Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

AStrongerMe · AStrongerMe

I hope everyone follows suit! I'm going home tonight, going to relax, hand out candy, watch TV and veg :) The boys are with dad this year, I'll see them when they get home about 9pm tonight. On a side note, tagged onto the post last night - he apparently left the VA sometime after 11:30pm. He's at his home...

ilovedogs · ilovedogs

I will not play into his moods, I will not fall prey to the alcoholics 'emotion' of the moment. I will let him be miserable if he needs to be and not worry about whether I'm at fault for this negative attitude. I will work my program, say the serenity prayer, and then go do something for myself. LIKE GO FO...

Misst1976 · Misst1976

Hi My mum came out of rehab 6 days ago, and I think started drinking the day after. She was so positve in rehab and it was her decision to go in the first place, she spent the last of her savings on going. But is now back on the drink hard and fast. Drinking from 7.00am right through the day, and is back to not was...

slogan_jim · slogan_jim

Like growing up in any type of home, we develop patterns. Patterns of thinking, doing and reacting. The Al-anon program has allowed me to work on breaking some of those patterns. Through my sharing and service work, I have been able to gain the confidence and self-esteem that I always wanted. Howeve...

Aimee · Aimee

Hello! I'm in a kind weird situation right now with a woman I'm bringing through the 12 steps and I'm not sure how to proceed. I met with her last night to give her the instructions on her 4th step inventory and she told me she has decided she is an alcoholic. Now I believe alcoholism is a self-diagnosed co...

aprilla · aprilla

Hi everyone I'm new And I'm very happy to say there is a AL Anon group near me and I am attending my first session next week. Finally, A working programme that will bring some sanity and structure to my life after a long time of uncomfortable feelings and urges that swallowed me up and not knowing why. Fro...

stephaniej · stephaniej

I seem to be in the darkest, most despair filled place I've been in recent memory. My ex-husband (who is not my qualifier) has been piling on the crap, and I'm having a really hard time coping. He and his attorney pulled a fast one in court earlier this month and had an order entered against me, the resul...

Maxine12stepper · Maxine12stepper

Hello Everyone, My name is Maxine and I would say Im a 'non' alcoholic, I dont crave drink drugs or food, but I certainly have something wrong with me where I need to fill that emtpy hole i have in me, with something, I have drank, i have taken drugs before, but I can put them down, lucky me eh, bu...

rainbojo66 · rainbojo66

Hi friends, So glad to have found MIP again. I have had one helluva year since I have been on the message boards. Just having spent a weekend with my very alcoholic sister and then having to cut ties with her, my mother has brain cancer, my husband has been worse with his drinking and I feel like I am getti...

AStrongerMe · AStrongerMe

I say "suppose" because sometimes it's hard to see it's progress at the moment but I think this is. I have time to digest it. So the exRBF and I have been spending time together but he's aware its a different level. I'm working on me and can I continue to focus on my program and learn the things...

Jerry F · Jerry F

Who ever you are, where ever you are at now and no matter how you have been affected. My prayers and thoughts and my HP being sent your way. Detach from it...get safe...stay safe. (((((hugs))))) Aloha No

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Not trying to complain but here I go! I am very disappointed about my ultrasound yesterday! I had to have a full bladder & was uncomfortable but that is not the jest of it; there were two techs examining me--one after the other. I guess the first one couldn't get it right. I was very frustrated w/ the 2...

Minaret · Minaret

Hi, I just came back to this site a few days ago to post about my agony of dealing with my AH and his drinking. Last night he went back to AA, this time to a different meeting. This meeting was in another town, other people. They were glad he was there and supported him. He came home still angry and...

orchidlover · orchidlover

I have been working a lot these days on the kinds of outbursts I used to have around the ex A and indeed which i can still have in my life. For me being around people who are using in different ways is a real source of boundary making that sometimes I don't know how to do. In a few weeks a manager who is rife wit...

Overcome · Overcome

I am in the process of purchasing a new car. Tomorrow (Thursday) they want me to come in to finalize the paperwork at 4:30 p.m. Central time. I should get done in time to be back for the 9 p.m. E.S.T. (that's 8 p.m. my time- Central) MIP Step/Tradition meeting, but I'm not sure. I would sure appreciate it if...

Minaret · Minaret

I am fairly new to al-anon, I went to about six meetings over the course of the last two years (there are only two meetings a week in my small town). During that time (as I've mentioned on here before), I was an emotional wreck and cried nearly the whole time non-stop. It was really hard on me emotionally an...

house cat · house cat

My husband is going to meetings faithfully. He has a sponsor and is currently working on step 4. He hasn't relapsed or anything, but the subject of smoking keeps coming up in our relationship. We both quit 2 years ago, but he keeps doing it and then lying about it, and then blaming me for the behavior....

tiredtonite · tiredtonite

This is really a time to call upon the spiritual part of my program and have faith, keep hopeful but I'm struggling with that this morning. I'm waiting for news from family and my former sponsor who are in the path of the storm. I found myself feeling resentful last night as I listened for updates on t...

JAMIE74 · JAMIE74

I don't post much so a little history. AH went to rehab last year, his drink of choice whiskey and drug of choice meth. He did good about 8 months. He's back to using and drinking beer. But slowly working his way back to whiskey. He sneaks other types of liquor that he thinks I don't notice, trying to get...

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

Hi everyone I'm a new but have been reading the stories for about 2 weeks now and everyone is so nice with lots of love and support. I have been seeing a counselor for about 3 months and it has helped but she continues to ask that I attend Al-anon. I have been twice but can't seem to continue going. I gue...

Jerry F · Jerry F

at 7pounds 11 ounces and 20.5 inches tall he made his appearance at 6:01PM last evening. It was my granddaughters first child and our second great-grand child. We camped out side her door for over 12 hours as she did as instructed for over 24. I was concerned for her because she was so child like and d...

jwall · jwall

Hello! I am 18, freshmen in College, and still living at home. My mom is an alcoholic, and has been prior to when I was born. Shes been to rehab 4 times, most recently a couple months ago. She was sober for a month, and then began drinking again. Right now I dont have a car and she is my ride to and from school, a...

mehere80 · mehere80

Why do I say that I'm ok when people ask how I am? I don't feel ok. I feel depressed, damaged, injured, desperate. My husband is finally trying at our marriage and I can't for the life of me accept it. I can't let him in. I have this pain in my chest, and my heart beats so hard. I feel some deep, agonizing pai...

Lizabelle123 · Lizabelle123

My AH knows that I am not interested in sleeping with him when he is drunk however we have very differing views about what constitutes drunk. I think he starts acting like an idiot after 2-3 drinks, he thinks it comes a lot later. Problem is he is extremely amorous when he's drinking and my saying no alw...

jorjorjor · jorjorjor

hey all, thanks to al anon i'm seeing my role in my own misery and how I bum myself out. I notice it in little things, like how I tell stories that are about bad things happening, or how I focus on the negative aspects of my life. Bottom line, I'm not an alcoholic, and I don't want alcoholics to tell me story....

Jozie · Jozie

This Past Weekend, I had some Good & Some Bad, Lots of Happy, & A Little Sad! And I Can Honestly Say, it was the Most Balanced Weekend I have had in a while, when it came to Mind, Body & Spirit! I have Handed My Expectation back to HP, and I have Left My Assumptions at His Feet as well! And So Far So G...

MJseeksSerenity · MJseeksSerenity

I am new to Al-Anon. I spent 21 days with my ABF while he was in a rehab facility. I went to the facility every single day and sat in all the lectures with him and the meetings, and I also went to my own meetings to try to learn all I possibly could about this disease that has followed me around my entire life....

Cher S6 · Cher S6

I am new to this site. I am attending my first al non meeting tomorrow at 12. My brothers is the A in my life and is currently in detox...again and wants me to puck him up tomorrow. I'm so worn down, stressed and tired. I'm one of only two family members left that help him. I have a family of my own and the guilt i...

Wendy O · Wendy O

I am struggling with his continued selfishness even with him in recovery. He never considers my feelings, needs or wants. It is always what he wants. I need advice. Trying to work my program, but I am experiencing anger. I always thought his self absorbed personality was because he was activel...

stephaniej · stephaniej

Today I had a much-needed reminder of how far I've come in my program. I still struggle a lot in how I deal with my AH, and how I work my program in that relationship. But I also have a very, very dear friend dating back to 7th grade, who has struggled with alcoholism since high school. He has always been v...

WorkingThroughIt · WorkingThroughIt

Still trying to quit these 2 things. Finding all I want to do is smoke and drink coffee more than ever! Anyone have any advice on why things like this are so hard for adult children and codependents? This would be in the same category as problems with food, spending, distraction, etc.

hdftby100 · hdftby100

So, here's how the weekend went... We went camping with our grandson. The wife only drank one bottle of wine (half Friday night and the other half Saturday afternoon). I consider that a small victory. We have started to have some money issues due to the economy and a little reckless spending on her p...

NovSun · NovSun

Hello MIP Family, Just a quick update. The AH is 23 days sober today. This might be an actual record. He has not done the 90 meetings in 90 days thing as he previously so boldy announced, but he IS attending 4 times per week. And that is a HUGE improvement over the "I hate AA, I don't believe in God...

LulaMay · LulaMay

So I came close to a mental melt down between home and work this month. So I am trying to take care of myself. I treated myself to an overdue hair cut. I cut 13 inches off and donated it to locks of love. I colored my hair as well and feel phenomenal. I was so scared but once I was there....I could not believe ho...

Ness · Ness

Remembered today, & every day, with love. Ness xx

New Me · New Me

I'm new here and I haven't attented Al anon yet. I plan to, and reading these forums has encouraged me. I am currently separated and seriously considering divorce. My AH and I have been married 4 and a half years have a two year old who currently lives with me. My AH would go on weekly benders that last...

newdarsh · newdarsh

My sister is an alcholic. She calls me on the phone 4 to 8 times a day. Today, I couldn't take one more phone call of listening to her slurring words; I told her that I loved her very much, but not to call me until she was sober, and I hung up. I have not done this before because I feel so bad for her and her situati...

atheos · atheos

So, so many people in the world have a bitter, cynical "life sucks, get used to it" attitude... when I was at the point in my life where I was at risk of succumbing to the same belief, my fellow Al-Anon members loaned me their strength, optimism, and hope until I got my own back. For most of my lif...

souljoy · souljoy

Well it's gone from weird to weirder and today is the day he tells me I have never accepted him for his mental illness and that hurts him. Okayyyyyy never mind you are drinking everyday once again after 4 years of sobriety. Never mind you want me to bring in a third party in our relationship. Never mind you...

Overcome · Overcome

Since I've noticed several posts lately about this I thought I'd start one of my own, since I've been down both roads. I posted a reply about my journey through these two diseases on another thread about Alzheimer's. In this other thread on "my mom has been diagnosed with Alzheimer's", I s...

InspiredPhotography · InspiredPhotography

We are not in the path but we could possible feel the effects of her. My area/region could be getting as much as 50-100mm a rain & have wind gust up to 90 km/hour. So we will see how it plays out for school tmw. Hopefully it's not as bad they are warning! I will be praying for everyone who is in the path of Sa...

m0lissa · m0lissa

I have been married to an alcoholic for 26 years. We got married very young, and in the naivete of my youth I thought that he would 'grow out of it'. He is unbelievably self-centered, isolates himself from the family by drinking in his workshop or outbuilding, hides how much he drinks, lies as easy as bre...

Highlyfavored · Highlyfavored

Hi, everyone! I've a big grin on my face, and a Big "thank you" to my HP (God), my nephew gave me all but $300.00 of my money, I told him that was a gift and worry about paying that back. Thank you all for your support and possitive thoughts. I know it was a "God (HP)thing" I can't st...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I have finally had some fun to let go of some of the anxiety I have been having. It seems like sometimes when I write or talk about stuff things get easier but other times I just feel worse. I am going to have to turn all this stuff over. My HP is in charge of most of what I am going through not just the doctor. I ju...

TrudyS85 · TrudyS85

I finally dropped off the financial information to my lawyer. I am going through so many emotions, sadness, fear, relief. While I have not told my AH yet that I am ready to file (I will do that in the next few weeks) it is another step I am taking closer to divorce. After a great session with my therapist w...

AZR · AZR

Hi my husband is an alcoholic in denial. We've been married for 14 years. We have 2 girls and his 23 year old is now living with us. She hates his drinking and sees what it has done to me. I raised her and she just graduated college and now working on masters. It amazes me that he fails to see what a beautfiul fa...

Gailey · Gailey

and after about 2 years of taking care of her my family is showing signs of falling apart. It is 5 of us...4 girls and 1 boy. Mom has always lived with my brother. He is a non-drinking A that has not had a drink in many years. He thinks he is the dictator of all that goes on with regard to taking care of our mother...

hdftby100 · hdftby100

Well, last week at this time I was much worse off than today... good news! The Al-Anon meeting I went to yesterday seems to be a little better fit than the first group I attended. Nothing per se bad about the first group but just seemed like a better fit for me. Still have to work into it though. I am stil...

Mitchie · Mitchie

i have been taking care of my mother for 12 years, I am 46, she is 69 there is nothing "wrong" with her except she is finacially incapable. She is a drug addict, weather she is currently using or not is unknown, but she does have the behavior. During the past 15 years, she blew her inheritan...

tiredtonite · tiredtonite

Thanks to all of you who responded to my post about keeping someone's anonymity in the workplace. Reading your wisdom and recovery made me feel that you had my back. Your encouragement is giving me strength in a uncomfortable climate at work. Just to let you know, I did keep the person's anonymity and...

Overcome · Overcome

Steps One, Two and Three taught us about the disease of alcoholism, that we were powerless over the disease and that a Power greater than ourselves can return us to Sanity if we so desire. A short phrase for this is: I cant, God can, and Im going to Let Him.There are several different ways to approach the f...

InspiredPhotography · InspiredPhotography

I really missed you guys.. So far things had been going well since the last time I posted. We decided to work together. He has gone to AA meetings. He is actually going two times a week now. However past week things have been going down again. His antics & such are mounting up on me. Today I am a little...

rehprof · rehprof

back story.. A lost job in June 2010. Asked him to leave in Oct. We divorced in March 2012. He asked for $500 a week in alimony -- in anticipation that he would have to pay child support...and in hopes that the judge would award it to even out him having to pay child support. this is 2/3 of my entire income. I p...

Gailey · Gailey

Living with the disease of alcoholism is too much for most of us. As the Meeting opening states "Our thinking becomes distorted and we become irritable and unreasonable without even knowing it." Hotrod wrote this in another reply and for some reason it hit me hard today. I know I have heard...

Debilyn · Debilyn

Thank you all for catching me. Things are even better. It shocks me how situations can happen,blows up in your face sorta, it feels sooo awful, can't eat, drink, sleep, breath. Ya just don't think yet you are on this train to what you believe is the worst thing. Then whoa, I did learn something! I admit al...

WorkingThroughIt · WorkingThroughIt

Language of Letting Go (which is not 12-step literature) talked today about not getting hooked into power plays and manipulation by others. The phone rings. It's my mother's cousin. She called me to do a power play - it was totally obvious. Insane, actually. I wish I handled it better. I lied and said s...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

OK so my health is very important. But, yesterday my doctor ordered an ultrasound. He wasn't being very nice either because he was dissatisfied w/ the incompetence he found in he lab results. No word on them until I got there. OH well...he is human. I really don't like him but oh well...at least I got him...

daisy31 · daisy31

I am working with a sponsor and I am on step 3. I feel like I know I am powerless (step1). I came to believe a hp could restore me to sanity (step 2). And now for step 3 became willing to turn my life over to a HP. I feel stuck on step 3. I just don't know how to turn it over. I have to make decisions all day long a...

WorkingThroughIt · WorkingThroughIt

If all you nice Alanoners don't want your alcoholic to lie to you, don't ask him any stupid questions. "Where were you last night?" or "What happened to your paycheck?" or "Why do you smell like Avon's Roses Roses?" Or my all-time favorite one: "W...

rellik · rellik

So I'm starting to lose the perception of control. I call it perception cuz I know I never had control. But I want it so bad!!! there is a slogan or formula that I have mentioned before that goes like this E+R=O. E=Event, these can be anything in our lives. being the spouse of an acoholic the "event&q...

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	I'm going to have a Happy Halloween (Preview) I hope everyone follows suit! I'm going home tonight, going to relax, hand out candy, watch TV and veg :) The boys are with dad this year, I'll see them when they get home about 9pm tonight. On a side note, tagged onto the post last night - he apparently left the VA sometime after 11:30pm. He's at his home...	AStrongerMe	4	411	Nov 1, 2012 by AStrongerMe
	Ignoring their moods (Preview) I will not play into his moods, I will not fall prey to the alcoholics 'emotion' of the moment. I will let him be miserable if he needs to be and not worry about whether I'm at fault for this negative attitude. I will work my program, say the serenity prayer, and then go do something for myself. LIKE GO FO...	ilovedogs	7	605	Nov 1, 2012 by Maxine12stepper
	Relapsed straight from Rehab (Preview) Hi My mum came out of rehab 6 days ago, and I think started drinking the day after. She was so positve in rehab and it was her decision to go in the first place, she spent the last of her savings on going. But is now back on the drink hard and fast. Drinking from 7.00am right through the day, and is back to not was...	Misst1976	4	482	Nov 1, 2012 by shelbylisa
	Breaking patterns (share) (Preview) Like growing up in any type of home, we develop patterns. Patterns of thinking, doing and reacting. The Al-anon program has allowed me to work on breaking some of those patterns. Through my sharing and service work, I have been able to gain the confidence and self-esteem that I always wanted. Howeve...	slogan_jim	2	563	Nov 1, 2012 by aprilla
	Sponsoring an alcoholic? (Preview) Hello! I'm in a kind weird situation right now with a woman I'm bringing through the 12 steps and I'm not sure how to proceed. I met with her last night to give her the instructions on her 4th step inventory and she told me she has decided she is an alcoholic. Now I believe alcoholism is a self-diagnosed co...	Aimee	8	705	Nov 1, 2012 by glad lee
	Newbie, In need of your support (Preview) Hi everyone I'm new And I'm very happy to say there is a AL Anon group near me and I am attending my first session next week. Finally, A working programme that will bring some sanity and structure to my life after a long time of uncomfortable feelings and urges that swallowed me up and not knowing why. Fro...	aprilla	4	522	Nov 1, 2012 by rellik
	Hopeful that my MIP family can lift me up today (Preview) I seem to be in the darkest, most despair filled place I've been in recent memory. My ex-husband (who is not my qualifier) has been piling on the crap, and I'm having a really hard time coping. He and his attorney pulled a fast one in court earlier this month and had an order entered against me, the resul...	stephaniej	10	580	Nov 1, 2012 by rellik
	Hi everyone, newcomer here xxx (Preview) Hello Everyone, My name is Maxine and I would say Im a 'non' alcoholic, I dont crave drink drugs or food, but I certainly have something wrong with me where I need to fill that emtpy hole i have in me, with something, I have drank, i have taken drugs before, but I can put them down, lucky me eh, bu...	Maxine12stepper	8	759	Nov 1, 2012 by Maxine12stepper
	Trying to get back... (Preview) Hi friends, So glad to have found MIP again. I have had one helluva year since I have been on the message boards. Just having spent a weekend with my very alcoholic sister and then having to cut ties with her, my mother has brain cancer, my husband has been worse with his drinking and I feel like I am getti...	rainbojo66	4	517	Nov 1, 2012 by pinkchip
	Progress I suppose (Preview) I say "suppose" because sometimes it's hard to see it's progress at the moment but I think this is. I have time to digest it. So the exRBF and I have been spending time together but he's aware its a different level. I'm working on me and can I continue to focus on my program and learn the things...	AStrongerMe	6	372	Nov 1, 2012 by pinkchip
	Victims of Sandy (Preview) Who ever you are, where ever you are at now and no matter how you have been affected. My prayers and thoughts and my HP being sent your way. Detach from it...get safe...stay safe. (((((hugs))))) Aloha No	Jerry F	3	481	Nov 1, 2012 by Maxine12stepper
	got it done; just waiting... (Preview) Not trying to complain but here I go! I am very disappointed about my ultrasound yesterday! I had to have a full bladder & was uncomfortable but that is not the jest of it; there were two techs examining me--one after the other. I guess the first one couldn't get it right. I was very frustrated w/ the 2...	Hoot Nanny	4	459	Nov 1, 2012 by Maxine12stepper
	Wanted to share an interesting story (Preview) Hi, I just came back to this site a few days ago to post about my agony of dealing with my AH and his drinking. Last night he went back to AA, this time to a different meeting. This meeting was in another town, other people. They were glad he was there and supported him. He came home still angry and...	Minaret	2	571	Nov 1, 2012 by Maxine12stepper
	urgency (Preview) I have been working a lot these days on the kinds of outbursts I used to have around the ex A and indeed which i can still have in my life. For me being around people who are using in different ways is a real source of boundary making that sometimes I don't know how to do. In a few weeks a manager who is rife wit...	orchidlover	4	607	Nov 1, 2012 by orchidlover
	Need someone to cover Thursday's Step/Tradition meeting (Preview) I am in the process of purchasing a new car. Tomorrow (Thursday) they want me to come in to finalize the paperwork at 4:30 p.m. Central time. I should get done in time to be back for the 9 p.m. E.S.T. (that's 8 p.m. my time- Central) MIP Step/Tradition meeting, but I'm not sure. I would sure appreciate it if...	Overcome	0	330	Oct 31, 2012 by Overcome
	Trying again, but just want everything to end (Preview) I am fairly new to al-anon, I went to about six meetings over the course of the last two years (there are only two meetings a week in my small town). During that time (as I've mentioned on here before), I was an emotional wreck and cried nearly the whole time non-stop. It was really hard on me emotionally an...	Minaret	4	456	Oct 31, 2012 by Breakingfree
	feel really beaten down (Preview) My husband is going to meetings faithfully. He has a sponsor and is currently working on step 4. He hasn't relapsed or anything, but the subject of smoking keeps coming up in our relationship. We both quit 2 years ago, but he keeps doing it and then lying about it, and then blaming me for the behavior....	house cat	11	656	Oct 31, 2012 by Maxine12stepper
	waiting for news (Preview) This is really a time to call upon the spiritual part of my program and have faith, keep hopeful but I'm struggling with that this morning. I'm waiting for news from family and my former sponsor who are in the path of the storm. I found myself feeling resentful last night as I listened for updates on t...	tiredtonite	7	415	Oct 31, 2012 by stephaniej
	The better I get...the worse he seems to get (Preview) I don't post much so a little history. AH went to rehab last year, his drink of choice whiskey and drug of choice meth. He did good about 8 months. He's back to using and drinking beer. But slowly working his way back to whiskey. He sneaks other types of liquor that he thinks I don't notice, trying to get...	JAMIE74	5	618	Oct 31, 2012 by AStrongerMe
	I need help (Preview) Hi everyone I'm a new but have been reading the stories for about 2 weeks now and everyone is so nice with lots of love and support. I have been seeing a counselor for about 3 months and it has helped but she continues to ask that I attend Al-anon. I have been twice but can't seem to continue going. I gue...	Cathyinaz	8	694	Oct 31, 2012 by orchidlover
	Daniel 10/27/12 (Preview) at 7pounds 11 ounces and 20.5 inches tall he made his appearance at 6:01PM last evening. It was my granddaughters first child and our second great-grand child. We camped out side her door for over 12 hours as she did as instructed for over 24. I was concerned for her because she was so child like and d...	Jerry F	15	624	Oct 31, 2012 by orchidlover
	Alcoholic mom (Preview) Hello! I am 18, freshmen in College, and still living at home. My mom is an alcoholic, and has been prior to when I was born. Shes been to rehab 4 times, most recently a couple months ago. She was sober for a month, and then began drinking again. Right now I dont have a car and she is my ride to and from school, a...	jwall	5	442	Oct 30, 2012 by UK Jane
	I'm not ok (Preview) Why do I say that I'm ok when people ask how I am? I don't feel ok. I feel depressed, damaged, injured, desperate. My husband is finally trying at our marriage and I can't for the life of me accept it. I can't let him in. I have this pain in my chest, and my heart beats so hard. I feel some deep, agonizing pai...	mehere80	14	657	Oct 30, 2012 by Minaret
	Differing opinion of how much is too much and AH is highly sexual when drinking (Preview) My AH knows that I am not interested in sleeping with him when he is drunk however we have very differing views about what constitutes drunk. I think he starts acting like an idiot after 2-3 drinks, he thinks it comes a lot later. Problem is he is extremely amorous when he's drinking and my saying no alw...	Lizabelle123	5	610	Oct 30, 2012 by Minaret
	Seeing my role in a crappy situation (Preview) hey all, thanks to al anon i'm seeing my role in my own misery and how I bum myself out. I notice it in little things, like how I tell stories that are about bad things happening, or how I focus on the negative aspects of my life. Bottom line, I'm not an alcoholic, and I don't want alcoholics to tell me story....	jorjorjor	4	541	Oct 30, 2012 by Minaret
	Are you Listening? (Preview) This Past Weekend, I had some Good & Some Bad, Lots of Happy, & A Little Sad! And I Can Honestly Say, it was the Most Balanced Weekend I have had in a while, when it came to Mind, Body & Spirit! I have Handed My Expectation back to HP, and I have Left My Assumptions at His Feet as well! And So Far So G...	Jozie	4	591	Oct 30, 2012 by Minaret
	What do you do when ABF begs you to help him stop drinking? (Preview) I am new to Al-Anon. I spent 21 days with my ABF while he was in a rehab facility. I went to the facility every single day and sat in all the lectures with him and the meetings, and I also went to my own meetings to try to learn all I possibly could about this disease that has followed me around my entire life....	MJseeksSerenity	11	539	Oct 30, 2012 by Highlyfavored
	New to this site. (Preview) I am new to this site. I am attending my first al non meeting tomorrow at 12. My brothers is the A in my life and is currently in detox...again and wants me to puck him up tomorrow. I'm so worn down, stressed and tired. I'm one of only two family members left that help him. I have a family of my own and the guilt i...	Cher S6	7	488	Oct 30, 2012 by glad lee
	Having trouble dealing with his continued selfishness (Preview) I am struggling with his continued selfishness even with him in recovery. He never considers my feelings, needs or wants. It is always what he wants. I need advice. Trying to work my program, but I am experiencing anger. I always thought his self absorbed personality was because he was activel...	Wendy O	10	766	Oct 30, 2012 by Wendy O
	Working My Program! (Preview) Today I had a much-needed reminder of how far I've come in my program. I still struggle a lot in how I deal with my AH, and how I work my program in that relationship. But I also have a very, very dear friend dating back to 7th grade, who has struggled with alcoholism since high school. He has always been v...	stephaniej	5	525	Oct 30, 2012 by ilovedogs
	Coffee & Cigarettes (Preview) Still trying to quit these 2 things. Finding all I want to do is smoke and drink coffee more than ever! Anyone have any advice on why things like this are so hard for adult children and codependents? This would be in the same category as problems with food, spending, distraction, etc.	WorkingThroughIt	10	599	Oct 30, 2012 by denro
	Weekend Camping and other... (Preview) So, here's how the weekend went... We went camping with our grandson. The wife only drank one bottle of wine (half Friday night and the other half Saturday afternoon). I consider that a small victory. We have started to have some money issues due to the economy and a little reckless spending on her p...	hdftby100	2	479	Oct 29, 2012 by Jerry F
	Happy Thursday (Preview) Hello MIP Family, Just a quick update. The AH is 23 days sober today. This might be an actual record. He has not done the 90 meetings in 90 days thing as he previously so boldy announced, but he IS attending 4 times per week. And that is a HUGE improvement over the "I hate AA, I don't believe in God...	NovSun	3	363	Oct 29, 2012 by NovSun
	Taking Care of ME (Preview) So I came close to a mental melt down between home and work this month. So I am trying to take care of myself. I treated myself to an overdue hair cut. I cut 13 inches off and donated it to locks of love. I colored my hair as well and feel phenomenal. I was so scared but once I was there....I could not believe ho...	LulaMay	1	447	Oct 29, 2012 by jorjorjor
	My son 30/10/76-27/10/11 (Preview) Remembered today, & every day, with love. Ness xx	Ness	8	551	Oct 29, 2012 by Ness
	Can I trust him? (Preview) I'm new here and I haven't attented Al anon yet. I plan to, and reading these forums has encouraged me. I am currently separated and seriously considering divorce. My AH and I have been married 4 and a half years have a two year old who currently lives with me. My AH would go on weekly benders that last...	New Me	14	678	Oct 29, 2012 by New Me
	Constant Phone Calls (Preview) My sister is an alcholic. She calls me on the phone 4 to 8 times a day. Today, I couldn't take one more phone call of listening to her slurring words; I told her that I loved her very much, but not to call me until she was sober, and I hung up. I have not done this before because I feel so bad for her and her situati...	newdarsh	8	677	Oct 28, 2012 by abbyal
	Realizing how much this program has given me (Preview) So, so many people in the world have a bitter, cynical "life sucks, get used to it" attitude... when I was at the point in my life where I was at risk of succumbing to the same belief, my fellow Al-Anon members loaned me their strength, optimism, and hope until I got my own back. For most of my lif...	atheos	5	416	Oct 28, 2012 by UK Jane
	Sigh (Preview) Well it's gone from weird to weirder and today is the day he tells me I have never accepted him for his mental illness and that hurts him. Okayyyyyy never mind you are drinking everyday once again after 4 years of sobriety. Never mind you want me to bring in a third party in our relationship. Never mind you...	souljoy	2	373	Oct 28, 2012 by Jerry F
	Alzheimer's and Alcoholism (Preview) Since I've noticed several posts lately about this I thought I'd start one of my own, since I've been down both roads. I posted a reply about my journey through these two diseases on another thread about Alzheimer's. In this other thread on "my mom has been diagnosed with Alzheimer's", I s...	Overcome	2	597	Oct 28, 2012 by Jerry F
	Hurricane Sandy (Preview) We are not in the path but we could possible feel the effects of her. My area/region could be getting as much as 50-100mm a rain & have wind gust up to 90 km/hour. So we will see how it plays out for school tmw. Hopefully it's not as bad they are warning! I will be praying for everyone who is in the path of Sa...	InspiredPhotography	1	344	Oct 28, 2012 by Jerry F
	New to this board and not sure where to begin... (Preview) I have been married to an alcoholic for 26 years. We got married very young, and in the naivete of my youth I thought that he would 'grow out of it'. He is unbelievably self-centered, isolates himself from the family by drinking in his workshop or outbuilding, hides how much he drinks, lies as easy as bre...	m0lissa	13	848	Oct 28, 2012 by InspiredPhotography
	HP (God) never fail (Preview) Hi, everyone! I've a big grin on my face, and a Big "thank you" to my HP (God), my nephew gave me all but $300.00 of my money, I told him that was a gift and worry about paying that back. Thank you all for your support and possitive thoughts. I know it was a "God (HP)thing" I can't st...	Highlyfavored	4	348	Oct 28, 2012 by slogan_jim
	finally some fun! (Preview) I have finally had some fun to let go of some of the anxiety I have been having. It seems like sometimes when I write or talk about stuff things get easier but other times I just feel worse. I am going to have to turn all this stuff over. My HP is in charge of most of what I am going through not just the doctor. I ju...	Hoot Nanny	1	342	Oct 28, 2012 by hotrod
	Dropped Off The Paperwork (Preview) I finally dropped off the financial information to my lawyer. I am going through so many emotions, sadness, fear, relief. While I have not told my AH yet that I am ready to file (I will do that in the next few weeks) it is another step I am taking closer to divorce. After a great session with my therapist w...	TrudyS85	6	597	Oct 27, 2012 by gyzer02
	Sad (Preview) Hi my husband is an alcoholic in denial. We've been married for 14 years. We have 2 girls and his 23 year old is now living with us. She hates his drinking and sees what it has done to me. I raised her and she just graduated college and now working on masters. It amazes me that he fails to see what a beautfiul fa...	AZR	7	615	Oct 27, 2012 by abbyal
	My mom has alzheimer's disease...... (Preview) and after about 2 years of taking care of her my family is showing signs of falling apart. It is 5 of us...4 girls and 1 boy. Mom has always lived with my brother. He is a non-drinking A that has not had a drink in many years. He thinks he is the dictator of all that goes on with regard to taking care of our mother...	Gailey	5	756	Oct 27, 2012 by Overcome
	Mental preparation for the weekend... (Preview) Well, last week at this time I was much worse off than today... good news! The Al-Anon meeting I went to yesterday seems to be a little better fit than the first group I attended. Nothing per se bad about the first group but just seemed like a better fit for me. Still have to work into it though. I am stil...	hdftby100	2	526	Oct 27, 2012 by Jerry F
	help in dealing with resentment, guilt regarding my mother (Preview) i have been taking care of my mother for 12 years, I am 46, she is 69 there is nothing "wrong" with her except she is finacially incapable. She is a drug addict, weather she is currently using or not is unknown, but she does have the behavior. During the past 15 years, she blew her inheritan...	Mitchie	6	856	Oct 27, 2012 by hotrod
	Update about work (Preview) Thanks to all of you who responded to my post about keeping someone's anonymity in the workplace. Reading your wisdom and recovery made me feel that you had my back. Your encouragement is giving me strength in a uncomfortable climate at work. Just to let you know, I did keep the person's anonymity and...	tiredtonite	2	498	Oct 26, 2012 by orchidlover
	STEP FOUR: Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves. (Preview) Steps One, Two and Three taught us about the disease of alcoholism, that we were powerless over the disease and that a Power greater than ourselves can return us to Sanity if we so desire. A short phrase for this is: I cant, God can, and Im going to Let Him.There are several different ways to approach the f...	Overcome	3	1521	Oct 26, 2012 by orchidlover
	Hi (Preview) I really missed you guys.. So far things had been going well since the last time I posted. We decided to work together. He has gone to AA meetings. He is actually going two times a week now. However past week things have been going down again. His antics & such are mounting up on me. Today I am a little...	InspiredPhotography	12	699	Oct 26, 2012 by hotrod
	Do I ask or let it go? (Preview) back story.. A lost job in June 2010. Asked him to leave in Oct. We divorced in March 2012. He asked for $500 a week in alimony -- in anticipation that he would have to pay child support...and in hopes that the judge would award it to even out him having to pay child support. this is 2/3 of my entire income. I p...	rehprof	26	748	Oct 26, 2012 by AStrongerMe
	WOW....I am still so sick! (Preview) Living with the disease of alcoholism is too much for most of us. As the Meeting opening states "Our thinking becomes distorted and we become irritable and unreasonable without even knowing it." Hotrod wrote this in another reply and for some reason it hit me hard today. I know I have heard...	Gailey	7	604	Oct 26, 2012 by Gailey
	Ya jest never know! (Preview) Thank you all for catching me. Things are even better. It shocks me how situations can happen,blows up in your face sorta, it feels sooo awful, can't eat, drink, sleep, breath. Ya just don't think yet you are on this train to what you believe is the worst thing. Then whoa, I did learn something! I admit al...	Debilyn	4	634	Oct 26, 2012 by Debilyn
	Meditation Book Came True Today (Preview) Language of Letting Go (which is not 12-step literature) talked today about not getting hooked into power plays and manipulation by others. The phone rings. It's my mother's cousin. She called me to do a power play - it was totally obvious. Insane, actually. I wish I handled it better. I lied and said s...	WorkingThroughIt	9	742	Oct 25, 2012 by orchidlover
	something else I gotta do! (Preview) OK so my health is very important. But, yesterday my doctor ordered an ultrasound. He wasn't being very nice either because he was dissatisfied w/ the incompetence he found in he lab results. No word on them until I got there. OH well...he is human. I really don't like him but oh well...at least I got him...	Hoot Nanny	2	330	Oct 25, 2012 by Icie
	Having a hard time with step 3 (Preview) I am working with a sponsor and I am on step 3. I feel like I know I am powerless (step1). I came to believe a hp could restore me to sanity (step 2). And now for step 3 became willing to turn my life over to a HP. I feel stuck on step 3. I just don't know how to turn it over. I have to make decisions all day long a...	daisy31	7	634	Oct 25, 2012 by mehere80
	A Suggestion from a Double-Winner (Preview) If all you nice Alanoners don't want your alcoholic to lie to you, don't ask him any stupid questions. "Where were you last night?" or "What happened to your paycheck?" or "Why do you smell like Avon's Roses Roses?" Or my all-time favorite one: "W...	WorkingThroughIt	18	709	Oct 25, 2012 by WorkingThroughIt
	Solution to the CONTROL freek in me (Preview) So I'm starting to lose the perception of control. I call it perception cuz I know I never had control. But I want it so bad!!! there is a slogan or formula that I have mentioned before that goes like this E+R=O. E=Event, these can be anything in our lives. being the spouse of an acoholic the "event&q...	rellik	5	638	Oct 24, 2012 by rellik
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