Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

blender_girl · blender_girl

There was a great share in the meeting this morning about denial - the person who shared had an interesting perspective. She shared that she was in denial that her HP wants to be with her, wants to love her and wants to be there for her. Up until this point, I had always associated denial with negative situ...

blender_girl · blender_girl

Here's what I've been doing - what about you? I took it easy when I was tired. Keep It Simple and Easy Does It at its best. I acknowledged my feelings without beating myself up for feeling them. I went to the chat room when I was feeling out of sorts and safely vented my feelings, received the support and va...

canadianguy · canadianguy

Apparently my offer of giving away free copies of the "Getting Them Sober" volume one, by Toby Rice Drews, has raised the ire of the MIP business group, and they have removed my offer from the board. While this group may, indeed, have the "power" to take such action, could I ple...

MapleMom · MapleMom

Hi, I am new to this forum. I have been to a couple of Al anon meetings, but find that its hard to get to any meeting, because of my kids and other commitments. I have come to realize that I can not go through this alone anymore. I need support. I have just come to terms with the fact that I can not change my h...

fishinmama · fishinmama

OK! Looks like all the paperwork is in so I will not loose my job and will get some money flowing. The world did not end, I did not shread anyone, feel no embarassment and even got the direct phone numbers to the people who can move this along in the future. So there was a reward for keeping my cool. I did not...

maresie · maresie

first of all I grew up without a self protective mechanism in me. My parents did not protect me (and yes I know they were very ill). I never got to internalize boundaries (there were none in my family) or an ability to protect myself. Much of this comes from not being able to really accept and absorb tha...

shellyj123 · shellyj123

Even in the midst of the health uncertainty, things have been going well for me. I am slowly finding my way in the insanity of alchoholism and am seeing the serenity at the end of the tunnel. I'm working my program the best that I can, though I know I could do more/better (the perfectionist in me), I am ha...

Mandy123 · Mandy123

Hi family, Well for the first time in a long time I am a single woman. The judge granted the divorce today. A friend from work came with me. She asked me weeks ago and I told her that I thought I would be okay on my own. She would have to take time off from work in order to support me. lol once again I do the "I...

Twiddle · Twiddle

Hello - I've been searching for answers and I'm hoping someone can shed some light for me. Let me explain my situation. Sorry in advance if I might ramble on. My husband and I have been together for 14 years and he quit drinking 7 months ago and joined AA. He was a horrible man to me when he was drinking (e...

mslouise · mslouise

Good morning...I haven't posted in a very long time...my ex-A is a distant part of my life (or I'm trying him to be)....made it clear to please leave me alone, don't call, etc....he is back into drugs now, hanging with bad people.....which is sad, but that's his deal. the thing is, is he does keep calli...

Holly09 · Holly09

To make a very long story short my A boyfriend who over the past 8 years has cut his drinking down to almost a quarter of what he drank when I met him, I think is now popping percocet instead of drinking. I have found them before in his shed and have noticed the difference in his eyes when he takes them. His b...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I have two sisters & one step-sister & one sister-in-law! They are all lovely ladies. They are mostly supportive & very loving for the most part. First, I will start with my older sister who I am trying to reach out to starting today. I have made attempts to call her but havent' been too suc...

White Rabbit · White Rabbit

Is a feeling that things in my life are temporary a part of the disease that will go away if I work the program? I notice that sometimes I really feel like some things are temporary (for example, sometimes I feel like where I live is just a temporary situation, not really a home), and I'm not sure if it's pa...

lmw · lmw

Last week, my ex-A promised our older daughter he would attend a religious service with the family this evening. This afternoon, he claimed he thought the service was on Friday and he will just take her (not the others) on Friday night. I have to be there this evening with the other two, and therefor...

Tattyhead · Tattyhead

At work today I received a phone call from next door neighbour. A friend of AH had been hammering on our front door unable to get an answer - even though he was expected to call for a coffee. Another neighbour was also joining in banging on door and ringing house phone as well. They were worried (having bee...

fishinmama · fishinmama

Oh my goodness I have had a day. Went to the jail to visit son went ok however don't think I will put it on my priority list soon. Then I can home and found out that there has been a qlitch with getting med records to the insurance company. Actually this has been going on for about 3 weeks. I want to have a s...

anon8483 · anon8483

I'm trying to make this as anonymous as possible... I know a woman that I'm very close to. She has a very stressful day-to-day life as a stay-at-home mom, because she has many children. She is a recovering alcoholic, and she finished a rehab program late last year. She has been sober since, but I caught h...

Jozie · Jozie

Funny How.... The Seasons tend to change some people, Me being one of them... I know with each day, moment & year there is change, but I mean for me, it seems different in my mind... It is like a Test... Currantly I believe at times I'm failing, but thats ok... I'm slowly starting to see & at least b...

mgr · mgr

I have a grown divorced daughter with 4 girls who moved in with us in August 2009 and who is fighting an addiction to tramadol. She seems to be winning the battle. She met her current boyfriend in detox (cocaine). It seems her newest addiction is him. We have never met him and have no intention of mee...

MaryPoppins · MaryPoppins

Today was a very sad day for me. I cooked and took a dish over to a woman who had just lost her husband of over 50 years. I have known this couple since I was a kid and have often marveled at how they had the strength to do the things they did. They married young and had children young, as was the culture in the r...

oscarmom · oscarmom

I am new to the board. for many years my husband has been an alcoholic. I tried everything, as we all have at some point. he got a dui a few years ago, that scared him and he stopped for a while. but of course it doesn't last. so I keep attending al anon meetings for myself. recently he has been drinking more an...

concerned · concerned

I am new here.. My husband is disabled and has had multiple back problems.. He cannot work a steady job. He has several friends who are retired that he hangs out with. He is younger than them, he is 35 they are in 50's... Well they sit around all day and drink.. he has to take meds for his back so the alcohol an...

QOD · QOD

Ok I realize that this is off the subject of Aism....but..... I was wondering if anyone out there has used any of those credit card debt consolidation companies. You can private message me if you want. I have been contemplating them for a while to help me with the credit card debt I have gotten myself...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

I think I am finally getting to the point where I can say I am ok by myself. I really don't have time for a man and maybe I have made it this way on purpose because I know it's what I really need. My biggest focus right now is dealing with the situation with my oldest daughter and the daily chaos she creates. ...

maresie · maresie

I know one of the things that kept me stuck on the ex A was his intriguing. Nothing he said made sense, he was full of what he was going to do and how I held him back from doing it. Whatever he wanted to do was unattainable in some way. He was also full of inconsistencies. I am all too aware of this as I now work w...

lizzakiss · lizzakiss

I've posted here a few times and my posts have run from "why am I dealing with this" to "I have found the serenity". I come here almost every day and read all the ESH from everyone and I feel so blessed to have somewhere to turn to now, nothing feels helpless to me anymore. being her...

Mandy123 · Mandy123

Hi all, Whelp tomorrow is my final court date for the divorce to be final. In some ways the time has flwon by and in other ways it has dragged. I had court this morning becasue my hub did not take the state mandatory parenting class. The divorce would not have been granted without both of us taking this clas...

QOD · QOD

I am struggling a lot lately with my exAH/boyfriend. We have been back together (dating but not living together) since Oct 2008 after a 15 year marriage & 2 year separation/divorce. Crazy I know but it seems to work for the most part. I refuse to let him move back in b/c he still has issues with dep...

xter · xter

i've been inactive for a long time. probably since the 2nd week of August, 09. My AH and I broke up for good on August 6th. just like that, yeah. i remember that morning. we were in our marriage counselor's office and i said, "i'm still really angry with you that you won't admit to cheating on me...

xter · xter

ok - it's another day that i have to be awake and a productive and sane member of society. i really wish i didn't have to be - i'm tired of pretending to be sane :) i'm going to try to be kind to myself today. perhaps the most important thing i can do is to leave the office at 6:30 instead of 8 or 9 like i usually d...

Tracy · Tracy

My ABF rang and told me that he has not drank but did do cocain and thats why he never came down. I am s angrey he can not drink he accepts that but still smoke pot on ocassion and now this. I know its not personal just his road of recovery he has these slips and does seem to learn from each one but its like he has...

Destynee · Destynee

AH is detoxing from drugs at home. Our health insurance does not cover any drug or alcohol coverage whatsoever and the county has a long line for help and denied him. So he's been laying in bed for 3 days mostly. But I'm proud of myself for not being led into arguements when he's tried by saying, "Wh...

Jerry F · Jerry F

and a pussycat came ashore!! We got the drama but not the whole show and while the TV and News people were hyperventilating over what might happen they didn't mention what did happen. Thanks for the prayers you all turning back a tital wave or tsunami is big work for HP. All we had to do was ask. Keep...

RoseODAT · RoseODAT

First of all, I feel a strong urge to thank all Al-Anons for their support, love, and understanding and to remind you to always keep your chins up high, because after all, we are good people that actually do give a damn about our types of situations. If anything we are brave in understanding and confron...

Tracy · Tracy

My ABF has just rang and I could not pick up the phone I have spent all day shopping with my daughter to stay focused on my life responsibilities. I do not feel ready to hear what he has to say. Not because I want to punish him. I really do not know what I want or how I feel anymore. Been asking HP for guidan...

looking_for_peace · looking_for_peace

My husband is an alcoholic. For the first 2 years we had kids, life was hell. I stuck by him (so I thought) through rehab. Then he got sober for 4 years. Now our kids are 9 and 7. He has relapsed for the past year. I have recently started to attend Al-Anon. When the kids were babies, it was only me (and him, of co...

Suzi1965 · Suzi1965

Hi Everyone! I came across a list that shows the principle that goes along with each of the 12 steps and I really found it interesting and wanted to share it and find out what yall thought of it too. (This list does not show to be Al-Anon approved lit) 1. We admitted we were powerless over alcohol-that ou...

miss lucy · miss lucy

there is a saying here in england that it never rains but it pours! nothing could be more true for me.... i think there is a permanent rain cloud following me ready to dampen even the best of days! i am starting my study next week....3months of hard work infront of me and i will be ready to launch my busine...

Mandy123 · Mandy123

Hi all, Just passing along something really neat :). Save the date! Hallmark Hall of Fame Presentation on the CBS, Sunday, April 25 at 9 P.M. WHEN LOVE IS NOT ENOUGH: THE LOIS WILSON STORY a new Hallmark Hall of Fame presentation starri...

maresie · maresie

I am coming up to three years from when I moved out from the ex A. For a full year or more after that I remined enmeshed and totally involved with him on many levels (i.e. he took up every minute of my time and more). Now after three good years of al anon and not living with him I can see that there were many man...

Sweet Stanley · Sweet Stanley

Last night must have been "the night...." My AH fell off the wagon again last night too. I was just going to reply to a post, but decided to start a little different one. I really wanted to go into one of my screaming sessions, but managed to walk away (of course, I threw in a few snide remarks lea...

tweety23 · tweety23

Hi all. Haven't posted in a while but I am starting to feel like I need it again; feeling the anxiety again. I can't really make f2f meetings due to babysitting issues but try to read literature and work the program as much as I can. But I have been slacking lately and getting "those feelings" a...

tlcate · tlcate

This was posted on the MIP AA site. Thought I would share it here. I am looking forward to watching this. The Lois Wilson Story-the Founding of Al-Anon and her life with Bill Wilson... Hallmark Hall of Fame April 25, 2010-looks like a very important production especially for people in recovery......

shimo · shimo

I am unable to chair the Monday a.m. meeting. If an OP is unavailable, perhaps one of the members could step-up and chair. Thanks! Love in recovery, Shimo -- Edited by shimo on Sunday 28th of February 2010 12:38:25 PM

tlcate · tlcate

Every so often we see posts that express frustration about moderation on MIP, what can be posted and what can't, what literature can be discussed, whether we are WSO approved and so forth. I was made a moderator and not really given a set of "rules" or told to go to business meetings etc. I ju...

tlcate · tlcate

http://www.activeboard.com/forum.spark?aBID=42763&p=3&topicID=34341854-- Edited by tlcate on Su...

angelchar375 · angelchar375

I thought I really hit my bottom last year when I almost went on a roadtrip with my ah who was planning on taking enough drugs to kill himself and our whole family when we were driving to Mexico. But this year, same time, I am totally overwhelmed by my two toddlers being sick all the time and my ah in recovery...

teddybearpoet · teddybearpoet

Is anyone else having problems get into the chatroom??? I have tried a few times and it says about the server.. Cathy

White Rabbit · White Rabbit

If I'm not snooping, and I happen upon something that indicates that someone has lied to me, what do I do? Lying is unacceptable. I want to let the other person know that. It crossed my honesty boundary. But how can I communicate this without trying to control the other person? I'm really sad, honest...

Tattyhead · Tattyhead

Came home from a stressful day at work. AH in bed, v ill with "indigestion". (not the first time by a long way). I don't know what to do any more. I said he ought to go to the family doctor - he says he will make the appointment in his own time - I'm not to do it. I don't know what I can say/do that wil...

Tracy · Tracy

I am trying very very hard to work my programme. My A has disappeared again. He got sober last may. then had a slip in November. Has been sober again for around 10 weeks. In this time I have been taken out on dates, bought flowers treated how I desearve. Then bang the disease attacks again. I got on w...

Tracy · Tracy

-- Edited by Tracy on Saturday 27th of February 2010 07:44:18 PM

Jerry F · Jerry F

For the minute but knowing this group another meeting place can pop up at any second!! Tsunami warnings are closing off the area and evacuating the people from it as it is about 10 feet above sea level. Staying home and attending MIP and praying that the victims of yet another earthquake find healing....

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

I find the older I get and the longer I am on this path the more I know myself: Impatience - I want everything and I want it right now! Neediness - I want to be validated by someone else all the time (preferably a man) Impulsivity - I make rash life changing decisions on a whim. Bossiness - I can't really think...

fishinmama · fishinmama

HI family, Yesterday was a bit of a rough day. We went and visited son in jail. Night before daughter spent her night in jail. Not exactly the picture I had in my head when I brought them home from the hospital. Just trying not to own their problems, sometimes it is difficult. I keep praying that my hp...

maresie · maresie

I grew up in a family toxic with resentment, chaos and frustration. I know that set up meant that I gravitated towards dysfunctional people, they were familiar I knew how to interact around them and I also knew what was expected. These days after losing everything and I mean everything after a relati...

wp · wp

Today Feb 21 is ms joni's birthday. Let's all say Happy Birthday to o2bnormaljoni :) w[

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Thanks to everyone who posted & commented on my last posting. I was very hesitant when I thought about mentioning it. I guess I was nervous that I would be criticized for not totally letting go of that significant date in my long history of dating & marrying alcoholics in the past. I remember e...

new member · siorghra

Hi, I'm new here and I wasn't sure how this works, but oh well. I'm deployed right now and I was informed that my husband has been AWOL and essentially missing for more than a month. He was supposed to be going to ASAP (army substance abuse program) for alcohol abuse. Even though I told his unit that he was o...

Tracy · Tracy

My ex husband has an addiction that has progressed to a level that he has deserted my children. I am so tired I work ful time. Have the house to run, no help fincually , the chores, rearing two teenager. I do not know what I feel. Thanks to Al anon I know that he is ill and it is not personal. But this does n...

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	Perspective on Denial (Preview) There was a great share in the meeting this morning about denial - the person who shared had an interesting perspective. She shared that she was in denial that her HP wants to be with her, wants to love her and wants to be there for her. Up until this point, I had always associated denial with negative situ...	blender_girl	3	563	Mar 7, 2010 by miss lucy
	How have I practiced self-care this week? (Preview) Here's what I've been doing - what about you? I took it easy when I was tired. Keep It Simple and Easy Does It at its best. I acknowledged my feelings without beating myself up for feeling them. I went to the chat room when I was feeling out of sorts and safely vented my feelings, received the support and va...	blender_girl	3	480	Mar 7, 2010 by miss lucy
	What happened to the free book offer?? (Preview) Apparently my offer of giving away free copies of the "Getting Them Sober" volume one, by Toby Rice Drews, has raised the ire of the MIP business group, and they have removed my offer from the board. While this group may, indeed, have the "power" to take such action, could I ple...	canadianguy	11	1349	Mar 7, 2010 by Diva
	New here (Preview) Hi, I am new to this forum. I have been to a couple of Al anon meetings, but find that its hard to get to any meeting, because of my kids and other commitments. I have come to realize that I can not go through this alone anymore. I need support. I have just come to terms with the fact that I can not change my h...	MapleMom	7	581	Mar 7, 2010 by MapleMom
	Lots of wonderful things can happen, usually after I think the sky is falling (Preview) OK! Looks like all the paperwork is in so I will not loose my job and will get some money flowing. The world did not end, I did not shread anyone, feel no embarassment and even got the direct phone numbers to the people who can move this along in the future. So there was a reward for keeping my cool. I did not...	fishinmama	3	711	Mar 6, 2010 by Jerry F
	centering or having a self protective mechanism. (Preview) first of all I grew up without a self protective mechanism in me. My parents did not protect me (and yes I know they were very ill). I never got to internalize boundaries (there were none in my family) or an ability to protect myself. Much of this comes from not being able to really accept and absorb tha...	maresie	3	666	Mar 6, 2010 by kitty
	Dealing wit Fears and Anxiety.........Any ESH appreciated.... (Preview) Even in the midst of the health uncertainty, things have been going well for me. I am slowly finding my way in the insanity of alchoholism and am seeing the serenity at the end of the tunnel. I'm working my program the best that I can, though I know I could do more/better (the perfectionist in me), I am ha...	shellyj123	8	654	Mar 5, 2010 by jpmger
	Divorce (Preview) Hi family, Well for the first time in a long time I am a single woman. The judge granted the divorce today. A friend from work came with me. She asked me weeks ago and I told her that I thought I would be okay on my own. She would have to take time off from work in order to support me. lol once again I do the "I...	Mandy123	9	934	Mar 5, 2010 by barisax
	Confused please lend me your insight (Preview) Hello - I've been searching for answers and I'm hoping someone can shed some light for me. Let me explain my situation. Sorry in advance if I might ramble on. My husband and I have been together for 14 years and he quit drinking 7 months ago and joined AA. He was a horrible man to me when he was drinking (e...	Twiddle	8	954	Mar 5, 2010 by Iamhere
	phone calls (Preview) Good morning...I haven't posted in a very long time...my ex-A is a distant part of my life (or I'm trying him to be)....made it clear to please leave me alone, don't call, etc....he is back into drugs now, hanging with bad people.....which is sad, but that's his deal. the thing is, is he does keep calli...	mslouise	6	652	Mar 5, 2010 by Iamhere
	from one substance to another (Preview) To make a very long story short my A boyfriend who over the past 8 years has cut his drinking down to almost a quarter of what he drank when I met him, I think is now popping percocet instead of drinking. I have found them before in his shed and have noticed the difference in his eyes when he takes them. His b...	Holly09	3	666	Mar 5, 2010 by kitty
	Sisters & what they mean to me! (Preview) I have two sisters & one step-sister & one sister-in-law! They are all lovely ladies. They are mostly supportive & very loving for the most part. First, I will start with my older sister who I am trying to reach out to starting today. I have made attempts to call her but havent' been too suc...	Hoot Nanny	2	839	Mar 4, 2010 by Rocky38
	Feeling that things are temporary (Preview) Is a feeling that things in my life are temporary a part of the disease that will go away if I work the program? I notice that sometimes I really feel like some things are temporary (for example, sometimes I feel like where I live is just a temporary situation, not really a home), and I'm not sure if it's pa...	White Rabbit	3	851	Mar 4, 2010 by White Rabbit
	Selfishness and an A (Preview) Last week, my ex-A promised our older daughter he would attend a religious service with the family this evening. This afternoon, he claimed he thought the service was on Friday and he will just take her (not the others) on Friday night. I have to be there this evening with the other two, and therefor...	lmw	5	830	Mar 4, 2010 by Jerry F
	Still at a loss as to what to do (Preview) At work today I received a phone call from next door neighbour. A friend of AH had been hammering on our front door unable to get an answer - even though he was expected to call for a coffee. Another neighbour was also joining in banging on door and ringing house phone as well. They were worried (having bee...	Tattyhead	6	1136	Mar 4, 2010 by Sweet Stanley
	I guess you would call it frustration (Preview) Oh my goodness I have had a day. Went to the jail to visit son went ok however don't think I will put it on my priority list soon. Then I can home and found out that there has been a qlitch with getting med records to the insurance company. Actually this has been going on for about 3 weeks. I want to have a s...	fishinmama	3	854	Mar 3, 2010 by maresie
	Please Help Me (Preview) I'm trying to make this as anonymous as possible... I know a woman that I'm very close to. She has a very stressful day-to-day life as a stay-at-home mom, because she has many children. She is a recovering alcoholic, and she finished a rehab program late last year. She has been sober since, but I caught h...	anon8483	4	826	Mar 3, 2010 by Jerry F
	4ward then Back... 4ward then Back... 4ward again ;) (Preview) Funny How.... The Seasons tend to change some people, Me being one of them... I know with each day, moment & year there is change, but I mean for me, it seems different in my mind... It is like a Test... Currantly I believe at times I'm failing, but thats ok... I'm slowly starting to see & at least b...	Jozie	2	810	Mar 3, 2010 by maresie
	grown daughter has addiction living with us (Preview) I have a grown divorced daughter with 4 girls who moved in with us in August 2009 and who is fighting an addiction to tramadol. She seems to be winning the battle. She met her current boyfriend in detox (cocaine). It seems her newest addiction is him. We have never met him and have no intention of mee...	mgr	2	801	Mar 3, 2010 by maresie
	Need Prayers Saturday (Preview) Today was a very sad day for me. I cooked and took a dish over to a woman who had just lost her husband of over 50 years. I have known this couple since I was a kid and have often marveled at how they had the strength to do the things they did. They married young and had children young, as was the culture in the r...	MaryPoppins	6	817	Mar 3, 2010 by pineapple
	husband finally entered treatment (Preview) I am new to the board. for many years my husband has been an alcoholic. I tried everything, as we all have at some point. he got a dui a few years ago, that scared him and he stopped for a while. but of course it doesn't last. so I keep attending al anon meetings for myself. recently he has been drinking more an...	oscarmom	7	881	Mar 3, 2010 by ythannah
	Worried wife (Preview) I am new here.. My husband is disabled and has had multiple back problems.. He cannot work a steady job. He has several friends who are retired that he hangs out with. He is younger than them, he is 35 they are in 50's... Well they sit around all day and drink.. he has to take meds for his back so the alcohol an...	concerned	3	611	Mar 3, 2010 by maresie
	Credit Card Debt Consolidation (Preview) Ok I realize that this is off the subject of Aism....but..... I was wondering if anyone out there has used any of those credit card debt consolidation companies. You can private message me if you want. I have been contemplating them for a while to help me with the credit card debt I have gotten myself...	QOD	7	863	Mar 3, 2010 by QOD
	Feeling pretty good about life lately (Preview) I think I am finally getting to the point where I can say I am ok by myself. I really don't have time for a man and maybe I have made it this way on purpose because I know it's what I really need. My biggest focus right now is dealing with the situation with my oldest daughter and the daily chaos she creates. ...	carolinagirl	2	790	Mar 3, 2010 by pineapple
	Intriguing (Preview) I know one of the things that kept me stuck on the ex A was his intriguing. Nothing he said made sense, he was full of what he was going to do and how I held him back from doing it. Whatever he wanted to do was unattainable in some way. He was also full of inconsistencies. I am all too aware of this as I now work w...	maresie	12	861	Mar 3, 2010 by maresie
	Feeding the positive (Preview) I've posted here a few times and my posts have run from "why am I dealing with this" to "I have found the serenity". I come here almost every day and read all the ESH from everyone and I feel so blessed to have somewhere to turn to now, nothing feels helpless to me anymore. being her...	lizzakiss	6	1003	Mar 2, 2010 by White Rabbit
	"D" day is fast approaching (Preview) Hi all, Whelp tomorrow is my final court date for the divorce to be final. In some ways the time has flwon by and in other ways it has dragged. I had court this morning becasue my hub did not take the state mandatory parenting class. The divorce would not have been granted without both of us taking this clas...	Mandy123	8	949	Mar 2, 2010 by tea2
	Am I being selfish? (Preview) I am struggling a lot lately with my exAH/boyfriend. We have been back together (dating but not living together) since Oct 2008 after a 15 year marriage & 2 year separation/divorce. Crazy I know but it seems to work for the most part. I refuse to let him move back in b/c he still has issues with dep...	QOD	11	1023	Mar 2, 2010 by Sweet Stanley
	Now what? (Preview) i've been inactive for a long time. probably since the 2nd week of August, 09. My AH and I broke up for good on August 6th. just like that, yeah. i remember that morning. we were in our marriage counselor's office and i said, "i'm still really angry with you that you won't admit to cheating on me...	xter	7	707	Mar 2, 2010 by blender_girl
	one minute at a time (Preview) ok - it's another day that i have to be awake and a productive and sane member of society. i really wish i didn't have to be - i'm tired of pretending to be sane :) i'm going to try to be kind to myself today. perhaps the most important thing i can do is to leave the office at 6:30 instead of 8 or 9 like i usually d...	xter	6	684	Mar 2, 2010 by maresie
	slipping so angrey (Preview) My ABF rang and told me that he has not drank but did do cocain and thats why he never came down. I am s angrey he can not drink he accepts that but still smoke pot on ocassion and now this. I know its not personal just his road of recovery he has these slips and does seem to learn from each one but its like he has...	Tracy	4	874	Mar 2, 2010 by Karilynn
	Feeling a bit better about myself (Preview) AH is detoxing from drugs at home. Our health insurance does not cover any drug or alcohol coverage whatsoever and the county has a long line for help and denied him. So he's been laying in bed for 3 days mostly. But I'm proud of myself for not being led into arguements when he's tried by saying, "Wh...	Destynee	7	1087	Mar 1, 2010 by maresie
	The prayers worked!! (Preview) and a pussycat came ashore!! We got the drama but not the whole show and while the TV and News people were hyperventilating over what might happen they didn't mention what did happen. Thanks for the prayers you all turning back a tital wave or tsunami is big work for HP. All we had to do was ask. Keep...	Jerry F	7	986	Mar 1, 2010 by maresie
	Outside Al-Anon Friendships (Preview) First of all, I feel a strong urge to thank all Al-Anons for their support, love, and understanding and to remind you to always keep your chins up high, because after all, we are good people that actually do give a damn about our types of situations. If anything we are brave in understanding and confron...	RoseODAT	4	1652	Mar 1, 2010 by maresie
	confused (Preview) My ABF has just rang and I could not pick up the phone I have spent all day shopping with my daughter to stay focused on my life responsibilities. I do not feel ready to hear what he has to say. Not because I want to punish him. I really do not know what I want or how I feel anymore. Been asking HP for guidan...	Tracy	6	894	Mar 1, 2010 by Mattie
	Can't get my head wrapped around the steps... (Preview) My husband is an alcoholic. For the first 2 years we had kids, life was hell. I stuck by him (so I thought) through rehab. Then he got sober for 4 years. Now our kids are 9 and 7. He has relapsed for the past year. I have recently started to attend Al-Anon. When the kids were babies, it was only me (and him, of co...	looking_for_peace	9	995	Mar 1, 2010 by miss lucy
	Something I thought might be of interest to everyone (Preview) Hi Everyone! I came across a list that shows the principle that goes along with each of the 12 steps and I really found it interesting and wanted to share it and find out what yall thought of it too. (This list does not show to be Al-Anon approved lit) 1. We admitted we were powerless over alcohol-that ou...	Suzi1965	4	704	Mar 1, 2010 by miss lucy
	just letting off steam!!! (Preview) there is a saying here in england that it never rains but it pours! nothing could be more true for me.... i think there is a permanent rain cloud following me ready to dampen even the best of days! i am starting my study next week....3months of hard work infront of me and i will be ready to launch my busine...	miss lucy	3	935	Mar 1, 2010 by miss lucy
	Losi Wilson's Story to be on CBS---April 25th (Preview) Hi all, Just passing along something really neat :). Save the date! Hallmark Hall of Fame Presentation on the CBS, Sunday, April 25 at 9 P.M. WHEN LOVE IS NOT ENOUGH: THE LOIS WILSON STORY a new Hallmark Hall of Fame presentation starri...	Mandy123	1	1385	Mar 1, 2010 by Suzi1965
	denial over responsibility and chaos (Preview) I am coming up to three years from when I moved out from the ex A. For a full year or more after that I remined enmeshed and totally involved with him on many levels (i.e. he took up every minute of my time and more). Now after three good years of al anon and not living with him I can see that there were many man...	maresie	1	809	Mar 1, 2010 by hotrod
	An eye opener for me (Preview) Last night must have been "the night...." My AH fell off the wagon again last night too. I was just going to reply to a post, but decided to start a little different one. I really wanted to go into one of my screaming sessions, but managed to walk away (of course, I threw in a few snide remarks lea...	Sweet Stanley	5	922	Mar 1, 2010 by QOD
	Creating normal, happy memories for kids, with an A in the house.. (Preview) Hi all. Haven't posted in a while but I am starting to feel like I need it again; feeling the anxiety again. I can't really make f2f meetings due to babysitting issues but try to read literature and work the program as much as I can. But I have been slacking lately and getting "those feelings" a...	tweety23	12	1046	Mar 1, 2010 by DreamXL
	The Lois Wilson Story starring Winona Ryder... (Preview) This was posted on the MIP AA site. Thought I would share it here. I am looking forward to watching this. The Lois Wilson Story-the Founding of Al-Anon and her life with Bill Wilson... Hallmark Hall of Fame April 25, 2010-looks like a very important production especially for people in recovery......	tlcate	3	1300	Feb 28, 2010 by Jerry F
	Monday A.M. Al-Anon Meeting (Preview) I am unable to chair the Monday a.m. meeting. If an OP is unavailable, perhaps one of the members could step-up and chair. Thanks! Love in recovery, Shimo -- Edited by shimo on Sunday 28th of February 2010 12:38:25 PM	shimo	1	479	Feb 28, 2010 by Suzi1965
	Group Conscience (Preview) Every so often we see posts that express frustration about moderation on MIP, what can be posted and what can't, what literature can be discussed, whether we are WSO approved and so forth. I was made a moderator and not really given a set of "rules" or told to go to business meetings etc. I ju...	tlcate	1	1425	Feb 28, 2010 by Jerry F
	Step One - Posted on the Step Board (Preview) http://www.activeboard.com/forum.spark?aBID=42763&p=3&topicID=34341854-- Edited by tlcate on Su...	tlcate	1	767	Feb 28, 2010 by hotrod
	overwhelmed mom and very angry at ah (Preview) I thought I really hit my bottom last year when I almost went on a roadtrip with my ah who was planning on taking enough drugs to kill himself and our whole family when we were driving to Mexico. But this year, same time, I am totally overwhelmed by my two toddlers being sick all the time and my ah in recovery...	angelchar375	10	1655	Feb 28, 2010 by khdhjw
	CHATROOM (Preview) Is anyone else having problems get into the chatroom??? I have tried a few times and it says about the server.. Cathy	teddybearpoet	1	527	Feb 27, 2010 by tea2
	Lying (Preview) If I'm not snooping, and I happen upon something that indicates that someone has lied to me, what do I do? Lying is unacceptable. I want to let the other person know that. It crossed my honesty boundary. But how can I communicate this without trying to control the other person? I'm really sad, honest...	White Rabbit	12	1428	Feb 27, 2010 by tweety23
	What do I do now? (Preview) Came home from a stressful day at work. AH in bed, v ill with "indigestion". (not the first time by a long way). I don't know what to do any more. I said he ought to go to the family doctor - he says he will make the appointment in his own time - I'm not to do it. I don't know what I can say/do that wil...	Tattyhead	7	736	Feb 27, 2010 by Jerry F
	disease is on the attack (Preview) I am trying very very hard to work my programme. My A has disappeared again. He got sober last may. then had a slip in November. Has been sober again for around 10 weeks. In this time I have been taken out on dates, bought flowers treated how I desearve. Then bang the disease attacks again. I got on w...	Tracy	4	937	Feb 27, 2010 by Mandy123
	disease on the attack (Preview) -- Edited by Tracy on Saturday 27th of February 2010 07:44:18 PM	Tracy	0	783	Feb 27, 2010 by Tracy
	Super Saturday AFG Canceled... (Preview) For the minute but knowing this group another meeting place can pop up at any second!! Tsunami warnings are closing off the area and evacuating the people from it as it is about 10 feet above sea level. Staying home and attending MIP and praying that the victims of yet another earthquake find healing....	Jerry F	4	931	Feb 27, 2010 by Tracy
	My faults (Preview) I find the older I get and the longer I am on this path the more I know myself: Impatience - I want everything and I want it right now! Neediness - I want to be validated by someone else all the time (preferably a man) Impulsivity - I make rash life changing decisions on a whim. Bossiness - I can't really think...	carolinagirl	3	691	Feb 27, 2010 by Sheila46
	A Trip To Jail (Preview) HI family, Yesterday was a bit of a rough day. We went and visited son in jail. Night before daughter spent her night in jail. Not exactly the picture I had in my head when I brought them home from the hospital. Just trying not to own their problems, sometimes it is difficult. I keep praying that my hp...	fishinmama	6	962	Feb 27, 2010 by Suzi1965
	the luxury of resentment. (Preview) I grew up in a family toxic with resentment, chaos and frustration. I know that set up meant that I gravitated towards dysfunctional people, they were familiar I knew how to interact around them and I also knew what was expected. These days after losing everything and I mean everything after a relati...	maresie	3	1524	Feb 27, 2010 by maresie
	birthday in room (Preview) Today Feb 21 is ms joni's birthday. Let's all say Happy Birthday to o2bnormaljoni :) w[	wp	12	987	Feb 27, 2010 by Jerry F
	THANKS (Preview) Thanks to everyone who posted & commented on my last posting. I was very hesitant when I thought about mentioning it. I guess I was nervous that I would be criticized for not totally letting go of that significant date in my long history of dating & marrying alcoholics in the past. I remember e...	Hoot Nanny	2	840	Feb 27, 2010 by Jerry F
	new member (Preview) Hi, I'm new here and I wasn't sure how this works, but oh well. I'm deployed right now and I was informed that my husband has been AWOL and essentially missing for more than a month. He was supposed to be going to ASAP (army substance abuse program) for alcohol abuse. Even though I told his unit that he was o...	siorghra	5	834	Feb 27, 2010 by Jerry F
	How do I feel? (Preview) My ex husband has an addiction that has progressed to a level that he has deserted my children. I am so tired I work ful time. Have the house to run, no help fincually , the chores, rearing two teenager. I do not know what I feel. Thanks to Al anon I know that he is ill and it is not personal. But this does n...	Tracy	2	950	Feb 27, 2010 by blender_girl
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