Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

lookingup · lookingup

Each and everyday all I can take is baby steps for I'm still in the woods with my a bf,I'm going loafing today visit my friend ,and try try try to keep the focus on me and off him,his life is chaotic ,always something going wrong,as for me and my life I value my serenity and peace of mind,I've got to do this I kn...

Venera · Venera

Hi, does anybody have a good way of dealing with a blaming game? My AH called me a b**** infront of his friend yesterday ( first time ever he called me something bad infront if another person) and it was truly over a very stupid argument. He then set with his friend drinking beer and when I confronted him to...

lookingup · lookingup

Can someone plz give me a list of the slogans for me to memorize?

pinkchip · pinkchip

17 day honeymoon starts today after I get home from work. Will be flying to London tonight. Staying there 2 days, then embarking on a 2 week Baltic Cruise. Ports will include several in Norway, Sweden, Denmark, Estonia, Russia (that stop is making me a little antsy at the moment), and Holland. I wi...

lookingup · lookingup

I'm still sitting here alone not knowing where my a is at he won't answer his ph.half the time lots of excuses,but that's ok cause I still have me and my peace of mind knowing that my hp is watching over me and my roof over head and food and everything g else here all belongs to me that I'm grateful for,and I lo...

Breakingfree · Breakingfree

I got hired today and am on such a high from how things just keep improving for me. I am so excited about my life right now. I am reaping the benefits of really listening to my sponsor and following my al-anon program, and yes it was work and hard making the changes, but I am here to say it works when you work it...

CarlyM123 · CarlyM123

Last night my partner drank again and it was bad. She smashed my stuff, stole my car and screamed and yelled at me, calling me every name in the book. I almost had a mental break down. I scared myself last night. I couldnt breath and all I kept thinking was I wanted the pain to go away. She makes me go cra...

lookingup · lookingup

Stayed at my friends all day enjoyed my visit with her,came home at 4:30 pm,my a was sitting in my driveway trying to figure out how to hustle up some money cause he is broke as broke can be ,I have money that I won't hardly touch and i don't let him k now I have any cause if I did I would t have it ,so I'm home alon...

Venera · Venera

Thanks to the forum and our family circumstances, I finally made it to my first meeting!! Feels great! I have been looking for excuses to not go there, rather than opportunities. But by a miracle today I found that there is a lunch mtg close to my office, and I just went. I was imagining it more like a group...

Jerry F · Jerry F

I ask that you send some to the Big Island of Hawaii especially for a sober alcoholic/addict who is attempting to abide with his mother who is currently active alcoholic. He is a sponsee and doing a good job on his own program remaining clean and sober while attempting to be helpful and not enabling....

Katytexasmom · Katytexasmom

Who am I kidding? I have not slipped...I have jumped head first into insanity! I walked away from alanon for a time...you know...I got busy...things got better! HUGE mistake! My middle son wont talk to me. He ended up at hospital multiple times for 'anxiety' so he could get a shot. He has been doin...

Luiza · Luiza

I really don't understand. And I am not even talking about my husband today. General anger at people. I don't show it but burns inside. I think generally people are all trying to lie to me, manipulate me, use me, laugh behind my back and talk about my shortcomes when I am not listening. Of course that I kno...

Luiza · Luiza

After our last argument when my husband was playing "Dr Jekyll and Mr Hyde", I tried to take him to an AA meeting but the meeting was canceled. After this we haven't spoken about the situation and things were quiet. He obviously never attempted to go to other meeting by himself. Tonight he wa...

lookingup · lookingup

Im actually realizing that alanon is actually here for.me weather my a is drinking or not drinking,I'm haveing a hard time with it I've always clung onto relationships all toxic in my life,I could always take care of me in a relationship but never out of an relationship Im wanting and needing so despe...

Hullibee · Hullibee

My AH says I'm pushing too hard. I have spent every waking moment and sleeping moment with him since I found out about his affair. He tells me every night he loves me. He holds me in bed and we rekindle our marriage vows but today he says I'm pushing. What does that mean???? I'm clinging to some fantasy...

Debilyn · Debilyn

from my fb. Now listen if anyone need to drink, this woman does....lol lolWent to thrift store, had on a sweatshirt jeans, it was raining remember.. dumby. Was so hot i was dying so found a neat denim dress and some good quality sandals, puttem on. Ok I got the feed, then groceries at the bent can store, go...

Flower49 · Flower49

So as of Sunday night since my AH said the guys in the 1/2 way house suggested that if I visit I should interact with them as well, which spun me out for a day, he decided to be passive/aggressive and not call me last night, because as we all know the world stopped because he didn't call me that was actually qu...

Flower49 · Flower49

Last night and today I have sat and cried and cried. I feel completely foolish, strung along and just crushed. I keep asking my HP to comfort me, show me the way, but I still feel so down.

joker · joker

I met a man three months ago, 53 years old and I quickly discovered he is an active alcoholic. He works out of town for two weeks at a time and returns home for a week at a time. We speak everyday on the phone when he is out of town working. During the week he is home, he drinks non stop, as soon as he wakes up till...

Newlife girl · Newlife girl

My girls, my sister and her family and my mom and I are all going to a theme park tomorrow. I have had a really bad last 4-5 days on an emotional roller coaster. I used to love roller coasters as a teenager. I had no fear. As I get older I have become really afraid and anxious regarding roller coasters, so I usu...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

Soooo .. LOL .. I have ANOTHER atty .. this is #4 in 2 1/2 years. HOPEFULLY I will be divorced by the time the kids go back to school .. so please please please keep praying for me in that regard. I will meet with her Monday .. one of the questions I asked the secretary was .. ok .. so is she pregnant, planni...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

Sooo .. my little guy had a wonderful time at camp .. I was glad that he got away .. however the scuffle here had weighed on his mind more than I realized because during his down time I guess he spent some time drawing pictures of "the bullies" as he named it. I did not see the picture. I felt sad f...

Breakingfree · Breakingfree

Life has been crazy busy, but good! The boyfriend and I have made it to 4 months and are still going strong, healthiest relationship I've ever had and I love that he doesn't drink like me. My kids and I went to Texas to visit my childhood best friend in Fort Worth from June 24th-July 8th, got home and went to...

Jozie · Jozie

Hello Family :) So Sorry its Been so Long :/ New Computer, and Crazy Summer, but Starting to get Back on Track Now :) So Yesterday I took My Harley out for Some Inner Reflecting, and it was a Beautiful Day for it, I Couldn't have been Blessed with a better one, Funny how after working my Program, I Can N...

Mirandac · Mirandac

My dry ah told me tonight who he is going to aa spiritual weekend retreat with, a friend(staying in room with male)and also a girl he is friends with In AA. He had put dates on the calendar but no details. He was hoping to golf and attend seminars but unsure if he going.as you can imagine the conversation w...

littlelionman · littlelionman

I went to my first meeting this past Monday. I was scared and wondered if this was for me. As soon as people started speaking about their lives and how alcoholism affected them I knew I was in the right place. I could relate to everyone's story and I already know walking into that room was the best decis...

always hopeful · always hopeful

Hi all. I'm new to this group, though not to Al-Anon. I grew up attending meetings after my father found AA, and I, reluctantly, came back a few years ago after my father lost his battle and when I had to face that I married back into it. My AH and I moved our family long-distance just over a year ago, and now w...

Hullibee · Hullibee

I have been hesitating writing for two days. Not sure I want to hear a response I already know myself.... My AH has been drinking quite heavily again. I have been trying to get him to talk to me about our problems. He admitted that he is having an affair. I don't know how he's doing it he's been home ever...

Newlife girl · Newlife girl

I have a very close friend who knows me and my situation well. She is great at giving me her opinion and advice when I need it. but she can't take her own advice! She gives me a lot of praise for what I have done To try and change my life. She has gone to al anon and coda with me a few times but she finds it to be depre...

atheos · atheos

I am interested in coming back to the program (two years mostly-away have not been a good idea), but I have some concerns about whether "you are free to choose your own Higher Power" applies all the way through, or if the program is built with the assumption that whatever "starter high...

andromeda · andromeda

Yep, I live in a world where I say what if....ALL THE TIME. Oh, and then I continue on like this, "What if this happens? Then what?" And I go and do mental gymnastics and try to answer those questions with a million different solutions, variables, etc. Anybody else relate? This is the sin...

Newlife girl · Newlife girl

These past 4 days I worked a lot of extra hours. I was exhausted from my job and also dealing with nosey coworkers. On the way home from work yesterday I had to call my AH and tell him I was picking up our daughter. He said she hadn't eaten dinner and he asked me if we could all go out to eat. I told him I will call h...

missmeliss · missmeliss

WOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOHOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!

Need I explain?

CarlyM123 · CarlyM123

So, here I am working another night shift at the detox and my A and i have a fight. She is sober, well was when i left the house. Has been sober a week now. But we had a little fight before I left for work over the smallest thing and she texted me saying that I am hateful and mean and all this stuff. Basically s...

milkwood · milkwood

I've been thinking about the things that I do to detach. When I first heard about detachment I thought 'well that is the opposite of what I want, I'm trying to get us back together again aren't I?' Then I did some more reading and realised that detachment could mean emotional detachment as well as physi...

slowlearner · slowlearner

I'm feeling lonely today. I've been married for 26 years and my husband and I live in two separate worlds. This is because he is an active alcoholic and I chosen to step away from him and take care of myself. But it would still be nice to have someone to have a conversation with that isn't drunk, to plan v...

Jerry F · Jerry F

to keep it which I learned was about holding on to the program and my recovery and this is true...for me a fact. And then whats my point? avocados!! really??!! Really...A couple of years ago I planted a avocado seed which I got from a neighbors tree. My friends who know and know that they know so m...

CarlyM123 · CarlyM123

Hey its me again haha was just was thinking of something though and had to ask all you intelligent wonderful people... I know i am supposed to live for the day and take it one day at a time, however, in my recovery I am trying to plan what I will say or do the next time my A drinks. If she was to tell me she was goi...

tracym · tracym

Hi All, It seems no matter how long I work the program, things crop up and I have no idea what to do. A little background, my husband is a recovering alcoholic of about 8 years now. We lost our youngest son (my stepson) to suicide this past August, he was 18. The 20 year old stepson went into treatment from al...

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

I'm getting letters from my son and they are so nice. He thanks me for sending him letters. Just to get them no matter what they say he just loves reading them all. He told not to worry about about my job, paycheck, the president or our country. He says I have always worried about these things. He told me...

el-cee · el-cee

Oh my goodness, how gorgeous are all you guys? Just wanted to thank you for sharing that part, its quite powerful.x

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

Something that Alanon has given me is the gift of discernment .. I can take what I like and leave the rest. I can choose when I need to take action or just wait. Before Alanon .. I used to feel I had to address EVERYTHING right then .. get an answer whatever .. now it's more like .. hmm .. is this the alcoholic...

Flower49 · Flower49

I had the wonderful opportunity to co-host a meeting on this board last night. I had chaired one last week when no one came to chair it, but it was so nice last night to have someone teach me the ropes, I felt great about having the opportunity to do service work here. It just made my night :)

Jessiest1 · Jessiest1

My husband went into treatment last week. I was able to visit with him the first few days. He sent a group email Friday night to his parents, brother and me that he does not want to communicate or have visitors until further notice. I feel sad that he doesn't want to talk to me. And I am hurt that he didn't sen...

texasgal · texasgal

I finally was set to move on Friday to my new town and when I got to the apt it was a disaster. I was promised a downstairs updated unit and what I was given was an upstairs unit that was literally falling apart. The light fixture from the dining area was hanging on by one wire. The tub and sink were rusted the c...

grateful2be · grateful2be

I took my camera to one of the gardens in my yard to take a picture of a beautiful Tiger Lily I don't remember planting. Most of the blooms in my yard are medium sized, but this one is about twice the size of all the others. I wanted to capture it and maybe use it as my next avatar. I stood in front of the flowe...

pinkchip · pinkchip

Yeah...it's not pretty in the midst of it but thank god for my mom. She's been there for me through a lot. I don't know if she thought I would ever get my life together. This photo is one of the ones my sponsor took at the wedding. I really like it. Your sons love you even if they aren't in a good spot now or even...

Wisdom67 · Wisdom67

I'm not better I'm depressed can not find work I ran out of money no extra no help . I checked food pantry waiting list for that no places for me to get I to housing is full . Got no family no friends to help me . My ex asked me to drop charges against him last week he said he would help me with money since he workin...

Tampa · Tampa

Although I am not new to this site, I am new to the forums. I am in desperate need of a sponsor. Right now my schedule is spread so thin I can't make it to f2f meetings. I am coming up on heavy schedule with college and having to take care of the home. I also am recovering from surgery. I need someone to help me wo...

Mirandac · Mirandac

My dry ah is living at his mothers while we separate. Saw him for 5 minutes tops to discuss money and he needs to sign agreement for our lawyer to represent me in the divorce. I told him he needed to find some time to talk this out. Instead of his usual 5 minute a day i get his attention. He is usually out saving...

Jeffs Mom · Jeffs Mom

43 year old son recently went back to his own home after 21 days of inpatient rehab. We financed the program but we also now have control over his income/bank account to handle all his finances until he has paid us back. He is divorced, without children and lives 150 miles away. It is difficult to suppo...

Flower49 · Flower49

Hi all! Went to see my A on Saturday at the 1/2 way house. Visited with him about 2.5 hours. It was good. Talked with him yesterday and I was kind of weepy, feeling irritated, and just not really hopeful. Partially I think that is because there was a big picnic and he told me on Friday that I wouldn't like it s...

hotrod · hotrod

http://stepwork.activeboard.com/t58116328/alanon-step-11/

NL14 · NL14

I've been re-reading a year's worth of journal entries. With a few exceptions, they're all like groundhog day. The number of times I said (about my AH) "I've finally snapped!", "I'm done," "I'm at the end of my rope," etc., would be funny if it weren't so sad. Every ti...

Newlife girl · Newlife girl

Thought I had coworkers under my al anon spell regarding boundaries when asking me about my AH. I guess not! Another coworker today asked me if we were divorcing after I already told her it was too hard for me to talk about him at work. He used to work at the same place so it's difficult! After she asked me ab...

el-cee · el-cee

Im getting on a plane today for the first time in years and im flying to italy. Im going to rome. Last night I had a bit of a panic attack about it, I got scared about flying, the coming out of my comfort zone, leaving my sons behind, wee bit of guilt, im going with my daughter for some mother, daughter time, a b...

Katy · Katy

Well I am having good days and bad, and I can't help but think how painful it is leaving someone that hurts me so much and makes me feel anxious and fearful all of the time even though this feels like the right thing to do and even though I have taken way to long to have the courage to do it yes it still leaves me f...

milkwood · milkwood

AH has been sleeping in the spare room for nearly two months. Day to day all is well and calm but I do find myself climbing the walls with the lack of emotional connection in my life. Its not new. It is really a long standing problem between us, and one that I ignored for a long time. Today I have tried to a...

Luiza · Luiza

The atmosphere is unbearable, I am starting to shake. He is sober, he had something to drink but is sober and he is angry. He has been so passive aggressive, I hate it. I almost got sucked in the negativity twice but daughter is awake. I must control myself. All because I refused sex last night and sugge...

blessed · blessed

If I follow these guidelines, it is time to leave. Hmmmm. Not so much the reasons to stay; but I could check off just about every one under, when to leave. Every day it is more clear that I am not as attractive as a bottle of vodka; and I won't compete with that, or anything or anybody. better, healthier go a...

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	Babysteps (Preview) Each and everyday all I can take is baby steps for I'm still in the woods with my a bf,I'm going loafing today visit my friend ,and try try try to keep the focus on me and off him,his life is chaotic ,always something going wrong,as for me and my life I value my serenity and peace of mind,I've got to do this I kn...	lookingup	4	372	Jul 26, 2014 by grateful2be
	AH putting all blame on me (Preview) Hi, does anybody have a good way of dealing with a blaming game? My AH called me a b**** infront of his friend yesterday ( first time ever he called me something bad infront if another person) and it was truly over a very stupid argument. He then set with his friend drinking beer and when I confronted him to...	Venera	21	761	Jul 26, 2014 by hotrod
	Slogans (Preview) Can someone plz give me a list of the slogans for me to memorize?	lookingup	5	644	Jul 26, 2014 by karma13
	Honeymoon (Preview) 17 day honeymoon starts today after I get home from work. Will be flying to London tonight. Staying there 2 days, then embarking on a 2 week Baltic Cruise. Ports will include several in Norway, Sweden, Denmark, Estonia, Russia (that stop is making me a little antsy at the moment), and Holland. I wi...	pinkchip	25	668	Jul 26, 2014 by grateful2be
	Serenity (Preview) I'm still sitting here alone not knowing where my a is at he won't answer his ph.half the time lots of excuses,but that's ok cause I still have me and my peace of mind knowing that my hp is watching over me and my roof over head and food and everything g else here all belongs to me that I'm grateful for,and I lo...	lookingup	3	287	Jul 26, 2014 by Debilyn
	I got the job! Since I found al-anon and worked my program life just keeps getting better!!! (Preview) I got hired today and am on such a high from how things just keep improving for me. I am so excited about my life right now. I am reaping the benefits of really listening to my sponsor and following my al-anon program, and yes it was work and hard making the changes, but I am here to say it works when you work it...	Breakingfree	18	608	Jul 25, 2014 by tiredtonite
	Horrible night (Preview) Last night my partner drank again and it was bad. She smashed my stuff, stole my car and screamed and yelled at me, calling me every name in the book. I almost had a mental break down. I scared myself last night. I couldnt breath and all I kept thinking was I wanted the pain to go away. She makes me go cra...	CarlyM123	18	781	Jul 25, 2014 by PP
	My day (Preview) Stayed at my friends all day enjoyed my visit with her,came home at 4:30 pm,my a was sitting in my driveway trying to figure out how to hustle up some money cause he is broke as broke can be ,I have money that I won't hardly touch and i don't let him k now I have any cause if I did I would t have it ,so I'm home alon...	lookingup	3	280	Jul 25, 2014 by hotrod
	First F2F meeting (Preview) Thanks to the forum and our family circumstances, I finally made it to my first meeting!! Feels great! I have been looking for excuses to not go there, rather than opportunities. But by a miracle today I found that there is a lunch mtg close to my office, and I just went. I was imagining it more like a group...	Venera	2	283	Jul 25, 2014 by hotrod
	During your prayer times... (Preview) I ask that you send some to the Big Island of Hawaii especially for a sober alcoholic/addict who is attempting to abide with his mother who is currently active alcoholic. He is a sponsee and doing a good job on his own program remaining clean and sober while attempting to be helpful and not enabling....	Jerry F	11	485	Jul 25, 2014 by lilsis64
	In a slippery place! (Preview) Who am I kidding? I have not slipped...I have jumped head first into insanity! I walked away from alanon for a time...you know...I got busy...things got better! HUGE mistake! My middle son wont talk to me. He ended up at hospital multiple times for 'anxiety' so he could get a shot. He has been doin...	Katytexasmom	5	547	Jul 25, 2014 by Breakingfree
	Why I carry so much anger? (Preview) I really don't understand. And I am not even talking about my husband today. General anger at people. I don't show it but burns inside. I think generally people are all trying to lie to me, manipulate me, use me, laugh behind my back and talk about my shortcomes when I am not listening. Of course that I kno...	Luiza	8	654	Jul 25, 2014 by maryjane
	Husband's txt message.. (Preview) After our last argument when my husband was playing "Dr Jekyll and Mr Hyde", I tried to take him to an AA meeting but the meeting was canceled. After this we haven't spoken about the situation and things were quiet. He obviously never attempted to go to other meeting by himself. Tonight he wa...	Luiza	17	497	Jul 25, 2014 by maryjane
	Trying to take care of me (Preview) Im actually realizing that alanon is actually here for.me weather my a is drinking or not drinking,I'm haveing a hard time with it I've always clung onto relationships all toxic in my life,I could always take care of me in a relationship but never out of an relationship Im wanting and needing so despe...	lookingup	14	673	Jul 25, 2014 by karma13
	I'm stupid, stupid, stupid (Preview) My AH says I'm pushing too hard. I have spent every waking moment and sleeping moment with him since I found out about his affair. He tells me every night he loves me. He holds me in bed and we rekindle our marriage vows but today he says I'm pushing. What does that mean???? I'm clinging to some fantasy...	Hullibee	12	866	Jul 24, 2014 by Jerry F
	A little vignette of my crazy life (Preview) from my fb. Now listen if anyone need to drink, this woman does....lol lolWent to thrift store, had on a sweatshirt jeans, it was raining remember.. dumby. Was so hot i was dying so found a neat denim dress and some good quality sandals, puttem on. Ok I got the feed, then groceries at the bent can store, go...	Debilyn	2	563	Jul 24, 2014 by missmeliss
	Update to Resisting and Confusion (Preview) So as of Sunday night since my AH said the guys in the 1/2 way house suggested that if I visit I should interact with them as well, which spun me out for a day, he decided to be passive/aggressive and not call me last night, because as we all know the world stopped because he didn't call me that was actually qu...	Flower49	15	579	Jul 24, 2014 by Flower49
	Broken Heart, Broken Soul (Preview) Last night and today I have sat and cried and cried. I feel completely foolish, strung along and just crushed. I keep asking my HP to comfort me, show me the way, but I still feel so down.	Flower49	11	691	Jul 24, 2014 by andromeda
	Feeling insame and confused (Preview) I met a man three months ago, 53 years old and I quickly discovered he is an active alcoholic. He works out of town for two weeks at a time and returns home for a week at a time. We speak everyday on the phone when he is out of town working. During the week he is home, he drinks non stop, as soon as he wakes up till...	joker	11	575	Jul 24, 2014 by andromeda
	Wanting courage to ride a REAL roller coaster tomorrow!! (Preview) My girls, my sister and her family and my mom and I are all going to a theme park tomorrow. I have had a really bad last 4-5 days on an emotional roller coaster. I used to love roller coasters as a teenager. I had no fear. As I get older I have become really afraid and anxious regarding roller coasters, so I usu...	Newlife girl	13	485	Jul 24, 2014 by grateful2be
	Finally more information .. (Preview) Soooo .. LOL .. I have ANOTHER atty .. this is #4 in 2 1/2 years. HOPEFULLY I will be divorced by the time the kids go back to school .. so please please please keep praying for me in that regard. I will meet with her Monday .. one of the questions I asked the secretary was .. ok .. so is she pregnant, planni...	SerenityRUS	2	378	Jul 24, 2014 by tiredtonite
	Update on scuffle .. (Preview) Sooo .. my little guy had a wonderful time at camp .. I was glad that he got away .. however the scuffle here had weighed on his mind more than I realized because during his down time I guess he spent some time drawing pictures of "the bullies" as he named it. I did not see the picture. I felt sad f...	SerenityRUS	12	488	Jul 24, 2014 by SerenityRUS
	I love all the new pictures of my MIP family members! Update on me (Preview) Life has been crazy busy, but good! The boyfriend and I have made it to 4 months and are still going strong, healthiest relationship I've ever had and I love that he doesn't drink like me. My kids and I went to Texas to visit my childhood best friend in Fort Worth from June 24th-July 8th, got home and went to...	Breakingfree	9	567	Jul 24, 2014 by SerenityRUS
	Only the Willing Survive! (Preview) Hello Family :) So Sorry its Been so Long :/ New Computer, and Crazy Summer, but Starting to get Back on Track Now :) So Yesterday I took My Harley out for Some Inner Reflecting, and it was a Beautiful Day for it, I Couldn't have been Blessed with a better one, Funny how after working my Program, I Can N...	Jozie	7	601	Jul 24, 2014 by SerenityRUS
	Getting a divorce (Preview) My dry ah told me tonight who he is going to aa spiritual weekend retreat with, a friend(staying in room with male)and also a girl he is friends with In AA. He had put dates on the calendar but no details. He was hoping to golf and attend seminars but unsure if he going.as you can imagine the conversation w...	Mirandac	25	1049	Jul 23, 2014 by Mirandac
	Just went to my first meeting (Preview) I went to my first meeting this past Monday. I was scared and wondered if this was for me. As soon as people started speaking about their lives and how alcoholism affected them I knew I was in the right place. I could relate to everyone's story and I already know walking into that room was the best decis...	littlelionman	11	495	Jul 23, 2014 by NL14
	New Here (Preview) Hi all. I'm new to this group, though not to Al-Anon. I grew up attending meetings after my father found AA, and I, reluctantly, came back a few years ago after my father lost his battle and when I had to face that I married back into it. My AH and I moved our family long-distance just over a year ago, and now w...	always hopeful	5	553	Jul 23, 2014 by NL14
	On shaky ground ... (Preview) I have been hesitating writing for two days. Not sure I want to hear a response I already know myself.... My AH has been drinking quite heavily again. I have been trying to get him to talk to me about our problems. He admitted that he is having an affair. I don't know how he's doing it he's been home ever...	Hullibee	13	541	Jul 23, 2014 by milkwood
	Do I keep my mouth shut or not? (Preview) I have a very close friend who knows me and my situation well. She is great at giving me her opinion and advice when I need it. but she can't take her own advice! She gives me a lot of praise for what I have done To try and change my life. She has gone to al anon and coda with me a few times but she finds it to be depre...	Newlife girl	22	713	Jul 23, 2014 by el-cee
	Atheists: How did you handle steps 3, 7 and 11? (Preview) I am interested in coming back to the program (two years mostly-away have not been a good idea), but I have some concerns about whether "you are free to choose your own Higher Power" applies all the way through, or if the program is built with the assumption that whatever "starter high...	atheos	10	772	Jul 23, 2014 by sad_dog_mommy
	What if..... (Preview) Yep, I live in a world where I say what if....ALL THE TIME. Oh, and then I continue on like this, "What if this happens? Then what?" And I go and do mental gymnastics and try to answer those questions with a million different solutions, variables, etc. Anybody else relate? This is the sin...	andromeda	24	636	Jul 23, 2014 by andromeda
	My brain. It's confused. (Preview) These past 4 days I worked a lot of extra hours. I was exhausted from my job and also dealing with nosey coworkers. On the way home from work yesterday I had to call my AH and tell him I was picking up our daughter. He said she hadn't eaten dinner and he asked me if we could all go out to eat. I told him I will call h...	Newlife girl	15	651	Jul 23, 2014 by Jerry F
	All I can say is... (Preview) WOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOHOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!! Need I explain?	missmeliss	36	802	Jul 23, 2014 by Cathyinaz
	confused (Preview) So, here I am working another night shift at the detox and my A and i have a fight. She is sober, well was when i left the house. Has been sober a week now. But we had a little fight before I left for work over the smallest thing and she texted me saying that I am hateful and mean and all this stuff. Basically s...	CarlyM123	11	503	Jul 23, 2014 by KennyFenderjazz
	Thoughts about detachment (Preview) I've been thinking about the things that I do to detach. When I first heard about detachment I thought 'well that is the opposite of what I want, I'm trying to get us back together again aren't I?' Then I did some more reading and realised that detachment could mean emotional detachment as well as physi...	milkwood	14	774	Jul 23, 2014 by milkwood
	Feeling Lonely. (Preview) I'm feeling lonely today. I've been married for 26 years and my husband and I live in two separate worlds. This is because he is an active alcoholic and I chosen to step away from him and take care of myself. But it would still be nice to have someone to have a conversation with that isn't drunk, to plan v...	slowlearner	15	957	Jul 23, 2014 by allicat1214
	You have to give it away in order (Preview) to keep it which I learned was about holding on to the program and my recovery and this is true...for me a fact. And then whats my point? avocados!! really??!! Really...A couple of years ago I planted a avocado seed which I got from a neighbors tree. My friends who know and know that they know so m...	Jerry F	14	681	Jul 23, 2014 by Jozie
	Asking for your thoughts (Preview) Hey its me again haha was just was thinking of something though and had to ask all you intelligent wonderful people... I know i am supposed to live for the day and take it one day at a time, however, in my recovery I am trying to plan what I will say or do the next time my A drinks. If she was to tell me she was goi...	CarlyM123	4	562	Jul 23, 2014 by grateful2be
	Seriously Confused About What to Do (Preview) Hi All, It seems no matter how long I work the program, things crop up and I have no idea what to do. A little background, my husband is a recovering alcoholic of about 8 years now. We lost our youngest son (my stepson) to suicide this past August, he was 18. The 20 year old stepson went into treatment from al...	tracym	9	532	Jul 23, 2014 by karma13
	Letters (Preview) I'm getting letters from my son and they are so nice. He thanks me for sending him letters. Just to get them no matter what they say he just loves reading them all. He told not to worry about about my job, paycheck, the president or our country. He says I have always worried about these things. He told me...	Cathyinaz	15	812	Jul 22, 2014 by missmeliss
	pictures (Preview) Oh my goodness, how gorgeous are all you guys? Just wanted to thank you for sharing that part, its quite powerful.x	el-cee	21	1488	Jul 22, 2014 by Breakingfree
	Perspectives .. (Preview) Something that Alanon has given me is the gift of discernment .. I can take what I like and leave the rest. I can choose when I need to take action or just wait. Before Alanon .. I used to feel I had to address EVERYTHING right then .. get an answer whatever .. now it's more like .. hmm .. is this the alcoholic...	SerenityRUS	4	849	Jul 22, 2014 by PP
	Chaired a Meeting with Edna (Preview) I had the wonderful opportunity to co-host a meeting on this board last night. I had chaired one last week when no one came to chair it, but it was so nice last night to have someone teach me the ropes, I felt great about having the opportunity to do service work here. It just made my night :)	Flower49	8	392	Jul 22, 2014 by hotrod
	Treatment (Preview) My husband went into treatment last week. I was able to visit with him the first few days. He sent a group email Friday night to his parents, brother and me that he does not want to communicate or have visitors until further notice. I feel sad that he doesn't want to talk to me. And I am hurt that he didn't sen...	Jessiest1	6	641	Jul 22, 2014 by Ifnotforgrace
	working the program (Preview) I finally was set to move on Friday to my new town and when I got to the apt it was a disaster. I was promised a downstairs updated unit and what I was given was an upstairs unit that was literally falling apart. The light fixture from the dining area was hanging on by one wire. The tub and sink were rusted the c...	texasgal	9	511	Jul 22, 2014 by Newlife girl
	A surprise (Preview) I took my camera to one of the gardens in my yard to take a picture of a beautiful Tiger Lily I don't remember planting. Most of the blooms in my yard are medium sized, but this one is about twice the size of all the others. I wanted to capture it and maybe use it as my next avatar. I stood in front of the flowe...	grateful2be	20	650	Jul 22, 2014 by grateful2be
	If you have an A son... (Preview) Yeah...it's not pretty in the midst of it but thank god for my mom. She's been there for me through a lot. I don't know if she thought I would ever get my life together. This photo is one of the ones my sponsor took at the wedding. I really like it. Your sons love you even if they aren't in a good spot now or even...	pinkchip	15	704	Jul 22, 2014 by Luiza
	It's not working for me (Preview) I'm not better I'm depressed can not find work I ran out of money no extra no help . I checked food pantry waiting list for that no places for me to get I to housing is full . Got no family no friends to help me . My ex asked me to drop charges against him last week he said he would help me with money since he workin...	Wisdom67	14	2291	Jul 22, 2014 by Debilyn
	Sponsor (Preview) Although I am not new to this site, I am new to the forums. I am in desperate need of a sponsor. Right now my schedule is spread so thin I can't make it to f2f meetings. I am coming up on heavy schedule with college and having to take care of the home. I also am recovering from surgery. I need someone to help me wo...	Tampa	3	432	Jul 22, 2014 by Newlife girl
	Ah staying at his mothers (Preview) My dry ah is living at his mothers while we separate. Saw him for 5 minutes tops to discuss money and he needs to sign agreement for our lawyer to represent me in the divorce. I told him he needed to find some time to talk this out. Instead of his usual 5 minute a day i get his attention. He is usually out saving...	Mirandac	9	493	Jul 21, 2014 by Jen61
	Support for adult child recently out of rehab (Preview) 43 year old son recently went back to his own home after 21 days of inpatient rehab. We financed the program but we also now have control over his income/bank account to handle all his finances until he has paid us back. He is divorced, without children and lives 150 miles away. It is difficult to suppo...	Jeffs Mom	13	511	Jul 21, 2014 by grateful2be
	Am I resisting or just confused (Preview) Hi all! Went to see my A on Saturday at the 1/2 way house. Visited with him about 2.5 hours. It was good. Talked with him yesterday and I was kind of weepy, feeling irritated, and just not really hopeful. Partially I think that is because there was a big picnic and he told me on Friday that I wouldn't like it s...	Flower49	15	554	Jul 21, 2014 by Flower49
	Step 11 (Preview) http://stepwork.activeboard.com/t58116328/alanon-step-11/	hotrod	3	299	Jul 21, 2014 by hotrod
	This rope has a lot of ends (Preview) I've been re-reading a year's worth of journal entries. With a few exceptions, they're all like groundhog day. The number of times I said (about my AH) "I've finally snapped!", "I'm done," "I'm at the end of my rope," etc., would be funny if it weren't so sad. Every ti...	NL14	2	370	Jul 21, 2014 by andromeda
	Relentless coworkers bugging me! (Preview) Thought I had coworkers under my al anon spell regarding boundaries when asking me about my AH. I guess not! Another coworker today asked me if we were divorcing after I already told her it was too hard for me to talk about him at work. He used to work at the same place so it's difficult! After she asked me ab...	Newlife girl	10	604	Jul 21, 2014 by Jerry F
	when in rome (Preview) Im getting on a plane today for the first time in years and im flying to italy. Im going to rome. Last night I had a bit of a panic attack about it, I got scared about flying, the coming out of my comfort zone, leaving my sons behind, wee bit of guilt, im going with my daughter for some mother, daughter time, a b...	el-cee	21	959	Jul 21, 2014 by el-cee
	Update on my having left home (Preview) Well I am having good days and bad, and I can't help but think how painful it is leaving someone that hurts me so much and makes me feel anxious and fearful all of the time even though this feels like the right thing to do and even though I have taken way to long to have the courage to do it yes it still leaves me f...	Katy	6	515	Jul 20, 2014 by sunshine23
	I need to pull my finger out... (Preview) AH has been sleeping in the spare room for nearly two months. Day to day all is well and calm but I do find myself climbing the walls with the lack of emotional connection in my life. Its not new. It is really a long standing problem between us, and one that I ignored for a long time. Today I have tried to a...	milkwood	14	549	Jul 20, 2014 by tiredtonite
	I am scared. (Preview) The atmosphere is unbearable, I am starting to shake. He is sober, he had something to drink but is sober and he is angry. He has been so passive aggressive, I hate it. I almost got sucked in the negativity twice but daughter is awake. I must control myself. All because I refused sex last night and sugge...	Luiza	31	817	Jul 20, 2014 by Tampa
	When is it time to leave? (Preview) If I follow these guidelines, it is time to leave. Hmmmm. Not so much the reasons to stay; but I could check off just about every one under, when to leave. Every day it is more clear that I am not as attractive as a bottle of vodka; and I won't compete with that, or anything or anybody. better, healthier go a...	blessed	7	910	Jul 20, 2014 by Tampa
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