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Sincerely


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Hello everyone!
Since my time here at MIP I have learned so many things.  You know what..today I am happy.  My husband is drunk in the kitchen eating up everything and blowing up something in the microwave as we speak, but...i'm happy with me.  I have a fresh cute new haircut, wear my new perfume to bed evernight for me and tomorrow morning I will wake up to start a new.  He'll have to face what ever mess he made in the kitchen tomorrow..not me.  And that is basically how i feel about all of his decisions these days.  His decisions are not a reflection of me.  They never were, i'm just realizing it now. 
Thanks..
Tonya

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With love in recovery, 

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Melissa21


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Good you for Tonya!!

My A was so used to being drunk he could cook a full meal and do the dishes before going to bed completely drunk unless he passed out in between. That was all that would stop him.

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nmike


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Thanks for showing me how to change. And taking care of yourself. I need to do that more.

In support,
Nancy

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WoW!!!  I'm hearing ....GOOD RECOVERY!!!! Thanks for the reminder on detaching. What they do is no reflection on us, but just where they are with themselves..It has taken me a long time to "get it"....You sound really good. Good for you!!!!

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Aloha Tonya...It works when you work it...goooood recovery.  (((((hugs))))) smile

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Christy


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Bravo!!!!

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shellyj123


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Soooooooooo very happy for you Tonya!!!  Way to work the program!!!!!! :):):)

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Dale


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Love your post Huggs dear smile.gif

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