The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
I received this book yesterday and am going to start it tonight. I had 2 people tell me it was awesome and wondered if anyone has read this and has anything to say. I also received Perfect Daughters by Robert J. Ackerman, Ph.D. and wondered if these impacted anyone and if anyone has more books to add to my list after these. I have read Codependent No More by Melody Beattie and Getting Them Sober by Toby Rice Drews which I highly recommend both of those.
I have decided to stay off the drama train for now and dive back into reading, walking, attending Al-anon meetings and I even got a massage last night which was so awesome. I am getting my hair done tonight and it feels good to pamper myself for once!
__________________
God grant me the serenity To accept the things I cannot change, Courage to change the things I can, And wisdom to know the difference.
Al-Anon/Alateen Family Group Headquarters, Inc. 800-344-2666
Ten of the absolute BEST dollars I ever spent was on a daily reader called Daily Affirmations for Adult Children of Alcoholics by Rokelle Lerner. (It's been quite a few years since I bought it, so it might be more than that now, but you might be able to find it pretty cheap on Amazon.) Another great one - although not specifically about adult children - is The Dance of Anger by Harriet Lerner. I have Perfect Daughters, but it's been so many years since I read it that I honestly don't remember much about it, but I must have liked it because I kept it!
Sounds like you're doing a great job on the self-care front - that's always the most important! Keep it up!
Red Hawk
__________________
My heart is moved by all I cannot save: so much has been destroyed. I have to cast my lot with those who, age after age, perversely, with no extraordinary power, reconstitute the world. A passion to make, and make again, where such un-making reigns.
hey flopa, I did get the 12 steps for adult children book early on when I came back to alanon, it allowed alanon to make sense for me, as I am an acoa and the issues and the chapter four really helped me to trace my inner feelings and see why I always ended up feeling guilty or fearful, it really helped me dis entangle my confused emotions. Untwist them and get back to the real me, it took some time and a lot of self reflection and forgiveness work.
I could not stop projecting into the future and I lived in these future fantasies bc I was afraid of reality. It was so impossible it felt like, for me to focus on the present moment. A book that helped me to do that was the power of now by eckart tolle. He also wrote a new earth.
A book my bf discovered is called self esteem 3rd edition by McKay & Fanning -- this is an awesome book for you if you want to understand how we get sick in the first place, how we psychologically get affected and why, it is very easy to understand and it works with program even though it uses some different language. Being able to see the pathology easily and identify how and what you want to change, well it is easier when we can see how it develops (IMHO) - bc then we see it is a regular/normal response to a sick situation, perhaps it helps us to not take the disease so personally and able to see it more as the organism it is. For a long time, I felt doomed and sick but now I have choices about it.
I have carloyn myss (the energetics of healing (dvd) changed my life) and she is a great author/healer, her new book that I keep hearing about how amazing it is in thre chat room, is called Entering the Castle.
__________________
Light, Love, Peace, Blessings & Healing to Us All. God's Will Be Done. Amen.
Adultchildren.org.......... there is a fabulous book there and to my knowledge the only place this particular book can be ordered. Its like the big AA book for alcholics, this is the big red book for adult children. Really fabulous.!
