Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

ifa · ifa

The world seems like it's trying to make me feel worthless, but I am still not really convinced. I am 59 but I don't feel old and actually I feel better than I ever did. I have loved the same guy since I was 13, but he is still non-committal. I think after all these years, his eyes should light up when he sees me...

kydee · kydee

Is the chat room still open and are there still online meetings there? I have been trying for several days to get in there no luck any help I'm not to computer smart Thanks.

usedtobeanyer · usedtobeanyer

Wow, had a real eye opener today from my 3 year old son. The last few days have been rough, what with my wife drinking & lying about it again. I'm not doing a very good job of keeping my side of the street clean as this is happening, however, and I find myself just full of rage after my alcoholic continues...

grantmeserenity · grantmeserenity

Ive been active in al-anon for about a year & a half. I also used to post here but just recently got new login info. Anyhow- My A and I have a young child together & have been together for 3 years. Hes been in and out of the program. The last relapse was pretty bad and I simply couldnt handle talking to...

pineapple · pineapple

It's been quite a weekend. I cried for the past three days. Saturday I was exhausted from working, and from the emotional meltdown I've been going through. But I slept well that night, first time in a while. Yesterday I walked the dogs and didn't do any work except what I wanted to do. I putzed in the garde...

Grace7 · Grace7

Hey there. Long story, try to be short. Son is a lifer in military. He was divorced, and rebounded quickly. The new girl was murdered, he was a mess. He deployed, and resorted to a dating service online, Met a couple of girls. One, we liked, a Lot. Still too soon though, needed to heal. Next one h...

John · John

RLC and I had a special relationship that all the miles between us couldn't dampen at all. One day recently he sent me the following PM and I truly think it reflects clearly the kind of man he was. **************November 6th Reply DeleteRLC John, I hope you are doing well.....and taking care of y...

Debilyn · Debilyn

you can just sign in to the AA board to hear it. Its ez. I promise you won't be sorry! I learned so so very much!

lookingup · lookingup

he had been having back problems lower back pain and bleeding alot in his urin went to er they sent him to a urologist and he sent him back to er for more test ,plus he has alot of fluid builup in one of his testicles and a hole in his stomck lineing which r not concerned about right now they ruled out any kidne...

John · John

I once thought my pitiful life had been reduced to waking up, drinking coffee, saying a prayer, going to work, coming home, taking a shower, eating, going to a meeting, coming home, watching some tv, going to bed and .....waking up, drinking coffee, saying a prayer, going to work, coming home, taking...

debbiems · debbiems

Hi- I am new to posting, i do attend meetings although I haven't been faithful about going. Long story short my husband and I have a 22 yr old son who has been in and out of treatment and jail. He got out of his last court ordered treatment Nov 1, 2011 after being there for 6 months prior to going he spent 4 mont...

Michelle814 · Michelle814

"But you should never be embarrassed by your trouble with living. Because it is the ones with the sorest throats, Laura, who have done the most singing." -Bright Eyes I've been through the ringer, man. I can smile and tell you I am so grateful for it. In May I had a miscarriage, then August 30...

Generic Writer · Generic Writer

Someone sent me a message that my "posts are deep, thoughtful," but nobody knows who I am. He also wrote please introduce yourself to us - I think you'll find a lot of friends on here. I never thought of introducing myself... rather letting people know who I am through my writings. This is a m...

atheos · atheos

Met with my sponsor today, to discuss step 3 and prepare for step 4. One of the questions was something along the lines of "Do I trust my higher power to care for me?", and after hearing my answer she said she's not sure I'm ready for the 4th step, that you need to trust a loving, caring higher pow...

pineapple · pineapple

For weeks now I've been making an effort to be positive, to find what small happiness I can, to get out and do things, see people. Somewhere yesterday I lost the will to even make those efforts. I am so tired and sad and alone. This morning I will make myself get dressed and go into town. If I don't go to the ma...

Breakingfree · Breakingfree

It is 5am and I layed awake for hours before I got up and had to write a letter to my employer about a mess going on at work. It felt good to get it out and than I thought I would go back to bed, but now the head is on a tangent and now I am obsessing about all that I should be getting done before our trip in 2 days. Man a...

oldergal · oldergal

You have been Mother/Father to this person/s for all their life. Then they're gone. It does leave a hole in one's heart. They say "love them from afar" what exactly does that mean? If you get another chance to start a different relationship with them, what would that look like? It just seems...

Tracey C · Tracey C

Hi, I was wondering if anyoneelse has troubles with their spouse not showering. Needless to say on those nights nothing romantic happens. It's not all the time just now and then. Sometimes I get him out of bed to have one as I don't want him smelling all night long. Is this poking my nose in where it do...

atheos · atheos

First, I just want to say: I have no problem with people in AA coming to Al-Anon if they also have the problem of alcoholism in a friend or family member and are coming to Al-Anon because of that. That is perfectly OK. What I *do* have a problem with is people from local halfway houses who "just want to...

amills4294 · amills4294

With all of the resources I've tapped into in the past year or so (Alanon only past few months) I'm starting to feel more grounded - more aware and am feeling some growth. I know I have a loooong way to go and life will always be a place for growth but maybe it won't always be a struggle. :) I've been turning t...

Loupiness · Loupiness

I've been thinking about how a toddler can firmly and simply say "no" all by himself, over and over again, and mean it, but most attempts by me turn into a dissertation. The biggest cause of and problem with this, is that my al-anon heart and my mama heart do not play well together. The progra...

Generic Writer · Generic Writer

http://www.genericwriter.com/2011/09/25/i-lied-to-my-son-today/

debbiems · debbiems

I just picked my 22 yr old son from his "friends" house drunk. He called me asking for me to pick him up that he "screwed up" All the way home he was crying and kept telling me how sorry he was. How afraid he was. We live out in the country so it was a long ride home. I really didn't know...

kydee · kydee

Hi everyone I'm not new to this site have been here before a few years ago should have stayed but anyways I'm here now struggling again with a grandson this time man this gets harder and harder. I'm not ready just yet to go into details but I will say this much we had a bad experence about a week ago and I blew e...

Debilyn · Debilyn

I bet the tenant dad is A. He just got fired.They said they thought it was time for him to move on.... sigh. he has made up lies and is refusing to pay the rent. so I sent a no cause eviction today. Its nothing they can fight. I will have to live on a very very meager income. Which is fine. I like being frugal and...

Lindaoakford · Lindaoakford

Hi Its sunday morning here and I am sitting in bed watching cartoons, have my coffee and one of my cats and my two miniature chihuahuas here with me. Hubby is out fishing. I woudl like to talk about yesterday and how I started my day again at lunch time. I have learnt from here that I can start again at any...

jessicat · jessicat

When you first realized or accepted the full extent of your addict's addiction (particularly for those of you whose addict is your spouse or child), did you experience intense emotional pain? I've always known my husband had a "problem," but it rarely interfered with our lives and thing...

orchidlover · orchidlover

Last night I had to walk home a mile in the pitch dark with high winds blowing braches, debris all over. I was all scratched up. Normally I would long to have someone around to help me through it. These days I am willing to wait until I can find the right person rather than grab onto the next available per...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Patience has been on my mind lately. I have had to be patient for 4 weeks+ every since my step-mom died. I guess it has been a rough road. I am up too darn early & have to wait sometimes hours to talk to someone--including my husband--this leads to frustration that sometimes leads to resentment. I onl...

Very Very Tired · Very Very Tired

Tonight when I got home I noticed AH had only drank 9 beers and 1/2 a bottle of wine. My first thought: "Wow, its a light drinking night." Yeah, I know. But, most nights it is 12-24 beers plus whatever he is hiding or whatever he drank before he got home. I had to laugh at the fact that I live in a wor...

youfoundme · youfoundme

I just wanted to say hi and post an update...I have been here reading but not responding. I wanted to just listen for awhile. :) Life has been amazing though and I can't complain, not anymore :) I have found that putting negative thoughts out of my mind, by saying to the thoughts "you are not wel...

Generic Writer · Generic Writer

Many parents ask what they can do to stop their child from AWOL'ing while on a home visit from a residential treatment center (RTC). It's a great question, considering it's the biggest fear and reality facing every parent in that situation. Heres the answer: Nothing. That's it. Nothing. Short o...

rosielee · rosielee

what should i be like? ive been single since i had my son- he is getting on for 17 now, the reality of it is- i think im in danger of losing my c hance and staying like this forever. ive covered up the damage by thinking this is normal- to live withut a relationship forever because im strong and independent- d...

rosielee · rosielee

re- the thread below "whats normal" where i got pestered by this guy at work. ive been thinking about it- i wont think abut it more beyond tday and im already moved on- but i have thought- he had a full on personality disorder- i think- i guess. the funny thing is- after living with one- why did...

KimK · KimK

Topic of our meeting today was anger, and I have spent a lot of time today thinking about it. I know anger is a normal emotion...but just the whole dynamic of how it works in my family. I feel like I have let go of the majority of my anger and sadness....I know my husband and I will not be together forever. ...

TLD · TLD

This is my first online share. I do attend a weekly f2f meeting. Wow, so I thought we were on a good track until late last night when he storms out, waking up our six year old with his cursing. He gets back home at 6:00 this morning in a rage. Tears the closet door off, throws things. Meanwhile I practice...

Pushka · Pushka

Jozie's post about changes got me thinking, .. changes what kind of changes have I gone though .. and all I can is WOW!! This trip really has brought forth some big things for me. Now granted .. lol .. it's only been 3 days I can say that this is one of the best visits with my mom ever. I am not looking for her t...

MDK · MDK

Hey guys. I had my first meeting without RLC Tuesday night. Our topic was feelings. We keep his chair empty with his books there for any newcomers. It was one of the hardest things I think I ever faced. I did not have to face it alone. I had the support of our group there and all the kind words that came from MI...

surfgirl123 · surfgirl123

How ironic that I hate roller coasters and yet my life has become one. Up one day, down the next. Ugh. My AH continues into some kind of mental unhinging. From 3 nights ago, total meltdown rage, to last night total manic high. I am starting to think he has mental illness on top of his addictions or his addic...

usedtobeanyer · usedtobeanyer

My wife called me in the last hour to ask if I could pick up our daughter from preschool. She said she knows she is extremely vulnerable for a relapse today (she's been sober just over a month) and is asking for help. She also called her sponsor and her therapist. She is reaching out and working her program...

amills4294 · amills4294

Of course the Christmas holidays are coming up and I have an 11 yr old daughter and I'm at a crossroads with my spouse. I want her to have an enjoyable holiday with some stability. I've not put any decorations up yet but I would like to for her. It will be a sad thing because of the change in the family dyna...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

etc! I am so thrilled to have a life full of joy! But this morning I puked 5 times & am bleeding from an unusual place! Get me to the doctor quick! No, seriously, I am OK. I need a complete overhaul--time is kinda wearing me down but I get to this library every chance I get to visit w/ all of you out there! I...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Just a quick comment: I am not on my own but my comments are my OWN original & sassy! Kathleen

FL_Sunshine · FL_Sunshine

I am new to this site and get so much comfort from reading everyone's posts. I was dating someone for about a year. When we met he was a recent widower and seemed like a great guy. We lived about 30 miles from each other and only saw each other on weekends. After 4 months I decided to move closer to him and...

danni · danni

It is amazing to me how in a matter of a day or two I went from being, in my AH's eyes, so beautiful and sensational, to now he can barely stand being around me. He hasn't said that, but he has holed himself up, put on the headphones, and won't look me in the eye. When I was the center of his universe a few days a...

kris10 · kris10

So yesterday I sat down and had a long talk with my Abf about him blowing all his bill money on drugs... I had a boundry set that if he didn't pay his part of the bills that he would have to move out... We were both strangly calm and I told him that he didn't live up to his end of the bargin so he would have to move ou...

mia883 · mia883

I am looking for self assessment pamphlet in PDF format,to send the link to my friend so she can assess herself if she has been affected by the disease or people around her with the disease. I can not find it in any URL. If some one can give me a helping hand finding this pdf URL.. I looked in http://www.afg...

Generic Writer · Generic Writer

I lied to my son today. It was a firstsave the early tooth fairy and more recent I was perfect when I was your age stories. My fifteen-year-old knows that he can trust me. My word is everything...until today. The two of us are packing to fly to Chicago to attend my best friends sons Bar Mitzvah. Dad, wha...

Loupiness · Loupiness

I have learned to hold off on updates, because most often I have to update the update, thus I find it easier to wait, or not do it at all. It gives me time not only to have all the facts, but to spend some time just figuring out what I am feeling. I posted that my son got in an accident. He totaled his friend's mo...

stephaniej · stephaniej

I know in the 1+ year I've been around this site, there have been several topics under which people have posted some of their favorite inspirational/al anon sayings. I have really been struggling with the program lately, and in an effort to do a better job working the program, I'm creating a journal....

downdenise · downdenise

Hello all - I have posted a few times and have found some encouragement and comfort in those relating to what i have gone through. Quick recap - been technically married for nearly 3 years. It is technical but seems like it never took off. I soon learned that I had been lied to over and over again by an ad...

HoofnIt · HoofnIt

My BF has been going through a very bad time for about the past 3 weeks he has drank everyday to the point that everyone can tell. he has been verbally abusive to me. I have never once raised my voice to him or accused him of anything. i just listened. He called his sister rambling on and she called me and told...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I am so thrilled to say that the party was a huge success! I just love the lady that I did the party for! I faked her out when she first saw the sign! When she walked in she was sooooooooo surprised. I put a party necklace around her neck because I didn't have a crown or a party hat! The necklace was fancy mardi g...

serenity84 · serenity84

Hello, I am new to this forum and read a lot of wonderful things on here. I am currently attending Al-Anon meetings for about two months now, I have a sponser and I am working on Step One. My ex-boyfriend of 2 and a half years recently broke up with me when he relapsed about two months ago. When we met, I knew h...

oldergal · oldergal

PLEASE SHARE YOUR MEANINGS.....THANKS OLDERGAL

Breakingfree · Breakingfree

I have felt stalled in my program. I have been going full bore for a long time and I kind of just stalled out. Now this big thing with 1 of my jobs is happening and I am seeing that I wasn't relying on my HP enough and there is a big lesson learned here. I have gotten off track and I need to face that and get myself b...

Guitar1 · Guitar1

So my husbands alcoholic he is a "binge drinker". We have a beautiful daughter who is 10 months old and I like an idiot thought when we had her 10 months ago my husband would stop with the drinking. He had some periods a few months where he was sober and I really got my hopes up that he was finished...

Jozie · Jozie

Last Night at our Meeting, the Lady that Lead Had been a Member for 27 yrs, and the Topic of Choice was "Change" She went on to say & see her Changes Since she Got to Al-Anon, and How Far it has Changed her LIfe..Great Meeting... I had shared that When I first Got to Al-Anon, I was VERY Angry, I...

LostInLove · LostInLove

Sorry I am new here I just had to reach out to someone. Where to start. The man I love is an alcoholic. We met 10 years ago and built a bond like no other I have had before or after. We have a deep and loving friendship and a deeper loving and caring for each other. When we first met he didnt drink. Once he tried it...

KLotus · KLotus

Feeling more calm today. Perhaps even good :) I made it to BOTH meeting this week, and may even get to a third! Today, and yesterday, I actually felt excited at work, I felt priviliged to have the opportunity that I do. Of course, I still questioned myself, had moments of feeling absolutely unworth...

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	worthless reject (Preview) The world seems like it's trying to make me feel worthless, but I am still not really convinced. I am 59 but I don't feel old and actually I feel better than I ever did. I have loved the same guy since I was 13, but he is still non-committal. I think after all these years, his eyes should light up when he sees me...	ifa	14	619	Dec 6, 2011 by pinkchip
	Chat Room and Meetings (Preview) Is the chat room still open and are there still online meetings there? I have been trying for several days to get in there no luck any help I'm not to computer smart Thanks.	kydee	2	327	Dec 6, 2011 by xeno59
	"You're my best friend, dad..." (Preview) Wow, had a real eye opener today from my 3 year old son. The last few days have been rough, what with my wife drinking & lying about it again. I'm not doing a very good job of keeping my side of the street clean as this is happening, however, and I find myself just full of rage after my alcoholic continues...	usedtobeanyer	14	638	Dec 6, 2011 by Breakingfree
	ESH please! family resentment one day at a time holidays (Preview) Ive been active in al-anon for about a year & a half. I also used to post here but just recently got new login info. Anyhow- My A and I have a young child together & have been together for 3 years. Hes been in and out of the program. The last relapse was pretty bad and I simply couldnt handle talking to...	grantmeserenity	13	9355	Dec 6, 2011 by Breakingfree
	better (Preview) It's been quite a weekend. I cried for the past three days. Saturday I was exhausted from working, and from the emotional meltdown I've been going through. But I slept well that night, first time in a while. Yesterday I walked the dogs and didn't do any work except what I wanted to do. I putzed in the garde...	pineapple	9	359	Dec 6, 2011 by rehprof
	Sons Newest Wife (Preview) Hey there. Long story, try to be short. Son is a lifer in military. He was divorced, and rebounded quickly. The new girl was murdered, he was a mess. He deployed, and resorted to a dating service online, Met a couple of girls. One, we liked, a Lot. Still too soon though, needed to heal. Next one h...	Grace7	1	387	Dec 6, 2011 by Debilyn
	A PM From RLC (Preview) RLC and I had a special relationship that all the miles between us couldn't dampen at all. One day recently he sent me the following PM and I truly think it reflects clearly the kind of man he was. **************November 6th Reply DeleteRLC John, I hope you are doing well.....and taking care of y...	John	10	532	Dec 6, 2011 by Andrea12
	Please listen to John's share, its soooo amazing! (Preview) you can just sign in to the AA board to hear it. Its ez. I promise you won't be sorry! I learned so so very much!	Debilyn	0	270	Dec 5, 2011 by Debilyn
	concerned for my a/d b/f (Preview) he had been having back problems lower back pain and bleeding alot in his urin went to er they sent him to a urologist and he sent him back to er for more test ,plus he has alot of fluid builup in one of his testicles and a hole in his stomck lineing which r not concerned about right now they ruled out any kidne...	lookingup	4	356	Dec 5, 2011 by orchidlover
	This way of life... Boring?? (Preview) I once thought my pitiful life had been reduced to waking up, drinking coffee, saying a prayer, going to work, coming home, taking a shower, eating, going to a meeting, coming home, watching some tv, going to bed and .....waking up, drinking coffee, saying a prayer, going to work, coming home, taking...	John	8	804	Dec 5, 2011 by Michelle814
	New to posting (Preview) Hi- I am new to posting, i do attend meetings although I haven't been faithful about going. Long story short my husband and I have a 22 yr old son who has been in and out of treatment and jail. He got out of his last court ordered treatment Nov 1, 2011 after being there for 6 months prior to going he spent 4 mont...	debbiems	7	572	Dec 5, 2011 by Michelle814
	it is the ones with the sorest throats who have done the most singing (Preview) "But you should never be embarrassed by your trouble with living. Because it is the ones with the sorest throats, Laura, who have done the most singing." -Bright Eyes I've been through the ringer, man. I can smile and tell you I am so grateful for it. In May I had a miscarriage, then August 30...	Michelle814	4	286	Dec 5, 2011 by Michelle814
	Someone suggested that I introduce myself... (Preview) Someone sent me a message that my "posts are deep, thoughtful," but nobody knows who I am. He also wrote please introduce yourself to us - I think you'll find a lot of friends on here. I never thought of introducing myself... rather letting people know who I am through my writings. This is a m...	Generic Writer	11	713	Dec 5, 2011 by Michelle814
	Not ready for step 4 (Preview) Met with my sponsor today, to discuss step 3 and prepare for step 4. One of the questions was something along the lines of "Do I trust my higher power to care for me?", and after hearing my answer she said she's not sure I'm ready for the 4th step, that you need to trust a loving, caring higher pow...	atheos	11	493	Dec 5, 2011 by Michelle814
	encouragement (Preview) For weeks now I've been making an effort to be positive, to find what small happiness I can, to get out and do things, see people. Somewhere yesterday I lost the will to even make those efforts. I am so tired and sad and alone. This morning I will make myself get dressed and go into town. If I don't go to the ma...	pineapple	11	693	Dec 4, 2011 by GailMichelle
	I am obsessing (Preview) It is 5am and I layed awake for hours before I got up and had to write a letter to my employer about a mess going on at work. It felt good to get it out and than I thought I would go back to bed, but now the head is on a tangent and now I am obsessing about all that I should be getting done before our trip in 2 days. Man a...	Breakingfree	9	446	Dec 4, 2011 by orchidlover
	SO, YOUR SON/DAUGHTER HAS LEFT YOUR HOME (Preview) You have been Mother/Father to this person/s for all their life. Then they're gone. It does leave a hole in one's heart. They say "love them from afar" what exactly does that mean? If you get another chance to start a different relationship with them, what would that look like? It just seems...	oldergal	2	429	Dec 4, 2011 by likemyheart
	Hygene (Preview) Hi, I was wondering if anyoneelse has troubles with their spouse not showering. Needless to say on those nights nothing romantic happens. It's not all the time just now and then. Sometimes I get him out of bed to have one as I don't want him smelling all night long. Is this poking my nose in where it do...	Tracey C	7	343	Dec 4, 2011 by tommyecat
	Alcoholics invading our meeting! (Preview) First, I just want to say: I have no problem with people in AA coming to Al-Anon if they also have the problem of alcoholism in a friend or family member and are coming to Al-Anon because of that. That is perfectly OK. What I do have a problem with is people from local halfway houses who "just want to...	atheos	12	657	Dec 4, 2011 by tommyecat
	slowly beginning to work (Preview) With all of the resources I've tapped into in the past year or so (Alanon only past few months) I'm starting to feel more grounded - more aware and am feeling some growth. I know I have a loooong way to go and life will always be a place for growth but maybe it won't always be a struggle. :) I've been turning t...	amills4294	2	391	Dec 4, 2011 by tommyecat
	How can "no" have so many words... (Preview) I've been thinking about how a toddler can firmly and simply say "no" all by himself, over and over again, and mean it, but most attempts by me turn into a dissertation. The biggest cause of and problem with this, is that my al-anon heart and my mama heart do not play well together. The progra...	Loupiness	4	651	Dec 4, 2011 by Jerry F
	I Lied To My Son Today... Al-Anon Addict Son (Preview) http://www.genericwriter.com/2011/09/25/i-lied-to-my-son-today/	Generic Writer	5	540	Dec 4, 2011 by likemyheart
	Rough Evening (Preview) I just picked my 22 yr old son from his "friends" house drunk. He called me asking for me to pick him up that he "screwed up" All the way home he was crying and kept telling me how sorry he was. How afraid he was. We live out in the country so it was a long ride home. I really didn't know...	debbiems	6	361	Dec 4, 2011 by debbiems
	Back again (Preview) Hi everyone I'm not new to this site have been here before a few years ago should have stayed but anyways I'm here now struggling again with a grandson this time man this gets harder and harder. I'm not ready just yet to go into details but I will say this much we had a bad experence about a week ago and I blew e...	kydee	5	331	Dec 4, 2011 by tommyecat
	Stop the world I want to throw bad tenants OFF. (Preview) I bet the tenant dad is A. He just got fired.They said they thought it was time for him to move on.... sigh. he has made up lies and is refusing to pay the rent. so I sent a no cause eviction today. Its nothing they can fight. I will have to live on a very very meager income. Which is fine. I like being frugal and...	Debilyn	4	447	Dec 4, 2011 by Jen
	I changed what could have been a bad day (Preview) Hi Its sunday morning here and I am sitting in bed watching cartoons, have my coffee and one of my cats and my two miniature chihuahuas here with me. Hubby is out fishing. I woudl like to talk about yesterday and how I started my day again at lunch time. I have learnt from here that I can start again at any...	Lindaoakford	2	362	Dec 3, 2011 by Debilyn
	Does time still heal if you stay? (Preview) When you first realized or accepted the full extent of your addict's addiction (particularly for those of you whose addict is your spouse or child), did you experience intense emotional pain? I've always known my husband had a "problem," but it rarely interfered with our lives and thing...	jessicat	13	525	Dec 3, 2011 by jessicat
	Milestones (Preview) Last night I had to walk home a mile in the pitch dark with high winds blowing braches, debris all over. I was all scratched up. Normally I would long to have someone around to help me through it. These days I am willing to wait until I can find the right person rather than grab onto the next available per...	orchidlover	5	276	Dec 3, 2011 by orchidlover
	this is my topic: patience! (Preview) Patience has been on my mind lately. I have had to be patient for 4 weeks+ every since my step-mom died. I guess it has been a rough road. I am up too darn early & have to wait sometimes hours to talk to someone--including my husband--this leads to frustration that sometimes leads to resentment. I onl...	Hoot Nanny	3	754	Dec 3, 2011 by tommyecat
	Sometimes I have to laugh at myself (Preview) Tonight when I got home I noticed AH had only drank 9 beers and 1/2 a bottle of wine. My first thought: "Wow, its a light drinking night." Yeah, I know. But, most nights it is 12-24 beers plus whatever he is hiding or whatever he drank before he got home. I had to laugh at the fact that I live in a wor...	Very Very Tired	5	353	Dec 3, 2011 by Lindaoakford
	Hi all! (Preview) I just wanted to say hi and post an update...I have been here reading but not responding. I wanted to just listen for awhile. :) Life has been amazing though and I can't complain, not anymore :) I have found that putting negative thoughts out of my mind, by saying to the thoughts "you are not wel...	youfoundme	8	312	Dec 3, 2011 by tommyecat
	Parent's Handbook To Stop Home Visit AWOLs: Part I residential_treatment_center AWOL Al-Anon Generic_Writer (Preview) Many parents ask what they can do to stop their child from AWOL'ing while on a home visit from a residential treatment center (RTC). It's a great question, considering it's the biggest fear and reality facing every parent in that situation. Heres the answer: Nothing. That's it. Nothing. Short o...	Generic Writer	3	565	Dec 3, 2011 by Debilyn
	what is normal? (Preview) what should i be like? ive been single since i had my son- he is getting on for 17 now, the reality of it is- i think im in danger of losing my c hance and staying like this forever. ive covered up the damage by thinking this is normal- to live withut a relationship forever because im strong and independent- d...	rosielee	17	743	Dec 3, 2011 by Lindaoakford
	i have decided that guy had a personality disorder (Preview) re- the thread below "whats normal" where i got pestered by this guy at work. ive been thinking about it- i wont think abut it more beyond tday and im already moved on- but i have thought- he had a full on personality disorder- i think- i guess. the funny thing is- after living with one- why did...	rosielee	6	416	Dec 3, 2011 by Lindaoakford
	Experience With Anger (Preview) Topic of our meeting today was anger, and I have spent a lot of time today thinking about it. I know anger is a normal emotion...but just the whole dynamic of how it works in my family. I feel like I have let go of the majority of my anger and sadness....I know my husband and I will not be together forever. ...	KimK	9	479	Dec 3, 2011 by rosielee
	AH and breakdowns ESH (Preview) This is my first online share. I do attend a weekly f2f meeting. Wow, so I thought we were on a good track until late last night when he storms out, waking up our six year old with his cursing. He gets back home at 6:00 this morning in a rage. Tears the closet door off, throws things. Meanwhile I practice...	TLD	12	520	Dec 3, 2011 by TLD
	Changes .. lol (Preview) Jozie's post about changes got me thinking, .. changes what kind of changes have I gone though .. and all I can is WOW!! This trip really has brought forth some big things for me. Now granted .. lol .. it's only been 3 days I can say that this is one of the best visits with my mom ever. I am not looking for her t...	Pushka	3	437	Dec 3, 2011 by Breakingfree
	My first meeting without RLC (Preview) Hey guys. I had my first meeting without RLC Tuesday night. Our topic was feelings. We keep his chair empty with his books there for any newcomers. It was one of the hardest things I think I ever faced. I did not have to face it alone. I had the support of our group there and all the kind words that came from MI...	MDK	10	317	Dec 2, 2011 by John
	I Hate Roller Coasters (Preview) How ironic that I hate roller coasters and yet my life has become one. Up one day, down the next. Ugh. My AH continues into some kind of mental unhinging. From 3 nights ago, total meltdown rage, to last night total manic high. I am starting to think he has mental illness on top of his addictions or his addic...	surfgirl123	6	369	Dec 2, 2011 by Jerry F
	A good thing, but so so scary... (Preview) My wife called me in the last hour to ask if I could pick up our daughter from preschool. She said she knows she is extremely vulnerable for a relapse today (she's been sober just over a month) and is asking for help. She also called her sponsor and her therapist. She is reaching out and working her program...	usedtobeanyer	4	331	Dec 2, 2011 by Jerry F
	Growth and awareness can be sooo painful (Preview) Of course the Christmas holidays are coming up and I have an 11 yr old daughter and I'm at a crossroads with my spouse. I want her to have an enjoyable holiday with some stability. I've not put any decorations up yet but I would like to for her. It will be a sad thing because of the change in the family dyna...	amills4294	5	462	Dec 2, 2011 by rosielee
	Here I go again on my own! (Preview) etc! I am so thrilled to have a life full of joy! But this morning I puked 5 times & am bleeding from an unusual place! Get me to the doctor quick! No, seriously, I am OK. I need a complete overhaul--time is kinda wearing me down but I get to this library every chance I get to visit w/ all of you out there! I...	Hoot Nanny	1	293	Dec 2, 2011 by rosielee
	trying not to be misleading! (Preview) Just a quick comment: I am not on my own but my comments are my OWN original & sassy! Kathleen	Hoot Nanny	1	560	Dec 2, 2011 by rosielee
	When will he hit rock bottom? (Preview) I am new to this site and get so much comfort from reading everyone's posts. I was dating someone for about a year. When we met he was a recent widower and seemed like a great guy. We lived about 30 miles from each other and only saw each other on weekends. After 4 months I decided to move closer to him and...	FL_Sunshine	7	661	Dec 2, 2011 by FL_Sunshine
	Hero to zero (Preview) It is amazing to me how in a matter of a day or two I went from being, in my AH's eyes, so beautiful and sensational, to now he can barely stand being around me. He hasn't said that, but he has holed himself up, put on the headphones, and won't look me in the eye. When I was the center of his universe a few days a...	danni	7	461	Dec 2, 2011 by danni
	change made for the better!! (Preview) So yesterday I sat down and had a long talk with my Abf about him blowing all his bill money on drugs... I had a boundry set that if he didn't pay his part of the bills that he would have to move out... We were both strangly calm and I told him that he didn't live up to his end of the bargin so he would have to move ou...	kris10	8	310	Dec 2, 2011 by pinkchip
	Looking for self assessment pamphlet in PDF format (Preview) I am looking for self assessment pamphlet in PDF format,to send the link to my friend so she can assess herself if she has been affected by the disease or people around her with the disease. I can not find it in any URL. If some one can give me a helping hand finding this pdf URL.. I looked in http://www.afg...	mia883	11	2685	Dec 2, 2011 by Lindaoakford
	The Longest Flight of My Life... (Preview) I lied to my son today. It was a firstsave the early tooth fairy and more recent I was perfect when I was your age stories. My fifteen-year-old knows that he can trust me. My word is everything...until today. The two of us are packing to fly to Chicago to attend my best friends sons Bar Mitzvah. Dad, wha...	Generic Writer	3	304	Dec 2, 2011 by orchidlover
	update on the car crash and how to respond (Preview) I have learned to hold off on updates, because most often I have to update the update, thus I find it easier to wait, or not do it at all. It gives me time not only to have all the facts, but to spend some time just figuring out what I am feeling. I posted that my son got in an accident. He totaled his friend's mo...	Loupiness	3	524	Dec 2, 2011 by orchidlover
	Inspirational Sayings (Preview) I know in the 1+ year I've been around this site, there have been several topics under which people have posted some of their favorite inspirational/al anon sayings. I have really been struggling with the program lately, and in an effort to do a better job working the program, I'm creating a journal....	stephaniej	16	5325	Dec 2, 2011 by Hoot Nanny
	Why must life feel so miserable...... cheating liar depression (Preview) Hello all - I have posted a few times and have found some encouragement and comfort in those relating to what i have gone through. Quick recap - been technically married for nearly 3 years. It is technical but seems like it never took off. I soon learned that I had been lied to over and over again by an ad...	downdenise	11	8462	Dec 2, 2011 by Michelle814
	just looking to vent (Preview) My BF has been going through a very bad time for about the past 3 weeks he has drank everyday to the point that everyone can tell. he has been verbally abusive to me. I have never once raised my voice to him or accused him of anything. i just listened. He called his sister rambling on and she called me and told...	HoofnIt	5	415	Dec 2, 2011 by HoofnIt
	IT WENT WELLER THAN I THOUGHT IT WOULD! (Preview) I am so thrilled to say that the party was a huge success! I just love the lady that I did the party for! I faked her out when she first saw the sign! When she walked in she was sooooooooo surprised. I put a party necklace around her neck because I didn't have a crown or a party hat! The necklace was fancy mardi g...	Hoot Nanny	6	299	Dec 2, 2011 by tommyecat
	HELP! My alcoholic ex-boyfriend finally surrenders to AA! What can I do? (Preview) Hello, I am new to this forum and read a lot of wonderful things on here. I am currently attending Al-Anon meetings for about two months now, I have a sponser and I am working on Step One. My ex-boyfriend of 2 and a half years recently broke up with me when he relapsed about two months ago. When we met, I knew h...	serenity84	5	4291	Dec 2, 2011 by tommyecat
	WHAT DO YOU MEAN WHEN YOU SAY "LOVING SOMEONE UNCONDITIONALLY? (Preview) PLEASE SHARE YOUR MEANINGS.....THANKS OLDERGAL	oldergal	13	4518	Dec 1, 2011 by Not Alone
	going through something big here (Preview) I have felt stalled in my program. I have been going full bore for a long time and I kind of just stalled out. Now this big thing with 1 of my jobs is happening and I am seeing that I wasn't relying on my HP enough and there is a big lesson learned here. I have gotten off track and I need to face that and get myself b...	Breakingfree	2	427	Dec 1, 2011 by mdkm0726
	Dilemma (Preview) So my husbands alcoholic he is a "binge drinker". We have a beautiful daughter who is 10 months old and I like an idiot thought when we had her 10 months ago my husband would stop with the drinking. He had some periods a few months where he was sober and I really got my hopes up that he was finished...	Guitar1	7	544	Dec 1, 2011 by Guitar1
	Have You Changed? (Preview) Last Night at our Meeting, the Lady that Lead Had been a Member for 27 yrs, and the Topic of Choice was "Change" She went on to say & see her Changes Since she Got to Al-Anon, and How Far it has Changed her LIfe..Great Meeting... I had shared that When I first Got to Al-Anon, I was VERY Angry, I...	Jozie	10	321	Dec 1, 2011 by Jill
	Im not sure what to do Please help (Preview) Sorry I am new here I just had to reach out to someone. Where to start. The man I love is an alcoholic. We met 10 years ago and built a bond like no other I have had before or after. We have a deep and loving friendship and a deeper loving and caring for each other. When we first met he didnt drink. Once he tried it...	LostInLove	8	648	Dec 1, 2011 by LostInLove
	Progress (Preview) Feeling more calm today. Perhaps even good :) I made it to BOTH meeting this week, and may even get to a third! Today, and yesterday, I actually felt excited at work, I felt priviliged to have the opportunity that I do. Of course, I still questioned myself, had moments of feeling absolutely unworth...	KLotus	2	242	Dec 1, 2011 by Breakingfree
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