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Peggy53


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This time last year, I was in crisis mode.  My alcoholic was in turmoil and the family was on overdrive.  

After many months of weekend binges, emergency calls, lies...anger, frustration, tears and many, many prayers...rehab help was taken.  Program completed, 60 days sober...stops taking meds....a long, holiday weekend...binge....job loss....nothing to do now but collect unemployment......and be the best alcoholic they can be.

 

I have begun to feel the serenity from our prayer.  Accepting that I cannot change the way someone else is living their life.  Everyone's life choices are uniquely their own.  Each of us has to accept our own choices and the consequences that go along with them.    I have changed my relationship with myself.  I will always love her.  Her day to day life no longer is part of mine.  I can sleep.  I have new life experiences of my own on the horizon, looking forward to my new direction.  Knowing that I got through this struggle and have come this far, is my little bit of wisdom.  I've still got a long way to go, and I know this prayer will help me though.

 



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So glad to hear you have stuck with it and know you are worth it and better for it! Sending you much love and support on your journey!

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Wonderful to read you courage, and wisdom Peggy.Thanks for sharing your growth and acceptance. It does work if we work it.

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I agree...thanks for  bringing your recovery growth back here and you experience that the  Serenity Prayer actually does work.   Keep coming back (((((hugs))))) smile



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I can so relate to your share. AND WHAT A DIFFERENCE A YEAR AND A HALF MAKES! I was so depressed, obsessed, miserable, and did not know what to do to stop the cycle I was in. Now my A can sleep all day, be out all day, and I am rarely codependent anymore. I make my own day and my own way. I'm happy much of the time. I do not consider my marriage healthy but for now it provides some important things for both of us. I plan to live near my son when I retire and I'm not sure my A will want to. A natural parting may occur or part-time parting. I can get healthy even if my A is not interested in health. I am my own person, Lyne

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