Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

Maresie888 · Maresie888

Like many of you I have had one hell of a year. Plenty of disappointments, a couple of complete disasters Lots of unforseen expenses. A great deal of frustration So yesterday I had another set back. Normally I would be in complete catastrophe mode This set back is going to cost me time and money Yet I...

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for Monday, 12/14, spoke to me as it deals with losses. The writer says there are many kinds of lossesdivorce, incarceration, illness, death, and even emotional change. The writer goes on to say that when suffering from devastation and grief, they pushed everyone away. With program...

Violet30 · Violet30

Hello, I am posting here for the first time. I have a brother who is a long-time alcoholic / addict. I'm no longer sure what the correct way to deal with him is. We have a turbulent history, I had a restraining order on him for several years but he's been back in my life for about two years. About a year ago we g...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about our feeling of belonging in al-anon. The writer describes having come to the program because of his/her 16 yr old daughters drinking. The daughter entered the rooms of AA but after some years, made a decision that the drinking was all about adolescenc...

PosiesandPuppies · PosiesandPuppies

In today's reading, the author's POV is that of a teenager. A teen who is participating in Alateen. Just b/c the author is a teen, doesn't mean good learning could not be had. So I will do my best to interpret. The author speaks to having a deep mistrust of adults. That is because he/she felt that all adul...

DavidG · DavidG

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Lyne · Lyne

I went through a most unpleasant evening Saturday past with my A. I really am trying to let go and let God, but I have realized that her alcoholic behavior repeats when she is confronted with issues she doesn't like. We were discussing how to be careful about covid and what behaviors needed looking at...

Overcome · Overcome

I was telling an al-anon friend recently how my daughter reminded me of myself when she was dressed in her lab coat. My friend responded, "Don't do that." I responded with, "What and Why not?" Compare yourself to your daughter. She said because "Comparison is the thief of Joy." I had to think on that tho...

Freetime · Freetime

Feelings aren't facts -- that is the theme of today's reading. The author came to understand that they could embody more than one feeling at a time, and that a situation wasn't necessarily all one thing or another, not a rigid choice between all good or all bad. With this awareness, the author can fee...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Today's page suggests that the end of year is a great opportunity to review our recovery from an outsider's perspective, objectively. Examples might be to consider improvement in our attitudes, whether we blame others for results of our own actions or let discouragement resign us to previous habi...

PosiesandPuppies · PosiesandPuppies

DECEMBER 6 - DIFFICULT PEOPLE This reading is about Letting Go, Acceptance and Detaching with Love all rolled into one day! The words are Melody Meattie's, but I know we can all relate. "Few things can make us feel crazier than expecting something from someone who has nothing to give. Few things can fr...

DavidG · DavidG

A life full of fear is no life at all. These days I have much less fear. Today I had to get a warrant for the caravan, organise a plumber, and take our accounts to the accountant. It is 10 am now. In between I checked on my bee hive, and visited a friend for a cold drink. All done. Naturally we were a two inco...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author reflects on tradition 11 - Al-Anon's public relations policy is based on attraction rather than promotion. The author stresses the importance of keeping the focus on themselves as one way to live this tradition. As the author shares, if I am not walking th...

Freetime · Freetime

Today's author dreamed of winning the lottery, but realized that even winning that much money would not guarantee happiness, would not make the alcoholic sober, would not remove the effect alcoholism had on their family. Money would not remove all of life's problems. Winning a fortune might brin...

Overcome · Overcome

Hi old friends and new friends alike. I would like to start up the chat room meetings again. In this time of Covid and not being able to get out like I'd like, I wish I could go into the chat room like we used to be able to do and talk with people in real time. I will try to post more on this board too, but always lik...

andromeda · andromeda

Hello everyone! I don't post much here anymore but I do come on and view our C2C readings regularly and I love to see everyone's progress and program lessons. 5 days ago, my cousin, who lives in Haines, AK and is like a sister to me, was forced to evacuate from her home with her husband and 2 little childr...

DavidG · DavidG

Being valued is an awesome experience. Coming back with feedback is a form of gratitude- but I sense something deeper there. A lot of my life had no boundaries- or broken and betrayed boundaries. Having this to and fro discussion about what is going down I find healing. Healing those breaches...

Debb · Debb

This days ODAT reminds us to be ever aware that our lives are filled with many good common place things and occurrences. We are encouraged to stop and smell the roses, so to speak, when we find we are dwelling on the things and occurrences in our lives that make us unhappy. We are asked to "notice" all the g...

Lyne · Lyne

I have occasionally over the years made a financial contribution to our message board. I used to send Betty my check and she would take care of the rest. I would like to make a donation at this point for the running of the boardIm sure there are fees, etc. Is there a simple way I can do this? Lyne :)

Overcome · Overcome

I hope I'm not breaking some rule about who can post daily readings and who can't, but I thought that since DavidG had mentioned that he was going to study Tradition 5 next year, and this reading was about Tradition 5, I didn't want to pass up the chance to write a post about it. Tradition 5: Each Al-Anon F...

Debb · Debb

I did not see an ODAT for today and wish to give back to you all on MIP because you all mean a lot to me. So I hope that I have not overstepped my boundaries ..... Todays ODAT reminds us that "Al-Anon provides relief to us to detach ourselves from the chains that binds us to the weight of alcoholism". That wor...

Debb · Debb

Wanted to say hello to everyone and to wish you all Happy Holidays. Hope you are all well and so sorry to hear about Betty, I'm sure, like I, she is/will be missed. I'm doing well, same old stuff just different day. AH is still drinking, 95% of the time I detach when he rants, the other 5%, unfortunatel...

JerryF · JerryF

Aloha all and thanks for continuing the support. My computer attempted suicide after failing a series of step 1 attempts. I took it too a computer sponsor and it needs more support so that is what I will do with it. Hope this report makes the family. Still reading and getting blessed. (((hugs)...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Today's author uses an avalanche to help visualize best practices in dealing with a problem drinker (qualifier) and our own challenges.Avalanche: As snow piles up, risk of avalanche increases. Ill advised actions: Jump in front of approaching avalanche, or take action to trigger avalanche over...

Overcome · Overcome

I have been dealing with many fears lately (I'm not proud to admit, but unless we get honest in this program we can't heal, right?), by sharing here I'm hoping to overcome some of them. In the last two years I have become increasingly scared to drive, scared to cook (meaning I don't know what to do), scare...

Overcome · Overcome

If you'd like to join us in a meeting tonight, please click on Chat room entrance above and it will take you to the room. Hope you join us! Meeting last from 9 - 10 p.m.

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for Monday, 12/7, cites a paragraph from a poet : Go placidly amid the noise and haste, and remember what peace there may be in silence. As far as possible without surrender, be on good terms with all persons. Speak your truth quietly and clearly; listen to others, even the dull and ignor...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about decision making and the difficulties that can be tied to that process. The writer describes trying to look for his/her HPs will when making decisions. Although the writer would love to see an obvious sign, validating a choice or warning against it, wh...

DavidG · DavidG

Something I am working on- plus heaps and heaps of group based journalling here. ... USING MUSIC AS THERAPY... I think some of us invent ways of getting better.I am lucky in a way- outside of the USA.Appropriate therapy is a long way off here- even more so on my budget!Four years ago I found out I c...

Bettertomorrow · Bettertomorrow

Hello friends. Sorry I have not posted for awhile, but I have been reading your shares and hope. I feel like I have hit a bit of a brick wall and while I am focusing on odat - I still feel like I am trudging through treacle and just need to hear your e,s,h as a light at the end of my tunnel. I have separated fr...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Good morning MIP family. Today's reading talks about how an attitude of gratitude really can change things up. The author suggests that they were sure there had to be somebody in this world who would understand all moods, always have time for them and always bring a smile to their face. Fairy-tale...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! Running a bit later than usual with today's post, and appreciative of the program, which has taught me to be gentle with myself in situations where things don't go according to my plans.

Today's author reflects on how easy it is to list a loved one's limitations and opportunities the l...

DavidG · DavidG

Cooler here. It nearly froze yesterday morning. Getting towards summer though... The top share here this morning as as good as anything I have read in our literature. I am awed and inspired. But I need to go onto my own tangent... As I moved through my teens I had a grandmother and an...

a4l · a4l

Was talking to daughter about kindness today. We somehow got to discussing hypothetical half sandwiches to consider when it's kind to give and when it's inappropriate. With her hypothetical half a sand which and imagining not having any food at home for the rest of the day or the next day, she if faced...

DavidG · DavidG

I like to see feedback in our group. For me an example is a good reacher. Attraction and not promotion. My nephews ex. went through a four month treatment a few months ago... he aim was to get her kids back. "P" is the form of meth here in NZ and it is fairly rampant. But K. seems to have beaten it. On meth...

Lyne · Lyne

The author of the reading for Monday, 11/30, discusses how we can learn something from everyone who enters our life. People can be mirrors, showing us our better or worse qualities. Some can help us resolve conflicts from the past. They can be catalysts, activating parts of ourselves. And other...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about letting go of resentment and finding acceptance. The writer describes having grown up feeling frustration and anger toward his/her mother, not because she was an alcoholic, but because she did not protect her children from her husband who was abusi...

tiredtonite · tiredtonite

Good Morning ((Everyone)) Today's reading touches on the confusion the author felt concerning their character trai...

Freetime · Freetime

Today's reading is so amazing that I am going to put the quotation first: "When it gets dark enough, you can see the stars." -- Charles A. Beard (American historian) Today's author says "I am a survivor" -- having survived many troubles, and come out as a human being with dignity, a wealth of experienc...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Good morning MIP....happy Thanksgiving to one and all. I am grateful each of you is a part of my journey. Today's reading is about the family disease of alcoholism. Many of us arrive to Al-Anon and aren't certain if we belong. As we learn more about the disease and it's reaches, we come to see that even i...

mamalioness · mamalioness

Yea, lots of bad crap goin on this year with the disease, economy, etc., but even so, I can say THANK you to HP that my needs have been met so far and I am recovering from this latest spasm that I think I caused by jumping the gun and not waiting for the original one to heal, so i piled up insult after insult, bu...

mamalioness · mamalioness

hey Everyone!!! Missed you guys I've been so sick with my back...spasm after spasm so I decided, after I talked with my doctor to do my own research, now that I know its not my spine, but nerve damage, myofascial issues caused by the C_PTSD I am recovering from the latest and had to change my exercise prot...

pinkchip · pinkchip

In today's world in general, I find myself repeatedly questioning how people can think a certain way that I consider absurd or wrong. The healthy lessons I learned in alanon have an immediately calming come back to this line of thinking, as I can let myself get pretty wrapped up in this to the point I'm...

SayLaV · SayLaV

I have been stuggling once again with guilt. My A son has gone down the rabbit hole again. At 34 yrs old he is not getting to the "hit bottom" part I thought would maybe happen someday. It has always helped to think about "Didn't cause it, Cannot control it, Cannot cure it. It's that awful knot in my stomach...

Skorpi · Skorpi

In today's reading from C2C, the author reflects on their initial approach to Al-Anon. They went to meetings unless there was something else to do, didn't get a sponsor, knew that a close relative drank too much, and didn't see a personal need for very much help. Still, the author's growth in the prog...

DavidG · DavidG

Less and less angst as I go on... or so it seems... went out to a singing acting on person show last night. I did fall asleep for about 10 mins- usual for me- and something I may have to live with. But I was asked to be a guest poet next Friday night... being a support person for younger artists... oh my! Th...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Today's author weighs using meeting shares for detailed blow by blow descriptions of perceived misdeeds of others, versus their much more valuable potential: sharing constructive, program based takeaways that may help others.The former may enforce the thought that we all experience similar t...

DavidG · DavidG

Below is a share I pinned up on the business board in March. In march I was going through a really rough time. It seemed to me to be life threatening. Threatening my identity, in effect. Looking back on it it was by me and for me. But I was able to lean this MIP Alanon group heavily. And having gaine...

DavidG · DavidG

Hi y'all... ...kia ora koutou... my therapy seems to be working...! I see and hear people going to specialists, and expect this or that treatment to work for them. Sometimes, or often, it does... I find that C-PTSD is an inside job, and we, the suffers are the only ones who really and fully know wh...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about how for some of us the holidays can be a difficult time. The writer describes how the holidays were always connected to the depression of his/her father, during childhood and in adult life as well. The writer describes the difference in adult life and...

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for Monday, 11/23, is a goal the writer has not to be afraid of anythingno dreads, no unreality, no focus on yesterday. Instead, the author will have a reliance on HP for protection and guidance. Todays reminder is quite profound: If I live just this one day at a time, I will not so readily en...

DavidG · DavidG

A good friend/member has become the District Rep. He said I might become one after him? But I am not a GR. I looked him in the eye and pointed at the younger upcoming members- and told him straight to look for his successor there. Our southern-most city if a small provincial town by world standards. Bu...

PosiesandPuppies · PosiesandPuppies

Today, the reading in Courage to Change talks about how we begin to feel after some good time with the program. We begin to feel strong, healthy again. Many may feel like we no longer need Al-Anon because we shouldn't have anymore problems. When difficulties arise (and they will), we may feel like ther...

Kokopelli · Kokopelli

Hello, My divorce will be finalized next week. I am keeping the house. My question is how did others deal with the packing up and moving out process? We have still been living in the same household, which has made this whole situation even harder. My soon to be ex has not been taking care of himself and ju...

Freetime · Freetime

Today's reading starts with the example of taming a horse. The important thing is not to break the horse's spirit -- and the same with any creature that is full of joy in being alive. When living with alcoholism had broken the author's spirit, the Al-Anon fellowship allowed that spirit to heal. One th...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Happy Thursday MIP. The reading for today discusses our goal in Al-Anon - an overall sense of wellness - mental, spiritual and emotional. The writer suggests lamenting for years over the absence of a label that would help identify the soul sickness that brought them to Al-Anon. She found many of t...

a4l · a4l

There's magic in this program and it's tips tools and suggestions alright. Keep showing up and do the next right thing. Betty taught me that. She was a really special lady. I'm so glad she was there to walk me through doing the next right thing so that I could experience a new way of life really. I put it in...

Skorpi · Skorpi

In today's reading, the author reflects on the second step (Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.) To the author, a return to sanity is about more than being able to function in a responsible and realistic way. Living in a sane way also includes play, taking a br...

sad_dog_mommy · sad_dog_mommy

One night at an FTF al-anon meeting someone said a 'warning sign' of doing too much for others was the feeling of resentment. I sort of stored that thought into the back of my brain until recently when I began to feel overwhelming resentment. I live with my BF in a house that I bought before I met him. I h...

Lyne · Lyne

The writing for Monday, 11/16, asks the question, how does one actually detach? The writer admits it isnt easy when we are embroiled in all kinds of trouble day after day. They remind us to find a moment in the day to express a few words and think of their meaning: Let go and let God, Live and let live, or...

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	Year in reflection (Preview) Like many of you I have had one hell of a year. Plenty of disappointments, a couple of complete disasters Lots of unforseen expenses. A great deal of frustration So yesterday I had another set back. Normally I would be in complete catastrophe mode This set back is going to cost me time and money Yet I...	Maresie888	5	409	Dec 14, 2020 by Maresie888
	C2C, 12/14 (Preview) The reading for Monday, 12/14, spoke to me as it deals with losses. The writer says there are many kinds of lossesdivorce, incarceration, illness, death, and even emotional change. The writer goes on to say that when suffering from devastation and grief, they pushed everyone away. With program...	Lyne	5	453	Dec 14, 2020 by JerryF
	First Post - Need Advice on how to support without enabling (Preview) Hello, I am posting here for the first time. I have a brother who is a long-time alcoholic / addict. I'm no longer sure what the correct way to deal with him is. We have a turbulent history, I had a restraining order on him for several years but he's been back in my life for about two years. About a year ago we g...	Violet30	4	524	Dec 14, 2020 by Freetime
	Hope for Today Dec 13 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about our feeling of belonging in al-anon. The writer describes having come to the program because of his/her 16 yr old daughters drinking. The daughter entered the rooms of AA but after some years, made a decision that the drinking was all about adolescenc...	yanksfan51	4	398	Dec 13, 2020 by PosiesandPuppies
	Courage to Change 12/2/20 (Preview) In today's reading, the author's POV is that of a teenager. A teen who is participating in Alateen. Just b/c the author is a teen, doesn't mean good learning could not be had. So I will do my best to interpret. The author speaks to having a deep mistrust of adults. That is because he/she felt that all adul...	PosiesandPuppies	3	292	Dec 13, 2020 by PosiesandPuppies
	Our Steps Board... (Preview) https://stepwork.activeboard.com/forum.spark?forumID=42763	DavidG	3	351	Dec 13, 2020 by PosiesandPuppies
	My A feels unsafe to me emotionally (Preview) I went through a most unpleasant evening Saturday past with my A. I really am trying to let go and let God, but I have realized that her alcoholic behavior repeats when she is confronted with issues she doesn't like. We were discussing how to be careful about covid and what behaviors needed looking at...	Lyne	5	426	Dec 12, 2020 by Maresie888
	Comparison is the thief of Joy (Preview) I was telling an al-anon friend recently how my daughter reminded me of myself when she was dressed in her lab coat. My friend responded, "Don't do that." I responded with, "What and Why not?" Compare yourself to your daughter. She said because "Comparison is the thief of Joy." I had to think on that tho...	Overcome	4	505	Dec 12, 2020 by Maresie888
	Courage to Change, December 4 (Preview) Feelings aren't facts -- that is the theme of today's reading. The author came to understand that they could embody more than one feeling at a time, and that a situation wasn't necessarily all one thing or another, not a rigid choice between all good or all bad. With this awareness, the author can fee...	Freetime	6	374	Dec 12, 2020 by Debb
	12/1/20 ODAT - Year in Review (Preview) Today's page suggests that the end of year is a great opportunity to review our recovery from an outsider's perspective, objectively. Examples might be to consider improvement in our attitudes, whether we blame others for results of our own actions or let discouragement resign us to previous habi...	Enigmatic	8	327	Dec 11, 2020 by Debb
	Saturday's Daily - The Language of Letting Go (Preview) DECEMBER 6 - DIFFICULT PEOPLE This reading is about Letting Go, Acceptance and Detaching with Love all rolled into one day! The words are Melody Meattie's, but I know we can all relate. "Few things can make us feel crazier than expecting something from someone who has nothing to give. Few things can fr...	PosiesandPuppies	10	878	Dec 11, 2020 by Debb
	My day... (Preview) A life full of fear is no life at all. These days I have much less fear. Today I had to get a warrant for the caravan, organise a plumber, and take our accounts to the accountant. It is 10 am now. In between I checked on my bee hive, and visited a friend for a cold drink. All done. Naturally we were a two inco...	DavidG	8	1077	Dec 11, 2020 by Debb
	Courage to change December 9 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author reflects on tradition 11 - Al-Anon's public relations policy is based on attraction rather than promotion. The author stresses the importance of keeping the focus on themselves as one way to live this tradition. As the author shares, if I am not walking th...	Skorpi	5	337	Dec 11, 2020 by Debb
	Courage to Change, December 11 (Preview) Today's author dreamed of winning the lottery, but realized that even winning that much money would not guarantee happiness, would not make the alcoholic sober, would not remove the effect alcoholism had on their family. Money would not remove all of life's problems. Winning a fortune might brin...	Freetime	4	357	Dec 11, 2020 by PosiesandPuppies
	Chat room meetings resume (Preview) Hi old friends and new friends alike. I would like to start up the chat room meetings again. In this time of Covid and not being able to get out like I'd like, I wish I could go into the chat room like we used to be able to do and talk with people in real time. I will try to post more on this board too, but always lik...	Overcome	8	409	Dec 11, 2020 by Overcome
	GRATITUDE (Preview) Hello everyone! I don't post much here anymore but I do come on and view our C2C readings regularly and I love to see everyone's progress and program lessons. 5 days ago, my cousin, who lives in Haines, AK and is like a sister to me, was forced to evacuate from her home with her husband and 2 little childr...	andromeda	8	380	Dec 10, 2020 by Debb
	Step 12 Feedback... (Preview) Being valued is an awesome experience. Coming back with feedback is a form of gratitude- but I sense something deeper there. A lot of my life had no boundaries- or broken and betrayed boundaries. Having this to and fro discussion about what is going down I find healing. Healing those breaches...	DavidG	5	1131	Dec 10, 2020 by DavidG
	ODAT - December 10, 2020 - Gratitude (Preview) This days ODAT reminds us to be ever aware that our lives are filled with many good common place things and occurrences. We are encouraged to stop and smell the roses, so to speak, when we find we are dwelling on the things and occurrences in our lives that make us unhappy. We are asked to "notice" all the g...	Debb	3	332	Dec 10, 2020 by Debb
	Contributions? (Preview) I have occasionally over the years made a financial contribution to our message board. I used to send Betty my check and she would take care of the rest. I would like to make a donation at this point for the running of the boardIm sure there are fees, etc. Is there a simple way I can do this? Lyne :)	Lyne	6	381	Dec 10, 2020 by Iamhere
	Hope for Today - December 8th - Tradition 5 (Preview) I hope I'm not breaking some rule about who can post daily readings and who can't, but I thought that since DavidG had mentioned that he was going to study Tradition 5 next year, and this reading was about Tradition 5, I didn't want to pass up the chance to write a post about it. Tradition 5: Each Al-Anon F...	Overcome	3	343	Dec 10, 2020 by Overcome
	ODAT - December 8, 2020 - Detaching from the chains (Preview) I did not see an ODAT for today and wish to give back to you all on MIP because you all mean a lot to me. So I hope that I have not overstepped my boundaries ..... Todays ODAT reminds us that "Al-Anon provides relief to us to detach ourselves from the chains that binds us to the weight of alcoholism". That wor...	Debb	1	346	Dec 9, 2020 by Overcome
	Just Checking In (Preview) Wanted to say hello to everyone and to wish you all Happy Holidays. Hope you are all well and so sorry to hear about Betty, I'm sure, like I, she is/will be missed. I'm doing well, same old stuff just different day. AH is still drinking, 95% of the time I detach when he rants, the other 5%, unfortunatel...	Debb	2	343	Dec 9, 2020 by Iamhere
	Still here reading and growing (Preview) Aloha all and thanks for continuing the support. My computer attempted suicide after failing a series of step 1 attempts. I took it too a computer sponsor and it needs more support so that is what I will do with it. Hope this report makes the family. Still reading and getting blessed. (((hugs)...	JerryF	10	387	Dec 9, 2020 by JerryF
	12/8/20 Avalanches : Recovery (Preview) Today's author uses an avalanche to help visualize best practices in dealing with a problem drinker (qualifier) and our own challenges.Avalanche: As snow piles up, risk of avalanche increases. Ill advised actions: Jump in front of approaching avalanche, or take action to trigger avalanche over...	Enigmatic	5	325	Dec 8, 2020 by DavidG
	Fear - dealing with the after effects of living in an alcoholic marriage (Preview) I have been dealing with many fears lately (I'm not proud to admit, but unless we get honest in this program we can't heal, right?), by sharing here I'm hoping to overcome some of them. In the last two years I have become increasingly scared to drive, scared to cook (meaning I don't know what to do), scare...	Overcome	15	802	Dec 8, 2020 by a4l
	Meeting starting in chat room (Preview) If you'd like to join us in a meeting tonight, please click on Chat room entrance above and it will take you to the room. Hope you join us! Meeting last from 9 - 10 p.m.	Overcome	0	297	Dec 7, 2020 by Overcome
	ODAT in alanon, 12/7 (Preview) The reading for Monday, 12/7, cites a paragraph from a poet : Go placidly amid the noise and haste, and remember what peace there may be in silence. As far as possible without surrender, be on good terms with all persons. Speak your truth quietly and clearly; listen to others, even the dull and ignor...	Lyne	4	362	Dec 7, 2020 by Iamhere
	Hope for Today Dec 6 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about decision making and the difficulties that can be tied to that process. The writer describes trying to look for his/her HPs will when making decisions. Although the writer would love to see an obvious sign, validating a choice or warning against it, wh...	yanksfan51	5	348	Dec 6, 2020 by DavidG
	Combining group work and therapy... (Preview) Something I am working on- plus heaps and heaps of group based journalling here. ... USING MUSIC AS THERAPY... I think some of us invent ways of getting better.I am lucky in a way- outside of the USA.Appropriate therapy is a long way off here- even more so on my budget!Four years ago I found out I c...	DavidG	4	443	Dec 5, 2020 by DavidG
	This is hard (Preview) Hello friends. Sorry I have not posted for awhile, but I have been reading your shares and hope. I feel like I have hit a bit of a brick wall and while I am focusing on odat - I still feel like I am trudging through treacle and just need to hear your e,s,h as a light at the end of my tunnel. I have separated fr...	Bettertomorrow	3	1110	Dec 3, 2020 by Bettertomorrow
	Courage to Change 12/3 (Preview) Good morning MIP family. Today's reading talks about how an attitude of gratitude really can change things up. The author suggests that they were sure there had to be somebody in this world who would understand all moods, always have time for them and always bring a smile to their face. Fairy-tale...	Iamhere	3	1417	Dec 3, 2020 by Freetime
	Courage to Change December 2 (Preview) Hello MIP! Running a bit later than usual with today's post, and appreciative of the program, which has taught me to be gentle with myself in situations where things don't go according to my plans. Today's author reflects on how easy it is to list a loved one's limitations and opportunities the l...	Skorpi	1	341	Dec 2, 2020 by Iamhere
	My Sunday share... a step 10 for myself... (Preview) Cooler here. It nearly froze yesterday morning. Getting towards summer though... The top share here this morning as as good as anything I have read in our literature. I am awed and inspired. But I need to go onto my own tangent... As I moved through my teens I had a grandmother and an...	DavidG	4	393	Dec 2, 2020 by Maresie888
	On compassion. (Preview) Was talking to daughter about kindness today. We somehow got to discussing hypothetical half sandwiches to consider when it's kind to give and when it's inappropriate. With her hypothetical half a sand which and imagining not having any food at home for the rest of the day or the next day, she if faced...	a4l	7	706	Dec 1, 2020 by Jill
	Some good news on the home front... (Preview) I like to see feedback in our group. For me an example is a good reacher. Attraction and not promotion. My nephews ex. went through a four month treatment a few months ago... he aim was to get her kids back. "P" is the form of meth here in NZ and it is fairly rampant. But K. seems to have beaten it. On meth...	DavidG	2	369	Dec 1, 2020 by a4l
	C2C, 11/30 (Preview) The author of the reading for Monday, 11/30, discusses how we can learn something from everyone who enters our life. People can be mirrors, showing us our better or worse qualities. Some can help us resolve conflicts from the past. They can be catalysts, activating parts of ourselves. And other...	Lyne	3	398	Nov 30, 2020 by Iamhere
	Hope for Today Nov 29 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about letting go of resentment and finding acceptance. The writer describes having grown up feeling frustration and anger toward his/her mother, not because she was an alcoholic, but because she did not protect her children from her husband who was abusi...	yanksfan51	4	438	Nov 29, 2020 by a4l
	Courage to Change November 28 (Preview) Good Morning ((Everyone)) Today's reading touches on the confusion the author felt concerning their character trai...	tiredtonite	4	418	Nov 28, 2020 by Iamhere
	Courage to Change, November 27 (Preview) Today's reading is so amazing that I am going to put the quotation first: "When it gets dark enough, you can see the stars." -- Charles A. Beard (American historian) Today's author says "I am a survivor" -- having survived many troubles, and come out as a human being with dignity, a wealth of experienc...	Freetime	3	358	Nov 28, 2020 by a4l
	Courage to Change 11/26 (Preview) Good morning MIP....happy Thanksgiving to one and all. I am grateful each of you is a part of my journey. Today's reading is about the family disease of alcoholism. Many of us arrive to Al-Anon and aren't certain if we belong. As we learn more about the disease and it's reaches, we come to see that even i...	Iamhere	6	612	Nov 26, 2020 by DavidG
	HAPPY and SAFE Thanksgiving all (Preview) Yea, lots of bad crap goin on this year with the disease, economy, etc., but even so, I can say THANK you to HP that my needs have been met so far and I am recovering from this latest spasm that I think I caused by jumping the gun and not waiting for the original one to heal, so i piled up insult after insult, bu...	mamalioness	2	339	Nov 26, 2020 by PosiesandPuppies
	Helloooo sorry its been so long (Preview) hey Everyone!!! Missed you guys I've been so sick with my back...spasm after spasm so I decided, after I talked with my doctor to do my own research, now that I know its not my spine, but nerve damage, myofascial issues caused by the C_PTSD I am recovering from the latest and had to change my exercise prot...	mamalioness	7	363	Nov 25, 2020 by mamalioness
	How Can You Think That Way??? (Preview) In today's world in general, I find myself repeatedly questioning how people can think a certain way that I consider absurd or wrong. The healthy lessons I learned in alanon have an immediately calming come back to this line of thinking, as I can let myself get pretty wrapped up in this to the point I'm...	pinkchip	9	2142	Nov 25, 2020 by Iamhere
	I'm returning for help after a few years of not being active in Alanon. (Preview) I have been stuggling once again with guilt. My A son has gone down the rabbit hole again. At 34 yrs old he is not getting to the "hit bottom" part I thought would maybe happen someday. It has always helped to think about "Didn't cause it, Cannot control it, Cannot cure it. It's that awful knot in my stomach...	SayLaV	10	459	Nov 25, 2020 by Iamhere
	Courage to Change November 25 (Preview) In today's reading from C2C, the author reflects on their initial approach to Al-Anon. They went to meetings unless there was something else to do, didn't get a sponsor, knew that a close relative drank too much, and didn't see a personal need for very much help. Still, the author's growth in the prog...	Skorpi	4	615	Nov 25, 2020 by JerryF
	A Saturday share... (Preview) Less and less angst as I go on... or so it seems... went out to a singing acting on person show last night. I did fall asleep for about 10 mins- usual for me- and something I may have to live with. But I was asked to be a guest poet next Friday night... being a support person for younger artists... oh my! Th...	DavidG	13	4064	Nov 25, 2020 by Maresie888
	11/24/20 ODAT - Helping Others (Preview) Today's author weighs using meeting shares for detailed blow by blow descriptions of perceived misdeeds of others, versus their much more valuable potential: sharing constructive, program based takeaways that may help others.The former may enforce the thought that we all experience similar t...	Enigmatic	6	409	Nov 25, 2020 by Maresie888
	Fears and tears... (Preview) Below is a share I pinned up on the business board in March. In march I was going through a really rough time. It seemed to me to be life threatening. Threatening my identity, in effect. Looking back on it it was by me and for me. But I was able to lean this MIP Alanon group heavily. And having gaine...	DavidG	1	359	Nov 25, 2020 by Maresie888
	...learning to live, and living to learn... (Preview) Hi y'all... ...kia ora koutou... my therapy seems to be working...! I see and hear people going to specialists, and expect this or that treatment to work for them. Sometimes, or often, it does... I find that C-PTSD is an inside job, and we, the suffers are the only ones who really and fully know wh...	DavidG	3	402	Nov 24, 2020 by mamalioness
	Hope for Today Nov 22 (Preview) Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about how for some of us the holidays can be a difficult time. The writer describes how the holidays were always connected to the depression of his/her father, during childhood and in adult life as well. The writer describes the difference in adult life and...	yanksfan51	5	2966	Nov 23, 2020 by Maresie888
	ODAT in alanon, 11/23 (Preview) The reading for Monday, 11/23, is a goal the writer has not to be afraid of anythingno dreads, no unreality, no focus on yesterday. Instead, the author will have a reliance on HP for protection and guidance. Todays reminder is quite profound: If I live just this one day at a time, I will not so readily en...	Lyne	4	486	Nov 23, 2020 by Maresie888
	...our local assembly... (Preview) A good friend/member has become the District Rep. He said I might become one after him? But I am not a GR. I looked him in the eye and pointed at the younger upcoming members- and told him straight to look for his successor there. Our southern-most city if a small provincial town by world standards. Bu...	DavidG	1	388	Nov 23, 2020 by Lyne
	C2C 11/21/2020 (Preview) Today, the reading in Courage to Change talks about how we begin to feel after some good time with the program. We begin to feel strong, healthy again. Many may feel like we no longer need Al-Anon because we shouldn't have anymore problems. When difficulties arise (and they will), we may feel like ther...	PosiesandPuppies	5	416	Nov 22, 2020 by JerryF
	Moving out (Preview) Hello, My divorce will be finalized next week. I am keeping the house. My question is how did others deal with the packing up and moving out process? We have still been living in the same household, which has made this whole situation even harder. My soon to be ex has not been taking care of himself and ju...	Kokopelli	14	1208	Nov 21, 2020 by Maresie888
	Courage to Change - November 20 (Preview) Today's reading starts with the example of taming a horse. The important thing is not to break the horse's spirit -- and the same with any creature that is full of joy in being alive. When living with alcoholism had broken the author's spirit, the Al-Anon fellowship allowed that spirit to heal. One th...	Freetime	4	712	Nov 20, 2020 by Iamhere
	Courage to Change 11/19 (Preview) Happy Thursday MIP. The reading for today discusses our goal in Al-Anon - an overall sense of wellness - mental, spiritual and emotional. The writer suggests lamenting for years over the absence of a label that would help identify the soul sickness that brought them to Al-Anon. She found many of t...	Iamhere	4	494	Nov 19, 2020 by WendyP
	When you do your part. (Preview) There's magic in this program and it's tips tools and suggestions alright. Keep showing up and do the next right thing. Betty taught me that. She was a really special lady. I'm so glad she was there to walk me through doing the next right thing so that I could experience a new way of life really. I put it in...	a4l	7	489	Nov 19, 2020 by a4l
	Courage to Change November 18 (Preview) In today's reading, the author reflects on the second step (Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.) To the author, a return to sanity is about more than being able to function in a responsible and realistic way. Living in a sane way also includes play, taking a br...	Skorpi	4	362	Nov 19, 2020 by Iamhere
	codependency & resentment (Preview) One night at an FTF al-anon meeting someone said a 'warning sign' of doing too much for others was the feeling of resentment. I sort of stored that thought into the back of my brain until recently when I began to feel overwhelming resentment. I live with my BF in a house that I bought before I met him. I h...	sad_dog_mommy	4	2700	Nov 18, 2020 by Skorpi
	ODAT in alanon, 11/16 (Preview) The writing for Monday, 11/16, asks the question, how does one actually detach? The writer admits it isnt easy when we are embroiled in all kinds of trouble day after day. They remind us to find a moment in the day to express a few words and think of their meaning: Let go and let God, Live and let live, or...	Lyne	6	413	Nov 17, 2020 by Freetime
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