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Patience has been on my mind lately. I have had to be patient for 4 weeks+ every since my step-mom died. I guess it has been a rough road. I am up too darn early & have to wait sometimes hours to talk to someone--including my husband--this leads to frustration that sometimes leads to resentment. I only resent myself really. I always have " something" to do!
My dad is trying me too. He still won't accept the idea of treatment. My mom, his ex-wife mentioned in the meeting about him & how much time he has left. I mentioned that this might be his last Christmas but I didn't need to hear her whole story. She was so negative and I was so laid back having a good time. I guess I need to hear some of her story. By the way, she is back from her 2- week trip home. I was glad to see her even in her condition. CA wears her down I think!
Patience & tolerance is well needed by me too w/ my Ah & my MOM these days. They are both in need of more than one 12-step program!
Aloha Kath...and mahalo for that share. Patience and Tolerance are huge tools in recovery with great consequences for me. Practicing these give me the opportunity to have the time to go to my HP first before reacting or responding to any situation and both s l o w m e d o w n where I can have more time for perspective and investigation on the consequences I need rather than the consequences I have to accept. Patience...allowing time within my life so that I can see more and more clearly.
Hello my friend. I have been off this board for a long time and HP has seen fit to use you to bring me back. Thank you.
Patience is not my strongest character trait, but I am getting better at it. Most of my recovery has been a lesson in patience and tolerance as nothing happens on MY schedule, (never fast enough for me, LOL). I do find that working on myself is the cure for that itch that says I must DO SOMETHING NOW. I try to pray, read some CAL, call someone(often you Ha ha ha), or just take a hot shower, do some housework that needs doing, or whatever. It used to be difficult to know what I needed to do for me, so I would ask myself,"what do I feel? And what do I need?" It seems that identifying my feelings was needed before I could choose my course of action.
Thank you for this topic and for letting me share.
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~Jen~
"When you come to the edge of all you know you must believe in one of two things... there will be earth on which to stand or you will be given wings." ~Unknown
