The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
What is it when you do the same thing over and over and expect a different result?
more like you hope for a different one.
Tell me, look at this.
First husband was killed in an accident. Second husband had a brain tumor and woke up NOT him at all. basically died.
Now found myself in love with someone who I have been emialing and talking to for 9 years. Him too. He lives in a different state, he is married to a sick using A. Like me he sticks to his vows. Though is frustrated becuz he wants a wife. He is a good man.
three times now. insanity. I pray to hp for a mate. this crap happens. am I being told to be ok with aloness? I still love him very much and our friendship is great. I will be ok. always am.
I have sooo much to be thankful for. Never been so alone in my whole life. BUT again, he is my best friend, confidant and more. he tells me the same thing. Glad he is far away or we would get ourselves into trouble.
I so don't want to grow old and be alone physically.
Heart is broken a little. tears are easy coming, that is not normal anymore.
only way to go is up now. need a hug and everything will be ok. love,debilyn
must be lonley time... i'm feeling the pain lately too and shedding the tears. I still have hope I will meet the one for me at some point. It's so hard to be patient. I think too we have to put ourselves in the right place at the right time. If we never leave the house we never meet anyone...
I understand that feeling of being alone. I try to use visions of my HP holding me to comfort me. It doesn't make it BETTER just sometimes makes me feel comforted.
For myself, I always told myself that my problem was not getting together with people who were truly available. Now I see that my problem was that I was not leaving the people who were unavailable.
(((((Deb))))) First of all you need to remember you ARE an AMAZING woman with much to offer the right person, and the right person will come along if it is HP's will for you, I highly doubt He is finished with you yet:)
As for being alone, yes I can relate in many ways. It is soo nice to have a mate-a good mate, one that can be relyed upon and trusted. But lately I have found that my attitude about being alone has shifted somewhat. I don't FEEL alone anymore, even though I am without a mate at this point in my life. I feel loved, and cared for and appreciated and cherished. I get this from my HP and from my family here at MIP and my F2F, and most of all I find I get in now from ME!!! I show myself compassion, understanding, patience and love because I DESERVE IT, as do we all.
Your time will come Deb, just remember THY will......and hang in there.......You will never be alone EVER.........we are all closer than you might think:)
Love and peace shelly
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Put down the magnifying glass and pick up the mirror!
I understand lonliness is hard, but emotional involvement with someone elses husband, no matter what the wife is, can't be healthy for anyone. The vows I took do not include emotional cheating, which would be just as painful to me as physical cheating.
Christy
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If we think that miracles are normal, we will expect them. And expecting a miracle is the surest way to get one.
For me, needing to be with someone is vastly different than wanting to be with someone. While I would not like to live the rest of my life alone, I know I am more than capable of it. There are moments of lonliness, but they pass. If I am lucky enough to have another love of my life, like my beloved Tim than that's icing on the cake. But I will not waste my life away wishing I could be with someone who is not emotionally available to me. I know I am strong enough to do whatever comes my way. That's what this program has given me.
Live strong, Karilynn
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It's your life. Take no prisoners. You will have it your way.
