The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
I have been detaching from my partners life haning it back to him more and more as I develop in Al anomn. Mircles are beginning to slowely happen as I make healthy choices for me and leave his choices to him. HP is working with him and I am trying to concentrate on me. Juat when I thought I am getting this a new collegue started at my work. One of my short coming is I tell people to much any way she is me 12 months ago. I told her about Al anon and gave her a number to ring. she hasnt rung it and is going on about her troubles in work. I am feeling a complusion to fix, control etc. But at least I am aware I keep telling my sself I have told her were there is help she has choices. Wow my addiction is bad but hopefully if I keep focus on me one day I acn mind my own business and let people have their own journey
I liked Maria Rua's really post on this issue. Think F.D.C. No more fixing Directing or Controlling what a great acronym.
I used to want to fix the whole world now I am putting all my energy into just me and guess what it takes 100% of my time and there are not enough hours in the day to do it. When I get "fixed" I will have more time to help others in a positive engaged way.
Yes, fixing, directing, controling, when I can stay out of this, I seem to do a lot better, normally when I have to fix something, I ring up several times, one phone calls enough and try and hurry things on, it doesn't work, and then control the aftermath, let it go, focus on you
