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AJ · AJ

Hi all. As you know, my husband and I have been separated for almost 4 months. Since then, I am involved in f2f Al-Anon meetings, got a sponsor and am on Step 2, working hard, taking care of my home, paying my bills (just barely, but able to do it), taking care of our 8 cats and a sweet dog, and learning to li...

seekingserenity · seekingserenity

I have been thinking all day about how I believe inside that once things go bad that they will never be good again. Why do I feel this way? For the simple reason that I believe that if I screw up that God or other people or both want to punish me forever. This is the attitude I grew up with from my mom. She was al...

twobytwo · twobytwo

Hello all. I recently joined this message group in hopes of being able to find some answers to a very personal matter. My boyfriend and I have been dating about 3.5 years now, he has been sober for 3 years and 5 months... When we first started dating he was still drinking but we were not serious... after a s...

cherrygirl30 · cherrygirl30

Hi all, I guess I cant say yesterday was REALLY my day one, and if it was, I kind of feel like i've already blown it in a sense. You'll all remember that I put down how my A-exbf blocked me online and how much it was bothering me. Well, last night I saw that he UN-blocked me, as he popped up on my buddylist. I w...

Karilynn · Karilynn

((((Family)))), To all you in the path of Hurricane Ike, please be careful. Let us know that you are okay when you can. I'll be thinking of all our Texas folk who have to evacuate. Don't take any chances. Do what you have to in order to be safe. Love and blessings to you all. I'll be saying extra praye...

Tenderheartsks · Tenderheartsks

I just wanted to let you know you have been on my mind this week and I hope you are doing okay and remembering to take care of self. ((((((hugs))))))

abbyal · abbyal

THIS IS A QUOTE FROM ELEANOR ROOSEVELT . MANY PEOPLE WILL WALK IN AND OUT OF YOUR LIFE BUT ONLY TRUE FRIENDS WILL LEAVE FOOTPRINTS IN YOUR HEART TO HANDLE YOURSELF , USE YOUR HEAD TO HANDLE OTHERS , USE YOUR HEART ANGER IS ONLY ONE LETTER SHORT OF DANGER IF SOMEONE BETRAYS YOU ONCE, IT IS HIS FAULT IF HE BETR...

Jean4444 · Jean4444

I have good news, I moved recently and I just found a great new al-anon meeting in my new city. I found a Monday night group I like very much near to where I work. So, right after work, off I go! Just a reminder that this fellowship spans the globe and that adds to MY comfort and serenity- my brothers and siste...

Mariner · Mariner

Hi Guys Struggled today, woke up feeling anxious and upset, was in danger of losing it a bit. So to get out of the house I went into town shopping. Usually I would be buying lots of goodies to take to my partner on a visit to his rehab. Honestly you'd think it was his birthday with the amount of 'presents/go...

charlescharles · charlescharles

i gotta go back to work...what i am learning from this program and from other programs has led me to a place of financial insecurity in a positive way i have been up and down financially most of my life..from times have having much money in the bank to other times of living out of my car and scrounging for ch...

Karilynn · Karilynn

(((((Family)))), On this solemn day, let us take a moment to pause and reflect on those lives lost 7 years ago today. Many MIP family members will be hurting today. May we keep them all in our love and prayers. By the grace of HP hubby was down in the city that day and close to the Towers. He made it home s...

debilyn · debilyn

Hi family, well I was my usual stubborn self and so the surgery went well. staff was great. I made one nurse get a bit mad and red faced...haha they have these horrid, plastic gowns now with a input to stick in this hose that blows warm or cold air. I felt like I was in a plastic bag!! I did not say anything. I ju...

olg1213 · olg1213

I have had a rough week. My children are showing signs of anger and how this is affecting them. I have told my AH when I would ask him to stop drinking about my concerns when it came to our kids. Believe me it's part of my anxiety, my eldest has social, and language issues and has been getting help since 6...

ddub · ddub

Greetings, I continue to struggle with this self love stuff and taking new action that will give me a different result. I no longer use the past actions that made me crazy and out of control but I am stuck in this quagmire of why bother and what does it matter. Not sad like depression though I realize thi...

Marshmallow · Marshmallow

I left my AH 2 1/2 months ago and filed for divorce one month after leaving. I started F2F Alanon meetings the night that I filed. After I started the meetings I decided that maybe my decision was made too quickly and in anger. Even as I gave the papers to my husband I said this is not the solution I had hop...

Tenderheartsks · Tenderheartsks

It appears I have ruffled some feathers and that was not my intention. I need to be more gentle with my words sometimes, and I will try hard to work on that. I would like to clarify that the questions I had asked cherrygirl30 in an earlier post of hers was not because I was 'following' her around the interne...

cherrygirl30 · cherrygirl30

So I go home today, and log onto my computer as I always do... He's on as usual. Then he's off. I had a feeling he blocked my screen name so I logged on under my other email and sure enough, I was right! I was in shock! Why the baby games? Why the need to block me when it was made clear that there would be no ta...

charlescharles · charlescharles

just need to vent..talk..be somewhere..feel something..say something the days seem to be getting a bit better..maybe my mind and aditude are clearing up i lost my voice after a verbal fight.were i guess i tried to take my will back...or maybe my hp is telling me to shut up for now my a thinks she is comin...

Suzannah · Suzannah

Hey folks, I had an email from Debilyn recently, even though she has recently had surgery (don't know the details but that is not necessary it is enough to know that she is going through this on her own) and is feeling pretty rough. She told me that her neighbours are helping out and looking in on her; and...

afglin · afglin

I am again dealing with severe mood swings. Long story..but we have some very grouchy-hard-to get-along-with next door neighbors. A year ago they threatened the police because our dogs were barking to play ball with them before 6 PM. So we put up a big wooden privacy fence. We left up our chain link on t...

Ash · Ash

ok so here's the deal. both my husband and i are alcoholics. from what it appears at the moment we are both alanons also. either way right now, the disease is alive and kickin in this relationship. i haven't had a drink in over 7 years. he drank a couple of days ago. after going into what felt like sho...

cherrygirl30 · cherrygirl30

I had an idea.... I noticed something about most of the responding posts to me. They told me that part of my recovery is to stop focusing on my A-ex, and to start keeping the focus on me and my recovery. Well, I thought about that, and that's what this post is all about. That was one thing I was sick and tir...

buick23 · buick23

I read the July 14th reading in the odat book. Thank you Louise, it made things better today. Also stayed busy, didn't see the Asober much today which helped. Now he's sick (a cold). I hope he can still make it to his fishing trip, and I can say that without sarcasm today. Talked to a friend today, well list...

glad lee · glad lee

Yesterday at work, I completed a service transaction and then happily proceeded to tell the person who performed the work, that she had been given a $10.00 tip. After awhile, she came back to me and told me that the software did not register the tip. In disbelief, I could see that it was true, even though...

cherrygirl30 · cherrygirl30

Hi all, I was just wondering if there was anyone else on the board that is in the same boat as me and that just broke it off with their A bf/gf/husband/wife??? If so, i'm just wondering some good ways to cope with the loss, especially when you think you might have some issues of your own with being addicted...

cabinfever5 · cabinfever5

I want to live in a sober home, but there is daily drinking. Do I have the right to ask him not to drink in his home?

Rocky38 · Rocky38

Hi everyone, I've been reflecting on the last few days and the topic of the "boomerang and the cops" sums it all up. I posted a few days ago, asking for my higher power to give me the courage to put the needs of my son and myself first - to finally say to my AH - I love you, but I can't be with you anymor...

Rita G · Rita G

Hello my friends, it's been a while since I've been able to visit - we all know how busy life can be - but I had a few moments & stopped by to say Hey, what's going on? Yes it is that lovely season Hurricane Season - good gravy can't it be November 30th yet? We faired well thru Gustav - part of Louisiana did n...

david62 · david62

((((Family)))) Last night I got to fulfill one of my "bucket list" items, lol. I have wanted to see The Eagles in concert since...well since their were Eagles to see! Last night I did it! Drove to San Antonio, had a nice dinner then on to the venue! When I got there, and found the seats, I was a...

3Hz · 3Hz

I spent this weekend disposing of many wine & vodka bottles. The most bottles I've seen in one location ever. I remember as a child, I lived in a newly built community and there were sections that were not developed due to being land locked, so I got to play in the woods, about 50 acres or so, but stil...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

So here I go again at my millionth time quitting. It was in control of me rather than the other way around and my lungs are NOT happy. So I quit yesterday. The first few days are nightmarish. If only I could keep that feeling when I think about just having one... Anyway, today is day two of quitting and t...

charlescharles · charlescharles

mya..my 'girlfriend'..the woman of my dreams>???!!..blah blah blah she is suffering ten fold right now...last night was misery..she has finally gotten some food in her stomach and trying to settle down she dosen't have the finances to get to me...and i don't have the finances to get to her..tha...

glad · glad

Wow, when my dad heard of my breakup with BF he said : sorry your sad- I think all my kids are too good for everyone they choose (kiddingly) anyway so it will all be okay MY mom had to add the guilt trip: Well if you let him move back home I hope you will do me one favor and have a wedding this time- I swear sometime...

nmike · nmike

I knew better than to listen to a rumor about getting the job. This where working my program helps. I took it ODAT. And don't you know I got a reject letter in the mail. lol. Management decided to withdraw the job announcement. At least I know that I interviewed well. Great experience and I will keep tryin...

buick23 · buick23

I went to my meeting today, and felt worse when I left than I did when I got there. We read through the pamphlet "the merry go round called denial". This once again brought back all those memories that I had convienently blocked out lately. I am a mess right now, can't settle down to go to sleep....

cherrygirl30 · cherrygirl30

Hi all, I just posted my first post here yesterday about that guy i've been seeing. What happened now is last night I confronted him while talking online about the fact that he told me he's not ready for a relationship, yet last night he goes online and posts new pictures of himself shirtless and writes...

liljeannie · liljeannie

Abf returned to his group this today, after missing 2 weeks worth. He had drill this weekend, and by nothing short of a miracle, did not get demoted. This gave him a reason to celebrate...which he did. I went down to the shore with a girlfriend of mine on Sunday and when I got home, there he was, passed o...

RainyJamie · RainyJamie

I got all worried about AH missing his court date, of course at the last possible minute he picks up the phone, calls the courthouse, gets his hair cut, and leaves 10 minutes late. I can't believe I let myself get sucked into his problems. For the record, I wasn't going to help him out. It is hard to not be in...

Loupiness · Loupiness

Seems more of myself is being revealed daily, and it ain't too pretty. Realizations of myself and the true acknowlegement that "nothing changes if nothing changes". I have been in absolute denial that I could possibly suffer from depression. You know, I don't want to be depressed, maybe...

Suzannah · Suzannah

Dozy me! Please read, NO SUBJECT. Thank you. Suzannah

charlescharles · charlescharles

my 'girlfriend'..the woman that caused me to get into this program says she is coming back from detroit to see me..says she realizes she loves me bla bla bla i have told her repeadedly that i am not in love with her..don't want her to come back..all though i sat on the phone with her for hours yesterday..e...

olg1213 · olg1213

Part of the difficulty of trying to move forward in all of this is trying to make heads or tails out of it. My AH will go through periods of coming home drunk from work almost every day (he doesn't drink at home). To staying sober for 7 sometimes 10 days at a stretch. I ask myself is he an A or a problem drink...

java · java

I often wondered what an al-anon relapse would look like. Now that I have married a non-drinking alcoholic, I think I know. He quit drinking before we married two years ago, and he hasn't drank since, but he has become a control freak and a very possessive dry drunk. He won't let me go to an al-anon meetin...

Suzannah · Suzannah

((((((((((((((((((((((Family)))))))))))))))))))) Please accept my apologies for not trusting this family in my dark night. I really have learned a very valuable lesson there; and, if you can bear it, I will entrust you with the reasons why I found myself in that boat, out in the middle of a wild sto...

Mariner · Mariner

Hi All After a week of turmoil and heartbreak things have taken a turn for the better. After the shock of my partner being advised against a new relationship whilst in recovery and him not being able to tell me to go, things had been very painful for us. We had both been really happy and healthy together a...

maire rua · maire rua

Dear All, At the moment my step mother A has stabilised with the secondary brain cancer and is living from day to day. My father is distancing himself from me and I ring most days to find out all is ok, not to fix, just to honour the agreement I made with the palliative nurses as I am the nearest in distance. M...

nmike · nmike

Hi Alanoners, I think that the last time I posted was when I had an interview. Alot has happened since then. I did interview on a Friday two weeks ago. I thought that it went well. By Monday, someone in the company said congratulations on getting the job. Wow, but I haven't received anything official yet...

cherrygirl30 · cherrygirl30

Hi all, I am 30 years old and have been "seeing" a guy (sort of) who is addicted to many things, including alcohol, many drugs (pills, pot, etc). He's tried a few times that I know of to stop, but to be honest it just seems like halfattempts. He's been in rehab twice in the 6 months i dated him, b...

joyoma · joyoma

I posted last about "how do I accept what I cannot change?". Since that post I have been reluctant to say much more. It seems that what I really need to acknowledge are the final two words: CANNOT CHANGE. My son's problems have nearly taken away every shred of my ability to cope with anythin...

canadianguy · canadianguy

I learned something the other day, regarding "CAL" (conference approved literature). The ONLY things that are CAL approved by AA, Al-Anon, etc., are books that are anonymous and or specifically written for these groups - i.e. AA Big Book, Courage to Change, etc.... Even such treasure...

charlescharles · charlescharles

morning..tired this morning..went to a friends wedding yesterday..no drinking for me...that was easy..ran into old friends..it was good...young ladies i knew a lifetime or two ago..good to see friendly faces...woman that i know actually love me anyway..just thought i'd share my commitiment t...

Suzannah · Suzannah

Hi Family, I don't feel I belong here right now I am so mixed up as to where I should be, who I should be talking to and what I should be doing that I don't feel comfortable. Right now.................no that's not right............for a couple of months now I feel I have been back tracking and I know tha...

glad · glad

Ugh!!! So much drama within my head. Time with my higher power will heal me. My A that I love, came back from out of town working for 10 days ignoring me, down appeared depressed said he was stressed then said he was bored. Basically he was just really unhappy and I have no real idea why and probably never w...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

So long time no see once again. I just wanted to say hi and let everyone know how things are going for me and my family. The kids are all back in school, everyone is in the grade that they should be in and in fact the oldest daughter who was held back in the 8th grade last year is in high school (thanks to my pes...

buick23 · buick23

I'm letting my asober get to me again. I feel like I've taken steps back since he got back home tonight after jail. The weekend was nice and laid back. Then he shows up, I say something, he gets upset about it, and there we go with an argument. I took myself away from the situation at one point but I'm still up...

Marshmallow · Marshmallow

I left my AH 2 1/2 months ago and filed for divorce one month after leaving. I started F2F Alanon meetings the night that I filed. After I started the meetings I decided that maybe my decision was made too quickly and in anger. Even as I gave the papers to my husband I said this is not the solution I had hop...

Tenderheartsks · Tenderheartsks

In order to get past the pain, I have to walk through it. My sponsor has said more than once that when we start to get better in a program of recovery, there will be those who don't want us to get well. In my case, it's my family of origin. I'm tired of being the scapegoat for my youngest AD's actions, and I know...

Codependent · Codependent

I think I told you that last week I was having panic attacks. Anyway, they upped my zoloft and added ativan. I mentioned this to my A who responded "how many pills do you take?" Anyway, he has been with the other woman and I am trying to detach. A friend from out of town had gone out with him th...

liljeannie · liljeannie

Hello family, As some of you may have read, its been a pretty horrendous week for me. I am finally coming thru the fog, and I am beginning to think, REALLY think about what my options are. I just realized that I do indeed have them. I want this relationship to end. I know that more than I know anything el...

Mariner · Mariner

This last week has been a nightmare, since my bf called last Monday saying we had to part. He had been 'advised' by his group worker in rehab against having a relationship in his early recovery.I know that hurt him as much as it hurts me, I understand what he is up against and am trying to stay strong for...

Topic		Started By	Replies	Views	Last Post
	I really miss my husband (Preview) Hi all. As you know, my husband and I have been separated for almost 4 months. Since then, I am involved in f2f Al-Anon meetings, got a sponsor and am on Step 2, working hard, taking care of my home, paying my bills (just barely, but able to do it), taking care of our 8 cats and a sweet dog, and learning to li...	AJ	10	2205	Sep 13, 2008 by Jerry F
	Fear... (Preview) I have been thinking all day about how I believe inside that once things go bad that they will never be good again. Why do I feel this way? For the simple reason that I believe that if I screw up that God or other people or both want to punish me forever. This is the attitude I grew up with from my mom. She was al...	seekingserenity	5	580	Sep 12, 2008 by Maria123
	in the bedroom (Preview) Hello all. I recently joined this message group in hopes of being able to find some answers to a very personal matter. My boyfriend and I have been dating about 3.5 years now, he has been sober for 3 years and 5 months... When we first started dating he was still drinking but we were not serious... after a s...	twobytwo	5	676	Sep 12, 2008 by glad
	How Do You Stop From "Checking On" Your A-Ex Online (Preview) Hi all, I guess I cant say yesterday was REALLY my day one, and if it was, I kind of feel like i've already blown it in a sense. You'll all remember that I put down how my A-exbf blocked me online and how much it was bothering me. Well, last night I saw that he UN-blocked me, as he popped up on my buddylist. I w...	cherrygirl30	9	739	Sep 12, 2008 by Peggy7
	Ike (Preview) ((((Family)))), To all you in the path of Hurricane Ike, please be careful. Let us know that you are okay when you can. I'll be thinking of all our Texas folk who have to evacuate. Don't take any chances. Do what you have to in order to be safe. Love and blessings to you all. I'll be saying extra praye...	Karilynn	2	439	Sep 12, 2008 by wp
	Joyoma (Preview) I just wanted to let you know you have been on my mind this week and I hope you are doing okay and remembering to take care of self. ((((((hugs))))))	Tenderheartsks	2	433	Sep 12, 2008 by maresie
	HAD TO SHARE THIS LOVE IT (Preview) THIS IS A QUOTE FROM ELEANOR ROOSEVELT . MANY PEOPLE WILL WALK IN AND OUT OF YOUR LIFE BUT ONLY TRUE FRIENDS WILL LEAVE FOOTPRINTS IN YOUR HEART TO HANDLE YOURSELF , USE YOUR HEAD TO HANDLE OTHERS , USE YOUR HEART ANGER IS ONLY ONE LETTER SHORT OF DANGER IF SOMEONE BETRAYS YOU ONCE, IT IS HIS FAULT IF HE BETR...	abbyal	8	641	Sep 12, 2008 by ddub
	New job, new part of the country, new al-anon home group! (Preview) I have good news, I moved recently and I just found a great new al-anon meeting in my new city. I found a Monday night group I like very much near to where I work. So, right after work, off I go! Just a reminder that this fellowship spans the globe and that adds to MY comfort and serenity- my brothers and siste...	Jean4444	4	371	Sep 12, 2008 by Karilynn
	Trying to change (Preview) Hi Guys Struggled today, woke up feeling anxious and upset, was in danger of losing it a bit. So to get out of the house I went into town shopping. Usually I would be buying lots of goodies to take to my partner on a visit to his rehab. Honestly you'd think it was his birthday with the amount of 'presents/go...	Mariner	5	621	Sep 12, 2008 by Karilynn
	work (Preview) i gotta go back to work...what i am learning from this program and from other programs has led me to a place of financial insecurity in a positive way i have been up and down financially most of my life..from times have having much money in the bank to other times of living out of my car and scrounging for ch...	charlescharles	4	569	Sep 12, 2008 by Loupiness
	In rememberance... (Preview) (((((Family)))), On this solemn day, let us take a moment to pause and reflect on those lives lost 7 years ago today. Many MIP family members will be hurting today. May we keep them all in our love and prayers. By the grace of HP hubby was down in the city that day and close to the Towers. He made it home s...	Karilynn	5	572	Sep 11, 2008 by wp
	doing for me, long winded debilyn (Preview) Hi family, well I was my usual stubborn self and so the surgery went well. staff was great. I made one nurse get a bit mad and red faced...haha they have these horrid, plastic gowns now with a input to stick in this hose that blows warm or cold air. I felt like I was in a plastic bag!! I did not say anything. I ju...	debilyn	4	638	Sep 11, 2008 by Suzannah
	Drownig, depressed and in need of a plan B (Preview) I have had a rough week. My children are showing signs of anger and how this is affecting them. I have told my AH when I would ask him to stop drinking about my concerns when it came to our kids. Believe me it's part of my anxiety, my eldest has social, and language issues and has been getting help since 6...	olg1213	5	691	Sep 11, 2008 by maresie
	Program Action! (Preview) Greetings, I continue to struggle with this self love stuff and taking new action that will give me a different result. I no longer use the past actions that made me crazy and out of control but I am stuck in this quagmire of why bother and what does it matter. Not sad like depression though I realize thi...	ddub	5	658	Sep 11, 2008 by Suzannah
	Mixed Signals (Preview) I left my AH 2 1/2 months ago and filed for divorce one month after leaving. I started F2F Alanon meetings the night that I filed. After I started the meetings I decided that maybe my decision was made too quickly and in anger. Even as I gave the papers to my husband I said this is not the solution I had hop...	Marshmallow	2	526	Sep 11, 2008 by luluthelab
	Sincere apologies to cherrygirl 30 and anyone else I offended. (Preview) It appears I have ruffled some feathers and that was not my intention. I need to be more gentle with my words sometimes, and I will try hard to work on that. I would like to clarify that the questions I had asked cherrygirl30 in an earlier post of hers was not because I was 'following' her around the interne...	Tenderheartsks	2	621	Sep 11, 2008 by cherrygirl30
	UPDATE: So Now He Blocked me Online For No Reason! (Preview) So I go home today, and log onto my computer as I always do... He's on as usual. Then he's off. I had a feeling he blocked my screen name so I logged on under my other email and sure enough, I was right! I was in shock! Why the baby games? Why the need to block me when it was made clear that there would be no ta...	cherrygirl30	12	1080	Sep 11, 2008 by carolinagirl
	hello friends and family (Preview) just need to vent..talk..be somewhere..feel something..say something the days seem to be getting a bit better..maybe my mind and aditude are clearing up i lost my voice after a verbal fight.were i guess i tried to take my will back...or maybe my hp is telling me to shut up for now my a thinks she is comin...	charlescharles	2	698	Sep 11, 2008 by lin0606
	(Preview) Hey folks, I had an email from Debilyn recently, even though she has recently had surgery (don't know the details but that is not necessary it is enough to know that she is going through this on her own) and is feeling pretty rough. She told me that her neighbours are helping out and looking in on her; and...	Suzannah	9	770	Sep 11, 2008 by Karilynn
	detaching from mood swings? (Preview) I am again dealing with severe mood swings. Long story..but we have some very grouchy-hard-to get-along-with next door neighbors. A year ago they threatened the police because our dogs were barking to play ball with them before 6 PM. So we put up a big wooden privacy fence. We left up our chain link on t...	afglin	7	765	Sep 11, 2008 by afglin
	Need to let this out (Preview) ok so here's the deal. both my husband and i are alcoholics. from what it appears at the moment we are both alanons also. either way right now, the disease is alive and kickin in this relationship. i haven't had a drink in over 7 years. he drank a couple of days ago. after going into what felt like sho...	Ash	7	684	Sep 10, 2008 by Tenderheartsks
	Fresh Start - MY day one.... (Preview) I had an idea.... I noticed something about most of the responding posts to me. They told me that part of my recovery is to stop focusing on my A-ex, and to start keeping the focus on me and my recovery. Well, I thought about that, and that's what this post is all about. That was one thing I was sick and tir...	cherrygirl30	8	759	Sep 10, 2008 by cherrygirl30
	Gratitude list (Preview) I read the July 14th reading in the odat book. Thank you Louise, it made things better today. Also stayed busy, didn't see the Asober much today which helped. Now he's sick (a cold). I hope he can still make it to his fishing trip, and I can say that without sarcasm today. Talked to a friend today, well list...	buick23	3	851	Sep 10, 2008 by Jerry F
	On making amends (Preview) Yesterday at work, I completed a service transaction and then happily proceeded to tell the person who performed the work, that she had been given a $10.00 tip. After awhile, she came back to me and told me that the software did not register the tip. In disbelief, I could see that it was true, even though...	glad lee	2	689	Sep 10, 2008 by Jerry F
	Anyone Here in the Same Boat as Me and Just Break up w/ A? (Preview) Hi all, I was just wondering if there was anyone else on the board that is in the same boat as me and that just broke it off with their A bf/gf/husband/wife??? If so, i'm just wondering some good ways to cope with the loss, especially when you think you might have some issues of your own with being addicted...	cherrygirl30	3	732	Sep 10, 2008 by Jerry F
	Don't want him to drink in his home (Preview) I want to live in a sober home, but there is daily drinking. Do I have the right to ask him not to drink in his home?	cabinfever5	6	651	Sep 10, 2008 by cabinfever5
	The boomerang and the cops (Preview) Hi everyone, I've been reflecting on the last few days and the topic of the "boomerang and the cops" sums it all up. I posted a few days ago, asking for my higher power to give me the courage to put the needs of my son and myself first - to finally say to my AH - I love you, but I can't be with you anymor...	Rocky38	2	506	Sep 10, 2008 by abbyal
	What am I afraid of Hurricanes or Untreated Al-Anon's???? (Preview) Hello my friends, it's been a while since I've been able to visit - we all know how busy life can be - but I had a few moments & stopped by to say Hey, what's going on? Yes it is that lovely season Hurricane Season - good gravy can't it be November 30th yet? We faired well thru Gustav - part of Louisiana did n...	Rita G	7	1372	Sep 10, 2008 by Rita G
	Soaring with The Eagles (Preview) ((((Family)))) Last night I got to fulfill one of my "bucket list" items, lol. I have wanted to see The Eagles in concert since...well since their were Eagles to see! Last night I did it! Drove to San Antonio, had a nice dinner then on to the venue! When I got there, and found the seats, I was a...	david62	7	495	Sep 10, 2008 by Suzannah
	Disposing of bottles. (Preview) I spent this weekend disposing of many wine & vodka bottles. The most bottles I've seen in one location ever. I remember as a child, I lived in a newly built community and there were sections that were not developed due to being land locked, so I got to play in the woods, about 50 acres or so, but stil...	3Hz	6	507	Sep 10, 2008 by 3Hz
	Quit smoking (Preview) So here I go again at my millionth time quitting. It was in control of me rather than the other way around and my lungs are NOT happy. So I quit yesterday. The first few days are nightmarish. If only I could keep that feeling when I think about just having one... Anyway, today is day two of quitting and t...	carolinagirl	3	540	Sep 10, 2008 by CJ
	tired and exhausted (Preview) mya..my 'girlfriend'..the woman of my dreams>???!!..blah blah blah she is suffering ten fold right now...last night was misery..she has finally gotten some food in her stomach and trying to settle down she dosen't have the finances to get to me...and i don't have the finances to get to her..tha...	charlescharles	4	442	Sep 9, 2008 by CJ
	ughhh!! my mom (Preview) Wow, when my dad heard of my breakup with BF he said : sorry your sad- I think all my kids are too good for everyone they choose (kiddingly) anyway so it will all be okay MY mom had to add the guilt trip: Well if you let him move back home I hope you will do me one favor and have a wedding this time- I swear sometime...	glad	5	530	Sep 9, 2008 by Jean4444
	I knew better! (Preview) I knew better than to listen to a rumor about getting the job. This where working my program helps. I took it ODAT. And don't you know I got a reject letter in the mail. lol. Management decided to withdraw the job announcement. At least I know that I interviewed well. Great experience and I will keep tryin...	nmike	6	499	Sep 9, 2008 by Jean4444
	give up or keep trying? (Preview) I went to my meeting today, and felt worse when I left than I did when I got there. We read through the pamphlet "the merry go round called denial". This once again brought back all those memories that I had convienently blocked out lately. I am a mess right now, can't settle down to go to sleep....	buick23	6	705	Sep 9, 2008 by abbyal
	Ok, So Last Night We Fought and he said Never Text/Call Him Again (Preview) Hi all, I just posted my first post here yesterday about that guy i've been seeing. What happened now is last night I confronted him while talking online about the fact that he told me he's not ready for a relationship, yet last night he goes online and posts new pictures of himself shirtless and writes...	cherrygirl30	6	534	Sep 9, 2008 by lin0606
	downward spiral (Preview) Abf returned to his group this today, after missing 2 weeks worth. He had drill this weekend, and by nothing short of a miracle, did not get demoted. This gave him a reason to celebrate...which he did. I went down to the shore with a girlfriend of mine on Sunday and when I got home, there he was, passed o...	liljeannie	3	498	Sep 9, 2008 by maresie
	AH goes to court (Preview) I got all worried about AH missing his court date, of course at the last possible minute he picks up the phone, calls the courthouse, gets his hair cut, and leaves 10 minutes late. I can't believe I let myself get sucked into his problems. For the record, I wasn't going to help him out. It is hard to not be in...	RainyJamie	6	667	Sep 9, 2008 by CJ
	Is it depression or just "me"? (Preview) Seems more of myself is being revealed daily, and it ain't too pretty. Realizations of myself and the true acknowlegement that "nothing changes if nothing changes". I have been in absolute denial that I could possibly suffer from depression. You know, I don't want to be depressed, maybe...	Loupiness	8	578	Sep 9, 2008 by lin0606
	That NO SUBJECT post was a prayer request for our lovely DEBILYN. (Preview) Dozy me! Please read, NO SUBJECT. Thank you. Suzannah	Suzannah	0	563	Sep 9, 2008 by Suzannah
	she says shes coming back (Preview) my 'girlfriend'..the woman that caused me to get into this program says she is coming back from detroit to see me..says she realizes she loves me bla bla bla i have told her repeadedly that i am not in love with her..don't want her to come back..all though i sat on the phone with her for hours yesterday..e...	charlescharles	5	629	Sep 9, 2008 by buick23
	Living in a confused state (Preview) Part of the difficulty of trying to move forward in all of this is trying to make heads or tails out of it. My AH will go through periods of coming home drunk from work almost every day (he doesn't drink at home). To staying sober for 7 sometimes 10 days at a stretch. I ask myself is he an A or a problem drink...	olg1213	3	487	Sep 9, 2008 by maresie
	Al-anon relapse (Preview) I often wondered what an al-anon relapse would look like. Now that I have married a non-drinking alcoholic, I think I know. He quit drinking before we married two years ago, and he hasn't drank since, but he has become a control freak and a very possessive dry drunk. He won't let me go to an al-anon meetin...	java	5	1950	Sep 9, 2008 by maresie
	Okay family, honesty is the best policy and thank you all for being there for me... Love you... (Preview) ((((((((((((((((((((((Family)))))))))))))))))))) Please accept my apologies for not trusting this family in my dark night. I really have learned a very valuable lesson there; and, if you can bear it, I will entrust you with the reasons why I found myself in that boat, out in the middle of a wild sto...	Suzannah	7	533	Sep 9, 2008 by Jen
	Gratitude (Preview) Hi All After a week of turmoil and heartbreak things have taken a turn for the better. After the shock of my partner being advised against a new relationship whilst in recovery and him not being able to tell me to go, things had been very painful for us. We had both been really happy and healthy together a...	Mariner	3	480	Sep 9, 2008 by maresie
	Walking on eggshells (Preview) Dear All, At the moment my step mother A has stabilised with the secondary brain cancer and is living from day to day. My father is distancing himself from me and I ring most days to find out all is ok, not to fix, just to honour the agreement I made with the palliative nurses as I am the nearest in distance. M...	maire rua	6	645	Sep 9, 2008 by maresie
	Where do I start? (Preview) Hi Alanoners, I think that the last time I posted was when I had an interview. Alot has happened since then. I did interview on a Friday two weeks ago. I thought that it went well. By Monday, someone in the company said congratulations on getting the job. Wow, but I haven't received anything official yet...	nmike	7	891	Sep 9, 2008 by Loupiness
	New at This, Please Help - Need Advice!!! (Preview) Hi all, I am 30 years old and have been "seeing" a guy (sort of) who is addicted to many things, including alcohol, many drugs (pills, pot, etc). He's tried a few times that I know of to stop, but to be honest it just seems like halfattempts. He's been in rehab twice in the 6 months i dated him, b...	cherrygirl30	10	609	Sep 8, 2008 by Mariner
	letting go (Preview) I posted last about "how do I accept what I cannot change?". Since that post I have been reluctant to say much more. It seems that what I really need to acknowledge are the final two words: CANNOT CHANGE. My son's problems have nearly taken away every shred of my ability to cope with anythin...	joyoma	3	458	Sep 8, 2008 by Jen
	CAL vs. "other stuff" (Preview) I learned something the other day, regarding "CAL" (conference approved literature). The ONLY things that are CAL approved by AA, Al-Anon, etc., are books that are anonymous and or specifically written for these groups - i.e. AA Big Book, Courage to Change, etc.... Even such treasure...	canadianguy	6	2020	Sep 8, 2008 by Rita G
	another morning rant (Preview) morning..tired this morning..went to a friends wedding yesterday..no drinking for me...that was easy..ran into old friends..it was good...young ladies i knew a lifetime or two ago..good to see friendly faces...woman that i know actually love me anyway..just thought i'd share my commitiment t...	charlescharles	1	347	Sep 8, 2008 by maresie
	I don't feel I belong here any more (Preview) Hi Family, I don't feel I belong here right now I am so mixed up as to where I should be, who I should be talking to and what I should be doing that I don't feel comfortable. Right now.................no that's not right............for a couple of months now I feel I have been back tracking and I know tha...	Suzannah	12	774	Sep 8, 2008 by thinkstoomuch
	God Grant me the ability to think of myself (Preview) Ugh!!! So much drama within my head. Time with my higher power will heal me. My A that I love, came back from out of town working for 10 days ignoring me, down appeared depressed said he was stressed then said he was bored. Basically he was just really unhappy and I have no real idea why and probably never w...	glad	5	646	Sep 8, 2008 by 3Hz
	Update (long) (Preview) So long time no see once again. I just wanted to say hi and let everyone know how things are going for me and my family. The kids are all back in school, everyone is in the grade that they should be in and in fact the oldest daughter who was held back in the 8th grade last year is in high school (thanks to my pes...	carolinagirl	4	502	Sep 8, 2008 by carolinagirl
	here we go again (Preview) I'm letting my asober get to me again. I feel like I've taken steps back since he got back home tonight after jail. The weekend was nice and laid back. Then he shows up, I say something, he gets upset about it, and there we go with an argument. I took myself away from the situation at one point but I'm still up...	buick23	2	359	Sep 7, 2008 by kitty
	Mixed Signals (Preview) I left my AH 2 1/2 months ago and filed for divorce one month after leaving. I started F2F Alanon meetings the night that I filed. After I started the meetings I decided that maybe my decision was made too quickly and in anger. Even as I gave the papers to my husband I said this is not the solution I had hop...	Marshmallow	2	503	Sep 7, 2008 by Tenderheartsks
	Hurting today (Preview) In order to get past the pain, I have to walk through it. My sponsor has said more than once that when we start to get better in a program of recovery, there will be those who don't want us to get well. In my case, it's my family of origin. I'm tired of being the scapegoat for my youngest AD's actions, and I know...	Tenderheartsks	6	826	Sep 7, 2008 by glad
	They think I am crazy (Preview) I think I told you that last week I was having panic attacks. Anyway, they upped my zoloft and added ativan. I mentioned this to my A who responded "how many pills do you take?" Anyway, he has been with the other woman and I am trying to detach. A friend from out of town had gone out with him th...	Codependent	7	542	Sep 7, 2008 by notmywill
	building a bridge..... (Preview) Hello family, As some of you may have read, its been a pretty horrendous week for me. I am finally coming thru the fog, and I am beginning to think, REALLY think about what my options are. I just realized that I do indeed have them. I want this relationship to end. I know that more than I know anything el...	liljeannie	2	546	Sep 7, 2008 by Tenderheartsks
	Heading For A Fall (Preview) This last week has been a nightmare, since my bf called last Monday saying we had to part. He had been 'advised' by his group worker in rehab against having a relationship in his early recovery.I know that hurt him as much as it hurts me, I understand what he is up against and am trying to stay strong for...	Mariner	2	463	Sep 7, 2008 by Tenderheartsks
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