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Enigmatic · Enigmatic

When everything the alcoholic or another does leaves me feeling irritation, something is going on within me suggests today's contributor. Quite likely I am agitated and disturbed with some fact or detail in my life, but I am routing the blame to an easier target. Reminder: Criticizing may be as diff...

Finding grace · Finding grace

My A husband is extremely hard to purchase gifts for. Unfortunately, this is the case, if he likes the gift or not. I don't know if this has anything to do with being an A or not, actually, because his mother and siblings act somewhat similarly. I don't tend to put as much into it as I used to. I try to just kee...

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for Monday, 12/28, talks about how difficult it is to get close to people. Due to the effects of alcoholism, we have learned that it is not safe to trust, to reveal too much, or to care deeply. Alanon suggests that sponsorship is a way to improve relationships. That happens because we can...

PosiesandPuppies · PosiesandPuppies

The reading today talks about the most useful lessons the author has learned in Al-Anon. Now I read this, and I think to myself, "Well, I think that can be different for each person." And indeed it can. But what the reading talks about today is important for all of us I believe... whether you subscribe to...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning Everyone- Todays reading is about shared responsibilities. Specifically the writer connects concept 8 and the management of al anon through executive committees. Responsibilities in other areas can likewise be shared, rather than assumed by one person. The writer describes the...

SunnyFrogs · SunnyFrogs

Apparently after my daily reading earlier today my "Just For Today" bookmark fell out and landed on the end table. I picked it up and read it, all of it, which I don't think I have done before. Or maybe I have and forgot about it, IDK. One of the things on there says "I will not show anyone that my feelings ar...

mamalioness · mamalioness

I had a REAL bad issue with my upper back...had to go to a physical therapist to help me find relief from this searing pain that would come and go...come and go...so she evaluated me and showed me stretches and exercise that would help my hips get mroe aligned and also my upper back, cervical where there m...

Maresie888 · Maresie888

One thing that is a constant beautiful memory for me is Betty's love of the holidays. Betty was an exuberant positive person on a daily basis but the holidays were very special for her. She looked forward to them for months. Needless to say she wad also aware that the holidays were very difficult for s...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading from Courage to Change, the author shares that they attended their first Al-Anon meeting to support a friend. The author was surprised that they identified with almost every share that was made that day, because the author didn't think that they knew any alcoholics. F...

Freetime · Freetime

A blessed day to all MIP friends! Today's page in Hope for Today lists many definitions for Serenity. I imagine it was compiled from the offerings of many members. Here are a few of the definitions. Serenity is ....Becoming aware of and accepting my many characteristics and not judging what's 'bad...

DavidG · DavidG

Hi y'all... ka haere mai ki te huri tau... -as we head towards the turning of the year-... ... A lot of people, at the moment are reading or watching "Hillbilly Elegy" which is a real testament to the addictive alcoholic family. We watched it last night together.... I have had sharing this morning w...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

To all of you no matter how you spend the holiday season, I hope you have a wonderful & peaceful experience. Sometimes we disrespect each other by not sharing the time we have to offer. I am grateful that I can be honest & upfront about how I feel & hope that others don't get offended by my post...

Debb · Debb

It is Christmas Eve and I have so much to contemplate and to be thankful for! It has been a year of great change and stress indeed. But I know I will look back on this someday and know thatnot only did I live through it but that I flourished/learned from it as well.Todays ODAT tries to guide us to a better wa...

DavidG · DavidG

...being in a group- it is important to keep the focus on oneself... We don't have to be perfect- in fact it is better that we are not. I was unintelligent talented kid- but locked down afraid to budge an inch. And my ability to learn was strangled. I have had to release that capacity, after a despera...

Debb · Debb

This is such a hard time for so many of us. Between the pandemic, financial hardships, working, stress, holidays and personal/private loses, no wonder it is such a tough time of year! Gratitude for all the lovely people, nature and things in are lives sometimes take a backseat to our worries and stre...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

AlAnon is a program that encourages a change of our perspective and focus. Today's author speaks to the priceless benefits of keeping these in the present. These include reduced opportunity to flood our mind with negative thoughts of past/present and increased opportunities to find happy, pleas...

a4l · a4l

The more correct term for the IBS committee is ANTS. Automatic Negative Thoughts. Or is it another A word? Not sure but recently on my journey, its come up for attention and healing again. I'm really ridiculously hard on myself. Less than I ever was, but as I get triggered into bouts of depression and so...

Lyne · Lyne

Have I harmed myself, is the topic in C2C for Monday, 12/21. The author commented upon hearing in a meeting, that the speaker listed themself at the top of the list, for making amends. This had not occurred to the writer and in fact, they thought it selfish. Realizing that they could not care for them...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about the concept of detaching with love. The writer describes struggling with this because of resentment toward an alcohol parent. When the feelings of resentment and bitterness became too much, the writer found solace in Alanon. Rather than holding o...

Overcome · Overcome

Saturday morning meeting starting in chat room at 10 a.m. Would love to have any and all that would like to come! I will sit in the room for 15-20 minutes to see if anyone shows up. We've still been having trouble getting meetings started. Have I said I would love to have ya'll join me in the room? LOL See you...

PosiesandPuppies · PosiesandPuppies

ENTRY FOR 12/19: Alcoholism is a three-fold disease. It hits you physically, emotionally, and spiritually. Because we are here, we have all been affected by another's dance with this disease. Therefore the reading today reminds us to check on our own emotional, physical, and spiritual well-bein...

Maresie888 · Maresie888

I had so many Christmases with the qualifier where he went out of his way to make me unhappy. This year I was looking forwsed to smooth sailing. I had a schedule set. I had my plans of how much I could save. I had long term plans . Then I started to get a series of really big bills. I killed myself to keep up with...

Freetime · Freetime

MIP Friends, I am so excited I get to write about this reading today. Somewhere along my Al-Anon journey, I had read or heard that there is a saying among people who rely on camels for transportation -- "Trust in God, and tie your camel to a tree." I love that saying, but I didn't realize that it is found in...

Overcome · Overcome

I have been isolating recently and not getting out to my f2f al-anon meetings and just posting in here and other on-line meetings. I fear this is not a good habit to get into. I know with covid we have all been doing more isolating than we are comfortable with and that can't be helped for now. As i was thinki...

Overcome · Overcome

Being a certifiable al-anon I don't do well with change, but as we all know change is inevitable whether we like it or not. I have been through 4 alcoholic marriages (left the last one some 11 years ago) so I have been through a lot of change. Which at this venture in my life makes change all the more hard. I r...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Today is going to be a smooth day I think. I am sleeping so good it is starting to become a habit. Wouldn't that be nice? Sleeping naturally to this insomniac. I know how much my soul awakens when I get sleep. I am a different person & I kinda like me. Christmas is coming & this is one year I am looking...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading in C2C, the author shares that they once felt that they had to take care of everything and everybody - there was no choice in the matter. With the help of their Al-Anon program, the author realizes that they do have choices. Of course, there are responsibilities, but ther...

Maresie888 · Maresie888

I know this time last year I was in a panic about having to move out of my apartment temporarily. I often have this senss about things were going to be difficult Indeed I am often right in thaf respect No one could have predicted just how difficult Talk about a roller coaster Then I moved back here and i...

DavidG · DavidG

Hi y'all... my memory and concentration is improving day by day. I work another programme, and see a therapist once a month. The therapy focusses around breathing function and stored trauma in the body. It seems to be working. Not without help from me though- pushing outwards from the centre......

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Today's author considers moderation in emotional reactions as a benefit of taking "one little" day at a time. One day can be easily managed if energy and effort are not spent where they ought not be: worrying about the past, dreading possible outcomes in the future, and raining unsolicited negativi...

Twinkies · Twinkies

Been struggling a bit lately. A current home renovation project is way behind schedule due to our contractor, who is proving to be very unpredictable. As a result, my home is a mess with no firm timeline on when to expect things to be done. I dont do well in untidy spaces for extended periods so Im becomin...

DavidG · DavidG

I never really completed my education. I was expected to go- having passed all the exams- but i needed an extra year, at least to "grow up". I had been kicked out of home- something the school was not aware of. My mum and dad had come home from the pub- at about 7 pm and criticised my sister aged 12 becaus...

Maresie888 · Maresie888

Like many of you I have had one hell of a year. Plenty of disappointments, a couple of complete disasters Lots of unforseen expenses. A great deal of frustration So yesterday I had another set back. Normally I would be in complete catastrophe mode This set back is going to cost me time and money Yet I...

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for Monday, 12/14, spoke to me as it deals with losses. The writer says there are many kinds of lossesdivorce, incarceration, illness, death, and even emotional change. The writer goes on to say that when suffering from devastation and grief, they pushed everyone away. With program...

Violet30 · Violet30

Hello, I am posting here for the first time. I have a brother who is a long-time alcoholic / addict. I'm no longer sure what the correct way to deal with him is. We have a turbulent history, I had a restraining order on him for several years but he's been back in my life for about two years. About a year ago we g...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about our feeling of belonging in al-anon. The writer describes having come to the program because of his/her 16 yr old daughters drinking. The daughter entered the rooms of AA but after some years, made a decision that the drinking was all about adolescenc...

PosiesandPuppies · PosiesandPuppies

In today's reading, the author's POV is that of a teenager. A teen who is participating in Alateen. Just b/c the author is a teen, doesn't mean good learning could not be had. So I will do my best to interpret. The author speaks to having a deep mistrust of adults. That is because he/she felt that all adul...

DavidG · DavidG

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Lyne · Lyne

I went through a most unpleasant evening Saturday past with my A. I really am trying to let go and let God, but I have realized that her alcoholic behavior repeats when she is confronted with issues she doesn't like. We were discussing how to be careful about covid and what behaviors needed looking at...

Overcome · Overcome

I was telling an al-anon friend recently how my daughter reminded me of myself when she was dressed in her lab coat. My friend responded, "Don't do that." I responded with, "What and Why not?" Compare yourself to your daughter. She said because "Comparison is the thief of Joy." I had to think on that tho...

Freetime · Freetime

Feelings aren't facts -- that is the theme of today's reading. The author came to understand that they could embody more than one feeling at a time, and that a situation wasn't necessarily all one thing or another, not a rigid choice between all good or all bad. With this awareness, the author can fee...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Today's page suggests that the end of year is a great opportunity to review our recovery from an outsider's perspective, objectively. Examples might be to consider improvement in our attitudes, whether we blame others for results of our own actions or let discouragement resign us to previous habi...

PosiesandPuppies · PosiesandPuppies

DECEMBER 6 - DIFFICULT PEOPLE This reading is about Letting Go, Acceptance and Detaching with Love all rolled into one day! The words are Melody Meattie's, but I know we can all relate. "Few things can make us feel crazier than expecting something from someone who has nothing to give. Few things can fr...

DavidG · DavidG

A life full of fear is no life at all. These days I have much less fear. Today I had to get a warrant for the caravan, organise a plumber, and take our accounts to the accountant. It is 10 am now. In between I checked on my bee hive, and visited a friend for a cold drink. All done. Naturally we were a two inco...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author reflects on tradition 11 - Al-Anon's public relations policy is based on attraction rather than promotion. The author stresses the importance of keeping the focus on themselves as one way to live this tradition. As the author shares, if I am not walking th...

Freetime · Freetime

Today's author dreamed of winning the lottery, but realized that even winning that much money would not guarantee happiness, would not make the alcoholic sober, would not remove the effect alcoholism had on their family. Money would not remove all of life's problems. Winning a fortune might brin...

Overcome · Overcome

Hi old friends and new friends alike. I would like to start up the chat room meetings again. In this time of Covid and not being able to get out like I'd like, I wish I could go into the chat room like we used to be able to do and talk with people in real time. I will try to post more on this board too, but always lik...

andromeda · andromeda

Hello everyone! I don't post much here anymore but I do come on and view our C2C readings regularly and I love to see everyone's progress and program lessons. 5 days ago, my cousin, who lives in Haines, AK and is like a sister to me, was forced to evacuate from her home with her husband and 2 little childr...

DavidG · DavidG

Being valued is an awesome experience. Coming back with feedback is a form of gratitude- but I sense something deeper there. A lot of my life had no boundaries- or broken and betrayed boundaries. Having this to and fro discussion about what is going down I find healing. Healing those breaches...

Debb · Debb

This days ODAT reminds us to be ever aware that our lives are filled with many good common place things and occurrences. We are encouraged to stop and smell the roses, so to speak, when we find we are dwelling on the things and occurrences in our lives that make us unhappy. We are asked to "notice" all the g...

Lyne · Lyne

I have occasionally over the years made a financial contribution to our message board. I used to send Betty my check and she would take care of the rest. I would like to make a donation at this point for the running of the boardIm sure there are fees, etc. Is there a simple way I can do this? Lyne :)

Overcome · Overcome

I hope I'm not breaking some rule about who can post daily readings and who can't, but I thought that since DavidG had mentioned that he was going to study Tradition 5 next year, and this reading was about Tradition 5, I didn't want to pass up the chance to write a post about it. Tradition 5: Each Al-Anon F...

Debb · Debb

I did not see an ODAT for today and wish to give back to you all on MIP because you all mean a lot to me. So I hope that I have not overstepped my boundaries ..... Todays ODAT reminds us that "Al-Anon provides relief to us to detach ourselves from the chains that binds us to the weight of alcoholism". That wor...

Debb · Debb

Wanted to say hello to everyone and to wish you all Happy Holidays. Hope you are all well and so sorry to hear about Betty, I'm sure, like I, she is/will be missed. I'm doing well, same old stuff just different day. AH is still drinking, 95% of the time I detach when he rants, the other 5%, unfortunatel...

JerryF · JerryF

Aloha all and thanks for continuing the support. My computer attempted suicide after failing a series of step 1 attempts. I took it too a computer sponsor and it needs more support so that is what I will do with it. Hope this report makes the family. Still reading and getting blessed. (((hugs)...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Today's author uses an avalanche to help visualize best practices in dealing with a problem drinker (qualifier) and our own challenges.Avalanche: As snow piles up, risk of avalanche increases. Ill advised actions: Jump in front of approaching avalanche, or take action to trigger avalanche over...

Overcome · Overcome

I have been dealing with many fears lately (I'm not proud to admit, but unless we get honest in this program we can't heal, right?), by sharing here I'm hoping to overcome some of them. In the last two years I have become increasingly scared to drive, scared to cook (meaning I don't know what to do), scare...

Overcome · Overcome

If you'd like to join us in a meeting tonight, please click on Chat room entrance above and it will take you to the room. Hope you join us! Meeting last from 9 - 10 p.m.

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for Monday, 12/7, cites a paragraph from a poet : Go placidly amid the noise and haste, and remember what peace there may be in silence. As far as possible without surrender, be on good terms with all persons. Speak your truth quietly and clearly; listen to others, even the dull and ignor...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about decision making and the difficulties that can be tied to that process. The writer describes trying to look for his/her HPs will when making decisions. Although the writer would love to see an obvious sign, validating a choice or warning against it, wh...

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	12/29/20 Courage to Change - Criticism of Others (Preview) When everything the alcoholic or another does leaves me feeling irritation, something is going on within me suggests today's contributor. Quite likely I am agitated and disturbed with some fact or detail in my life, but I am routing the blame to an easier target. Reminder: Criticizing may be as diff...	Enigmatic	9	820	Dec 29, 2020 by Maresie888
	Thoughts on gift giving occasions (Preview) My A husband is extremely hard to purchase gifts for. Unfortunately, this is the case, if he likes the gift or not. I don't know if this has anything to do with being an A or not, actually, because his mother and siblings act somewhat similarly. I don't tend to put as much into it as I used to. I try to just kee...	Finding grace	8	720	Dec 29, 2020 by a4l
	C2C, 12/28 (Preview) The reading for Monday, 12/28, talks about how difficult it is to get close to people. Due to the effects of alcoholism, we have learned that it is not safe to trust, to reveal too much, or to care deeply. Alanon suggests that sponsorship is a way to improve relationships. That happens because we can...	Lyne	9	722	Dec 28, 2020 by sunmustshine
	Courage to Change Saturday (Preview) The reading today talks about the most useful lessons the author has learned in Al-Anon. Now I read this, and I think to myself, "Well, I think that can be different for each person." And indeed it can. But what the reading talks about today is important for all of us I believe... whether you subscribe to...	PosiesandPuppies	12	630	Dec 28, 2020 by Maresie888
	Hope for Today Dec 27 (Preview) Good morning Everyone- Todays reading is about shared responsibilities. Specifically the writer connects concept 8 and the management of al anon through executive committees. Responsibilities in other areas can likewise be shared, rather than assumed by one person. The writer describes the...	yanksfan51	5	733	Dec 28, 2020 by Maresie888
	The Just For Today Bookmark (Preview) Apparently after my daily reading earlier today my "Just For Today" bookmark fell out and landed on the end table. I picked it up and read it, all of it, which I don't think I have done before. Or maybe I have and forgot about it, IDK. One of the things on there says "I will not show anyone that my feelings ar...	SunnyFrogs	19	1410	Dec 27, 2020 by Maresie888
	MERRY CHRISTMAS and I am so sorry its been a while (Preview) I had a REAL bad issue with my upper back...had to go to a physical therapist to help me find relief from this searing pain that would come and go...come and go...so she evaluated me and showed me stretches and exercise that would help my hips get mroe aligned and also my upper back, cervical where there m...	mamalioness	6	575	Dec 27, 2020 by mamalioness
	Remembering Betty at her favorite time of year (Preview) One thing that is a constant beautiful memory for me is Betty's love of the holidays. Betty was an exuberant positive person on a daily basis but the holidays were very special for her. She looked forward to them for months. Needless to say she wad also aware that the holidays were very difficult for s...	Maresie888	15	1857	Dec 27, 2020 by Maresie888
	Courage to Change Dec. 23 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading from Courage to Change, the author shares that they attended their first Al-Anon meeting to support a friend. The author was surprised that they identified with almost every share that was made that day, because the author didn't think that they knew any alcoholics. F...	Skorpi	7	1023	Dec 26, 2020 by Maresie888
	Hope For Today - December 25 (Preview) A blessed day to all MIP friends! Today's page in Hope for Today lists many definitions for Serenity. I imagine it was compiled from the offerings of many members. Here are a few of the definitions. Serenity is ....Becoming aware of and accepting my many characteristics and not judging what's 'bad...	Freetime	8	1658	Dec 26, 2020 by mamalioness
	My boxing day treat... (Preview) Hi y'all... ka haere mai ki te huri tau... -as we head towards the turning of the year-... ... A lot of people, at the moment are reading or watching "Hillbilly Elegy" which is a real testament to the addictive alcoholic family. We watched it last night together.... I have had sharing this morning w...	DavidG	4	674	Dec 26, 2020 by DavidG
	a wonderful holiday season... (Preview) To all of you no matter how you spend the holiday season, I hope you have a wonderful & peaceful experience. Sometimes we disrespect each other by not sharing the time we have to offer. I am grateful that I can be honest & upfront about how I feel & hope that others don't get offended by my post...	Hoot Nanny	6	561	Dec 25, 2020 by Maresie888
	December 24, 2020 - One Day At A Time – Empty Your Mind (Preview) It is Christmas Eve and I have so much to contemplate and to be thankful for! It has been a year of great change and stress indeed. But I know I will look back on this someday and know thatnot only did I live through it but that I flourished/learned from it as well.Todays ODAT tries to guide us to a better wa...	Debb	4	546	Dec 24, 2020 by Freetime
	A Share... (Preview) ...being in a group- it is important to keep the focus on oneself... We don't have to be perfect- in fact it is better that we are not. I was unintelligent talented kid- but locked down afraid to budge an inch. And my ability to learn was strangled. I have had to release that capacity, after a despera...	DavidG	3	527	Dec 24, 2020 by SunnyFrogs
	Tough Times/Call To Be Awesome!! (Preview) This is such a hard time for so many of us. Between the pandemic, financial hardships, working, stress, holidays and personal/private loses, no wonder it is such a tough time of year! Gratitude for all the lovely people, nature and things in are lives sometimes take a backseat to our worries and stre...	Debb	8	607	Dec 23, 2020 by Maresie888
	12/22/20 One Day at a Time in AlAnon – Staying in the Present (Preview) AlAnon is a program that encourages a change of our perspective and focus. Today's author speaks to the priceless benefits of keeping these in the present. These include reduced opportunity to flood our mind with negative thoughts of past/present and increased opportunities to find happy, pleas...	Enigmatic	9	670	Dec 23, 2020 by Bettertomorrow
	The IBS committee. (Preview) The more correct term for the IBS committee is ANTS. Automatic Negative Thoughts. Or is it another A word? Not sure but recently on my journey, its come up for attention and healing again. I'm really ridiculously hard on myself. Less than I ever was, but as I get triggered into bouts of depression and so...	a4l	5	588	Dec 22, 2020 by a4l
	C2C, 12/21 (Preview) Have I harmed myself, is the topic in C2C for Monday, 12/21. The author commented upon hearing in a meeting, that the speaker listed themself at the top of the list, for making amends. This had not occurred to the writer and in fact, they thought it selfish. Realizing that they could not care for them...	Lyne	5	1448	Dec 22, 2020 by PosiesandPuppies
	Hope for Today Dec 20 (Preview) Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about the concept of detaching with love. The writer describes struggling with this because of resentment toward an alcohol parent. When the feelings of resentment and bitterness became too much, the writer found solace in Alanon. Rather than holding o...	yanksfan51	6	587	Dec 21, 2020 by Maresie888
	Saturday Morning meeting (Preview) Saturday morning meeting starting in chat room at 10 a.m. Would love to have any and all that would like to come! I will sit in the room for 15-20 minutes to see if anyone shows up. We've still been having trouble getting meetings started. Have I said I would love to have ya'll join me in the room? LOL See you...	Overcome	9	1511	Dec 21, 2020 by DavidG
	COURAGE TO CHANGE - SATURDAY (Preview) ENTRY FOR 12/19: Alcoholism is a three-fold disease. It hits you physically, emotionally, and spiritually. Because we are here, we have all been affected by another's dance with this disease. Therefore the reading today reminds us to check on our own emotional, physical, and spiritual well-bein...	PosiesandPuppies	7	1502	Dec 21, 2020 by Maresie888
	Christmas time count down (Preview) I had so many Christmases with the qualifier where he went out of his way to make me unhappy. This year I was looking forwsed to smooth sailing. I had a schedule set. I had my plans of how much I could save. I had long term plans . Then I started to get a series of really big bills. I killed myself to keep up with...	Maresie888	9	2044	Dec 20, 2020 by Maresie888
	Courage to Change -- 12/18 -- Tie Your Camel (Preview) MIP Friends, I am so excited I get to write about this reading today. Somewhere along my Al-Anon journey, I had read or heard that there is a saying among people who rely on camels for transportation -- "Trust in God, and tie your camel to a tree." I love that saying, but I didn't realize that it is found in...	Freetime	5	1227	Dec 18, 2020 by Debb
	Isolation (Preview) I have been isolating recently and not getting out to my f2f al-anon meetings and just posting in here and other on-line meetings. I fear this is not a good habit to get into. I know with covid we have all been doing more isolating than we are comfortable with and that can't be helped for now. As i was thinki...	Overcome	3	1822	Dec 18, 2020 by Iamhere
	Change (Preview) Being a certifiable al-anon I don't do well with change, but as we all know change is inevitable whether we like it or not. I have been through 4 alcoholic marriages (left the last one some 11 years ago) so I have been through a lot of change. Which at this venture in my life makes change all the more hard. I r...	Overcome	10	3907	Dec 18, 2020 by Maresie888
	I have never had it so good! (Preview) Today is going to be a smooth day I think. I am sleeping so good it is starting to become a habit. Wouldn't that be nice? Sleeping naturally to this insomniac. I know how much my soul awakens when I get sleep. I am a different person & I kinda like me. Christmas is coming & this is one year I am looking...	Hoot Nanny	12	624	Dec 18, 2020 by Maresie888
	Courage to Change December 16 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading in C2C, the author shares that they once felt that they had to take care of everything and everybody - there was no choice in the matter. With the help of their Al-Anon program, the author realizes that they do have choices. Of course, there are responsibilities, but ther...	Skorpi	5	630	Dec 18, 2020 by Maresie888
	Looking forward (Preview) I know this time last year I was in a panic about having to move out of my apartment temporarily. I often have this senss about things were going to be difficult Indeed I am often right in thaf respect No one could have predicted just how difficult Talk about a roller coaster Then I moved back here and i...	Maresie888	6	628	Dec 17, 2020 by Maresie888
	Anger at the world in general- Step 10... (Preview) Hi y'all... my memory and concentration is improving day by day. I work another programme, and see a therapist once a month. The therapy focusses around breathing function and stored trauma in the body. It seems to be working. Not without help from me though- pushing outwards from the centre......	DavidG	4	518	Dec 16, 2020 by Debb
	12/15/20 One Day at a Time in AlAnon (Preview) Today's author considers moderation in emotional reactions as a benefit of taking "one little" day at a time. One day can be easily managed if energy and effort are not spent where they ought not be: worrying about the past, dreading possible outcomes in the future, and raining unsolicited negativi...	Enigmatic	6	598	Dec 15, 2020 by Freetime
	I keep crossing the center line (Preview) Been struggling a bit lately. A current home renovation project is way behind schedule due to our contractor, who is proving to be very unpredictable. As a result, my home is a mess with no firm timeline on when to expect things to be done. I dont do well in untidy spaces for extended periods so Im becomin...	Twinkies	4	620	Dec 15, 2020 by Maresie888
	First part of Step 12... (Preview) I never really completed my education. I was expected to go- having passed all the exams- but i needed an extra year, at least to "grow up". I had been kicked out of home- something the school was not aware of. My mum and dad had come home from the pub- at about 7 pm and criticised my sister aged 12 becaus...	DavidG	4	530	Dec 15, 2020 by Maresie888
	Year in reflection (Preview) Like many of you I have had one hell of a year. Plenty of disappointments, a couple of complete disasters Lots of unforseen expenses. A great deal of frustration So yesterday I had another set back. Normally I would be in complete catastrophe mode This set back is going to cost me time and money Yet I...	Maresie888	5	579	Dec 14, 2020 by Maresie888
	C2C, 12/14 (Preview) The reading for Monday, 12/14, spoke to me as it deals with losses. The writer says there are many kinds of lossesdivorce, incarceration, illness, death, and even emotional change. The writer goes on to say that when suffering from devastation and grief, they pushed everyone away. With program...	Lyne	5	686	Dec 14, 2020 by JerryF
	First Post - Need Advice on how to support without enabling (Preview) Hello, I am posting here for the first time. I have a brother who is a long-time alcoholic / addict. I'm no longer sure what the correct way to deal with him is. We have a turbulent history, I had a restraining order on him for several years but he's been back in my life for about two years. About a year ago we g...	Violet30	4	710	Dec 14, 2020 by Freetime
	Hope for Today Dec 13 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about our feeling of belonging in al-anon. The writer describes having come to the program because of his/her 16 yr old daughters drinking. The daughter entered the rooms of AA but after some years, made a decision that the drinking was all about adolescenc...	yanksfan51	4	569	Dec 13, 2020 by PosiesandPuppies
	Courage to Change 12/2/20 (Preview) In today's reading, the author's POV is that of a teenager. A teen who is participating in Alateen. Just b/c the author is a teen, doesn't mean good learning could not be had. So I will do my best to interpret. The author speaks to having a deep mistrust of adults. That is because he/she felt that all adul...	PosiesandPuppies	3	466	Dec 13, 2020 by PosiesandPuppies
	Our Steps Board... (Preview) https://stepwork.activeboard.com/forum.spark?forumID=42763	DavidG	3	532	Dec 13, 2020 by PosiesandPuppies
	My A feels unsafe to me emotionally (Preview) I went through a most unpleasant evening Saturday past with my A. I really am trying to let go and let God, but I have realized that her alcoholic behavior repeats when she is confronted with issues she doesn't like. We were discussing how to be careful about covid and what behaviors needed looking at...	Lyne	5	614	Dec 12, 2020 by Maresie888
	Comparison is the thief of Joy (Preview) I was telling an al-anon friend recently how my daughter reminded me of myself when she was dressed in her lab coat. My friend responded, "Don't do that." I responded with, "What and Why not?" Compare yourself to your daughter. She said because "Comparison is the thief of Joy." I had to think on that tho...	Overcome	4	705	Dec 12, 2020 by Maresie888
	Courage to Change, December 4 (Preview) Feelings aren't facts -- that is the theme of today's reading. The author came to understand that they could embody more than one feeling at a time, and that a situation wasn't necessarily all one thing or another, not a rigid choice between all good or all bad. With this awareness, the author can fee...	Freetime	6	537	Dec 12, 2020 by Debb
	12/1/20 ODAT - Year in Review (Preview) Today's page suggests that the end of year is a great opportunity to review our recovery from an outsider's perspective, objectively. Examples might be to consider improvement in our attitudes, whether we blame others for results of our own actions or let discouragement resign us to previous habi...	Enigmatic	8	489	Dec 11, 2020 by Debb
	Saturday's Daily - The Language of Letting Go (Preview) DECEMBER 6 - DIFFICULT PEOPLE This reading is about Letting Go, Acceptance and Detaching with Love all rolled into one day! The words are Melody Meattie's, but I know we can all relate. "Few things can make us feel crazier than expecting something from someone who has nothing to give. Few things can fr...	PosiesandPuppies	10	1108	Dec 11, 2020 by Debb
	My day... (Preview) A life full of fear is no life at all. These days I have much less fear. Today I had to get a warrant for the caravan, organise a plumber, and take our accounts to the accountant. It is 10 am now. In between I checked on my bee hive, and visited a friend for a cold drink. All done. Naturally we were a two inco...	DavidG	8	1373	Dec 11, 2020 by Debb
	Courage to change December 9 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author reflects on tradition 11 - Al-Anon's public relations policy is based on attraction rather than promotion. The author stresses the importance of keeping the focus on themselves as one way to live this tradition. As the author shares, if I am not walking th...	Skorpi	5	507	Dec 11, 2020 by Debb
	Courage to Change, December 11 (Preview) Today's author dreamed of winning the lottery, but realized that even winning that much money would not guarantee happiness, would not make the alcoholic sober, would not remove the effect alcoholism had on their family. Money would not remove all of life's problems. Winning a fortune might brin...	Freetime	4	526	Dec 11, 2020 by PosiesandPuppies
	Chat room meetings resume (Preview) Hi old friends and new friends alike. I would like to start up the chat room meetings again. In this time of Covid and not being able to get out like I'd like, I wish I could go into the chat room like we used to be able to do and talk with people in real time. I will try to post more on this board too, but always lik...	Overcome	8	586	Dec 11, 2020 by Overcome
	GRATITUDE (Preview) Hello everyone! I don't post much here anymore but I do come on and view our C2C readings regularly and I love to see everyone's progress and program lessons. 5 days ago, my cousin, who lives in Haines, AK and is like a sister to me, was forced to evacuate from her home with her husband and 2 little childr...	andromeda	8	638	Dec 10, 2020 by Debb
	Step 12 Feedback... (Preview) Being valued is an awesome experience. Coming back with feedback is a form of gratitude- but I sense something deeper there. A lot of my life had no boundaries- or broken and betrayed boundaries. Having this to and fro discussion about what is going down I find healing. Healing those breaches...	DavidG	5	1423	Dec 10, 2020 by DavidG
	ODAT - December 10, 2020 - Gratitude (Preview) This days ODAT reminds us to be ever aware that our lives are filled with many good common place things and occurrences. We are encouraged to stop and smell the roses, so to speak, when we find we are dwelling on the things and occurrences in our lives that make us unhappy. We are asked to "notice" all the g...	Debb	3	505	Dec 10, 2020 by Debb
	Contributions? (Preview) I have occasionally over the years made a financial contribution to our message board. I used to send Betty my check and she would take care of the rest. I would like to make a donation at this point for the running of the boardIm sure there are fees, etc. Is there a simple way I can do this? Lyne :)	Lyne	6	582	Dec 10, 2020 by Iamhere
	Hope for Today - December 8th - Tradition 5 (Preview) I hope I'm not breaking some rule about who can post daily readings and who can't, but I thought that since DavidG had mentioned that he was going to study Tradition 5 next year, and this reading was about Tradition 5, I didn't want to pass up the chance to write a post about it. Tradition 5: Each Al-Anon F...	Overcome	3	506	Dec 10, 2020 by Overcome
	ODAT - December 8, 2020 - Detaching from the chains (Preview) I did not see an ODAT for today and wish to give back to you all on MIP because you all mean a lot to me. So I hope that I have not overstepped my boundaries ..... Todays ODAT reminds us that "Al-Anon provides relief to us to detach ourselves from the chains that binds us to the weight of alcoholism". That wor...	Debb	1	569	Dec 9, 2020 by Overcome
	Just Checking In (Preview) Wanted to say hello to everyone and to wish you all Happy Holidays. Hope you are all well and so sorry to hear about Betty, I'm sure, like I, she is/will be missed. I'm doing well, same old stuff just different day. AH is still drinking, 95% of the time I detach when he rants, the other 5%, unfortunatel...	Debb	2	509	Dec 9, 2020 by Iamhere
	Still here reading and growing (Preview) Aloha all and thanks for continuing the support. My computer attempted suicide after failing a series of step 1 attempts. I took it too a computer sponsor and it needs more support so that is what I will do with it. Hope this report makes the family. Still reading and getting blessed. (((hugs)...	JerryF	10	566	Dec 9, 2020 by JerryF
	12/8/20 Avalanches : Recovery (Preview) Today's author uses an avalanche to help visualize best practices in dealing with a problem drinker (qualifier) and our own challenges.Avalanche: As snow piles up, risk of avalanche increases. Ill advised actions: Jump in front of approaching avalanche, or take action to trigger avalanche over...	Enigmatic	5	491	Dec 8, 2020 by DavidG
	Fear - dealing with the after effects of living in an alcoholic marriage (Preview) I have been dealing with many fears lately (I'm not proud to admit, but unless we get honest in this program we can't heal, right?), by sharing here I'm hoping to overcome some of them. In the last two years I have become increasingly scared to drive, scared to cook (meaning I don't know what to do), scare...	Overcome	15	1015	Dec 8, 2020 by a4l
	Meeting starting in chat room (Preview) If you'd like to join us in a meeting tonight, please click on Chat room entrance above and it will take you to the room. Hope you join us! Meeting last from 9 - 10 p.m.	Overcome	0	463	Dec 7, 2020 by Overcome
	ODAT in alanon, 12/7 (Preview) The reading for Monday, 12/7, cites a paragraph from a poet : Go placidly amid the noise and haste, and remember what peace there may be in silence. As far as possible without surrender, be on good terms with all persons. Speak your truth quietly and clearly; listen to others, even the dull and ignor...	Lyne	4	525	Dec 7, 2020 by Iamhere
	Hope for Today Dec 6 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about decision making and the difficulties that can be tied to that process. The writer describes trying to look for his/her HPs will when making decisions. Although the writer would love to see an obvious sign, validating a choice or warning against it, wh...	yanksfan51	5	508	Dec 6, 2020 by DavidG
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