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You are gonna laugh, but here is some of my arsenal of sayings and slogans that get me by when I need it.
You didn't Cause it, you can't Cure it and you can't Control it.
Let Go Let God
Don't Smother S-save M-mother O-obsess O-own T-take abuse H-HP (be his or let him be your tin God) E-expect R-react
One Day at a Time
Easy Does It
He/She will either drink, or he/she won't.... what are YOU gonna do?
Try looking at your active A with a large SSS stamped on their forehead
Focus on the "whats", not the "whys" - the whys will kill ya...
Honesty got you there, tolerance keeps you there
Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind. Dr. Suess
You don't have to attend every argument you're invited to.
God grant me the serenity To accept the things I cannot change, Courage to change the things I can, And wisdom to know the difference.
Think Don't React
How Important Is It
When In Doubt Don't
No Is A Complete Sentence Feel Good About Saying No
Listen And Learn
Fake It Till You Make It
Insanity "Doing the same things over and over again expecting different results".
"If I keep doing what I've always done I'll keep getting what I've always gotten."
"If it ain't broke...don't fix it".
G.O.D. - Good Orderly Direction
Listen and Learn...take the cotton out of your ears and put it in your mouth. You have TWO ears and ONE mouth for a reason - use the ears twice as often as you use the mouth.
When you're confused about what you should do and where you should be, stand very still for a while and look down at your feet...that will tell you where you are at; next look directly above you and ask, "Where do you want me?" then listen with both of your ears.
The alcoholic is a sick person because they drink too much, what is my excuse. (enablers question).
what you think of me is none of my business
There is only one thing you need to change about yourself in Al-Anon... E V E R Y T H I N G.
Steps One thru Three condensed. "I can't - God can - I'll let Him"
The twelve steps condensed. Trust God - Clean House - Help Others.
When at first you don't succeed...call your sponsor.
Next time you're feeling smart and think you know the solution to the alcoholic's problem...Say out loud "I think you should..." and then listen quietly. Most often you can hear God laugh.
"Recovery isn't winning, it's not playing."
"Serenity is when your body and mind are in the same place."
Pain is inevitable, suffering is optional."
-- Edited by flopadopilus on Tuesday 1st of November 2011 04:14:11 PM
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God grant me the serenity To accept the things I cannot change, Courage to change the things I can, And wisdom to know the difference.
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I love the long version of the serenity prayer. It is:
God,
Grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference,
Living one day at a time, enjoying one moment at a time, accepting hardship as a pathway to peace, taking this sinful world as it is, not as I would have it, Trusting that you will make all things right if I surrender to your will, so that I may be reasonably happy in this life, and supremely happy with you forever in the next.
has anyone practised buddhism? well- just bits from buddhism-like meditation - because there is something abut buddhism- that meditation clears yu minds from desire...its the desire that makes you unhappy all the time. im going to give meditation a go..though i am in a good space to be able to do it- i know that living with an active A it probably would be quite difficult.
No but the more I read about it, the more interested I am.
Not very good at the prayer thing - I even use the short version of the Serenity prayer - 'God grant me Serentiny!' - so I could probably benefit from more meditation too. Bought a book - its on my table - does that count?
