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A little anxiety, it's ok ..
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My AH's suspended licnese is coming to an end. The trick is he has to come up with 250$ to get it back. He hadn't said anything except oh 30 days before I can pay the fine. Oookkk .. lol .. I have NO idea where he thinks I'm coming up with this money we are doing well to keep our heads above water with the way th...
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BreakingFree vs Flopadopilus
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So I have been here all along as BreakingFree, but I don't remember my password and so here I am back as flopadopilus. Oh well I guess I preferred this one anyway. Yes it's a new picture on my avatar no face lift or boyfriend, just exercise and working a good program for me is making me look better I guess. Af...
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flopadopilus
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forced surrender .. submission ? obssessive compulsive more so ..
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if anyone has any esh that would give me strength & hope .. please share .. this is really compulsive on my part .. i haven't done this in years .. I drove past my alcoholic's house this morning at 6 a.m. and saw him leaving with someone new .. not even judging it .. i needed to go for me .. he didn't see me .....
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MeTwo2
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I'm all alone out here!
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I just dropped my husband off at a rehab center, but he's addicted to oxycontin. There's no NA support for families in my area and they told me to go to AlAnon instead. I have absolutely no one that I can talk to. I've been dealing with this all by myself and I'm tired. I love my husband, but if this fails, the...
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lyonzgirl
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confused
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My ABF rang last night he is staying with someone from AA and is ready to get back to his recovery. He said he wants me to forget whats happended work my programme and lets move on. He said he does not want to look at yesterday. I told him we have been here before that it is not about his alcoholism but what...
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Tracy
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mornings
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Well I just had a nice conversation with my A. We sat on the patio and talked about a few different things. Nothing important...the weather, the garden, the pets, etc. Even so, it's nice to have just that little bit of him for a brief time. Then he got up and said he was going to walk to the store down the road...
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pineapple
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Hi everyone I'm new here, but not to Al Anon
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Hi everyone. As my user name suggests I love an adult child of an alcoholic. I have been married to my ACOA for 19 years. It has not been easy since I am told I am to blame for everything that is causing issues in the marriage. He will not accept that his actions are to blame as well. I started attending local A...
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Wife is angry at my A parents
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Hi everyone,
I have been pondering my responsibility in this situation and could use some experience, strength and hope. My wife and I will likely be separating or divorcing soon over a few different issues. We are seeking counseling together and it may be what we need but I am not banking on it. My wif...
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mikeco
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My weekend
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HI all I am feeling a bit strange at the moment. My mind is not telling my how bad my life is and how much of a loser I am!!??? That is not usual for me at all??? This weekend, I posted that he was stoned. I was waiting for it. I think he 'kinda' respected my boundary in that he was doing a job around the house th...
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Lindaoakford
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What should I do
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Hello, Im new here and dont currently attend Al-anon meetings although I have often thought about it. My name is Emily and I am 23. The alcoholic in my life is my father. Although Im not sure if he is actually an alcoholic or whether my problems with him are really that big compared to others. What I do kno...
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worriedandlost
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Angry with his disease. Help moving forward...
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I appreciate everyone's responses and support. I feel so frustrated in myself for not being like a jack-in-the-box, popping into reality and just leaving the mess behind me. I know that the only way for me to feel better right now is to let go of what I have already lost (the love of my life). Consciously...
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KeepingFaith
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How do i behave
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My wife has relapse after 3 yrs, saying that a drink is the only way she can take the edge off suicidal depression which she feels results from feeling boxed in by everyone telling her what to do -- me, her sponser, my son. She has stopped going to AA saying that she finds it just makes het feel bad about hers...
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chemprac
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Status update
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LOL... had to think of something unique... I guess something I am learning is that I always thought I had to be perpetually, terminally unique, because god-forbid I was not noticed somehow. I craved acceptance because I needed approval. It didn't have to be healthy approval and acceptance, jus...
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youfoundme
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Does your A know you are going to Al-anon?
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I am curious if your AS knows you are going to Al-anon meetings? Did you tell them? Or how did they find out? How did they react when they found out you were going to al-anon meetings?
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callmemara
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Finances
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I would like to hear how you have dealt with your finances and being married to an A? For example, how do you make sure the bills get paid so you don't have them disconnected? Or what about, have you ever been evicted d/t not being able to pay the rent b/c of their reckless spending on his addiction? Did you h...
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callmemara
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Sunday
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I know that Sundays are difficult for my alcoholic husband. They were for me for a very long time as well. Now I have an easier time learning to enjoy what the day brings, and what I am able to create with it. However, it is still tough sometimes, knowing that I have a full work week ahead, and all of that t...
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KLotus
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well seems to me... I'm spending yet another night alone...
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Five nights last week out all night, no call, no texts, nothing. Just a whole lot of blaming me when he shows up. This week has been actually pretty quiet... home everynight, in a fairly good mood, interacting with kids, no drinking, no drugs UNTIL... tonight! Tells me he will be home by 7. Well it's 9:30...
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Jonesy0505
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2 weeks now
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Well its been 2 weeks since my AH has went to county jail, still waiting on a bed for rehab. I can honestly say it has been easier. I am doing for myself, making choices for myself and not looking for approval from no one. I have not be able to go to F2F mtg because of school. But I did start going back to church...
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jmanning
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What is expected of me???
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Hi, I've been looking around the internet trying to find some ideas to help my wife get sober, when we first met we were both drinking and hanging out in clubs, at that time I didn't feel like there was problem because we didn't drink all the time, but we did drink a lot because it was a new relationship and w...
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bandit714
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Interventions: Do they work or not?
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I've toyed with this idea for awhile and have gotten many mixed opinions, although they are from people who aren't in the position most of us here are in. What are your personal opinions or esh's about interventions? Sherri
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Jonesy0505
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Grieving the losses of 10 years ..
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So .. I'm back in town and haven't been online much .. if any of you read my time in Washington, it was pretty much chaos the last 2 days .. but so i came home and my alcoholic says ... ok i want nothing to do with you, i only want to see our daughter .. Well i've pounded meetings and the grief has been unbelievabl...
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MeTwo2
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AH's 2nd DWI but I'm feeling OK
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It has been so long since I have posted! So much has happened but in some ways, not much has changed. My AH had moved out the first week of August and then got his 2nd DWI the first week of Sept. I am awaiting his court date still but and of course there is the possibility of jail time. My kids still do not really...
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sookie
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Update
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It has been a while since I have posted but I read the posts daily it helps me go through the days! And if course I go to face 2 face meetings so I got my al anon daily IV dose to pump me up! Anyway we have been officially legally and physically separated for 3 weeks and despite the emotional rollercoaster I fee...
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Crazy Frog
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Meditation, your own power
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I am not sure I shared this. This is my son. He learned this from a Native American. A person has to have total concentration to do this. He finds a sharp big rock and balances it on stable rocks. This is by what I meant I had to let go and allow him to find his own power. I mean in everything. His father is the mon...
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Debilyn
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Dry Drunk
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How do you deal with or how can you tell if you live with a person that is a dry drunk?
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Vancouver
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Partner started drinking my booze...
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Hi there. I'm a very grateful member of Al-anon. The A in my life is my partner, she's been drinking for years but admitted to me (total suprise to me) that she is an A. Her mother was an A too. Recently she has been drinking (in "secret" in the bedroom) after work. She drinks every day (vodka), s...
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jitsuka
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moving day today, so sad
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Update: The movers are coming today to take my RA's stuff to storage. I also have to mail him a key and info and am praying for no drama. [ warning: pity pot moment!] I feel so sad. The house is emptying out. I know that a relationship doesn't define us, that each individual needs to build their own life. An...
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rara avis
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How much power i give my own thoughts and feelings ..
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It's amazing to me how much power i give my own thoughts and feelings .. As if i really believe if i think something feel something .. it is in absolutes .. I said to someone the other night .. i feel like i'm 5 and they shot back with you never got to be 5 .. it hit me when my family moved out of the house .. brother...
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MeTwo2
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My husband will be home from rehab in a week
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I'm very excited to see him but truth is I am scared to death. I'm trying to do some research on alanon meetings I really need someone to talk to about my feelings. Any good info or comments would be appreciated.
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MsTonya
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Changes
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I really gotta say if this program so works on so many different levels. It's a program that for me, I get out of it what I put into it. I can work it or not work it, it's 100% my responsibility. This past year I have put a tremendous amount of work into it and I have so much further to go. There have been some r...
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Pushka
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So 3rd post tonight .. Very restless .. Fantasies
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So ok .. 3 x's a charm .. I am so completely restless .. grieving the pain of the end of this relationship and desperately trying in my mind to come up with solutions to how to change, control, fix, n save it .. I just can't believe this person would Really walk away .. Somewhere along the lines i got it set in m...
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MeTwo2
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he is stoned
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Hi guys i am on here because I am trying to take care of me for a bit. My husband is home for the weekend. He is wanting to fix a broken bit on the car.... it has been broken for about 3 months... today he just really wanted to get to it. there is no reason. He was supposed to go and buy a part to help fix it with.....
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Lindaoakford
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those from both programs...?
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Can you tell me what it was like when you wanted to be sober but just couldn't get it yet? I am just curious, and maybe curiousity killed the cat, but I just want another perspective. I have read the AA big book, so I know that from a book, but just wanted to hear some other stories... did you pitter out or q...
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youfoundme
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no secrets anymore!! feels so good!!
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I haven't poted here in a while, and really haven't been going to meetings that much either, but I am taking it one day at a time and coping the best I can with my AH. Well, today I wanted to share that I am no longer keeping secrets. One of my very best friends who I wrote on here that I thought was giving me hint...
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odalis
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Lookin for help/guidance
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For the last little while I thought our problems were mine and had mire to do with me then the alcohol but after some thought I believe that is just as much part of the problem.
I love my Boyfriend, that I know. His drinking I have come to hate. (yes on occassion I will have a glass of wine but rarely).
A li...
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NeedingGuidance
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JADE...Just A Devine Evidence
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This is conformation for me that God will do for me what I cannot do for myself. All I have to do is nurture the process and that which touches my spirit and calms it will come about. Yes I love this color of Red and then it also comes in Teal and both do the same thing for my spirit. I stand still, feel very g...
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Jerry F
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just a misquote
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I misquoted Author Unknown: You can tell the size of your God by looking at the size of your worry list. The longer your list , the smaller your God.
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Hoot Nanny
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Did I do the right thing?
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This is all new to me & yet of great comfort in knowing that I am really not alone as I have found my way here.
My boyfriend was a high functioning alcoholic. He got hooked on sleeping pills (unconfirmed pain killers as well) and became hooked on the meds which of course has spiraled his alcoholism in...
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KeepingFaith
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How to love....
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http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=y8Gf4-eT3w0&ob=...
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kris10
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my A is a theaf.....
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Today I got more money stolen out of my wallet.... Not the first time.. I absolutely HATE this... How disrespectful when he spends all of his money within 4 days on dope and then I have to take care of him the rest of the month (cigarettes, food, gas,ect.) He never pays me back in full because he already owe...
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kris10
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Am I getting OLD?
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well...that is three posts in a row for me. I am making up for some lost time I guess. I don't have enough time to really say what is in my mind & heart. Someone said on the internet that we should log off & get a life(something to that respect anyhow) I have been known to misquote a lot. I guess I need t...
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Hoot Nanny
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a little info.
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I just have a little info: some quotes I got today when looking at the internet! You can tell the size of your God by looking at the size of your worry list, the smaller your list, the bigger your God. Author Unknown. I hope I quoted that right? Apologizing: Does not always mean you're wrong & the other...
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Hoot Nanny
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mother drinks secretly
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My sisters and myself know my mom is still drinking in private. She refuses to say she does even though we all know. She thinks she is smarter than every one around her, but its obvious. To add to that, she becomes very irate and takes it out on her family when confronted. What do you recommend my sist...
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liar
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Reaching Out
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Hi, Haven't been on or posted in a while. New job is great! I truly enjoy it and am so busy that I don't have time to worry what the Afiance is doing all afternoon (he works early shift). He swears he wants sobriety. He attends 4 hours of substance abuse classes a week. He makes notes, he has epiphanies...
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NovSun
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Detach with Love?
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Ok, another question... what the heck is detach with love?? Detaching to me means silent treatment for fear of losing my temper. It means ignoring him while he's drunk... which results in more aggressive, hateful words from him. It means taking the dog out for a walk to get away from him and the madn...
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NovSun
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I am determined!
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I am determined to get this right! I have a lot to offer & will always, I mean ALWAYS be the best me I can be! I don't feel so disappointed in myself today. I am not saying that I won't be tomorrow--still a WORK IN PROGRESS! To everyone who is feeling low today: I have been there so many times I can't count o...
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Hoot Nanny
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One of my "antistressors"
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Meet Chloe Jazmine! (c: Was feeling sorta, well admitting, missing ex AH. Keep thinking I gotta go see him for ME. Do not want regrets I did not go see him. Sorta made me feel lost for a bit, So I do what I do and keep busy with animals and people. Visited my friends up here and picked up this baby opossom. The p...
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Debilyn
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Living with a recovering alcoholic.
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Hi. New to the group and first post. My husband is a newly recovering alcoholic. He is 30 days sober. We have been together as a couple for 5 years and married for 2 1/2 years. I moved out of our house with my 15 year old son (from a previous marriage) approximately one month ago. My husband is verbally and em...
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Catbird
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im just being a big baby
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my mum has been on the phone all night and i cant pick up- we havent been speaking since i forogt her birthday.and i did the opposite of what i usually do- i just didnt care about and then gush all over the place to try and make it up to her- as if her emotions and feelings were paramount before all else. so sin...
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rosielee
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Garage Sale Blues - Opportunity to Change Thy Perspective
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Hi Everyone, Our small rural city has what is called a "citywide yard sale" each year. It's this Saturday. I've lived here for over 20 years and have never particpated. But this year we decided to join in the "fun." Truly I'd rather take a beating than have this thing. But he w...
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GailMichelle
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going rund and round in step one
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Hi guys i think I have said that I felt like I have relapsed recently. For some delusional reason, I thought up in my own little head that my husband was going to change his smoking pot habits. He never said he would, and never even implied that he might,,, I just thought of it all by myself.. and then of cou...
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Lindaoakford
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books
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Wow I got some money and went to Amazon to get some more books like the daily affirmations etc. $20 for three books is great.. then comes the shipping... $40 to get three books to Australia!!!! Most don't post overseas that I find, especially the cheaper second hand options. oh well.. another $60......
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Lindaoakford
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Treading the right path
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Now my life is not as enmeshed with an alcoholic partner, I have to be so careful to stay on my side of the street. One of my former co workers is up and leaving the job he has and moving across country. He has some delusion he can get unemployment when he has left his job. I'm at a place where I just have to le...
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maresie
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Missed this!
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Hey everyone....good to be back. Haven't had computer access for about a month! I have been on the rollercoaster of emotions, but going to a meeting about 4 times a week seems to help. I cant control anyone buy myself...what a hard lesson to learn. Anyways, I enjoyed reading all the posts that I missed a...
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Corgi2
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Spiraling over my A
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I have been spiraling and obsessing for a few days and am back and forth and all over the place. My divorce was final July 19th. For whatever reason my ex AH thought he needed to call me Sunday night and let me know he slept with a woman whom he met at a local bar and told me way too much detail about it all. He had...
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Breakingfree
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Did Serenity Prayer cost me my son?
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My 27 year-old addicted son we saw going downhill, and we did not let him live at home again. Through working the 12 steps for the past 3 years, I had advanced to the point that his chaotic actions did not affect me as much as in the past. Back then, I would worry alot more, and sometimes try to find him if he...
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Fiddleman
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Choices
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My meeting last night was on "choices". I immediately identified with the topic as the idea of making choices, specifically in regards to arguments and fights with my wife, was one of the first concepts that I really grasped when I got involved in Al Anon about a year ago. It was so refreshin...
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usedtobeanyer
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making a cushion for myself
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In the last few weeks I have had a major stressor in my cat being ill which required a lot of time going to the vet to get her set up on some medications. Then my phone broke, then I couldn't make it to the vet to get one of my dogs vaccinated. I generally view any of these obstacles as a calamity rather than a &q...
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maresie
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Please help me
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I've been reading the post...and cannot stop crying...Saturday, my 33 year old son totaled his unpaid uninsured vehicle. Miraculostly he was not hurt. It was a blow out...this time he was not drinking. The police stopped to help...ran his driver's license and found a warrant for a fine he never paid...
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Linda77
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The quality of patience...
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faith, hope and surrender gets me peace of mind and serenity...and Jade!! Aloha all and you know that one of the ways my HP expresses love and care for me is in flowers and plants...growing things that when they are ready give me gifts of beauty. Yes I get the same from lots of others things also and flo...
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Jerry F
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