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The last few days I have wanted to talk to my ex AH and call and just be friends like before, but the last conversation we had really has me stumped and I am just deciding to let it be. I am not going to talk about it with him or try to figure it out even. He is unhealthy I am unhealthy, hence we can't have a healthy conversation. So I am not going to be calling to be his buddy nor try to get through anything at this point. I am starting to make sense!
I don't care what he is doing on nights he is alone without our kids, because it is none of my business and I have to take care of me and the kids and can't waste time worrying about him anymore. The last conversation was about whether he could respect my wishes and not drink when he has my lil 1 alone. He feels it's okay and that he started doing it because he was mad at me for hanging out with a guy. My fault? I think not. My oldest would know and has set boundaries with him. So instead of having that conversation again I decided to just send them both or neither at all.
I will protect myself and my kids and not have to rationalize why anymore!
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Great awareness and controlling the things you can.
Of course you are the reason he drinks. Are maybe because the sun comes up, or it's raining, or fill in the blanks __________ ,__________,___________ !!
What a great share. I am reminded of the thought, your ex has a HP, your kids have a HP, as you have a HP. God has no grandchildren. It is so great to focus on taking care of yourself.
