Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

Hal Lee · Hal Lee

Does anyone have an experience trying to help an adult child who uses alcohol to self-medicate to make his Tourete's Syndrome symptoms better? Is he a special case or do the normal methods of Al-Anon apply? Need your imput please. Thanks

Not Alone · Not Alone

>sigh< I thought he was doing so well. About a month ago AB hit rock bottom - no need for the details except to say it was bad. He started counselling and started AA. I thought he was doing well. Well, over the weekend I could smell it on him and his behavior confirmed it - not the drunken behavior bu...

afares · afares

My husband (16 months sober) and I are going through a very difficult time right now and it is leaving me lost and very lonely. He has been very withdrawn lately and no longer is very into our relationship which we have been trying to rebuild. We have began to deal with the financial mess that we have gott...

No words · No words

My husband just got out of inpatient rehab 10 days ago and is already drinking. Those 10 days were fabulous - full of hope, optomism and plans for the future. Then this freak storm knocked us out of power and he used the stress as an excuse to start drinking. Of course he hid it and if course I knew. I tried to...

Very Very Tired · Very Very Tired

I'm holding to my boundary that the kids cannot be in the car with AH driving. Over the course of the past year, I've asked twice that he not drink then drive the kids. He is able to do that for awhile, then he goes right back to drinking then driving the kids. AH has shown me what he is going to do, so I had to dec...

noelle2 · noelle2

we have a 11mos old and just moved, i found a bottle in front of him and he confessed, he had been drinking for the past month, probably longer because i dont know what i can believe. He has "slipped" each weekend since, today I caught it because I wanted a sip of his drink and to my surprise it wa...

kris10 · kris10

So far so good.. He went to his meeting with one of his friends.. Came home in a good mood. Mentioned that there was a girl there that confessed that she had a relapse but was now 5 days sober.. Didnt understand why people were so happy for her new 5 days.. Said he just doesnt ever count the days he is sober. Sa...

afares · afares

I wrote about my husbands anger and lack of attention yesterday and so many people helped with everything they wrote. I have been reading and going to meetins trying to learn how to handle the life I have right now and it is so hard. I have been trying to understand the way my husband is being right now an...

oldergal · oldergal

So what do you do when you think your A-son (28) has stolen from you? He knows my shed is open because some of his belongings are in there. This was something still new in a box and was expensive. That's what I get for being so trusting. My fault for not locking things down. I accused him, but I still don't kno...

Breakingfree · Breakingfree

I was reading one of my many books "The language of Letting Go" by Melody Beattie and it occurred to me I haven't felt trapped in a long time. I have learned to make decisions and own them by being true to myself lately. I am not giving into guilt when anyone tries to pull it. I am not making choice...

All I can be · All I can be

Time Change? Time and Change ... a tough choice... I'll take Change so the Time will be well spent. Bill

amills4294 · amills4294

I participate on this board and the Adult Children's - my mom is the alcoholic. My spouse is not an alcoholic but does have those behaviors and has a compulisve/addictive personality. So I struggle with being in a relationship with that because of my childhood learned behaviors. Work has been abs...

Ness · Ness

I dont have the strength to write much more at the moment but just want to say thank you all for your love and support.Our sons cremation took place yesterday (Thursday) The peace of the Al-anon programme is with me.Much loveNess x

Cupcake · Cupcake

Why is it that my husband will 'hide' evidence of his drinking in the most obvious places ever?! It's like that Seinfeld episode when Kramer is hiding a key in Jerry's apartment but he hides it in places like Jerry's coat pocket so he finds it right away. LOL I had to look for 2 things yesterday and both tim...

Diva · Diva

Thanks for all your responses...believe me I appreciate them. I haven't been around too much lately as you no doubt have gathered. I have been very, very busy locating a lovely home in Florida of which I took ownership on last Tuesday. Sold the condo in Hawai'i as my children wanted me closer to them...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I have been wanting connection to my family all the way up here 900 miles away. It is seeming to happy but maybe be slowly. I can wait longer because it is so worth it! I have been able to talk to my precious step-sister & she is very lonely for her mom. The service went well from what I heard. Wished I coul...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

My brother my dad's only son finally went to see my dad after many long years having nothing really to do w/ him! I am so happy that this has happened. It was time for them to mend fences & maybe create a new bond. It seems so hard for me to see that he couldn't reconcile w/ my Dad until Tues. but at least it h...

Confidence is my illusion · Confidence is my illusion

As I'm writing this, my husband is gathering some belongings to move to our camper at a KOA campground. He got a second DUI a couple of nights ago and I've asked him to leave to work through this on his own. I've thrown everything I had in my aresenal at this problem and nothing has worked. I look like I'm str...

mousie1 · mousie1

I have read a lot about this syndrome and its impact in early recovery. One thing I read said that it can go up to two years, but, many times peaks in three to six months. If a small amount of alcohol is consumed (one or two drinks) does it undo all the healing in the brain and you start over again?

John · John

Hello everyone, We will be having the scheduled group business meeting tonight at 7 PM eastern time. We are asking everyone who considers themselves a member of the group, be it by the message board, or by the chat room meetings to join us for this meeting. 1. On tonight's agenda is a review of Op respo...

Mlkiss75 · Mlkiss75

Ive had it. I do not understand why the liquor store around the corner from my house continues to provide my husband with alcohol on credit! He's not working so he has no money to pay. He's been over three times already today and it's just after 1:00. So on his way back from his last trip over, I turned him ar...

rara avis · rara avis

This is just a needed rant, and I'm afraid not helpful to anyone, unless you need to hear another story to make yourself feel not alone in this craziness! I thank this forum for providing this outlet! On advice I went to a police station to file a report on my ex RA, but was convinced to file an EPO [ emergenc...

Jules1011 · Jules1011

I am very grateful right now that I made the decision to end an unhealthy relationship with my ex, I have a lot of gratitude for this programme, the f2f meetings and the people on this board. Although, I am struggling with guilt right now. My ex has ran up a huge phone bill and the phone is in my name, I found...

glad · glad

Whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is [a]lovely, whatever is of good repute, if there is any excellence and if anything worthy of praise, [b]dwell on these things. When I have "negative" run through my brain, just for today, I will q...

Very Very Tired · Very Very Tired

When I am confronted by my AH with his justifications or lies or delusions or whatever you want to call them, I have to go through my mental list of what I know. I know he drinks, even when he says he won't. I know he drinks and hides it. I know there is an ever increasing stash of empty alcohol bottles accumul...

kris10 · kris10

If you have been following my posts the last couple days I'm sure you probably have the same puzzled look on your face that I do right about now...lol The other day he said he wanted to go to an AA meeting but at the time he was high on H... I wanted soooo bad to tell him "don't go when you are high, how rude...

Green Eyes · Green Eyes

This is really kind of amusing in a sad way. My estranged AH and I submitted finally submitted our joint 2010 tax return a couple of months ago. I got a letter in the mail last week that said we would not be getting a penny back due to tax liabilities for 2007. This was news to me, as I was not aware of any previo...

never going back · never going back

Actually, I never left. It's been a little over a year since I posted, but I get on here at least once a week to read other's posts, stalking, I guess you'd call it. But now I'm in a bad place again, and felt the need of support. My AH admitted to himself that he was an alcoholic 3 years ago, after 35 years of dr...

Lindaoakford · Lindaoakford

http://www.houstonadultchildren.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=62&Itemid=71-- Edited by Lindaoakford on Wednesday 2nd of November 2011 11:01:23 PM

micawber · micawber

A very dear friend of mine (and ex-boyfriend) is well into his recovery process--he's been sober for over a year now, mostly thanks to AA. He is dedicated to going to daily meetings, chairs them sometimes, has a sponsor, etc. etc. While our relationship is still close, I know that he has lost touch with...

Mlkiss75 · Mlkiss75

Hola all! Tonight marked yet another step forward in my recovery - came home to my husband somewhat drunk and I just did my thing. I basically disregarded his acting out and went about making dinner and watching tv. He made a huge mess in the kitchen - I did my own dishes and left his for him to deal with. He t...

surfgirl123 · surfgirl123

Wow, was just reminded I can never get too comfortable. Things have been going pretty well lately. Came home tonight and BAM! A few days ago my AH said something I did was 'stupid', I ignored it at the time, but today what he said I was stupid for worked out, I made the mistake of saying "and you said I w...

f2fmember · f2fmember

Does anyone know anything about the concepts. I have the paths to recovery book but really can't get my head round them in any practical way. f2fmember

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I did talk to my dad & it went well. He really wants to see my brother who hasn't been in his life for many years. A lot had to do w/ my step-mom. Now that she is gone, I wonder what will happen w/ their relationship? Just a thought. Kathleen

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I am doing OK. But it has been a long week because the loss of my step-mom. I was trying to write something on-line for her as a memory & couldn't figure out how to do it. It is so painful to be unable to give my dad & family hugs right now. But..I have friends up here who are watching out for me & som...

pinkchip · pinkchip

My cat was all up in my grill this morning. She headbutts me to feed her, pet her...she is so clingy. I told her she needed to go to a CODA meeting. I also told her "I'm going to sleep or not sleep what are you gonna do?" It didn't really work. So much for 12 step principles for cats. (levity-I h...

Lindaoakford · Lindaoakford

I have been here 3 months, on the ACoA board a little longer than that. I have come here every day for 3 months. Several times a day and sometimes it is open all day (at work naughty me). I have read, I have 'listened', I have private messaged. I have been happy, sad, crying and angry and laughing. No ma...

Very Very Tired · Very Very Tired

It's such a new concept for me to reach out to someone to help me think through something. It feels so foreign for me to talk to someone before I react. When I take the extra time to work my program, WOW what a difference. I have a big action that I felt it is time to take. My sponsor didn't tell me what I could...

Breakingfree · Breakingfree

I am planning a trip to California to visit my Mother who still lives in the same house that I grew up in. My dad died 9 years ago and her pot head boyfriend has been with her the last 6 years I think. He doesn't work just mooches off her and she doesn't have that great of a job either. With that being said. I inte...

Jackie11 · Jackie11

Linda did a post that got me to thinking. I came to this site on October 11 because I was so frustrated and angry and I had started trying to research alcoholism. I wanted to be told to leave, given the excuses I needed that it was ok. Except instead I found information, and stories, and hope. I probably sta...

orchidlover · orchidlover

Last night when I was walking my dogs I met a man who I know through a friend of his (who is an alcoholic currently in a dreadful way). I got to chat with him and hear about this man's alcoholism, his delirum tremens, seizure and more. I could have a lot of compassion for him and really see and understand th...

thesslea · thesslea

Greetings :) I am new to this forum but feel I need some guidance in my current situation. I have been dating a woman for close to 18 months who has 17 years of sobriety. We recently had a conflict that baffled me and when I was speaking with a close friend of mine and described the situation, she said it soun...

kmclin52 · kmclin52

I have been with my boyfriend for two years and lived with him for one. I didnt know he was an alcoholic until about 8 mo into our relationship. He has recently (about 2 mo ago) started a 12 step recovery program. Things were great between us until he started going to open AA meetings. For example he used to...

pinkchip · pinkchip

My therapist is hardcore alanon. I met with her today and talked about some of the things I'm learning on this board. I was saying how I often felt that some of the folks on here are like trauma victims and in need of validation and to feel empowered. She stated that Alanon would often tell you that you a...

kris10 · kris10

After all the stuff going on yesterday I today realize my little back track the past couple days was ME... I had fell back to trying to control, worrying, blaming, ect, ect.... So, I guess (as I've read in other posts lately) that here is where I take it one day at a time... If there are such a thing as stages...

Pushka · Pushka

I can tell things in my life are shifting in a good way, there are a bunch of gold plated problems (I LOVE that!!) on my plate that I would like to go away .. lol. I feel like I"m healing and moving forward, there is a long ways to go. Good grief .. I'm finding as I shift the more drama is being dropped in m...

mousie1 · mousie1

I am a mother of a 28 year old son newly returned from treatment. He is very sensitive and irritable. He doesn't want to talk about treatment too much. Today I clearly was nervous because it was his first day alone with no family members around. When he didn't answer his phone I got really worried that he...

f2fmember · f2fmember

I'm not sure if this is appropriate lol I am pretty disheartened at the moment and quite down. Normally that would send me into the next meeting or phoning an alanon friend. But what do you do if the source of the problem is that I have been around alanon for a long time and feel completely detached from the...

Michelle814 · Michelle814

I have been really struggling. I have had my own sort of relapse this past week. I have been caught up in things that are not of my concern, worrying about the past, scared of the future. questioning my husband about how his own program has been going.. constantly asking whats going on in his mind.. hor...

Doozy · Doozy

Hi All, I'm still here, though not much has changed since my last posting. Just went another round on the roller coaster with my ex BF. Calling it a roller coaster is kind of ridiculous though because it doesn't even begin to describe what the experience does to my heart. Anyway, we did finally talk on th...

orchidlover · orchidlover

For 4 years I lived around addicts and alcoholics and put a lot of boundaries in place. I would say every day without fail the boundaries were tested on different levels. At some points I dreaded going out the door. Now for 2 weeks I am living in a non A environment. Here is the difference: 1) No fear abou...

NCSUgeology · NCSUgeology

My brother has been getting a lot of resistance from family members that have set boundaries. I started the I dont want to talk to you when youre drunk boundary, and it worked great for me and my sanity. It was bad. Sometimes he couldnt talk. After that boundary was set, he never had a fat tongue when I tal...

jitsuka · jitsuka

The title says it all really. There have been some posts recently about being in a relationship and feeling totally lonely. That's exactly how I feel. I can be intellectually stimulated when I'm at university (I've just started a PhD). I've started going back to Jiu-Jitsu after a 4 year break and I'm a...

ilovedogs · ilovedogs

Some of you may remember that my AH went to see his psychiatrist and was warned not to drink while on his antidepressants. As far as I know he hasn't been drinking, at least not in my presence. He may be drinking while traveling for work but I can't prove it nor do I care. Anyway, I was helping him with som...

jmanning · jmanning

I don't know what to think or maybe I am reading too much into it. But I got a letter from my AH today and in his letter he says, "God honey I am so so sorry for my wrong doings and I'm going to get help for my alcoholism. I ask that you also work a program to help us both through my disease, for better or wors...

kris10 · kris10

When they say "If your not sure...don't" does that apply to getting rid of ur A?? Pretty sure today is going to be the day... I can feel it... I feel I know I'm going to regret it also.... I don't know what to do... I got the name calling this morning too which was AWESOME after being up all night to...

kris10 · kris10

730 in the morning and i havent slept all night because my Abf has been banging around all night cleaning ( heroin induced) now i get to try and take care of a sick little one all day... ( my son) god im going to need some help today.........

Grace7 · Grace7

Hi all. I've had a great deal of experience of living with an active A, who has been my ex for quite some time now. In other words, I've not lived with "active" addiction in some time. However, now my grown sons have the addiction or ACOA issues that make it tough for me sometimes. My curren...

lookingup · lookingup

he thought id never come back ,was sooo happy to c me as i was him,we will always love each other,i do know now he wants it as bad as me to work out for us ,he is doing better with his drinking but still drinks um 4 24oz a day instead of a case and a pint of vodka,my freind told me that it could all blow up ,this i know...

Jozie · Jozie

Hello MIP ;0) I know its been a while, but it is def, the time of the change of Seasons for me... Some Good =) Some Not so Much :'( My Son ended his Soccer Outdoor Season, and we are about to begin our Soccer Indoor season, which isn't near the hassle, its only 1 day a week, and tho I signed in as Coach, I have tr...

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	Al-Anon, alcoholism & Tourette's? (Preview) Does anyone have an experience trying to help an adult child who uses alcohol to self-medicate to make his Tourete's Syndrome symptoms better? Is he a special case or do the normal methods of Al-Anon apply? Need your imput please. Thanks	Hal Lee	14	1085	Nov 7, 2011 by Hal Lee
	disappointment... (Preview) >sigh< I thought he was doing so well. About a month ago AB hit rock bottom - no need for the details except to say it was bad. He started counselling and started AA. I thought he was doing well. Well, over the weekend I could smell it on him and his behavior confirmed it - not the drunken behavior bu...	Not Alone	7	978	Nov 7, 2011 by rosielee
	Feeling lost - New to alanon but want a new way of life (Preview) My husband (16 months sober) and I are going through a very difficult time right now and it is leaving me lost and very lonely. He has been very withdrawn lately and no longer is very into our relationship which we have been trying to rebuild. We have began to deal with the financial mess that we have gott...	afares	14	755	Nov 7, 2011 by tommyecat
	Just out of rehab and drinking (Preview) My husband just got out of inpatient rehab 10 days ago and is already drinking. Those 10 days were fabulous - full of hope, optomism and plans for the future. Then this freak storm knocked us out of power and he used the stress as an excuse to start drinking. Of course he hid it and if course I knew. I tried to...	No words	16	4052	Nov 7, 2011 by tommyecat
	Exhausted (Preview) I'm holding to my boundary that the kids cannot be in the car with AH driving. Over the course of the past year, I've asked twice that he not drink then drive the kids. He is able to do that for awhile, then he goes right back to drinking then driving the kids. AH has shown me what he is going to do, so I had to dec...	Very Very Tired	16	584	Nov 7, 2011 by Very Very Tired
	what do i do, please any help (Preview) we have a 11mos old and just moved, i found a bottle in front of him and he confessed, he had been drinking for the past month, probably longer because i dont know what i can believe. He has "slipped" each weekend since, today I caught it because I wanted a sip of his drink and to my surprise it wa...	noelle2	9	842	Nov 7, 2011 by tommyecat
	Update to AA for my A (Preview) So far so good.. He went to his meeting with one of his friends.. Came home in a good mood. Mentioned that there was a girl there that confessed that she had a relapse but was now 5 days sober.. Didnt understand why people were so happy for her new 5 days.. Said he just doesnt ever count the days he is sober. Sa...	kris10	11	446	Nov 7, 2011 by tommyecat
	Dont know how to act!!! Anxiety is high and confused (Preview) I wrote about my husbands anger and lack of attention yesterday and so many people helped with everything they wrote. I have been reading and going to meetins trying to learn how to handle the life I have right now and it is so hard. I have been trying to understand the way my husband is being right now an...	afares	8	692	Nov 7, 2011 by tommyecat
	STOLEN THINGS (Preview) So what do you do when you think your A-son (28) has stolen from you? He knows my shed is open because some of his belongings are in there. This was something still new in a box and was expensive. That's what I get for being so trusting. My fault for not locking things down. I accused him, but I still don't kno...	oldergal	7	599	Nov 7, 2011 by tommyecat
	Not feeling trapped any longer (Preview) I was reading one of my many books "The language of Letting Go" by Melody Beattie and it occurred to me I haven't felt trapped in a long time. I have learned to make decisions and own them by being true to myself lately. I am not giving into guilt when anyone tries to pull it. I am not making choice...	Breakingfree	4	456	Nov 7, 2011 by amills4294
	Time Change? (Preview) Time Change? Time and Change ... a tough choice... I'll take Change so the Time will be well spent. Bill	All I can be	2	403	Nov 7, 2011 by tommyecat
	rough couple of weeks... making progress for me (Preview) I participate on this board and the Adult Children's - my mom is the alcoholic. My spouse is not an alcoholic but does have those behaviors and has a compulisve/addictive personality. So I struggle with being in a relationship with that because of my childhood learned behaviors. Work has been abs...	amills4294	6	639	Nov 7, 2011 by amills4294
	Dear Friends.....update (Preview) I dont have the strength to write much more at the moment but just want to say thank you all for your love and support.Our sons cremation took place yesterday (Thursday) The peace of the Al-anon programme is with me.Much loveNess x	Ness	10	917	Nov 7, 2011 by tommyecat
	Have to laugh (Preview) Why is it that my husband will 'hide' evidence of his drinking in the most obvious places ever?! It's like that Seinfeld episode when Kramer is hiding a key in Jerry's apartment but he hides it in places like Jerry's coat pocket so he finds it right away. LOL I had to look for 2 things yesterday and both tim...	Cupcake	4	377	Nov 7, 2011 by tommyecat
	Hello all! (Preview) Thanks for all your responses...believe me I appreciate them. I haven't been around too much lately as you no doubt have gathered. I have been very, very busy locating a lovely home in Florida of which I took ownership on last Tuesday. Sold the condo in Hawai'i as my children wanted me closer to them...	Diva	1	346	Nov 7, 2011 by tommyecat
	good things out of sadness (Preview) I have been wanting connection to my family all the way up here 900 miles away. It is seeming to happy but maybe be slowly. I can wait longer because it is so worth it! I have been able to talk to my precious step-sister & she is very lonely for her mom. The service went well from what I heard. Wished I coul...	Hoot Nanny	2	387	Nov 7, 2011 by tommyecat
	update: my brother (Preview) My brother my dad's only son finally went to see my dad after many long years having nothing really to do w/ him! I am so happy that this has happened. It was time for them to mend fences & maybe create a new bond. It seems so hard for me to see that he couldn't reconcile w/ my Dad until Tues. but at least it h...	Hoot Nanny	5	398	Nov 7, 2011 by tommyecat
	Husband received 2nd DUI after 12 years from the first and only 9 months after treatment. (Preview) As I'm writing this, my husband is gathering some belongings to move to our camper at a KOA campground. He got a second DUI a couple of nights ago and I've asked him to leave to work through this on his own. I've thrown everything I had in my aresenal at this problem and nothing has worked. I look like I'm str...	Confidence is my illusion	10	4706	Nov 6, 2011 by Pushka
	post acute withdrawal syndrome (Preview) I have read a lot about this syndrome and its impact in early recovery. One thing I read said that it can go up to two years, but, many times peaks in three to six months. If a small amount of alcohol is consumed (one or two drinks) does it undo all the healing in the brain and you start over again?	mousie1	2	623	Nov 6, 2011 by hotrod
	Group Business Meeting Tonight at 7pm est (Preview) Hello everyone, We will be having the scheduled group business meeting tonight at 7 PM eastern time. We are asking everyone who considers themselves a member of the group, be it by the message board, or by the chat room meetings to join us for this meeting. 1. On tonight's agenda is a review of Op respo...	John	0	720	Nov 6, 2011 by John
	Just went to the liquor store (Preview) Ive had it. I do not understand why the liquor store around the corner from my house continues to provide my husband with alcohol on credit! He's not working so he has no money to pay. He's been over three times already today and it's just after 1:00. So on his way back from his last trip over, I turned him ar...	Mlkiss75	9	776	Nov 5, 2011 by Jerry F
	Stressed out, need to rant [ long, sorry ] (Preview) This is just a needed rant, and I'm afraid not helpful to anyone, unless you need to hear another story to make yourself feel not alone in this craziness! I thank this forum for providing this outlet! On advice I went to a police station to file a report on my ex RA, but was convinced to file an EPO [ emergenc...	rara avis	9	638	Nov 5, 2011 by rosielee
	Feeling guilty with gratitude....confusing yes (Preview) I am very grateful right now that I made the decision to end an unhealthy relationship with my ex, I have a lot of gratitude for this programme, the f2f meetings and the people on this board. Although, I am struggling with guilt right now. My ex has ran up a huge phone bill and the phone is in my name, I found...	Jules1011	7	682	Nov 5, 2011 by Jules1011
	Today will be a good day! (Preview) Whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is [a]lovely, whatever is of good repute, if there is any excellence and if anything worthy of praise, [b]dwell on these things. When I have "negative" run through my brain, just for today, I will q...	glad	6	354	Nov 5, 2011 by amills4294
	What I know (Preview) When I am confronted by my AH with his justifications or lies or delusions or whatever you want to call them, I have to go through my mental list of what I know. I know he drinks, even when he says he won't. I know he drinks and hides it. I know there is an ever increasing stash of empty alcohol bottles accumul...	Very Very Tired	8	571	Nov 4, 2011 by never going back
	My A just left for an AA meeting???? (Preview) If you have been following my posts the last couple days I'm sure you probably have the same puzzled look on your face that I do right about now...lol The other day he said he wanted to go to an AA meeting but at the time he was high on H... I wanted soooo bad to tell him "don't go when you are high, how rude...	kris10	13	606	Nov 4, 2011 by never going back
	The IRS Thinks I'm a Victim (Preview) This is really kind of amusing in a sad way. My estranged AH and I submitted finally submitted our joint 2010 tax return a couple of months ago. I got a letter in the mail last week that said we would not be getting a penny back due to tax liabilities for 2007. This was news to me, as I was not aware of any previo...	Green Eyes	6	784	Nov 4, 2011 by Green Eyes
	I'm back..... (Preview) Actually, I never left. It's been a little over a year since I posted, but I get on here at least once a week to read other's posts, stalking, I guess you'd call it. But now I'm in a bad place again, and felt the need of support. My AH admitted to himself that he was an alcoholic 3 years ago, after 35 years of dr...	never going back	9	918	Nov 4, 2011 by HisWife24
	found a website that is great (Preview) http://www.houstonadultchildren.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=62&Itemid=71-- Edited by Lindaoakford on Wednesday 2nd of November 2011 11:01:23 PM	Lindaoakford	5	571	Nov 4, 2011 by Lindaoakford
	How to help a friend? (Preview) A very dear friend of mine (and ex-boyfriend) is well into his recovery process--he's been sober for over a year now, mostly thanks to AA. He is dedicated to going to daily meetings, chairs them sometimes, has a sponsor, etc. etc. While our relationship is still close, I know that he has lost touch with...	micawber	4	410	Nov 4, 2011 by rrib
	Amazing progress (Preview) Hola all! Tonight marked yet another step forward in my recovery - came home to my husband somewhat drunk and I just did my thing. I basically disregarded his acting out and went about making dinner and watching tv. He made a huge mess in the kitchen - I did my own dishes and left his for him to deal with. He t...	Mlkiss75	9	417	Nov 4, 2011 by Mlkiss75
	Never Get Too Comfortable (Preview) Wow, was just reminded I can never get too comfortable. Things have been going pretty well lately. Came home tonight and BAM! A few days ago my AH said something I did was 'stupid', I ignored it at the time, but today what he said I was stupid for worked out, I made the mistake of saying "and you said I w...	surfgirl123	6	811	Nov 4, 2011 by orchidlover
	Concepts (Preview) Does anyone know anything about the concepts. I have the paths to recovery book but really can't get my head round them in any practical way. f2fmember	f2fmember	1	351	Nov 4, 2011 by tommyecat
	one more comment (Preview) I did talk to my dad & it went well. He really wants to see my brother who hasn't been in his life for many years. A lot had to do w/ my step-mom. Now that she is gone, I wonder what will happen w/ their relationship? Just a thought. Kathleen	Hoot Nanny	3	432	Nov 4, 2011 by Pushka
	I am OK--long week & it is only Thurs. (Preview) I am doing OK. But it has been a long week because the loss of my step-mom. I was trying to write something on-line for her as a memory & couldn't figure out how to do it. It is so painful to be unable to give my dad & family hugs right now. But..I have friends up here who are watching out for me & som...	Hoot Nanny	4	442	Nov 4, 2011 by Pushka
	meow. (Preview) My cat was all up in my grill this morning. She headbutts me to feed her, pet her...she is so clingy. I told her she needed to go to a CODA meeting. I also told her "I'm going to sleep or not sleep what are you gonna do?" It didn't really work. So much for 12 step principles for cats. (levity-I h...	pinkchip	11	652	Nov 4, 2011 by Lindaoakford
	3 months (Preview) I have been here 3 months, on the ACoA board a little longer than that. I have come here every day for 3 months. Several times a day and sometimes it is open all day (at work naughty me). I have read, I have 'listened', I have private messaged. I have been happy, sad, crying and angry and laughing. No ma...	Lindaoakford	12	587	Nov 3, 2011 by Lindaoakford
	Singing the praises of sponsors (Preview) It's such a new concept for me to reach out to someone to help me think through something. It feels so foreign for me to talk to someone before I react. When I take the extra time to work my program, WOW what a difference. I have a big action that I felt it is time to take. My sponsor didn't tell me what I could...	Very Very Tired	3	486	Nov 3, 2011 by Breakingfree
	Going to visit my childhood home (Am I ready?) (Preview) I am planning a trip to California to visit my Mother who still lives in the same house that I grew up in. My dad died 9 years ago and her pot head boyfriend has been with her the last 6 years I think. He doesn't work just mooches off her and she doesn't have that great of a job either. With that being said. I inte...	Breakingfree	6	616	Nov 3, 2011 by Doozy
	Reflecting (Preview) Linda did a post that got me to thinking. I came to this site on October 11 because I was so frustrated and angry and I had started trying to research alcoholism. I wanted to be told to leave, given the excuses I needed that it was ok. Except instead I found information, and stories, and hope. I probably sta...	Jackie11	7	632	Nov 3, 2011 by Jerry F
	Detachment (Preview) Last night when I was walking my dogs I met a man who I know through a friend of his (who is an alcoholic currently in a dreadful way). I got to chat with him and hear about this man's alcoholism, his delirum tremens, seizure and more. I could have a lot of compassion for him and really see and understand th...	orchidlover	6	804	Nov 3, 2011 by Jerry F
	Dating someone in recovery dating recovery tips (Preview) Greetings :) I am new to this forum but feel I need some guidance in my current situation. I have been dating a woman for close to 18 months who has 17 years of sobriety. We recently had a conflict that baffled me and when I was speaking with a close friend of mine and described the situation, she said it soun...	thesslea	14	12163	Nov 3, 2011 by thesslea
	Boyfriend in AA (Preview) I have been with my boyfriend for two years and lived with him for one. I didnt know he was an alcoholic until about 8 mo into our relationship. He has recently (about 2 mo ago) started a 12 step recovery program. Things were great between us until he started going to open AA meetings. For example he used to...	kmclin52	11	836	Nov 3, 2011 by Tracy
	Sicker than the Alcoholic? (Preview) My therapist is hardcore alanon. I met with her today and talked about some of the things I'm learning on this board. I was saying how I often felt that some of the folks on here are like trauma victims and in need of validation and to feel empowered. She stated that Alanon would often tell you that you a...	pinkchip	27	3221	Nov 3, 2011 by ythannah
	ahhh HAaaaa!! (Preview) After all the stuff going on yesterday I today realize my little back track the past couple days was ME... I had fell back to trying to control, worrying, blaming, ect, ect.... So, I guess (as I've read in other posts lately) that here is where I take it one day at a time... If there are such a thing as stages...	kris10	3	403	Nov 3, 2011 by kris10
	Hmm .. (Preview) I can tell things in my life are shifting in a good way, there are a bunch of gold plated problems (I LOVE that!!) on my plate that I would like to go away .. lol. I feel like I"m healing and moving forward, there is a long ways to go. Good grief .. I'm finding as I shift the more drama is being dropped in m...	Pushka	6	534	Nov 3, 2011 by Michelle814
	advice for mother of son new to recovery (Preview) I am a mother of a 28 year old son newly returned from treatment. He is very sensitive and irritable. He doesn't want to talk about treatment too much. Today I clearly was nervous because it was his first day alone with no family members around. When he didn't answer his phone I got really worried that he...	mousie1	19	506	Nov 3, 2011 by Pushka
	Too much Alanon? (Preview) I'm not sure if this is appropriate lol I am pretty disheartened at the moment and quite down. Normally that would send me into the next meeting or phoning an alanon friend. But what do you do if the source of the problem is that I have been around alanon for a long time and feel completely detached from the...	f2fmember	8	914	Nov 3, 2011 by f2fmember
	really struggling lost struggling relapse worry fear hopeless (Preview) I have been really struggling. I have had my own sort of relapse this past week. I have been caught up in things that are not of my concern, worrying about the past, scared of the future. questioning my husband about how his own program has been going.. constantly asking whats going on in his mind.. hor...	Michelle814	15	10281	Nov 3, 2011 by Michelle814
	Did good today - reaching out and trusting (Preview) Hi All, I'm still here, though not much has changed since my last posting. Just went another round on the roller coaster with my ex BF. Calling it a roller coaster is kind of ridiculous though because it doesn't even begin to describe what the experience does to my heart. Anyway, we did finally talk on th...	Doozy	6	551	Nov 3, 2011 by Breakingfree
	Living in a non A environment (Preview) For 4 years I lived around addicts and alcoholics and put a lot of boundaries in place. I would say every day without fail the boundaries were tested on different levels. At some points I dreaded going out the door. Now for 2 weeks I am living in a non A environment. Here is the difference: 1) No fear abou...	orchidlover	6	582	Nov 3, 2011 by orchidlover
	AB & Boundaries (Preview) My brother has been getting a lot of resistance from family members that have set boundaries. I started the I dont want to talk to you when youre drunk boundary, and it worked great for me and my sanity. It was bad. Sometimes he couldnt talk. After that boundary was set, he never had a fat tongue when I tal...	NCSUgeology	8	506	Nov 3, 2011 by NCSUgeology
	I feel very lonely and isolated in this relationship. (Preview) The title says it all really. There have been some posts recently about being in a relationship and feeling totally lonely. That's exactly how I feel. I can be intellectually stimulated when I'm at university (I've just started a PhD). I've started going back to Jiu-Jitsu after a 4 year break and I'm a...	jitsuka	7	550	Nov 3, 2011 by tommyecat
	Is he trading one issue for another? (Preview) Some of you may remember that my AH went to see his psychiatrist and was warned not to drink while on his antidepressants. As far as I know he hasn't been drinking, at least not in my presence. He may be drinking while traveling for work but I can't prove it nor do I care. Anyway, I was helping him with som...	ilovedogs	9	662	Nov 3, 2011 by tommyecat
	Don't know what to think (Preview) I don't know what to think or maybe I am reading too much into it. But I got a letter from my AH today and in his letter he says, "God honey I am so so sorry for my wrong doings and I'm going to get help for my alcoholism. I ask that you also work a program to help us both through my disease, for better or wors...	jmanning	14	609	Nov 3, 2011 by tommyecat
	??? (Preview) When they say "If your not sure...don't" does that apply to getting rid of ur A?? Pretty sure today is going to be the day... I can feel it... I feel I know I'm going to regret it also.... I don't know what to do... I got the name calling this morning too which was AWESOME after being up all night to...	kris10	16	634	Nov 3, 2011 by tommyecat
	Up all night (Preview) 730 in the morning and i havent slept all night because my Abf has been banging around all night cleaning ( heroin induced) now i get to try and take care of a sick little one all day... ( my son) god im going to need some help today.........	kris10	5	399	Nov 3, 2011 by tommyecat
	Need Advice (Preview) Hi all. I've had a great deal of experience of living with an active A, who has been my ex for quite some time now. In other words, I've not lived with "active" addiction in some time. However, now my grown sons have the addiction or ACOA issues that make it tough for me sometimes. My curren...	Grace7	14	573	Nov 3, 2011 by Pushka
	back with my ex a (Preview) he thought id never come back ,was sooo happy to c me as i was him,we will always love each other,i do know now he wants it as bad as me to work out for us ,he is doing better with his drinking but still drinks um 4 24oz a day instead of a case and a pint of vodka,my freind told me that it could all blow up ,this i know...	lookingup	6	665	Nov 3, 2011 by pinkchip
	Continued Recovery...Yay... (Preview) Hello MIP ;0) I know its been a while, but it is def, the time of the change of Seasons for me... Some Good =) Some Not so Much :'( My Son ended his Soccer Outdoor Season, and we are about to begin our Soccer Indoor season, which isn't near the hassle, its only 1 day a week, and tho I signed in as Coach, I have tr...	Jozie	7	439	Nov 2, 2011 by hotrod
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