The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
While I was driving to work I realized that I'm afraid to file for divorce from my AH because I'm afraid to leave HIM alone. WOW This realization came when I was saying the serenity prayer and mediating. TY, HP.
It is always amazing to me what were willing to put up with to save someone who dosent want to be saved .. without athought to what this is doing to us . cunning baffling and powerful . no kidding
Letting go of saving my Alcoholic Wife did not mean abandoning her as I first feared it was. Letting go was stepping out of the way so she and her HP could meet. I loved her and didn't want bad to happen to her or for her and I didn't have the solutions or the power or the time to fix her. Only she could do that having the same will as her HP. I was a caring person and still am a caring person and I am a powerless person when it comes to someone elses will in alcoholism.
What a moment of enlightenment..."If you keep and open mind you will find help."
Its been a long journey with the XAH over 28 years....
Letting go is just that , with compassion, not expecting to get from them what their disease will not allow them to give.
Your HP is in control and has the best plan for you, not saying you cant divorce, just saying to think outside the box and pray to your HP to expand your life and thinking.
