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nmike · nmike

I finished my 4th step inventory awhile back. I didn't quite know how to make an amends. The two people whom I have terrible relationships with are my mother and my AHsober (who left). How could I make an amends when I blame them for all my troubles. I have been staying with my mother short term while I work...

okwitt · okwitt

If anyone remembers me...no I can't go f2f meetings..it would be 150 mile round trip. Adult son who is my a is still waiting for a bed. By the way.. he is going to a recovery house for 30 days. They use the 12 steps. But they also use R.o.p.e.s program. Does anyone know about the ropes? My A son is still livi...

Jennifer · Jennifer

My xah has let me know he is in an intensive treatment facility, a requirement of his prison sentence or an early release program I imagine. I feel ashamed after reading his letter notifying me of a change of address that I felt no hope, my only real thought was ... ahhh gonna spend another 6 months or so p...

imwithstupid · imwithstupid

I am new here and have read several other posts and of course the similarities to my situation haven't gone unnoticed. I am sick thinking of the over 20 years I have wasted with my compulsive gambling/alcoholic third husband. Since I am an addict magnet, the other two weren't much better. I thou...

Katy · Katy

Pheeeeeeeweeeeeee, just back from second interview of the week, two jobs plucked out of thin air and two jobs on offer to me,wow what a turn around, it's very hard to try and do something differently, and you wonder how can I? In the situations here we find ourselves in we think and project the outcome wi...

minawillie · minawillie

Hello everyone, I posted a few day's ago about the death of my mother. She was found dead in her house last Wednesday & was estimated by the medical examiner to have been dead for at least a week. The poor woman was so enslaved by the bottle that she had lost nearly everyone who loved her. My sister h...

david62 · david62

Had a few people asking me to repost this story so here ya go! I had been coming to Al-anon meetings six months at the time my wife and I separated and she filed for a divorce. It was the lowest point of my life. My wife had been going to AA for over a year, and though I had hoped that we would be able to heal togeth...

Nalina · Nalina

I can't believe I didn't go sooner. It seems that sometimes WE have to hit OUR personal bottom to seek out real-live help just like the A does? There was plenty of opportunity for me to go before I left, but the meeting I was interested in was Saturday mornings..and I wanted to sleep in on Saturday morning...

rpendler · rpendler

New to all this, wife has been an alcoholi since I have know her. Wouldn't admit it until she entered rehap and now has been sober for 30 days, but I don't know how to cope with the resement I have. She has put us in financial distress, 15 hours of jail time for me, and countless hrs of misery for both of us....

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I promise this will be brief! I am still struggling but feel much better. Still thinking about BR & have brought it up to those who I feel need to know. sleep is getting better, time is still going slow. Not afraid to be me today. have some reservations though. did stupid things last week. don't know...

Katy · Katy

Don't they? One of the most damaging aspects of living with an alcoholic is they say one thing and do another, the insanity for me was that I had my head screwed trusting the spoken word, lol and then I just thought lol I did just the same, I said I am not doing this anymore or that, and the best one, this is you...

Ness · Ness

''Its like re-arranging the deckchairs on the Titanic''BRILLIANT......Someone said this in response to a post a couple of days ago, might have been Rocky? but I cant find it again. That saying has stayed in my head..... what a brilliant analogy and a great reminder to me to remember to let go...........

Jennifer · Jennifer

Brief backhround, 1st boyfriend at 14 stayed involved thru controlling abusiveness until I was 20 along with the beginning signs of his addictions which came later and I have been witness to by being his friend still. Three dates with 3 people and involved with my ex husband, an A and addict, stayed th...

zhotdogs99 · zhotdogs99

I left my AF yesterday. I called my parents and asked the question I knew I'd have to ask eventually: "Will you guys come pick me up?" Lucky for me I have great parents who are able to drop everything, rent a U-Haul, and drive 10 hours to come rescue their 26 year old daughter. It was hard, it w...

Nalina · Nalina

It's been a difficult time having left my ABF & our apartment (with only a suitcase) & now being 600 miles away. I have lost my job because of the chaos surrounding the alcohol consumption. Moving forward: I am going to my first face to face meeting tomorrow and I am actually looking forward to i...

mon123 · mon123

Question I have the Paths to recovery book which has the concepts in. I am struggling to understand it and relate it to traditions etc. I wondered if anyone knows of a good study guide or some simple tips. I've only just started to get to grips with the traditions. Any suggestions would be gratefully rec...

Adabnu · Adabnu

I broke up with my alcoholic finacee after he did not deal with his drinking problem seriously enough. When I walked away from him, I was so happy for myself to be able to have the guts to do it, I felt sense of freedom, I felt that I no longer need to babysit a drunk, how wonderful.... It has been a month now si...

Katy · Katy

Well I set the wheels in motion to disolve our marriage, all the stomach churning feelings of fear about where will I live, how will our children take it, how will I financially manage, what will our family think what will my friends think, all these feelings that over whelmed me and kept me stuck and unh...

New Member · sharonsue

Hi, I just took a big step by signing up today. My life as been affected by alcholism since I was born. My dad was an abusive drinker, who never dealt with his disease. He died at 49 from the effects of hard living. My first husband is an alcoholic who continues to drink, altho he says it's okay, ' cause its...

alanonicScotland · alanonicScotland

I've participated in a couple of shares, and my posts seem to have now disappeared. Anyone know what may have happened?

miss_carol · miss_carol

I was talking with my husband and he told me he is so jealous and insecure it is consuming him. He wants us to go to counseling for this. (could this open up the no talk rule about his choices?? Probably not, but who knows what my HP has planned)This is a recent development. It maybe due to my detachment. He t...

Goodtillitsbad · Goodtillitsbad

While I was driving to work I realized that I'm afraid to file for divorce from my AH because I'm afraid to leave HIM alone. WOW This realization came when I was saying the serenity prayer and mediating. TY, HP.

maresie · maresie

During all my time with the exA I dreaded holidays. I felt left out, abandoned and neglected. I did not have the tools then to simply take care of myself. This July 4th I had a simple peaceful time. One reason was that the roommate who has the worst alcohol problem has disappeared. Normally I would tak...

Katy · Katy

Change to the fearful is threatening because it might mean that things get worse, to the hopeful, change is encouraging because things might get BETTER, to the confident change is inspiring because the challenge exsists to make things BETTER! Freedom to? Freedom of Freedom for Katyx

abbyal · abbyal

If a newcommer is confused about how our program can help - our WSO site has on its home page a section that is called pod casts , simply click on it and u can listen to members share on different topics . costs nothing but a little time.. As an old timmer I really enjoyed listening too .

Andrea12 · Andrea12

(((((((((Friends)))))))))))), My wonderful son of 18 wants to join the marines....,now I know this is an honorable thing..however he is my baby yes I know he is becoming a grown man and honestly it may be the best thing for him. I however will miss him so very much, he is my sanity, my friend and i love him...

minawillie · minawillie

Hello everyone. I am new to this group but by no means new to the disease that affects us all so horribly. I've just lost my mother to this horrendous thing we call alcoholism. My dad found her body this past Wednesday. She'd been dead at least a week according to the medical examiner. She died like s...

Rocky38 · Rocky38

Hi MIP family, It's been a long time since I posted or replied here so I thought I'd stop by and let you all know I'm doing ok. It's now almost 6 months since my AH passed away, and I honestly can't believe it's that long. So what have I been doing? I've been spending a lot of time reading about grief, partici...

alanonicScotland · alanonicScotland

It's been a while since I've been on here - I'm sharing for the health of it... My Alanonic Grandmother just passed away at 92 and I am working through a bunch of conflicting feelings. Boy, was she a RAGE-aholic. The dynamic of my granfather drinking and her being bossy Baptist housewife was heavy-duty...

GailMichelle · GailMichelle

Ran across this today and thought I'd share it: Fear less, hope more; eat less, chew more; whine less, breathe more, hate less, love more. Nice little reminder, no?

Aloha · Aloha

For a long time, before Al-Anon, I would often find myself in situations where I'd feel emotionally awful. When those feelings would emerge, I'd get mad and impatient with myself and try to find something - anything - to distract me so I wouldn't feel that way any longer. I would continue to feel "...

david62 · david62

Hi Family!! I just got back home from spending the weekend in San Antonio at the 2010 AA International Conference. A - Maz - ing!!!! This was my first one, and I hope it will not be my last! I was absolutely overwelmed by the number of people walking around downtown San Antonio wearing the conference bad...

Nalina · Nalina

This is only the second post from me, but I am curious as to what anyone's thoughts may be for me? MY AH and I have history spanning entire lives/love each other very much/want to get married/I moved 600 miles in January for him/he is showing signs of violent temper and angry drunk/his mother died last ye...

Bettina · Bettina

Hi everyone, I know my question is not alcohol related but I was hoping that someone could give me insight into an issue with my Mother that has become increasingly a problem. My Mother will be 85 in October, I know that she is getting old, and losing her memoryI have always worked to be respectful of m...

Tattyhead · Tattyhead

First Happy 4 July to my US MIP family. Wishing you all a great day. I just wish I could say everything is going well in the Tattyhead household. AH is very ill and is in hospital having had upset stomach and not having eaten anything solid since April. He is skin and bone, having lost 3 1/2 stone (49lb) s...

Megthompson · Megthompson

hi anyone i am brand new to this site. also brand new to al anon.i have been trying to get to an on line al anon meeting but my computer is not really co-operating.i have been married to a heavy drinker for 20 years and just separated in february 2010. i have 3 children 2 of whom are drinking heavily.i just ca...

petpal · petpal

Hi everyone, where do I start. My husband has been to 3 detox therapies over the years and is still drinking. He goes to meetings for a while and falls. And I get really upset and I m the one who looks like a fool, in all of this, just doesn`t seem to make any sense. Hes the one drinking and doing all sorts of s...

angelchar375 · angelchar375

I'm so anxious this morning. Things are going smoothely at home. The kids are being fun and helpful and not getting on my nerves. But I have this looming anxious feeling. My mother in law is coming in to town. I haven' seen her since last summer. She was not always friendly to me and is very much an untreate...

DreamsOver · DreamsOver

I kicked my son out of my mother's house (she passed away three years ago) three weeks ago today, it was a terrible scene with him and his friend both of them high and out of control screaming and cussing, the police tried to keep the situation in a negotiated mode, but it ended with my son being arrested...

Rebecca2019 · Rebecca2019

I'd rather not get into the whole background. I am here due to my fiance being an A. He is not abusive, just rather sloppy and tired. More of a 'happy' drunk as me and my therapist calls him. Anyway she has suggested Al-Anon and I have a print out of some meetings. I realize I am enabling him. I made a set...

MissyPoo · MissyPoo

Hello all.. haven't posted in a while but have been lurking. All is as well as can be with an A who is trying to control his drinking. I detach, detach, detach and basically remove myself (and the kids) from his presence when he is drinking. Not too hard when we are at home, because he does most of his d...

Katy · Katy

Well I have detached from hubby emotionally and physically, the merry go round was making me sick so I got off, we have both played the games, and I have sat on my pity pot telling him over and over why he should change because of the things I have done and continue to do, I mean who else would put up with all th...

abbyal · abbyal

I was remembering a tape I heard several yrs ago , after reading katy 's post this morning , way to go keeping a positive attitude .. A farmer had a load of manure delivered to his home , he asked his two sons to move it to another location , the pesimist took one look at it and said no way and walked away , the opt...

Simba · Simba

Is this site down or inactive? Can anyone recomend a better site... I have a son that could use some peer help. Thanks in advance for any suggestions.

Jerry F · Jerry F

Aloha Family...AGO spotlighted a youtube video on the board of the other room; AA which I watched and which elated my spirit. I asked him to put it here also however he temporarily is missing access to this board and offered that I do it for you all. Paste and click this site and watch something phenom...

Katy · Katy

Well I just wanted to share with you all, todays revelation, and what it is, is this, I have spent many years doing and saying the same old same old, every time is the last time I am doing and saying something lol, and everytime I belive it's the last time, and then not suddenly though, but after much much pr...

geebee · geebee

This is my first post....I desperately need help. I rencently did an intervention on my 32 year old son. He detoxed and said he was ready for help. He has been unemployed for a year and just before a bed became available he was offered a job. He chose the job over treatment. He stated that he would go t...

lmw · lmw

Happy 4th of July! My older daughter turned 11 today. She was born during the Boston fireworks finale 11 years ago. Since our town's and family celebrations of the 4th are actually on the 5th this year, she wanted (1) a cell phone and (2) to spend the day with her dad. The last time she saw him on her bi...

lyndebi · lyndebi

My cute, wonderful doc added a new med. cool, to help my bp to go down. tells me pain is keeping it too high.Went to him from his request. (pain from arthritis) Started getting horrible leg cramps, plus other symptoms I shrugged off. Got so bad I tried every pain pill I could get my hands on. I mean just on...

wp · wp

Happy Independence everyone. What an awesome word :) wp

looking_for_peace · looking_for_peace

I posted last week about my AH coming off benzodiazipenes (prescription). I recently learned he has also weaned himself off of Effexor. Both were done without doctor supervision. We were separated until about one month ago. I wanted to try again, especially because he was acting like his old self. H...

Andrea12 · Andrea12

((((((Friends)))))))))), I hope you all have a wonderful weekend and share it with loved ones and family. Please think of our boys who give thier lives for this very thing...freedom..... With Love, Andrea

kerry5 · kerry5

Business Meeting this month will be postponed this week and we will have it on July 11 2010. If you have any concerns or anything you would like on the agenda please let me know Thank you Kerry (aka kerisha)

Mobirdie · Mobirdie

WOW.......what an awesome experience. I tried all week to go through what I was going to say and I would get so far and then nothing seemed in the right order so I figured it just wasn't the right time. So, I started off my talk with "I have no idea where this is going but my higher power and I will figu...

White Rabbit · White Rabbit

I posted a couple weeks ago that I'd had a seizure and my AH took me to the emergency room and I had some tests. Those tests were all normal, but they referred me to a neurologist. I went to see the neurologist yesterday and guess what? Epilepsy. So I can't even say how completely grateful I am - the diagn...

Katy · Katy

I have been on this forum three years, no face to face now, no sponsor, living with a four years sober husband no programme, one son 19, a daughter who has just finished her degree and gone travelling solo south america, she emailed me yesterday she has got a first class honours dergree, WOW the pride! So...

dixiedoo · dixiedoo

I've been reading posts on this board for a while now, and just haven't been able to bring myself to join in until now. Here's a little background: I live with my alcoholic boyfriend of 6 years. We are both in our mid-30's and we do not have any children. He runs his own business, and I have a 9-5 job in a s...

Diva · Diva

I had to smile broadly at your friend's advice: "If he is passed out on the lawn, leave him there, but love him enough to turn off the automatic sprinklers." Reminds me of an incident that happened several years ago. I came home one fine day to find A passed out on the lawn. Really! This wa...

buick23 · buick23

3 days ago 2 people we know manipulated their way into staying at our house for a week or 2. After them staying with us for 2 days and thinking about the situation I did something about it. It was very uncomfortable for me to speak up and put my foot down but I did it. I talked to the woman and told her I felt they...

Aloha · Aloha

Had a great f2f meeting last night, and twice now in less than a week, I've heard the garden analogy used with keeping on top of character defects. 10th step work is like tending a garden regularly - pulling the weeds when they're small before they take root and take over and turn into a huge ordeal to get r...

Topic		Started By	Replies	Views	Last Post
	Made an amends (Preview) I finished my 4th step inventory awhile back. I didn't quite know how to make an amends. The two people whom I have terrible relationships with are my mother and my AHsober (who left). How could I make an amends when I blame them for all my troubles. I have been staying with my mother short term while I work...	nmike	5	780	Jul 11, 2010 by xeno59
	Everything is going slow (Preview) If anyone remembers me...no I can't go f2f meetings..it would be 150 mile round trip. Adult son who is my a is still waiting for a bed. By the way.. he is going to a recovery house for 30 days. They use the 12 steps. But they also use R.o.p.e.s program. Does anyone know about the ropes? My A son is still livi...	okwitt	3	465	Jul 11, 2010 by Jennifer
	Shaking the dust off my slogans (Preview) My xah has let me know he is in an intensive treatment facility, a requirement of his prison sentence or an early release program I imagine. I feel ashamed after reading his letter notifying me of a change of address that I felt no hope, my only real thought was ... ahhh gonna spend another 6 months or so p...	Jennifer	3	868	Jul 11, 2010 by canadianguy
	I am going to go stark, raving mad before this is over with . . . Long (Preview) I am new here and have read several other posts and of course the similarities to my situation haven't gone unnoticed. I am sick thinking of the over 20 years I have wasted with my compulsive gambling/alcoholic third husband. Since I am an addict magnet, the other two weren't much better. I thou...	imwithstupid	14	1157	Jul 10, 2010 by buick23
	Taking that leap of faith! (Preview) Pheeeeeeeweeeeeee, just back from second interview of the week, two jobs plucked out of thin air and two jobs on offer to me,wow what a turn around, it's very hard to try and do something differently, and you wonder how can I? In the situations here we find ourselves in we think and project the outcome wi...	Katy	5	806	Jul 10, 2010 by punkydoodah
	Feeling that it was my fault... (Preview) Hello everyone, I posted a few day's ago about the death of my mother. She was found dead in her house last Wednesday & was estimated by the medical examiner to have been dead for at least a week. The poor woman was so enslaved by the bottle that she had lost nearly everyone who loved her. My sister h...	minawillie	9	1136	Jul 10, 2010 by minawillie
	Back by popular demand...."The Screw" (Preview) Had a few people asking me to repost this story so here ya go! I had been coming to Al-anon meetings six months at the time my wife and I separated and she filed for a divorce. It was the lowest point of my life. My wife had been going to AA for over a year, and though I had hoped that we would be able to heal togeth...	david62	13	1046	Jul 10, 2010 by Rocky38
	My First F2F Meeting (Preview) I can't believe I didn't go sooner. It seems that sometimes WE have to hit OUR personal bottom to seek out real-live help just like the A does? There was plenty of opportunity for me to go before I left, but the meeting I was interested in was Saturday mornings..and I wanted to sleep in on Saturday morning...	Nalina	5	629	Jul 10, 2010 by Rocky38
	Help (Preview) New to all this, wife has been an alcoholi since I have know her. Wouldn't admit it until she entered rehap and now has been sober for 30 days, but I don't know how to cope with the resement I have. She has put us in financial distress, 15 hours of jail time for me, and countless hrs of misery for both of us....	rpendler	13	1259	Jul 10, 2010 by never going back
	I PROMISE IT WILL BE BRIEF... (Preview) I promise this will be brief! I am still struggling but feel much better. Still thinking about BR & have brought it up to those who I feel need to know. sleep is getting better, time is still going slow. Not afraid to be me today. have some reservations though. did stupid things last week. don't know...	Hoot Nanny	1	676	Jul 9, 2010 by Jerry F
	Actions speak louder than words! (Preview) Don't they? One of the most damaging aspects of living with an alcoholic is they say one thing and do another, the insanity for me was that I had my head screwed trusting the spoken word, lol and then I just thought lol I did just the same, I said I am not doing this anymore or that, and the best one, this is you...	Katy	1	588	Jul 9, 2010 by Jennifer
	It’s like re-arranging the deckchairs on the Titanic! (Preview) *''Its like re-arranging the deckchairs on the Titanic''*BRILLIANT......Someone said this in response to a post a couple of days ago, might have been Rocky? but I cant find it again. That saying has stayed in my head..... what a brilliant analogy and a great reminder to me to remember to let go...........	Ness	4	700	Jul 9, 2010 by Ness
	Struggling with self realization and a need for my own kind of fix (Preview) Brief backhround, 1st boyfriend at 14 stayed involved thru controlling abusiveness until I was 20 along with the beginning signs of his addictions which came later and I have been witness to by being his friend still. Three dates with 3 people and involved with my ex husband, an A and addict, stayed th...	Jennifer	6	589	Jul 8, 2010 by Jennifer
	I Left Him.... How long should I wait for him to be sober? (Preview) I left my AF yesterday. I called my parents and asked the question I knew I'd have to ask eventually: "Will you guys come pick me up?" Lucky for me I have great parents who are able to drop everything, rent a U-Haul, and drive 10 hours to come rescue their 26 year old daughter. It was hard, it w...	zhotdogs99	15	1170	Jul 8, 2010 by Adabnu
	Forward thinking and confusion combined (Preview) It's been a difficult time having left my ABF & our apartment (with only a suitcase) & now being 600 miles away. I have lost my job because of the chaos surrounding the alcohol consumption. Moving forward: I am going to my first face to face meeting tomorrow and I am actually looking forward to i...	Nalina	9	869	Jul 8, 2010 by nmike
	Concepts (Preview) Question I have the Paths to recovery book which has the concepts in. I am struggling to understand it and relate it to traditions etc. I wondered if anyone knows of a good study guide or some simple tips. I've only just started to get to grips with the traditions. Any suggestions would be gratefully rec...	mon123	6	716	Jul 8, 2010 by mon123
	I need help for dealing with my break up with an alcoholic partner (Preview) I broke up with my alcoholic finacee after he did not deal with his drinking problem seriously enough. When I walked away from him, I was so happy for myself to be able to have the guts to do it, I felt sense of freedom, I felt that I no longer need to babysit a drunk, how wonderful.... It has been a month now si...	Adabnu	9	6337	Jul 8, 2010 by Adabnu
	Later this day! (Preview) Well I set the wheels in motion to disolve our marriage, all the stomach churning feelings of fear about where will I live, how will our children take it, how will I financially manage, what will our family think what will my friends think, all these feelings that over whelmed me and kept me stuck and unh...	Katy	5	864	Jul 7, 2010 by Rocky38
	New Member (Preview) Hi, I just took a big step by signing up today. My life as been affected by alcholism since I was born. My dad was an abusive drinker, who never dealt with his disease. He died at 49 from the effects of hard living. My first husband is an alcoholic who continues to drink, altho he says it's okay, ' cause its...	sharonsue	8	956	Jul 7, 2010 by sharonsue
	Deleting posts? (Preview) I've participated in a couple of shares, and my posts seem to have now disappeared. Anyone know what may have happened?	alanonicScotland	4	623	Jul 7, 2010 by abbyal
	Hubby supports alanon and wants counseling. (Preview) I was talking with my husband and he told me he is so jealous and insecure it is consuming him. He wants us to go to counseling for this. (could this open up the no talk rule about his choices?? Probably not, but who knows what my HP has planned)This is a recent development. It maybe due to my detachment. He t...	miss_carol	4	789	Jul 7, 2010 by canadianguy
	This morning (Preview) While I was driving to work I realized that I'm afraid to file for divorce from my AH because I'm afraid to leave HIM alone. WOW This realization came when I was saying the serenity prayer and mediating. TY, HP.	Goodtillitsbad	5	705	Jul 7, 2010 by Bettina
	holidays (Preview) During all my time with the exA I dreaded holidays. I felt left out, abandoned and neglected. I did not have the tools then to simply take care of myself. This July 4th I had a simple peaceful time. One reason was that the roommate who has the worst alcohol problem has disappeared. Normally I would tak...	maresie	5	805	Jul 7, 2010 by maresie
	CHANGE! (Preview) Change to the fearful is threatening because it might mean that things get worse, to the hopeful, change is encouraging because things might get BETTER, to the confident change is inspiring because the challenge exsists to make things BETTER! Freedom to? Freedom of Freedom for Katyx	Katy	1	682	Jul 7, 2010 by nmike
	Al-Anon pod casts (Preview) If a newcommer is confused about how our program can help - our WSO site has on its home page a section that is called pod casts , simply click on it and u can listen to members share on different topics . costs nothing but a little time.. As an old timmer I really enjoyed listening too .	abbyal	4	1015	Jul 7, 2010 by alanonicScotland
	My Son wants to join the marines (Preview) (((((((((Friends)))))))))))), My wonderful son of 18 wants to join the marines....,now I know this is an honorable thing..however he is my baby yes I know he is becoming a grown man and honestly it may be the best thing for him. I however will miss him so very much, he is my sanity, my friend and i love him...	Andrea12	8	1591	Jul 7, 2010 by Diva
	I am in hell and don't know if I'll ever come out (Preview) Hello everyone. I am new to this group but by no means new to the disease that affects us all so horribly. I've just lost my mother to this horrendous thing we call alcoholism. My dad found her body this past Wednesday. She'd been dead at least a week according to the medical examiner. She died like s...	minawillie	19	1135	Jul 6, 2010 by minawillie
	Update on Rocky (Preview) Hi MIP family, It's been a long time since I posted or replied here so I thought I'd stop by and let you all know I'm doing ok. It's now almost 6 months since my AH passed away, and I honestly can't believe it's that long. So what have I been doing? I've been spending a lot of time reading about grief, partici...	Rocky38	7	762	Jul 6, 2010 by minawillie
	Qualifier Grandmother just passed away (Preview) It's been a while since I've been on here - I'm sharing for the health of it... My Alanonic Grandmother just passed away at 92 and I am working through a bunch of conflicting feelings. Boy, was she a RAGE-aholic. The dynamic of my granfather drinking and her being bossy Baptist housewife was heavy-duty...	alanonicScotland	5	767	Jul 6, 2010 by Carol_Lynn
	Less is More (Preview) Ran across this today and thought I'd share it: Fear less, hope more; eat less, chew more; whine less, breathe more, hate less, love more. Nice little reminder, no?	GailMichelle	6	692	Jul 6, 2010 by Carol_Lynn
	Allowing my feelings their time (Preview) For a long time, before Al-Anon, I would often find myself in situations where I'd feel emotionally awful. When those feelings would emerge, I'd get mad and impatient with myself and try to find something - anything - to distract me so I wouldn't feel that way any longer. I would continue to feel "...	Aloha	5	743	Jul 6, 2010 by Carol_Lynn
	Home from the International (Preview) Hi Family!! I just got back home from spending the weekend in San Antonio at the 2010 AA International Conference. A - Maz - ing!!!! This was my first one, and I hope it will not be my last! I was absolutely overwelmed by the number of people walking around downtown San Antonio wearing the conference bad...	david62	10	1395	Jul 6, 2010 by Aloha
	Things are becoming more volitile (Preview) This is only the second post from me, but I am curious as to what anyone's thoughts may be for me? MY AH and I have history spanning entire lives/love each other very much/want to get married/I moved 600 miles in January for him/he is showing signs of violent temper and angry drunk/his mother died last ye...	Nalina	9	1064	Jul 6, 2010 by Aloha
	Perplexed and at a loss... (Preview) Hi everyone, I know my question is not alcohol related but I was hoping that someone could give me insight into an issue with my Mother that has become increasingly a problem. My Mother will be 85 in October, I know that she is getting old, and losing her memoryI have always worked to be respectful of m...	Bettina	16	942	Jul 6, 2010 by Bettina
	Me again (Preview) First Happy 4 July to my US MIP family. Wishing you all a great day. I just wish I could say everything is going well in the Tattyhead household. AH is very ill and is in hospital having had upset stomach and not having eaten anything solid since April. He is skin and bone, having lost 3 1/2 stone (49lb) s...	Tattyhead	8	979	Jul 6, 2010 by maresie
	BRAND NEW (Preview) hi anyone i am brand new to this site. also brand new to al anon.i have been trying to get to an on line al anon meeting but my computer is not really co-operating.i have been married to a heavy drinker for 20 years and just separated in february 2010. i have 3 children 2 of whom are drinking heavily.i just ca...	Megthompson	8	851	Jul 6, 2010 by maresie
	Where do I start!!!!! (Preview) Hi everyone, where do I start. My husband has been to 3 detox therapies over the years and is still drinking. He goes to meetings for a while and falls. And I get really upset and I m the one who looks like a fool, in all of this, just doesn`t seem to make any sense. Hes the one drinking and doing all sorts of s...	petpal	7	931	Jul 6, 2010 by maresie
	Happy 4th of July, or is it? (Preview) I'm so anxious this morning. Things are going smoothely at home. The kids are being fun and helpful and not getting on my nerves. But I have this looming anxious feeling. My mother in law is coming in to town. I haven' seen her since last summer. She was not always friendly to me and is very much an untreate...	angelchar375	3	764	Jul 6, 2010 by maresie
	Trying To Stay Strong..... (Preview) I kicked my son out of my mother's house (she passed away three years ago) three weeks ago today, it was a terrible scene with him and his friend both of them high and out of control screaming and cussing, the police tried to keep the situation in a negotiated mode, but it ended with my son being arrested...	DreamsOver	6	917	Jul 6, 2010 by maresie
	Just need some help.... (Preview) I'd rather not get into the whole background. I am here due to my fiance being an A. He is not abusive, just rather sloppy and tired. More of a 'happy' drunk as me and my therapist calls him. Anyway she has suggested Al-Anon and I have a print out of some meetings. I realize I am enabling him. I made a set...	Rebecca2019	7	922	Jul 6, 2010 by maresie
	Need ESH on family vacations with A's (Preview) Hello all.. haven't posted in a while but have been lurking. All is as well as can be with an A who is trying to control his drinking. I detach, detach, detach and basically remove myself (and the kids) from his presence when he is drinking. Not too hard when we are at home, because he does most of his d...	MissyPoo	8	926	Jul 6, 2010 by MissyPoo
	Humour and irony! (Preview) Well I have detached from hubby emotionally and physically, the merry go round was making me sick so I got off, we have both played the games, and I have sat on my pity pot telling him over and over why he should change because of the things I have done and continue to do, I mean who else would put up with all th...	Katy	4	1128	Jul 6, 2010 by Karilynn
	Optomist = pessimist (Preview) I was remembering a tape I heard several yrs ago , after reading katy 's post this morning , way to go keeping a positive attitude .. A farmer had a load of manure delivered to his home , he asked his two sons to move it to another location , the pesimist took one look at it and said no way and walked away , the opt...	abbyal	6	684	Jul 6, 2010 by Karilynn
	MIP Family Teens Message Board? (Preview) Is this site down or inactive? Can anyone recomend a better site... I have a son that could use some peer help. Thanks in advance for any suggestions.	Simba	3	821	Jul 6, 2010 by Simba
	Sweet and very comforting... (Preview) Aloha Family...AGO spotlighted a youtube video on the board of the other room; AA which I watched and which elated my spirit. I asked him to put it here also however he temporarily is missing access to this board and offered that I do it for you all. Paste and click this site and watch something phenom...	Jerry F	11	1148	Jul 5, 2010 by John
	Practicing! (Preview) Well I just wanted to share with you all, todays revelation, and what it is, is this, I have spent many years doing and saying the same old same old, every time is the last time I am doing and saying something lol, and everytime I belive it's the last time, and then not suddenly though, but after much much pr...	Katy	4	837	Jul 5, 2010 by Loupiness
	This is my first post.. (Preview) This is my first post....I desperately need help. I rencently did an intervention on my 32 year old son. He detoxed and said he was ready for help. He has been unemployed for a year and just before a bed became available he was offered a job. He chose the job over treatment. He stated that he would go t...	geebee	7	822	Jul 5, 2010 by GailMichelle
	Birthday Magic (Preview) Happy 4th of July! My older daughter turned 11 today. She was born during the Boston fireworks finale 11 years ago. Since our town's and family celebrations of the 4th are actually on the 5th this year, she wanted (1) a cell phone and (2) to spend the day with her dad. The last time she saw him on her bi...	lmw	5	507	Jul 5, 2010 by xeno59
	From deaths door and leg amputation..... (Preview) My cute, wonderful doc added a new med. cool, to help my bp to go down. tells me pain is keeping it too high.Went to him from his request. (pain from arthritis) Started getting horrible leg cramps, plus other symptoms I shrugged off. Got so bad I tried every pain pill I could get my hands on. I mean just on...	lyndebi	10	1142	Jul 4, 2010 by lyndebi
	INDEPENDENCE (Preview) Happy Independence everyone. What an awesome word :) wp	wp	3	519	Jul 4, 2010 by Jerry F
	Is there any hope?! (long) (Preview) I posted last week about my AH coming off benzodiazipenes (prescription). I recently learned he has also weaned himself off of Effexor. Both were done without doctor supervision. We were separated until about one month ago. I wanted to try again, especially because he was acting like his old self. H...	looking_for_peace	8	998	Jul 4, 2010 by xeno59
	Happy Fourth (Preview) ((((((Friends)))))))))), I hope you all have a wonderful weekend and share it with loved ones and family. Please think of our boys who give thier lives for this very thing...freedom..... With Love, Andrea	Andrea12	5	617	Jul 4, 2010 by Karilynn
	Business Meeting for July will be postponed (Preview) Business Meeting this month will be postponed this week and we will have it on July 11 2010. If you have any concerns or anything you would like on the agenda please let me know Thank you Kerry (aka kerisha)	kerry5	0	532	Jul 3, 2010 by kerry5
	Shared my story (Preview) WOW.......what an awesome experience. I tried all week to go through what I was going to say and I would get so far and then nothing seemed in the right order so I figured it just wasn't the right time. So, I started off my talk with "I have no idea where this is going but my higher power and I will figu...	Mobirdie	8	982	Jul 3, 2010 by White Rabbit
	Diagnosis (Preview) I posted a couple weeks ago that I'd had a seizure and my AH took me to the emergency room and I had some tests. Those tests were all normal, but they referred me to a neurologist. I went to see the neurologist yesterday and guess what? Epilepsy. So I can't even say how completely grateful I am - the diagn...	White Rabbit	9	1035	Jul 3, 2010 by White Rabbit
	How it has been working for me! (Preview) I have been on this forum three years, no face to face now, no sponsor, living with a four years sober husband no programme, one son 19, a daughter who has just finished her degree and gone travelling solo south america, she emailed me yesterday she has got a first class honours dergree, WOW the pride! So...	Katy	1	696	Jul 3, 2010 by lyndebi
	Newbie here - Does this sound familiar? (Preview) I've been reading posts on this board for a while now, and just haven't been able to bring myself to join in until now. Here's a little background: I live with my alcoholic boyfriend of 6 years. We are both in our mid-30's and we do not have any children. He runs his own business, and I have a 9-5 job in a s...	dixiedoo	10	762	Jul 2, 2010 by hopeful123
	ABBYAL...and anyone else who would like to smile. (Preview) I had to smile broadly at your friend's advice: "If he is passed out on the lawn, leave him there, but love him enough to turn off the automatic sprinklers." Reminds me of an incident that happened several years ago. I came home one fine day to find A passed out on the lawn. Really! This wa...	Diva	7	777	Jul 2, 2010 by maire rua
	finally have some positive things to share (Preview) 3 days ago 2 people we know manipulated their way into staying at our house for a week or 2. After them staying with us for 2 days and thinking about the situation I did something about it. It was very uncomfortable for me to speak up and put my foot down but I did it. I talked to the woman and told her I felt they...	buick23	6	933	Jul 2, 2010 by buick23
	4th/10th step inventory thoughts (Preview) Had a great f2f meeting last night, and twice now in less than a week, I've heard the garden analogy used with keeping on top of character defects. 10th step work is like tending a garden regularly - pulling the weeds when they're small before they take root and take over and turn into a huge ordeal to get r...	Aloha	5	1831	Jul 1, 2010 by Simba
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