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I have a neighbor that lives next door to me our driveways are side by side she moved in several mths ago she is a recovering a she is in her late 30s and a beautiful young lady lately she im pretty sure is relapse ing big time she stopped her meetings and hanging with the same ppl her bf is a policeman that I've known most my life he don't want any commitments .she lives alone and here  im liveing alone so we visit each other  she comes over for coffee most mornings,she has paranoia which she controls with meds I've seen her have a few app isomers with it I'm gonna just come out and ask her if and why she stopped her recovery she is diff. As just in she is from way up north and I live here in miss.i am learning though not to say a whole lot cause she wants to talk and she talks .and I can see her paranoia in her when I say something like ...lets google that drug and she starts raising her. Lice in fear saying oh no they trace things on here.i don't know how to handle such sit or ppl.i try to limit my contact with her she kinda knew my xbf and. Ow she has his ph. No in her phone which I could care less she texts him .i told her just to never tell him she even talks to me or visits me she respected my wishes so far.my anxiety gets up when I get around her for some reason I'm always glad to see her leave and I'm always glad to leave .maybe I'm makeing something out of something that's not there  I dunno just trying to keep and maintain my serenity with everybody and everything wherever I may be and that's going on.thanks for listening.

 



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Hanging around drinking A's is always going to bring chaos into the picture.  So I think your instincts are pretty right on that she's someone that makes you uncomfortable.  Looks like this might be a chance to practice setting some boundaries when the stakes are lower (not an intimate relationship).  Take good care of yourself.



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Good that you are noticing your own misgivings about the neighbor?  Honoring your thoughts and feelings by limiting your exposure sounds like it is working for you.



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I don't feel it is any of my business to ask anyone something so personal.

Trust your intuition and do what you feel is right. All you need is more drama!Plus this is dangerous to your recovery.NO different than a person in recovery drinks that first drink....



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Thanks for all the esh very much needed .

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