Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

Mandy123 · Mandy123

Hi all, The saturday morning meeting is in much need of member support. And just a quick reminder the weekend morning meetings start at 10am Eastern......7am Pacific. I guess we had some come in at 9am looking for a meeting. It is early for me to chair this meeting...so if you want to see a west coast gal a...

Loupiness · Loupiness

Just need some feedback here, so I can quit obsessing Why do I care what my exAH and his A g/f (both sober?) think, and thus say, about me? Controlling, narcissistic, a liar... lots of names for me. Funny thing is, they describe me exactly as what I think of them. AH runs everything by her and seeks h...

gknee · gknee

New chapter......today I am picking up my AH from inpt treatment that he has been in since Monday nite. I was just so happy to get him out of the house, I didn't really think about the other side of it. I am not looking forward to bringing him home-- because then I have to deal with him. Out of sight, out of min...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

I have been talking to my ex A a LOT lately, he is getting ready to move back to this area in a week - we'll see how that goes. He just left a girlfriend who he went to California with and that lasted about two months and she has been sending him nasty messages, etc. He said to me... She needs to do it like you di...

Diva · Diva

Thinking of all of you while on vacation here in Newport, Rhode Island. I am having fun in this beautiful place, but all of you are never out of my mind. A is behaving himself. YAY!!! Best wishes to all, Diva

return · return

Hi everyone this is Leo. It has been so long since I was on here that I forgot all my user information to get in so I am using the name return lol. It is so nice to see you are all still here and I am just going through the old posts. Hope that life has been kind to you and Hp giving you strength and courage to get...

db55 · db55

Bravo to my AH. Today is nine months sober for him! It is the longest he has been sober since he and I have been together. We were talking last night and he said, "I would have had 13 years if I didn't start drinking again when we got together 8 years ago." Hmmmm, what the heck does that mean.....

DreamsOver · DreamsOver

My AS is on a binge this week, my nerves are frayed. We live in a small town and he lives too close to our family for us not to be caught up in his drama. He is always at my back door for a hand out, I give him what he needs just to get by on. He will plead and beg until I have no strength left to say no. It is getting t...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I feel so much better now that I let go some of my anxieties about my illness. I needed to get all that out so I can move on. Today is a much better day than Tuesday when I posted all that to all of you. It was very scary to open up to you. I am learning to accept myself today. I am much better off doing that. I ev...

SWgal · SWgal

I am not perfect, but I am not a bad mom, as AH wants me to believe. I am the one who is with my kids 95% of the time. He is busy coaching during the week and/or going to the gym after work and coming home when he feels like it, and then binge drinking on the weekends, staying out until 5 a.m. and spending the dayli...

Christy · Christy

I wanted to share part of a conversation that my son and I had. A little background...growing up my son rarely saw his father sober. My A would hit the bar before he came home from work and leave fairly early on weekends to do the same. (now sober almost 4 yrs.) My son is 19, leaving lots of years to build r...

Loupiness · Loupiness

Spoke to my sponsor last night. She called right when I received a text from my ex that I was contemplating my response to. We talked about keeping simplicity in and insanity out. We talked of "Easy Does It". "Yep", I said, "I got it". Then we hung up and what did I do...

Aloha · Aloha

One of our Al-Anon family is going to be moving back to the mainland. I am sad, as I will miss her. She's always had such wonderful shares and she has this contagious laughter that I love. One thing I found out about her is that she actually started many of the meetings in my area. Her funny reason for starti...

Jerry F · Jerry F

Aloha family; The day before yesterday I told a sponsee that I would support him by being at his father's funeral. His Dad just died from brain cancer and my sponsee who works this program pretty darn well attended to his part of that event like the recovering member he is. I got there just a little ear...

Peggy7 · Peggy7

I love the reminder..."Let it begin with me" how many times have I wondered... how things could change.. when others would see their true purpose... when others could find their true light.. how healing could help another... if only they would do this or that... until I remember the sayin...

Data395 · Data395

Hi, Dane here, grateful newcomer in Alanon. :) I've been having a hard time again with my brand new wife. she is in recovery; she's been in it for years, but she still has issues and emotional problems. A relative of hers just passed away and I've been there for her a lot. The other night, I was up with her b...

Mandy123 · Mandy123

Hi all, Whelp my hub is gone. Moved out Sunday. I wasn't sure he was really gone, but I found out he is. I was all weird how it happend, but most of this situation has all been weird. He took off Sunday after I told him I wouldn't do something. So he was punishing me by leaving, not knowing where he was, and not c...

Ness · Ness

My Ason is off the streets .....back, via a short stint in rehab, in the accommodation he nearly drank himself to death in a few months ago.....it just feels like the circle of hell is complete. I feel so despondent today..... I know Im powerless over his disease..... Im relieved he has a roof over his h...

Tracy · Tracy

Hi everyone, I dot know where to start my partner has been sober for nearly 6 months and I am so proud of him. But I am still struggling with the damage this disease has done. I know he is sick, I know he loves me and never wanted to hurt me or anyone else. But today if he so much as does not do his chores all the o...

Gailey · Gailey

I thought I would post instead of just reading today when I noticed that there was not one new topic since this morning. That started to make me sad like maybe everyone was starting to lose interest in the site. I sure hope not! My son (the one in 28 day rehab) said to me last night..."Mom, you have to g...

Peggy7 · Peggy7

Saw this, realized how much like the Alanon message we learn each day directs us in this exact same thinking: It will take just 37 seconds to read this and change your thinking.. Two men, both seriously ill, occupied the same hospital room. One man was allowed to sit up in his bed for an hour each afternoo...

tryingtofindaway2009 · tryingtofindaway2009

He relapsed! coughing up blood and lung tissue he just laughs and says he is dying! Do i stay and watch him kill himself a little more each day or do i leave in hopes that he will come around? I'm lost... about two weeks ago i found this site and made my first post. thank you all who responded with support and a...

Hawk120025 · Hawk120025

It's been 3 months since I broke up with my ABF and I find I still have moments where I am angry with him for being such a helpless drunk and ruining our relationship. It just pi**e* me off! I wish he (the memories, anger, hurt, etc.) would just go away. I haven't heard from him since I dumped him in his p...

Aloha · Aloha

(I have quoted a paragraph from the book... so I'll understand if this post needs to be removed - just let me know if you had to remove it, mods. Thanks!) It is a very rare occasion when I'm sitting reading a book in quiet solitude and find myself bursting out laughing at something I've read. (Normally I mi...

Overcome · Overcome

I was thumbing through the C2C meditation book the other day, looking for a topic for a meeting and came across one that "I" had written in the margin that wasn't in the index. I had entitled it "illusions" because that seemed to me to be the focus of the reading on July 26, pg 208 of t...

Shellybelly · Shellybelly

im doing alanon online only as im scared to go to real life meeting but im told your meant to have a sponser to help you go thru the steps properly now i dont have one how do you get one or do you get one when your only doing it online you see i want to do this right

tryingtofindaway2009 · tryingtofindaway2009

Hello thank you again for ll your support, I'm looking for face to face meetings in vancouver and definately wanting to go, I took away his car and gave it up so he didn't have such an easy way of leaving in the middle of the night. I told him that he had to start working again. I felt powered by all of your post...

frustrated · frustrated

My husband is in recovery and has been for a little over two years. He went to rehab a little over two years ago because of his performance at work. He managed to maintain his sobriety 6 months and then he struggled for about a year and a half off and on the wagon. In August I was away on a business trip. He dran...

usedup64 · usedup64

I love a man more than life. We have been in relationship for 3 years. I was not aware of the fact he was alcoholic in the first year. We became engaged and i would love to marry him. He says things will get better if I commit. Well, he moved two and a half hours away and because I now realize the extent of his pr...

shellyj123 · shellyj123

Well the weekend started out great. Made my F2F Friday and it was amazing.....HP spoke to me again and I left with all the empty spots filling full:) Had my date Sat night and it went well also. This guy is sooo very different...I'm guessing probally because he doesn't have an alcohol or drug addictio...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I AM A LITTLE LIMITED IN THIS LIFE WHICH MAKES ME VERY FRUSTRATED AT TIMES & OFTEN PUTS ME ON THE "PITY POT". MOST RECENTLY I HAVE BEEN KINDA DEPRESSED & SAD AS I HAVE BEEN CRYING ALMOST EVERY DAY. I DON'T KNOW IF I EVER MENTIONED THAT I HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER WHICH LIMITS MY MIND TO SIMPL...

Tattyhead · Tattyhead

Been away for weekend to visit frail, elderly father who is in a nursing home 120 miles from my home. Had a nice weekend as went with son, daughter and her fiance and we enjoyed being together, eating out,etc. Came back from just 2 nights away to find AH had not eaten for 2 days, had done nothing apart from d...

Mandy123 · Mandy123

Family, I had an interesting night and was able to see some progress. Which for me right now seeing growth is something to celebrate. And right after I typed that last sentence somehting happend so I saw more growth. TY HP! A couple of months ago I broke down and created a facebook account. I have some fre...

debilyn · debilyn

A couple people seemed to be against needing another. I am not talking being obsessed, depending on anyone else for anything. I have been independant all my life. I was a widow 18 years raising my kids and everyone elses, working full time and going to school full time. I don't need in an unhealthy way. O...

ajay147 · ajay147

She says that she doesn't have a drinking problem. She's right. Isn't she? --> SHE doesn't <-- "I have a problem with her drinking".

debilyn · debilyn

It makes me sad that people of the world believe love is one thing. There are many kinds of love, intimate love, friend love,dog love, etc. I asked to have my posts deleted but was denied. Sorry I shared this. Was so happy to have a true friend finally after losing mine. Am actually very unhappy that peop...

christinajeanne · christinajeanne

I realize that I've really been isolating myself lately and having my own little pity party. I think I've gotten so scared of getting hurt that I've shut people out. I tried to control my ABF's addictions by telling him to dump his friends or I'm dumping him. Now I see how childish that was of me. I wouldn'...

italia80 · italia80

Hello friends, I could use a little insight, my boyfriend (30 years of age) have been dating a calender year, he was a binger for 3 years, and has been sober for 30 days, he recently needed a "break", so that he can figure things out and that sobriety is his focus right now ( cant argue ther...

Karilynn · Karilynn

(((Family))), Last week I had my mammogram. It was a beautiful fall day so I decided to walk home from the hospital. It was only 4 miles and the route takes me past some beautiful streets. As I walking past a local community bible college they have a row of trees. I have been missing my beloved Tim a lit...

debhud · debhud

rough couple of months. my 40yr. old. sister-in-law was murdered in july. then my 43yr. old brother-in-law was found dead 2 weeks ago (accidental drug over-dose; xanax and methadone.) my poor AH is dealing with so much! he is depressed, drinking quite a bit and not eating. the grief and pain...

coddingl · coddingl

My A and I were married 26 years. The last 7 alcohol became a problem. We were officially divorced in August. I planned to move out of state, he has begged me to stay. He says he can't do this without me. I gave him 30 days. I told him that I would tell it like it was. I'm not glossing over anything anymor...

tryingtofindaway2009 · tryingtofindaway2009

I'm new here, this is my first time really even talking about his problem. My boyfriend is an addict has been for over five years. we seem to get one step forward and a week later take ten steps back. I am running on empty and looking for help in anyway possible. whether its getting the courage to leave or th...

Chenango · Chenango

Just last Thursday I moved my boyfriend out of my house because I finally realized he was an alcoholic and I was being an enabler. He has been the love of my life for 3 years and has become such a big part of my family. My family started accepting him as one of their own and I was just waiting for the day for him t...

Aloha · Aloha

In all my time I've spent in al-anon, I STILL have a difficult time remembering I'm dealing with the disease and not my husband. I found myself chanting "It's the disease. It's the disease. It's the disease." over and over and over the other night because I've been so ANGRY with AH. Trying to...

Andrea12 · Andrea12

(((((((((Hello Friends)))))))))), Well I pray the final shoe dropped today for my husbands days of alcoholism and addiction. About a year before he passed he stole one of my check books and wrote checks from here to kingdom come...... I have been to numerous hearings trying to straighten all of this...

david62 · david62

(((((Family))))) Some of you may remember a post I made in September of last year called "Meeting one of the voices in my head". I wrote that after having met one of my recovery "heroes" whom I had heard on a speaker cd 4 yrs before I got to meet him in person. I was at a Serenity Celeb...

Mandy123 · Mandy123

Hi all, If you all have some time Saturday mornings the meeting could really use some support. We had a few newcomers and only one share this morning. Hope to see some more MIPers at the meeting next week. Yours in recovery, Mandy

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

DOING OK LOVE YOU ALL TAKE CARE & GOD BLESS!

maresie · maresie

Two years ago I saw the ex A for the last time. I realise now that I have not really said goodbye to him metaphorically. I am still holding on with some issues like blame and rage and resentment. Now its about time to let go and move on. I believe he has been my reference point for so long. Now I have to fi...

MaryPoppins · MaryPoppins

I wrote about looking more closely at myself now that my A husband is no longer drinking (although a raging dry drunk with no program). For many years he has said nothing about my clutter issues, and the cost of my storage facilities, because I realize now it was guilt. How could he confront me about m...

lacewing · lacewing

This post was written on a whim, after reading Peggy's Post entitled : "Change Your Thinking". If you have not read it yet, I strongly recommend you do - perhaps even before you go further by reading the following. It literally brought tears to my eyes and reminded me of similar situation...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

The last couple of days have been crying days for me and I'm not really sure why, I miss him, it still hurts, is this EVER going to go away and get better???? As for me, I am doing well with my self improvement thing. I have had a few days of drinking, smoking, eating carbs... But I am working in a progress no...

teresamay · teresamay

Hi, everyone...I am new to this forum, although not to alanon - been involved for almost 20 years, starting in alateen,and then of course following suit and marrying myself an alcoholic spouse a couple years ago...denial ain't just a river in Egypt! I really need this forumn - we only have one f2f in o...

flyingakatana · flyingakatana

I am five months pregnant and the baby's father is an alcoholic. We had ended our relationship over his drinking (and related behaviors) prior to my learning of the pregnancy. Upon learning about it, we reunited. At the time, he had talked to his doctor about getting on medication to help control hi...

debilyn · debilyn

What is it when you do the same thing over and over and expect a different result? more like you hope for a different one. Tell me, look at this. First husband was killed in an accident. Second husband had a brain tumor and woke up NOT him at all. basically died. Now found myself in love with someone who I hav...

debilyn · debilyn

Everything is ok with my friend who I am very close to. We continued to communicate, what he said reassured me and made me see how much he does love and care for me. Yesterday I went to see my AH in the big house. For you that do not know, he left in 2002 permanently. lived off this woman who allowed it. Was so dr...

melmel1 · melmel1

Yesterday, my very best friend called me. I live downstairs from her. Her brother and sister in law were over, she was checking into rehab again. This is her second time, and she promised before to the doctors that she would stop drinking. The problem is that anytime there is a problem she can't han...

richard · richard

Hi all,It has been years since I have been here. I used to attend ftf meetings and come here because my sons might be coming to area where I lived or even to live with me. Well, that happened many years ago. My youngest son came to me from jail, years of bad addiction to speed, alcohol, and whatever else h...

Stormy · Stormy

I, or should I say we, my AH and I have been having what I thought to be such a good week. He's been going to meetings, I've been going to online meetings (not ready for f2f yet) and then it happens, as it happens all the time. My AH gets reimbursed at his job for our cable bill and any money he spends related to...

dervin17 · dervin17

My 36 year old son has decided to do a 90 day re-hap (thank God). Would I be enabling him if I paid his rent for the 90 days that he is in re-hab? He is on unemployment and has to give 80% of his check to re-hab.

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	Your Help is needed (Preview) Hi all, The saturday morning meeting is in much need of member support. And just a quick reminder the weekend morning meetings start at 10am Eastern......7am Pacific. I guess we had some come in at 9am looking for a meeting. It is early for me to chair this meeting...so if you want to see a west coast gal a...	Mandy123	1	591	Oct 17, 2009 by wp
	Validation from the A? (Preview) Just need some feedback here, so I can quit obsessing Why do I care what my exAH and his A g/f (both sober?) think, and thus say, about me? Controlling, narcissistic, a liar... lots of names for me. Funny thing is, they describe me exactly as what I think of them. AH runs everything by her and seeks h...	Loupiness	4	716	Oct 17, 2009 by canadianguy
	just need to rant a bit (Preview) New chapter......today I am picking up my AH from inpt treatment that he has been in since Monday nite. I was just so happy to get him out of the house, I didn't really think about the other side of it. I am not looking forward to bringing him home-- because then I have to deal with him. Out of sight, out of min...	gknee	5	894	Oct 17, 2009 by maresie
	Who'da Thunk? (Preview) I have been talking to my ex A a LOT lately, he is getting ready to move back to this area in a week - we'll see how that goes. He just left a girlfriend who he went to California with and that lasted about two months and she has been sending him nasty messages, etc. He said to me... She needs to do it like you di...	carolinagirl	3	540	Oct 17, 2009 by maresie
	Just sayingt, "HI" (Preview) Thinking of all of you while on vacation here in Newport, Rhode Island. I am having fun in this beautiful place, but all of you are never out of my mind. A is behaving himself. YAY!!! Best wishes to all, Diva	Diva	6	609	Oct 17, 2009 by leo
	i'm back (Preview) Hi everyone this is Leo. It has been so long since I was on here that I forgot all my user information to get in so I am using the name return lol. It is so nice to see you are all still here and I am just going through the old posts. Hope that life has been kind to you and Hp giving you strength and courage to get...	return	0	438	Oct 17, 2009 by return
	BRAVO! (Preview) Bravo to my AH. Today is nine months sober for him! It is the longest he has been sober since he and I have been together. We were talking last night and he said, "I would have had 13 years if I didn't start drinking again when we got together 8 years ago." Hmmmm, what the heck does that mean.....	db55	5	801	Oct 17, 2009 by Mandy123
	Terrible Week & Terribly Weak...... (Preview) My AS is on a binge this week, my nerves are frayed. We live in a small town and he lives too close to our family for us not to be caught up in his drama. He is always at my back door for a hand out, I give him what he needs just to get by on. He will plead and beg until I have no strength left to say no. It is getting t...	DreamsOver	6	678	Oct 17, 2009 by Mandy123
	I actually feel better! (Preview) I feel so much better now that I let go some of my anxieties about my illness. I needed to get all that out so I can move on. Today is a much better day than Tuesday when I posted all that to all of you. It was very scary to open up to you. I am learning to accept myself today. I am much better off doing that. I ev...	Hoot Nanny	4	775	Oct 17, 2009 by Mandy123
	I am not a bad mom. (Preview) I am not perfect, but I am not a bad mom, as AH wants me to believe. I am the one who is with my kids 95% of the time. He is busy coaching during the week and/or going to the gym after work and coming home when he feels like it, and then binge drinking on the weekends, staying out until 5 a.m. and spending the dayli...	SWgal	5	712	Oct 16, 2009 by supermom
	Had to smile... (Preview) I wanted to share part of a conversation that my son and I had. A little background...growing up my son rarely saw his father sober. My A would hit the bar before he came home from work and leave fairly early on weekends to do the same. (now sober almost 4 yrs.) My son is 19, leaving lots of years to build r...	Christy	8	693	Oct 16, 2009 by rtexas
	Okay! I think I get it now... (Preview) Spoke to my sponsor last night. She called right when I received a text from my ex that I was contemplating my response to. We talked about keeping simplicity in and insanity out. We talked of "Easy Does It". "Yep", I said, "I got it". Then we hung up and what did I do...	Loupiness	6	839	Oct 16, 2009 by nmike
	No meetings in your area? Start one! (Preview) One of our Al-Anon family is going to be moving back to the mainland. I am sad, as I will miss her. She's always had such wonderful shares and she has this contagious laughter that I love. One thing I found out about her is that she actually started many of the meetings in my area. Her funny reason for starti...	Aloha	10	913	Oct 16, 2009 by Tattyhead
	Becoming just a participant... (Preview) Aloha family; The day before yesterday I told a sponsee that I would support him by being at his father's funeral. His Dad just died from brain cancer and my sponsee who works this program pretty darn well attended to his part of that event like the recovering member he is. I got there just a little ear...	Jerry F	4	859	Oct 16, 2009 by tea2
	"Let it begin with me" (Preview) I love the reminder..."Let it begin with me" how many times have I wondered... how things could change.. when others would see their true purpose... when others could find their true light.. how healing could help another... if only they would do this or that... until I remember the sayin...	Peggy7	4	908	Oct 16, 2009 by maresie
	my wife (Preview) Hi, Dane here, grateful newcomer in Alanon. :) I've been having a hard time again with my brand new wife. she is in recovery; she's been in it for years, but she still has issues and emotional problems. A relative of hers just passed away and I've been there for her a lot. The other night, I was up with her b...	Data395	8	766	Oct 16, 2009 by Data395
	He's gone (Preview) Hi all, Whelp my hub is gone. Moved out Sunday. I wasn't sure he was really gone, but I found out he is. I was all weird how it happend, but most of this situation has all been weird. He took off Sunday after I told him I wouldn't do something. So he was punishing me by leaving, not knowing where he was, and not c...	Mandy123	10	1147	Oct 16, 2009 by Maria123
	Despondent (Preview) My Ason is off the streets .....back, via a short stint in rehab, in the accommodation he nearly drank himself to death in a few months ago.....it just feels like the circle of hell is complete. I feel so despondent today..... I know Im powerless over his disease..... Im relieved he has a roof over his h...	Ness	4	767	Oct 15, 2009 by Ness
	sobriety (Preview) Hi everyone, I dot know where to start my partner has been sober for nearly 6 months and I am so proud of him. But I am still struggling with the damage this disease has done. I know he is sick, I know he loves me and never wanted to hurt me or anyone else. But today if he so much as does not do his chores all the o...	Tracy	2	817	Oct 15, 2009 by Jerry F
	I feel I need to post (Preview) I thought I would post instead of just reading today when I noticed that there was not one new topic since this morning. That started to make me sad like maybe everyone was starting to lose interest in the site. I sure hope not! My son (the one in 28 day rehab) said to me last night..."Mom, you have to g...	Gailey	6	801	Oct 15, 2009 by Karilynn
	Change Your Thinking (Preview) Saw this, realized how much like the Alanon message we learn each day directs us in this exact same thinking: It will take just 37 seconds to read this and change your thinking.. Two men, both seriously ill, occupied the same hospital room. One man was allowed to sit up in his bed for an hour each afternoo...	Peggy7	6	771	Oct 15, 2009 by Lilly Burn
	How do you watch the one you love kill themselves alittle more each day? (Preview) He relapsed! coughing up blood and lung tissue he just laughs and says he is dying! Do i stay and watch him kill himself a little more each day or do i leave in hopes that he will come around? I'm lost... about two weeks ago i found this site and made my first post. thank you all who responded with support and a...	tryingtofindaway2009	13	771	Oct 15, 2009 by Tracy
	It's been 3 months and I'm still angry at him.... (Preview) It's been 3 months since I broke up with my ABF and I find I still have moments where I am angry with him for being such a helpless drunk and ruining our relationship. It just pi*e me off! I wish he (the memories, anger, hurt, etc.) would just go away. I haven't heard from him since I dumped him in his p...	Hawk120025	9	693	Oct 15, 2009 by Tracy
	How Al-Anon Works gave me a great laugh today. (Preview) (I have quoted a paragraph from the book... so I'll understand if this post needs to be removed - just let me know if you had to remove it, mods. Thanks!) It is a very rare occasion when I'm sitting reading a book in quiet solitude and find myself bursting out laughing at something I've read. (Normally I mi...	Aloha	0	497	Oct 14, 2009 by Aloha
	Illusions (Preview) I was thumbing through the C2C meditation book the other day, looking for a topic for a meeting and came across one that "I" had written in the margin that wasn't in the index. I had entitled it "illusions" because that seemed to me to be the focus of the reading on July 26, pg 208 of t...	Overcome	8	1283	Oct 14, 2009 by maresie
	Sponser (Preview) im doing alanon online only as im scared to go to real life meeting but im told your meant to have a sponser to help you go thru the steps properly now i dont have one how do you get one or do you get one when your only doing it online you see i want to do this right	Shellybelly	5	660	Oct 14, 2009 by Baffled
	He is currently sleeping off his vacation from home. (Preview) Hello thank you again for ll your support, I'm looking for face to face meetings in vancouver and definately wanting to go, I took away his car and gave it up so he didn't have such an easy way of leaving in the middle of the night. I told him that he had to start working again. I felt powered by all of your post...	tryingtofindaway2009	5	830	Oct 14, 2009 by Christy
	I am new to this forum-My Story (Preview) My husband is in recovery and has been for a little over two years. He went to rehab a little over two years ago because of his performance at work. He managed to maintain his sobriety 6 months and then he struggled for about a year and a half off and on the wagon. In August I was away on a business trip. He dran...	frustrated	7	680	Oct 14, 2009 by Christy
	What to do with love of A (Preview) I love a man more than life. We have been in relationship for 3 years. I was not aware of the fact he was alcoholic in the first year. We became engaged and i would love to marry him. He says things will get better if I commit. Well, he moved two and a half hours away and because I now realize the extent of his pr...	usedup64	6	703	Oct 14, 2009 by usedup64
	How many times am I going to stick my hand on the hot stove ????? In need of ESH:( (Preview) Well the weekend started out great. Made my F2F Friday and it was amazing.....HP spoke to me again and I left with all the empty spots filling full:) Had my date Sat night and it went well also. This guy is sooo very different...I'm guessing probally because he doesn't have an alcohol or drug addictio...	shellyj123	5	803	Oct 14, 2009 by carolinagirl
	A LITTLE LIMITED! (Preview) I AM A LITTLE LIMITED IN THIS LIFE WHICH MAKES ME VERY FRUSTRATED AT TIMES & OFTEN PUTS ME ON THE "PITY POT". MOST RECENTLY I HAVE BEEN KINDA DEPRESSED & SAD AS I HAVE BEEN CRYING ALMOST EVERY DAY. I DON'T KNOW IF I EVER MENTIONED THAT I HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER WHICH LIMITS MY MIND TO SIMPL...	Hoot Nanny	4	707	Oct 14, 2009 by Katy
	What do I do? (Preview) Been away for weekend to visit frail, elderly father who is in a nursing home 120 miles from my home. Had a nice weekend as went with son, daughter and her fiance and we enjoyed being together, eating out,etc. Came back from just 2 nights away to find AH had not eaten for 2 days, had done nothing apart from d...	Tattyhead	6	950	Oct 14, 2009 by abbyal
	Progress (Preview) Family, I had an interesting night and was able to see some progress. Which for me right now seeing growth is something to celebrate. And right after I typed that last sentence somehting happend so I saw more growth. TY HP! A couple of months ago I broke down and created a facebook account. I have some fre...	Mandy123	6	938	Oct 13, 2009 by hotrod
	needing someone (Preview) A couple people seemed to be against needing another. I am not talking being obsessed, depending on anyone else for anything. I have been independant all my life. I was a widow 18 years raising my kids and everyone elses, working full time and going to school full time. I don't need in an unhealthy way. O...	debilyn	17	830	Oct 13, 2009 by neshema2
	Have I finally made it to step 1... i wonder.... (Preview) She says that she doesn't have a drinking problem. She's right. Isn't she? --> SHE doesn't <-- "I have a problem with her drinking".	ajay147	3	672	Oct 13, 2009 by Jerry F
	frustrated (Preview) It makes me sad that people of the world believe love is one thing. There are many kinds of love, intimate love, friend love,dog love, etc. I asked to have my posts deleted but was denied. Sorry I shared this. Was so happy to have a true friend finally after losing mine. Am actually very unhappy that peop...	debilyn	3	680	Oct 12, 2009 by Mandy123
	Memories of you (Preview) I realize that I've really been isolating myself lately and having my own little pity party. I think I've gotten so scared of getting hurt that I've shut people out. I tried to control my ABF's addictions by telling him to dump his friends or I'm dumping him. Now I see how childish that was of me. I wouldn'...	christinajeanne	1	600	Oct 12, 2009 by shellyj123
	Recovering alcholic (Preview) Hello friends, I could use a little insight, my boyfriend (30 years of age) have been dating a calender year, he was a binger for 3 years, and has been sober for 30 days, he recently needed a "break", so that he can figure things out and that sobriety is his focus right now ( cant argue ther...	italia80	8	737	Oct 11, 2009 by abbyal
	Acorns. (Preview) (((Family))), Last week I had my mammogram. It was a beautiful fall day so I decided to walk home from the hospital. It was only 4 miles and the route takes me past some beautiful streets. As I walking past a local community bible college they have a row of trees. I have been missing my beloved Tim a lit...	Karilynn	14	868	Oct 11, 2009 by Jen
	feeling very close to AH...lots of tragedy lately. (Preview) rough couple of months. my 40yr. old. sister-in-law was murdered in july. then my 43yr. old brother-in-law was found dead 2 weeks ago (accidental drug over-dose; xanax and methadone.) my poor AH is dealing with so much! he is depressed, drinking quite a bit and not eating. the grief and pain...	debhud	4	1597	Oct 11, 2009 by maresie
	he wants one more chance (Preview) My A and I were married 26 years. The last 7 alcohol became a problem. We were officially divorced in August. I planned to move out of state, he has begged me to stay. He says he can't do this without me. I gave him 30 days. I told him that I would tell it like it was. I'm not glossing over anything anymor...	coddingl	9	803	Oct 11, 2009 by maresie
	Looking for help for the one i love (Preview) I'm new here, this is my first time really even talking about his problem. My boyfriend is an addict has been for over five years. we seem to get one step forward and a week later take ten steps back. I am running on empty and looking for help in anyway possible. whether its getting the courage to leave or th...	tryingtofindaway2009	6	911	Oct 11, 2009 by tryingtofindaway2009
	Ex-boyfriend moving on from alcoholism but I can't (Preview) Just last Thursday I moved my boyfriend out of my house because I finally realized he was an alcoholic and I was being an enabler. He has been the love of my life for 3 years and has become such a big part of my family. My family started accepting him as one of their own and I was just waiting for the day for him t...	Chenango	9	801	Oct 11, 2009 by Chenango
	How do you remember you're dealing with the disease and not the person? (Preview) In all my time I've spent in al-anon, I STILL have a difficult time remembering I'm dealing with the disease and not my husband. I found myself chanting "It's the disease. It's the disease. It's the disease." over and over and over the other night because I've been so ANGRY with AH. Trying to...	Aloha	9	912	Oct 11, 2009 by abbyal
	When you think it's over......OMG its not (Preview) (((((((((Hello Friends)))))))))), Well I pray the final shoe dropped today for my husbands days of alcoholism and addiction. About a year before he passed he stole one of my check books and wrote checks from here to kingdom come...... I have been to numerous hearings trying to straighten all of this...	Andrea12	12	885	Oct 10, 2009 by Maria123
	Honoring the Voice in my head (Preview) (((((Family))))) Some of you may remember a post I made in September of last year called "Meeting one of the voices in my head". I wrote that after having met one of my recovery "heroes" whom I had heard on a speaker cd 4 yrs before I got to meet him in person. I was at a Serenity Celeb...	david62	10	768	Oct 10, 2009 by Maria123
	Meeting Support (Preview) Hi all, If you all have some time Saturday mornings the meeting could really use some support. We had a few newcomers and only one share this morning. Hope to see some more MIPers at the meeting next week. Yours in recovery, Mandy	Mandy123	1	461	Oct 10, 2009 by Maria123
	Just wanted to say HI (Preview) DOING OK LOVE YOU ALL TAKE CARE & GOD BLESS!	Hoot Nanny	1	563	Oct 10, 2009 by Jozie
	saying goodbye (Preview) Two years ago I saw the ex A for the last time. I realise now that I have not really said goodbye to him metaphorically. I am still holding on with some issues like blame and rage and resentment. Now its about time to let go and move on. I believe he has been my reference point for so long. Now I have to fi...	maresie	7	564	Oct 10, 2009 by maresie
	Can Anyone Relate to a Clutter Problem? (Preview) I wrote about looking more closely at myself now that my A husband is no longer drinking (although a raging dry drunk with no program). For many years he has said nothing about my clutter issues, and the cost of my storage facilities, because I realize now it was guilt. How could he confront me about m...	MaryPoppins	8	1156	Oct 10, 2009 by Hoot Nanny
	"Can you hear me now?" - a bit of humor written after Reading Peggy's Post entitled "Change your Thinking" (Preview) This post was written on a whim, after reading Peggy's Post entitled : "Change Your Thinking". If you have not read it yet, I strongly recommend you do - perhaps even before you go further by reading the following. It literally brought tears to my eyes and reminded me of similar situation...	lacewing	5	1035	Oct 10, 2009 by Hoot Nanny
	Update (Preview) The last couple of days have been crying days for me and I'm not really sure why, I miss him, it still hurts, is this EVER going to go away and get better???? As for me, I am doing well with my self improvement thing. I have had a few days of drinking, smoking, eating carbs... But I am working in a progress no...	carolinagirl	2	436	Oct 10, 2009 by teresamay
	New Here, but not to alanon (Preview) Hi, everyone...I am new to this forum, although not to alanon - been involved for almost 20 years, starting in alateen,and then of course following suit and marrying myself an alcoholic spouse a couple years ago...denial ain't just a river in Egypt! I really need this forumn - we only have one f2f in o...	teresamay	4	802	Oct 10, 2009 by teresamay
	Pregnant and in need of advice (Preview) I am five months pregnant and the baby's father is an alcoholic. We had ended our relationship over his drinking (and related behaviors) prior to my learning of the pregnancy. Upon learning about it, we reunited. At the time, he had talked to his doctor about getting on medication to help control hi...	flyingakatana	7	689	Oct 9, 2009 by frustrated
	insanity (Preview) What is it when you do the same thing over and over and expect a different result? more like you hope for a different one. Tell me, look at this. First husband was killed in an accident. Second husband had a brain tumor and woke up NOT him at all. basically died. Now found myself in love with someone who I hav...	debilyn	9	694	Oct 9, 2009 by Karilynn
	update (Preview) Everything is ok with my friend who I am very close to. We continued to communicate, what he said reassured me and made me see how much he does love and care for me. Yesterday I went to see my AH in the big house. For you that do not know, he left in 2002 permanently. lived off this woman who allowed it. Was so dr...	debilyn	1	527	Oct 9, 2009 by Mandy123
	Why do I feel so betrayed and hurt? (Preview) Yesterday, my very best friend called me. I live downstairs from her. Her brother and sister in law were over, she was checking into rehab again. This is her second time, and she promised before to the doctors that she would stop drinking. The problem is that anytime there is a problem she can't han...	melmel1	9	854	Oct 9, 2009 by debilyn
	A very long time since I have been here... growth-of-other (Preview) Hi all,It has been years since I have been here. I used to attend ftf meetings and come here because my sons might be coming to area where I lived or even to live with me. Well, that happened many years ago. My youngest son came to me from jail, years of bad addiction to speed, alcohol, and whatever else h...	richard	5	878	Oct 9, 2009 by Andrea12
	Good week.. then, not so much :( (Preview) I, or should I say we, my AH and I have been having what I thought to be such a good week. He's been going to meetings, I've been going to online meetings (not ready for f2f yet) and then it happens, as it happens all the time. My AH gets reimbursed at his job for our cable bill and any money he spends related to...	Stormy	4	588	Oct 9, 2009 by Stormy
	Enabling son? (Preview) My 36 year old son has decided to do a 90 day re-hap (thank God). Would I be enabling him if I paid his rent for the 90 days that he is in re-hab? He is on unemployment and has to give 80% of his check to re-hab.	dervin17	9	687	Oct 9, 2009 by dervin17
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