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I have been feeling better despite everything since I discovered this group, and have been trying to stay connected with what HP wants for me, not what I want for me. I am not always there just more than it was, which I am so grateful for. So one thing that has surfaced and I plan on working on more is respect, respecting myself and listening to my own feelings, respecting others and trying not to should and impose what I think is best on them, and respecting the timeframe HP has not my have to have it my way right now timeframe. Wow. Who knew I was so disrespectful to others and to God, not such a pretty picture. I am grateful for this shift and that my eyes are more open to this than before.
Awesome job mm! I remember having this same epiphany. I remember one of my first meetings someone mentioning to me simply not to give unsolicited advice. Ever. Whaaatt??! Haha. I had no idea that I was enabling others and at the same time disrespecting them... not to mention getting in the way of their HP's message to them. It's hard enough for me to interpret my HP's will for me without someone getting in there and trying to change it all around. I love that I can go to my sponsor and members knowing that they will give me gentle suggestions sometimes but mostly guide me to let go/let God and try to hear what my HP might want for me. I can't be anyone else's HP & they can't be mine. Wasn't so pleasant at first but now I wouldn't have it any other way!
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"Everything has its wonders, even darkness and silence, and I learn, whatever state I may be in, therein to be content." --Helen Keller
