This is definitely a gross topic My AH called this morning pretty upset and said that the 1/2 way house and the 3/4 way house which sit next door to each other are infested with bed bugs and they were told not to tell anyone! He was upset because a few months ago he told me of the problem at the same houses and I told him there was no way I would visit then if they have an active infestation because I won't take the chance of carrying them back to my house.

He is really upset and doesn't know what to do. We won't be able to do the activities we are assigned by the marriage counselor if I don't go visit. Me, I am not to worried about it because I know my boundary and it is what it is. I did however file complaints with our local and state agencies because I find it utterly ridiculous to tell the guys living there not to tell anyone and to wrap your bed in saran wrap. Families have the right to know so they can make an informed decision on whether to visit or not.

I didn't respond to much to him when he was ranting and raving, other than to offer the suggestion that he call his attorney and let her know, tell the staff that as a client that has to pay to stay in that place he expects a solution. Basically I told him to just do what I do, say what you mean, mean what you say and don't say it meanly. I felt pretty good this morning that this newest issue didn't really trigger a huge reaction from me. Progress!