I am obsessing - Al-Anon Family Group

Breakingfree · ~*Service Worker*~

I am obsessing

rosielee · Senior Member

ah...mate...you and me both, seen my posts lately???? LOL obsessing is my middle name....its my first and last too.

i really think i need to take up meditation- i had some hypnotherapy once and used to use a tape she gave me...youd put it on, and then all the obsessions would vanish. once youve had hypnotherapy for stress...and once that stress goes you realise just how much you carry arund with yu- what we carry is rediculous- human beings need to learn to experience stuff and then let it go. as "stuff"...and mental "rubbish" just hangs around in your head and makes you physically and mentally ill.

Jackie11 · ~*Service Worker*~

In one of my very first F2F meetings one of the ladies said that she had a doctor tell her give yourself a set time and set your watch. Allow yourself to think about it for only so long and then you have to move on to what you need to do next.

She said she still uses this when she starts to worry over something.

For me I try to get active, take a walk away from my desk if I'm at work, go for a run if I can, at the restaurant job there is always so much going on that it's part of the reason why I enjoy it so much, it's fast paced always moving, and that means I have to focus on what I'm doing. The slower nights, that's when I have to watch it if I have something going on, it's way to easy to think about a situation all night long. I try to find something to do or someone to talk to so I get out of my own head!

tommyecat · ~*Service Worker*~

For me I start journaling if the hour is too late to call my sponsor. There is power in writing things down and seeing what comes out on paper. Sometime I think I know in my head are the troubles keeping me up. When I begin writing, what comes out shapes up so much differently then I expected.

The other tool is to do what you just did is to create a post and honestly share what rocks my brain at 2 AM. It helps me to dump the spiritual trash so that I have a shot at going back to sleep.

I hope you have a great trip. I am keeping you in my thoughts that you will have a teriffic time while away.

T

Pushka · ~*Service Worker*~

Hugs BF,

A - Z Graditude list is like counting sheep for me in my head. If I have an unwated thought pop into my head then something I try to do is say .. hmm .. see you, hear you, I will address this at a resonable hour.

So excited for you going on this trip!! Have a great time, sending you love and support!!

Hugs p :)

rosielee · Senior Member

i agree with what people are saying- especially on the keeping busy part. the sad fact is- sometimes if you have time on yur hands...your mind just wonders to problems- obsessions and worries. i am a water color painter and often i stick my head phones on - listen to music and just paint. even though its working from hom- its still work. i can go for hours like this- it feels good.

there was a program on tv a while back about art therapy for war veterans who had that stress syndrome- they didnt belittle the therapy- not at all and were all totally open saying that it had saved their lives. art has saved me from sinking into a depressive whole- so i can well believe it.
i think if someone is not arty much...they can always find something..like a little mosaic to do.

reading can be bad for me sometimes as my mind wonders too much....all that time churning over rubbish in my head....could have done 30 PHD's by now instead.lol

rosielee · Senior Member

yeah- meant hole- not whole. but whn i type errors you guys know what i mean right? i hae cheap lap top- keys missing

likemyheart · ~*Service Worker*~

Hey dear - might I suggest a list of what you need/want to get done before your trip - take the list, decide whether it is something that has to be done or can be put off (procrastination is my middle name!); then use the list to get things done, do the easy/quick things first, so you get more things checked off early (mentally it lifts the load for me). Just something I do when my mind can't stop trying to think of everything - putting it on the list helps me remember its on the list so I don't have to obsess about it, part of my obsessing comes from fear of FORGETTING to do something so I get relief by remembering its on my to-do list.

Lindaoakford · ~*Service Worker*~

I do the suggestion that was mentioned here.
I give myself 'obsessing time'.
I allow myself the time to obsess. If that is what my brain wants to do then .. ok.. stop fighting.... but when I am done, I am done and move on.
This has worked twice very nicely for me now.

The length of a shower, the time it takes to do the dishes. When I finish that chore or whatever, then the obsessing is over. Ok and we move on to the day ahead.

I feel like I am not telling myself off or doin gthe 'I SHOULD' stop obsession.. why can't I stop obsession, oh my I am obsessing again... the mental dance.

I also make the list of things that can't be forgotten so when the obsessing is done, I have a list to start

orchidlover · ~*Service Worker*~

I've been a perfectionist at work and over responsible. At work there are often many messes and lots of finger pointing. I've had to learn how to detach and detach some more. I realize I need mentoring at work and need help in setting limits, being assertive and more. I know these are all things I have to work on and the good thing is I don't have to do it all today.

I think one of my core issues is to feel like everything is going to crumble tomorrow without me. They have certainly done that but in general whenever I've left a job they have managed quite well without me. Certainly sometimes things were a real mess but very rarely did anything shut down.

Bosses in general give me the heebee geebies because I feel so powerless. Neverthless I am pretty employable and most of the time kept on for work.

Be good to yourself. Making a trip is a lot of work. Feeling worthwhile is so hard for so many of us. Take it one step at a time.

maresie.

The material presented here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method to exchange information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal level.