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Debb


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This is such a hard time for so many of us.  Between the pandemic, financial hardships, working, stress,

holidays and personal/private loses, no wonder it is such a tough time of year!

Gratitude for all the lovely people, nature and things in are lives sometimes take a backseat to our worries and

stress.  Our connection to our High Power is so helpful at these difficult times, I find.

When I think that I can no longer cope, it is my cue and responsibility to stop and smell the coffee/roses, whatever

is your preference, to be your best and awesome self! 

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My version of awesome today is "good enough". I haven't brushed my hair, i can't find my shoes, and I completely don't care! Because everybody ate, no body died and I'm happy inside. Lovely message. Showing up is awesome. On some days getting out of bed and having a shower is awesome. Tyfs Debb

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Freetime


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{{{Debb}}}, thank you for your inspiration!

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It is not like I.cannot cope.  I can cope.  I know I am growing out of this. I no longer put up with situaions that are veru difficult 

I grow from them.  Nevertheless this is a time when putting io boundaries neans not being exactly popular

Letting go of that need for approval is very very hard 

That need for approval came at really high cost 

Then there was the feeling I could not say no to people who were really out to get me .

One of my neighbors here has a constant need for chaos. T

He is not going to pull me into his newest cyclone  

Before I felt helpless over the chaos some people created. The qualifier being one of them. All the speeding tickets. All the cars he crashed. All the things that were stolen from him 

He moved out of town hundreds of miles away. 

I did not hear from him for years literally years

He got a DUI, moved back into the area. Then he called me 

In the past I would have misinterpreted those calls i would have said this is proof of his affection his need for me 

Now I see it as a call to help him get out of the mess he is in. Oddly enough those calls never came with any enquiry after myself. There was not even a how are you? 

Needless to.say the former roommmate has never once said how are you to me either.  Funny how I.missed that in the 20 years I knew him.

Oddly enough I missed those essential details 

Now I am more ready to look at the big picture 

Of course I am not looking for anyone to help me either 

Now I am fiercely self reliant 

I am so glad that we are having these topics about how hard it is to deal with this pandemic 

I know we will all remember this time for years 

Thank you all for being honest forth right and supportive. You are my rock in these hard times 

Of course all times are hard times but this is a very hard time.

Thank you Thank you Thank you 

Maresie 

 

 

 

 



-- Edited by Maresie888 on Saturday 19th of December 2020 09:34:36 PM

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I am just grateful that each day truly is a new beginning. While some issues follow me from day to day, I am still perfectly imperfect and can only do so much.

I accept me today, exactly as I am, and every day is similar for me....what that means is I do the same prayers upon awakening, I do the same readings, I use many of the same tools with the intent of finding and keeping my joy, and holding tight to my serenity. My attitude, outlook and life is so, so much better when I consistently turn my life and my will over to my HP.

I have no choice but to view this pandemic, the holidays, the losses, etc. as part of a master plan, which I am not privileged to know....I do best when I just trust that my HP will always lead me and take care of me, so long as I take action that is healthy. However this day unfolds and whatever I do is good enough. My best days are those where I am intently focused on humility, service and unconditional acceptance and love.

Make it a lovely day all.....off to golf!!



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Thank you Deb for the inspirational words, but especially that picture! It is a visual reminder that when I think "I can't" what I really mean is "I can!"

Hope everyone enjoys their brand of Sunday Funday!

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Just an additional thought ... my sponsor used to suggest I replace, "I have to ...................." with "I get to .................". This has so much more meaning to/for me as I age! (((Hugs)))

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Debb


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Saw this and it made me smile!!

   Gratitude

     is my

    attitude

 

 



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Right now I have to travel to another city to get services.

That takes ne a while. At the sane time I do get to try to resolve some of my issues 

It is going to be s tough few months resolving these issues 

I know it is doable 

I have to work realky hard to not feel victimised by this. 

 

Maresie 

 



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