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One of my compulsive addictions
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So one of my compulsive addictions is weighing myself up to five times a day. Someone on the board said something that sparked me to really think...they said their weight was one thing they felt they could truly control. That really was thought provoking. It made me realize I am really being resistant...
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karma13
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My Story
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Hello I am a brand new member of Al-anon and have only been to two meetings. My first meeting was on January 25. I live in a small town in Manitoba that only has meetings once a week so that is why I am looking at the online meetings. I have not attended any online meetings yet. I have come to Al-anon because m...
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Paddington36
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Progress, Not Perfection!
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Well I posted some pictures of our mess of boxes when we moved in. Here are the same pictures taken from the same angles but a week later.... It's still a mess but it's starting to resemble a home In another week we will be ready to be photographed for Better Homes Than Yours magazine...lol. The furnit...
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missmeliss
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Helping the alcoholic
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Good morning my dear MIP family. I just wanted to wish you all a GREAT day. I'm chairing my f2f meetings this month, and my topic for today is going to be "helping the alcoholic", found in the Al-Anon daily reader One Day At A Time. That topic sounds kind of ironic, doesn't it? We all know there i...
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too tire to post
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I just want to say Hi to all of my supporters. I value each & everyone of you. I am thinking of slowing down posting for awhile & to get a grip!
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Hoot Nanny
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Hope for today 2 5 2015
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Todays hope for today discusses the slogan think and how as alanoners we can tend to think obsessively and compulsively. It also talks about thinking before acting out. It also gives some ideas of how to use the slogan, such as praying, reasoning things out with a Alanon friend or sponsor...and I thou...
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karma13
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Family member not taking non-codependence so well
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A year ago, my s/o's brother offered to design a web page for him. he did this after seeing that I was going to be helping, and realizing how respected he is in his industry. WELL. A year later, and nothing has come of it. The brother has done a preliminary design, but my s/o has no initiative to get it goin...
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zebrafish
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Loving MIP
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I have enjoyed the forum here lately. Theres been a lot of love and some real effort by lots of people to be more giving in terms of daily readings being shared, books being suggested, birthdays celebrated. To me it was like a show of committment to the forum and to alanon. I felt it was a healing environme...
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el-cee
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ODAAT 5/2/15
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Todays little book tells us that its important to uncover our assets as well as out shortcomings and appreciate them. Recognising in ourselves the good bits like honesty, genorousity, patience, tolerance gives us something to build on. For me, its saying that our aim is to be our own best friend beca...
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el-cee
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Sharing my story
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I have been lurking here for a month or so and thought it was finally time to introduce myself. I have been married to an Alcoholic/Addict for 11 years. We have three beautiful children together ages 9, 6 and 5. I realize now I have been extremely codependent since my early teens. I always knew something...
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cheryl1983
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Happy Birthday, Screaming Barbie
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grateful2be
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sleep sleep wonde sleep
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Everyone should try it! It works wonders! Never take it for granted. It is a gift!
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Hoot Nanny
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Taking care of myself...
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...looking back over my years in Alanon- A lot of what I shared was really veiled advice to other people... deep down I felt that I didn't matter. Someone said years ago that life was about- hatch, match and dispatch. Well today, for me it is about hatch, match, patch and dispatch... 4 week ago I was knoc...
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DavidG
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Question
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Do any of you remember what the name of the book was that Canadian Guy used to give away? I borrowed mine out and want to order another. Thank you in advance. :)
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Sweet Stanley
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My very own happy life
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I live with my A who has multiple addictions. Yesterday was extraordinary in that I realized that we spent 1 hour together, and I was completely fine to do my own thing for the whole rest of the day. Is this a great marriage you might ask? Heck no. Am I planning to change things when I retire in a couple...
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Lyne
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ODAT 2-4-2015
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ODA T reading for today is a powerful reflection that speaks about how many of us, myself included, would always look outside ourselves for the cause of our problems. The reading suggests that the real enemy might be our own "self-deception." It goes on to explain how easy it is to bla...
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hotrod
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C2C 2-4-2015
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I love the C2C reading for today. It points out that many times, when negative things happen in our lives, we blame God. The member who has written this page shares that her sponsor always reminded her that she had lost track of the fact that her God was a loving God and not a terrorist.. It suggests that...
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hotrod
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ah coming home
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AH IS COMING HOME FOM MEDICAL HOSPITAL TOMOROW. IT TOOK HIM 2 DAYS TO SOBER UP AND 2 DAYS FO AN INFECTION TO BE TREATED. CLEANING UP, I DISCOVERED 5 FULL BOTTLES OF VODKA IN THE MATTRESS WHEN I CHANGED THE SHEETS. AH HAS SAID NOTHING ABOUT DECIDING TO GO INTO REHAB. HE GETS PHYSICAL AS FAR AS HOLDING ME FROM L...
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YARNCRAZY
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New and at a crossroads
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Hello all. My 58 year old half-brother is an alcoholic. He has also had issues with illegal and prescription drug abuse. I was 6 when he went into the Navy at 17, and he and I have never developed a close relationship. My first major brush with his addiction issues came in 1991 when my father, his step...
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New here
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Hi. I'm new here and not sure this is where I belong yet. I believe my husband is an alcoholic, but he does not agree. Problems with alcohol have been occurring for about 12 years and the problems escalate every few years. When he drinks, he gets very verbally abusive with me, calling me nasty names a...
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mcw
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I miss slogan jim
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I hope he is doing ok. Just was thinking about him. Good guy...
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pinkchip
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Help!!! I am paralyzed by fear!!
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It's the constant back and forth of emotions. It's the interference and controlling issues of his parents involving my children that have resulted in serious repercussions ,and my A, their son, my husband of 20 years seems to still have no feelings of accountability. I'm new to Alanon and I'm still...
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Kay in Crisis
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Please! Advice Needed
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Hello All, I am the 20 year old daughter of an alcoholic who is at her wits end. My father has drank ever since I can remember but as I got older either I because more aware of it or he became worse. I think since I have been away at college that he has spun out of control. My first year at college he drunk drove ho...
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missunwritten
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Can't handle the yelling and violence
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I met a guy who was a huge whiskey drinker. He totally conned me and beat the hell out of me. He was the cruelest person I've ever met. I don't know how to get over this. The trauma is unreal.
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kissers
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For the adult child, in Alanon...
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DavidG
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hanging out getting well
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Still taking the journey towards wellness. I am responsible for my side. On my journey I may find serenity & peace of mind. It is well with my soul. Thanks for taking the journey with me.
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Hoot Nanny
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HR
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Finally got some sleep
Symptom of MP.
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Hoot Nanny
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OVERWHELMED!
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Ok, so I keep worrying about the future, mostly financial. I know that divorcing is the right answer for my marriage but I also know that my earning potential is not that great right now because I have been out of the work place for 16 years. I just completed the worksheets provided to me by the lawyer fo...
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andromeda
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Hope For Today Feb 3
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Good morning MIP: Today's Hope for Today is about a person who was stuck about his/her physical appearance until (I will say her) sponsor suggested embracing the stuffed toy she was identifying with. She was given this stuffed animal from her grandfather and was then told the gift was given to her be...
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yanksfan51
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freedoms
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From a 12 step program. Freedom insanity& hopelessness. Freedom from the bondage of self. Freedom from dishonesty. Freedom from running the show.Freedom from lackof purpipurpose.There are more but I figured I'd mention a few.
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Hoot Nanny
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Freedom!
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When I attended m very first al-anon meeting about a year and a half ago I remember talking very quietly. I was worried my A was standing behind me, or perhaps outside the door or the window, perhaps he was listening or perhaps someone would report to him what I said. I kept looking around, expecting to s...
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missmeliss
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coping with change
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I am noticing a definite pattern in me since I have started this journey,I basically took a deep breathe and made a lot of changes.I will do well for a while and then I will slip back into some negative thinking,I get all caught up in stress and trying to fix and change things.I eventually crash and burn, u...
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mjferg
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Waiting for the other shoe to drop.
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Things are good right now. Bills are being paid. My brother isn't taking advantage of Mom with the babysitting schedule. He is communicating better than before and you can tell he is trying not to dish out the BS. But I am having a hard time being happy. I have to be on guard to not be too optimistic, b...
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Screaming Barbie
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LAST STRAW
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AFTER ALOT OF BEING TUGGED AND DRIVEN NUTS EACH DAY,POLICE TOOK AH TO HOSPITAL I HAVE SOME PLANS
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YARNCRAZY
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ODAT
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ODAT When I say to myself that I am going to turn all my problems over to God, this does not give me leave to shirk my responsibilities. **I used to sit and wait for God/HP to do everything...I forgot, that I have the tools, like intelligence, abilities, talents, and my choices.....and its my job to do the...
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neshema2
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A hui ho Carson...
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Please permit me to leave this message of hope to a recovering brother who passed just recently...we shared all of our recoveries...everything...both programs to help us gain and maintain our serenities and sobrieties. He was a family member dropped into our community by his higher power for hi...
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Jerry F
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step 4---My good friend
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Doing step 4 was an eye opener for me on so many levels...I do it routinely b/c I love this step...yea, it stings at times, but it is so freeing....... Before i got to step 4, .I was treating my "symptoms" I was not digging at the roots of my problems... I was just hacking at the leaves.... doing...
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neshema2
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desperate
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It is early in the morning & need support. pstbtime
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Hoot Nanny
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waiting...
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I am waiting for my appt right now. Will let you know what's up later.
Kathleen
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Positive thoughts and prayers needed
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I came home from work early today with a bad headache. I am also feeling really depressed about everything thats going on with me. House will probably foreclose next month. Leaving a familiar area of work after a very long time. Starting a new job next month. Miss my older college kids a lot. Feeling lon...
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Newlife girl
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hot rod
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I think I will PM you if you don't mind?
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Hoot Nanny
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I'm a double winner
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I'm a grateful new member of AA. 2 weeks sober and working my program hard. I have a very active lifelong alcoholic partner and its so hard to maintain my sobriety. Now that my head is clearing I'm seeing how very toxic this relationship (of 23 years) is. I went to my meeting last night and he was soooo...
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Courage to change
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Courage to Change talks about how writer used to live their life asif they were on a ladder...everyone was either higher...lower....and HP was waaay up there, out of reach..... This hit me b/c in the old days, everyone, mostly was higher then me, I had no self esteem and HP was so remote and unreachable...
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neshema2
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Hope for today
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Hope for today Feb 02 Hope for today talks about gossip....how the writer's mother used to share her flaws with the neighbors, etc..... My parents did this to us kids...only they had no friends, so they gossiped with each other or other kids about the target's latest screw up.... I became a perfectio...
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neshema2
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going to see my NP
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Prayer needed I am going to found out out what my team is going to do about my sleep. I obviously have marital issues.
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Hoot Nanny
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while everyone is watching SB49
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I have mind on my friend who means the world to me. Also I feel like yeah it Is cool but fball isn't ruling my life My HP is. I spent nearly a half hour listening to my sermon.
It was amazing! Said things I could put into. Yoke is easy burden is light.
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Hoot Nanny
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Feel like I've lost my daughter
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Hello. Long, drawn out story. My 32 year old daughter (at the time) realized she needed help and started doing AA. Her sobriety is her highest priority, which it should be (3 little kids). My husband then lost his job, we lost our home, etc with the 2008 crisis. We were divorced after 36 of marriage, and h...
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joanlee13
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Damage to Church
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Hi everyone,Sunday church service went very well. The damage to the church has over $100,000 and there has been a special :vandalism account "that has been set up for us all to contribute to. I really admired how the church handled the issue. It reminded me very much of Al-Anon principles...
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hotrod
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Learning to be gentle and patient with me
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my sponsor and I had a good talk...it helped me to learn that If i'm struggling, I deserve to make self-care a priority. No matter what that entails...Crying..Meditation...watching you tube...surfing the goodwill stores for some good books...being EXTRA sweet to me and cutting out or postpon...
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neshema2
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hit my head & slammed
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My head hurts. I slammed against the wall. I think this one's gonna hurt! Prayers that it is not that bad.
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Hoot Nanny
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Something I learned from a non CAL book..modified post!!
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Something I read about what I practice......and here is MY esh only on what i think about what i practice...what i do repeatedly.....if i do the same negative thing over and over, its crazy to expect different results....different outcome...If I keep enabling my A's, over and over, it usually does n...
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neshema2
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sermon went well
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It went well more details later
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Hoot Nanny
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sermon today
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Prayers for my pastor & me for a heart touching sermon.
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Hoot Nanny
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Today's odat February 1st
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Todays odat talks of the first step..ingraining it so deeply onto our conscious that it almost becomes second nature in the way we live. It also talks of practicing the step hundreds of times and still reverting to old behaviors. It also talks of surrendering to Gods will concerning other people And t...
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karma13
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question for Betty and Kenny and el-cee (sorry el-cee..didn't know u were mod, lol)
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I posted a except and my esh on Days of healing days of joy this book is widely used in the aca/coda rooms, but i don't see it on CAL list that said, can we post exerpts and our esh on books we are reading, have read OR do we need to do exerpts on the CAL only I know...i should have asked this FIRST but did not....i...
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neshema2
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Proof that life begins WITHIN me
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I saw something, a quote and it made me think of my struggles w/my perceptions which cause chain reaction...... I have always said, that it all begins WITHIN me....like the slogan...Let it begin with me.......my thinking is ground zero for what my recovery is gonna stand on....good foundation...w...
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neshema2
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he said she said
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He thinks I am leaving him out & thatI am like mother becbecause I like to socislize out & about. I like even love my friends. He is no matter what my friend too. I still love him. Does he really know what he is saying?
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Hoot Nanny
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Treatment VS AA meets/Counsellor
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I am seeking others ESH particularly doubles on their thoughts regarding the validity of inpatient treatment. I whole heartedly believe in AA and Al anon and counselling and feel that people will get help when they hurt enough or hit bottom. I do of course realize that it is dependant on the drug of c...
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serenity47
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MP
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It is here &:I am not ready... I will never be.
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Hoot Nanny
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A really good HOPE 4 TODAY
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I sometimes just leaf through, not paying attention to dates, I just flip through and STOP when i see a message I need to hear..... IN this hope for today...... Hope for Today Living one day at a time as an adult child of an alcoholic can seem insurmountable when faced with the myriad feelings and memor...
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neshema2
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