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Boy howdy do I get a curve ball thrown into the works at times.
This is the direct result of my youngest, who, when not binge drinking (which she doesn't come home when she's doing that as she knows my boundaries), insists on hooking back up with ex BFs that apparently she has memory loss of why they were an ex in the first place.
A huge arguement ensued at approximately 2 this morning (he lives 16 miles away and she was at his house), his prior girlfriend showed up (who has a rap sheet a mile long and will be picked up next week for bench warrrants), was beating on Amber's windows threatening to pull her out of the car and beat her up, and Amber hit the accelerator while the now ex (again) BF was facing her in his truck and this is what happened.
She fled the scene because the other girl was screaming, and of course, the police showed up at my doorstep shortly after Amber got home.
I went back to bed and let her deal with it.
I start college classes tomorrow, and I still have to go to the campus bookstore (40 miles away) to get books as there was a miscommunication between my Vo-Rehab worker and I, and I don't have a voucher yet for text books.
She's been to the ER, and nothing more than some pretty good aches and pains, and a very mild concussion (she hit the windshield hard enough to leave a large star burst).
I told her today she volunteers for the drama, and maybe some day she will get sick and tired of being sick and tired. This was one expensive lesson for her, and I hope her auto insurance goes way up.
I haven't even had but maybe 3 dates in the last 9 years. My life is relatively quiet, I focus on my recovery each day, and I am so angry with her right now I could spit nails.
I'll drop her off at the farm tomorrow morning for her chores, then I am heading out to get my text books. She can figure out how to get home.
Thanks for letting a usually calm person vent!
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"If a dog will not come to you after having looked you in the face, you should go home and examine your conscience." - Woodrow Wilson
That royally sucks. I have heard horror stories like this over the years. It never ceases to amaze me the un-limitations of some. Sounds like you did exactly what I would have done. Gone back to bed to let her deal with it. hee hee hee
I really enjoy reading posts on here to keep myself in reality. Thanks for sharing.
THSKS, yeah, you definitely did the right thing. It is sometimes uncanny, though, the timing of things. I remember how easy it could have been to have gotten off-track: taken a semester off of school, etc. but I knew I had to keep on or else! Like a bloodhound with its nose to the ground we must keep going or else all and any manner of distraction might get us off track! You gotta be tough! and you were...nice work! Hugs, J.
Yes, that does royally suck, well done you for being able to detach though, I find that really hard and its vital for one's sanity, best of luck for your course, this website is very good for text books and is cheap, www.abebooks.com, hope all goes well for you,
Good for you. I am very very isolated myself. Made 2 new friends (I can count on) in the last few months. I am exhausted but have goals and more goals and ideas how to get there.
I am so proud of you!
I am so glad that I do not have anyone in my life to be angry at !
What a gift that is. I forget sometimes because I am so bone tired.
