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el-cee · el-cee

Todays odat, 'when I cant accomplish all id like to, when im confronted with reverses and nothing seems to work right, il just remember easy does it. Some how it guides me into a less hectic frame of mind. Changing to a more comfortable rhythm smooths out the bumps. ' 'When im trying to hard to change thin...

grateful2be · grateful2be

Today, spring and Easter bring their blessings of hope, renewal and transformation to my life. Since it was sunny and warmer, I chose to peek out my garage access door at the flowers blooming, trees budding, and little critters running in my yard. I looked at my red butterfly bird feeder into which I...

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

Happy Easter All It is a very grateful day for me this year. I am grateful to have my son alive and safe in place where he can't hurt himself. I'm grateful for everything I have learn and practiced over this last couple of years. I am grateful to be able to sit here happy that I'm not in worry or fear and I can...

likemyheart · likemyheart

Happy Easter everyone, mine has been spent so far, watching 5 episodes of The Mentalist, which I NEVER sit still this long; doing some dishes, drinking more coffee than I usually have time for and enjoying the silence, well, sort of silence, birds and the cold-induced ringing in my ears aside. One of m...

Raven Juniper · Raven Juniper

Hi everybody! Here we all are again on this fine day, and I hope you all are having a great Sunday. Many people are celebrating Easter and I have many fond memories of hunting for those sneaky eggs;) As I've gotten older and my kids are grown, this has turned into a more reflective time, and I usually find m...

WorkingThroughIt · WorkingThroughIt

I have realized that what I am trying to control is all of the people who want to control me into being who they want me to be. Confusing, right?! Like, wait...let me read that sentence again. When you're a people-pleaser your whole life, it's not comfortable to a lot of people when we stop. THIS is really...

milkwood · milkwood

Wishing my MIP family Happy Easter with this picture of Springtime here in Italy...

Wolfie55 · Wolfie55

I am working twelve hour shifts today and tomorrow so happy Easter and I hope your days are peaceful. -- Edited by Wolfie55 on Sunday 20th of April 2014 03:09:55 AM

Sallygcoe · Sallygcoe

I am having so much trouble getting control of my anxiety. I know I cannot control my AS, but it causes me so much anxiety knowing he is using. he thinks I don't know but it is obvious. Not worrying about the what if's seems impossible for me today. any advise would be greatly appreciated.

slogan_jim · slogan_jim

Hi guys, my name is slogan_jim and I am a grateful member of al-anon.Recently Ive been examining my relationships with people and the ones that make me unhappy. I asked why they were making me so unhappy and what it was about them that left me wanting more internally. Then one day I saw a saying that went B...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I am very down this morning. I don't feel much like talking to anyone but I do want to share on here. I am going through a lot of trials in my life right now. I thought that I was doing OK for awhile but now it seems that things are going terribly wrong. I can't seem to shake the sadness. I have already shared mos...

Wisdom67 · Wisdom67

Yesterday I decided to go to a hotel I wasn't feeling safe at home plus I needed do some paper work for housing Medicaid exc. I left the hotel to get something to eat and left my phone at the hotel . My AH sober 18 months shows up at the hotel and see my car there . The only way he would of known that is he was snoopi...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

Well, I'm beyond excited after 5 years of either no internet service, .. crappy internet service I am finally able to go and have REAL internet service and I broke down and got cable to go with it. I may have to rethink that idea after a few months at least though for today we have it .. lol. I hate spending...

tortuga · tortuga

This week I made a big step forward in my recovery. I noticed and realized so many things about myself, that kept me blocking for so long. A step 4 used to be a difficult thing for me, but I have made a practice and learned to do it more often it was then step 5 that i found even more difficultafter all the wron...

ClearTheFog · ClearTheFog

This whole 'recycling' thing in recovery is rough! I'd say one step forward, two steps back but then I get a really annoying 80s song stuck in my head. I have yet to get into some kind of regular groove that puts me already a few levels up (within myself, not on others), so that I can stop reacting all the ti...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I will make this quick as I am having a hard time seeing out of my right eye. As most of you know last summer I had surgery on both of my eyes. They told me that if I had any issues to let them know. Well...yesterday I believe, I found a floater in my right eye. I already have had one in my left eye for about 10 years...

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

Good Morning Everyone I took yesterday and today off work so I could go visit my son. Yesterday I was going to clean and fiddle around and then today go for my visit. My son had been moved into the inmate working section because they gave him a job. Second day into the job he had a seizure so that ended his w...

Melly1248 · Melly1248

The past week has been filled with somewhat unpleasant experiences, as I have shared. And although I have been taking things in my stride and seeing the funny side, I guess there is some pent up anger in there because one night I did something strange and a bit disturbing. See, the next morning the alcoh...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

It has been a very, very long week. I'm emotionally and mentally exhausted in a good way. The kids and I have been very busy. I moved into my new place and finally today took the last load. I was just ready to be done. I could have done more .. honestly .. why bother .. I'm just to that point. These peopl...

SamToller · SamToller

Hello everyone- I am new to this whole thing, I honestly do not know how or where to begin, but i'm sure I will figure it out. My wife suffers from Alcoholism and Drug abuse. Her drug abuse is a direct correspondence of her drinking. I love her very much and want her to be healthy and happy. She recently wil...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I personally am not really under too much stress as some of my problems have been solved. The thing that really gets me is that my cousin just informed me yesterday that she is going to be living in her van starting this weekend. She told me to continue to text her but I can't email her anymore. Calling her s...

Beatrice · Beatrice

" Your best relationship should be the relationship with yourself." unk

Truth · Truth

Okay so my Ex-A had a visit today. We agreed to meet at 7:15 to do an exchange in a public place. I did this at the suggestion of the police and family violence. The police have told me to keep my doors locked. He shows up at my house at 5:30. He is banging on the door for a half an hour. Trying to use my keyless ent...

Wolfie55 · Wolfie55

This is my fifth step story. It's also the story of how I met my current wife. A version of this story appeared in the May 2010 issue of Grapevine, the monthly journal of Alcoholics Anonymous and this version is from a book I wrote about the gifts I have received in recovery. Hope it brings a bit of happines...

tiredtonite · tiredtonite

I met with a friend last night for dinner. I guess she's more of an acquaintance. I met her when I was taking a class and we've stayed in touch. I don't know... I left feeling uncomfortable and just not good with myself and where I am at this time. I felt like I was sitting in a high chair with a sippy cup ac...

laststraw899 · laststraw899

I'm new here, and I've never attended an al-anon meeting before, although I probably should have...I'm not quite sure how this works, so I suppose providing a little introduction as to how I got here would help. I've had a lot of experience dealing with alcoholism, as both my brother and my husband are...

Wolfie55 · Wolfie55

I shared this with my fake book friends but none of you all are there so I will share it here. I feel better already. More.....centered. I went to the meeting here Sunday night, woke up early this morning, took in a noon meeting....f2f.....came home had a nice meal with my wife, a nice long nap and now I'm w...

Melly1248 · Melly1248

I had my first "government sponsored" driving lesson yesterday. The instructor they sent was awesome; I felt so at ease with her. I think because she's used to working with grown-ups instead of teenagers she had a completely different approach and made small talk the entire time; she sai...

Wolfie55 · Wolfie55

Without going into a lot of detail, I wasn't always cute and adorable like I am now. When I was in relationships I took hostages. Everything was about me and you were all out to get me. Through the twelve steps I learned that most of what I thought about myself about god and about the people around me was a di...

el-cee · el-cee

Step 5 is scary. Im doing my first official big step 5 today, revealling all my guilty secrets to cleanse my soul and deepen my recovery. Ive been in alanon for 2 years this month and I have done mini step 5s on a daily basis and with friends really but today, I meet with my sponsor and im going to tell her wha...

Truth · Truth

So I realized where I have an issue with my Ex-A that I need to acknowledge. When he came and made his amends, he "swept things under the rug". He then accused me of being "focused" on the past. He knows because "his sponsor" told him. A sponser who has never met me in my li...

Katy · Katy

Well I am greatful, for the not drinking but it isn't enough, I need more and I need better, I need to see and feel change from them, I am 50 plus now and life is extremely busy we all work hard and we all get tired quicker and the days we spend out of work are so precious, something that has become a huge part of m...

Wolfie55 · Wolfie55

Let me begin by saying I do not sponsor women anymore. I had some problems with that so the safest solution now is not to. I still am available for chit chat or if you wanna be friends or facebook buddies, I'm very approachable that way, I just avoid those intimate sponsorship relationships with members...

Theoceancalls · Theoceancalls

well its school vacation. we r staying hone for the most part. getting caught up.on family and home stuff. just to.ketyou all know. . as you may remember. .i was hoping for a posibility of a job change. wellll. . .the one i was hoping for let me kniw they were in need of someone with credentials a step above...

Mari1978 · Mari1978

I received a message yesterday from the father of my two oldest daughters. I still randomly send pictures not really having the expectations that he will respond. I have learned to accept that knowing he suffers greatly from his disease. I know that when there is silence its really bad. Each time I fin...

Melly1248 · Melly1248

Now they say that when life hands you lemons, you ought make lemonade, don't they? And I try to, I really do. I consider it a huge part of my healing. Because there's always a positive, isn't there? A lesson to be learnt at least? A silver lining of some description? So last night Michael Douglas the Cat de...

Green Eyes · Green Eyes

Yesterday was my AD and her twin sister's birthday. This is the second birthday since her dad's, my AH, passing. The only time I have been in contact since that time was at her sister's wedding and the day after when we spread my AH's ashes at sea. She also responded to me by email a couple of months ago when...

UCOmar · UCOmar

Hi there, I was hoping to get some insight on this. I have recently been re-connected with a man whom I've known from my home town years ago. We were a couple years apart, so didn't go to school together and so I didn't know him that well. About 5 years ago, we met at my work where he had just started, recogniz...

lilfriend1964 · lilfriend1964

I turned 50 this year , have been married to S , an alcoholic for 20 years now and have been through unspeakable craziness with my husband due to drinking. Hes had periods of honest to goodness sobriety in the past ( 7 years at one time) but he reminds me of a skipping stone with high times and low times and I...

mongowal · mongowal

AH and I are in the middle of a divorce completely on the part of my AH. He has been mentally and verbally for over a year and a half. He told me he wanted a divorce because he fell out of love with me and will never love me again. I found out two weeks later that he had a girlfriend and had taken her on a weeken...

Wolfie55 · Wolfie55

I don't remember if I shared this here before, but I'm just going to throw it out there. It's not an original thought. It's a story I heard someone else tell and I changed it a bit. One day a young girl asked her daddy if they could go for a walk in the park like they used to do. Her daddy said, "not now pri...

Jozie · Jozie

Before I Landed at MIP, I was 110% Focused on SOLELY My Family... I Absessed over My Husband, My Son, My Brothers, My Sisters, Mom, Dad, My MIL, My SIL, My Neices, My Nephews How they were Being Raised, Was they Being Taking Care of, Did I have to Go Speak to their Parents (Like I was Queen of the Crop on Makin...

Truth · Truth

So I am either figuring out one if my character defects or triggers. I have discovered that I get defensive when someone "talks down" to someone. I guess I would interpret it as condescending. I feel the need to speak up. Not sure what to do with this one.

hotrod · hotrod

Learn How The Twelve Steps Work.Participate in your own recovery as well as the recovery of others, by being active on this board as we go through http://stepwork.activeboard.com/t57280663/alanon-step-4/Please

Wolfie55 · Wolfie55

One day last month I was at work (I'm a condo cop, that's like a mall cop but....well you get it right?). My cell phone rang. Private number. Figured it was a sponcee so I answered it. It was a reporter for the local TV station. After he verified who I was, he starts asking me questions about a photo on - a popu...

Returning Member · Wolfie58

I am back after what is it? a year? I couldn't remember my old login information so I created a new account. But it's still me. Wolfie aka Bernie. Hope to re-connect with my old friends here and to make new ones

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I am struggling w/ a few things lately but I am going to let go of them right now. I don't have any control over any of the situations I have been in recently. I don't need to have another meltdown. Some things are just out of my control. I cannot let them bring me down. I talked to another member & she put s...

Sallygcoe · Sallygcoe

I just got home from my weekly f2f meeting. My AS had come over while I was gone. My husband was honest and told him where I was when he asked. It made my son furious and he left mad. How should I respond to him? Not going to al-anon is not an option.

grateful2be · grateful2be

Today I went to the store. I saw Easter cards. I wanted to purchase some for my son, my daughter, my grandson and my Dad. Then, I remembered - there is no need to buy him an a card. He isn't here anymore. He's gone. Memories of many years and many shopping trips and many cards and gifts I purchased for m...

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

Got my first letter today from my son and it was nice to hear from him. He said he hasn't gotten all my letters because they were redacted because of the content I guess. I cut and pasted news articles about what is going on around and world. Sucks he can't know about the plane missing or what is happenin...

Wolfie55 · Wolfie55

Remember that book I said I was going to write? I wrote it. I only mention it here because it's about recovery. About the gifts we find in it. About the gifts I have found in recovery. It's an e-book. Not a very big book. I published it myself. Sometimes I sell them. Sometimes I just give them away if it's som...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I am suffering from a bout of anxiety these days. I know why but I can't seem to shake it. My mom is selling her house soon if the buyer agrees to the price. She might be gone in less than 2 mos. She plans to go to visit family for 2 graduations next month anyhow. But we will see what happens. I am anxious because...

southernlass · southernlass

I thought I was being good and putting boundaries in place but unfortunately I can't and/or don't want to keep to them as I don't feel ready yet. The boundary that I stupidly said was that the alcoholic could move back home after they had been sober for three months! Sounds reasonable ? But unfortunate...

southernlass · southernlass

Have just shared my concerns with the alcoholic about them moving back home in 2 weeks and it went just as expected. It was turned round so that it was all about them. They tried to make me feel guilty about changing the goal posts (which I guess I have) but when I explained why have I and that I was not read...

beenaproblem · beenaproblem

I want to start off right away with a sponsor. I am female and need someone that married an alcoholic. the problems are starting and it has only been a week since I married him. Please help.

Melly1248 · Melly1248

OK so this weekend I've been trying to get back to that "let go and let God" and "do the next right thing" combo that was working so well for me. Because I've come to realise that when I get caught up in the "big picture" and how everyone fits into it and what I need THEM to do...

Truth · Truth

Well I had an excellent day. Got caught up at work. Just about organized at home. Helped out a friend. Just peaceful and happy. Got started on organizing my notes if I need them for the Ex-A return and mediation session. Grateful to all of you for assisting me along through this learning curve

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Wolfie55 · Wolfie55

I remembered that I was accessing this site on an old laptop, so I did some messing around and now I'm back as wolfie55 instead of wolfie58. I'm smarter than I thought I was.;)

Jen61 · Jen61

I have been doing a lot of thinking lately of alcoholism. It is a progressive disease, family disease, and many more. When my AH was working full time he never drank. It was after he was in a forced retirement that got him started. My husband has a severe form of tinnitus (ringing in his ear with nerve...

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	easy does it (Preview) Todays odat, 'when I cant accomplish all id like to, when im confronted with reverses and nothing seems to work right, il just remember easy does it. Some how it guides me into a less hectic frame of mind. Changing to a more comfortable rhythm smooths out the bumps. ' 'When im trying to hard to change thin...	el-cee	6	392	Apr 21, 2014 by SerenityRUS
	An Easter Blessing (Preview) Today, spring and Easter bring their blessings of hope, renewal and transformation to my life. Since it was sunny and warmer, I chose to peek out my garage access door at the flowers blooming, trees budding, and little critters running in my yard. I looked at my red butterfly bird feeder into which I...	grateful2be	8	365	Apr 21, 2014 by SerenityRUS
	Happy Easter (Preview) Happy Easter All It is a very grateful day for me this year. I am grateful to have my son alive and safe in place where he can't hurt himself. I'm grateful for everything I have learn and practiced over this last couple of years. I am grateful to be able to sit here happy that I'm not in worry or fear and I can...	Cathyinaz	6	398	Apr 21, 2014 by SerenityRUS
	Easter, religion and faith (Preview) Happy Easter everyone, mine has been spent so far, watching 5 episodes of The Mentalist, which I NEVER sit still this long; doing some dishes, drinking more coffee than I usually have time for and enjoying the silence, well, sort of silence, birds and the cold-induced ringing in my ears aside. One of m...	likemyheart	6	636	Apr 21, 2014 by SerenityRUS
	Rantings, Rumblings, and New Beginnings Pt. 1 ;) (Preview) Hi everybody! Here we all are again on this fine day, and I hope you all are having a great Sunday. Many people are celebrating Easter and I have many fond memories of hunting for those sneaky eggs;) As I've gotten older and my kids are grown, this has turned into a more reflective time, and I usually find m...	Raven Juniper	6	720	Apr 21, 2014 by SerenityRUS
	Control (Preview) I have realized that what I am trying to control is all of the people who want to control me into being who they want me to be. Confusing, right?! Like, wait...let me read that sentence again. When you're a people-pleaser your whole life, it's not comfortable to a lot of people when we stop. THIS is really...	WorkingThroughIt	12	678	Apr 20, 2014 by WorkingThroughIt
	Happy Easter…. (Preview) Wishing my MIP family Happy Easter with this picture of Springtime here in Italy...	milkwood	9	352	Apr 20, 2014 by PP
	Happy Easter (Preview) I am working twelve hour shifts today and tomorrow so happy Easter and I hope your days are peaceful. -- Edited by Wolfie55 on Sunday 20th of April 2014 03:09:55 AM	Wolfie55	7	434	Apr 20, 2014 by PP
	Need suggestions on how to handle the anxiety (Preview) I am having so much trouble getting control of my anxiety. I know I cannot control my AS, but it causes me so much anxiety knowing he is using. he thinks I don't know but it is obvious. Not worrying about the what if's seems impossible for me today. any advise would be greatly appreciated.	Sallygcoe	10	544	Apr 20, 2014 by Cathyinaz
	Tolerated, but not celebrated. (Preview) Hi guys, my name is slogan_jim and I am a grateful member of al-anon.Recently Ive been examining my relationships with people and the ones that make me unhappy. I asked why they were making me so unhappy and what it was about them that left me wanting more internally. Then one day I saw a saying that went B...	slogan_jim	1	482	Apr 20, 2014 by el-cee
	so sad... (Preview) I am very down this morning. I don't feel much like talking to anyone but I do want to share on here. I am going through a lot of trials in my life right now. I thought that I was doing OK for awhile but now it seems that things are going terribly wrong. I can't seem to shake the sadness. I have already shared mos...	Hoot Nanny	2	552	Apr 20, 2014 by Jerry F
	Violated RO stocking order (Preview) Yesterday I decided to go to a hotel I wasn't feeling safe at home plus I needed do some paper work for housing Medicaid exc. I left the hotel to get something to eat and left my phone at the hotel . My AH sober 18 months shows up at the hotel and see my car there . The only way he would of known that is he was snoopi...	Wisdom67	8	671	Apr 19, 2014 by hotrod
	Happy Easter (again) and other thoughts .. (Preview) Well, I'm beyond excited after 5 years of either no internet service, .. crappy internet service I am finally able to go and have REAL internet service and I broke down and got cable to go with it. I may have to rethink that idea after a few months at least though for today we have it .. lol. I hate spending...	SerenityRUS	1	507	Apr 19, 2014 by Cathyinaz
	sometimes it's 2 steps back, and sometimes it's 1 step forward:in recovery (Preview) This week I made a big step forward in my recovery. I noticed and realized so many things about myself, that kept me blocking for so long. A step 4 used to be a difficult thing for me, but I have made a practice and learned to do it more often it was then step 5 that i found even more difficultafter all the wron...	tortuga	2	496	Apr 19, 2014 by KennyFenderjazz
	Still holding others responsible for my happiness (Preview) This whole 'recycling' thing in recovery is rough! I'd say one step forward, two steps back but then I get a really annoying 80s song stuck in my head. I have yet to get into some kind of regular groove that puts me already a few levels up (within myself, not on others), so that I can stop reacting all the ti...	ClearTheFog	9	589	Apr 19, 2014 by ClearTheFog
	more health issues... (Preview) I will make this quick as I am having a hard time seeing out of my right eye. As most of you know last summer I had surgery on both of my eyes. They told me that if I had any issues to let them know. Well...yesterday I believe, I found a floater in my right eye. I already have had one in my left eye for about 10 years...	Hoot Nanny	3	363	Apr 19, 2014 by WorkingThroughIt
	I saw my son (Preview) Good Morning Everyone I took yesterday and today off work so I could go visit my son. Yesterday I was going to clean and fiddle around and then today go for my visit. My son had been moved into the inmate working section because they gave him a job. Second day into the job he had a seizure so that ended his w...	Cathyinaz	8	561	Apr 18, 2014 by Cathyinaz
	No pain no gain? (Preview) The past week has been filled with somewhat unpleasant experiences, as I have shared. And although I have been taking things in my stride and seeing the funny side, I guess there is some pent up anger in there because one night I did something strange and a bit disturbing. See, the next morning the alcoh...	Melly1248	4	776	Apr 18, 2014 by grateful2be
	Long week .. weird .. (Preview) It has been a very, very long week. I'm emotionally and mentally exhausted in a good way. The kids and I have been very busy. I moved into my new place and finally today took the last load. I was just ready to be done. I could have done more .. honestly .. why bother .. I'm just to that point. These peopl...	SerenityRUS	5	488	Apr 18, 2014 by Jen61
	Hello- I am new (Preview) Hello everyone- I am new to this whole thing, I honestly do not know how or where to begin, but i'm sure I will figure it out. My wife suffers from Alcoholism and Drug abuse. Her drug abuse is a direct correspondence of her drinking. I love her very much and want her to be healthy and happy. She recently wil...	SamToller	9	545	Apr 18, 2014 by bud
	more bad news! I am praying... (Preview) I personally am not really under too much stress as some of my problems have been solved. The thing that really gets me is that my cousin just informed me yesterday that she is going to be living in her van starting this weekend. She told me to continue to text her but I can't email her anymore. Calling her s...	Hoot Nanny	2	319	Apr 18, 2014 by bud
	Wisdom (Preview) " Your best relationship should be the relationship with yourself." unk	Beatrice	11	658	Apr 18, 2014 by Tasha
	So glad I am trusting my gut (Preview) Okay so my Ex-A had a visit today. We agreed to meet at 7:15 to do an exchange in a public place. I did this at the suggestion of the police and family violence. The police have told me to keep my doors locked. He shows up at my house at 5:30. He is banging on the door for a half an hour. Trying to use my keyless ent...	Truth	13	746	Apr 17, 2014 by Truth
	the date (Preview) This is my fifth step story. It's also the story of how I met my current wife. A version of this story appeared in the May 2010 issue of Grapevine, the monthly journal of Alcoholics Anonymous and this version is from a book I wrote about the gifts I have received in recovery. Hope it brings a bit of happines...	Wolfie55	4	603	Apr 17, 2014 by Jerry F
	Where I'm At (Preview) I met with a friend last night for dinner. I guess she's more of an acquaintance. I met her when I was taking a class and we've stayed in touch. I don't know... I left feeling uncomfortable and just not good with myself and where I am at this time. I felt like I was sitting in a high chair with a sippy cup ac...	tiredtonite	4	456	Apr 17, 2014 by tiredtonite
	In need of support (Preview) I'm new here, and I've never attended an al-anon meeting before, although I probably should have...I'm not quite sure how this works, so I suppose providing a little introduction as to how I got here would help. I've had a lot of experience dealing with alcoholism, as both my brother and my husband are...	laststraw899	10	602	Apr 17, 2014 by KennyFenderjazz
	Feeling better already (Preview) I shared this with my fake book friends but none of you all are there so I will share it here. I feel better already. More.....centered. I went to the meeting here Sunday night, woke up early this morning, took in a noon meeting....f2f.....came home had a nice meal with my wife, a nice long nap and now I'm w...	Wolfie55	5	418	Apr 17, 2014 by Lyne
	Oh! Forgot to mention!! (Preview) I had my first "government sponsored" driving lesson yesterday. The instructor they sent was awesome; I felt so at ease with her. I think because she's used to working with grown-ups instead of teenagers she had a completely different approach and made small talk the entire time; she sai...	Melly1248	16	666	Apr 16, 2014 by el-cee
	Letters (Preview) Without going into a lot of detail, I wasn't always cute and adorable like I am now. When I was in relationships I took hostages. Everything was about me and you were all out to get me. Through the twelve steps I learned that most of what I thought about myself about god and about the people around me was a di...	Wolfie55	4	547	Apr 16, 2014 by Rose50
	step 5 (Preview) Step 5 is scary. Im doing my first official big step 5 today, revealling all my guilty secrets to cleanse my soul and deepen my recovery. Ive been in alanon for 2 years this month and I have done mini step 5s on a daily basis and with friends really but today, I meet with my sponsor and im going to tell her wha...	el-cee	12	2338	Apr 16, 2014 by grateful2be
	Sweeping things under the rug (Preview) So I realized where I have an issue with my Ex-A that I need to acknowledge. When he came and made his amends, he "swept things under the rug". He then accused me of being "focused" on the past. He knows because "his sponsor" told him. A sponser who has never met me in my li...	Truth	13	569	Apr 16, 2014 by pinkchip
	when they think, that just not drinking is enough and you should be greateful! (Preview) Well I am greatful, for the not drinking but it isn't enough, I need more and I need better, I need to see and feel change from them, I am 50 plus now and life is extremely busy we all work hard and we all get tired quicker and the days we spend out of work are so precious, something that has become a huge part of m...	Katy	10	707	Apr 16, 2014 by el-cee
	Right Place Right Time (Preview) Let me begin by saying I do not sponsor women anymore. I had some problems with that so the safest solution now is not to. I still am available for chit chat or if you wanna be friends or facebook buddies, I'm very approachable that way, I just avoid those intimate sponsorship relationships with members...	Wolfie55	2	444	Apr 16, 2014 by Tracy
	a quiet two weeks. (Preview) well its school vacation. we r staying hone for the most part. getting caught up.on family and home stuff. just to.ketyou all know. . as you may remember. .i was hoping for a posibility of a job change. wellll. . .the one i was hoping for let me kniw they were in need of someone with credentials a step above...	Theoceancalls	3	358	Apr 16, 2014 by el-cee
	Cry, Pray and then Let go and Let God. (Preview) I received a message yesterday from the father of my two oldest daughters. I still randomly send pictures not really having the expectations that he will respond. I have learned to accept that knowing he suffers greatly from his disease. I know that when there is silence its really bad. Each time I fin...	Mari1978	5	644	Apr 16, 2014 by Tracy
	Yay!! (Preview) Now they say that when life hands you lemons, you ought make lemonade, don't they? And I try to, I really do. I consider it a huge part of my healing. Because there's always a positive, isn't there? A lesson to be learnt at least? A silver lining of some description? So last night Michael Douglas the Cat de...	Melly1248	13	673	Apr 15, 2014 by Truth
	AD Still Does Not Want Me in her Life (Preview) Yesterday was my AD and her twin sister's birthday. This is the second birthday since her dad's, my AH, passing. The only time I have been in contact since that time was at her sister's wedding and the day after when we spread my AH's ashes at sea. She also responded to me by email a couple of months ago when...	Green Eyes	9	589	Apr 15, 2014 by SerenityRUS
	Relationships and AA (Preview) Hi there, I was hoping to get some insight on this. I have recently been re-connected with a man whom I've known from my home town years ago. We were a couple years apart, so didn't go to school together and so I didn't know him that well. About 5 years ago, we met at my work where he had just started, recogniz...	UCOmar	5	889	Apr 15, 2014 by Beatrice
	just getting too old for this and need help (Preview) I turned 50 this year , have been married to S , an alcoholic for 20 years now and have been through unspeakable craziness with my husband due to drinking. Hes had periods of honest to goodness sobriety in the past ( 7 years at one time) but he reminds me of a skipping stone with high times and low times and I...	lilfriend1964	13	647	Apr 15, 2014 by PP
	Frustrated!!! (Preview) AH and I are in the middle of a divorce completely on the part of my AH. He has been mentally and verbally for over a year and a half. He told me he wanted a divorce because he fell out of love with me and will never love me again. I found out two weeks later that he had a girlfriend and had taken her on a weeken...	mongowal	6	510	Apr 15, 2014 by mongowal
	Please Daddy Don't Cry (Preview) I don't remember if I shared this here before, but I'm just going to throw it out there. It's not an original thought. It's a story I heard someone else tell and I changed it a bit. One day a young girl asked her daddy if they could go for a walk in the park like they used to do. Her daddy said, "not now pri...	Wolfie55	3	530	Apr 15, 2014 by hotrod
	Crazy Train... Exit Left :D (Preview) Before I Landed at MIP, I was 110% Focused on SOLELY My Family... I Absessed over My Husband, My Son, My Brothers, My Sisters, Mom, Dad, My MIL, My SIL, My Neices, My Nephews How they were Being Raised, Was they Being Taking Care of, Did I have to Go Speak to their Parents (Like I was Queen of the Crop on Makin...	Jozie	3	707	Apr 15, 2014 by Jerry F
	Need Guidance (Preview) So I am either figuring out one if my character defects or triggers. I have discovered that I get defensive when someone "talks down" to someone. I guess I would interpret it as condescending. I feel the need to speak up. Not sure what to do with this one.	Truth	11	597	Apr 15, 2014 by Truth
	STEP 4 (Preview) Learn How The Twelve Steps Work.Participate in your own recovery as well as the recovery of others, by being active on this board as we go through http://stepwork.activeboard.com/t57280663/alanon-step-4/Please	hotrod	1	321	Apr 14, 2014 by Wolfie55
	Serendipity Strikes Again (Preview) One day last month I was at work (I'm a condo cop, that's like a mall cop but....well you get it right?). My cell phone rang. Private number. Figured it was a sponcee so I answered it. It was a reporter for the local TV station. After he verified who I was, he starts asking me questions about a photo on - a popu...	Wolfie55	3	555	Apr 14, 2014 by KennyFenderjazz
	Returning Member (Preview) I am back after what is it? a year? I couldn't remember my old login information so I created a new account. But it's still me. Wolfie aka Bernie. Hope to re-connect with my old friends here and to make new ones	Wolfie58	8	417	Apr 14, 2014 by Wolfie55
	if all else fails...let go! (Preview) I am struggling w/ a few things lately but I am going to let go of them right now. I don't have any control over any of the situations I have been in recently. I don't need to have another meltdown. Some things are just out of my control. I cannot let them bring me down. I talked to another member & she put s...	Hoot Nanny	2	405	Apr 14, 2014 by Wolfie55
	Need advise on proper response (Preview) I just got home from my weekly f2f meeting. My AS had come over while I was gone. My husband was honest and told him where I was when he asked. It made my son furious and he left mad. How should I respond to him? Not going to al-anon is not an option.	Sallygcoe	11	580	Apr 14, 2014 by Debilyn
	A Sunday before Easter (Preview) Today I went to the store. I saw Easter cards. I wanted to purchase some for my son, my daughter, my grandson and my Dad. Then, I remembered - there is no need to buy him an a card. He isn't here anymore. He's gone. Memories of many years and many shopping trips and many cards and gifts I purchased for m...	grateful2be	10	601	Apr 14, 2014 by Hoot Nanny
	A Letter from my Son (Preview) Got my first letter today from my son and it was nice to hear from him. He said he hasn't gotten all my letters because they were redacted because of the content I guess. I cut and pasted news articles about what is going on around and world. Sucks he can't know about the plane missing or what is happenin...	Cathyinaz	18	837	Apr 14, 2014 by Wolfie55
	Remember that book I said I was going to write? (Preview) Remember that book I said I was going to write? I wrote it. I only mention it here because it's about recovery. About the gifts we find in it. About the gifts I have found in recovery. It's an e-book. Not a very big book. I published it myself. Sometimes I sell them. Sometimes I just give them away if it's som...	Wolfie55	4	436	Apr 14, 2014 by Wolfie55
	anxiety (Preview) I am suffering from a bout of anxiety these days. I know why but I can't seem to shake it. My mom is selling her house soon if the buyer agrees to the price. She might be gone in less than 2 mos. She plans to go to visit family for 2 graduations next month anyhow. But we will see what happens. I am anxious because...	Hoot Nanny	2	408	Apr 14, 2014 by Wolfie55
	when is the right time? (Preview) I thought I was being good and putting boundaries in place but unfortunately I can't and/or don't want to keep to them as I don't feel ready yet. The boundary that I stupidly said was that the alcoholic could move back home after they had been sober for three months! Sounds reasonable ? But unfortunate...	southernlass	6	545	Apr 14, 2014 by abbyal
	Have I done the right thing? (Preview) Have just shared my concerns with the alcoholic about them moving back home in 2 weeks and it went just as expected. It was turned round so that it was all about them. They tried to make me feel guilty about changing the goal posts (which I guess I have) but when I explained why have I and that I was not read...	southernlass	10	653	Apr 14, 2014 by Wolfie55
	I need a sponsor (Preview) I want to start off right away with a sponsor. I am female and need someone that married an alcoholic. the problems are starting and it has only been a week since I married him. Please help.	beenaproblem	3	459	Apr 14, 2014 by Wolfie55
	A lovely powerless weekend. (Preview) OK so this weekend I've been trying to get back to that "let go and let God" and "do the next right thing" combo that was working so well for me. Because I've come to realise that when I get caught up in the "big picture" and how everyone fits into it and what I need THEM to do...	Melly1248	10	617	Apr 14, 2014 by milkwood
	Back in the saddle .... (Preview) Well I had an excellent day. Got caught up at work. Just about organized at home. Helped out a friend. Just peaceful and happy. Got started on organizing my notes if I need them for the Ex-A return and mediation session. Grateful to all of you for assisting me along through this learning curve ...	Truth	2	445	Apr 14, 2014 by Wolfie55
	*ATTENTION ALL MIP MEMBERS* (Preview) http://meetinginfo.activeboard.com/t57236795/wso-registration-procedure-group-liaisons-findings/	John	4	585	Apr 14, 2014 by PP
	I'm so smart (Preview) I remembered that I was accessing this site on an old laptop, so I did some messing around and now I'm back as wolfie55 instead of wolfie58. I'm smarter than I thought I was.;)	Wolfie55	5	409	Apr 14, 2014 by Jerry F
	Fault Finding.... (Preview) I have been doing a lot of thinking lately of alcoholism. It is a progressive disease, family disease, and many more. When my AH was working full time he never drank. It was after he was in a forced retirement that got him started. My husband has a severe form of tinnitus (ringing in his ear with nerve...	Jen61	8	628	Apr 13, 2014 by bud
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