Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

Jackie11 · Jackie11

So hard to believe that 3 years have gone by! It was around this time 3 years ago that I found this board and I was encouraged to get myself to a meeting! So glad I followed through on that suggestion! At that time I was newly married and I was struggling with some serious anger and resentment over the situat...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

And I just want to say thank you .. please keep the prayers coming because my STBAX is in desperate mode NOT to let go. He just wants to be tied to both myself and the kids it's completely weird to me. I don't know why .. well actually I think I do as long as he can blame me he can continue to remain where he is. ...

grateful2be · grateful2be

This morning I was watching a short piece on what was an archeological find of a man's skeleton that is 9,000 years old on North American soil. After study of the skeleton, it appears this person came from somewhere in Asia by boat rather than on foot from another location higher up from Northern Ameri...

Fairlee · Fairlee

Can anyone recommend any good information on boundaries? (books or articles) I am very weak in this area and need some good information. Thanks!

Lyne · Lyne

My A spouse is being very nice. She tells me she loves me and most of the time I can't answer back. She thinks because she is not drinking, at least not that I know of, that everything is fine. No matter how many times I tell her she is a train wreck waiting to happen, she doesn't get it, and maybe will never...

blessed · blessed

I am not sure the last time I was here; but the last month plus has been quite busy. A few times I tried to come on but couldn't get my password in and wasn't able to get a password help and was limited on time so gave up, then those days turned to weeks and the weeks..... At the end of August I left my A heading t...

Hullibee · Hullibee

I can't stop. It's been a week since he left me for other woman. I can't get past it. I cry all day and night. I'm trying to work but I can barely do that either. I'm a teacher and all I'm doing is crying. How can I teach like this? I can't or shouldn't. I wouldn't want my kid in a classroom with a crying te...

SpiderArcana · SpiderArcana

Tens days in, and this has been really frickin' scary. A's non-drinking was going really well, no big cravings, some sweats, but overall better than expected. Then he started hallucinating. Minor, at first, but then it got so bad that he couldn't sleep. I never felt like I was in any danger, but it...

Collateral Damage · Collateral Damage

AH Called this week. He received his 30 day chip. My response wasn't supportive, nor was it non supportive. My feeling is that of the fact he's been a damn drunk for 12 years, and while yes, everyone must start somewhere, I cannot be proud of a 30 day sobriety. especially since I know it's because he's...

Meehan512 · Meehan512

Afternoon... I dont know what to do, my husband has a drinking problem, and I have tried everything. We go to church for a 12 step program ( we just started) he isnt drinking in the home with us. He is full of rage, but every day, and I mean every day I find small bottles hidden, and then I found a beer in his wor...

missmeliss · missmeliss

Another rejected house application today. At this point I don't even understand why; the house was cheap, run down, I asked the agent if she could please give me an indication of why and she said...as they all keep saying "Oh I don't have that information. We just give the details to the landlord a...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

It's kind of crazy right now and it's all hitting at the same time obviously .. I'm going to say it .. LOL .. 2 more days .. woot woot!!! I'm over the moon as this is the closest I have been to being free from the controlling chaos that has reigned and I allowed to reign over the last 17 years of my life. My daug...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

But I sure know where I have been. I am a survivor. I have tools to deal w/ my anxiety. I am a winner not a loser. I have hope & serenity. I am not junk. People like me. I am a friend to some who really don't have any. People can count on me. No matter the weather you can let the sun shine in your life. I am in it fo...

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

Well how is everyone doing? I haven't been on a whole lot but I guess it's because I need a break or just don't have the ESH in me. My SO has decided to retire and will take over the complete care of the home, cars, shopping, laundry, yard and repairs. So far so good but he needs a little training in some a...

bud · bud

I made a mistake and now need to make corrections. I'm too stressed and it's too much pressure. This will be very difficult as I need to tell my boyfriend that I cannot continue as such. It was a nice relationship that started developing some stressful undertones and I'm uncomfortable with how it's...

MCALANON · MCALANON

I expect the answer will be a resounding no. You might know from previous posts my son was drinking heavily from Nov last year. Long story short I'd not had much contact with him until recently. No evidence he was drinking since he did a sel detox in cJuly. No evidence he wasn't drinking either. I met him o...

astallaslions · astallaslions

It's been almost 4 months since I broke it off, and he is still trying to find ways to come back in my life, and a part of me misses him so much, I wish it could be a possibility, but i know it's not. I work in retail, and he just happened to "stop by". I inquired about his visit, silly me, and later tha...

Jerry F · Jerry F

Aloha my MIP family...just had to share a warp event from this morning. I have been taking an A/A (cross addicted) person to my morning AA by the Bay meetings both Saturday and Sunday versions. He doesn't have a whole lot of time; some and the desire and willingness. This morning just before I pick...

Loripop · Loripop

Hi, I came across this page when looking for information to help my brother. I know only he can help himself. Im not necessarily new to this whole realm of addictions. I have watched my sister in law suffer to the point of near death at 30 from alcoholism. My brother, this past year, has had a very fast decl...

neshema2 · neshema2

I told you guys in my "helloooo alanons" post about my neighbor being "zonked" by a tree the size of godzilla, branch broke off, dove through his roof and "parked itself" in his living room.....WHAT a mess and HP was watching over his mom b/c the place that tree landed...

el-cee · el-cee

I feel like ive reached another stage of my recovery. I have became aware that im still angry. I thought I had dealt with it because It passed after a few months in and I felt some compassion for the first time along with being able to forgive for the first time too. What I didnt realise was that I had only scr...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

3 more days! Ok .. so realize this is the closest I have been to the end date .. now I can really see that the God of my understanding has moved every single atty out who hasn't been looking out for me. I really like this last gal and I think she understands how awful I have been treated throughout this proce...

John · John

neshema2 · neshema2

today I am grateful for: my good healthmy kids and g.kids are healthy and safemy needs are metit is chilly and cloudy out but I am warm and comfy in my "new" houseI am paying down that c/card...piece by piece....I have many folks who love me/like memy kitty is OK , sharing the other crate w/t...

shaz · shaz

Hello everyone I am new to this board and am hoping you can help me in some way to come to terms with this. My Dad is 81 years old and probably an end stage alcoholic. He is also 90% deaf and has moderate dementia. If his dementia was more severe we could probably have him put int a complete care facility. As it...

hotrod · hotrod

I am going out of town camping(like cloudy skies) on Monday until next Saturday. No tent but in a heated cabin I have posted a new Step 5 to the Step Board Please visit and share your thoughts. Learn How The Twelve Steps Work.Participate in your own recovery as well as the recovery of others, by b...

momofjems · momofjems

I am new here and have never done a message board before. My AH is spiraling out of control but does not think he needs help. He drinks and drives and has started experiencing black outs. Yesterday he showed up at my daughter's sporting event drunk. My other daughter (we have 4 children ages 17-12) w...

lookingup · lookingup

I have a neighbor that lives next door to me our driveways are side by side she moved in several mths ago she is a recovering a she is in her late 30s and a beautiful young lady lately she im pretty sure is relapse ing big time she stopped her meetings and hanging with the same ppl her bf is a policeman that I've...

aquamom23 · aquamom23

there's been a lot of love going around for mip lately and I want to add mine too. I've attended online meetings and one face to face. I have been gratefully bombarded with literature suggestions and read as much as I can. Yesterday I bought myself three bunches of flowers,just because I could and becau...

whispers · whispers

I left my husband active alcoholic 2 years ago....dated him the last 6 months...and the only one who changed... was me... Thank you ALANON. Alanon was my life line, good friends and with hard work,attending meetings and participatingin this website I got strong and made good decisions for m...

neshema2 · neshema2

Hey Everyone!!!! Its been a busy 4 month or so.....things began to really change for me in July, early in the month... My daughter #2 called me and said "I miss my mommy" and I told her that I missed her too, but right is right..wrong is wrong and boundaries are sincere.....so we met in sorta b...

cloudyskies · cloudyskies

I sure have missed you all. I've been on a mini vacation with AH. We went camping and did some fishing. The dang fish weren't biting, though. But the river was absolutely beautiful and the weather was gorgeous. I was remembering a few months ago (almost 6 months). Had God not led me to Al-Anon, I'm not su...

wornoutmrsfixit · wornoutmrsfixit

I am sitting here with a gun and bullets on my dining room table that my son and I found in my recently relapsed, soon to be ex AH's house. He was being held in jail over the weekend for making threats of violence and death to me over the phone while in a drunken rage about a week ago. Since I filed for divorce...

missmeliss · missmeliss

Remember a few days ago I said, there was a guy who is advertising a room around the corner from me...he has "big ramshackle house with lots of character", a dog that is starving for another dog's company...and I said i just had a "feeling" about it? LOL well, we emailed back and f...

Chellelynn · Chellelynn

Not really sure what I expect to gain from this... maybe just for someone to tell me I am not Crazy. My only sibling passed on Nov. 27 2013 at the age of 36 due to kidney and liver failure brought on by septic shock. Try as I might to help him, I knew he was the only one that could do what needed to be done. He went i...

singingnick377 · singingnick377

Hi Everyone, I feel pretty low today. I woke up at 5am and couldn't sleep again. I have had really chronic tension in my body for over 4 years which has completely taken over my life and I seem to clench everything in my sleep (teeth, jaw, legs, stomach), and then the whole of the following day I am in such p...

tiredtonite · tiredtonite

There... I've said it. I can hardly believe that in another month it will be two years since she passed away. I wanted to call my mom yesterday because it seems no one else could really understand what I'm going through at work. No one else will answer the phone with such delighted surprise because...

andromeda · andromeda

So, my AH has been on a Mr Perfect routine right now. Being really nice, doing things that go above and beyond, helping me with stuff he's never helped with before, etc. It's like he doesn't seem to understand that I'm done and that we're splitting up soon. He seems to be grasping at things which he thi...

Gleleni · Gleleni

He checked himself into rehab for a few weeks and is coming home soon to myself and our 2 1/2 year old. What can I expect? I know we'll both be going to meetings, which is great. But I'm so nervous I'll be walking on eggshells every day. I'm scared to get him stressed out in any way. Will he feel good after re...

Newpaths · Newpaths

I've been feeling pretty down, found out I've been betrayed once again in a 4 year relationship once again ended it. I dont hurt as much this time. Realizing we both have 2 different sets of morals. I've been looking for a sponsor an getting finding rejection, one of the 3 groups I attend the leader was up...

JustLea · JustLea

My sister in law thought this forum may help me. My husband does not use alcohol. However, he behaves exactly like an adult child of an alcoholic. I have not participated in an Alanon program but have read the 12 step book. He has recently mailed me divorce papers. I have searched online divorce f...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

LOL .. this feels like dejuv at this point .. did I not say this before? Can't post to much right now just want to say we will have a court date on Wednesday and I WILL be divorced unless of course there is an act of God at which point I give up .. I will just stay married and leave everything as is .. lol. I'm so d...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

I have really been struggling obviously over the past week or so and just need extra prayers of support during this extremely difficult time. There have been a lot of good things to come out of it .. still it's very difficult to not get stuck in my fear and let my anxiety fly. I have a meeting with my atty o...

Luiza · Luiza

He has been quiet and keeping himself to himself lately, his moving out is all organised and he is agreeable with the separation. But I look at him and he looks so depressed and sad. It must be hard leaving the family home and not being able to see our daughter often. I am not backtracking, I know I gave him l...

Flower49 · Flower49

This is definitely a gross topic My AH called this morning pretty upset and said that the 1/2 way house and the 3/4 way house which sit next door to each other are infested with bed bugs and they were told not to tell anyone! He was upset because a few months ago he told me of the problem at the same houses and I...

lookingup · lookingup

These 2words scare the dinkins out of me for some reason I know I goes that I'm not immune to them from far.ive been studying on step one most f morning I didn't realize there was is so much to just that one step.very interesting indeed I know now that my life gets out of control with people which has made my l...

Flossy · Flossy

So it's been almost 3 months since my ex AH dropped me by text, no apology, nothing. Although for my part I know it's made things far easier and I'm grateful that he hasn't tried contacting me. When we would previously split he would relentlessly contact me, one minute pouring his heart out, the next b...

lookingup · lookingup

I'm learning a lot about sick ppl for sure I'm still sticking with step one caused I beleive that's where I'm stuck at for now or however long it takes me to fully understand it and grasp its meaning.im decided to stay single and not let myself get into another relationship for at least however long it tak...

el-cee · el-cee

... I will try to set my mind to being happy, like abraham lincoln. Ive been a miserable boot lately. Really busy, procrastinating like a pro but tired. so this is my morning attempt at setting up a happy mindset. Im grateful for... Crisp autumn weather. Central heating My grown kids being healthy, w...

Katy · Katy

Temple, I am starting a new post in light of what you picked up on my Just thinking thread, you were indeed the only one that picked up on my husband saying he doesn't use our washing machine, in my mind that felt like he was saying it's not my problem! So I am on holiday from work this week hence all my postin...

lookingup · lookingup

Xbf has tried everything from a-z and back agin texting over and over i gave him everything he had here holding nothing of his and with all the chaos I plum forgot to get my house key to my bottem locks on my house only key I had he started off with he was dieing wanted me to take him to er that didn't work then he...

Breakingfree · Breakingfree

I have to admit now after a few years in program and making a lot of the changes, things have gotten a lot better, especially in my thinking. I used to just live in crisis mode and walk around freaking out. Now when it happens it throws me for a loop, even when it's not a full blown deal. So my boyfriend of 6 mo...

missmeliss · missmeliss

I'm tired of these questions. I don't know what he's going to do. I don't want to think about it. I don't know if he's going to get a job. I don't know if he's going to "straighten himself out now". I don't know if his brother is going to help him move. I don't know if he's going to get his old car fixe...

lookingup · lookingup

Flower from mip gave me a ph.no and web address for a place to call to get help for myself and to help me with the addict in my life and I lost it does anybody have this ph no.ty lu

KathieG · KathieG

I haven't been to a meeting since Febuary 2014 lots has happen and the two people that have tried to talk with me from my home group I really don't want to talk to. I can say this I'm not sure if I will go to meetings again. I became frustrated with the meetings that are around. I do go to an open AA speakers meet...

Flower49 · Flower49

I am feeling better these days in relation to my situation. I have to every day look at this realistically and be open minded. I of course was not happy that my AH now has up to 180 days he has to stay in a 3/4 way house, yet I am feeling more peace as we started our marriage counseling this week, I am allowed to d...

Newpaths · Newpaths

How did you find your sponsor, what did you look for, helpful tips

Katy · Katy

When your on the same page as someone they just so get you, sometimes just a look is enough for you to know they they understand, but when your not on the same page I know I am always trying to fight my corner explain myself reason with and I am talking about in relationship to my husband, I am soooooooooo no...

wp · wp

Tradition 12: Anonymity is the spiritual foundation of all our traditions, ever reminding us to place principles above personalities. Pages 63 and 64 in our alanon book, AL-ANON FAMILY GROUPS, offers more than one simple description of the power of this tradition. It offers more than we might t...

Fairlee · Fairlee

I am working on the first step, it has been like a huge weight has been lifted as I stop trying to control everything and everyone! admitting I am powerless against this horrible disease. I finally get that I can't fix this...for a control freak like myself, I cannot believe how empowering this feels! ...

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	Progress (Preview) So hard to believe that 3 years have gone by! It was around this time 3 years ago that I found this board and I was encouraged to get myself to a meeting! So glad I followed through on that suggestion! At that time I was newly married and I was struggling with some serious anger and resentment over the situat...	Jackie11	3	378	Oct 15, 2014 by pinkchip
	A little over 24 hours to go .. (Preview) And I just want to say thank you .. please keep the prayers coming because my STBAX is in desperate mode NOT to let go. He just wants to be tied to both myself and the kids it's completely weird to me. I don't know why .. well actually I think I do as long as he can blame me he can continue to remain where he is. ...	SerenityRUS	12	486	Oct 15, 2014 by grateful2be
	Cease cherishing opinions (Preview) This morning I was watching a short piece on what was an archeological find of a man's skeleton that is 9,000 years old on North American soil. After study of the skeleton, it appears this person came from somewhere in Asia by boat rather than on foot from another location higher up from Northern Ameri...	grateful2be	12	604	Oct 15, 2014 by grateful2be
	Boundaries (Preview) Can anyone recommend any good information on boundaries? (books or articles) I am very weak in this area and need some good information. Thanks!	Fairlee	2	281	Oct 15, 2014 by grateful2be
	know the drill (Preview) My A spouse is being very nice. She tells me she loves me and most of the time I can't answer back. She thinks because she is not drinking, at least not that I know of, that everything is fine. No matter how many times I tell her she is a train wreck waiting to happen, she doesn't get it, and maybe will never...	Lyne	3	423	Oct 15, 2014 by Jerry F
	Update (Preview) I am not sure the last time I was here; but the last month plus has been quite busy. A few times I tried to come on but couldn't get my password in and wasn't able to get a password help and was limited on time so gave up, then those days turned to weeks and the weeks..... At the end of August I left my A heading t...	blessed	5	425	Oct 14, 2014 by aquamom23
	Constantly Crying ( 1 2 ) (Preview) I can't stop. It's been a week since he left me for other woman. I can't get past it. I cry all day and night. I'm trying to work but I can barely do that either. I'm a teacher and all I'm doing is crying. How can I teach like this? I can't or shouldn't. I wouldn't want my kid in a classroom with a crying te...	Hullibee	54	1105	Oct 14, 2014 by Jerry F
	His/Hers Recovery (Preview) Tens days in, and this has been really frickin' scary. A's non-drinking was going really well, no big cravings, some sweats, but overall better than expected. Then he started hallucinating. Minor, at first, but then it got so bad that he couldn't sleep. I never felt like I was in any danger, but it...	SpiderArcana	7	578	Oct 14, 2014 by Flower49
	30 day chip and other blather Anger resentment disgust hate blather (Preview) AH Called this week. He received his 30 day chip. My response wasn't supportive, nor was it non supportive. My feeling is that of the fact he's been a damn drunk for 12 years, and while yes, everyone must start somewhere, I cannot be proud of a 30 day sobriety. especially since I know it's because he's...	Collateral Damage	8	8714	Oct 14, 2014 by Flower49
	New, need help. I keep finding hidden bottles of beer and liq. home, cars, now my son found one (Preview) Afternoon... I dont know what to do, my husband has a drinking problem, and I have tried everything. We go to church for a 12 step program ( we just started) he isnt drinking in the home with us. He is full of rage, but every day, and I mean every day I find small bottles hidden, and then I found a beer in his wor...	Meehan512	17	628	Oct 14, 2014 by Spur
	The wailing and wringing of hands... (Preview) Another rejected house application today. At this point I don't even understand why; the house was cheap, run down, I asked the agent if she could please give me an indication of why and she said...as they all keep saying "Oh I don't have that information. We just give the details to the landlord a...	missmeliss	32	908	Oct 14, 2014 by Newlife girl
	Personal Responsibility .. (vent and some recovery stuff .. LOL) (Preview) It's kind of crazy right now and it's all hitting at the same time obviously .. I'm going to say it .. LOL .. 2 more days .. woot woot!!! I'm over the moon as this is the closest I have been to being free from the controlling chaos that has reigned and I allowed to reign over the last 17 years of my life. My daug...	SerenityRUS	7	510	Oct 14, 2014 by bud
	I don't know where I am going... (Preview) But I sure know where I have been. I am a survivor. I have tools to deal w/ my anxiety. I am a winner not a loser. I have hope & serenity. I am not junk. People like me. I am a friend to some who really don't have any. People can count on me. No matter the weather you can let the sun shine in your life. I am in it fo...	Hoot Nanny	10	761	Oct 13, 2014 by Fairlee
	Hi Gang (Preview) Well how is everyone doing? I haven't been on a whole lot but I guess it's because I need a break or just don't have the ESH in me. My SO has decided to retire and will take over the complete care of the home, cars, shopping, laundry, yard and repairs. So far so good but he needs a little training in some a...	Cathyinaz	3	550	Oct 13, 2014 by neshema2
	made another mistake (Preview) I made a mistake and now need to make corrections. I'm too stressed and it's too much pressure. This will be very difficult as I need to tell my boyfriend that I cannot continue as such. It was a nice relationship that started developing some stressful undertones and I'm uncomfortable with how it's...	bud	35	827	Oct 13, 2014 by bud
	should I check up on him? (Preview) I expect the answer will be a resounding no. You might know from previous posts my son was drinking heavily from Nov last year. Long story short I'd not had much contact with him until recently. No evidence he was drinking since he did a sel detox in cJuly. No evidence he wasn't drinking either. I met him o...	MCALANON	15	601	Oct 13, 2014 by grateful2be
	Grieving the break up (Preview) It's been almost 4 months since I broke it off, and he is still trying to find ways to come back in my life, and a part of me misses him so much, I wish it could be a possibility, but i know it's not. I work in retail, and he just happened to "stop by". I inquired about his visit, silly me, and later tha...	astallaslions	8	632	Oct 12, 2014 by neshema2
	Similarities... (Preview) Aloha my MIP family...just had to share a warp event from this morning. I have been taking an A/A (cross addicted) person to my morning AA by the Bay meetings both Saturday and Sunday versions. He doesn't have a whole lot of time; some and the desire and willingness. This morning just before I pick...	Jerry F	12	405	Oct 12, 2014 by bud
	New Here, not sure how this works.. (Preview) Hi, I came across this page when looking for information to help my brother. I know only he can help himself. Im not necessarily new to this whole realm of addictions. I have watched my sister in law suffer to the point of near death at 30 from alcoholism. My brother, this past year, has had a very fast decl...	Loripop	6	476	Oct 12, 2014 by neshema2
	Good bye to an old friend (Preview) I told you guys in my "helloooo alanons" post about my neighbor being "zonked" by a tree the size of godzilla, branch broke off, dove through his roof and "parked itself" in his living room.....WHAT a mess and HP was watching over his mom b/c the place that tree landed...	neshema2	6	522	Oct 12, 2014 by neshema2
	angry or sad, not too sure (Preview) I feel like ive reached another stage of my recovery. I have became aware that im still angry. I thought I had dealt with it because It passed after a few months in and I felt some compassion for the first time along with being able to forgive for the first time too. What I didnt realise was that I had only scr...	el-cee	15	643	Oct 12, 2014 by sookie
	I just have to say it .. (Preview) 3 more days! Ok .. so realize this is the closest I have been to the end date .. now I can really see that the God of my understanding has moved every single atty out who hasn't been looking out for me. I really like this last gal and I think she understands how awful I have been treated throughout this proce...	SerenityRUS	3	441	Oct 12, 2014 by wornoutmrsfixit
	Pls help me give lots of kudo's to Violet B. 1 year sober! (Preview)	John	15	775	Oct 12, 2014 by Luiza
	Gratitude challenge---Saturday (Preview) today I am grateful for: my good healthmy kids and g.kids are healthy and safemy needs are metit is chilly and cloudy out but I am warm and comfy in my "new" houseI am paying down that c/card...piece by piece....I have many folks who love me/like memy kitty is OK , sharing the other crate w/t...	neshema2	12	520	Oct 12, 2014 by Luiza
	My Dad is dying (Preview) Hello everyone I am new to this board and am hoping you can help me in some way to come to terms with this. My Dad is 81 years old and probably an end stage alcoholic. He is also 90% deaf and has moderate dementia. If his dementia was more severe we could probably have him put int a complete care facility. As it...	shaz	18	623	Oct 12, 2014 by grateful2be
	Step 5 (Preview) I am going out of town camping(like cloudy skies) on Monday until next Saturday. No tent but in a heated cabin I have posted a new Step 5 to the Step Board Please visit and share your thoughts. Learn How The Twelve Steps Work.Participate in your own recovery as well as the recovery of others, by b...	hotrod	7	310	Oct 12, 2014 by Debb
	New, scared, and overwhelmed (Preview) I am new here and have never done a message board before. My AH is spiraling out of control but does not think he needs help. He drinks and drives and has started experiencing black outs. Yesterday he showed up at my daughter's sporting event drunk. My other daughter (we have 4 children ages 17-12) w...	momofjems	21	806	Oct 12, 2014 by neshema2
	Neighbor (Preview) I have a neighbor that lives next door to me our driveways are side by side she moved in several mths ago she is a recovering a she is in her late 30s and a beautiful young lady lately she im pretty sure is relapse ing big time she stopped her meetings and hanging with the same ppl her bf is a policeman that I've...	lookingup	4	274	Oct 12, 2014 by lookingup
	progress (Preview) there's been a lot of love going around for mip lately and I want to add mine too. I've attended online meetings and one face to face. I have been gratefully bombarded with literature suggestions and read as much as I can. Yesterday I bought myself three bunches of flowers,just because I could and becau...	aquamom23	4	358	Oct 11, 2014 by cloudyskies
	New beginnings it works if you work it.... hugs to all (Preview) I left my husband active alcoholic 2 years ago....dated him the last 6 months...and the only one who changed... was me... Thank you ALANON. Alanon was my life line, good friends and with hard work,attending meetings and participatingin this website I got strong and made good decisions for m...	whispers	12	578	Oct 11, 2014 by Green Eyes
	Just dropped by to say HELLOOOO alanons (Preview) Hey Everyone!!!! Its been a busy 4 month or so.....things began to really change for me in July, early in the month... My daughter #2 called me and said "I miss my mommy" and I told her that I missed her too, but right is right..wrong is wrong and boundaries are sincere.....so we met in sorta b...	neshema2	15	566	Oct 11, 2014 by neshema2
	Missed you all! (Preview) I sure have missed you all. I've been on a mini vacation with AH. We went camping and did some fishing. The dang fish weren't biting, though. But the river was absolutely beautiful and the weather was gorgeous. I was remembering a few months ago (almost 6 months). Had God not led me to Al-Anon, I'm not su...	cloudyskies	6	251	Oct 11, 2014 by el-cee
	Never Ending Nightmare (Preview) I am sitting here with a gun and bullets on my dining room table that my son and I found in my recently relapsed, soon to be ex AH's house. He was being held in jail over the weekend for making threats of violence and death to me over the phone while in a drunken rage about a week ago. Since I filed for divorce...	wornoutmrsfixit	21	750	Oct 11, 2014 by Sweet Stanley
	Remember I said... (Preview) Remember a few days ago I said, there was a guy who is advertising a room around the corner from me...he has "big ramshackle house with lots of character", a dog that is starving for another dog's company...and I said i just had a "feeling" about it? LOL well, we emailed back and f...	missmeliss	9	574	Oct 11, 2014 by Sweet Stanley
	Loss due to addiction (Preview) Not really sure what I expect to gain from this... maybe just for someone to tell me I am not Crazy. My only sibling passed on Nov. 27 2013 at the age of 36 due to kidney and liver failure brought on by septic shock. Try as I might to help him, I knew he was the only one that could do what needed to be done. He went i...	Chellelynn	3	791	Oct 11, 2014 by cloudyskies
	In need of some of your tales of experiences, strength and hope. (Preview) Hi Everyone, I feel pretty low today. I woke up at 5am and couldn't sleep again. I have had really chronic tension in my body for over 4 years which has completely taken over my life and I seem to clench everything in my sleep (teeth, jaw, legs, stomach), and then the whole of the following day I am in such p...	singingnick377	10	599	Oct 11, 2014 by singingnick377
	Quitting my job (Preview) There... I've said it. I can hardly believe that in another month it will be two years since she passed away. I wanted to call my mom yesterday because it seems no one else could really understand what I'm going through at work. No one else will answer the phone with such delighted surprise because...	tiredtonite	15	579	Oct 10, 2014 by Temple
	Grandiosity and Mr Nice Guy (Preview) So, my AH has been on a Mr Perfect routine right now. Being really nice, doing things that go above and beyond, helping me with stuff he's never helped with before, etc. It's like he doesn't seem to understand that I'm done and that we're splitting up soon. He seems to be grasping at things which he thi...	andromeda	12	705	Oct 10, 2014 by bud
	Fiancé is getting out of rehab for first time. What can I expect? (Preview) He checked himself into rehab for a few weeks and is coming home soon to myself and our 2 1/2 year old. What can I expect? I know we'll both be going to meetings, which is great. But I'm so nervous I'll be walking on eggshells every day. I'm scared to get him stressed out in any way. Will he feel good after re...	Gleleni	5	463	Oct 10, 2014 by pinkchip
	Thank You! Yesterday was awesome (Preview) I've been feeling pretty down, found out I've been betrayed once again in a 4 year relationship once again ended it. I dont hurt as much this time. Realizing we both have 2 different sets of morals. I've been looking for a sponsor an getting finding rejection, one of the 3 groups I attend the leader was up...	Newpaths	8	514	Oct 10, 2014 by grateful2be
	Acts just like an AH (Preview) My sister in law thought this forum may help me. My husband does not use alcohol. However, he behaves exactly like an adult child of an alcoholic. I have not participated in an Alanon program but have read the 12 step book. He has recently mailed me divorce papers. I have searched online divorce f...	JustLea	5	363	Oct 10, 2014 by Mirandac
	5 more days .. (Preview) LOL .. this feels like dejuv at this point .. did I not say this before? Can't post to much right now just want to say we will have a court date on Wednesday and I WILL be divorced unless of course there is an act of God at which point I give up .. I will just stay married and leave everything as is .. lol. I'm so d...	SerenityRUS	4	431	Oct 10, 2014 by Temple
	Prayers please .. (Preview) I have really been struggling obviously over the past week or so and just need extra prayers of support during this extremely difficult time. There have been a lot of good things to come out of it .. still it's very difficult to not get stuck in my fear and let my anxiety fly. I have a meeting with my atty o...	SerenityRUS	17	455	Oct 10, 2014 by Jackie11
	Feeling so sorry for STBXA (Preview) He has been quiet and keeping himself to himself lately, his moving out is all organised and he is agreeable with the separation. But I look at him and he looks so depressed and sad. It must be hard leaving the family home and not being able to see our daughter often. I am not backtracking, I know I gave him l...	Luiza	13	557	Oct 10, 2014 by JustLea
	Bed Bugs (Preview) This is definitely a gross topic My AH called this morning pretty upset and said that the 1/2 way house and the 3/4 way house which sit next door to each other are infested with bed bugs and they were told not to tell anyone! He was upset because a few months ago he told me of the problem at the same houses and I...	Flower49	5	454	Oct 10, 2014 by Debilyn
	Relapse and slips I'm attending the step meeting tonight at 9pm can't wait excited here. (Preview) These 2words scare the dinkins out of me for some reason I know I goes that I'm not immune to them from far.ive been studying on step one most f morning I didn't realize there was is so much to just that one step.very interesting indeed I know now that my life gets out of control with people which has made my l...	lookingup	5	565	Oct 9, 2014 by PP
	Total disbelief! (Preview) So it's been almost 3 months since my ex AH dropped me by text, no apology, nothing. Although for my part I know it's made things far easier and I'm grateful that he hasn't tried contacting me. When we would previously split he would relentlessly contact me, one minute pouring his heart out, the next b...	Flossy	2	370	Oct 9, 2014 by Mattie
	Had a great meeting like always here in mip (Preview) I'm learning a lot about sick ppl for sure I'm still sticking with step one caused I beleive that's where I'm stuck at for now or however long it takes me to fully understand it and grasp its meaning.im decided to stay single and not let myself get into another relationship for at least however long it tak...	lookingup	6	340	Oct 9, 2014 by grateful2be
	just for today.... (Preview) ... I will try to set my mind to being happy, like abraham lincoln. Ive been a miserable boot lately. Really busy, procrastinating like a pro but tired. so this is my morning attempt at setting up a happy mindset. Im grateful for... Crisp autumn weather. Central heating My grown kids being healthy, w...	el-cee	10	547	Oct 9, 2014 by el-cee
	The things they say! (Preview) Temple, I am starting a new post in light of what you picked up on my Just thinking thread, you were indeed the only one that picked up on my husband saying he doesn't use our washing machine, in my mind that felt like he was saying it's not my problem! So I am on holiday from work this week hence all my postin...	Katy	8	479	Oct 9, 2014 by Katy
	Xbf trying to push (Preview) Xbf has tried everything from a-z and back agin texting over and over i gave him everything he had here holding nothing of his and with all the chaos I plum forgot to get my house key to my bottem locks on my house only key I had he started off with he was dieing wanted me to take him to er that didn't work then he...	lookingup	6	495	Oct 9, 2014 by lookingup
	Mini freak out with a great learning lesson with it (Preview) I have to admit now after a few years in program and making a lot of the changes, things have gotten a lot better, especially in my thinking. I used to just live in crisis mode and walk around freaking out. Now when it happens it throws me for a loop, even when it's not a full blown deal. So my boyfriend of 6 mo...	Breakingfree	7	532	Oct 9, 2014 by Breakingfree
	"What's A going to do? Where's A going to live?" (Preview) I'm tired of these questions. I don't know what he's going to do. I don't want to think about it. I don't know if he's going to get a job. I don't know if he's going to "straighten himself out now". I don't know if his brother is going to help him move. I don't know if he's going to get his old car fixe...	missmeliss	19	699	Oct 9, 2014 by Fairlee
	Just finished up nightly mip meeting (Preview) Flower from mip gave me a ph.no and web address for a place to call to get help for myself and to help me with the addict in my life and I lost it does anybody have this ph no.ty lu	lookingup	1	209	Oct 9, 2014 by grateful2be
	Haven't been 2 a meeting (Preview) I haven't been to a meeting since Febuary 2014 lots has happen and the two people that have tried to talk with me from my home group I really don't want to talk to. I can say this I'm not sure if I will go to meetings again. I became frustrated with the meetings that are around. I do go to an open AA speakers meet...	KathieG	1	236	Oct 8, 2014 by hotrod
	Acceptance (Preview) I am feeling better these days in relation to my situation. I have to every day look at this realistically and be open minded. I of course was not happy that my AH now has up to 180 days he has to stay in a 3/4 way house, yet I am feeling more peace as we started our marriage counseling this week, I am allowed to d...	Flower49	20	745	Oct 8, 2014 by Newlife girl
	Sponser (Preview) How did you find your sponsor, what did you look for, helpful tips	Newpaths	7	489	Oct 8, 2014 by Newpaths
	Just thinking! (Preview) When your on the same page as someone they just so get you, sometimes just a look is enough for you to know they they understand, but when your not on the same page I know I am always trying to fight my corner explain myself reason with and I am talking about in relationship to my husband, I am soooooooooo no...	Katy	16	541	Oct 8, 2014 by Jerry F
	TRADITION 12 (Preview) Tradition 12: Anonymity is the spiritual foundation of all our traditions, ever reminding us to place principles above personalities. Pages 63 and 64 in our alanon book, AL-ANON FAMILY GROUPS, offers more than one simple description of the power of this tradition. It offers more than we might t...	wp	2	246	Oct 8, 2014 by hotrod
	So it's been over a week with no "reacting" from me.... (Preview) I am working on the first step, it has been like a huge weight has been lifted as I stop trying to control everything and everyone! admitting I am powerless against this horrible disease. I finally get that I can't fix this...for a control freak like myself, I cannot believe how empowering this feels! ...	Fairlee	3	434	Oct 8, 2014 by aquamom23
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