Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

benedetta · benedetta

There are certain "veteran" members out there and there are very few of them, so please don't take offense to this if this doesn't apply to you. Certain people who've made mistake after mistake and have learned to twist and turn the principles of the program to fit their situation and make it okay inste...

Tiger2006 · Tiger2006

OMG it's been a weekend...But I want to talk to you anyway, so here goes. I swore when I left Wittenberg behind me I was gonna have a whole new life, a whole new being, a whole new thinking. A whole new...yeah. That idea? hasn't panned out. I'm finding out the more "writing intensiv...

bev · bev

he decided yesterday,that he wanted to go to rehab,but he had to get drunk first before going..he says that is the only way he can into detox is if he is drunk..him going into rehab is going to make moving back north a little harder,cause now i have a whole house to pack and figure out where i am going to put h...

hudsond · hudsond

O.k. for those who know a little of my history--you are going to say "not again", but it seems yes again. I have taken a pregnancy test and it would appear- I am yet again! I need prayers please that I can handle whatever comes. I doubt this one will "come to fruitition" I'm sorry I do...

Gailey · Gailey

I have changed my" post by" at the bottom of the page to "last modofied" but it keeps going back to "start date". Am I doing something wrong? When I click on a post to read, I have to start at the bottom where the original post is. Thanks for help in advance...Gail

Jennifer · Jennifer

Hello ((Everyone)) I was away for the weekend working on some things for my new living arrangements. When I came home yesterday I found bail papers on the kitchen counter, seems my A went to jail was bailed out and went back again all in one night. I've been praying for this to happen since I learned of t...

marty · marty

I have a problem with a women friends i told her to day that i need to break away from her on the phone i told her i love her but she says she dont love me,i have push my feeling for her to the back of my head more times than you can count but it builds up and drive me nuts about, in the past i have post...

DebiDeb · DebiDeb

I used to see all the new posts sorted to the top...now it seems each post is "locked" in the order it was orignally started, regardless of when any replies were added. I kinda liked to see the new posts sorted to the top. I've dug around for a setting, but can't seem to find it. Has someth...

hippietrippiechick · hippietrippiechick

It is 4:49 am, and I am just now calming down. I woke up and was the most major "Oscar the Grouch" to my A and life itself. I just bitched and whined. I don't know why. I just went off.. I am feeling tired. My body hurts and I know I need to get to the doctor but I have no way to get there. Maybe mom or dad will take me t...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

HI....It's that time of year. I am a SAD sufferer and married to a now sober alcoholic. Anyway, there is a new book released in 2005 by Dr. Norman Rosenthal on Seasonal Affective Disorder. www.normanrosenthal.com I was able to check one...

Andrea12 · Andrea12

(((((((Friends))))))))), Today is a meloncollie type of day for me....just can't seem to shake it....I am still really liking my job...kids seem to be getting better.....zach has even been getting out of the house and started weight lifting at school again...so happy about that..... the chi...

lmt123 · lmt123

Ok, so I thought I was going nutso when I replied to someone's post, and it posted as if they replied to mine...go figure...

Then I read a post and started seeing that it is happening to everyone else! Yayyyyy!!!!! I've not lost my mind AFTER ALL!

...

mama_nz · mama_nz

Why do I do it to myself? On Saturday night I went out with a girl friend and her boyfriend, to catch up and listen to some good live music. I had been waiting to hear from my A just before I left home to tell him that I was sorry for the way I had reacted to him that morning and that I wanted to give things...

hippietrippiechick · hippietrippiechick

Hello everyone, I haven't posted for a while. I like to be able to share good stuff and the problems too, so first of all, I would like to give you all a little gift before I get into my topic: Maybe writing this can help me too: This is for today, Jan, 14, and I am rewrting it some to not break copywright...

why · why

I AM SO CODEPENDANT THAT I JUST WANT TO SCREAM! I KNOW WHAT I AM DOING BUT I CANT ALWAYS CHANGE MY REACTIONS. MY HUSBAND IS OR WAS LIKE HE SAYS ADDICTED TO SEX. HE WAS FIANLLY AFTER YEARS OF THIS GOING ON AND GOING THROUGH SO MUCH THERAPY HE FINALLY HAS BEEN DIAGNOSED BI-POLAR. I AM EXHAUSTED AND LOST. I WENT T...

confused · confused

Just a question... i understand now that the information posted on this board is put out there into cyberspace. I guess I never really thought much about it, but yeah, it does make sense. My question is...and forgive my ignorance, but... Is all that is said in chat available as easily???...

bev · bev

well he is home,how he got out of paying a bond i dont know,first thing he said when he walked in was im sorry,i didnt say anything..he went in the bedroom..i went in awhile later and asked him if he still had the watch{it cost 300.00 ayear ago,and wanted to make sure he didnt pawn it}he still had it,but rem...

Rita G · Rita G

Yesterday, a good family friends laid to rest two sons - Q. 23 yrs old & C. 30 yrs old - Q. overdosed on Friday night and then while the family was preparing to attend the services, they were notified that C. had done the same thing. Now only God knows if either was intention or accident...

tryingtoheal · tryingtoheal

I think for the first time in my 47 years I'm realizing it's not my job to save the world, what a relief!! All kidding aside, I am seeing that in leaving my AH I am seeing hope in my own future and excited about living a life of truth, serenity and faith. I know I have a lot of work ahead of me and it isn't going to b...

Fifi · Fifi

Hi all Just wanted to share what made my day today. My 6 year old daughter was showing me her schoolwork folder and in it was something she had written at school....she is learning to write by herself and sounds out the words without asking for help...those of you with kids probably remember th...

Klynn · Klynn

I have not been on the past few days!! I came to realize somethings and I can smile now!! I guess it could be considered an awakening!?!? I was given a book at my first f2f by a member who I think felt really bad for me cause I cried....OK balled the whole time!! I was ment to go there and he was ment to give me the...

leo · leo

I feel I have to respond to both John and Isabela about the topic that is being pursued at the moment. The word FEAR is paramount here it is what brought Isabela to write her post in the first place. Was she naive NO, probably the same as the rest of us just feeling very vulnerable and wo...

Diva · Diva

I certainly did. "They" say that the two top resolutions are lose weight and quit smoking. Well, since I am very slim and do not smoke, I thought of something else. So far I am sticking to my resolution like glue. Here it is...DON'T BE PUSHED AROUND BY ANYONE ANYMORE!!! My A doesn't push me aroun...

Christy · Christy

This last ice storm killed my tree!! whaaaaa Hosted on Fotki [URL=http...

sandie123 · sandie123

My thinking has gone totally astray. I want to know too much, need to know it all. By this thinking I have stopped thinking at all. I've struggled with a HP. I am now at a point where I really don't know what spirituality is or what a spriitual journey is. I can understand that a spiritual journey means that...

Tiger2006 · Tiger2006

"...And acceptance is the answer to all of my problems today. When I am disturbed, it is because I find some person, place, thing or situation -- some fact of my life -- unacceptable to me, and I can find no serenity until I accept that person, place, thing or situation as being exactly the way it is suppos...

Jerry F · Jerry F

Just had a phone conversation with a sponsee who's alcoholic is near terminal. He is feeling lonely, helpless and lots (but not all) the things I used to feel when I was new to Al-Anon. He has chosen to hang on and be supportive to his alcoholic while they ride the roller coaster together an...

snoopy · snoopy

isabela40 wrote: The research I have done has shown that many many people turn to other addictions to solve the initial addiction. That is why many many people in AA are some serious smokers, including Bill W. who was a severe chain smoker. That is also why "13th steppin" is notori...

bev · bev

just got a call from AH,he called from jail they got him on dui or dwi not sure which,he goes brian{son in law}called the cops and they got me,he is blaming son in law..i told him that it isnt his fault or mine or my daughters,it is his fault..he said well i dont need to hear this right now that i have other thi...

snoopy · snoopy

I have come to the conclusion that I have an addiction also. I am addicted to Loren. And, believe me, that addiction is just as dangerous and deadly as if it were meth. People die of broken hearts, sometimes looking like a natural death, and sometimes it is not a natural death. But make no mistake, it is...

Fifi · Fifi

so tonight i am at the bottom of the barrel....no place lower to go. i feel like i am unlovable and there is no possibility for anyone to see the real me and be able to stand it. i lost a 15 yr relationship/10 yr marriage....i know it always takes two but i think it was my lack of strength,codependency, l...

jewely · jewely

i have had some kind of a major slip or a break of some sort or something. i am feeling afraid and vulnerable. all i can think of is step 2......, "came to believe in a power GREATER than ourselves [myself] that could restore us [me] to sanity" jewely

benedetta · benedetta

I am so out of touch of what is right/wrong anymore. So sick of everyone's advice. Sick of being sick and tired. I am sick of being a doormat. I am sick of coping with day to day life. I am sick of needy people who can't cope with everyday life and extremely sick of know it all's. Sick of the passive-aggressiv...

bev · bev

my daughter and son in law just got back from the store,they said that the store down the road has about 4 cop cars sitting there{prolly waiting for drunk drivers}my AH has to go right by that store to come home,they just left to go back to that store to tell the cops about my AH OUT somewhere drinking and wi...

cwheel · cwheel

I'm probably covering much of the same ground other posts have covered, but from what I've read on the message board, it doesn't seem like anyone minds that too much, so I'm going to tell my story, with the hope that the writing of it helps bring me out of the numb, dead feeling I have much of the time, and th...

bev · bev

it is now midnite and he isnt home yet,he started drinking very early this morning{10am}my daughter and i left to go set up for a yard sale that we were having that was down the road at a friends car sale busniness,around 1;30 he shows up and nocticed that his bike helmet was gone wanted to know wher...

bev · bev

i am finally making changes to my life,my daughter and her family r moving back to ny in a few weeks,and im moving back with them..i need to get as many miles between me and the AH as i can..his drinking is getting worse,and the verbal abuse is getting worse by each passing weekend..since i decided to move...

lmw · lmw

You may recall my husband was arrested for DUI on 12/30. He hit another car, and a telephone pole, then made it back to our house, where he was arrested. This is his 3rd in the last 4 years, 4th lifetime. I was pretty sure he was going to jail. I am now solely responsible for suppo...

bev · bev

he asked again tonite if i would buy him a circuler saw for him i said no,he has had 2 since last feb,and i told him i am not going to go and spend 150.00 on another one cuase he dont know how to take care of it..he got mad,he said fine i will take my pay checkand and go buy one, i said go ahead,like i told you...

gardengal · gardengal

Clearly a loved ones sobriety does not solve all our problems ,,,,nor does physical separation, or even death. Even those of us who have not been involved with any alcoholics for many years find that we continue to be affected by this family disease. In short, the effects of alcoholism---------- obs...

bubbles1990 · bubbles1990

Ok, I don't do a lot of post but i do repley to others post....... I am in a place rightnow that I feel scared..... When I was working my program I felt really good until I got to step 9 about making amends now when I went over my list with my Sponsor I felt really good like a new person when I got done... Bu...

rtexas · rtexas

(((((Everyone))))) Tiger and BlueCloud have inspired me to explore how well I am dealing with what is acceptable to me. Then I ran across the mySpace page for a friend of mine because I lost track of his phone number. (You lose touch with folks when you bury your head in your A-spouses sa...

kerry5 · kerry5

Agenda for Sunday January 14th 2006 Group Business Meeting at 9pm est Old Business Newcomers Meeting SChedule New Business Mipathon Mip Donations If any of you have any new business to be added please let me know or reply to this post thanks kerry

dot · dot

Hi all - Just a reminder that our Business Meeting is Sunday, Jan 14 @ 9pm ET. Hopefully you in the west can join us. Love and hugs - Dot

Christy · Christy

We have had an Amber alert in the area since Monday for a missing 13 yr old boy. Tonight he was found. But that's not the whole miracle!!! They also found another child that had been missing for 4.5 yrs (2002) at the same apartment!!! This is so awesome!!!! He is now 15 yrs old and his paren...

sissy · sissy

I am trying to set new golas for this year. I get nervous about not being able to meet them. I actually met one last year. I really need to get my spending under control. Any suggestions Marsha

DebiDeb · DebiDeb

I went to a one on one counseling session last Friday. During which, I was asked if I believed my AH when he said he quit drinking. I had a very difficult time answering the question, and I realize it was not because I didn't know the answer to a simple question, but rather what the answer might mean f...

hippietrippiechick · hippietrippiechick

Charlie, my boyriend I told you about, who has an alcohol problem and I feel his whole family is "fake" to me, is taking a shower, and he said his neice is coming to pick him up in a little while. He said "xxxx you" and is actually leaving. He said he will be in a hotel for the night. He ca...

Rita G · Rita G

MIP family, I will be out of touch with all of you for a few weeks - having surgery tomorrow on my elbow. (More hurricane recovery - lol) I'll be unable to type for about 2-4 weeks. Hopefully if I heal fast, I can be back sooner than the full 4 weeks. Have to share this funny moment with you -...

lylaanju · lylaanju

Hi, in the 9 years that I have been with my husband, I have never see the disease progress the way I have in the last 2 months, particularly last night. He has been sober a lot of those 9 years, but in the last 3 yrs, only a few months at a time. Anyway, last night, for the first time, instead of feeling angry, bi...

lilleah · lilleah

I don't know what point I am at, excpet that I am just plain tired. My A goes out when he gets paid, without fail, the only time he does not go out is when he is broke, so I have just come to expcet he will be going to the bar when he is paid, until he is broke, anyway, I used to get mad, get an attitude, and we would ju...

Gailey · Gailey

Well this city of Baltimore is hopping today. Everywhere you look there is purple. The city is so excited about tomorrow's game against the Colts. I am not a football fan but I am caught up in all the excitement. I had a co-worker ask me to go to the game with h...

Tiger2006 · Tiger2006

It is said that while we continue to change, it is worth remembering that WE are the ones changing, not our loved ones. As much as we want them to, we cannot force another to change, wish change upon them, or, in some other fashion, convince someone not willing to change to do so. As I embra...

DebiDeb · DebiDeb

My husband hasn't had a drink for 15 days. We've talked more than I ever remember talking before - and it feels good. I don't know if it was smart to show my husband what I wrote in my first post here (along with everyone's comments), but I did. We really had a great talk after it.&nbs...

mama_nz · mama_nz

After deciding not to spend Christmas with my ex(A) I realised that the world didn't end and I am okay without him, and I had the peaceful Christmas I wanted. Then 2 days after Xmas he calls me and he wants to meet up to talk and so I go, and again he is telling me that he wants to tell me that he is going to...

Elizabeth M · Elizabeth M

Haven't had the energy to write lately...takes alot of energy to work this program. AH stayed out all night last night...this was a first for him..came home with a "could care less and I did nothing wrong " attitude. See the disease taking over...scary to watch. Wasted half the da...

hippietrippiechick · hippietrippiechick

I just wanted to post a special thank you to all who posted back to me, even though I am so wrapped up in myself that I cannot seem to post to too many others with issues, even if I can relate. I wanted you all to know that tonight is a gift from God. A very quiet night so far. I think he really realizes I do not fe...

Autumn118 · Autumn118

I'm new to the program & fell into it head first. I need help. Friday before Christmas found myself in family court receiving temp emergency custody of 6yr old granddaughter with endless emotional and behavioral problems. Going back to court Tues, other side of family is fi...

maresie2 · maresie2

I have had to work in training this week with a woman who is really stuck in the martyr role. I've had my own turn of course of doing that. I'm naturally loathe to admit I did it at work and in lots of relationships. Being around her has been a mixed blessing. On the one hand I can empathise with h...

ZiggyDoodles · ZiggyDoodles

I have a complaint that I have nothing to complain about. No drama to speak of going in my life. I guess I could turn a few things into drama if I give it the old college try. Why would I want to though? I am 29. For 27 of those years, I was a complainer. Anything and everyth...

Topic		Started By	Replies	Views	Last Post
	Those with a "strong" program (Preview) There are certain "veteran" members out there and there are very few of them, so please don't take offense to this if this doesn't apply to you. Certain people who've made mistake after mistake and have learned to twist and turn the principles of the program to fit their situation and make it okay inste...	benedetta	14	967	Jan 16, 2007 by aunitedway
	So, it'll be interesting to see how THIS posts.... (Preview) OMG it's been a weekend...But I want to talk to you anyway, so here goes. I swore when I left Wittenberg behind me I was gonna have a whole new life, a whole new being, a whole new thinking. A whole new...yeah. That idea? hasn't panned out. I'm finding out the more "writing intensiv...	Tiger2006	8	543	Jan 16, 2007 by Tiger2006
	went to rehab (Preview) he decided yesterday,that he wanted to go to rehab,but he had to get drunk first before going..he says that is the only way he can into detox is if he is drunk..him going into rehab is going to make moving back north a little harder,cause now i have a whole house to pack and figure out where i am going to put h...	bev	4	467	Jan 16, 2007 by lin0606
	Oh my--prayers please! (Preview) O.k. for those who know a little of my history--you are going to say "not again", but it seems yes again. I have taken a pregnancy test and it would appear- I am yet again! I need prayers please that I can handle whatever comes. I doubt this one will "come to fruitition" I'm sorry I do...	hudsond	7	320	Jan 16, 2007 by hudsond
	reading posts from last to first (Preview) I have changed my" post by" at the bottom of the page to "last modofied" but it keeps going back to "start date". Am I doing something wrong? When I click on a post to read, I have to start at the bottom where the original post is. Thanks for help in advance...Gail	Gailey	3	301	Jan 16, 2007 by hudsond
	My prayer is answered and it hurts so bad (Preview) Hello ((Everyone)) I was away for the weekend working on some things for my new living arrangements. When I came home yesterday I found bail papers on the kitchen counter, seems my A went to jail was bailed out and went back again all in one night. I've been praying for this to happen since I learned of t...	Jennifer	6	512	Jan 16, 2007 by carosie
	trying to let go of a friend (Preview) I have a problem with a women friends i told her to day that i need to break away from her on the phone i told her i love her but she says she dont love me,i have push my feeling for her to the back of my head more times than you can count but it builds up and drive me nuts about, in the past i have post...	marty	1	357	Jan 16, 2007 by lin0606
	Quick and easy questions about this board (I think!) (Preview) I used to see all the new posts sorted to the top...now it seems each post is "locked" in the order it was orignally started, regardless of when any replies were added. I kinda liked to see the new posts sorted to the top. I've dug around for a setting, but can't seem to find it. Has someth...	DebiDeb	10	585	Jan 16, 2007 by ZiggyDoodles
	woke up middle of night and had a major outburst--no reason (Preview) It is 4:49 am, and I am just now calming down. I woke up and was the most major "Oscar the Grouch" to my A and life itself. I just bitched and whined. I don't know why. I just went off.. I am feeling tired. My body hurts and I know I need to get to the doctor but I have no way to get there. Maybe mom or dad will take me t...	hippietrippiechick	1	279	Jan 16, 2007 by fluffy
	SAD/Seas. Affective Disorder/ Mood DIsorders (Preview) HI....It's that time of year. I am a SAD sufferer and married to a now sober alcoholic. Anyway, there is a new book released in 2005 by Dr. Norman Rosenthal on Seasonal Affective Disorder. www.normanrosenthal.com I was able to check one...	wallsal55	2	300	Jan 16, 2007 by fluffy
	Reflecting, Smelling the Roses (Preview) (((((((Friends))))))))), Today is a meloncollie type of day for me....just can't seem to shake it....I am still really liking my job...kids seem to be getting better.....zach has even been getting out of the house and started weight lifting at school again...so happy about that..... the chi...	Andrea12	6	356	Jan 16, 2007 by mel123
	LOLOLOLOL...... (Preview) Ok, so I thought I was going nutso when I replied to someone's post, and it posted as if they replied to mine...go figure... Then I read a post and started seeing that it is happening to everyone else! Yayyyyy!!!!! I've not lost my mind AFTER ALL! ...	lmt123	3	337	Jan 16, 2007 by Christy
	Backsliding (Preview) Why do I do it to myself? On Saturday night I went out with a girl friend and her boyfriend, to catch up and listen to some good live music. I had been waiting to hear from my A just before I left home to tell him that I was sorry for the way I had reacted to him that morning and that I wanted to give things...	mama_nz	4	322	Jan 15, 2007 by Fifi
	My A wants to have a talk-- I just want to to alone (Preview) Hello everyone, I haven't posted for a while. I like to be able to share good stuff and the problems too, so first of all, I would like to give you all a little gift before I get into my topic: Maybe writing this can help me too: This is for today, Jan, 14, and I am rewrting it some to not break copywright...	hippietrippiechick	7	406	Jan 15, 2007 by tea2
	NEWBIE: I AM SO CONFUSED... (Preview) I AM SO CODEPENDANT THAT I JUST WANT TO SCREAM! I KNOW WHAT I AM DOING BUT I CANT ALWAYS CHANGE MY REACTIONS. MY HUSBAND IS OR WAS LIKE HE SAYS ADDICTED TO SEX. HE WAS FIANLLY AFTER YEARS OF THIS GOING ON AND GOING THROUGH SO MUCH THERAPY HE FINALLY HAS BEEN DIAGNOSED BI-POLAR. I AM EXHAUSTED AND LOST. I WENT T...	why	4	299	Jan 15, 2007 by why
	question about site and what actually "goes out there" (Preview) Just a question... i understand now that the information posted on this board is put out there into cyberspace. I guess I never really thought much about it, but yeah, it does make sense. My question is...and forgive my ignorance, but... Is all that is said in chat available as easily???...	confused	2	444	Jan 15, 2007 by confused
	he is home (Preview) well he is home,how he got out of paying a bond i dont know,first thing he said when he walked in was im sorry,i didnt say anything..he went in the bedroom..i went in awhile later and asked him if he still had the watch{it cost 300.00 ayear ago,and wanted to make sure he didnt pawn it}he still had it,but rem...	bev	5	324	Jan 15, 2007 by jaja
	The disease takes two more (Preview) Yesterday, a good family friends laid to rest two sons - Q. 23 yrs old & C. 30 yrs old - Q. overdosed on Friday night and then while the family was preparing to attend the services, they were notified that C. had done the same thing. Now only God knows if either was intention or accident...	Rita G	13	558	Jan 15, 2007 by Tiger2006
	Coming out of the codependent cloud (Preview) I think for the first time in my 47 years I'm realizing it's not my job to save the world, what a relief!! All kidding aside, I am seeing that in leaving my AH I am seeing hope in my own future and excited about living a life of truth, serenity and faith. I know I have a lot of work ahead of me and it isn't going to b...	tryingtoheal	7	487	Jan 15, 2007 by ZiggyDoodles
	6 year old self love (Preview) Hi all Just wanted to share what made my day today. My 6 year old daughter was showing me her schoolwork folder and in it was something she had written at school....she is learning to write by herself and sounds out the words without asking for help...those of you with kids probably remember th...	Fifi	5	286	Jan 15, 2007 by Fifi
	an update!! (Preview) I have not been on the past few days!! I came to realize somethings and I can smile now!! I guess it could be considered an awakening!?!? I was given a book at my first f2f by a member who I think felt really bad for me cause I cried....OK balled the whole time!! I was ment to go there and he was ment to give me the...	Klynn	3	290	Jan 15, 2007 by carosie
	Fear (Preview) I feel I have to respond to both John and Isabela about the topic that is being pursued at the moment. The word FEAR is paramount here it is what brought Isabela to write her post in the first place. Was she naive NO, probably the same as the rest of us just feeling very vulnerable and wo...	leo	1	379	Jan 15, 2007 by leo
	Did you make a New Year's Resolution? (Preview) I certainly did. "They" say that the two top resolutions are lose weight and quit smoking. Well, since I am very slim and do not smoke, I thought of something else. So far I am sticking to my resolution like glue. Here it is...DON'T BE PUSHED AROUND BY ANYONE ANYMORE!!! My A doesn't push me aroun...	Diva	8	402	Jan 15, 2007 by gardengal
	Yeesh!!!! my poor tree (Preview) This last ice storm killed my tree!! whaaaaa Hosted on Fotki [URL=http...	Christy	12	504	Jan 15, 2007 by gardengal
	Spirituality and Spiritual Journey~ Help Needed! (Preview) My thinking has gone totally astray. I want to know too much, need to know it all. By this thinking I have stopped thinking at all. I've struggled with a HP. I am now at a point where I really don't know what spirituality is or what a spriitual journey is. I can understand that a spiritual journey means that...	sandie123	7	563	Jan 15, 2007 by leo
	"....And acceptence is the answer to all of my problems today..." (Preview) "...And acceptance is the answer to all of my problems today. When I am disturbed, it is because I find some person, place, thing or situation -- some fact of my life -- unacceptable to me, and I can find no serenity until I accept that person, place, thing or situation as being exactly the way it is suppos...	Tiger2006	3	448	Jan 15, 2007 by John
	A miracle in progress (Preview) Just had a phone conversation with a sponsee who's alcoholic is near terminal. He is feeling lonely, helpless and lots (but not all) the things I used to feel when I was new to Al-Anon. He has chosen to hang on and be supportive to his alcoholic while they ride the roller coaster together an...	Jerry F	3	1951	Jan 15, 2007 by nmike
	Trading one addiction for another (Preview) isabela40 wrote: The research I have done has shown that many many people turn to other addictions to solve the initial addiction. That is why many many people in AA are some serious smokers, including Bill W. who was a severe chain smoker. That is also why "13th steppin" is notori...	snoopy	9	1388	Jan 15, 2007 by Cucamonga
	he is in jail (Preview) just got a call from AH,he called from jail they got him on dui or dwi not sure which,he goes brian{son in law}called the cops and they got me,he is blaming son in law..i told him that it isnt his fault or mine or my daughters,it is his fault..he said well i dont need to hear this right now that i have other thi...	bev	5	455	Jan 15, 2007 by lin0606
	addicted to my husband (Preview) I have come to the conclusion that I have an addiction also. I am addicted to Loren. And, believe me, that addiction is just as dangerous and deadly as if it were meth. People die of broken hearts, sometimes looking like a natural death, and sometimes it is not a natural death. But make no mistake, it is...	snoopy	10	445	Jan 14, 2007 by Klynn
	can't do it (Preview) so tonight i am at the bottom of the barrel....no place lower to go. i feel like i am unlovable and there is no possibility for anyone to see the real me and be able to stand it. i lost a 15 yr relationship/10 yr marriage....i know it always takes two but i think it was my lack of strength,codependency, l...	Fifi	7	473	Jan 14, 2007 by Klynn
	i have had a major slip or......... something (Preview) i have had some kind of a major slip or a break of some sort or something. i am feeling afraid and vulnerable. all i can think of is step 2......, "came to believe in a power GREATER than ourselves [myself] that could restore us [me] to sanity" jewely	jewely	3	289	Jan 14, 2007 by jewely
	Sick and tired (Preview) I am so out of touch of what is right/wrong anymore. So sick of everyone's advice. Sick of being sick and tired. I am sick of being a doormat. I am sick of coping with day to day life. I am sick of needy people who can't cope with everyday life and extremely sick of know it all's. Sick of the passive-aggressiv...	benedetta	4	318	Jan 14, 2007 by cwheel
	something else (Preview) my daughter and son in law just got back from the store,they said that the store down the road has about 4 cop cars sitting there{prolly waiting for drunk drivers}my AH has to go right by that store to come home,they just left to go back to that store to tell the cops about my AH OUT somewhere drinking and wi...	bev	1	244	Jan 14, 2007 by cwheel
	New here, but with old theme (Preview) I'm probably covering much of the same ground other posts have covered, but from what I've read on the message board, it doesn't seem like anyone minds that too much, so I'm going to tell my story, with the hope that the writing of it helps bring me out of the numb, dead feeling I have much of the time, and th...	cwheel	10	486	Jan 14, 2007 by cwheel
	he went the bar at 3 this afternoon (Preview) it is now midnite and he isnt home yet,he started drinking very early this morning{10am}my daughter and i left to go set up for a yard sale that we were having that was down the road at a friends car sale busniness,around 1;30 he shows up and nocticed that his bike helmet was gone wanted to know wher...	bev	0	301	Jan 14, 2007 by bev
	making changes (Preview) i am finally making changes to my life,my daughter and her family r moving back to ny in a few weeks,and im moving back with them..i need to get as many miles between me and the AH as i can..his drinking is getting worse,and the verbal abuse is getting worse by each passing weekend..since i decided to move...	bev	6	286	Jan 13, 2007 by peewee
	HP works in mysterious ways (Preview) You may recall my husband was arrested for DUI on 12/30. He hit another car, and a telephone pole, then made it back to our house, where he was arrested. This is his 3rd in the last 4 years, 4th lifetime. I was pretty sure he was going to jail. I am now solely responsible for suppo...	lmw	5	410	Jan 13, 2007 by peewee
	again he asked if i could buy him a new saw (Preview) he asked again tonite if i would buy him a circuler saw for him i said no,he has had 2 since last feb,and i told him i am not going to go and spend 150.00 on another one cuase he dont know how to take care of it..he got mad,he said fine i will take my pay checkand and go buy one, i said go ahead,like i told you...	bev	3	274	Jan 13, 2007 by debilyn
	Seeking solutions for ourselves (Preview) Clearly a loved ones sobriety does not solve all our problems ,,,,nor does physical separation, or even death. Even those of us who have not been involved with any alcoholics for many years find that we continue to be affected by this family disease. In short, the effects of alcoholism---------- obs...	gardengal	2	299	Jan 13, 2007 by Lunamoth
	Question of can you fall out of love with yourself???? (Preview) Ok, I don't do a lot of post but i do repley to others post....... I am in a place rightnow that I feel scared..... When I was working my program I felt really good until I got to step 9 about making amends now when I went over my list with my Sponsor I felt really good like a new person when I got done... Bu...	bubbles1990	3	329	Jan 13, 2007 by drucilla06
	Happiness isn't a goal... its a choice! (Preview) (((((Everyone))))) Tiger and BlueCloud have inspired me to explore how well I am dealing with what is acceptable to me. Then I ran across the mySpace page for a friend of mine because I lost track of his phone number. (You lose touch with folks when you bury your head in your A-spouses sa...	rtexas	7	427	Jan 13, 2007 by aunitedway
	Business Meeting Agenda For Sunday JAnuary 14 (Preview) Agenda for Sunday January 14th 2006 Group Business Meeting at 9pm est Old Business Newcomers Meeting SChedule New Business Mipathon Mip Donations If any of you have any new business to be added please let me know or reply to this post thanks kerry	kerry5	0	264	Jan 13, 2007 by kerry5
	Group Business Meeting (Preview) Hi all - Just a reminder that our Business Meeting is Sunday, Jan 14 @ 9pm ET. Hopefully you in the west can join us. Love and hugs - Dot	dot	0	239	Jan 13, 2007 by dot
	WOOOOHOOOO!!!!! (Preview) We have had an Amber alert in the area since Monday for a missing 13 yr old boy. Tonight he was found. But that's not the whole miracle!!! They also found another child that had been missing for 4.5 yrs (2002) at the same apartment!!! This is so awesome!!!! He is now 15 yrs old and his paren...	Christy	8	400	Jan 13, 2007 by tea2
	Goals (Preview) I am trying to set new golas for this year. I get nervous about not being able to meet them. I actually met one last year. I really need to get my spending under control. Any suggestions Marsha	sissy	0	235	Jan 13, 2007 by sissy
	Letting go vs setting boundaries (Preview) I went to a one on one counseling session last Friday. During which, I was asked if I believed my AH when he said he quit drinking. I had a very difficult time answering the question, and I realize it was not because I didn't know the answer to a simple question, but rather what the answer might mean f...	DebiDeb	13	645	Jan 13, 2007 by lin0606
	My A is gone. Just left with his neice and all his stuff (Preview) Charlie, my boyriend I told you about, who has an alcohol problem and I feel his whole family is "fake" to me, is taking a shower, and he said his neice is coming to pick him up in a little while. He said "xxxx you" and is actually leaving. He said he will be in a hotel for the night. He ca...	hippietrippiechick	5	305	Jan 13, 2007 by hippietrippiechick
	Out for a few weeks (Preview) MIP family, I will be out of touch with all of you for a few weeks - having surgery tomorrow on my elbow. (More hurricane recovery - lol) I'll be unable to type for about 2-4 weeks. Hopefully if I heal fast, I can be back sooner than the full 4 weeks. Have to share this funny moment with you -...	Rita G	7	311	Jan 13, 2007 by aunitedway
	When will I be ready to change? (Preview) Hi, in the 9 years that I have been with my husband, I have never see the disease progress the way I have in the last 2 months, particularly last night. He has been sober a lot of those 9 years, but in the last 3 yrs, only a few months at a time. Anyway, last night, for the first time, instead of feeling angry, bi...	lylaanju	4	396	Jan 13, 2007 by Jerry F
	just tired (Preview) I don't know what point I am at, excpet that I am just plain tired. My A goes out when he gets paid, without fail, the only time he does not go out is when he is broke, so I have just come to expcet he will be going to the bar when he is paid, until he is broke, anyway, I used to get mad, get an attitude, and we would ju...	lilleah	2	331	Jan 13, 2007 by Jerry F
	Living in the purple city (Preview) Well this city of Baltimore is hopping today. Everywhere you look there is purple. The city is so excited about tomorrow's game against the Colts. I am not a football fan but I am caught up in all the excitement. I had a co-worker ask me to go to the game with h...	Gailey	6	407	Jan 13, 2007 by CJ
	New behaviors, old reactions (Preview) It is said that while we continue to change, it is worth remembering that WE are the ones changing, not our loved ones. As much as we want them to, we cannot force another to change, wish change upon them, or, in some other fashion, convince someone not willing to change to do so. As I embra...	Tiger2006	6	385	Jan 13, 2007 by Fifi
	He said...she said (Preview) My husband hasn't had a drink for 15 days. We've talked more than I ever remember talking before - and it feels good. I don't know if it was smart to show my husband what I wrote in my first post here (along with everyone's comments), but I did. We really had a great talk after it.&nbs...	DebiDeb	6	557	Jan 12, 2007 by lin0606
	Pity (Preview) After deciding not to spend Christmas with my ex(A) I realised that the world didn't end and I am okay without him, and I had the peaceful Christmas I wanted. Then 2 days after Xmas he calls me and he wants to meet up to talk and so I go, and again he is telling me that he wants to tell me that he is going to...	mama_nz	4	250	Jan 12, 2007 by lin0606
	Disease progressing (Preview) Haven't had the energy to write lately...takes alot of energy to work this program. AH stayed out all night last night...this was a first for him..came home with a "could care less and I did nothing wrong " attitude. See the disease taking over...scary to watch. Wasted half the da...	Elizabeth M	2	297	Jan 12, 2007 by AndiLynn
	A special thank you to everyone at (((((((((MIP)))))))) (Preview) I just wanted to post a special thank you to all who posted back to me, even though I am so wrapped up in myself that I cannot seem to post to too many others with issues, even if I can relate. I wanted you all to know that tonight is a gift from God. A very quiet night so far. I think he really realizes I do not fe...	hippietrippiechick	1	270	Jan 12, 2007 by hippietrippiechick
	Newbe who HAS to somehow let go.. (Preview) I'm new to the program & fell into it head first. I need help. Friday before Christmas found myself in family court receiving temp emergency custody of 6yr old granddaughter with endless emotional and behavioral problems. Going back to court Tues, other side of family is fi...	Autumn118	6	382	Jan 12, 2007 by Autumn118
	Being a Martyr (Preview) I have had to work in training this week with a woman who is really stuck in the martyr role. I've had my own turn of course of doing that. I'm naturally loathe to admit I did it at work and in lots of relationships. Being around her has been a mixed blessing. On the one hand I can empathise with h...	maresie2	1	478	Jan 12, 2007 by lin0606
	Complaint...... (Preview) I have a complaint that I have nothing to complain about. No drama to speak of going in my life. I guess I could turn a few things into drama if I give it the old college try. Why would I want to though? I am 29. For 27 of those years, I was a complainer. Anything and everyth...	ZiggyDoodles	5	345	Jan 12, 2007 by bubbles1990
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