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JustLea


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My sister in law thought this forum may help me.  My husband does not use alcohol.  However, he behaves exactly like an adult child of an alcoholic.  I have not participated in an Alanon program but have read the 12 step book.  He has recently mailed me divorce papers. I have searched online divorce forums but most include men and women boo-hooing about what their ex has done to them.  What I am looking for is help to be OK, to find happiness in myself, strength to break the cycle and maintain my dignity.  I'm hurt obviously, I love this man but there is not a darn thing I can do but figure out how to be OK.  Hope you will include me in your group and help me work through some possible solutions. 



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Of course you are welcome!  You will find this group supportive and compassionate, many have been integrating for several years.  I hope you are able to find good support for this difficult time.



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welcome to mip I've not been here long but think anyone affected by another's addiction who needs sense making in the middle of craziness has come to the right place.



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Welcome to MIP. I have to say that I truly don't know how an adult child of an alcoholic behaves. I do wonder if there might have been alcoholism in your family of origin? Sometimes in life, I have seen what I thought was another person's issue when it was really my own. If there is alcoholism in your family, perhaps attending Al-Anon face to face meetings will be an added benefit to you as well as MIP?

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Temple


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I applaud the acceptance with which you have met this trial.

Welcome! We may not have been in your exact shoes, but we all know what it feels like to be with somebody who does not behave "normally," for whatever reason.

You already understand that the focus needs to be on us.

How wonderful that you have a supportive sister-in-law. What a boon.

Temple

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Mirandac


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You can also check into www.divorcecare.org. That is helping me
Tremendously. They are face to face meetings and it is an international
Group. It is god based but they do not push it. It is very Like
A 12 step program. They help you thru the process and pain
Of divorce. Its 13 weeks long and you can join at any time.

I also attend alanon ftf, have a sponsor ,read literature. Right
Now melody beattie "the language of letting go "is my main book
for comfort and Healing. My brain is not working very well with
all the stress,hurt And pain.

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