Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

Jen61 · Jen61

It has been an interesting eight years for me and my A. I was in denial for a long time that he really had a problem. I wanted to fix it and really thought I could. I did start going to Al-Anon meetings almost 8 years ago which I do think saved my life and sanity. I have completed step 1 and have two sponsors...

Gaby · Gaby

It's hard .. my son found his way home. He again said he wants to go to the SLE.. So I met up with him to take him and he decided to go to the Salvation Army... Me knowing he may leave.. He said he wants help and he will get it there. This whole time I know I again was manipulated. I told him I love him and I won't lose...

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

Faith makes all things possible,Hope makes all things work,Love makes all things beautiful,May you have all the three for this Christmas. MERRY CHRISTMAS

WorkingThroughIt · WorkingThroughIt

I think yesterday I talked about my AA Sponsor. It's good to have him but it's not enough. I really need to be working with a woman - and one in Alanon. More than anything else I'm Alanon qualified. Booze was a long-ago tossed out symptom of my Alanon issues. for the last few weeks I've been reading 10th Ste...

trelani · trelani

Can't believe it has been 17 plus years with my alky. Ask myself over and over why I am still here. Can't honestly say I love him. I care, but don't have love any longer..too many harsh words, pounding on locked doors, name calling, cuss words, filthy angry words and threats. He has been in hospital at lea...

HisMrsWright · HisMrsWright

Merry Christmas! A year ago I would've never thought I would be spending Christmas alone with just my daughter. My husband is still in rehab. He has called me several times and sounds positive. I first had doubts but the past week and a half I have been reading more and more on codependency and alcoholis...

Aloha · Aloha

Not so long ago, during this time of the year, I used to think that the amount of gifts I received from others was a tell tale sign of how loved and appreciated I was. The less gifts I received, the less I was appreciated and the lower my self-esteem dropped. This year has been a really, REALLY rough year for...

Dotty2 · Dotty2

I posted about 9 days ago that I was concerned my son had started drinking again after close to a year recovery. Two days ago I discovered a $100 bill was missing from my purse. Tonight I am missing lottery tickets that were gifts. I went into my son's room and found several of my gift cards that I had rounde...

Aloha · Aloha

I think it's funny, sometimes, when I catch myself and call myself on my wacky thinking. This morning while driving in to work today, my head was taking me on this imaginary "what if" trip. I won't bother with details, because it's all imagined stuff anyhow, but my mind was playing out these...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Yes, today is Christmas eve! I am not going to be on here tomorrow. The stress is lifting! My husband & I are getting along. We actually went out for Mexican last night & it felt good to look at him across the table. He is my rock! I don't ever want to take him for granted again. Sometimes he seems lik...

mm830 · mm830

Merry Christmas all. I decided to go to A's family Christmas more for myself than anything, I don't want to ruin this holiday for people who have done a lot for me and my son. Let A ruin it fine, but his mother has been good to me. If A is acting out that's on him, my plan in that case is to leave my son at home so he...

WorkingThroughIt · WorkingThroughIt

Merry Christmas and thank you God for a solution. no, it's not easy to follow the directions you have given me yes my ego and pride are hurt but I know my family are sick people with no tools like me they get sick sometimes and I know this isn't a determination of who I am! help me respond the way you would wa...

bubblegum · bubblegum

Please join us at 9pm Eastern Standard Time Tuesday - Tonight --- Despite the festive eve for most families, some of us may need some emotional support. If you do, please join me tonight. Topics are Honesty, Hope and Healing.

Gaby · Gaby

My son called me from where he is at.. Still out of state he said he just got out of the mental hospital.. He wanted to committ suicide when he left the ranch and went to a hospital and they admitted him. They released him and he said he has not eaten and wants to find his way back to go back to a sober living and s...

neshema2 · neshema2

I called my A brother...the one who got snarky w/me because i refused a visit from him unless my terms were met...AA....Sobriety....Sustained programme work, THEN we TALK about a visit... His response was the usual...I can zerox it and use it for the next time.... I told him how he treated me and how I w...

neshema2 · neshema2

When i was last on this board....b4 the long MIA trip I did, I had no probs thinking I belonged here bc I was wading in A's....Oh no...not marriage...but my family.....i was letting my brothers and yes, dear friends, "get to me" and so i needed alanon BIG tme then I go AWOL and this last comeba...

neshema2 · neshema2

My pets are out of luck....I am going next door...

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

Slow down and let go On a road trip up the California coast a while back, I tried to call home only to find that the battery in my cell phone had died. I worried. What if someone needed to get in touch with me? What if there was a problem with the house? What if my family couldn't find me and got worried? I passed...

Gailey · Gailey

Hi all....ordered this book for my recovering A son. Has anyone ever read it. My 13 year old granddaughter has been having a lot of questions regarding alcoholism. This should share with them the 12 steps and why my son goes to so many meetings and just how those meetings help him. I am excited about him r...

WorkingThroughIt · WorkingThroughIt

Well, they're getting sicker. Father never contacts me or answers any of my calls or emails. Brother and wife won't speak to me. Sent my niece a birthday present and heard nothing back (had no expectations but it's sad how generations of this disease repeats itself) and my mother didn't even call or se...

Tracy · Tracy

Hi All, Now my focus is mostly on myself and I have done some steps work I see my ultimate goal is my spiritual awakening, if I am spirtually well everything else falls into place. The first three steps are needed throughour my day many people I love and care for do not have a higher power, they do not know th...

Tricia911 · Tricia911

Mine are The Life Recovery Series Christian Co-dependence Did not like: The Anger Workbook - It made me more angry. :)

alice1 · alice1

hello everyone. i hope someone out there can shed some light. i have been married to my husband for 5 years. when i met him, i was just 1 year sober from alcohol, and he was 10 years sober from alcohol and drugs. we have a toddler son and my 16 year old daughter from another relationship. my husband suffers f...

Raven Juniper · Raven Juniper

It's right around the corner.... A new year, a fresh start.... At least for us, if not for the A in our lives. This is my first year and holiday season with you all, and I want to thank you from the bottom of my heart for the compassion and fellowship I've felt since Day One. You are some amazing people! This y...

Gaby · Gaby

I took today off. It was very hard to get up. I went as far as showering brushing my teeth and praying. My intentions was to go to work. I prayed for that strength.. But I had to sleep. I will be going to a face to Face meeting tonight. I say my serenity prayer. I do realize I can not control anything ever when It...

hotrod · hotrod

Step 8 has been posted to the Step Work Board Learn How The Twelve Steps Work.Please join us and share your thoughtshttp://stepwork.activeboard.com/t56034097/alanon-step-8/

Melly1248 · Melly1248

ABF came home tonight in a great mood. "Now I know you might not believe this" he says. "But I've come to a big decision". He sounded very serious. I was all ears and actually a little bit worried. "As of midnight, on New Years Eve, I'm not going to drink or smoke anymore&qu...

mercedes1959 · mercedes1959

To all my friends at MIP, I hope 2014 is the best year ever.

mm830 · mm830

I am very hopeful today, despite my life repeating the same pattern the usual weekend breakup with the A and other problems I seem to be stuck in. Cathy in AZ said to me last week that things would change when I started to change. So after doing alot of thinking and praying, today I am going to take the bull b...

breamanic665 · breamanic665

After having set up going to christmas with my family, a great weekend, lots of love and affection, then walking off right as im fixing dinner Sunday, my A calls me yesterday and asks me if Im sitting down. I say I am. He blind sides me - we cant be together anymore because he is a monster and a terrible pers...

Grace7 · Grace7

Hi Everyone, I have been gone a Long time. I didn't realize how long until I read my messages. I am an only child and have been the parent to my parents for some time. This past year plus has been extra tough. My Father, my Hero, passed away 3 weeks ago. Two days before my birthday. Funeral two days af...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I have been having a bout w/ the fact that I don't have the feeling for the holiday that I wish I had. I have been listening to holiday music for about a month now. I even read that listening to the music is healthy. I know that I will change my tune after the weekend. I feel that time will change things. By the w...

Jozie · Jozie

I don't know how A Person Can Cram so Many Blessings & Nightmares into the Same Week, But I Have Managed it! The Disease of Addiction ALWAYS seems to Hit in my Family! It is An Endless Cycle that just Keeps on Coming! My Grandchildren are Heartbroken, and THEY had to lay witness to the Nightmare of the...

gingerfizz · gingerfizz

When AH and I met, it was at a bar. As many ppl in their 20's ish age group do, we started going out on dates ordering dinners and wine, drinking at home, going out to bars, drinking at friends parties, throwing our own parties, etc. Nothing too crazy but all get-togethers would involve booze. We did th...

tiredtonite · tiredtonite

I'm hoping someone may have some es&h to offer concerning a child of a sober alcoholic trying to parent their parent. My abf and I have been encountering some controlling behaviors on his eldest daughter's part. I have done a very good job of staying out of it but wish there was a response that wou...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Yeah, I only have today. But, I wish it were a different day...I have no choice but live this one. It is winter solstice in North America today. I don't know exactly what day it is all over the world. I happen to be remembering the day my dad died...but only for a little while. I will move on to other things. L...

Gaby · Gaby

The night went well. A lot of my close friends know how I am feeling and what I am going through. I have such supportive people in my life.. I had fun and for a minute just put aside what I was going through. I'm up early and still no word. I say my serenity prayer and I know I am powerless and I know that my son had...

Theoceancalls · Theoceancalls

not sure where to begin or what to say. its been a rough week. im trying to get in the christmas spirit yetvi just cant. i ususlly love the lights and the anticipation of the gifts and all, but thus year i.just feel blah. my ah has been drinking more the past two weeks and really miserable. all we have done is...

pinkchip · pinkchip

I've seen posts of people saying they were not prepared to leave abusive, alcoholic or just alcoholic partners. I wanted to add my personal experience without telling folks to ditch their partners. There is a difference between being ready or capable of doing what is necessary or feel you may want t...

lookingup · lookingup

how or what do i do to find my last post??ive lost it and i been flipping through all the pages and nothing,i cant find nothing,need help please if anybody here knows how to tell me how to get to my posts.ty looking up

lookingup · lookingup

here I am back here shoulda and should stay here but I always allow life to get me off track.my a b/f is now renting a room from me we are just friends been working out though he works 7 days a week 12 hour days so that's ok too,he don't drink as much if any I can tell if he has drank anything I set my bounderies wit...

mercedes1959 · mercedes1959

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mm830 · mm830

That's what A said to me Thursday, plus some lather rinse repeat of the usual. I hung up, and haven't made any attempt to contact since. Yesterday I made a decision that this belongs to my HP to sort out now, not me. One thing I am struggling with is his mother invited us to Christmas with them, we have share...

ilovedogs · ilovedogs

I'm still going along with plans to find a rental. It's harder than I thought, mainly because of the dog but also because I need to find something that I think will 'fit' us. I'm not looking for anything fancy but just something practical and it's amazing how expensive some rentals are! I'm feeling di...

Jen61 · Jen61

I have started reading about what triggers an A to start drinking again once they have stopped for a period of time. Any insight on this? Thanks, Jenny

texasgal · texasgal

Its been a long time since I've been on this site a lot has happened. My husband has been in full relapse mode for many months. At first it was a lot if lies and disappearances. Then one day he was so drunk he beat me. I stayed after that incident and I was very depressed I only left house to go to work. This past...

Breakingfree · Breakingfree

Myself! I now have a break off from school for one whole month and I am going to eat healthy and work out and just enjoy myself and my friends and life. There were not enough people to take a super accelerated class for the January term class I needed to stay in the nursing program next semester. I made peace...

Iwantthingsback · Iwantthingsback

HI all! I have not been on in a few weeks. My home computer is about shot and it is hard at work at times. Things have been going really well and to be honest, I start reading posts and some of the negative or sad posts get me down when I am feeling happy. I still love it here and it still helps me a lot just need a...

Tracy · Tracy

Hi everyone, the topic at our meeting today was serenity. An old timer was sitting next to me as I shared about the first convention I attended Still very busy in my head still very very ill no serenity. I was rushing around and this old timer took hold of my hand and said very calmly, quietly, Tracy you kn...

brendastarr · brendastarr

My boyfriend's single mother was an alcoholic for the first 20 years of his life. She eventually went to AA and became sober for 10 years and for the past couple of years, she has started drinking again. She told him that she started drinking again after my boyfriend in a way vented his frustrations wit...

John · John

Hi Everyone! Our online Al-Anon group holds scheduled meetings every day of the week. 9am Monday - Friday 10am Saturday & Sunday 9pm Monday - Saturday 7pm Sunday. We have three chairperson slots open at this time. We would like to get these filled by currently active Al-Anon members with a mini...

Gaby · Gaby

I have prayed and surrendered to where I can't help my son. I have heard nothing as of right now. I know he knows to call me even collect to tell me that he is ok. I know there are churches or homeless shelters he can go to.. But I have to think of my family I have to take care of especially my 8 year old daughters t...

Melly1248 · Melly1248

Lots is right in my world these past couple of days. I am choosing to believe that because I kept myself calm and quiet (with the exception of whinging on here a bit) and reminded myself that "this too shall pass", my world has righted itself quickly and I have attracted some good karma. So I'l...

slogan_jim · slogan_jim

Hey everyone, My name is slogan_Jim and I am a grateful member of al-anon. My alcoholic father just called and said he wanted to take me out to dinner tonight. In theory that sounds great and should be a good time. He was sober and seems like he's been for a few days (he also called Thursday to say hi and was f...

John · John

I surrendered to the process of recovery and started this amazing journey. Thank you for trudging the road of happy destiny with me. John

Gaby · Gaby

My son has not gone back to the ranch.. Pastor now says he is not allowed back on the ranch. That he has consequences to deal with. He is out in a different state and I feel guilty. I am a mess. Yes I do attend ala-non meetings. I need to find me a new Sponser.. I have a lot of family and friends support.. But this...

HisMrsWright · HisMrsWright

Hi everyone! I have tried to write an update for days and I can't ever find enough time to do much. Working full time with 2 small children and taking are of life by myself has me running ragged! I continue to read and learn all of the information I can about codependency, being a wife of an alcoholic, and...

sadsusie · sadsusie

Okay, So I was expecting to hang out with my husband tonight. He has had a very busy day today. He has been getting a couple of guys to do some work on our house?clean up the yard, fix some things. He also got them to go pick up a piano he bought for me at a thrift store. A super sweet gesture, really nice piano, $...

Rose50 · Rose50

I was surprised to get an email from my son today after weeks of silence. He wrote that he's still living in the rooming house and desperately needs to move out as guys are overdosing on heroin and smoking crack. He says he's looking for work - he will take just about anything at this point. As a last resort...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Hi Everyone: It's been a while since I've posted but have gained so much ESH from reading all of your shares. I am upset tonight and having trouble getting past it. My oldest son (19) lives at home and is going to college locally. Mostly I love this. Tonight he asked to have some friends over. I said y...

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	Wow, it has been staring me in the face for 8 years, but now I get it. (Preview) It has been an interesting eight years for me and my A. I was in denial for a long time that he really had a problem. I wanted to fix it and really thought I could. I did start going to Al-Anon meetings almost 8 years ago which I do think saved my life and sanity. I have completed step 1 and have two sponsors...	Jen61	6	460	Dec 25, 2013 by Jen61
	Again!! I was manipulated !! (Preview) It's hard .. my son found his way home. He again said he wants to go to the SLE.. So I met up with him to take him and he decided to go to the Salvation Army... Me knowing he may leave.. He said he wants help and he will get it there. This whole time I know I again was manipulated. I told him I love him and I won't lose...	Gaby	8	456	Dec 25, 2013 by Mimi3
	Merry Christmas (Preview) Faith makes all things possible,Hope makes all things work,Love makes all things beautiful,May you have all the three for this Christmas. MERRY CHRISTMAS	Cathyinaz	12	366	Dec 25, 2013 by tiredtonite
	Facing Fears (Preview) I think yesterday I talked about my AA Sponsor. It's good to have him but it's not enough. I really need to be working with a woman - and one in Alanon. More than anything else I'm Alanon qualified. Booze was a long-ago tossed out symptom of my Alanon issues. for the last few weeks I've been reading 10th Ste...	WorkingThroughIt	5	373	Dec 25, 2013 by grateful2be
	Go or stay..GO starting to make more sense (Preview) Can't believe it has been 17 plus years with my alky. Ask myself over and over why I am still here. Can't honestly say I love him. I care, but don't have love any longer..too many harsh words, pounding on locked doors, name calling, cuss words, filthy angry words and threats. He has been in hospital at lea...	trelani	3	409	Dec 25, 2013 by neshema2
	Alone on Christmas and OK with that! (Preview) Merry Christmas! A year ago I would've never thought I would be spending Christmas alone with just my daughter. My husband is still in rehab. He has called me several times and sounds positive. I first had doubts but the past week and a half I have been reading more and more on codependency and alcoholis...	HisMrsWright	4	431	Dec 25, 2013 by Heddy
	Gratitude for the self-esteem this program has brought me (Preview) Not so long ago, during this time of the year, I used to think that the amount of gifts I received from others was a tell tale sign of how loved and appreciated I was. The less gifts I received, the less I was appreciated and the lower my self-esteem dropped. This year has been a really, REALLY rough year for...	Aloha	5	298	Dec 25, 2013 by SerenityRUS
	Christmas Eve Upset (Preview) I posted about 9 days ago that I was concerned my son had started drinking again after close to a year recovery. Two days ago I discovered a $100 bill was missing from my purse. Tonight I am missing lottery tickets that were gifts. I went into my son's room and found several of my gift cards that I had rounde...	Dotty2	6	492	Dec 25, 2013 by Debilyn
	Musings of the mind (Preview) I think it's funny, sometimes, when I catch myself and call myself on my wacky thinking. This morning while driving in to work today, my head was taking me on this imaginary "what if" trip. I won't bother with details, because it's all imagined stuff anyhow, but my mind was playing out these...	Aloha	1	199	Dec 25, 2013 by grateful2be
	still hanging in! (Preview) Yes, today is Christmas eve! I am not going to be on here tomorrow. The stress is lifting! My husband & I are getting along. We actually went out for Mexican last night & it felt good to look at him across the table. He is my rock! I don't ever want to take him for granted again. Sometimes he seems lik...	Hoot Nanny	1	166	Dec 25, 2013 by grateful2be
	Doing well... (Preview) Merry Christmas all. I decided to go to A's family Christmas more for myself than anything, I don't want to ruin this holiday for people who have done a lot for me and my son. Let A ruin it fine, but his mother has been good to me. If A is acting out that's on him, my plan in that case is to leave my son at home so he...	mm830	4	227	Dec 25, 2013 by grateful2be
	Feeling much better today even though rejected (Preview) Merry Christmas and thank you God for a solution. no, it's not easy to follow the directions you have given me yes my ego and pride are hurt but I know my family are sick people with no tools like me they get sick sometimes and I know this isn't a determination of who I am! help me respond the way you would wa...	WorkingThroughIt	3	368	Dec 25, 2013 by WorkingThroughIt
	Christmas Eve Meeting - please join me. Topics are Hope, Healing and Honesty. (Preview) Please join us at 9pm Eastern Standard Time Tuesday - Tonight --- Despite the festive eve for most families, some of us may need some emotional support. If you do, please join me tonight. Topics are Honesty, Hope and Healing.	bubblegum	0	244	Dec 24, 2013 by bubblegum
	Need ESH ... (Preview) My son called me from where he is at.. Still out of state he said he just got out of the mental hospital.. He wanted to committ suicide when he left the ranch and went to a hospital and they admitted him. They released him and he said he has not eaten and wants to find his way back to go back to a sober living and s...	Gaby	10	497	Dec 25, 2013 by bud
	rainy days and Mondays, blackouts and promises used to get me down (Preview) I called my A brother...the one who got snarky w/me because i refused a visit from him unless my terms were met...AA....Sobriety....Sustained programme work, THEN we TALK about a visit... His response was the usual...I can zerox it and use it for the next time.... I told him how he treated me and how I w...	neshema2	4	338	Dec 24, 2013 by trelani
	Well i THINK it is finally sinking in, LOL (Preview) When i was last on this board....b4 the long MIA trip I did, I had no probs thinking I belonged here bc I was wading in A's....Oh no...not marriage...but my family.....i was letting my brothers and yes, dear friends, "get to me" and so i needed alanon BIG tme then I go AWOL and this last comeba...	neshema2	4	411	Dec 24, 2013 by trelani
	Some Christmas good advice from the pets (Preview) My pets are out of luck....I am going next door...	neshema2	4	203	Dec 24, 2013 by mm830
	Today's Gift Taken from the AA Board (Preview) Slow down and let go On a road trip up the California coast a while back, I tried to call home only to find that the battery in my cell phone had died. I worried. What if someone needed to get in touch with me? What if there was a problem with the house? What if my family couldn't find me and got worried? I passed...	Cathyinaz	12	472	Dec 24, 2013 by Aloha
	12 Steps 12 Stories: Spiritual messages of recovery for children and the child in you. (Preview) Hi all....ordered this book for my recovering A son. Has anyone ever read it. My 13 year old granddaughter has been having a lot of questions regarding alcoholism. This should share with them the 12 steps and why my son goes to so many meetings and just how those meetings help him. I am excited about him r...	Gailey	2	335	Dec 24, 2013 by Gailey
	Shunned from Christmas (but I have a program) (Preview) Well, they're getting sicker. Father never contacts me or answers any of my calls or emails. Brother and wife won't speak to me. Sent my niece a birthday present and heard nothing back (had no expectations but it's sad how generations of this disease repeats itself) and my mother didn't even call or se...	WorkingThroughIt	7	414	Dec 24, 2013 by PP
	keeping the focus on my spiritual weel being. (Preview) Hi All, Now my focus is mostly on myself and I have done some steps work I see my ultimate goal is my spiritual awakening, if I am spirtually well everything else falls into place. The first three steps are needed throughour my day many people I love and care for do not have a higher power, they do not know th...	Tracy	2	304	Dec 24, 2013 by PP
	What are your favorite workbooks? (Preview) Mine are The Life Recovery Series Christian Co-dependence Did not like: The Anger Workbook - It made me more angry. :)	Tricia911	3	282	Dec 24, 2013 by ilovedogs
	help! husband relapsed after 15 years sobriety relapse alcohol pot marijuana husband wife children kids (Preview) hello everyone. i hope someone out there can shed some light. i have been married to my husband for 5 years. when i met him, i was just 1 year sober from alcohol, and he was 10 years sober from alcohol and drugs. we have a toddler son and my 16 year old daughter from another relationship. my husband suffers f...	alice1	10	8282	Dec 24, 2013 by alice1
	Resolutions, anyone? (hee hee!) (Preview) It's right around the corner.... A new year, a fresh start.... At least for us, if not for the A in our lives. This is my first year and holiday season with you all, and I want to thank you from the bottom of my heart for the compassion and fellowship I've felt since Day One. You are some amazing people! This y...	Raven Juniper	7	488	Dec 24, 2013 by milkwood
	It was tough this morning..! (Preview) I took today off. It was very hard to get up. I went as far as showering brushing my teeth and praying. My intentions was to go to work. I prayed for that strength.. But I had to sleep. I will be going to a face to Face meeting tonight. I say my serenity prayer. I do realize I can not control anything ever when It...	Gaby	5	278	Dec 24, 2013 by el-cee
	Step 8 (Preview) Step 8 has been posted to the Step Work Board Learn How The Twelve Steps Work.Please join us and share your thoughtshttp://stepwork.activeboard.com/t56034097/alanon-step-8/	hotrod	1	715	Dec 24, 2013 by Jerry F
	ABF's big decision. (Preview) ABF came home tonight in a great mood. "Now I know you might not believe this" he says. "But I've come to a big decision". He sounded very serious. I was all ears and actually a little bit worried. "As of midnight, on New Years Eve, I'm not going to drink or smoke anymore&qu...	Melly1248	16	502	Dec 23, 2013 by ilovedogs
	Merry Christmas and Happy New Year (Preview) To all my friends at MIP, I hope 2014 is the best year ever.	mercedes1959	6	229	Dec 23, 2013 by Tricia911
	Might Actually be Getting It (Preview) I am very hopeful today, despite my life repeating the same pattern the usual weekend breakup with the A and other problems I seem to be stuck in. Cathy in AZ said to me last week that things would change when I started to change. So after doing alot of thinking and praying, today I am going to take the bull b...	mm830	9	285	Dec 23, 2013 by Rose50
	REELING! Completely abandoned reality - is this common? Confused/Scared, really need some comfort (Preview) After having set up going to christmas with my family, a great weekend, lots of love and affection, then walking off right as im fixing dinner Sunday, my A calls me yesterday and asks me if Im sitting down. I say I am. He blind sides me - we cant be together anymore because he is a monster and a terrible pers...	breamanic665	16	531	Dec 23, 2013 by Tricia911
	All I Want For Christmas Is......... (Preview) Hi Everyone, I have been gone a Long time. I didn't realize how long until I read my messages. I am an only child and have been the parent to my parents for some time. This past year plus has been extra tough. My Father, my Hero, passed away 3 weeks ago. Two days before my birthday. Funeral two days af...	Grace7	7	423	Dec 23, 2013 by Tricia911
	Christmas cheer or not? (Preview) I have been having a bout w/ the fact that I don't have the feeling for the holiday that I wish I had. I have been listening to holiday music for about a month now. I even read that listening to the music is healthy. I know that I will change my tune after the weekend. I feel that time will change things. By the w...	Hoot Nanny	3	215	Dec 23, 2013 by Tricia911
	Tired of All the Pain! (Preview) I don't know how A Person Can Cram so Many Blessings & Nightmares into the Same Week, But I Have Managed it! The Disease of Addiction ALWAYS seems to Hit in my Family! It is An Endless Cycle that just Keeps on Coming! My Grandchildren are Heartbroken, and THEY had to lay witness to the Nightmare of the...	Jozie	4	553	Dec 23, 2013 by grateful2be
	Am I managing his behavior by my not drinking? (Preview) When AH and I met, it was at a bar. As many ppl in their 20's ish age group do, we started going out on dates ordering dinners and wine, drinking at home, going out to bars, drinking at friends parties, throwing our own parties, etc. Nothing too crazy but all get-togethers would involve booze. We did th...	gingerfizz	9	419	Dec 23, 2013 by gingerfizz
	Guilting Dad (Preview) I'm hoping someone may have some es&h to offer concerning a child of a sober alcoholic trying to parent their parent. My abf and I have been encountering some controlling behaviors on his eldest daughter's part. I have done a very good job of staying out of it but wish there was a response that wou...	tiredtonite	6	390	Dec 23, 2013 by tiredtonite
	wish it were a different day... (Preview) Yeah, I only have today. But, I wish it were a different day...I have no choice but live this one. It is winter solstice in North America today. I don't know exactly what day it is all over the world. I happen to be remembering the day my dad died...but only for a little while. I will move on to other things. L...	Hoot Nanny	7	445	Dec 23, 2013 by DreamsOver
	Christmas party.. (Preview) The night went well. A lot of my close friends know how I am feeling and what I am going through. I have such supportive people in my life.. I had fun and for a minute just put aside what I was going through. I'm up early and still no word. I say my serenity prayer and I know I am powerless and I know that my son had...	Gaby	12	501	Dec 23, 2013 by DreamsOver
	hard time despite all christmas cheer (Preview) not sure where to begin or what to say. its been a rough week. im trying to get in the christmas spirit yetvi just cant. i ususlly love the lights and the anticipation of the gifts and all, but thus year i.just feel blah. my ah has been drinking more the past two weeks and really miserable. all we have done is...	Theoceancalls	7	442	Dec 23, 2013 by ilovedogs
	When are you prepared? (Preview) I've seen posts of people saying they were not prepared to leave abusive, alcoholic or just alcoholic partners. I wanted to add my personal experience without telling folks to ditch their partners. There is a difference between being ready or capable of doing what is necessary or feel you may want t...	pinkchip	31	624	Dec 23, 2013 by ClearTheFog
	Help!!!! (Preview) how or what do i do to find my last post??ive lost it and i been flipping through all the pages and nothing,i cant find nothing,need help please if anybody here knows how to tell me how to get to my posts.ty looking up	lookingup	3	270	Dec 23, 2013 by hotrod
	saddened (Preview) here I am back here shoulda and should stay here but I always allow life to get me off track.my a b/f is now renting a room from me we are just friends been working out though he works 7 days a week 12 hour days so that's ok too,he don't drink as much if any I can tell if he has drank anything I set my bounderies wit...	lookingup	3	373	Dec 23, 2013 by lookingup
	Sunday night meeting topics tonight are boundaries, letting go of martyrdom and taking care of ourselves during the hol (Preview) come join us	mercedes1959	2	206	Dec 23, 2013 by mercedes1959
	I'm Done... (Preview) That's what A said to me Thursday, plus some lather rinse repeat of the usual. I hung up, and haven't made any attempt to contact since. Yesterday I made a decision that this belongs to my HP to sort out now, not me. One thing I am struggling with is his mother invited us to Christmas with them, we have share...	mm830	8	458	Dec 23, 2013 by hotrod
	Scared, trying to make sure I'm in HP's will (Preview) I'm still going along with plans to find a rental. It's harder than I thought, mainly because of the dog but also because I need to find something that I think will 'fit' us. I'm not looking for anything fancy but just something practical and it's amazing how expensive some rentals are! I'm feeling di...	ilovedogs	8	412	Dec 23, 2013 by Breakingfree
	Triggers for the A in our life (Preview) I have started reading about what triggers an A to start drinking again once they have stopped for a period of time. Any insight on this? Thanks, Jenny	Jen61	9	376	Dec 23, 2013 by Breakingfree
	just for today I'm okay (Preview) Its been a long time since I've been on this site a lot has happened. My husband has been in full relapse mode for many months. At first it was a lot if lies and disappearances. Then one day he was so drunk he beat me. I stayed after that incident and I was very depressed I only left house to go to work. This past...	texasgal	9	517	Dec 23, 2013 by Breakingfree
	I found someone I can poor all my love into and actually fix..... (Preview) Myself! I now have a break off from school for one whole month and I am going to eat healthy and work out and just enjoy myself and my friends and life. There were not enough people to take a super accelerated class for the January term class I needed to stay in the nursing program next semester. I made peace...	Breakingfree	11	319	Dec 22, 2013 by Breakingfree
	Been awhile.. hello (Preview) HI all! I have not been on in a few weeks. My home computer is about shot and it is hard at work at times. Things have been going really well and to be honest, I start reading posts and some of the negative or sad posts get me down when I am feeling happy. I still love it here and it still helps me a lot just need a...	Iwantthingsback	7	349	Dec 22, 2013 by Melly1248
	serenity (Preview) Hi everyone, the topic at our meeting today was serenity. An old timer was sitting next to me as I shared about the first convention I attended Still very busy in my head still very very ill no serenity. I was rushing around and this old timer took hold of my hand and said very calmly, quietly, Tracy you kn...	Tracy	4	350	Dec 22, 2013 by Debilyn
	Trying to Help out Boyfriend with Alcoholic Mother (Preview) My boyfriend's single mother was an alcoholic for the first 20 years of his life. She eventually went to AA and became sober for 10 years and for the past couple of years, she has started drinking again. She told him that she started drinking again after my boyfriend in a way vented his frustrations wit...	brendastarr	6	266	Dec 22, 2013 by brendastarr
	MIP Al-Anon Group Meeting Chairpersons and Message Board Monitors Needed. (Preview) Hi Everyone! Our online Al-Anon group holds scheduled meetings every day of the week. 9am Monday - Friday 10am Saturday & Sunday 9pm Monday - Saturday 7pm Sunday. We have three chairperson slots open at this time. We would like to get these filled by currently active Al-Anon members with a mini...	John	1	457	Dec 22, 2013 by DavidG
	I have to fake it till I make it.. (Preview) I have prayed and surrendered to where I can't help my son. I have heard nothing as of right now. I know he knows to call me even collect to tell me that he is ok. I know there are churches or homeless shelters he can go to.. But I have to think of my family I have to take care of especially my 8 year old daughters t...	Gaby	7	505	Dec 21, 2013 by Jerry F
	Counting my blessings!! (Preview) Lots is right in my world these past couple of days. I am choosing to believe that because I kept myself calm and quiet (with the exception of whinging on here a bit) and reminded myself that "this too shall pass", my world has righted itself quickly and I have attracted some good karma. So I'l...	Melly1248	9	587	Dec 21, 2013 by DavidG
	Al-Anon has given me choices. (Preview) Hey everyone, My name is slogan_Jim and I am a grateful member of al-anon. My alcoholic father just called and said he wanted to take me out to dinner tonight. In theory that sounds great and should be a good time. He was sober and seems like he's been for a few days (he also called Thursday to say hi and was f...	slogan_jim	3	252	Dec 21, 2013 by hotrod
	24 years ago today.... (Preview) I surrendered to the process of recovery and started this amazing journey. Thank you for trudging the road of happy destiny with me. John	John	10	436	Dec 21, 2013 by Hoot Nanny
	I have heard nothing and the guilt is in me.. (Preview) My son has not gone back to the ranch.. Pastor now says he is not allowed back on the ranch. That he has consequences to deal with. He is out in a different state and I feel guilty. I am a mess. Yes I do attend ala-non meetings. I need to find me a new Sponser.. I have a lot of family and friends support.. But this...	Gaby	12	474	Dec 21, 2013 by oldergal
	A lengthy update (Preview) Hi everyone! I have tried to write an update for days and I can't ever find enough time to do much. Working full time with 2 small children and taking are of life by myself has me running ragged! I continue to read and learn all of the information I can about codependency, being a wife of an alcoholic, and...	HisMrsWright	6	369	Dec 21, 2013 by slogan_jim
	feeling frustrated and sad (Preview) Okay, So I was expecting to hang out with my husband tonight. He has had a very busy day today. He has been getting a couple of guys to do some work on our house?clean up the yard, fix some things. He also got them to go pick up a piano he bought for me at a thrift store. A super sweet gesture, really nice piano, $...	sadsusie	7	523	Dec 21, 2013 by sadsusie
	Some News (Preview) I was surprised to get an email from my son today after weeks of silence. He wrote that he's still living in the rooming house and desperately needs to move out as guys are overdosing on heroin and smoking crack. He says he's looking for work - he will take just about anything at this point. As a last resort...	Rose50	8	438	Dec 21, 2013 by tiredtonite
	boundaries w son (Preview) Hi Everyone: It's been a while since I've posted but have gained so much ESH from reading all of your shares. I am upset tonight and having trouble getting past it. My oldest son (19) lives at home and is going to college locally. Mostly I love this. Tonight he asked to have some friends over. I said y...	yanksfan51	7	461	Dec 21, 2013 by bud
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