The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
"guide me in all I do, sometimes waiting is the answer to some of my prayers"
Its been 15 years and I have had two major prayers answered. One was that my son stop drinking and the other was that my other son stop his addiction to gaming! Well 2 yrs ago my son stopped drinking, and today I found out my other son is registered and will use his military
funding for college! Halleluia! Talk about waiting! But the very valuable lesson I learned and knew intellectually was that prayer to my HP and Alanon truths was my saving grace. My prayers and studying Alanon was not for the other person to change and behave differently, it has always been for ME to change and behave differently! I really knew this all along but it never really hit home until today that I have this "hindsight". Oh happy day! My faith in Alanon and prayer carried me all this way....Acceptance to what IS (if you take the time to get a clear awareness of it) is sooooo important. Changing yourselfhas such a ripple effect that others around you can't help but changing. But remembering this and keeping an awareness of this is not easy. Staying on my side of the street, making myself a better person will create change for the better. I am convinced of this and will go forward with much more passion. The moral of the story I learned is the bloodline that runs through Al-anon is "change yourself, make yourself the vehicle for change, don't try to change others.....love them from afar if you have to and smile, life is much too short. :) Accept them all, and let God sort them out...!
I honestly in no way mean to make lite of anyones life situation on this board, I only mean to spread a little hope.
Thank You Al-anon and my HP. linsc
"Serenity is not freedom from the storm, but peace within the storm"
Waiting! Not something i ever done well. Thats great news about your sons lin. It gives us mother hope that the bad times pass. It is all about us changing, its such a relief to know we cant change others. I tried and obsessed on others for years. Im free of that now mostly. The ripple effect has happened with myfamily too, they seem to take the lead from us and when we get some sanity it filters down and they get that example they have needed. Such a great post. Thank you for sharing.x
LinSC What a powerful and inspiring share! I am so pleased to hear that by practicing acceptance, staying in the moment and using Al-Anon toolsyou have benefited from the wisdom, courage and serenity of the program.
I also really love the fact the results of your prayers have bloomed and your life has been enriched.
After working the Al-Anon program for several years, I too can look back and see how wisely my prayers have been answered and the direction of my life changed for the better. Thank you HP.
Thanks for sharing the journey and your awesome experiences Lin,
I only ask God to give me that same conclusion for my son. So happy for you that peace has come to you and your son's will have happy the productive lives.
(( hugs )))
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