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Change Your Thinking


Saw this, realized how much like the Alanon message we learn each day directs us in this exact same thinking:

It will take just 37 seconds to read this and change your thinking..


Two men, both seriously ill, occupied the same hospital room.

One man was allowed to sit up in his bed for an hour each afternoon to help drain the fluid from his lungs.

His bed was next to the room's only window.


The other man had to spend all his time flat on his back.


The men talked for hours on end.


They spoke of their wives and families, their homes, their jobs, their involvement in the military service, where they had been on vacation..


Every afternoon, when the man in the bed by the window could sit up, he would pass the time by describing to his roommate all the things he could see outside the window.


The man in the other bed began to live for those one hour periods where his world would be broadened and enlivened by all the activity and color of the world outside.
The window overlooked a park with a lovely lake.


Ducks and swans played on the water while children sailed their model boats. Young lovers walked arm in arm amidst flowers of every color and a fine view of the city skyline could be seen in the distance.


As the man by the window described all this in exquisite details, the man on the other side of the room would close his eyes and imagine this picturesque scene.

One warm afternoon, the man by the window described a parade passing by.



Although the other man could not hear the band - he could see it in his mind's eye as the gentleman by the window portrayed it with descriptive words.


Days, weeks and months passed.


One morning, the day nurse arrived to bring water for their baths only to find the lifeless body of the man by the window, who had died peacefully in his sleep.

She was saddened and called the hospital attendants to take the body away.


As soon as it seemed appropriate, the other man asked if he could be moved next to the window. The nurse was happy to make the switch, and after making sure he was comfortable, she left him alone.


Slowly, painfully, he propped himself up on one elbow to take his first look at the real world outside.
He strained to slowly turn to look out the window besides the bed.


It faced a blank wall.


The man asked the nurse what could have compelled his deceased roommate who had described such wonderful things outside this window.


The nurse responded that the man was blind and could not even see the wall.


She said, 'Perhaps he just wanted to encourage you.'


Epilogue:

There is tremendous happiness in making others happy, despite our own situations.


Shared grief is half the sorrow, but happiness when shared, is doubled.

If you want to feel rich, just count all the things you have that money can't buy.


Today is a gift, that is why it is called
The Present.

"God Bless America with Peace, Courage, Strength,
Faith, Hope, Protection & Wisdom."



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Thanks for sharing Peggy. That was great!

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Thank You Peggy

That was beautiful. 

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Peggy...I got this as an email just a while back and was moved by the program
message also.   Thanks for the rerun. smile

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((Peggy))
Thanks for sharing this wonderful story.


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Thank you for wonderful story Peggy... It not only brought tears to my eyes - because I can relate to it SO SO Much but, it has also reminded me of a deep seeded resentment that I had succumbed to yet had to learn and re-learn how to overcome not only for myself, but for others in my personal world as well - along with all those new relationships in the future.  The tears that were shod while reading it were heartfelt in my endeavors to 'fit in' as well as 'recover from' in my day to day existence. 

Because of this post, It kind of prompted me to write my own post - entitled 'CAN YOU HEAR ME NOW?"... it is my struggles with hearing problems that I have had all my life, and my lessons learned and re-learned through the ages and changes of my hearing issues.

I love this story...and intend to copy it and paste it so I can read it when my heart feels heavy and inspiration is needed.

Thank you once again! smile


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That is lovely. Thank you. Lilly BurnX

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