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Codependent · Codependent

I keep thinking that when he was incarcerated we got along so well. I know that sounds stupid, but we had great phone converstations, visits, etc. When he got out he was sweet and eager to be with me. I tried to go with this, but also said stuff like "maybe we can't get along" "we argue a...

SammyQ · SammyQ

I wrote here last week asking for advice on how to stop hating the alcoholic in my life. I was gearing up to go to an Al-Anon meeting or get some counselling, but now I'm saying to with it. I saw some things my mother wrote for her therapy group, and I am SAVAGE. There was a lot on there that made me mad, but o...

maresie · maresie

karilyn Please update all of us on your precious Pipers. I am keeping those prayers and warm love and hugs coming to you. My little girl Ruby (who has lost her collar somewhere in her exploits is also really giving her paws up for Pipers. Lots of love and hugs to you. The weekend is almost upon us! Ma...

Karilynn · Karilynn

(((((Family)))), Piper is home. The vet called yesterday morning. Her fever had gone down. They still don't know what caused it. They wanted her to stay there until late afternoon so she could finish her IV. I spent some time with her before I went to work. My friend (her benefactress) picked he...

greta · greta

I just had a 2 day visit from my kids, it was insightful. For those who have followed my alanon journey, my daughter it seems has finally recovered not only physically, but mentally from her car accident she is doing so great. HP truely answers our prayers. All three of us had a good talk about the wr...

maire rua · maire rua

Dear All, As some of you know, my A-step mother has been diagnosed with lung cancer which has now spread to her brain. I had not been on speaking terms with her but had offered to bring her daughters by car from the airport etc. Today my father asked me to call to the house and Barbara and I talked cordially a...

round3 · round3

I thought this past weekend would be nice. And from first glance, it was. My birthday was Saturday, and several of my friends got together and threw a party for me at a restaurant that night. Kind of a birthday/"last hurrah" before my SABF moves in with me in two weeks. The party was a lot o...

abbyal · abbyal

1- AN INCREASED TENDENCY TO LET THINGS HAPPEN RATHER THAN MAKE THEM HAPPEN . 2-FREQUENT ATTACKS OF SMILING. 3- FEELINGS OF BEING CONNECTED WITH OTHERS AND NATURE 4-FREQUENT OVERWHELMING EPISODES OF APPRECIATION 5-A TENDENCEY TO THINK AND ACT SPONTANEOUSLY RATHER THAN FROM FEARS BASED ON PAST EXP...

liljeannie · liljeannie

As I start this post, my stomach is churning and my hands are shaking. Today I am going to my abf's grandfathers b-day lunch. I am very fearful of what may happen and how I will handle it. In a past post, I explained about a family occasion that I was not invited to. My A's parents are divorced, so only on...

abbyal · abbyal

Ever wonder *why our prayers don't seem to heard * BROKEN TOYS As children bring thier broken toys with tears for us to mend I brought my brocken dreams to God because he was my friend But instead of leaving HIM in peace to work alone I hung around and tried to help with ways that were my own At last I snatc...

Diva · Diva

He must go and answer a charge of public intoxication. He is on his own. He has all of his evidence to his innocence, and I actually believe he will beat the charge. Asked whether he wanted a jury, he opted to let the judge decide. He has a silver tongue, he is charming beyond description, and he speaks...

Tracy · Tracy

I am so angery with myself my Ab is still in his mums but we have chatted on the phone again he has tried to start cycle but I carnt take anymore I need to see action. Why am I doing this why dont I just get rid of him. I saw him today on my way home from work he was out side the dole he is on state benefits he was goin...

Diobalikal · Diobalikal

Hi, I am new here, and not sure if it will help. I have just been searching the net for places or ideas. My G/F is an alcoholic. I have just recently found out how bad she really is. Of course I have gone through the natural, first reactions of anger, pleading etc...I don't know what to do next. I don't want t...

mslouise · mslouise

This morning I am of mixed emotions. I noticed that I put alot of pressure on myself and it is tiring. Does anyone else feel this way? Like if you are having a bad day or even a moment, that you think - shouldn't be doing that, or shouldn't think that way. I just get tired of "working" on thin...

HEARTBROKEN IN NJ · HEARTBROKEN IN NJ

Here it is Tuesday morning and its been 4 days since I spoke with my ex ABF who is in rehab. I took the advise offered by some members of this board to detach for a weekend to see how I felt. I have to be honest, it feels great. Detaching from him for a weekend and knowing he is safe in rehab allowed me to trul...

StargazerLily · StargazerLily

I realize its sorta late to mention this but there is a meteor shower late tonight. Actually its supposed to peak at 7 am est but I bet I'm going to be able to see some shooting stars before the sun comes out. Its a beautiful night for this too. So cool and clear. I went outside for a while and can't believe h...

Codependent · Codependent

I haven't decided that I want the A to see his son- it's been over 6 months, but it bothers me that he hasn't really pushed to see him. Just mentioned it casually once. I guess I shouldn't be suprised by this.

Codependent · Codependent

It has occurred to me that when I truly "like" somebody I can not relax in a relationship. It also is true that I try to insist that they do what I want them to do then overreact when they don't. You would think it was good that I have discovered this about myself but now I find myself worrying abou...

pixel04 · pixel04

Hi guys, I went to a meeting last night where the topic was conscious contact with a power greater than ourselves. Specifically, how do we do it, and how do we know we are being heard? I hadn't really ever verbalized this before, so it was good for me to think about. What immediately came to mind,...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

Still working two jobs, still raising three kids alone, still fat and single but I'm actually at the point where I am happy about it most of the time. So I guess not much has changed except my attitude. I am still working with the social service agency for my oldest and that is helping. Every month I man...

KimG143 · KimG143

I spoke my truth in my papers to the court and after hearing both sides the judge ordered random toxicology tests, a complete alcohol evaluation, and conseling for my AH. Based on those reports the judge will have us back in court on the 22nd to make a ruling on custody and granting overnight visitatio...

SuSUN · SuSUN

Got some information on the groups-meetings. Also got the name of a Dr. that specializes in Alcoholism....of course the client themselves have to access this. AH is a long way from that. I just feel more confident knowing that there is help for him when he decides enoughs enough. If that ever happens,...

Karilynn · Karilynn

(((((Family))))), On top of gieving for the loss of my beloved Tim, Pipers needs your prayers. She hasn't been eating and has been lethargic and coughing. I ran her down to the vets at the local PetSmart. Our vet lives 35 miles away, doesn't make house calls and I don't drive. She has a fever and they a...

BK911 · BK911

He's going to therapy. He's "weaned" down to 1-2 drinks a day. While I'm around that is. This way he leaves the door open to binge when I'm not around. Last week I took the kids on vacation and he binged the whole time I was gone, and denied it of course. He's so proud that he's only drinking a...

Tracy · Tracy

I have asked my AB to leave I have finally realised I am powerless and that I have a addiction I am a fixer, co dependent put everyones needs before my own. I am trying to concentrate on my life and I do believe in HP. However I am finding step 3 really hard I know I carnt change my AB, Iknow my life is a mess I try...

maire rua · maire rua

Dear All, The situation with my step-mother's health has worsened. The initial lung cancer has now spread to the brain. She is coming home on Monday and I have managed to detach and realise that alcoholism is an illness like any other. I am going to do the taxiing, collecting her daughters at the airpor...

Suzannah · Suzannah

Today has been the most vile day and it has all gone horribly wrong. The family is so used to being horrible to each other and now that mum is away it has not stopped. The two eldest, girls in the early teens are vile and the language is awful. against my daughters advice I allowed both girls to have friend...

StargazerLily · StargazerLily

I was just thinking how greatful I am for zoloft. I had started to feel annoyed by my baby and just wanted everyone to leave me alone. I wanted to run away. Its been about 7 weeks now that I've been on zoloft and I have noticed I don't get automatically angry at everything. My patience with the baby is back li...

buick23 · buick23

After no communication with my Asober for 3 days since I took care of my car, I broke the silence. I asked him why he hasn't said a word to me, and mentioned that we hadn't done anything together in 3 weeks. He blamed me of course but I didn't take it. I told him to stop blaming everything on me. I stood up for my...

Codependent · Codependent

Well, I saw the A this weekend. Actually went out with him Friday night. Had my son go to my cousin's for the weekend so he wouldn't be in the mess. When I first saw the A, I thought I can handle this. I'm not even attracted to him at all anymore. Then it was like the more time I have spent with him- the mor...

Codependent · Codependent

I find myself asking that question a lot lately. With bills, mortgage, responsiblites, kids, the things I do to self destruct-things to make myself feel better which only make me feel worse, stressful job, attempts to make friends and relationships, taking care of an elderly grandmother, feelin...

maresie · maresie

I was not invited to a lunch at work. Who knows why. It is for someone I have been really closely involved with. I have helped the person since day 1, even now I am setting things up for them. Before I would have made a sarcastic remark. I would even have said something. I have told a friend (at work) that I am...

KimG143 · KimG143

Hi All, After 10 months of Al Anon and gaining the strength I needed to leave my AH and take my daughter with me I have come into the wonderful world of the judicial system. When all I was hoping for is for him to get some help to stop drinking so he could have a healthy relationship with our daughter I got an AH...

thetalady · thetalady

My AH will be having surgery in two weeks. When he saw the surgeon, he lied on the paperwork and did not indicate how much he drinks every day. I noticed yesterday that he has the shakes whenever he goes without drinking. I'm a bit concerned with the upcoming surgery. I know by his not being honest with the...

Brizzle Gal · Brizzle Gal

I have been with my girlfriend since May 2007. She drinks intermittently and has had about 8 episodes (they last 7-14 days during which she drinks non-stop) since we got together, the last one started on Monday and she is still in the thick of it now. I spoke to her this morning and she promised me faithfu...

gaelle · gaelle

Good morning to all, I didn't think being back on this board as life has been pretty quiet and good but life never stops to bring surprises (good or bad). I frequented a sober A (we were already friend from many years before) and after a year, we took the decision to stop it. It has been an hard decision as i...

ImOnlyMe · ImOnlyMe

Okay so I am new to this, and I'm currently in the "wow I'm stupid...i'm not really alone" phase. My story goes back a few years, to the beginning of my relationship with my husband. We've known each other for years, since we were kids almost, but hadn't talked since high school. When we start...

suzim · suzim

I will try and make my story short so here goes.... I met my BF 2 years ago. We started dating and he had said a few times how he like to take pills (downers mostly). I didn't really think anything of it. He was very functional and when we were together we had a good time. Well...a few months passed and I notice...

bunnyboiler · bunnyboiler

my close friend is a chronic alcoholic , however his family are not aware just how bad his drinking is or how mental depressed ans physically ill he is . his mother died when he was ten and his brother is ten years younger than him and he raised him. i emailed his brother and told him i was concerned about him...

Lexie · Lexie

(((((((((((friends)))))))))))) Today is my son's last day of probation. It should have been five years, but because he violated his probation, it has been eight long years. He is working hard and doing well. He has been clean for 3 1/2 years. I just had to share the good news with you dear friends a...

buick23 · buick23

I had a car problem today. I called my Asober after I stopped the car and he started yelling at me. He told me to drive it home and he would take a look at it then. I was afraid to drive it home but did anyway. I got home and he started getting an attitude about having to look at my car. After a while he took a loo...

liljeannie · liljeannie

In a previous post, I explained how my abf relapsed after 35 days. Part of the reason for his relapse, or his excuse for it anyway, is that he is facing demotion, he is currently a sargent in the Army National Guard. The reason he is facing demotion is because he has always been the party boy, and after 6...

liljeannie · liljeannie

While I posted here last night, my abf went to blockbuster and got himself a pint. He came home barely able to stand and spent the better part of an hour face down on the living room floor. I have to say that though I was disappointed and shocked, I didnt react! I felt so proud of me. I simply went about m...

queenie105 · queenie105

Hi All, Well I went upstate Thurs. nite to pick up AH on Friday a.m. from rehab. I was getting cold feet about him coming home on Thurs. nite, called him on my way up and told him that. He was sweet as pie, told me it was all gonna be good. Later that night, he called me, said he loved me and couldn't wait to s...

buick23 · buick23

Well I took care of my car myself after him trying to give me guilttrips about it and waiting on him to do something about it. He has been in a bad mood for days now since he lost his job and has been taking it out on me. My car problem seemed to be just another reason for him to get upset. I was not sure if I would m...

maresie · maresie

I'm on my way to a job interview. You all know I am in a finacial super sticky superglue mess because of living with an A for 7 years. A job, a real job, rather than a job which is really just another entanglement with an A is needed greatly. Please spare me a few prayers. I need to move onto another plateau s...

AJ · AJ

My AH and I have been separated for almost 3 months. He's been living at a 1/2way house for 2 weeks 2 days. We spent the afternoon/evening together today and things were going well...until I found a couple of small flakes of weed on my bathroom floor. I was immediately taken aback from that discovery....

Sincerely · Sincerely

Tomorrow will be my AH 30 days. Hi Five Hubby! What is different today than when he was drinking? He is sober. I am working on myself. I have been cooking and keeping the house up. He is working in the yard........ What is the same? We still don't talk much. We still aren't very inimate. We still do...

cstwwt · cstwwt

Hi All, I've been here reading and posting (sometimes) for over a year. I have a complicated situation and am looking for insight. My AH is sober for 26 months, and went through out patient recovery and then started attending 3 meetings a week, one is an AA meeting, one a recovery group meeting and th...

Karilynn · Karilynn

((((Family))))), I thank all of you for your love and prayers at this incredibly difficult time. It has meant the world to me to know how much you all cared about him as well as Pipers and I. We had the funeral on Friday in the Catskills. He was cremated and in the fall we will spread his ashes over his fav...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Thanks to all who read my grief-filled post. I am doing OK but still have to face the memorial service with his family. I am going to be fine though because I have faith in my Higher Power that He will get me through this loss. For those of you who didn't get a chance to read it, my dear friend, a 22 year winner...

liljeannie · liljeannie

Today was a good day, seems that over the past few days, good is more prevalent than bad. I believe I have finally learned the true meaning of detachment, and for me, thats a huge and powerful thing. Sobriety has only been with us for 35 days, but already I am learning to bite my tongue when I feel my own tr...

buterfli13 · buterfli13

I've been in a relationship with an alchohlic for over 3 years now. Of course when we were only dating I did not know that drinking was a daily habit of his, it wasn't until several months into our relationahip that this became evedent. He knows he is an alchoholic but he is a self proclamed "f...

Loupiness · Loupiness

Yep, new shoes, a new purse and some gum, that is what I bought for myself yesterday. I know, sounds silly (or maybe not, thus this post), but it was eventful for me. I haven't bought new shoes in a very long time. Now, it is not like I walk around barefoot or in ratty shoes, but I got tired of the same 'ol sa...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Today I am feeling a loss that I can't seem to shake. I guess it is still brand-new in my heart because it happened on Saturday. One of most trusted servants and loveable soul died. His spirit will live on. He was sober for 22 years. I was introduced to Al-anon that same year although I didn't meet him u...

HEARTBROKEN IN NJ · HEARTBROKEN IN NJ

Todays a tough day. Having thoughts about my ex way too much. He called me last night, and we talked for 2 minutes. He sounded good. He needed to let someone else use the phone and asked me to call him back. Well, I didnt. Then he called me this morning asking why I didnt call him back. I changed the su...

Codependent · Codependent

Well, his brother is going to get him from jail. It will be middle of the night when they get in so I shouldn't even have to think about it tonight. His mom went out of town today and told him she would see him Sunday. He said okay. She asked him if he was going to be at my house and he said yes. I am just taking...

liljeannie · liljeannie

After more than 6yrs with my abf, four of which we have been living together, all of which I had been accepted and made to feel a part of his family, I was deliberately excluded from a family occasion. I couldnt understand why, and when I asked him about it, he just mumbled a bunch of half hearted excuses a...

JenniferN · JenniferN

Hello "Family" Just wanted to share with all of you my excellent news: I am now employed at our local hospital in the medical records dept transcribing. I'm not sure how this will effect my relationship with my sober ABF. He has had some difficulties in the past few weeks dealing with him not...

buick23 · buick23

This is my first post. My bf quit drinking 3 months ago, going to rehab, AA. I feel like I'm not a part of his life anymore and don't know how to deal with it. We hardly talk about anything, he is emotionally unavailable. I feel isolated from him and I don't know how to find the answers about what behaviour is...

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	Did my insecurity and anxiety push him away? (Preview) I keep thinking that when he was incarcerated we got along so well. I know that sounds stupid, but we had great phone converstations, visits, etc. When he got out he was sweet and eager to be with me. I tried to go with this, but also said stuff like "maybe we can't get along" "we argue a...	Codependent	4	1671	Aug 13, 2008 by Sincerely
	I haven't even started and I give up already (Preview) I wrote here last week asking for advice on how to stop hating the alcoholic in my life. I was gearing up to go to an Al-Anon meeting or get some counselling, but now I'm saying to with it. I saw some things my mother wrote for her therapy group, and I am SAVAGE. There was a lot on there that made me mad, but o...	SammyQ	5	521	Aug 13, 2008 by CJ
	Karilyn please update us (Preview) karilyn Please update all of us on your precious Pipers. I am keeping those prayers and warm love and hugs coming to you. My little girl Ruby (who has lost her collar somewhere in her exploits is also really giving her paws up for Pipers. Lots of love and hugs to you. The weekend is almost upon us! Ma...	maresie	0	310	Aug 13, 2008 by maresie
	Piper update. (Preview) (((((Family)))), Piper is home. The vet called yesterday morning. Her fever had gone down. They still don't know what caused it. They wanted her to stay there until late afternoon so she could finish her IV. I spent some time with her before I went to work. My friend (her benefactress) picked he...	Karilynn	12	667	Aug 13, 2008 by Lexie
	Just some thoughts (Preview) I just had a 2 day visit from my kids, it was insightful. For those who have followed my alanon journey, my daughter it seems has finally recovered not only physically, but mentally from her car accident she is doing so great. HP truely answers our prayers. All three of us had a good talk about the wr...	greta	2	428	Aug 13, 2008 by tiredtonite
	Making peace with A's (Preview) Dear All, As some of you know, my A-step mother has been diagnosed with lung cancer which has now spread to her brain. I had not been on speaking terms with her but had offered to bring her daughters by car from the airport etc. Today my father asked me to call to the house and Barbara and I talked cordially a...	maire rua	5	466	Aug 13, 2008 by Jean4444
	Emotional Rollercoaster (Preview) I thought this past weekend would be nice. And from first glance, it was. My birthday was Saturday, and several of my friends got together and threw a party for me at a restaurant that night. Kind of a birthday/"last hurrah" before my SABF moves in with me in two weeks. The party was a lot o...	round3	5	487	Aug 13, 2008 by round3
	12 signs of a Spiritual Awakening (Preview) 1- AN INCREASED TENDENCY TO LET THINGS HAPPEN RATHER THAN MAKE THEM HAPPEN . 2-FREQUENT ATTACKS OF SMILING. 3- FEELINGS OF BEING CONNECTED WITH OTHERS AND NATURE 4-FREQUENT OVERWHELMING EPISODES OF APPRECIATION 5-A TENDENCEY TO THINK AND ACT SPONTANEOUSLY RATHER THAN FROM FEARS BASED ON PAST EXP...	abbyal	3	1228	Aug 12, 2008 by Jean4444
	Rain or shine (Preview) As I start this post, my stomach is churning and my hands are shaking. Today I am going to my abf's grandfathers b-day lunch. I am very fearful of what may happen and how I will handle it. In a past post, I explained about a family occasion that I was not invited to. My A's parents are divorced, so only on...	liljeannie	3	383	Aug 12, 2008 by Maria123
	A PRAYER (Preview) Ever wonder why our prayers don't seem to heard BROKEN TOYS As children bring thier broken toys with tears for us to mend I brought my brocken dreams to God because he was my friend But instead of leaving HIM in peace to work alone I hung around and tried to help with ways that were my own At last I snatc...	abbyal	2	399	Aug 12, 2008 by Maria123
	Court time: 2:00 p.m. this afternoon. (Preview) He must go and answer a charge of public intoxication. He is on his own. He has all of his evidence to his innocence, and I actually believe he will beat the charge. Asked whether he wanted a jury, he opted to let the judge decide. He has a silver tongue, he is charming beyond description, and he speaks...	Diva	7	444	Aug 12, 2008 by maire rua
	self esteem (Preview) I am so angery with myself my Ab is still in his mums but we have chatted on the phone again he has tried to start cycle but I carnt take anymore I need to see action. Why am I doing this why dont I just get rid of him. I saw him today on my way home from work he was out side the dole he is on state benefits he was goin...	Tracy	3	513	Aug 12, 2008 by maire rua
	Hi, new and banging my head against the wall (Preview) Hi, I am new here, and not sure if it will help. I have just been searching the net for places or ideas. My G/F is an alcoholic. I have just recently found out how bad she really is. Of course I have gone through the natural, first reactions of anger, pleading etc...I don't know what to do next. I don't want t...	Diobalikal	8	597	Aug 12, 2008 by Diobalikal
	Anyone have these days? (Preview) This morning I am of mixed emotions. I noticed that I put alot of pressure on myself and it is tiring. Does anyone else feel this way? Like if you are having a bad day or even a moment, that you think - shouldn't be doing that, or shouldn't think that way. I just get tired of "working" on thin...	mslouise	6	508	Aug 12, 2008 by mslouise
	Some conclusions (Preview) Here it is Tuesday morning and its been 4 days since I spoke with my ex ABF who is in rehab. I took the advise offered by some members of this board to detach for a weekend to see how I felt. I have to be honest, it feels great. Detaching from him for a weekend and knowing he is safe in rehab allowed me to trul...	HEARTBROKEN IN NJ	3	433	Aug 12, 2008 by Alone
	Fellow Stargazers (Preview) I realize its sorta late to mention this but there is a meteor shower late tonight. Actually its supposed to peak at 7 am est but I bet I'm going to be able to see some shooting stars before the sun comes out. Its a beautiful night for this too. So cool and clear. I went outside for a while and can't believe h...	StargazerLily	4	434	Aug 12, 2008 by kitty
	Why hasn't he asked to see his son? (Preview) I haven't decided that I want the A to see his son- it's been over 6 months, but it bothers me that he hasn't really pushed to see him. Just mentioned it casually once. I guess I shouldn't be suprised by this.	Codependent	5	500	Aug 12, 2008 by carolinagirl
	Worrier- Never Able to Have Relationship (Preview) It has occurred to me that when I truly "like" somebody I can not relax in a relationship. It also is true that I try to insist that they do what I want them to do then overreact when they don't. You would think it was good that I have discovered this about myself but now I find myself worrying abou...	Codependent	4	455	Aug 12, 2008 by carolinagirl
	conscious contact with HP (Preview) Hi guys, I went to a meeting last night where the topic was conscious contact with a power greater than ourselves. Specifically, how do we do it, and how do we know we are being heard? I hadn't really ever verbalized this before, so it was good for me to think about. What immediately came to mind,...	pixel04	3	395	Aug 12, 2008 by Pi
	Update (Preview) Still working two jobs, still raising three kids alone, still fat and single but I'm actually at the point where I am happy about it most of the time. So I guess not much has changed except my attitude. I am still working with the social service agency for my oldest and that is helping. Every month I man...	carolinagirl	5	344	Aug 12, 2008 by round3
	Court (Preview) I spoke my truth in my papers to the court and after hearing both sides the judge ordered random toxicology tests, a complete alcohol evaluation, and conseling for my AH. Based on those reports the judge will have us back in court on the 22nd to make a ruling on custody and granting overnight visitatio...	KimG143	5	615	Aug 12, 2008 by Jerry F
	Made that first call today to Al-Anon (Preview) Got some information on the groups-meetings. Also got the name of a Dr. that specializes in Alcoholism....of course the client themselves have to access this. AH is a long way from that. I just feel more confident knowing that there is help for him when he decides enoughs enough. If that ever happens,...	SuSUN	4	381	Aug 11, 2008 by SuSUN
	Prayers for Pipers Please (Preview) (((((Family))))), On top of gieving for the loss of my beloved Tim, Pipers needs your prayers. She hasn't been eating and has been lethargic and coughing. I ran her down to the vets at the local PetSmart. Our vet lives 35 miles away, doesn't make house calls and I don't drive. She has a fever and they a...	Karilynn	26	820	Aug 11, 2008 by kitty
	He won't quit drinking and I can't live with it anymore (Preview) He's going to therapy. He's "weaned" down to 1-2 drinks a day. While I'm around that is. This way he leaves the door open to binge when I'm not around. Last week I took the kids on vacation and he binged the whole time I was gone, and denied it of course. He's so proud that he's only drinking a...	BK911	5	524	Aug 11, 2008 by DDnurse
	lonely (Preview) I have asked my AB to leave I have finally realised I am powerless and that I have a addiction I am a fixer, co dependent put everyones needs before my own. I am trying to concentrate on my life and I do believe in HP. However I am finding step 3 really hard I know I carnt change my AB, Iknow my life is a mess I try...	Tracy	6	426	Aug 11, 2008 by maresie
	situation with step mother and father (Preview) Dear All, The situation with my step-mother's health has worsened. The initial lung cancer has now spread to the brain. She is coming home on Monday and I have managed to detach and realise that alcoholism is an illness like any other. I am going to do the taxiing, collecting her daughters at the airpor...	maire rua	3	464	Aug 11, 2008 by maresie
	It's all gone horribly wrong...LONG and PAINFUL (Preview) Today has been the most vile day and it has all gone horribly wrong. The family is so used to being horrible to each other and now that mum is away it has not stopped. The two eldest, girls in the early teens are vile and the language is awful. against my daughters advice I allowed both girls to have friend...	Suzannah	6	578	Aug 11, 2008 by maresie
	The zoloft is working (Preview) I was just thinking how greatful I am for zoloft. I had started to feel annoyed by my baby and just wanted everyone to leave me alone. I wanted to run away. Its been about 7 weeks now that I've been on zoloft and I have noticed I don't get automatically angry at everything. My patience with the baby is back li...	StargazerLily	2	450	Aug 11, 2008 by BK911
	standing up for myself (Preview) After no communication with my Asober for 3 days since I took care of my car, I broke the silence. I asked him why he hasn't said a word to me, and mentioned that we hadn't done anything together in 3 weeks. He blamed me of course but I didn't take it. I told him to stop blaming everything on me. I stood up for my...	buick23	4	440	Aug 11, 2008 by BK911
	Oh so confused...feel like I'm addicted to him anyway... (Preview) Well, I saw the A this weekend. Actually went out with him Friday night. Had my son go to my cousin's for the weekend so he wouldn't be in the mess. When I first saw the A, I thought I can handle this. I'm not even attracted to him at all anymore. Then it was like the more time I have spent with him- the mor...	Codependent	3	412	Aug 11, 2008 by carolinagirl
	Does life ever just seem to hard? (Preview) I find myself asking that question a lot lately. With bills, mortgage, responsiblites, kids, the things I do to self destruct-things to make myself feel better which only make me feel worse, stressful job, attempts to make friends and relationships, taking care of an elderly grandmother, feelin...	Codependent	2	453	Aug 11, 2008 by ddub
	doing beter an example (Preview) I was not invited to a lunch at work. Who knows why. It is for someone I have been really closely involved with. I have helped the person since day 1, even now I am setting things up for them. Before I would have made a sarcastic remark. I would even have said something. I have told a friend (at work) that I am...	maresie	5	443	Aug 11, 2008 by thinkstoomuch
	AH husband says I have no proof (Preview) Hi All, After 10 months of Al Anon and gaining the strength I needed to leave my AH and take my daughter with me I have come into the wonderful world of the judicial system. When all I was hoping for is for him to get some help to stop drinking so he could have a healthy relationship with our daughter I got an AH...	KimG143	6	426	Aug 11, 2008 by canadianguy
	Do I Stick My Nose In (Preview) My AH will be having surgery in two weeks. When he saw the surgeon, he lied on the paperwork and did not indicate how much he drinks every day. I noticed yesterday that he has the shakes whenever he goes without drinking. I'm a bit concerned with the upcoming surgery. I know by his not being honest with the...	thetalady	8	476	Aug 11, 2008 by canadianguy
	Binge Drinker (Preview) I have been with my girlfriend since May 2007. She drinks intermittently and has had about 8 episodes (they last 7-14 days during which she drinks non-stop) since we got together, the last one started on Monday and she is still in the thick of it now. I spoke to her this morning and she promised me faithfu...	Brizzle Gal	5	443	Aug 11, 2008 by Brizzle Gal
	Don't know what i should with him... (Preview) Good morning to all, I didn't think being back on this board as life has been pretty quiet and good but life never stops to bring surprises (good or bad). I frequented a sober A (we were already friend from many years before) and after a year, we took the decision to stop it. It has been an hard decision as i...	gaelle	7	516	Aug 11, 2008 by gaelle
	Here I go (Preview) Okay so I am new to this, and I'm currently in the "wow I'm stupid...i'm not really alone" phase. My story goes back a few years, to the beginning of my relationship with my husband. We've known each other for years, since we were kids almost, but hadn't talked since high school. When we start...	ImOnlyMe	9	340	Aug 10, 2008 by ImOnlyMe
	I'm new here and need some guidance.... (Preview) I will try and make my story short so here goes.... I met my BF 2 years ago. We started dating and he had said a few times how he like to take pills (downers mostly). I didn't really think anything of it. He was very functional and when we were together we had a good time. Well...a few months passed and I notice...	suzim	9	614	Aug 10, 2008 by suzim
	should i tell ? (Preview) my close friend is a chronic alcoholic , however his family are not aware just how bad his drinking is or how mental depressed ans physically ill he is . his mother died when he was ten and his brother is ten years younger than him and he raised him. i emailed his brother and told him i was concerned about him...	bunnyboiler	7	418	Aug 10, 2008 by bunnyboiler
	Probation is over for son!! (Preview) (((((((((((friends)))))))))))) Today is my son's last day of probation. It should have been five years, but because he violated his probation, it has been eight long years. He is working hard and doing well. He has been clean for 3 1/2 years. I just had to share the good news with you dear friends a...	Lexie	4	299	Aug 10, 2008 by danz123
	my day (Preview) I had a car problem today. I called my Asober after I stopped the car and he started yelling at me. He told me to drive it home and he would take a look at it then. I was afraid to drive it home but did anyway. I got home and he started getting an attitude about having to look at my car. After a while he took a loo...	buick23	2	259	Aug 10, 2008 by buick23
	Strange days indeed (Preview) In a previous post, I explained how my abf relapsed after 35 days. Part of the reason for his relapse, or his excuse for it anyway, is that he is facing demotion, he is currently a sargent in the Army National Guard. The reason he is facing demotion is because he has always been the party boy, and after 6...	liljeannie	2	377	Aug 10, 2008 by liljeannie
	A good day gone bad (Preview) While I posted here last night, my abf went to blockbuster and got himself a pint. He came home barely able to stand and spent the better part of an hour face down on the living room floor. I have to say that though I was disappointed and shocked, I didnt react! I felt so proud of me. I simply went about m...	liljeannie	7	637	Aug 10, 2008 by Christy
	He's home from rehab - I'm getting depressed - esh please (Preview) Hi All, Well I went upstate Thurs. nite to pick up AH on Friday a.m. from rehab. I was getting cold feet about him coming home on Thurs. nite, called him on my way up and told him that. He was sweet as pie, told me it was all gonna be good. Later that night, he called me, said he loved me and couldn't wait to s...	queenie105	4	550	Aug 10, 2008 by Christy
	I took care of it myself (Preview) Well I took care of my car myself after him trying to give me guilttrips about it and waiting on him to do something about it. He has been in a bad mood for days now since he lost his job and has been taking it out on me. My car problem seemed to be just another reason for him to get upset. I was not sure if I would m...	buick23	8	635	Aug 10, 2008 by liljeannie
	prayers needed (Preview) I'm on my way to a job interview. You all know I am in a finacial super sticky superglue mess because of living with an A for 7 years. A job, a real job, rather than a job which is really just another entanglement with an A is needed greatly. Please spare me a few prayers. I need to move onto another plateau s...	maresie	7	329	Aug 10, 2008 by Jean4444
	Disappointed, again (Preview) My AH and I have been separated for almost 3 months. He's been living at a 1/2way house for 2 weeks 2 days. We spent the afternoon/evening together today and things were going well...until I found a couple of small flakes of weed on my bathroom floor. I was immediately taken aback from that discovery....	AJ	4	420	Aug 10, 2008 by RLC
	1 day at a time eventually adds up to 30....... (Preview) Tomorrow will be my AH 30 days. Hi Five Hubby! What is different today than when he was drinking? He is sober. I am working on myself. I have been cooking and keeping the house up. He is working in the yard........ What is the same? We still don't talk much. We still aren't very inimate. We still do...	Sincerely	4	468	Aug 9, 2008 by Sincerely
	question... (Preview) Hi All, I've been here reading and posting (sometimes) for over a year. I have a complicated situation and am looking for insight. My AH is sober for 26 months, and went through out patient recovery and then started attending 3 meetings a week, one is an AA meeting, one a recovery group meeting and th...	cstwwt	8	469	Aug 9, 2008 by cstwwt
	For my husband (Preview) ((((Family))))), I thank all of you for your love and prayers at this incredibly difficult time. It has meant the world to me to know how much you all cared about him as well as Pipers and I. We had the funeral on Friday in the Catskills. He was cremated and in the fall we will spread his ashes over his fav...	Karilynn	16	591	Aug 9, 2008 by JenniferN
	Thanks from the bottom of my heart! (Preview) Thanks to all who read my grief-filled post. I am doing OK but still have to face the memorial service with his family. I am going to be fine though because I have faith in my Higher Power that He will get me through this loss. For those of you who didn't get a chance to read it, my dear friend, a 22 year winner...	Hoot Nanny	1	348	Aug 9, 2008 by Maria123
	not so codependent...a learning process (Preview) Today was a good day, seems that over the past few days, good is more prevalent than bad. I believe I have finally learned the true meaning of detachment, and for me, thats a huge and powerful thing. Sobriety has only been with us for 35 days, but already I am learning to bite my tongue when I feel my own tr...	liljeannie	3	453	Aug 9, 2008 by lin0606
	New to this (Preview) I've been in a relationship with an alchohlic for over 3 years now. Of course when we were only dating I did not know that drinking was a daily habit of his, it wasn't until several months into our relationahip that this became evedent. He knows he is an alchoholic but he is a self proclamed "f...	buterfli13	4	443	Aug 9, 2008 by Jean4444
	new shoes, a purse and some gum (Preview) Yep, new shoes, a new purse and some gum, that is what I bought for myself yesterday. I know, sounds silly (or maybe not, thus this post), but it was eventful for me. I haven't bought new shoes in a very long time. Now, it is not like I walk around barefoot or in ratty shoes, but I got tired of the same 'ol sa...	Loupiness	4	627	Aug 9, 2008 by Jean4444
	Feeling a loss (Preview) Today I am feeling a loss that I can't seem to shake. I guess it is still brand-new in my heart because it happened on Saturday. One of most trusted servants and loveable soul died. His spirit will live on. He was sober for 22 years. I was introduced to Al-anon that same year although I didn't meet him u...	Hoot Nanny	3	520	Aug 8, 2008 by maresie
	Feeling Blah (Preview) Todays a tough day. Having thoughts about my ex way too much. He called me last night, and we talked for 2 minutes. He sounded good. He needed to let someone else use the phone and asked me to call him back. Well, I didnt. Then he called me this morning asking why I didnt call him back. I changed the su...	HEARTBROKEN IN NJ	11	519	Aug 8, 2008 by HEARTBROKEN IN NJ
	well, he is on his way...not sure where his destination is yet. (Preview) Well, his brother is going to get him from jail. It will be middle of the night when they get in so I shouldn't even have to think about it tonight. His mom went out of town today and told him she would see him Sunday. He said okay. She asked him if he was going to be at my house and he said yes. I am just taking...	Codependent	3	427	Aug 8, 2008 by round3
	Blindsided (Preview) After more than 6yrs with my abf, four of which we have been living together, all of which I had been accepted and made to feel a part of his family, I was deliberately excluded from a family occasion. I couldnt understand why, and when I asked him about it, he just mumbled a bunch of half hearted excuses a...	liljeannie	4	501	Aug 8, 2008 by liljeannie
	GOOD NEWS!!!! (Preview) Hello "Family" Just wanted to share with all of you my excellent news: I am now employed at our local hospital in the medical records dept transcribing. I'm not sure how this will effect my relationship with my sober ABF. He has had some difficulties in the past few weeks dealing with him not...	JenniferN	3	423	Aug 8, 2008 by maresie
	I'm feeling lost (Preview) This is my first post. My bf quit drinking 3 months ago, going to rehab, AA. I feel like I'm not a part of his life anymore and don't know how to deal with it. We hardly talk about anything, he is emotionally unavailable. I feel isolated from him and I don't know how to find the answers about what behaviour is...	buick23	7	596	Aug 8, 2008 by thinkstoomuch
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