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tryingtofindaway2009 · tryingtofindaway2009

Hello thank you again for ll your support, I'm looking for face to face meetings in vancouver and definately wanting to go, I took away his car and gave it up so he didn't have such an easy way of leaving in the middle of the night. I told him that he had to start working again. I felt powered by all of your post...

frustrated · frustrated

My husband is in recovery and has been for a little over two years. He went to rehab a little over two years ago because of his performance at work. He managed to maintain his sobriety 6 months and then he struggled for about a year and a half off and on the wagon. In August I was away on a business trip. He dran...

usedup64 · usedup64

I love a man more than life. We have been in relationship for 3 years. I was not aware of the fact he was alcoholic in the first year. We became engaged and i would love to marry him. He says things will get better if I commit. Well, he moved two and a half hours away and because I now realize the extent of his pr...

shellyj123 · shellyj123

Well the weekend started out great. Made my F2F Friday and it was amazing.....HP spoke to me again and I left with all the empty spots filling full:) Had my date Sat night and it went well also. This guy is sooo very different...I'm guessing probally because he doesn't have an alcohol or drug addictio...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I AM A LITTLE LIMITED IN THIS LIFE WHICH MAKES ME VERY FRUSTRATED AT TIMES & OFTEN PUTS ME ON THE "PITY POT". MOST RECENTLY I HAVE BEEN KINDA DEPRESSED & SAD AS I HAVE BEEN CRYING ALMOST EVERY DAY. I DON'T KNOW IF I EVER MENTIONED THAT I HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER WHICH LIMITS MY MIND TO SIMPL...

Tattyhead · Tattyhead

Been away for weekend to visit frail, elderly father who is in a nursing home 120 miles from my home. Had a nice weekend as went with son, daughter and her fiance and we enjoyed being together, eating out,etc. Came back from just 2 nights away to find AH had not eaten for 2 days, had done nothing apart from d...

Mandy123 · Mandy123

Family, I had an interesting night and was able to see some progress. Which for me right now seeing growth is something to celebrate. And right after I typed that last sentence somehting happend so I saw more growth. TY HP! A couple of months ago I broke down and created a facebook account. I have some fre...

debilyn · debilyn

A couple people seemed to be against needing another. I am not talking being obsessed, depending on anyone else for anything. I have been independant all my life. I was a widow 18 years raising my kids and everyone elses, working full time and going to school full time. I don't need in an unhealthy way. O...

ajay147 · ajay147

She says that she doesn't have a drinking problem. She's right. Isn't she? --> SHE doesn't <-- "I have a problem with her drinking".

debilyn · debilyn

It makes me sad that people of the world believe love is one thing. There are many kinds of love, intimate love, friend love,dog love, etc. I asked to have my posts deleted but was denied. Sorry I shared this. Was so happy to have a true friend finally after losing mine. Am actually very unhappy that peop...

christinajeanne · christinajeanne

I realize that I've really been isolating myself lately and having my own little pity party. I think I've gotten so scared of getting hurt that I've shut people out. I tried to control my ABF's addictions by telling him to dump his friends or I'm dumping him. Now I see how childish that was of me. I wouldn'...

italia80 · italia80

Hello friends, I could use a little insight, my boyfriend (30 years of age) have been dating a calender year, he was a binger for 3 years, and has been sober for 30 days, he recently needed a "break", so that he can figure things out and that sobriety is his focus right now ( cant argue ther...

Karilynn · Karilynn

(((Family))), Last week I had my mammogram. It was a beautiful fall day so I decided to walk home from the hospital. It was only 4 miles and the route takes me past some beautiful streets. As I walking past a local community bible college they have a row of trees. I have been missing my beloved Tim a lit...

debhud · debhud

rough couple of months. my 40yr. old. sister-in-law was murdered in july. then my 43yr. old brother-in-law was found dead 2 weeks ago (accidental drug over-dose; xanax and methadone.) my poor AH is dealing with so much! he is depressed, drinking quite a bit and not eating. the grief and pain...

coddingl · coddingl

My A and I were married 26 years. The last 7 alcohol became a problem. We were officially divorced in August. I planned to move out of state, he has begged me to stay. He says he can't do this without me. I gave him 30 days. I told him that I would tell it like it was. I'm not glossing over anything anymor...

tryingtofindaway2009 · tryingtofindaway2009

I'm new here, this is my first time really even talking about his problem. My boyfriend is an addict has been for over five years. we seem to get one step forward and a week later take ten steps back. I am running on empty and looking for help in anyway possible. whether its getting the courage to leave or th...

Chenango · Chenango

Just last Thursday I moved my boyfriend out of my house because I finally realized he was an alcoholic and I was being an enabler. He has been the love of my life for 3 years and has become such a big part of my family. My family started accepting him as one of their own and I was just waiting for the day for him t...

Aloha · Aloha

In all my time I've spent in al-anon, I STILL have a difficult time remembering I'm dealing with the disease and not my husband. I found myself chanting "It's the disease. It's the disease. It's the disease." over and over and over the other night because I've been so ANGRY with AH. Trying to...

Andrea12 · Andrea12

(((((((((Hello Friends)))))))))), Well I pray the final shoe dropped today for my husbands days of alcoholism and addiction. About a year before he passed he stole one of my check books and wrote checks from here to kingdom come...... I have been to numerous hearings trying to straighten all of this...

david62 · david62

(((((Family))))) Some of you may remember a post I made in September of last year called "Meeting one of the voices in my head". I wrote that after having met one of my recovery "heroes" whom I had heard on a speaker cd 4 yrs before I got to meet him in person. I was at a Serenity Celeb...

Mandy123 · Mandy123

Hi all, If you all have some time Saturday mornings the meeting could really use some support. We had a few newcomers and only one share this morning. Hope to see some more MIPers at the meeting next week. Yours in recovery, Mandy

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

DOING OK LOVE YOU ALL TAKE CARE & GOD BLESS!

maresie · maresie

Two years ago I saw the ex A for the last time. I realise now that I have not really said goodbye to him metaphorically. I am still holding on with some issues like blame and rage and resentment. Now its about time to let go and move on. I believe he has been my reference point for so long. Now I have to fi...

MaryPoppins · MaryPoppins

I wrote about looking more closely at myself now that my A husband is no longer drinking (although a raging dry drunk with no program). For many years he has said nothing about my clutter issues, and the cost of my storage facilities, because I realize now it was guilt. How could he confront me about m...

lacewing · lacewing

This post was written on a whim, after reading Peggy's Post entitled : "Change Your Thinking". If you have not read it yet, I strongly recommend you do - perhaps even before you go further by reading the following. It literally brought tears to my eyes and reminded me of similar situation...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

The last couple of days have been crying days for me and I'm not really sure why, I miss him, it still hurts, is this EVER going to go away and get better???? As for me, I am doing well with my self improvement thing. I have had a few days of drinking, smoking, eating carbs... But I am working in a progress no...

teresamay · teresamay

Hi, everyone...I am new to this forum, although not to alanon - been involved for almost 20 years, starting in alateen,and then of course following suit and marrying myself an alcoholic spouse a couple years ago...denial ain't just a river in Egypt! I really need this forumn - we only have one f2f in o...

flyingakatana · flyingakatana

I am five months pregnant and the baby's father is an alcoholic. We had ended our relationship over his drinking (and related behaviors) prior to my learning of the pregnancy. Upon learning about it, we reunited. At the time, he had talked to his doctor about getting on medication to help control hi...

debilyn · debilyn

What is it when you do the same thing over and over and expect a different result? more like you hope for a different one. Tell me, look at this. First husband was killed in an accident. Second husband had a brain tumor and woke up NOT him at all. basically died. Now found myself in love with someone who I hav...

debilyn · debilyn

Everything is ok with my friend who I am very close to. We continued to communicate, what he said reassured me and made me see how much he does love and care for me. Yesterday I went to see my AH in the big house. For you that do not know, he left in 2002 permanently. lived off this woman who allowed it. Was so dr...

melmel1 · melmel1

Yesterday, my very best friend called me. I live downstairs from her. Her brother and sister in law were over, she was checking into rehab again. This is her second time, and she promised before to the doctors that she would stop drinking. The problem is that anytime there is a problem she can't han...

richard · richard

Hi all,It has been years since I have been here. I used to attend ftf meetings and come here because my sons might be coming to area where I lived or even to live with me. Well, that happened many years ago. My youngest son came to me from jail, years of bad addiction to speed, alcohol, and whatever else h...

Stormy · Stormy

I, or should I say we, my AH and I have been having what I thought to be such a good week. He's been going to meetings, I've been going to online meetings (not ready for f2f yet) and then it happens, as it happens all the time. My AH gets reimbursed at his job for our cable bill and any money he spends related to...

dervin17 · dervin17

My 36 year old son has decided to do a 90 day re-hap (thank God). Would I be enabling him if I paid his rent for the 90 days that he is in re-hab? He is on unemployment and has to give 80% of his check to re-hab.

Chenango · Chenango

I am trying to move on and today it marks a week since I had him moved out of my house because two late-drunk nights showing up and my house not knowing where he was at either one. I have been told by my family that if I continue to call him that they will show me some tough love, which I know they will. I did not sp...

Katy · Katy

I would really like peoples take on this, because I seem to do it selectively, and only with certain people, and I am getting a lot better, I used to have to replay conversations over and over inside my head, I think I had low self esteem when I was doing that so bad, because I really cared about the way I ans...

KSchumaker · KSchumaker

I am new to this. I met a guy about 3 months ago. We instantly clicked and shared such strong feelings for each other and expressed so much and told each other everything. I knew he was a drinker, but at the age of 23, I never suspected he was an alcoholic. He moved in within a few weeks, and our relationship w...

Christy · Christy

I believe in the power of prayer and raising vibes for others. So if you would please, include my Mom in your thoughts and prayers. She is having a medical procedure on Monday and will have to be put under. Supposedly, a safe procedure and I'm doing my best not to project, but.....When we were sayin...

Melissa21 · Melissa21

Well I called the child support agency. There will be a paternity test done I have to take my son in November 7th and my A will be going a few weeks after. She said after that they will ask about visitation and if I want supervised it will go to family court. And until that summons come for me to go to court I can...

RunnerChick · RunnerChick

My A revealed to me that he has been relapsing for two weeks already. I just feel exhausted and sad and alone. I am grateful for a program and for people who understand. The whole loss of the dream, the broken trust and the sadness is just overwhelming right now. I asked him to leave today. I do not know wher...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

I'm scared to try to start a new relationship... Scared I don't know how to have a "normal" relationship where I don't become too attached. Scared I'll get my kids wrapped around some guy who will just run off again thus repeating the seemingly never ending cycle of men who abandon them. Sc...

shellyj123 · shellyj123

I was heading into this month with a "next month is going to be tough" attitude and stressing over things a month away. I laugh now at the insanity in that!!!! I've been really devoting myself to my program and am slowly reaching an inner peace and calmness that I haven't known in ages, if eve...

Karilynn · Karilynn

(((((Family)))), Good morning. This is my annual reminder to all of my family here: GET THOSE MAMOGRAMS! October is breast cancer awareness month. So let's get this done. I have mine tomorrow. Such a simple procedure that can save your life. Tell all your mothers, cousins, sisters and friend...

RunnerChick · RunnerChick

I don't mean to double dip today, and but I have been writing and processing alot of things, talking to program peeps and other means of support. My ABF is my drug. The anxiety I feel when I consider ending our relationship is because he is all of my good feelings. He fills that hole within me. I've used him...

3littlekittens · 3littlekittens

Hi all-- My AH was in recovery for a very brief time after a stint in detox and an IOP. He has resumed drinking again and is using daily (although he says he's not because perhaps 1 day out of 7 he might not). When he went through treatment and I participated too, I stated I would no longer drink alcohol eithe...

Jozie · Jozie

Growing Up an ACOA My Ideal of marriage was something that oftem times i couldn't bring myself to think about, I would say mainly because My parents had a Brutle Divorce when I was but 9 years old... It really took from me ALOT of my Dreams as a small child for I still lived in a fantasy world that would consi...

Sincerely · Sincerely

Hello, Well, I just didn't like the tone of his voice when he said, i can come and go as i want in that house, its mine. HUMMMMMMMMMMMMMM, i don't think so, he moved out 6 weeks ago and took a few of his possessions with him. So today, I changed the locks. Locks are to keep the honest people out, I hope it wor...

therack76 · therack76

Hi everyone! I'm new at this and a year and a half into this program. Here is my question, and I would really appreciate your feedback on this. I have a sponsor, whom I love and respect dearly. I am currently on my fourth step, (have been for the last 4-5 months at least) I feel the reason why this is taking so...

shellyj123 · shellyj123

I am currently feeling completely overwelmed, happy and blessed all at the same time. I'm seeing more and more, daily, the program working in my life as I attempt to make it the center of my life. I had wanted to do ninety meetings in ninety days, and thus far have managed to make a meeting a day, but honest...

blender_girl · blender_girl

I'm sorry I didn't know the location of the picture you were looking for yesterday. I was unsure of what had happened to it when you asked me about it. I'm sorry I set my boundaries and you chose to ignore them. I'm sorry I snapped at you when I did so. I'm sorry I lost my composure last night. Heaven kn...

RunnerChick · RunnerChick

I am so eternally grateful for all of you here, who have shared so openly and honestly with me about your E,S&H on relapse and heartbreak. My wound feels fresh and open and oh so painful.I can't seem to sort out of my heartstrings from my mind. I find myself terrified of losing this man again- feeling...

cdngirl · cdngirl

Hello all, I have been lurking for a while now and have finally decided to join. I have been married for three years, and for the last 2 or so have been struggling a great deal with AH's drinking. I was searching for bottles, pouring out or giving away liquor, counting how much he drank, asking him to ple...

iSaint · iSaint

My wife went in to rehab last week. It's been 8 days. She's a party drunk. Her parties are herself and a six-pack on the beach. She's 43. We had been fighting about drinking for a few years, and recently (two months? two years?) she'd been getting a six-pack and riding around after she finished her...

Sincerely · Sincerely

Hello everyone! My phone rang last night about 9pm. I was not expecting it to be my A hubby. He's in rehab. 3 day down. Yesterday was 1 month since I asked him to leave our home. I don't know why he called me. I would have preferred he didn't. You see, I "think" I have detached w/love. I d...

MissyPoo · MissyPoo

Hello everyone. I was wondering if you could share you ESH in how to handle household finances with an A. I am the main breadwinner in our family. AH works as an outside labourer and is unemployed in the winter (and goes on unemployment insurance). One of the ways I used to try and control his drinkin...

Rora · Rora

Last night my exaH came to pick up our son for a group they belong to. I thought I smelled booze on aH, though I didn't notice any "affects". Then again, I thought I smelled booze. And they left. The hour that they were gone all I could think about is why did I do that? I know why I didn't say a...

alanonicScotland · alanonicScotland

Got woken up this morning by neigbors thumping music. Went on all day. ALL day. I tried to keep cool. I have PTSD from 9/11 among othr things (lived on E 13th St). Went out, came home. Still going. Then the other neighbors start up - 20 Hindus chanting with bongos. That and the techno****. My partner tried...

Jennifer · Jennifer

Hello everyone, Well ... where to begin? I've had a lot of time and ways to practice my program this past week or so. My sad news, my old blind cat had liver failure and I had to take him in to be put to sleep. I really miss him. we could be blind together and usually had to call and meow to each other until i saw a g...

MaryPoppins · MaryPoppins

Hello Friends, I don't like to talk about it much, but my first husband, my child's father was an addict. Addicted to street drugs, prescription drugs, alcohol, cigarettes, sex...you name it and he was addicted to it. He was my childhood sweetheart and high school boyfriend. He was a big football...

maresie · maresie

One new thing for me in making any kind of friendship is looking at that persons boundaries. If they have an issue with them that is a red flag for me. I no longer charge into any relationship because I "like" someone. I evaulate, feed back, look at levels, work on how I can change my bounda...

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	He is currently sleeping off his vacation from home. (Preview) Hello thank you again for ll your support, I'm looking for face to face meetings in vancouver and definately wanting to go, I took away his car and gave it up so he didn't have such an easy way of leaving in the middle of the night. I told him that he had to start working again. I felt powered by all of your post...	tryingtofindaway2009	5	795	Oct 14, 2009 by Christy
	I am new to this forum-My Story (Preview) My husband is in recovery and has been for a little over two years. He went to rehab a little over two years ago because of his performance at work. He managed to maintain his sobriety 6 months and then he struggled for about a year and a half off and on the wagon. In August I was away on a business trip. He dran...	frustrated	7	643	Oct 14, 2009 by Christy
	What to do with love of A (Preview) I love a man more than life. We have been in relationship for 3 years. I was not aware of the fact he was alcoholic in the first year. We became engaged and i would love to marry him. He says things will get better if I commit. Well, he moved two and a half hours away and because I now realize the extent of his pr...	usedup64	6	666	Oct 14, 2009 by usedup64
	How many times am I going to stick my hand on the hot stove ????? In need of ESH:( (Preview) Well the weekend started out great. Made my F2F Friday and it was amazing.....HP spoke to me again and I left with all the empty spots filling full:) Had my date Sat night and it went well also. This guy is sooo very different...I'm guessing probally because he doesn't have an alcohol or drug addictio...	shellyj123	5	770	Oct 14, 2009 by carolinagirl
	A LITTLE LIMITED! (Preview) I AM A LITTLE LIMITED IN THIS LIFE WHICH MAKES ME VERY FRUSTRATED AT TIMES & OFTEN PUTS ME ON THE "PITY POT". MOST RECENTLY I HAVE BEEN KINDA DEPRESSED & SAD AS I HAVE BEEN CRYING ALMOST EVERY DAY. I DON'T KNOW IF I EVER MENTIONED THAT I HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER WHICH LIMITS MY MIND TO SIMPL...	Hoot Nanny	4	664	Oct 14, 2009 by Katy
	What do I do? (Preview) Been away for weekend to visit frail, elderly father who is in a nursing home 120 miles from my home. Had a nice weekend as went with son, daughter and her fiance and we enjoyed being together, eating out,etc. Came back from just 2 nights away to find AH had not eaten for 2 days, had done nothing apart from d...	Tattyhead	6	907	Oct 14, 2009 by abbyal
	Progress (Preview) Family, I had an interesting night and was able to see some progress. Which for me right now seeing growth is something to celebrate. And right after I typed that last sentence somehting happend so I saw more growth. TY HP! A couple of months ago I broke down and created a facebook account. I have some fre...	Mandy123	6	889	Oct 13, 2009 by hotrod
	needing someone (Preview) A couple people seemed to be against needing another. I am not talking being obsessed, depending on anyone else for anything. I have been independant all my life. I was a widow 18 years raising my kids and everyone elses, working full time and going to school full time. I don't need in an unhealthy way. O...	debilyn	17	792	Oct 13, 2009 by neshema2
	Have I finally made it to step 1... i wonder.... (Preview) She says that she doesn't have a drinking problem. She's right. Isn't she? --> SHE doesn't <-- "I have a problem with her drinking".	ajay147	3	638	Oct 13, 2009 by Jerry F
	frustrated (Preview) It makes me sad that people of the world believe love is one thing. There are many kinds of love, intimate love, friend love,dog love, etc. I asked to have my posts deleted but was denied. Sorry I shared this. Was so happy to have a true friend finally after losing mine. Am actually very unhappy that peop...	debilyn	3	643	Oct 12, 2009 by Mandy123
	Memories of you (Preview) I realize that I've really been isolating myself lately and having my own little pity party. I think I've gotten so scared of getting hurt that I've shut people out. I tried to control my ABF's addictions by telling him to dump his friends or I'm dumping him. Now I see how childish that was of me. I wouldn'...	christinajeanne	1	559	Oct 12, 2009 by shellyj123
	Recovering alcholic (Preview) Hello friends, I could use a little insight, my boyfriend (30 years of age) have been dating a calender year, he was a binger for 3 years, and has been sober for 30 days, he recently needed a "break", so that he can figure things out and that sobriety is his focus right now ( cant argue ther...	italia80	8	701	Oct 11, 2009 by abbyal
	Acorns. (Preview) (((Family))), Last week I had my mammogram. It was a beautiful fall day so I decided to walk home from the hospital. It was only 4 miles and the route takes me past some beautiful streets. As I walking past a local community bible college they have a row of trees. I have been missing my beloved Tim a lit...	Karilynn	14	829	Oct 11, 2009 by Jen
	feeling very close to AH...lots of tragedy lately. (Preview) rough couple of months. my 40yr. old. sister-in-law was murdered in july. then my 43yr. old brother-in-law was found dead 2 weeks ago (accidental drug over-dose; xanax and methadone.) my poor AH is dealing with so much! he is depressed, drinking quite a bit and not eating. the grief and pain...	debhud	4	1557	Oct 11, 2009 by maresie
	he wants one more chance (Preview) My A and I were married 26 years. The last 7 alcohol became a problem. We were officially divorced in August. I planned to move out of state, he has begged me to stay. He says he can't do this without me. I gave him 30 days. I told him that I would tell it like it was. I'm not glossing over anything anymor...	coddingl	9	762	Oct 11, 2009 by maresie
	Looking for help for the one i love (Preview) I'm new here, this is my first time really even talking about his problem. My boyfriend is an addict has been for over five years. we seem to get one step forward and a week later take ten steps back. I am running on empty and looking for help in anyway possible. whether its getting the courage to leave or th...	tryingtofindaway2009	6	861	Oct 11, 2009 by tryingtofindaway2009
	Ex-boyfriend moving on from alcoholism but I can't (Preview) Just last Thursday I moved my boyfriend out of my house because I finally realized he was an alcoholic and I was being an enabler. He has been the love of my life for 3 years and has become such a big part of my family. My family started accepting him as one of their own and I was just waiting for the day for him t...	Chenango	9	768	Oct 11, 2009 by Chenango
	How do you remember you're dealing with the disease and not the person? (Preview) In all my time I've spent in al-anon, I STILL have a difficult time remembering I'm dealing with the disease and not my husband. I found myself chanting "It's the disease. It's the disease. It's the disease." over and over and over the other night because I've been so ANGRY with AH. Trying to...	Aloha	9	869	Oct 11, 2009 by abbyal
	When you think it's over......OMG its not (Preview) (((((((((Hello Friends)))))))))), Well I pray the final shoe dropped today for my husbands days of alcoholism and addiction. About a year before he passed he stole one of my check books and wrote checks from here to kingdom come...... I have been to numerous hearings trying to straighten all of this...	Andrea12	12	851	Oct 10, 2009 by Maria123
	Honoring the Voice in my head (Preview) (((((Family))))) Some of you may remember a post I made in September of last year called "Meeting one of the voices in my head". I wrote that after having met one of my recovery "heroes" whom I had heard on a speaker cd 4 yrs before I got to meet him in person. I was at a Serenity Celeb...	david62	10	729	Oct 10, 2009 by Maria123
	Meeting Support (Preview) Hi all, If you all have some time Saturday mornings the meeting could really use some support. We had a few newcomers and only one share this morning. Hope to see some more MIPers at the meeting next week. Yours in recovery, Mandy	Mandy123	1	422	Oct 10, 2009 by Maria123
	Just wanted to say HI (Preview) DOING OK LOVE YOU ALL TAKE CARE & GOD BLESS!	Hoot Nanny	1	528	Oct 10, 2009 by Jozie
	saying goodbye (Preview) Two years ago I saw the ex A for the last time. I realise now that I have not really said goodbye to him metaphorically. I am still holding on with some issues like blame and rage and resentment. Now its about time to let go and move on. I believe he has been my reference point for so long. Now I have to fi...	maresie	7	522	Oct 10, 2009 by maresie
	Can Anyone Relate to a Clutter Problem? (Preview) I wrote about looking more closely at myself now that my A husband is no longer drinking (although a raging dry drunk with no program). For many years he has said nothing about my clutter issues, and the cost of my storage facilities, because I realize now it was guilt. How could he confront me about m...	MaryPoppins	8	1105	Oct 10, 2009 by Hoot Nanny
	"Can you hear me now?" - a bit of humor written after Reading Peggy's Post entitled "Change your Thinking" (Preview) This post was written on a whim, after reading Peggy's Post entitled : "Change Your Thinking". If you have not read it yet, I strongly recommend you do - perhaps even before you go further by reading the following. It literally brought tears to my eyes and reminded me of similar situation...	lacewing	5	999	Oct 10, 2009 by Hoot Nanny
	Update (Preview) The last couple of days have been crying days for me and I'm not really sure why, I miss him, it still hurts, is this EVER going to go away and get better???? As for me, I am doing well with my self improvement thing. I have had a few days of drinking, smoking, eating carbs... But I am working in a progress no...	carolinagirl	2	394	Oct 10, 2009 by teresamay
	New Here, but not to alanon (Preview) Hi, everyone...I am new to this forum, although not to alanon - been involved for almost 20 years, starting in alateen,and then of course following suit and marrying myself an alcoholic spouse a couple years ago...denial ain't just a river in Egypt! I really need this forumn - we only have one f2f in o...	teresamay	4	764	Oct 10, 2009 by teresamay
	Pregnant and in need of advice (Preview) I am five months pregnant and the baby's father is an alcoholic. We had ended our relationship over his drinking (and related behaviors) prior to my learning of the pregnancy. Upon learning about it, we reunited. At the time, he had talked to his doctor about getting on medication to help control hi...	flyingakatana	7	645	Oct 9, 2009 by frustrated
	insanity (Preview) What is it when you do the same thing over and over and expect a different result? more like you hope for a different one. Tell me, look at this. First husband was killed in an accident. Second husband had a brain tumor and woke up NOT him at all. basically died. Now found myself in love with someone who I hav...	debilyn	9	656	Oct 9, 2009 by Karilynn
	update (Preview) Everything is ok with my friend who I am very close to. We continued to communicate, what he said reassured me and made me see how much he does love and care for me. Yesterday I went to see my AH in the big house. For you that do not know, he left in 2002 permanently. lived off this woman who allowed it. Was so dr...	debilyn	1	487	Oct 9, 2009 by Mandy123
	Why do I feel so betrayed and hurt? (Preview) Yesterday, my very best friend called me. I live downstairs from her. Her brother and sister in law were over, she was checking into rehab again. This is her second time, and she promised before to the doctors that she would stop drinking. The problem is that anytime there is a problem she can't han...	melmel1	9	813	Oct 9, 2009 by debilyn
	A very long time since I have been here... growth-of-other (Preview) Hi all,It has been years since I have been here. I used to attend ftf meetings and come here because my sons might be coming to area where I lived or even to live with me. Well, that happened many years ago. My youngest son came to me from jail, years of bad addiction to speed, alcohol, and whatever else h...	richard	5	843	Oct 9, 2009 by Andrea12
	Good week.. then, not so much :( (Preview) I, or should I say we, my AH and I have been having what I thought to be such a good week. He's been going to meetings, I've been going to online meetings (not ready for f2f yet) and then it happens, as it happens all the time. My AH gets reimbursed at his job for our cable bill and any money he spends related to...	Stormy	4	549	Oct 9, 2009 by Stormy
	Enabling son? (Preview) My 36 year old son has decided to do a 90 day re-hap (thank God). Would I be enabling him if I paid his rent for the 90 days that he is in re-hab? He is on unemployment and has to give 80% of his check to re-hab.	dervin17	9	650	Oct 9, 2009 by dervin17
	Worried about depressed/alcoholic ex-boyfriend (Preview) I am trying to move on and today it marks a week since I had him moved out of my house because two late-drunk nights showing up and my house not knowing where he was at either one. I have been told by my family that if I continue to call him that they will show me some tough love, which I know they will. I did not sp...	Chenango	5	3115	Oct 9, 2009 by richard
	Why do we anylise everything? (Preview) I would really like peoples take on this, because I seem to do it selectively, and only with certain people, and I am getting a lot better, I used to have to replay conversations over and over inside my head, I think I had low self esteem when I was doing that so bad, because I really cared about the way I ans...	Katy	2	689	Oct 9, 2009 by Jerry F
	Please help. (Preview) I am new to this. I met a guy about 3 months ago. We instantly clicked and shared such strong feelings for each other and expressed so much and told each other everything. I knew he was a drinker, but at the age of 23, I never suspected he was an alcoholic. He moved in within a few weeks, and our relationship w...	KSchumaker	6	646	Oct 9, 2009 by Jerry F
	Please include my Mom in your prayers... (Preview) I believe in the power of prayer and raising vibes for others. So if you would please, include my Mom in your thoughts and prayers. She is having a medical procedure on Monday and will have to be put under. Supposedly, a safe procedure and I'm doing my best not to project, but.....When we were sayin...	Christy	22	5274	Oct 9, 2009 by wp
	Trusting in my HP (Preview) Well I called the child support agency. There will be a paternity test done I have to take my son in November 7th and my A will be going a few weeks after. She said after that they will ask about visitation and if I want supervised it will go to family court. And until that summons come for me to go to court I can...	Melissa21	4	584	Oct 9, 2009 by Jerry F
	Need some support (Preview) My A revealed to me that he has been relapsing for two weeks already. I just feel exhausted and sad and alone. I am grateful for a program and for people who understand. The whole loss of the dream, the broken trust and the sadness is just overwhelming right now. I asked him to leave today. I do not know wher...	RunnerChick	9	565	Oct 8, 2009 by 3littlekittens
	I'm scared now... (Preview) I'm scared to try to start a new relationship... Scared I don't know how to have a "normal" relationship where I don't become too attached. Scared I'll get my kids wrapped around some guy who will just run off again thus repeating the seemingly never ending cycle of men who abandon them. Sc...	carolinagirl	9	599	Oct 8, 2009 by richard
	Paying it forward.........reflections of a codie:) (Preview) I was heading into this month with a "next month is going to be tough" attitude and stressing over things a month away. I laugh now at the insanity in that!!!! I've been really devoting myself to my program and am slowly reaching an inner peace and calmness that I haven't known in ages, if eve...	shellyj123	3	578	Oct 8, 2009 by richard
	Get those mamograms! (Preview) (((((Family)))), Good morning. This is my annual reminder to all of my family here: GET THOSE MAMOGRAMS! October is breast cancer awareness month. So let's get this done. I have mine tomorrow. Such a simple procedure that can save your life. Tell all your mothers, cousins, sisters and friend...	Karilynn	4	535	Oct 8, 2009 by tea2
	My Drug and Emotional Sobriety (Preview) I don't mean to double dip today, and but I have been writing and processing alot of things, talking to program peeps and other means of support. My ABF is my drug. The anxiety I feel when I consider ending our relationship is because he is all of my good feelings. He fills that hole within me. I've used him...	RunnerChick	6	718	Oct 8, 2009 by Chenango
	Drinking with your alcoholic? (Preview) Hi all-- My AH was in recovery for a very brief time after a stint in detox and an IOP. He has resumed drinking again and is using daily (although he says he's not because perhaps 1 day out of 7 he might not). When he went through treatment and I participated too, I stated I would no longer drink alcohol eithe...	3littlekittens	18	733	Oct 7, 2009 by 3littlekittens
	My Day....Butterfly Kisses.... (Preview) Growing Up an ACOA My Ideal of marriage was something that oftem times i couldn't bring myself to think about, I would say mainly because My parents had a Brutle Divorce when I was but 9 years old... It really took from me ALOT of my Dreams as a small child for I still lived in a fantasy world that would consi...	Jozie	3	2836	Oct 7, 2009 by Jerry F
	Today, I'm a locksmith! (Preview) Hello, Well, I just didn't like the tone of his voice when he said, i can come and go as i want in that house, its mine. HUMMMMMMMMMMMMMM, i don't think so, he moved out 6 weeks ago and took a few of his possessions with him. So today, I changed the locks. Locks are to keep the honest people out, I hope it wor...	Sincerely	7	639	Oct 7, 2009 by Sincerely
	HELP!!!! 4th Step Questions... (Preview) Hi everyone! I'm new at this and a year and a half into this program. Here is my question, and I would really appreciate your feedback on this. I have a sponsor, whom I love and respect dearly. I am currently on my fourth step, (have been for the last 4-5 months at least) I feel the reason why this is taking so...	therack76	4	4454	Oct 7, 2009 by hotrod
	Overwelmed, happy and blessed....... (Preview) I am currently feeling completely overwelmed, happy and blessed all at the same time. I'm seeing more and more, daily, the program working in my life as I attempt to make it the center of my life. I had wanted to do ninety meetings in ninety days, and thus far have managed to make a meeting a day, but honest...	shellyj123	2	1042	Oct 7, 2009 by maresie
	I'm sorry (Preview) I'm sorry I didn't know the location of the picture you were looking for yesterday. I was unsure of what had happened to it when you asked me about it. I'm sorry I set my boundaries and you chose to ignore them. I'm sorry I snapped at you when I did so. I'm sorry I lost my composure last night. Heaven kn...	blender_girl	4	601	Oct 7, 2009 by Maria123
	Using the tools of Al-anon (Preview) I am so eternally grateful for all of you here, who have shared so openly and honestly with me about your E,S&H on relapse and heartbreak. My wound feels fresh and open and oh so painful.I can't seem to sort out of my heartstrings from my mind. I find myself terrified of losing this man again- feeling...	RunnerChick	1	531	Oct 7, 2009 by shellyj123
	New here (Preview) Hello all, I have been lurking for a while now and have finally decided to join. I have been married for three years, and for the last 2 or so have been struggling a great deal with AH's drinking. I was searching for bottles, pouring out or giving away liquor, counting how much he drank, asking him to ple...	cdngirl	3	493	Oct 7, 2009 by david62
	new here - in lots of pain, lots of questions (Preview) My wife went in to rehab last week. It's been 8 days. She's a party drunk. Her parties are herself and a six-pack on the beach. She's 43. We had been fighting about drinking for a few years, and recently (two months? two years?) she'd been getting a six-pack and riding around after she finished her...	iSaint	14	814	Oct 6, 2009 by iSaint
	I am never prepared for that 1st phone call from rehab.... (Preview) Hello everyone! My phone rang last night about 9pm. I was not expecting it to be my A hubby. He's in rehab. 3 day down. Yesterday was 1 month since I asked him to leave our home. I don't know why he called me. I would have preferred he didn't. You see, I "think" I have detached w/love. I d...	Sincerely	6	701	Oct 6, 2009 by iSaint
	Handling Finances with an A (Preview) Hello everyone. I was wondering if you could share you ESH in how to handle household finances with an A. I am the main breadwinner in our family. AH works as an outside labourer and is unemployed in the winter (and goes on unemployment insurance). One of the ways I used to try and control his drinkin...	MissyPoo	10	626	Oct 6, 2009 by maresie
	how do you know if yur right about them drinking? (Preview) Last night my exaH came to pick up our son for a group they belong to. I thought I smelled booze on aH, though I didn't notice any "affects". Then again, I thought I smelled booze. And they left. The hour that they were gone all I could think about is why did I do that? I know why I didn't say a...	Rora	11	1002	Oct 6, 2009 by woopsadaisy
	just totally lost it. (Preview) Got woken up this morning by neigbors thumping music. Went on all day. ALL day. I tried to keep cool. I have PTSD from 9/11 among othr things (lived on E 13th St). Went out, came home. Still going. Then the other neighbors start up - 20 Hindus chanting with bongos. That and the techno****. My partner tried...	alanonicScotland	7	754	Oct 6, 2009 by maresie
	the last week .... a share (Preview) Hello everyone, Well ... where to begin? I've had a lot of time and ways to practice my program this past week or so. My sad news, my old blind cat had liver failure and I had to take him in to be put to sleep. I really miss him. we could be blind together and usually had to call and meow to each other until i saw a g...	Jennifer	3	565	Oct 6, 2009 by maresie
	Support and Prayers needed for BIG decision. (Preview) Hello Friends, I don't like to talk about it much, but my first husband, my child's father was an addict. Addicted to street drugs, prescription drugs, alcohol, cigarettes, sex...you name it and he was addicted to it. He was my childhood sweetheart and high school boyfriend. He was a big football...	MaryPoppins	5	576	Oct 6, 2009 by maresie
	boundaries. (Preview) One new thing for me in making any kind of friendship is looking at that persons boundaries. If they have an issue with them that is a red flag for me. I no longer charge into any relationship because I "like" someone. I evaulate, feed back, look at levels, work on how I can change my bounda...	maresie	0	514	Oct 6, 2009 by maresie
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