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Not that I expected her for some reason but the AW couldn't do it. When I had told her that I was uncomfortable with her drinking at all she had told me she would not drink but would not go to this fitness cookout today. I said it was up to her. Guess I should've prepared more for when I came home. She was into the wine. I actually did good, though. I said nothing other than some pleasantries and now in the other room. Three C's, right? Just keep telling myself I am doing right and she is sick. She needs to seek the help for herself. Just sad cause I found out a lady who worked with my daughter died Thursday night from alcoholism related issue.
For me, I found the more I began to detach, the easier it became. Sometimes when I used to live with the alcoholic I would need to get out of the house. that's when I'd go to a meeting or out with friends.
Aloha hdftby...and congradulations on the growth part. Here's a tidbit that helped me alot incase you haven't heard it yet..."Expectations are future resentments". I don't know where or when I first heard that one and it has helped me tons. My early sponsor suggested that I have no expectations of the alcoholic at all and when she didn't drink or use I'd could be pleasantly surprised. I loved that one and can remember a time or two whenn I was pleasantly surprised rather than depressed that soon she would drink and or use again soooon.
You're growing...go look for a sponsor; a good one is worth his weight in gold. Keep coming back (((((hugs)))))
