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bluerose79 · bluerose79

im wrestling with this question: what is my part in the abusive way my a-bf treats me. i meet him with compassion and understanding. i try to set boundaries. i try to work my program and yet beyond my continued presence in the relationship, i cannot identify my part. is it enough to say i'm doing my part j...

Very Very Tired · Very Very Tired

I drank the punch. I fully submerged myself in the program. I asked someone to be my sponsor. And she said she would. I have been agonizing over this for weeks now. I hate making phone calls. But, I called and asked. She interrupted her daily activities to talk to me. That alone is amazing to me. In a...

Dawny · Dawny

hi everybody, ok, my dilema: a month ago i verbally left my husband. he is 5 months sober but i have so much to learn and so much recovery to do i was feeling like it would be best to part ways. but last thursday we were both over run with emotion we both agreed me love each other and want to work it out. it was lik...

andream · andream

A few days ago, I posted about my boyfriend who has been smoking pot and has a tendency to binge drink. We went out Monday to ride bikes, but I hadn't let go of some doubts and some restentment I had towards him. I had been resentful that he made plans to go on a bike ride with me, but left work early last Wed...

youfoundme · youfoundme

I am coming closer and closer to seeing that I need to stop my addiction of HIM and get into me. Well no, I know I do, not just seeing it, believing it now. He just said he would go to AA because I told him I would not be around much longer if the drinking continues. He played the card of "I am ruining thi...

youfoundme · youfoundme

I know that I can start a meeting, I heard that it can happen, however I have no idea how to do it. The meetings in this area are so few and so far between. Its really sad. I am wondering why? Is this true for most areas? I think there are way more AA meetings than Alanon. I am really not sure what would wor...

mslouise · mslouise

So Mothers Day is supposed to be a celebration, a good day, right? Well, to me, its just another holiday and with holidays always come problems. Ive come to hate the holidays. My brother and sister-in-law are the ones in the family that can do no wrong, can say anything without consequences, and tak...

canadianguy · canadianguy

One of the best "tools" I used in my recovery, when I was going through those emotional cycles of wondering if I was the crazy one, or was I expecting too much in my relationship, or perhaps I was too harsh, etc - was a reference to "toxic love vs. real love" I used the list below (comp...

jitsuka · jitsuka

The title says it all. She's been drinking tonight (she drinks every night). Things haven't been good really between us, I've tried talking to her to no avail. We've suggested going to Relate but it's not really happened. We have a 3 3/4yr old daughter. I feel like screaming. Based in the UK. Help me p...

Andrea12 · Andrea12

(((((((((((((Friends)))))))))))))))), I have been away for awhile but, now I am back yet again... You all have never left my heart or thoughts however, I have been taking that walk yet again. Got my son staightened out or should I say he got himself straightened out I just was here in the way I needed t...

Jennifer · Jennifer

Background ... my exAH was released from prison late February after 2 years and 6 months in an intense treament facility. I was scared, I resolved my fears, I was compassionate, I tried to accept his amends on a limited basis and was grateful to observe some signs of real recovery. Last two weeks each en...

littlemama · littlemama

I have been married for 10 yrs. My husband is awesome and I love him so much. We have 2 beautiful kids 9 & 8. With all my husbands great trates he is also an alcoholic and drug addict. Last week he told me that he needed help. I put him in the car and took him right to the er. He had been saying that he wanted to...

Jerry F · Jerry F

...I don't need you. Aloha Family...just felt like I should bring that on the board as my HP resurrected that experience in my mind as I was reading the ESHs. The title comes from a learning event long ago during the crazy to sane to crazy period and it came thru a good friend of my alcoholic wife at the ti...

roonpugs · roonpugs

I now have a temporary sponsor and I feel so blessed to have found such a wonderful person to guide me in my recovery! I am anxious to start and being surrounded by others that can relate and see the change in them gives me so much hope! (Just had to share some good news!) Thanks for reading! Hugs to al...

tiffera · tiffera

While I am technically new to dating an alcoholic (together 3 months), I am not new to codependency and destructive relationships. Even so, the 3 months seems like 3 years most days. I was in an emotionally and often sexually abusive relationship for 2.5 years which ended 4.5 years ago..which is ha...

White Rabbit · White Rabbit

Sometimes I'm selfish and I know it and can't stop. Ugh. My AH has been sober about 2 years now. He does a lot of service work, in addition to a meeting a day and meeting with his sponsor and sponsee. The long and short of it is that sometimes I feel irritated about all his AA committments. Tonight, I was...

youfoundme · youfoundme

I am really working on not allowing myself to be pulled into his *stuff*. Last night when I went to pick him up from the interview, I knew that he had been drinking because when I called to find out where he was, he kept asking me where *I* was. I knew when I parked across the street and watched a guy that ran...

andream · andream

Hello Al-Anon, I've been dating this wonderful man for a year now. However, I've witnessed him "binge drink" about once a month or every other month. He had smoked pot very infrequently throughout the year, however, I used to just be so focused on whether or not he was an alcoholic. Marijua...

Dawny · Dawny

My husband of 13 years is now almost 5 months sober. I am proud of him but because he betrayed my trust so much when he was deep into his disease, I still have my moments of insanity and dont trust him. I attend weekly alanon meeting but i am not finding my compasson and i still dont forgive him for what he put...

tommyecat · tommyecat

A dear friend of mine just informed me that she lost her baby. She was six months pregnant. My heart aches for her and her husband. I cannot imagine the grief they are in. For those of you that believe in the power of prayer, would you please consider saying a quick prayer for my dear friend that is str...

youfoundme · youfoundme

My abf and I had a good weekend, we got a lot accomplished, he helped me dig up and plant a flower bed at our new place. We talked and had a good time. Today he has a job interview. He is not driving right now (guess why?) and so I went and picked him up to get him to the area of town he could walk from my work to th...

Loupiness · Loupiness

How do I give what I clearly don't have? I just cannot communicate with my teen son, and when he talks to me, it is often as if I am reliving my time with my exAH. I am getting to a point where I think I may just need to let go and hope that someday maturity and humility (on both our parts) may bring us together aga...

Aimee · Aimee

Hi Everyone! I am getting ready to start on step four and I was looking for prayers to help get me in the right head space. I found this one and wanted to share it with everyone.GodHelp me to see myself as I truly am I know I won't always like what I see, so give me the courage to keep going Grant me understandi...

RLC · RLC

To My MIP Family, I Know all of you have seen the destruction and total devistation in Alabama and surrounding states from the tornadoes that moved across our state two days ago. Massive is the only word to describe the toll taken on human life, property, and infrastructure. But the spirit of those who...

drummerchick423 · drummerchick423

Ok, so, I know this is not a good idea and I am working towards getting a new therapist, but I'd been seeing the same therapist my bf introduced me to, when we first started seeing him about my exabf's drinking. Back in January, I got into an argument on the phone about my ex's drinking (while drunk, not a go...

danielle0516 · danielle0516

My sister, myself and our kids were out shopping the other day getting ready for my mom's 60th bday party. We were buying helium balloons. I left to grab a few groceries, came back, and the lady had just finished filling up the last balloon. My sister whispered to me: "That balloon looks bad, it's...

DanH · DanH

Hi new friends! So I came across your forum today after posting on another site and someone suggest Al-Anon. Short history... My very good friend of 10+ years recently came out of the closet. I'm gay as well. In the past, probably six months, I've suggested he go to see a therapist because of his heavy dr...

Torit · Torit

From: tom To: tori Sent: Mon, May 2, 2011 9:47:10 AM Subject: RE: Literature Question Dear Tori, Greetings again from your World Service Office. Im writing back regarding your question (and my response) about the four Gs or five Gs, because Step Ten has taught me that when I find out Im wrong I need to...

Sisyphus · Sisyphus

I suppose that I am a newbie to most of the folks on here. My wife (sorry, I don't know the acronymns yet) finally admitted that she was hiding a severe drinking problem the day after Thanksgiving. So I suppose this has been going on for nearly five months. She is currently in therapy and attending mee...

B_L · B_L

Is there an Al-Anon type program for people dealing with somebody who suffers from an eating disorder? My alcoholic girlfriend also has bulimia, and if anything it has become more severe since she stopped drinking. I have been working on myself with Al-Anon principles, and that certainly can't hu...

GailMichelle · GailMichelle

I want to express my gratitude for this board, which of course, means thanking John and every single member. It's evident that we're all at varying stages of our recoveries; thus, we are able to help on another. Sometimes, I feel I've taking a giant leap forward, only to find myself back 10 steps! Bu...

John · John

Jozie · Jozie

Isn't it Funny How... All Winter I Can Sit around & Moan & Grown about how much I Wish it would be over, and then Spring Comes, the Floods Come, & I Wish that to be Over as Well, Then its Too Hot, Too Wet, Too Wndy, Too Chilly...and well I think I have covered every season in there... I am so Gratef...

Mixie · Mixie

Hello All, I've been lurking on your board for about a week or so, reading, learning, and trying to soak up all the new information. I have started several posts just to delete them. I honestly dont know what to say. I haven't been to a meeting yet. I planned to go last wednesday but chickened out. Im terri...

member922 · member922

So I am 40 years old and interested in starting college in the fall. I just received notice of an estimated grant I will get. I am so excited!!! This is something major to me. Not only will I get to learn and continue to grow, but I can put the focus back on me!!! It means more independence for me! Just what...

purpleraven · purpleraven

i posted here that we won the long battle blocking my girl's bio-dad from having any visitation at all with her dad, unless she initates it when she's older . that's what the judge and guardian-ad-litem said in court, anyway. when i received the final hearing's court summary ... it is the polar opposit...

canadianguy · canadianguy

Hi folks... lots of great stuff on the board these days, particularly around detachment, enabling, and people genuinely wondering what exactly we CAN do, in order to help our A's find the light, to some extent. The "Getting Them Sober" book series can help answer a lot of these questions...

flopadopilus · flopadopilus

After the session with my AH I haven't spent anytime with him, but had gotten used to going over to see him one night a weekend and watching movies again. I have been fighting it all night. The kids are not here and I miss him, but not the manipulation and all that goes with an A. We had a pretty intense conver...

member922 · member922

So I enjoyed my Friday as planned, dinner and movie with a friend. And yes, The King's Speech was great. The abf told me to take Saturday to myself as he would be hanging out with his son and that it would be nice for he and I to spend Sunday night together. I was thrilled. Did my own thing, laying in the...

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pinkchip · pinkchip

I need feedback on this cuz I seriously don't know and find myself frequently lapsing into advice giving. I could stick "I suggest" in front of all my thoughts but it winds up being the same things much of the time...Advice. Well meaning most of the time, but still advice which is unsolici...

Crazy Frog · Crazy Frog

Despite all the good intentions and al anon I feel hurt. My ah told me yesterday I am a coward deceitful cruel and a quitter His mother doesn't speak to me and gave me silent treatment with the look of death (quite a combination) so I know I am no coward no quitter and try to be respectful I didn't cause it can...

Otie · Otie

Hi everyone. Whenever I have posted a thread, a yellow tag appears. (that is what it looks like). I can't figure out what it is sopposed to mean. I don't see them by anyone else's thread. Please, what does that mean? Thanks. Curiously, Otie

Trudles57 · Trudles57

My addict son asked if he & his girlfriend could move into my apt which will be vacant soon. They have been working on staying "clean" & want somewhere where there is a controlled atmostphere w/ rules. This apt is above my garage on my property. I am not sure if this is a wise thing o...

thetalady · thetalady

Well, all hell broke loose four days ago ending in my AH leaving. Of course, he "didn't do anything wrong." It's all me. I accept responsibility for my actions - snooping around, accusing him without substantial facts, jealousy, distrust. We, as a couple, are in dire straights. The...

roonpugs · roonpugs

I had been to two meetings here in my town and was not able to attend today so I considered going to another mtg about an hr out of town and I DID! I drove very nervously the long drive, trying to find the new place, wondering what it would be like. Once there I found a lovely lady hanging the Al Anon signs up w...

DadtoCandE · DadtoCandE

I have heard a couple of share's in face to face meetings from veteran's talking about how they were just visiters in the first 6 months to a year of al-anon. I definately heard my perspective in those shares. Last Sunday I talked to my "temporary" sponser and asked if he wanted to work wit...

drummerchick423 · drummerchick423

Whenever I go nuts, asking myself why my exabf did this, or said that...I think back to how I had red flags about his alcoholism from the beginning, yet I chose to stay. I am trying to focus on MY part in everything rather than his, because I can't change him. Anyway, whenever I feel puzzled by his behavior...

Rachel262612 · Rachel262612

can someone tell me how to get a sponsor. I am feeling so defeated right now. I just feel so sick, with a whirlwind of emotions. I swear I feel like my head is going to explode. right now, I don't even know why I am so freaking angry with my AH, I mean I generally know, but nothing inparticular. I swear, I jus...

danielle0516 · danielle0516

Hi everyone... Nice subject line eh? Ya, I'm thinking that's what I'll call my book. lol, just kidding. I'll try not to go into too much boring detail about my job and this particular incident.... but, I'm a talker so... prepare yourselves;) ok.. nevermind, I just typed a bunch and realized I can't go i...

clep · clep

With my A on his step two things are getting worse. I am doing the very best I can, and at times like this morning all I can do is shut my mouth, ignore him and go on with my day. I feel like hitting him lots of the time the last week. I spend time working on myself, determing what is right for me. My A gives me fi...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I am going to take this slowly & easy today! I have not be on MIP siince April 6th I believe & believe me I miss it & all of you! What I want to share today is that I am sooo tired again because of the anxiety & stress of going to CA next month. I have been trying to think of other things & have...

tommyecat · tommyecat

Have any of you guys have heard a poem that begins with "You Gottawanna" I heard someone mention it in my face to face meeting this morning and the parts that the person remembered were great. A few of the lines in it "You gottawanna go to meetings" and "You gottawanna work...

wildthang86 · wildthang86

Yeah maybe a baby. My middle son, who is 21 and lives at home, just told me that his GF may be pregnant. They don't know yet. I am in shock!! I know he isn't ready to be a father nor is she ready to be a mother. Nor am I ready to be a grandmother. Not that that matters much, honeslty. I have been sworn to secrecy and...

Very Very Tired · Very Very Tired

OK, I know that lies shouldn't come as a surprise to me. They really shouldn't. And, quite honestly, I've come to expect the Big Lies about infidelities and drinking. I guess I can almost understand the Big Lies: it's too painful for AH to tell the Big Truths and face himself and his actions. I just d...

Mattie · Mattie

My son and I are living far from our usual home right now and my exAH -- my son's dad -- has come to visit our son for ten days. He is staying with us. He is a binge drinker who goes for long periods sober or at least appearing so, so I knew the chances were good that he wouldn't be actively drunk while he was her...

tommyecat · tommyecat

I went to a face to face meeting yesterday and this reading was part of our topic, Letting go. I really got a lot out of it... In the past, joy was a rare visitor to many of us. Al-Anon recovery often leads us to find it more frequently. But instead of sitting back and enjoying these pleasant moments, we t...

Gailey · Gailey

My dil and gd have returned to Japan. It was really hard saying goodbye to them on Easter Sunday. They were with us for a month with my son there for the last 10 days of their stay. They all returned together which I was happy about. I decided since we no longer had a house full of people we would take a trip to o...

Courage2change · Courage2change

In early September, I started dating a guy who seemed to be a fairly nice guy. Seemed like he had spirituality, was working a program, had 15 years sober & clean, we both hit it right off and we had a wonderful time hanging out together. No physical. Just friendship. It was great. Then one night i...

atheos · atheos

I had a really bad week. I didn't find the guts to use the phone list when I needed to talk to someone. Today I almost didn't drag my butt out of bed to go to a meeting, but I am SO GLAD I did... I didn't talk at the meeting. I'm too new to have anything relevant to share about such a high-numbered step, and everyo...

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	What's My Part- is it just that I stay?? relationships leaving (Preview) im wrestling with this question: what is my part in the abusive way my a-bf treats me. i meet him with compassion and understanding. i try to set boundaries. i try to work my program and yet beyond my continued presence in the relationship, i cannot identify my part. is it enough to say i'm doing my part j...	bluerose79	13	9612	May 5, 2011 by Jerry F
	I took the leap (Preview) I drank the punch. I fully submerged myself in the program. I asked someone to be my sponsor. And she said she would. I have been agonizing over this for weeks now. I hate making phone calls. But, I called and asked. She interrupted her daily activities to talk to me. That alone is amazing to me. In a...	Very Very Tired	10	664	May 5, 2011 by laura dene
	to stay or to go? (Preview) hi everybody, ok, my dilema: a month ago i verbally left my husband. he is 5 months sober but i have so much to learn and so much recovery to do i was feeling like it would be best to part ways. but last thursday we were both over run with emotion we both agreed me love each other and want to work it out. it was lik...	Dawny	7	772	May 5, 2011 by laura dene
	I got dumped! (Preview) A few days ago, I posted about my boyfriend who has been smoking pot and has a tendency to binge drink. We went out Monday to ride bikes, but I hadn't let go of some doubts and some restentment I had towards him. I had been resentful that he made plans to go on a bike ride with me, but left work early last Wed...	andream	7	960	May 5, 2011 by pinkchip
	Closer.... (Preview) I am coming closer and closer to seeing that I need to stop my addiction of HIM and get into me. Well no, I know I do, not just seeing it, believing it now. He just said he would go to AA because I told him I would not be around much longer if the drinking continues. He played the card of "I am ruining thi...	youfoundme	3	629	May 5, 2011 by flopadopilus
	Meetings so few and far between :( (Preview) I know that I can start a meeting, I heard that it can happen, however I have no idea how to do it. The meetings in this area are so few and so far between. Its really sad. I am wondering why? Is this true for most areas? I think there are way more AA meetings than Alanon. I am really not sure what would wor...	youfoundme	10	785	May 5, 2011 by youfoundme
	Mother's Day - just another holiday??? (Preview) So Mothers Day is supposed to be a celebration, a good day, right? Well, to me, its just another holiday and with holidays always come problems. Ive come to hate the holidays. My brother and sister-in-law are the ones in the family that can do no wrong, can say anything without consequences, and tak...	mslouise	4	1817	May 5, 2011 by mslouise
	Toxic Love (Preview) One of the best "tools" I used in my recovery, when I was going through those emotional cycles of wondering if I was the crazy one, or was I expecting too much in my relationship, or perhaps I was too harsh, etc - was a reference to "toxic love vs. real love" I used the list below (comp...	canadianguy	10	922	May 5, 2011 by tommyecat
	LOL. Partner just told me she wants us to have a trial separation. Feel like screaming. (Preview) The title says it all. She's been drinking tonight (she drinks every night). Things haven't been good really between us, I've tried talking to her to no avail. We've suggested going to Relate but it's not really happened. We have a 3 3/4yr old daughter. I feel like screaming. Based in the UK. Help me p...	jitsuka	5	979	May 5, 2011 by tommyecat
	Hello All I have missed you all very much!!!! (Preview) (((((((((((((Friends)))))))))))))))), I have been away for awhile but, now I am back yet again... You all have never left my heart or thoughts however, I have been taking that walk yet again. Got my son staightened out or should I say he got himself straightened out I just was here in the way I needed t...	Andrea12	11	839	May 4, 2011 by Andrea12
	I do not know how I feel (Preview) Background ... my exAH was released from prison late February after 2 years and 6 months in an intense treament facility. I was scared, I resolved my fears, I was compassionate, I tried to accept his amends on a limited basis and was grateful to observe some signs of real recovery. Last two weeks each en...	Jennifer	11	938	May 4, 2011 by Jennifer
	Don't know how much more I can take (Preview) I have been married for 10 yrs. My husband is awesome and I love him so much. We have 2 beautiful kids 9 & 8. With all my husbands great trates he is also an alcoholic and drug addict. Last week he told me that he needed help. I put him in the car and took him right to the er. He had been saying that he wanted to...	littlemama	7	724	May 4, 2011 by canadianguy
	I love you...I like having your here...but (Preview) ...I don't need you. Aloha Family...just felt like I should bring that on the board as my HP resurrected that experience in my mind as I was reading the ESHs. The title comes from a learning event long ago during the crazy to sane to crazy period and it came thru a good friend of my alcoholic wife at the ti...	Jerry F	8	768	May 4, 2011 by Aloha
	Feeling so BLESSED! (Preview) I now have a temporary sponsor and I feel so blessed to have found such a wonderful person to guide me in my recovery! I am anxious to start and being surrounded by others that can relate and see the change in them gives me so much hope! (Just had to share some good news!) Thanks for reading! Hugs to al...	roonpugs	4	641	May 4, 2011 by flopadopilus
	Need some blunt, honest feedback. Preparing for bf return from treatment (Preview) While I am technically new to dating an alcoholic (together 3 months), I am not new to codependency and destructive relationships. Even so, the 3 months seems like 3 years most days. I was in an emotionally and often sexually abusive relationship for 2.5 years which ended 4.5 years ago..which is ha...	tiffera	11	1124	May 4, 2011 by Jerry F
	Feeling selfish (Preview) Sometimes I'm selfish and I know it and can't stop. Ugh. My AH has been sober about 2 years now. He does a lot of service work, in addition to a meeting a day and meeting with his sponsor and sponsee. The long and short of it is that sometimes I feel irritated about all his AA committments. Tonight, I was...	White Rabbit	13	1051	May 3, 2011 by Chelle3
	So here is how it went post-interview (Preview) I am really working on not allowing myself to be pulled into his stuff. Last night when I went to pick him up from the interview, I knew that he had been drinking because when I called to find out where he was, he kept asking me where I was. I knew when I parked across the street and watched a guy that ran...	youfoundme	8	846	May 3, 2011 by ythannah
	new to group! boyfriend binge drinks and uses pot frequently! (Preview) Hello Al-Anon, I've been dating this wonderful man for a year now. However, I've witnessed him "binge drink" about once a month or every other month. He had smoked pot very infrequently throughout the year, however, I used to just be so focused on whether or not he was an alcoholic. Marijua...	andream	8	1301	May 3, 2011 by andream
	recovering husband.....but i still lack the trust (Preview) My husband of 13 years is now almost 5 months sober. I am proud of him but because he betrayed my trust so much when he was deep into his disease, I still have my moments of insanity and dont trust him. I attend weekly alanon meeting but i am not finding my compasson and i still dont forgive him for what he put...	Dawny	14	1285	May 3, 2011 by tommyecat
	Power of Prayer (Preview) A dear friend of mine just informed me that she lost her baby. She was six months pregnant. My heart aches for her and her husband. I cannot imagine the grief they are in. For those of you that believe in the power of prayer, would you please consider saying a quick prayer for my dear friend that is str...	tommyecat	5	967	May 3, 2011 by tommyecat
	His interview, not mine.... (Preview) My abf and I had a good weekend, we got a lot accomplished, he helped me dig up and plant a flower bed at our new place. We talked and had a good time. Today he has a job interview. He is not driving right now (guess why?) and so I went and picked him up to get him to the area of town he could walk from my work to th...	youfoundme	11	1097	May 3, 2011 by tommyecat
	Needing to give what I don't have (Preview) How do I give what I clearly don't have? I just cannot communicate with my teen son, and when he talks to me, it is often as if I am reliving my time with my exAH. I am getting to a point where I think I may just need to let go and hope that someday maturity and humility (on both our parts) may bring us together aga...	Loupiness	6	942	May 3, 2011 by freeagain
	4th step prayers (Preview) Hi Everyone! I am getting ready to start on step four and I was looking for prayers to help get me in the right head space. I found this one and wanted to share it with everyone.GodHelp me to see myself as I truly am I know I won't always like what I see, so give me the courage to keep going Grant me understandi...	Aimee	3	4026	May 3, 2011 by tommyecat
	Massive Destruction !! (Preview) To My MIP Family, I Know all of you have seen the destruction and total devistation in Alabama and surrounding states from the tornadoes that moved across our state two days ago. Massive is the only word to describe the toll taken on human life, property, and infrastructure. But the spirit of those who...	RLC	8	1106	May 3, 2011 by Karilynn
	therapist knows my exabf put a gun in his mouth (Preview) Ok, so, I know this is not a good idea and I am working towards getting a new therapist, but I'd been seeing the same therapist my bf introduced me to, when we first started seeing him about my exabf's drinking. Back in January, I got into an argument on the phone about my ex's drinking (while drunk, not a go...	drummerchick423	12	1329	May 2, 2011 by pinkchip
	origins of (learned) behaviour (Preview) My sister, myself and our kids were out shopping the other day getting ready for my mom's 60th bday party. We were buying helium balloons. I left to grab a few groceries, came back, and the lady had just finished filling up the last balloon. My sister whispered to me: "That balloon looks bad, it's...	danielle0516	3	1219	May 2, 2011 by clep
	My good friend has a problem, and won't admit it. (Preview) Hi new friends! So I came across your forum today after posting on another site and someone suggest Al-Anon. Short history... My very good friend of 10+ years recently came out of the closet. I'm gay as well. In the past, probably six months, I've suggested he go to see a therapist because of his heavy dr...	DanH	5	1103	May 2, 2011 by drummerchick423
	The 5 G's (Preview) From: tom To: tori Sent: Mon, May 2, 2011 9:47:10 AM Subject: RE: Literature Question Dear Tori, Greetings again from your World Service Office. Im writing back regarding your question (and my response) about the four Gs or five Gs, because Step Ten has taught me that when I find out Im wrong I need to...	Torit	2	4674	May 2, 2011 by flopadopilus
	Al Anon overall (Preview) I suppose that I am a newbie to most of the folks on here. My wife (sorry, I don't know the acronymns yet) finally admitted that she was hiding a severe drinking problem the day after Thanksgiving. So I suppose this has been going on for nearly five months. She is currently in therapy and attending mee...	Sisyphus	19	906	May 2, 2011 by tommyecat
	Al-Anon for Eating Disorders? (Preview) Is there an Al-Anon type program for people dealing with somebody who suffers from an eating disorder? My alcoholic girlfriend also has bulimia, and if anything it has become more severe since she stopped drinking. I have been working on myself with Al-Anon principles, and that certainly can't hu...	B_L	9	4073	May 2, 2011 by tommyecat
	Diamonds in the Rough (Preview) I want to express my gratitude for this board, which of course, means thanking John and every single member. It's evident that we're all at varying stages of our recoveries; thus, we are able to help on another. Sometimes, I feel I've taking a giant leap forward, only to find myself back 10 steps! Bu...	GailMichelle	3	818	May 2, 2011 by tommyecat
	Response to "Thank you, Thank you!" post (Preview)	John	3	953	May 2, 2011 by tommyecat
	Wish Me Luck !!! (Preview) Isn't it Funny How... All Winter I Can Sit around & Moan & Grown about how much I Wish it would be over, and then Spring Comes, the Floods Come, & I Wish that to be Over as Well, Then its Too Hot, Too Wet, Too Wndy, Too Chilly...and well I think I have covered every season in there... I am so Gratef...	Jozie	8	701	May 2, 2011 by tommyecat
	New here (Preview) Hello All, I've been lurking on your board for about a week or so, reading, learning, and trying to soak up all the new information. I have started several posts just to delete them. I honestly dont know what to say. I haven't been to a meeting yet. I planned to go last wednesday but chickened out. Im terri...	Mixie	11	754	May 2, 2011 by tommyecat
	Moving toward going back to school (Preview) So I am 40 years old and interested in starting college in the fall. I just received notice of an estimated grant I will get. I am so excited!!! This is something major to me. Not only will I get to learn and continue to grow, but I can put the focus back on me!!! It means more independence for me! Just what...	member922	10	691	May 2, 2011 by tommyecat
	court reversal - we didn't win. bio-dad won visitation! (Preview) i posted here that we won the long battle blocking my girl's bio-dad from having any visitation at all with her dad, unless she initates it when she's older . that's what the judge and guardian-ad-litem said in court, anyway. when i received the final hearing's court summary ... it is the polar opposit...	purpleraven	7	964	May 2, 2011 by purpleraven
	Okay, so what CAN we do?? (Preview) Hi folks... lots of great stuff on the board these days, particularly around detachment, enabling, and people genuinely wondering what exactly we CAN do, in order to help our A's find the light, to some extent. The "Getting Them Sober" book series can help answer a lot of these questions...	canadianguy	7	5079	May 2, 2011 by flopadopilus
	Very hard night! (Preview) After the session with my AH I haven't spent anytime with him, but had gotten used to going over to see him one night a weekend and watching movies again. I have been fighting it all night. The kids are not here and I miss him, but not the manipulation and all that goes with an A. We had a pretty intense conver...	flopadopilus	8	929	May 1, 2011 by flopadopilus
	Proud, Proud, Proud! (Preview) So I enjoyed my Friday as planned, dinner and movie with a friend. And yes, The King's Speech was great. The abf told me to take Saturday to myself as he would be hanging out with his son and that it would be nice for he and I to spend Sunday night together. I was thrilled. Did my own thing, laying in the...	member922	5	811	May 1, 2011 by flopadopilus
	Welcomed home by my dogs... (video) (Preview) [video=]	John	5	732	May 1, 2011 by maresie
	What is the difference between advice and suggestion? (Preview) I need feedback on this cuz I seriously don't know and find myself frequently lapsing into advice giving. I could stick "I suggest" in front of all my thoughts but it winds up being the same things much of the time...Advice. Well meaning most of the time, but still advice which is unsolici...	pinkchip	21	6129	May 1, 2011 by pinkchip
	I am hurt (Preview) Despite all the good intentions and al anon I feel hurt. My ah told me yesterday I am a coward deceitful cruel and a quitter His mother doesn't speak to me and gave me silent treatment with the look of death (quite a combination) so I know I am no coward no quitter and try to be respectful I didn't cause it can...	Crazy Frog	8	1553	May 1, 2011 by tommyecat
	yellow tags?? (Preview) Hi everyone. Whenever I have posted a thread, a yellow tag appears. (that is what it looks like). I can't figure out what it is sopposed to mean. I don't see them by anyone else's thread. Please, what does that mean? Thanks. Curiously, Otie	Otie	4	613	May 1, 2011 by Otie
	Oh boy...what to do. (Preview) My addict son asked if he & his girlfriend could move into my apt which will be vacant soon. They have been working on staying "clean" & want somewhere where there is a controlled atmostphere w/ rules. This apt is above my garage on my property. I am not sure if this is a wise thing o...	Trudles57	4	1176	May 1, 2011 by tommyecat
	Step In the Right Direction (Preview) Well, all hell broke loose four days ago ending in my AH leaving. Of course, he "didn't do anything wrong." It's all me. I accept responsibility for my actions - snooping around, accusing him without substantial facts, jealousy, distrust. We, as a couple, are in dire straights. The...	thetalady	3	1073	Apr 30, 2011 by sunny123
	Try different groups! (Preview) I had been to two meetings here in my town and was not able to attend today so I considered going to another mtg about an hr out of town and I DID! I drove very nervously the long drive, trying to find the new place, wondering what it would be like. Once there I found a lovely lady hanging the Al Anon signs up w...	roonpugs	3	883	Apr 30, 2011 by Jerry F
	visiting al-anon (Preview) I have heard a couple of share's in face to face meetings from veteran's talking about how they were just visiters in the first 6 months to a year of al-anon. I definately heard my perspective in those shares. Last Sunday I talked to my "temporary" sponser and asked if he wanted to work wit...	DadtoCandE	8	851	Apr 30, 2011 by maryjane
	the scorpion and the frog (Preview) Whenever I go nuts, asking myself why my exabf did this, or said that...I think back to how I had red flags about his alcoholism from the beginning, yet I chose to stay. I am trying to focus on MY part in everything rather than his, because I can't change him. Anyway, whenever I feel puzzled by his behavior...	drummerchick423	3	871	Apr 30, 2011 by flopadopilus
	how do you get a sponsor? (Preview) can someone tell me how to get a sponsor. I am feeling so defeated right now. I just feel so sick, with a whirlwind of emotions. I swear I feel like my head is going to explode. right now, I don't even know why I am so freaking angry with my AH, I mean I generally know, but nothing inparticular. I swear, I jus...	Rachel262612	3	4172	Apr 30, 2011 by Jerry F
	standing up for yourself: a story about overcoming fear (Preview) Hi everyone... Nice subject line eh? Ya, I'm thinking that's what I'll call my book. lol, just kidding. I'll try not to go into too much boring detail about my job and this particular incident.... but, I'm a talker so... prepare yourselves;) ok.. nevermind, I just typed a bunch and realized I can't go i...	danielle0516	7	1325	Apr 30, 2011 by danielle0516
	Feeling overwhelmed this last few days (Preview) With my A on his step two things are getting worse. I am doing the very best I can, and at times like this morning all I can do is shut my mouth, ignore him and go on with my day. I feel like hitting him lots of the time the last week. I spend time working on myself, determing what is right for me. My A gives me fi...	clep	11	859	Apr 30, 2011 by danielle0516
	slowly & easy! (Preview) I am going to take this slowly & easy today! I have not be on MIP siince April 6th I believe & believe me I miss it & all of you! What I want to share today is that I am sooo tired again because of the anxiety & stress of going to CA next month. I have been trying to think of other things & have...	Hoot Nanny	2	908	Apr 30, 2011 by member922
	You Gottawanna (Preview) Have any of you guys have heard a poem that begins with "You Gottawanna" I heard someone mention it in my face to face meeting this morning and the parts that the person remembered were great. A few of the lines in it "You gottawanna go to meetings" and "You gottawanna work...	tommyecat	1	1516	Apr 30, 2011 by member922
	Maybe a baby! (Preview) Yeah maybe a baby. My middle son, who is 21 and lives at home, just told me that his GF may be pregnant. They don't know yet. I am in shock!! I know he isn't ready to be a father nor is she ready to be a mother. Nor am I ready to be a grandmother. Not that that matters much, honeslty. I have been sworn to secrecy and...	wildthang86	1	858	Apr 30, 2011 by tommyecat
	He lies (venting and bewildered) (Preview) OK, I know that lies shouldn't come as a surprise to me. They really shouldn't. And, quite honestly, I've come to expect the Big Lies about infidelities and drinking. I guess I can almost understand the Big Lies: it's too painful for AH to tell the Big Truths and face himself and his actions. I just d...	Very Very Tired	11	1106	Apr 30, 2011 by drummerchick423
	I can see recovery after all (Preview) My son and I are living far from our usual home right now and my exAH -- my son's dad -- has come to visit our son for ten days. He is staying with us. He is a binge drinker who goes for long periods sober or at least appearing so, so I knew the chances were good that he wouldn't be actively drunk while he was her...	Mattie	2	1000	Apr 30, 2011 by GailMichelle
	C2C PP 202 July 20 (Preview) I went to a face to face meeting yesterday and this reading was part of our topic, Letting go. I really got a lot out of it... In the past, joy was a rare visitor to many of us. Al-Anon recovery often leads us to find it more frequently. But instead of sitting back and enjoying these pleasant moments, we t...	tommyecat	1	1259	Apr 30, 2011 by hotrod
	plans for the weekend (Preview) My dil and gd have returned to Japan. It was really hard saying goodbye to them on Easter Sunday. They were with us for a month with my son there for the last 10 days of their stay. They all returned together which I was happy about. I decided since we no longer had a house full of people we would take a trip to o...	Gailey	6	899	Apr 30, 2011 by wifeofalcoholic
	Angry, Hurt, Grieving, want to forgive but not ready (Preview) In early September, I started dating a guy who seemed to be a fairly nice guy. Seemed like he had spirituality, was working a program, had 15 years sober & clean, we both hit it right off and we had a wonderful time hanging out together. No physical. Just friendship. It was great. Then one night i...	Courage2change	7	1112	Apr 30, 2011 by drummerchick423
	"Keep coming back" - yes! (Preview) I had a really bad week. I didn't find the guts to use the phone list when I needed to talk to someone. Today I almost didn't drag my butt out of bed to go to a meeting, but I am SO GLAD I did... I didn't talk at the meeting. I'm too new to have anything relevant to share about such a high-numbered step, and everyo...	atheos	3	949	Apr 29, 2011 by Jerry F
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