Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

kissers · kissers

I don't know whether to cry or scream. I just heard someone speak tonight who is in AA. It was like everything he did to other people is exactly what my family did to me. They sabotaged my efforts to go to college or lashed out at me. He told me that the reason they did this was because they were jealous. How co...

Bella333 · Bella333

Hello everyone. I want to report some recent progress dealing with my life thanks to Alanon. This past weekend I went to a wedding where my ex-boyfriend (who accompanied me as my platonic date as we are both friends with the bridal couple) threw me a huge curve ball. He got extremely drunk and started hi...

maresie · maresie

I am so glad I read Karilyn's post on resentments today. I have been in a slump, overwhelmed with life pains. I am poor, strapped for time, energy, motivation. I am lonely and isolated and know getting a ftf support group doesn't come overnight. I tried a group therapy for a few weeks and can't say I wil...

Denise · Denise

My husband has come to realize that he has an alcohol problem. He as of today has went to 2 meetings. He has had a problem for years now. Now that he is begining this new life I want to be there for him but I feel helpless and don't really know how to help him. I came from a family to drinkers and have been around i...

Andrea12 · Andrea12

Hello Friends, I am truly at wits end here and I just need to vent a little. My daughter has a boyfriend who just seemed to move right on in and I don't like it at all. My daughter Samantha started college this fall, she has a beautiful daughter and a bright future ahead of her. However seems like she has fo...

Inpain · Inpain

I've done a lot of blaming of my father...he was a dry drunk, mean, angry, pissed off at the world, and never could say he loved me, never showed affection. It hurt. I could never figure it out. Now at almost 40 I've gotten it. I'm making peace. I get it. What's interesting is I've idolized my mom my w...

Kara · Kara

Hi Everyone, This is my first time visiting and posting to this forum, so I look forward to meeting all of you and reading your stories and advice. My question is: have any of you ever experienced the displacement, or transference, of anger (or another emotion)? Perhaps you have reacted with...

Jerry F · Jerry F

Aloha Family...Gather up some of those unsent prayers and fly them down this way for a Family Group member of ours whose wife is on life support. It isn't maintenance this is termination. Cunning, Powerful and Baffling, the disease owned her and for short periods of time she could and would go into a...

Earthwoman54 · Earthwoman54

Hello, I live in Texas and have been in Alanon for years and have not found a good sponsor. At the present time I have a temporary sponsor in which I did my 4th and 5th step with. I feel much better about myself since going on and taking the leap of a 4th and 5th step. I feel like the person who is my temp. sponso...

Dan · Dan

Hi - I'm a new guy. I have attended Alanon on and off for a few years now, but have never attempted to work the program. My brother has been an admitted alcoholic for 7 or more years now, and was in denial for probably 8-10 years before that. This summer, his long-suffering wife found out about an affair h...

mia883 · mia883

I would like to know why the number of men at each alanon meeting has been declining?. When I came in 1987 to the meetings they were two or three men per meeting. Going to assembly usually about 20 men in 1988. In 2009, 22 years laters only or 1 man per meeting and at assembly only 4 or 5 men. Can anyone expla...

Diva · Diva

after complete, total computer crash. Newly built, all new computer is now online, so I must get busy and read all the posts. I send best wishes, love, and joy to all of you. Diva

chezza · chezza

I'd like to share this wee video with you guys as it's approach is all about "stinking thinking" and replacing it with positivity = Gratitude. I have have GIVEN myself a tough 4 days due to resentment build up. I basically started t...

tkyater2003 · tkyater2003

im havng a real hard time real hard time just need a few freinds only beeen coming here for a few days. im havng hard time with that BIG E WORD ENABLING ANY ADVICE WOULD HELP AND DEATCHMENT ALOS IM JUST BEGINNG SO IM TRYING I REALLY AM BUT THERE IS SO MUCH I DONT KNOW. Please look for a Private Message fr...

N8SMOM · N8SMOM

After all that stuff happened with my husband the other day (getting suspended from work, possibly driving drunk, spending the afternoon in a bar), his brother decided to take away the car he was loaning him. (My husband was in an accident back in July and totaled his car. His brother loaned him his ca...

journeygirl · journeygirl

Hi everyone. I have spent a great deal of time on this site in the past few days and have learned a great deal. I am planning on trying my first f2f meeting next week. Everything Al-Anon teaches makes perfect sense for the most part, and I am trying to take it all in. My AH is on his 4th day of a 28-day rehab stin...

Overcome · Overcome

In this week I've had two f2f meetings and at least one meeting on-line that were about resentments. I think my HP is wanting me to take a deeper look at some of the resentments that I have. I am working my 4th step again and had completed the "resentment" portion of the BluePrint for Progress W...

Jennifer · Jennifer

Hello Everyone, I've noticed something odd lately about myself. I've had a progressive vision loss over the last few years and when it reached the point of being legally blind I started having panic attacks in various places. It always seemed random and out of the blue, until one day at the hardware st...

maresie · maresie

Before al anon if an ex contacted me I felt I owed them a chance. This past week an ex from long before the ex A wrote me like some casual person saying hello. He did it through a social networking site thank goodness so I did not have to wonder how he got my email. For once I am clear on who I will speak to and w...

maire rua · maire rua

At the moment I need to detach from someone who is unable to mind their own business. I have just had an unpleasant telephone call from them. I find that when I have hung up from this person I am usually in receipt of information that I should not know, do not need to know and I get sucked in to a charade of a fri...

r1nn · r1nn

Hello! I'm Rinn and I'm new to this Alanon Online group. Some of you have seen me in the Alanon chatroom but for those who haven't (which is probably a lot) I'll tell you my story. I've been in Alanon since June of 2009. Currently my mom has been sober for 7 months. I was a codependent (and I guess now I'm a...

FlyingSquirrel · FlyingSquirrel

I'm 6 months sober and it became clear that I was a threat to my wife's chances of getting sober, just like she is a threat to my sobriety. I noticed her car outside the bar, went inside and she was with the guy whose window I threw a rock through a year ago. (I don't think she's actually cheating on me, but I...

peacewithin · peacewithin

I'm not a drinker but my dad was and so is my husband. Sometimes I feel like having one. Just to forget the pain. I know this is dangerous. Why do I feel this way. Last week my brother came over and we had a couple glasses of wine. Now I feel guility fior having them. I'm afarid alcohol. I'm afarid of being out...

Samsgram · Samsgram

Well, I`ll try to condense this. I use to attend Alanon meetings a couple years ago. My daughter has had a drug problem most of her life but I believe she has stopped using crack for about a year now or close to that. My issues are about her beautiful just 6 year old daughter. I love this child since the day sh...

Karilynn · Karilynn

((((Family))), Please allow this very proud Aunt to brag a little on her nieces. My oldest one starts college today. Where does the time go? She will be attending the same college where my beloved Tim & I went. It's where we met. This is the college where her grandma worked for over 20 years. S...

Jozie · Jozie

How Can I be Happy... I was sitting here typing, and posting on some of the shares on the boards, and I was typing to one about me NEEDING a place to go when one passes, and how I have always just needed "that Spot" to remember, and love, and embrace "MY" inner love for a person...And I...

danz123 · danz123

Because of the long Holiday weekend, we will not meet on the first Sunday of the month. The September business meeting will be held on Sunday September 13 at 9 pm est in the chat room. See you all there. Hope you all have a safe and peaceful holiday weekend. hugs, danz

Dale · Dale

Ok want to share something with you all........I have been doing some thinking. Growing up in an a home most things were not condusive to growing up feeling reasured and loved. Always expecting the unexpected, the other shoe to drop as it were. I believe I continued that thinking into my adult life. R...

kissers · kissers

It has taken me a long time to realize that there were times I was being used and I had no idea. Friends pretending to be friends. It must have been that little girl inside who thought the world was a good place. I now have no friends and that is okay. I was laid off last year. I was so stupid that I did not take ca...

drucilla06 · drucilla06

Monday started out like any other day.Other than the fact that after being off the weekend I wasn't really ready to go back to work,I was ok.Or so I thought. I am the closer ( I work in retail) and that is because I asked for that shift.I am not a morning person.So usually when I get there on Monday there is a...

Loupiness · Loupiness

Hi Friends, I am passing on this little story, a circulating email that my mom sent to me. Of course, you can replace God with Higher Power, the message is the same. The last line says it all. Such a great reminder. Wishing everyone a good week. Lou When I was a little boy, my mom liked to make break...

masspedirn · masspedirn

I am writing this with a very heavy heart and just a feeling of defeat. My (supposedly sober)BF who just moved back in not 6 weeks ago after a year separation to "get clean and sober" was a little surprised when I walked in the door about 3 hrs earlier than expected. Well, as the title says, he wa...

Sincerely · Sincerely

Hello everyone! Since my time here at MIP I have learned so many things. You know what..today I am happy. My husband is drunk in the kitchen eating up everything and blowing up something in the microwave as we speak, but...i'm happy with me. I have a fresh cute new haircut, wear my new perfume to bed ev...

Inpain · Inpain

Yes. It's happening for both myself and my AH dry drunk. He said two weeks ago he was going to an AA meeting with a friend. That night, came home and decided to cut the lawn. I asked if he was going,(he was waiting for a friend who bailed out) as I needed to leave to get milk (we have small kids) He said no....

HC2007 · HC2007

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tkyater2003 · tkyater2003

how to get sonsor online and numbers u cna call anytime day or night when u ned to talk im new to this group but not new to it all im a 42 yr old mother of 4 and suffers from deoressin this is my third marrrriage but first one who drank yes i knew he drank whe i met him i did but still feel n love nd more just wwant som...

FlyingSquirrel · FlyingSquirrel

(We've been separated almost a year now). She didn't quit drinking after her DUI, in fact she has pretty much ramped it up. She decided to have people drive her around (most of the time) to try and prevent another DUI, and last night the guy who drove her home raped her in the car. I went there and stayed...

Eve55 · Eve55

So last night started poorly. Got home and H is not there. His bike is gone, so I know he's out with one of two people. In either case I know what he is up to. But still I was kind of surprised that he was out because we had been planning all week to go see Shakespeare in the Park that evening. So I decide to work...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

I would venture to say the hardest yet. The ex boyfriend is not talking to me again and I just can't seem to get past it. I went to orientation to get started on my master's degree. I am nervous about the loans, the time commitment, the extra work. I just felt every bad emotion that I have in me all at once...

HC2007 · HC2007

Been a long time since I have been here ... I need unbias opinions, DH 20 yrs + with addiction really begining to believe he is unable to be honest with self, very hard core user , found with no heart beat once by friend and brought back to life by EMT ect... rehab , yada yada.. family full of adicts and disfun...

Jennifer · Jennifer

Higher Power I hunbly accept and admit to my addiction to attempting to fix other broken people for the comfort, rush .. high I get from it. I humbly accept and admit I use this as a way of avoiding taking care of myself. I humbly accept and admit I ignored every gut inscint, signs from you and let my tools la...

debilyn · debilyn

Something very hurtful happened to me. I don't know how to deal with it or how to get comfort and get passed it. Someone I respected hurt me very badly. How does one heal from something like that? It has never happened to me before. Would appreciate your thoughts. I have been doing all I know how to do. But...

debilyn · debilyn

Being in Al Anon I see it has made me think. In the past it gave me thoughts as to how to deal with A's. I sure don't always remember right away though. Anyway it still makes me think of ok how do I grow from this? What can I do better in how I handle things? So I come here and get a world of GREAT thoughts others sha...

MaryPoppins · MaryPoppins

I have heard about the "Greatest Generation", the generation that survived the Depression, and WW II, before social security, welfare, and other social services. The generation that just grinned and bore it when things got tough. And things were rough for most, breadwinners died, c...

bubbles1990 · bubbles1990

Thanks you all so much for all your wonderful comments.. Am sitting at work right now thinking of what is the next right step in my furture ahead... I am so happy and at peace when its just the kids and I but when he walks through the doors I just about loose all my peace because then I walk on eggshells never k...

ernie · ernie

August Business meeting Minutes Meeting was held August 9, 2009 Meeting opened with the serenity prayer Motion to accept July Business Meeting Minutes as posted on the Board - Voted on and accepted Chair meeting schedule was posted and revisedCurrent Chair Schedule is:AMMon Shimo/no altTue...

need lots of help · need lots of help

So AH is on his way home from being on a business trip for the week. He travels often for his job. I love it when he's gone. The house is so calm and peaceful. I notice that I nor the kids are tense....we just enjoy being with each other. WHen I know he's coming home, my stomach starts to turn. I am running...

Gailey · Gailey

Last night my 2 granddaughters, Emily and Grace, watched as their dog ran into the street and got hit by a car. He had to be put down as he had many injuries. He was running to them on the other side of the street. I am feeling so sad for their little broken hearts. They are coming to my house tomorrow for the we...

buick23 · buick23

Just wanted to let everyone know we recently moved and it took over a week to get the internet fixed so I'm back online now. I missed this board so much.

SuzanneM · SuzanneM

Hi! I'm new here. I am looking for support as my mother is an alcoholic. I have just gotten back from paying her last three months rent. I have taken over her money and am buying what she needs to survive and not allowing her money. I've also told her she needs to satrt going to AA and I'll take her. This...

christinajeanne · christinajeanne

It's been a very hectic few weeks for me. My mom had seizures and ended up in the hospital. The doctors think it is just stress but I'm still worried it might be something more. Then a friend passed away a week ago. Which, has been very hard on me because I don't have many friends or people I'm close to. I then...

shellyj123 · shellyj123

For some reason the past few days I have been thinking somewhat about the program itself as I continue to work it. And I'm thinking if I could have some confusion as much time off and on as I've spent in it-so could others. I'd love to hear some ESH:) I realize that AlAnon is a program that doesn't focus on...

Jerry F · Jerry F

Aloha All!! For three days I couldn't even find the link to MIP eventually running over the entire list of bizarre "could bes" and then finding my way back into acceptance and letting my HP work it out. Now here you all are again. Happy it wasn't a blackout. LOL (((((hugs))))) Welco...

Overcome · Overcome

Well I made it through 'D day with out any major pitfalls, except I couldn't get into MIP message board or chat room...ughhh! I finally got into the message board today, so thought I would let everyone know that I survived! I met the lawyer at 8:15 a.m. yesterday morning and we took the block walk up to the...

Gailey · Gailey

** Addiction to Misery **Kathleen DesMaisons, Ph.D. I have often reflected on why some people stay stuck in being miserable. No matter what life presented them, they would pick out certain variables to show that once again life was against them. This pattern went beyond your basic garden negativit...

N8SMOM · N8SMOM

Got a call from my sister-in-law this afternoon. Apparently my husband was suspended from work today and was at the bar drinking for 4 hours. The only reason we know this is because he called his Dad and she lives with her Dad. So I had to go pick my husband up from the bar. I still don't know what really...

woopsadaisy · woopsadaisy

I got the 12 step/ 12 traditions book and read most of it in one read. Good book!~ I am working on the moral inventory step at this point, and I wonder how far back I need to go, and if when it comes time to make ammends, if I need to just tell ANYONE, or if I need to tell the person... There are a couple things, ri...

Jozie · Jozie

Why are there Little Tags... Next to my post... Anyone..... Thanks Jozie

christinajeanne · christinajeanne

I was driving in the car with my aunt the other day. She wanted to take a trip for work related thing. I told her I did not want to go. She started screaming at me and bullied me into say yes. I know I did not need to let her affect my emotions like that but I did allow it. She has a way of getting to me for some reason...

RLC · RLC

This is a true story. It happened to me about three months ago: One night after my Tuesday night f2f meeting I was talking to a lady in our group outside. We talked for 10 or 15 minutes. After I left I forgot that I had left my "Courage To Change" book on top of my car. It was 9:00 pm so I did not notic...

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	The truth has come out. (Preview) I don't know whether to cry or scream. I just heard someone speak tonight who is in AA. It was like everything he did to other people is exactly what my family did to me. They sabotaged my efforts to go to college or lashed out at me. He told me that the reason they did this was because they were jealous. How co...	kissers	7	616	Sep 3, 2009 by canadianguy
	Progress thanks to Alanon (Preview) Hello everyone. I want to report some recent progress dealing with my life thanks to Alanon. This past weekend I went to a wedding where my ex-boyfriend (who accompanied me as my platonic date as we are both friends with the bridal couple) threw me a huge curve ball. He got extremely drunk and started hi...	Bella333	3	321	Sep 3, 2009 by blender_girl
	Life on Life's Terms (Preview) I am so glad I read Karilyn's post on resentments today. I have been in a slump, overwhelmed with life pains. I am poor, strapped for time, energy, motivation. I am lonely and isolated and know getting a ftf support group doesn't come overnight. I tried a group therapy for a few weeks and can't say I wil...	maresie	6	705	Sep 3, 2009 by maresie
	How do I help my husband???? (Preview) My husband has come to realize that he has an alcohol problem. He as of today has went to 2 meetings. He has had a problem for years now. Now that he is begining this new life I want to be there for him but I feel helpless and don't really know how to help him. I came from a family to drinkers and have been around i...	Denise	12	679	Sep 3, 2009 by maresie
	At Wits End (Preview) Hello Friends, I am truly at wits end here and I just need to vent a little. My daughter has a boyfriend who just seemed to move right on in and I don't like it at all. My daughter Samantha started college this fall, she has a beautiful daughter and a bright future ahead of her. However seems like she has fo...	Andrea12	8	578	Sep 3, 2009 by maresie
	The blame game - my family of origin (Preview) I've done a lot of blaming of my father...he was a dry drunk, mean, angry, pissed off at the world, and never could say he loved me, never showed affection. It hurt. I could never figure it out. Now at almost 40 I've gotten it. I'm making peace. I get it. What's interesting is I've idolized my mom my w...	Inpain	3	1534	Sep 3, 2009 by Dazzlingirl329
	Have you ever had displaced anger? (Preview) Hi Everyone, This is my first time visiting and posting to this forum, so I look forward to meeting all of you and reading your stories and advice. My question is: have any of you ever experienced the displacement, or transference, of anger (or another emotion)? Perhaps you have reacted with...	Kara	7	3874	Sep 3, 2009 by RunnerChick
	Time to let some prayers fly... (Preview) Aloha Family...Gather up some of those unsent prayers and fly them down this way for a Family Group member of ours whose wife is on life support. It isn't maintenance this is termination. Cunning, Powerful and Baffling, the disease owned her and for short periods of time she could and would go into a...	Jerry F	22	1082	Sep 3, 2009 by Jozie
	Searching for a Sponsor (Preview) Hello, I live in Texas and have been in Alanon for years and have not found a good sponsor. At the present time I have a temporary sponsor in which I did my 4th and 5th step with. I feel much better about myself since going on and taking the leap of a 4th and 5th step. I feel like the person who is my temp. sponso...	Earthwoman54	2	566	Sep 3, 2009 by Jerry F
	Hello (Preview) Hi - I'm a new guy. I have attended Alanon on and off for a few years now, but have never attempted to work the program. My brother has been an admitted alcoholic for 7 or more years now, and was in denial for probably 8-10 years before that. This summer, his long-suffering wife found out about an affair h...	Dan	6	535	Sep 3, 2009 by Jerry F
	Number of men at each alanon meeting declining? Australia (Preview) I would like to know why the number of men at each alanon meeting has been declining?. When I came in 1987 to the meetings they were two or three men per meeting. Going to assembly usually about 20 men in 1988. In 2009, 22 years laters only or 1 man per meeting and at assembly only 4 or 5 men. Can anyone expla...	mia883	7	1050	Sep 3, 2009 by Jerry F
	I'm baaaaaack......... (Preview) after complete, total computer crash. Newly built, all new computer is now online, so I must get busy and read all the posts. I send best wishes, love, and joy to all of you. Diva	Diva	11	459	Sep 2, 2009 by bubbles1990
	Attitude = Gratitude (Preview) I'd like to share this wee video with you guys as it's approach is all about "stinking thinking" and replacing it with positivity = Gratitude. I have have GIVEN myself a tough 4 days due to resentment build up. I basically started t...	chezza	3	599	Sep 2, 2009 by tea2
	just need a few freinds if u would (Preview) im havng a real hard time real hard time just need a few freinds only beeen coming here for a few days. im havng hard time with that BIG E WORD ENABLING ANY ADVICE WOULD HELP AND DEATCHMENT ALOS IM JUST BEGINNG SO IM TRYING I REALLY AM BUT THERE IS SO MUCH I DONT KNOW. Please look for a Private Message fr...	tkyater2003	5	571	Sep 2, 2009 by Christy
	Do I Confront Him? (Preview) After all that stuff happened with my husband the other day (getting suspended from work, possibly driving drunk, spending the afternoon in a bar), his brother decided to take away the car he was loaning him. (My husband was in an accident back in July and totaled his car. His brother loaned him his ca...	N8SMOM	12	683	Sep 2, 2009 by Aloha
	New here and have a question about detachment... (Preview) Hi everyone. I have spent a great deal of time on this site in the past few days and have learned a great deal. I am planning on trying my first f2f meeting next week. Everything Al-Anon teaches makes perfect sense for the most part, and I am trying to take it all in. My AH is on his 4th day of a 28-day rehab stin...	journeygirl	6	546	Sep 2, 2009 by maresie
	Resentments (Preview) In this week I've had two f2f meetings and at least one meeting on-line that were about resentments. I think my HP is wanting me to take a deeper look at some of the resentments that I have. I am working my 4th step again and had completed the "resentment" portion of the BluePrint for Progress W...	Overcome	5	734	Sep 2, 2009 by Overcome
	Finding peace in panic situations (Preview) Hello Everyone, I've noticed something odd lately about myself. I've had a progressive vision loss over the last few years and when it reached the point of being legally blind I started having panic attacks in various places. It always seemed random and out of the blue, until one day at the hardware st...	Jennifer	5	733	Sep 2, 2009 by Jennifer
	no hesitation. (Preview) Before al anon if an ex contacted me I felt I owed them a chance. This past week an ex from long before the ex A wrote me like some casual person saying hello. He did it through a social networking site thank goodness so I did not have to wonder how he got my email. For once I am clear on who I will speak to and w...	maresie	2	386	Sep 2, 2009 by blender_girl
	people who can't mind their own business (Preview) At the moment I need to detach from someone who is unable to mind their own business. I have just had an unpleasant telephone call from them. I find that when I have hung up from this person I am usually in receipt of information that I should not know, do not need to know and I get sucked in to a charade of a fri...	maire rua	3	536	Sep 2, 2009 by RunnerChick
	introducing myself, woo (Preview) Hello! I'm Rinn and I'm new to this Alanon Online group. Some of you have seen me in the Alanon chatroom but for those who haven't (which is probably a lot) I'll tell you my story. I've been in Alanon since June of 2009. Currently my mom has been sober for 7 months. I was a codependent (and I guess now I'm a...	r1nn	5	620	Sep 2, 2009 by CJ
	I finally cut the cord after a year of being separated. (Preview) I'm 6 months sober and it became clear that I was a threat to my wife's chances of getting sober, just like she is a threat to my sobriety. I noticed her car outside the bar, went inside and she was with the guy whose window I threw a rock through a year ago. (I don't think she's actually cheating on me, but I...	FlyingSquirrel	5	623	Sep 1, 2009 by maresie
	Need Your Help. (Preview) I'm not a drinker but my dad was and so is my husband. Sometimes I feel like having one. Just to forget the pain. I know this is dangerous. Why do I feel this way. Last week my brother came over and we had a couple glasses of wine. Now I feel guility fior having them. I'm afarid alcohol. I'm afarid of being out...	peacewithin	4	435	Sep 1, 2009 by abbyal
	I`am new (Preview) Well, I`ll try to condense this. I use to attend Alanon meetings a couple years ago. My daughter has had a drug problem most of her life but I believe she has stopped using crack for about a year now or close to that. My issues are about her beautiful just 6 year old daughter. I love this child since the day sh...	Samsgram	2	411	Sep 1, 2009 by Mariner
	My Nieces (Preview) ((((Family))), Please allow this very proud Aunt to brag a little on her nieces. My oldest one starts college today. Where does the time go? She will be attending the same college where my beloved Tim & I went. It's where we met. This is the college where her grandma worked for over 20 years. S...	Karilynn	7	426	Sep 1, 2009 by maresie
	I did it alone, but not really... (Preview) How Can I be Happy... I was sitting here typing, and posting on some of the shares on the boards, and I was typing to one about me NEEDING a place to go when one passes, and how I have always just needed "that Spot" to remember, and love, and embrace "MY" inner love for a person...And I...	Jozie	4	696	Aug 31, 2009 by Jozie
	September Business Meeting (Preview) Because of the long Holiday weekend, we will not meet on the first Sunday of the month. The September business meeting will be held on Sunday September 13 at 9 pm est in the chat room. See you all there. Hope you all have a safe and peaceful holiday weekend. hugs, danz	danz123	0	289	Aug 31, 2009 by danz123
	ok here is a thought.........let go of the other shoe (Preview) Ok want to share something with you all........I have been doing some thinking. Growing up in an a home most things were not condusive to growing up feeling reasured and loved. Always expecting the unexpected, the other shoe to drop as it were. I believe I continued that thinking into my adult life. R...	Dale	6	537	Aug 31, 2009 by Mobirdie
	It's been a long time and I am not doing well. (Preview) It has taken me a long time to realize that there were times I was being used and I had no idea. Friends pretending to be friends. It must have been that little girl inside who thought the world was a good place. I now have no friends and that is okay. I was laid off last year. I was so stupid that I did not take ca...	kissers	5	513	Aug 30, 2009 by debilyn
	codependent crazies (Preview) Monday started out like any other day.Other than the fact that after being off the weekend I wasn't really ready to go back to work,I was ok.Or so I thought. I am the closer ( I work in retail) and that is because I asked for that shift.I am not a morning person.So usually when I get there on Monday there is a...	drucilla06	2	511	Aug 30, 2009 by debilyn
	Burnt Biscuits (Preview) Hi Friends, I am passing on this little story, a circulating email that my mom sent to me. Of course, you can replace God with Higher Power, the message is the same. The last line says it all. Such a great reminder. Wishing everyone a good week. Lou When I was a little boy, my mom liked to make break...	Loupiness	1	512	Aug 30, 2009 by debilyn
	came home early to find him drinking.....thought this was over (long) (Preview) I am writing this with a very heavy heart and just a feeling of defeat. My (supposedly sober)BF who just moved back in not 6 weeks ago after a year separation to "get clean and sober" was a little surprised when I walked in the door about 3 hrs earlier than expected. Well, as the title says, he wa...	masspedirn	6	612	Aug 30, 2009 by Inpain
	Nothing changes until "i" change (Preview) Hello everyone! Since my time here at MIP I have learned so many things. You know what..today I am happy. My husband is drunk in the kitchen eating up everything and blowing up something in the microwave as we speak, but...i'm happy with me. I have a fresh cute new haircut, wear my new perfume to bed ev...	Sincerely	7	572	Aug 30, 2009 by Dale
	Progress (Preview) Yes. It's happening for both myself and my AH dry drunk. He said two weeks ago he was going to an AA meeting with a friend. That night, came home and decided to cut the lawn. I asked if he was going,(he was waiting for a friend who bailed out) as I needed to leave to get milk (we have small kids) He said no....	Inpain	4	484	Aug 30, 2009 by Jerry F
	RE: I need advice... (Preview) http://www.activeboard.com/forum.spark?aBID=42727&p=3&topicID=30212857	HC2007	2	949	Aug 29, 2009 by Jerry F
	how to (Preview) how to get sonsor online and numbers u cna call anytime day or night when u ned to talk im new to this group but not new to it all im a 42 yr old mother of 4 and suffers from deoressin this is my third marrrriage but first one who drank yes i knew he drank whe i met him i did but still feel n love nd more just wwant som...	tkyater2003	3	454	Aug 29, 2009 by tkyater2003
	Well my wife got raped last night. (Preview) (We've been separated almost a year now). She didn't quit drinking after her DUI, in fact she has pretty much ramped it up. She decided to have people drive her around (most of the time) to try and prevent another DUI, and last night the guy who drove her home raped her in the car. I went there and stayed...	FlyingSquirrel	14	7808	Aug 29, 2009 by tkyater2003
	Sometimes we find just what we need - In my case a troupe of jugglers! (Preview) So last night started poorly. Got home and H is not there. His bike is gone, so I know he's out with one of two people. In either case I know what he is up to. But still I was kind of surprised that he was out because we had been planning all week to go see Shakespeare in the Park that evening. So I decide to work...	Eve55	5	523	Aug 29, 2009 by sterling7
	yesterday was a really hard day (Preview) I would venture to say the hardest yet. The ex boyfriend is not talking to me again and I just can't seem to get past it. I went to orientation to get started on my master's degree. I am nervous about the loans, the time commitment, the extra work. I just felt every bad emotion that I have in me all at once...	carolinagirl	7	509	Aug 29, 2009 by HC2007
	I need advice... (Preview) Been a long time since I have been here ... I need unbias opinions, DH 20 yrs + with addiction really begining to believe he is unable to be honest with self, very hard core user , found with no heart beat once by friend and brought back to life by EMT ect... rehab , yada yada.. family full of adicts and disfun...	HC2007	8	857	Aug 29, 2009 by HC2007
	Fell off my wagon, rolled down the road, landed in a river, floated way too far off the path (Preview) Higher Power I hunbly accept and admit to my addiction to attempting to fix other broken people for the comfort, rush .. high I get from it. I humbly accept and admit I use this as a way of avoiding taking care of myself. I humbly accept and admit I ignored every gut inscint, signs from you and let my tools la...	Jennifer	4	525	Aug 29, 2009 by debilyn
	I am lost (Preview) Something very hurtful happened to me. I don't know how to deal with it or how to get comfort and get passed it. Someone I respected hurt me very badly. How does one heal from something like that? It has never happened to me before. Would appreciate your thoughts. I have been doing all I know how to do. But...	debilyn	18	729	Aug 29, 2009 by debilyn
	thinking outloud (Preview) Being in Al Anon I see it has made me think. In the past it gave me thoughts as to how to deal with A's. I sure don't always remember right away though. Anyway it still makes me think of ok how do I grow from this? What can I do better in how I handle things? So I come here and get a world of GREAT thoughts others sha...	debilyn	1	453	Aug 29, 2009 by Overcome
	Homegrown Alanon (Preview) I have heard about the "Greatest Generation", the generation that survived the Depression, and WW II, before social security, welfare, and other social services. The generation that just grinned and bore it when things got tough. And things were rough for most, breadwinners died, c...	MaryPoppins	4	516	Aug 29, 2009 by Peggy7
	To all my MIP Family..... (Preview) Thanks you all so much for all your wonderful comments.. Am sitting at work right now thinking of what is the next right step in my furture ahead... I am so happy and at peace when its just the kids and I but when he walks through the doors I just about loose all my peace because then I walk on eggshells never k...	bubbles1990	3	543	Aug 29, 2009 by david62
	August Business Meeting Minutes (Preview) August Business meeting Minutes Meeting was held August 9, 2009 Meeting opened with the serenity prayer Motion to accept July Business Meeting Minutes as posted on the Board - Voted on and accepted Chair meeting schedule was posted and revisedCurrent Chair Schedule is:AMMon Shimo/no altTue...	ernie	0	890	Aug 29, 2009 by ernie
	Here we go again......... (Preview) So AH is on his way home from being on a business trip for the week. He travels often for his job. I love it when he's gone. The house is so calm and peaceful. I notice that I nor the kids are tense....we just enjoy being with each other. WHen I know he's coming home, my stomach starts to turn. I am running...	need lots of help	4	530	Aug 28, 2009 by Jerry F
	sad news today (Preview) Last night my 2 granddaughters, Emily and Grace, watched as their dog ran into the street and got hit by a car. He had to be put down as he had many injuries. He was running to them on the other side of the street. I am feeling so sad for their little broken hearts. They are coming to my house tomorrow for the we...	Gailey	11	576	Aug 28, 2009 by debilyn
	back online (Preview) Just wanted to let everyone know we recently moved and it took over a week to get the internet fixed so I'm back online now. I missed this board so much.	buick23	1	438	Aug 28, 2009 by debilyn
	New (Preview) Hi! I'm new here. I am looking for support as my mother is an alcoholic. I have just gotten back from paying her last three months rent. I have taken over her money and am buying what she needs to survive and not allowing her money. I've also told her she needs to satrt going to AA and I'll take her. This...	SuzanneM	3	530	Aug 28, 2009 by debilyn
	Control (Preview) It's been a very hectic few weeks for me. My mom had seizures and ended up in the hospital. The doctors think it is just stress but I'm still worried it might be something more. Then a friend passed away a week ago. Which, has been very hard on me because I don't have many friends or people I'm close to. I then...	christinajeanne	2	569	Aug 28, 2009 by debilyn
	AlAnon clarity/confusion.....just a share..... (Preview) For some reason the past few days I have been thinking somewhat about the program itself as I continue to work it. And I'm thinking if I could have some confusion as much time off and on as I've spent in it-so could others. I'd love to hear some ESH:) I realize that AlAnon is a program that doesn't focus on...	shellyj123	7	1456	Aug 28, 2009 by serendipity
	Three Days out in the desert!! (Preview) Aloha All!! For three days I couldn't even find the link to MIP eventually running over the entire list of bizarre "could bes" and then finding my way back into acceptance and letting my HP work it out. Now here you all are again. Happy it wasn't a blackout. LOL (((((hugs))))) Welco...	Jerry F	6	710	Aug 28, 2009 by Suzannah
	Newly divorced (Preview) Well I made it through 'D day with out any major pitfalls, except I couldn't get into MIP message board or chat room...ughhh! I finally got into the message board today, so thought I would let everyone know that I survived! I met the lawyer at 8:15 a.m. yesterday morning and we took the block walk up to the...	Overcome	4	474	Aug 27, 2009 by nmike
	Addiction to Misery (Preview) Addiction to Misery Kathleen DesMaisons, Ph.D. I have often reflected on why some people stay stuck in being miserable. No matter what life presented them, they would pick out certain variables to show that once again life was against them. This pattern went beyond your basic garden negativit...	Gailey	2	837	Aug 27, 2009 by nmike
	What a Day (Preview) Got a call from my sister-in-law this afternoon. Apparently my husband was suspended from work today and was at the bar drinking for 4 hours. The only reason we know this is because he called his Dad and she lives with her Dad. So I had to go pick my husband up from the bar. I still don't know what really...	N8SMOM	3	456	Aug 27, 2009 by abbyal
	addicted to truth? (Preview) I got the 12 step/ 12 traditions book and read most of it in one read. Good book!~ I am working on the moral inventory step at this point, and I wonder how far back I need to go, and if when it comes time to make ammends, if I need to just tell ANYONE, or if I need to tell the person... There are a couple things, ri...	woopsadaisy	5	448	Aug 27, 2009 by woopsadaisy
	Have a Question.... test (Preview) Why are there Little Tags... Next to my post... Anyone..... Thanks Jozie	Jozie	3	566	Aug 27, 2009 by tea2
	Fantasy/ Illusions (Preview) I was driving in the car with my aunt the other day. She wanted to take a trip for work related thing. I told her I did not want to go. She started screaming at me and bullied me into say yes. I know I did not need to let her affect my emotions like that but I did allow it. She has a way of getting to me for some reason...	christinajeanne	2	1327	Aug 27, 2009 by christinajeanne
	Amazing How HP works (Preview) This is a true story. It happened to me about three months ago: One night after my Tuesday night f2f meeting I was talking to a lady in our group outside. We talked for 10 or 15 minutes. After I left I forgot that I had left my "Courage To Change" book on top of my car. It was 9:00 pm so I did not notic...	RLC	7	565	Aug 27, 2009 by Jerry F
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