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Xbf has tried everything from a-z and back agin texting over and over i gave him everything he had here holding nothing of his and with all the chaos I plum forgot to get my house key to my bottem locks on my house only key I had he started off with he was dieing wanted me to take him to er that didn't work then he went to talking hateful the pen dirty then nicely then to I love you then to im sorry for all the ugly things I just said to u I hope you know I was just kidding....so I didn't know if he will give me my key I haven't the money to buy another lock set I gave a lot for that set I have on my doors last summer so I have nothing he wants or needs back in exchange for my key now since I accidently not get my key from him.i so want this to be over with I know reason he is doing this is because his liveing sit ain't good im sure no telling where he is haveing to lay or sleep and from piller to post.so yes he is desperate to get back into his comfort zone here and mess my world up agin and NO it's not gonna happen here not in this lifetime he is a meth head .and needs help but that's his problem not mine I have my recovery and am working it as hard as I can.he can be my set back if I allow him to be.i may or may not get my key back I dunno may just have to chalk up my losses agin there .trying to keep my sanity here.
On chalking up losses dear looking up, what is it that you are losing? The greatest loss in my view is that of ourselves. He sounds like a user. Reading your posts, I feel as if you are so used to the drama of an addict that it is easy to lose sight of where you are. Whens the last time you took yourself on a date? Maybe a movie and an ice cream could help you to forget him Lon enough to remember you. I don't know a lot about you from your posts, but I do know alot about the addicts as you have described them.
Habitat for Humanity and Thrift Stores like Salvation Army or Goodwill may have replacement locks for less cost than retail. You can also call an organization like St. Vincent DePaul to ask for help with obtaining a new lock that they might able to help you obtain? Good locking systems are not extremely expensive and these places can provide help for you? You might also want to see if you can put a no trespassing order on file with the City police that allows the police to arrest him if he is seen on your property or you can call to have him removed from your property. Refusing to answer his messages or blocking him from calling or texting call can also be in your favor since staying connected to him isn't a good idea given the most recent arrest and his other criminal behaviors.
Dear LU, Changing the lock is a great action to consider. Please remember to live One Day at a Time and that it is very important that your HP, serenity and sanity remain the most important focus for your day.
Just for Today select an alanon tool to focus on and remember to write out your asset and gratitude list
Thanks for the esh a freind of mine had a doctors appt and wanted me to go with her so she took me by the place he was staying and he was outside and ga e me my key back ,I've changed out my deadbolts locks and I'm gonna check to see how I can block his no.next .i found 1more bag of his clothes and I'm gonna take them and drop them off at the place he is staying when he isn't there .then I'll be done with him finished up hopefully .im working toward it .now to get back into my recovery program.this is all stressors I do not need nor his drama or chaotic behavior.
Great that you have so much awareness of his crazy behavior. I was going to say that you can get the locks re-keyed without having to change them, but it sounds as if you've done that already. I know this because I just got my own locks re-keyed to keep out my A! They really try hard to suck us back in. Because living off of other people is a full-time job for them and they sure don't want to lose that source of income and actually work for themselves. Stay strong!
