. I didn't search but I just got that inkling. Saturday he went to a meeting but left half way through and came home early. He keeps finding reasons not to go. That night he went to sleep and I was awake at 12:30 searching the entire house. Finally I...

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

Good Morning my Friends I'm lurking on MIP but I'm not helping. I don't have it in me for some reason. I love you all and want so bad to be of service but my head is not in the right place. I'm OK...I'm not sad and upset. Just living. Go from day to day with my prayers, meetings, books and thoughts. I thin...

hopes314 · hopes314

I do alnon and it does help me stay afloat with my AH. When I get my chance I am out of there as soon as the kids are old enough. I have to hate myself so much to allow such a useless A in my life. I know he wouldn't stick around for me. There is no relationship and i understand why people get a divorce because...

slogan_jim · slogan_jim

Hi Everyone, My name is Slogan_Jim and I am a grateful member of al-anon. You know...it's funny with all these great things in my life I am getting cold feet....I keep telling myself to take a different route or to hold off on certain things.....hold back on my growth. Looking for reasons not to go forwa...

Jenn86 · Jenn86

I am fairly new to Al anon. I've been to 6 f2f meetings and a few online meetings. I currently live in an area that doesn't have f2f Al anon meetings so it's a bit challenging when I need support. Right now I feel frustrated because my ABF keeps asking me for money I can't afford to give. I understand thi...

NavySealWife · NavySealWife

Today, is a new day for me I have met my serenity and peace. I have been unhappy with how things have been going with my AH and our marrige and also with my job. This morning my office decided to let me go because I was very liked by my doctors and patient that she felt threatned so she let me go. I have to say tha...

sadsusie · sadsusie

I had such a revelation the last few days. I am feeling more and more comfortable in my own skin. I finally feel like can be lavishly good to myself and not feel guilty about it. I can actually spend money on myself and only 15% feel like I need to say - "see what you have spent". I am looking forwar...

kismetstrand · kismetstrand

April 8 ODAT Would I stand on the seashore and, like King Canure of the ancient legend, try to command the tides? It is just as fruitless to try to control the alcoholic. Yet this is what I would be attempting to force sobriety by my will power. I must honestly admit that I am not even able to control my own th...

giraffe13 · giraffe13

hi guys, I just finished this exercise and I decided 2 do a post b/c I am feeling much better and it may help you too. A friend of mine quit smoking last year, and made a flip book of things to read when he felt like smoking to help with the urges. I did the same with my A. I made a flip book of the facts I know about t...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Today is an off day for me. I am not in synch at all. I feel lost in my head. I don't have a lot to say because I am not sure that whatever will come out will make any sense at all. So, here I am feeling not at all like myself. I thought I was having a pretty good day until I got on the internet. Does anyone else feel th...

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	Need Guidance (Preview) So I am either figuring out one if my character defects or triggers. I have discovered that I get defensive when someone "talks down" to someone. I guess I would interpret it as condescending. I feel the need to speak up. Not sure what to do with this one.	Truth	11	503	Apr 15, 2014 by Truth
	STEP 4 (Preview) Learn How The Twelve Steps Work.Participate in your own recovery as well as the recovery of others, by being active on this board as we go through http://stepwork.activeboard.com/t57280663/alanon-step-4/Please	hotrod	1	230	Apr 14, 2014 by Wolfie55
	Serendipity Strikes Again (Preview) One day last month I was at work (I'm a condo cop, that's like a mall cop but....well you get it right?). My cell phone rang. Private number. Figured it was a sponcee so I answered it. It was a reporter for the local TV station. After he verified who I was, he starts asking me questions about a photo on - a popu...	Wolfie55	3	466	Apr 14, 2014 by KennyFenderjazz
	Returning Member (Preview) I am back after what is it? a year? I couldn't remember my old login information so I created a new account. But it's still me. Wolfie aka Bernie. Hope to re-connect with my old friends here and to make new ones	Wolfie58	8	326	Apr 14, 2014 by Wolfie55
	if all else fails...let go! (Preview) I am struggling w/ a few things lately but I am going to let go of them right now. I don't have any control over any of the situations I have been in recently. I don't need to have another meltdown. Some things are just out of my control. I cannot let them bring me down. I talked to another member & she put s...	Hoot Nanny	2	308	Apr 14, 2014 by Wolfie55
	Need advise on proper response (Preview) I just got home from my weekly f2f meeting. My AS had come over while I was gone. My husband was honest and told him where I was when he asked. It made my son furious and he left mad. How should I respond to him? Not going to al-anon is not an option.	Sallygcoe	11	491	Apr 14, 2014 by Debilyn
	A Sunday before Easter (Preview) Today I went to the store. I saw Easter cards. I wanted to purchase some for my son, my daughter, my grandson and my Dad. Then, I remembered - there is no need to buy him an a card. He isn't here anymore. He's gone. Memories of many years and many shopping trips and many cards and gifts I purchased for m...	grateful2be	10	506	Apr 14, 2014 by Hoot Nanny
	A Letter from my Son (Preview) Got my first letter today from my son and it was nice to hear from him. He said he hasn't gotten all my letters because they were redacted because of the content I guess. I cut and pasted news articles about what is going on around and world. Sucks he can't know about the plane missing or what is happenin...	Cathyinaz	18	727	Apr 14, 2014 by Wolfie55
	Remember that book I said I was going to write? (Preview) Remember that book I said I was going to write? I wrote it. I only mention it here because it's about recovery. About the gifts we find in it. About the gifts I have found in recovery. It's an e-book. Not a very big book. I published it myself. Sometimes I sell them. Sometimes I just give them away if it's som...	Wolfie55	4	357	Apr 14, 2014 by Wolfie55
	anxiety (Preview) I am suffering from a bout of anxiety these days. I know why but I can't seem to shake it. My mom is selling her house soon if the buyer agrees to the price. She might be gone in less than 2 mos. She plans to go to visit family for 2 graduations next month anyhow. But we will see what happens. I am anxious because...	Hoot Nanny	2	318	Apr 14, 2014 by Wolfie55
	when is the right time? (Preview) I thought I was being good and putting boundaries in place but unfortunately I can't and/or don't want to keep to them as I don't feel ready yet. The boundary that I stupidly said was that the alcoholic could move back home after they had been sober for three months! Sounds reasonable ? But unfortunate...	southernlass	6	450	Apr 14, 2014 by abbyal
	Have I done the right thing? (Preview) Have just shared my concerns with the alcoholic about them moving back home in 2 weeks and it went just as expected. It was turned round so that it was all about them. They tried to make me feel guilty about changing the goal posts (which I guess I have) but when I explained why have I and that I was not read...	southernlass	10	566	Apr 14, 2014 by Wolfie55
	I need a sponsor (Preview) I want to start off right away with a sponsor. I am female and need someone that married an alcoholic. the problems are starting and it has only been a week since I married him. Please help.	beenaproblem	3	369	Apr 14, 2014 by Wolfie55
	A lovely powerless weekend. (Preview) OK so this weekend I've been trying to get back to that "let go and let God" and "do the next right thing" combo that was working so well for me. Because I've come to realise that when I get caught up in the "big picture" and how everyone fits into it and what I need THEM to do...	Melly1248	10	528	Apr 14, 2014 by milkwood
	Back in the saddle .... (Preview) Well I had an excellent day. Got caught up at work. Just about organized at home. Helped out a friend. Just peaceful and happy. Got started on organizing my notes if I need them for the Ex-A return and mediation session. Grateful to all of you for assisting me along through this learning curve ...	Truth	2	330	Apr 14, 2014 by Wolfie55
	*ATTENTION ALL MIP MEMBERS* (Preview) http://meetinginfo.activeboard.com/t57236795/wso-registration-procedure-group-liaisons-findings/	John	4	496	Apr 14, 2014 by PP
	I'm so smart (Preview) I remembered that I was accessing this site on an old laptop, so I did some messing around and now I'm back as wolfie55 instead of wolfie58. I'm smarter than I thought I was.;)	Wolfie55	5	315	Apr 14, 2014 by Jerry F
	Fault Finding.... (Preview) I have been doing a lot of thinking lately of alcoholism. It is a progressive disease, family disease, and many more. When my AH was working full time he never drank. It was after he was in a forced retirement that got him started. My husband has a severe form of tinnitus (ringing in his ear with nerve...	Jen61	8	533	Apr 13, 2014 by bud
	Sunday (Preview) Good Morning all It's Sunday and I'm lying in bed this early morning reading everyone's posts and feeling the love I have for all of you. Even though I don't personally know you I have this bond that I can't explain. It's like your all right there when I need you. I'm at peace this morning, I worked my bu...	Cathyinaz	8	399	Apr 13, 2014 by Rose50
	Getting Them Sober (Preview) Hi everybody! I've been noticing a lot of new faces around here, and would like to bring up the topic of the book Getting Them Sober by Toby Rice Drews. Even though it isn't official 12-step literature, it came highly recommended to me at a meeting. It was a real game-changer for me in my ongoing recovery...	Raven Juniper	10	990	Apr 13, 2014 by el-cee
	More detail (Preview) I guess I should elaborate. I was using WolfIe55 as my old username so all those posts are mine. I was out of work for about six months, lost my internet, can't access my old account yet. I'm back though with more stories and to hear more of yours. So what's new. I have a ho-hum job that pays the bills. The rec...	Wolfie58	0	306	Apr 13, 2014 by Wolfie58
	Being true to myself (Preview) As many of you know I have been dating and really am very picky about the type of men I meet. I have only met a few men in the last year and a half. The newest one seems to be the healthiest yet and I am excited. In this excitement comes trepidation, am I healthy enough, is it finally time to have met a prince amo...	Breakingfree	3	448	Apr 13, 2014 by Wolfie58
	Are my boundries too rigid? (Preview) Is it possible that I am making my AH jump thru too many hoops to return home? He was in rehab and is currently in Intensive Outpatient and in a half way house far from home. He has no car and no job and has been putting all his expenses on his credit card. I don't think I am being harsh when I tell him that he...	jillybean1	12	523	Apr 12, 2014 by pinkchip
	I have stumbled... (Preview) last night. A wave of sadness has overcome me and I have let the tears run out wildly. I think i had a sort of panic attack, feeling all my losses tenfold. well I thought it was good to cry and feel my pain after that I went to bed and had a deep sleep. pity parties are a dangerous place to be in for me. for in that m...	tortuga	10	549	Apr 12, 2014 by oldergal
	Hello...new here and looking for some kind words of support or simply someone to listen. (Preview) My husband and I have a handful of wonderful friends. Friends that I am so tempted to confide in about my husband's addiction and bipolar episodes. There are many days that DH is perfectly fine, then episodes of addiction, OCD, paranoia, lack of sleep for days. I find myself making excuses (enabl...	feelingdefeated	11	530	Apr 12, 2014 by Jen61
	maybe this is unrelated... (Preview) Just want to say that the 1st edition of the Big Book of AA was re-printed on April 10th which is the 75th anniversary of its first printing. Kathleen	Hoot Nanny	0	224	Apr 12, 2014 by Hoot Nanny
	Thinking about Love! (Preview) What is your idea of love? Has it changed since Alanon? How do you know you love your alcoholic and how do you know he loves you as opposed to needing each other?	el-cee	10	546	Apr 12, 2014 by milkwood
	Can't get a god perspective (Preview) I cannot get the perspective that I obviously should according to the al-anon way. My AS is completely consuming my every thought and action. I feel like there is a rubber band around my heart. When you love them so much and are so filled with fear how do you find any kind of perspective? I'm so stressed!...	Sallygcoe	9	352	Apr 12, 2014 by PP
	I wonder. (Preview) Ridiculous optimism is something I have been accused of many times. And I suppose it really has been excessive; when other people have been throwing their hands in the air and screaming "the sky is falling" I've always been the one saying "all right, don't get your knickers in a twist...	Melly1248	13	598	Apr 12, 2014 by PP
	Small victory for me ... I think (Preview) My AS came over this afternoon, very ainxed (sp?) . He had asked if he could come over and have some dinner. I said yes. When he was here he did not want to talk or be talked to. He just wanted to sit in front of the tv and sulk. I got up and found the next right thing to do... Water plants and unload the dishwasher...	Sallygcoe	5	443	Apr 12, 2014 by Jerry F
	I still love my AH (Preview) My AH has completely blocked me out of his life. Stating he has a new girlfriend and that he will get sober with her. The new girlfriend is twice as young as him and is a university student. I do not know what to say I guess their is nothing to say. I guess that is part of why I want to leave the city I live in....	texasgal	13	585	Apr 12, 2014 by Jerry F
	truth or lies (Preview) Anymore I don't know what is true or what is a lie. I told my Ah I went to an open AA meeting that was wonderful. It had so much wisdom and openness and truth. My AH will not go because he will not be in a program that doesn't identify Jesus as the HP. I said everyone has selected who their HP can be. Then I tell h...	hopes314	11	552	Apr 11, 2014 by Debilyn
	I went to look at a new place to live! (Preview) Yesterday I had plans to view a room advertised in a shared house, it appealed so much to me in the advert because it was set in so many acres of farm land and it said they had a cat and two friendly dogs and the house was sociable and upbeat, I have not been in a position to go this far through finance before so I...	Katy	6	390	Apr 11, 2014 by Debilyn
	Who is this sober person I'm married to? marriage (Preview) My wife descended into alcoholism about seven years into our marriage. I know that she may have technically been an alcoholic since birth, but during the early years of our marriage, she drank in moderation, and I rarely saw her drunk. That all started to change at about the seven year point. I coul...	John in GA	7	7400	Apr 11, 2014 by KennyFenderjazz
	Today's chuckle (Preview) http://www.theonion.com/articles/alcohol-unfairly-blamed-for-local-mans-impaired-ju,35745/	KennyFenderjazz	3	288	Apr 11, 2014 by el-cee
	Today's other success story. (Preview) I didn't feel like going to a meeting today, I had a zillion other things I wanted to do but I KNEW it was the next right thing for me so I went. It is school holidays so daughter stayed home with dog and cat curled up in front of the heater watching a movie and I entrusted her with the house key for the first tim...	Melly1248	8	419	Apr 11, 2014 by el-cee
	Levelling Pride and Allowing Others To Own Their Stuff (Preview) I was thinking about my next door neighbor this morning. when I first moved in last fall I went out onto the back porch to smoke. i didn't know I wasn't allowed to smoke outside or anywhere on the property, I just knew there was no smoking inside. this was in the middle of the night. Suddenly I heard loud yel...	WorkingThroughIt	3	361	Apr 11, 2014 by bud
	can you really do it? (Preview) Can you really live with an active alcoholic and live a happy life? Can it really be done and if so do you have to live seperate lives? How can you focus on your program if its challenged constantly? It just seems to me that the people in alanon who really work this and are happy have sober partners or have le...	el-cee	23	705	Apr 11, 2014 by el-cee
	The Roller Coaster Of Life.... (Preview) Hey Peeps :) Welp this Last Month Sure has Had its Ups, Downs & turns that felt like my Insides would soon be on my Outside! Survival is def. Key in this Disease & In Life in General! In the Last Month, My Aunt Had her Cancer Surgery, "doing Well" :) Now doing 6wks Radiation to make sure...	Jozie	3	463	Apr 10, 2014 by PP
	Slowly but surely....Long Rambly Post (Preview) It's funny how this program has been like a little bottle of spray cleaner in my life. I find myself stating my intentions like its a big deal, then see that my actions actually work against my so called purpose. I find myself slipping back into old habits a bit more frequently lately, so I need to re-read...	Raven Juniper	3	438	Apr 10, 2014 by PP
	do I stay or do I go (Preview) I have been separated from my AH for awhile. He filed for divorce saying I was crazy and would have anxiety attacks. Which I did I can admit to that. It was awful living with an alcoholic. I felt crazy all the time. He has a new girlfriend and sent me a text stating that he was doing so much better witho...	texasgal	4	477	Apr 10, 2014 by Beatrice
	guilt (Preview) I didn't handle an alcoholic well yesterday, and I have been suffering guilt on and off. It's so ironic to me that after all the raging, scaring, and insane behavior he brings to my family, that I am feeling guilty. He asked me to do something yesterday that would have taken just minutes, and he is reco...	Lyne	5	410	Apr 10, 2014 by Beatrice
	understanding: anger is the abuse I suffer from (Preview) I realized, as soon as A made contact again, how anger gets to me every time. They may be other forms of abuse, but under the bottom line, it is always anger that get to me. I learned in Al anon and through meditation how to stop reacting. For teasing and provocations were and are many. And I'm grateful for t...	tortuga	3	449	Apr 10, 2014 by ClearTheFog
	lol!! (Preview) Oh dear. I've just gotten back from my meeting. It was wonderful I rode my bike there, feeling fabulous and free riding in the rain when a car began madly tooting behind me. It was cat lady, who came to a stop beside me shouting and gesturing furiously (she was SO ANGRY!!!) because I wasn't wearing a he...	Melly1248	17	526	Apr 10, 2014 by Breakingfree
	He keeps leaving messages (Preview) Gosh... My ex-A has left four messages (asked him not to call) and I am just not interested in even trying to co-parent. I have not returned one call, text or e-mail. I use to feel guilty about that. Under normal circumstances, (if the person was nice I would return the call) Progress?	Truth	6	392	Apr 10, 2014 by SerenityRUS
	all over the place (Preview) Hi all ....thank you for the comments to my last post. I re read them and try to digest. My emotions are like a runaway train to be quite honest. My family member did have his surgery on Monday and all went well. My AH stayed home willingly, (but....)with our daughter so I could go to the hosp last night...h...	Theoceancalls	9	420	Apr 9, 2014 by Grace7
	Anger/Resentment (Preview) How did I become this person? I am completely unhinged.....again...after putting myself together over and over and over again over the years, I divorced (for the 3rd time...) , and relocated last year to my childhood state, bought a home and brought my mom (acoa) and my 52 year old unmarried alcoholi...	Mnuser320	10	374	Apr 9, 2014 by Mnuser320
	Getting out of their way / a revelation about revelations detachment getting out of their way focus on me happiness truth (Preview) Good morning everyone, I had a revelation about revelations this morning. I have slowly had my eyes opening up and this program is working its magic. This morning I had a revelation - my AH needs to have his OWN revelations. I often have to learn my lessons a number of times before they actually "S...	sadsusie	6	13102	Apr 9, 2014 by oldergal
	ugh so annoyed (Preview) I just can't believe it.... said he would try to stay sober lasted 9 days. Well no really not even a day. He bought a bottle the day after his seziure wasn't suppose to drive but said I refused to drive him, not true. I'm really not sure how many days he didn't drink. I've been calling him on it not sure why ch...	mamachief	7	423	Apr 9, 2014 by grateful2be
	My daughter is in jail Child daughter out of control (Preview) Hi Alanon family, I have been here before, but it has been a long time. I honestly believe that Alanon saved my life and I thought I understood all of the principles... My daughter, who I watched like a hawk through high school for signs of substance abuse, has been in 7 rehabs in the last 18 months. We fo...	cerika111	14	9700	Apr 9, 2014 by cerika111
	searching for bottles (Preview) On Friday night I had a feeling it was beginning again. I didn't search but I just got that inkling. Saturday he went to a meeting but left half way through and came home early. He keeps finding reasons not to go. That night he went to sleep and I was awake at 12:30 searching the entire house. Finally I...	Starting Again	9	416	Apr 9, 2014 by grateful2be
	I don't have it in me (Preview) Good Morning my Friends I'm lurking on MIP but I'm not helping. I don't have it in me for some reason. I love you all and want so bad to be of service but my head is not in the right place. I'm OK...I'm not sad and upset. Just living. Go from day to day with my prayers, meetings, books and thoughts. I thin...	Cathyinaz	14	397	Apr 9, 2014 by ParisMemories
	i see my life (Preview) I do alnon and it does help me stay afloat with my AH. When I get my chance I am out of there as soon as the kids are old enough. I have to hate myself so much to allow such a useless A in my life. I know he wouldn't stick around for me. There is no relationship and i understand why people get a divorce because...	hopes314	5	530	Apr 9, 2014 by PP
	Questioning where this is all leading me. (Preview) Hi Everyone, My name is Slogan_Jim and I am a grateful member of al-anon. You know...it's funny with all these great things in my life I am getting cold feet....I keep telling myself to take a different route or to hold off on certain things.....hold back on my growth. Looking for reasons not to go forwa...	slogan_jim	3	436	Apr 9, 2014 by KennyFenderjazz
	New--Frustrated (Preview) I am fairly new to Al anon. I've been to 6 f2f meetings and a few online meetings. I currently live in an area that doesn't have f2f Al anon meetings so it's a bit challenging when I need support. Right now I feel frustrated because my ABF keeps asking me for money I can't afford to give. I understand thi...	Jenn86	3	379	Apr 9, 2014 by KennyFenderjazz
	Today is the start of a new beginning, one door closes and hope another door opens.... (Preview) Today, is a new day for me I have met my serenity and peace. I have been unhappy with how things have been going with my AH and our marrige and also with my job. This morning my office decided to let me go because I was very liked by my doctors and patient that she felt threatned so she let me go. I have to say tha...	NavySealWife	1	250	Apr 9, 2014 by Debilyn
	My intense rage....but still love him.. (Preview) I had such a revelation the last few days. I am feeling more and more comfortable in my own skin. I finally feel like can be lavishly good to myself and not feel guilty about it. I can actually spend money on myself and only 15% feel like I need to say - "see what you have spent". I am looking forwar...	sadsusie	13	624	Apr 8, 2014 by sadsusie
	Control, Interfere, Protect vs. Improvement (Preview) April 8 ODAT Would I stand on the seashore and, like King Canure of the ancient legend, try to command the tides? It is just as fruitless to try to control the alcoholic. Yet this is what I would be attempting to force sobriety by my will power. I must honestly admit that I am not even able to control my own th...	kismetstrand	2	385	Apr 8, 2014 by Cathyinaz
	an exercise for progress (Preview) hi guys, I just finished this exercise and I decided 2 do a post b/c I am feeling much better and it may help you too. A friend of mine quit smoking last year, and made a flip book of things to read when he felt like smoking to help with the urges. I did the same with my A. I made a flip book of the facts I know about t...	giraffe13	3	713	Apr 8, 2014 by PP
	I think my thinker is broken (Preview) Today is an off day for me. I am not in synch at all. I feel lost in my head. I don't have a lot to say because I am not sure that whatever will come out will make any sense at all. So, here I am feeling not at all like myself. I thought I was having a pretty good day until I got on the internet. Does anyone else feel th...	Hoot Nanny	4	354	Apr 8, 2014 by grateful2be
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