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Not really sure what I expect to gain from this... maybe just for someone to tell me I am not Crazy. My only sibling passed on Nov. 27 2013 at the age of 36 due to kidney and liver failure brought on by septic shock. Try as I might to help him, I knew he was the only one that could do what needed to be done. He went into inpatient rehab twice in the last two years of his life. As his 1 yr anniversary in heaven is quickly coming up I find my self wanting to find a 1 yr coin and place it on his grave. I know that physically he did not do this, but it makes my heart so happy to say he is finally sober. I prayed many a night that the lord help him, and my prayer was answered, just not in the way I expected. I also find myself wanting to go back to the counselor at the rehab he was at to talk to him, My brother told me on more than one occassion that there was so much I didn't know,that he could not tell me, I just don't know if they would be able to speak to me about it even though he is no longer here. Does Patient confidentiality still exist in that situation. Anyway thanks for listening & i hope to get to know some of you.
Welcome to MIP Chellelynn I am so sorry to read of this loss of your brother at such an early age to this dreadful disease. I too lost my only son to alcoholism 7 years ago at eh age of 41 and in retrospect I do see HP's' plan in action in taking him "home. " He prayed, tried to recover but it was not to be.
I did speak to my son's advisors while he was in 2 rehabs and they all said the same --He had it in him to recover and would be fine. This was not to be. I think that it is a lovely gesture to purchase the one year pin and you can also call the facility if you like This is all an anonymous program so I am sure they will not revel much of his story to you but can try
I also suggest that you search out alanon face to face meetings and attend They can help you deal with your sadness and loss in a constructive manner Keep coming back here as well There is hope
